GeoffTheArteest Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Is it true less than 10% of men with high functioning autism has had a relationship ever? I doubt it is true. High functioning autism approaches the social world differently than a neural typical person would. There are qualities in autism that can be attractive to both neural typical and autistic people. It sounds like you are trying to understand. I tried understanding it all too. I created different frameworks of thought. I adopted different philosophies. Then ultimately, I came to the realization that the only thing I could truly understand is that I can trust God with it. It mig…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/20 02:31 AM
5	Found PUA notes in bf's journals I agree that it is wrong to snoop through your significant others personal journals without their consent. That´s entirely different topic of it´s own. Personally, I would be honest with your partner about what you found. It does complicate things discussing this with your partner because you discovered this information by violating his privacy. If he is not comfortable talking about it, then I wouldn´t dig into it because you discovered it through violating his trust. You should also apologize …	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/20 08:13 PM
1	Sadness, depression & loneliness is fine. Hate and bitterness is where you should draw the line I can relate to "focus on your lives" comment you made in the first paragraph. I've done exactly that. I learned to play guitar, sing, studying the bible, going to church, and went back to school. All of which have been great things. The problem I ran into was that I can't suppress my desire for a relationship with a beautiful women. For some people, maybe relationships fall into their lap. That has not been the case for me. I never had a relationship "just happen." I pursued women, flirted, and…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 08:05 AM
1	I believe the reason why I can't relate to people anymore is because I spent a good chunk of my life following Reddit advice but with no success despite the effort and pain I respect that you disagree.	/r/ExRedPill	30/04/20 09:14 PM
-2	I believe the reason why I can't relate to people anymore is because I spent a good chunk of my life following Reddit advice but with no success despite the effort and pain People will tell you "this is what you need to do..." or "the problem is..." or "this is what you can control..." And there will be tons of opinions and advice. You will not know what is true and what is false. So you tested some them for yourself. As you have recognized. Something is up. Peoples advice is lacking something big. You can't quiet put your finger on it. The thing that is missing.... Their leaving out God. Just like building a house. You set the foundation. Then build the house upon…	/r/ExRedPill	30/04/20 04:10 AM
1	My first girlfriend cheated on me after asking to wait for sex and even after years later I am still no better at getting over it. A few months after that is when I found the red pill but I didn't know it was controversial at the time. I did not understand it at the time, but God was drawing me to him. Now that I have been filled with the Holy Spirit, I know the gospel of Jesus Christ is the only absolute truth. When God's spirit lives inside you, it pretty much negates any consideration for other religions. Nothing is comparable to the feeling of the Holy Spirit living inside you.	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/20 05:48 AM
1	My first girlfriend cheated on me after asking to wait for sex and even after years later I am still no better at getting over it. A few months after that is when I found the red pill but I didn't know it was controversial at the time. People start looking up when they hit rock bottom. It's not intelligence that brings people to God. It's the necessity of his existence that brings people to God. Consider yourself fortunate if you ever become foolish enough to believe in God. Specifically the gospel of Jesus Christ.	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/20 05:02 AM
-1	My first girlfriend cheated on me after asking to wait for sex and even after years later I am still no better at getting over it. A few months after that is when I found the red pill but I didn't know it was controversial at the time. I was with a girl for 8 years. We were engaged. She cheated on me. Fortunately at the time, I was starting to become curious about God and was able to transition from the end of the relationship with her to a new relationship with God. The good thing about Jesus is that the relationship only ends if you choose to end it, because God is 100% faithful to stay. So even when all the dice are down, and your at rock bottom; God is chilling there, waiting for you to start a real relationship with him.	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/20 04:58 AM
