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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 10:33 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 10:33 PM
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It was part of the divorce settlement to avoid paying alimony
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 01:33 AM
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Sorry to hear about your situation OP. I went through the same situation. I was married for 21 years with w adult children. My ex wanted a marital home in order not to file for alimony and so I gave her the house, kept my retirement accounts, savings and I am good. I am currently attending Divorce Care, try it. I think that’s what you need before you start dating.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 03:53 PM
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I can see that happening. And I understand your point here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:39 PM
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Thanks for your words of encouragement. I will definitely pick up this book. Thanks for the recommendation.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:37 PM
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I agree with you. Relationships are a lot of work, man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:18 PM
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Thank you for the tips. Yea, that’s the norm here in Georgia. When kids become adults, no child support is required. However, if your wise takes you to court, the judge might grant her alimony based on your income only if you earn way more that she does.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:00 PM
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I was the one who filed for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:52 PM
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Hopefully she can take out as much as possible before it crashes.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 04:51 PM
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The house was purchased at 179k and now worth around 350k. The kids love the house so I did it for them as well
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 03:28 PM
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I am happy actually. I feel great. Thanks for your point of view. This helps.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 11:46 AM
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I feel lucky to be honest. I gave her the house and we kept our 401ks, savings, checkings, etc, without splitting. My savings has a good amount of liquid and untouched. My ex makes about 55k.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 11:45 AM
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Great idea
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 02:40 PM
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Indeed!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:21 PM
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She’s very welcoming and I do have a room there. The house is not paid off. My kids are adults now so I raised them. Besides, there’s only one kid left and will be moving out early August when college starts. At