1	Feeling dread over graduating college The best way to meet people is by talking to them. Start talking to people, and don't make excuses. You can talk to complete strangers. If you feel to "try hard," then realize that is 100% better then not trying. Start from square one. If square one is "try hard," then embrace it. If square one is "uncomfortable," then embrace it. Not everyone wants to be your friend, but some people do want to be your friend. It's your job to talk to people and find out.	/r/ExRedPill	11/02/20 07:44 PM
4	Problem with too much emotional detachment Easy solution. Save sex for marriage. Set that standard and it will force you to address this issue because you won't be using sex to mask the underlying problems.	/r/seduction	31/12/19 02:26 PM
1	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". I respect your opinion. I enjoyed our discussion. I don't wish to continue it any further due to you being disrespectful. Thanks for sharing opinions, I enjoyed hearing them up till you mocked my intellegence. Best of luck in your future endeavors.	/r/seduction	18/12/19 06:15 AM
1	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". I think you misunderstood my analogy. If someone teaches 2+2 = 6 Some else teaches 2+2 = 10 Some else teaches 2+2 = 16 And someone else teaches 2+2 = 4 This means that, even if there is a lot of bad theory. There is still good theory out there. The example of 2+2=6 would be like if someone told you bad theory, but you didn't know it was bad until you tried it and realized it didn't work. But if someone else teaches 2+2 = 4 and you believed it and tried it, and it does work. Now that you have 2+2…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 05:11 AM
2	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". Yea you are right about there being lots of different theories. Though I am not interested personally in seduction. I am more interested in developing meaningful connections. Just because there is a lot of theory, doesn't make all theory invalid. Imagine hundreds of people doing bad math; that doesn't make the concepts behind good math invalid. It's a matter of taking in information, applying it to your life then seeing if it produced results. Study, trial and error. Lots of theory doesn't elimi…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 04:57 AM
10	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". Honestly, the studying of theory is essential in my opinion.If you were an accountant, you better off going to school, getting an education, then applying that to your accounting job. Similarly, the theory in social banter with women is a framework that gives a sense of direction and understanding to interactions. Once there is a somewhat basic framework of theory layed down for interactions, you can then go apply it, and further develop upon it. But the theory helps builds the foundation to gro…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 04:11 AM
1	I need your help to improve It is weird if you only say the compliment, and wait for a reaction. If you walked over and said "You looked very pretty, so I came over to say hi." Then sat there waiting for her to respond. This puts the burden of conversation on the girl, and you are the one who initiated the interaction. It's to much pressure for her. Versus if you drop a compliment casually, not putting lots of emphasis on the compliment. For example, "I saw you over there as I was passing by, thought you looked quite cute …	/r/seduction	17/12/19 04:00 PM
3	I need your help to improve "Hey I saw you back there, and knowing myself I would regret not just coming up to you and introduce myself. So I am.. what is your name?" And then reach out for a handshake. Should I just leave the handshake out? My comment on this: Not a bad opener. You had the balls to go over and talk. Personally though, there is a lack of premise. Questions she might have in her head "Why would he regret not coming over here?" -- You could be direct, "I saw your hair looks gorgeous, and you are very stylish…	/r/seduction	17/12/19 03:04 AM
1	I have really bad anxiety about getting cheating on Be transparent to your boyfriend about it. Tell him how you feel. Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. This is part of your love story. It may feel very vulnerable, but love is all about vulnerability and taking risks. It might make him uncomfortable, but vulnerability is what makes a deeper connection in love. When you express vulnerability, and you aren't rejected for it; love becomes so much deeper.	/r/seduction	09/12/19 05:34 AM
3	Are there any good books or resources on developing humor or learning how to be funny or witty? There is a science behind comedy, and it's better then vague answers that serve literal thinkers like myself almost no value. Check this guy out on YouTube. He is a good place to start. Comedy is mental work, and learning to "find the funny" is a developed skill. For some people it's better developed than others, whether it was or was not intentionally developed. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCETBlMeK7EZBHEbT7J3rraw	/r/seduction	09/12/19 05:06 AM
2	How often do you feel romantic attraction? The first girl I dated. We flirted and joked around a lot. We connected really well. Her mom was dieing of cancer, and I was a person she could go to, to escape the emotional stress of her home life. I felt compassion for her, so I would buy her flowers, tease her, find ways to surprise her, and watch movies together. Initially it was physical attraction, with a certain level of vibe that resonated well between us. Then a sense of importance in the relationship. After being together for many yea…	/r/seduction	07/12/19 07:25 AM
1	Is porn a legitimate replacement for real relationships? Porn is not a replacement for relationships. That is comparing apples to oranges. Two different things. Porn also ruins the reward centers in your brain which has a big impact on social interactions. Practically rewiring your brain to seek pornography for dopamine, rather than pursue flirting and social interaction for dopamine rewards.	/r/seduction	07/12/19 07:10 AM
1	What to do if you have become complacent? I recommend starting to journal your thoughts down in a notebook so that you can better understand these feelings. It's difficult to set goals, and go after what it is you want if your mind is scattered and confused about it all. A good start is sitting down, writing a list of goals you'd like to achieve. Then in a few days, look back on that list and see if you feel differently about those goals... and ask yourself why your feelings changed about those goals. An the goals that haven't changed, …	/r/seduction	05/12/19 09:46 PM
2	Just Got Out Of A 6 Year Relationship 6 Months Ago... How Do I Get Back In The Game? Where to start? Buy clothes that fit and get a good haircut. Physical appearance, as well as good hygiene matters. Highly recommend getting some good pictures for social media. Get in the habit of taking pictures for Instagram so that people can see that you have an interesting life (this will be good to be able to share in social interaction with new people). Most importantly, actually have an interesting life. Also go explore your city and get to know what is in it, what it has to offer (When …	/r/seduction	05/12/19 05:55 PM
-1	Dating Christian Women. You seem to have a lot going on. I can tell you what I would do personally. We are two different people who have different brains with different thoughts, different personalities, and different life experiences. What I would do may or may not be helpful to you. I am also a Christian who intends to have sex after marriage. So first. I would rather suffer loneliness than willingly sin against God. I know in my loneliness I am on the path God intends me to be on and intends that I learn from it. Se…	/r/seduction	21/11/19 10:24 PM
4	Dating Christian Women. A big thing in Christianity is to not be unevenly yoked. Meaning, it's not smart to date someone who isn't a Christian because God is a core part of a Christians identity. Not sharing that core belief limits their ability to connection with you on a deep level. A Christian views their personal relationship with God to be as intimate or more intimate then the one they have with another person. If she is an actual Christian women, I would ask her if she would study the Bible with you so that you c…	/r/seduction	21/11/19 09:38 PM
1	When you see a woman & you approach her. What do you say? You never knew how to ride a bike till you picked one up and rode it. You never knew how to write till you picked up a pencil an used it. You never knew how to approach women till you walked over to them and started to talk People don't remember things. You will be forgotten. How many conversations do you remember that happened with a stranger? The truth is, you are not important enough for them to remember. So do what's best for your own growth, because that's the only thing that will last.	/r/seduction	20/11/19 04:15 AM
9	The biggest problems with the "game" community What I enjoy about studying game is learning what makes conversation engaging. An learning to incorporate that into my genuine character. Sure finding love is great, but pick up has a lot of good information on participating in conversation, adding value to interaction, and understanding conversation dynamics with new people	/r/seduction	19/11/19 06:52 PM
2	When you see a woman & you approach her. What do you say? I wouldn't worry so much about what to say. If you absolutely need something to say, just use a canned opener. Like "Hi, I couldn't help but notice you were glowing. I had to come over and introduce myself." If you haven't approached a lot of women. What's more important is getting familiar with rejection. Confidence will come naturally over time as you become familiar with approaching. Going over and saying anything at all is most important, and not being concerned with a good outcome. The goal…	/r/seduction	19/11/19 06:49 PM
2	How to become more relaxed person and not give so much fuck? Making jokes, or teasing adds value to interactions. Sharing stories of things you have experienced adds value. Story telling is great because it takes lots of pressure of others to contribute to the conversation. Also, if your bored of the topic, then change it to something completely unrelated. Give up on the idea of self-preservation. Let your ego die, and give up on thinking about yourself. Think less about, "how can I be comfortable, how can I appear cool, how can I attract people?" Think m…	/r/seduction	16/11/19 04:06 PM
1	Small town; Less opportunities? It's okay to not approach before you think. So long as you actually do approach. If creating a "tailor-made compliment" leads you to not approaching in the first place. You would be better off not concerning yourself with it. If it doesn't stop you from approaching, then take as long as you like. Though a person can make a genuine compliment on the fly as well. Non-generic compliments don't always need to be meditated on for long periods of time.	/r/seduction	16/11/19 03:54 PM
1	How to become more relaxed person and not give so much fuck? Focus on giving value to your interactions. How you can make for a good experience with others. Don't focus on what you can get from them, but what you can give to them instead.	/r/seduction	16/11/19 01:32 PM
4	Small town; Less opportunities? One of the general rules to cold approach is to approach within the first 3 seconds of seeing a girl. Otherwise your thoughts will likely convince you into doing nothing and staying comfortable. You either cold approach and see what happens or you don't. If you don't cold approach, you are making excuses. Don't think about doing it, just do it.	/r/seduction	16/11/19 06:22 AM
1	I finally complimented a girl I like today. Don’t know what to think of it though. I found this formula that seems good for compliments. It goes like this (Claim --> Justify Claim --> Exaggerate). Like, "I like your shoes(claim), you have good taste(justify claim), and it's making the rest of us look bad(exaggeration). Pretty much justifying why the compliment was made in the first place, then making an exaggeration if that justification were true. Seems like a playful way to compliment	/r/seduction	16/11/19 06:13 AM
1	Need some advice. Can you get girls above your league. Yes because wealth is not a man physical appearance. The point is that their is other factors than just physical appearance. You've never seen an ugly guy with a hot girlfriend? I sure have. I had a hot girlfriend back in highschool when I didn't shower, had long hair, wore cloths that didn't fit me, and had zits all over my face. I remember asking her what initially attracted her, and she said was that when she was saying super weird jokes(she was intentially trying to make me uncomfortable), I…	/r/seduction	16/11/19 01:32 AM
1	Need some advice. Can you get girls above your league. Women have different brains then men, they assess not only looks, but many other qualities. Where as men put a much heavier emphasis on looks. I think what's really going on is you may feel self conscious about your looks. Buy some new clothes, workout, and practice good hygiene and it'll boost your confidence. Here's an article of hot women being with men not solely based on looks. https://m.ranker.com/list/ugly-guys-who-married-supermodels/robert-wabash	/r/seduction	15/11/19 01:49 PM
1	Need some advice. Can you get girls above your league. Yes looks matter to a certain extent. But ugly dudes can be with extremely hot women. This is because women don't put looks on such a high pedestal as men. Good story telling, ability to navigate different social situations, having something your passionate about, confidence, humor, and vibe are things that can triumph over appearance for many women.	/r/seduction	15/11/19 12:35 PM
2	How to stop being absolutely terrified of girls? It's normal for men to talk to women. You are normal to approach women. Women like to be approached and talked to. The favor is on your side from the beginning. Say whatever comes to mind. Don't concern yourself with saying the right thing. No need to filter yourself. Accept the fact that you will get an addreniline rush and that maybe that nervousness makes you uncomfortable. It's okay to have those feelings, and everyone does. Remember that no one remembers anything stupid that someone else ha…	/r/seduction	15/11/19 12:47 AM
2	Girl gave me her number without me asking, what now? Treat it like what it is right now. A friendship. This doesn't mean it can't become more than that, but right now it's friends. Don't be afraid to say anything awkward. She thought you were brave for dancing with her. She probably think your brave if you say something awkward to her as well. Though I recommend keeping conversation with her in person for now. Text or phone call only to set-up a friend type activity. Remember, you had a couple wins. You danced with a girl, and a girls number. Coun…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 04:52 PM
1	If time let's you move on and forget. Why is no contact recommended? From my experience. I didn't do no contact, I tried getting my ex back. All it did was give her all the power, and made me appear desperate and needy. Though there's no problem with being in contact with an ex.. No contact is an unexpected response after a breakup(if your the one getting dumped). It signifies your strength to the ex, that you don't need your ex to be okay. It stops your ex from appearing higher value than they actually are. It respects the decision your ex made to leave. Also, i…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 04:16 PM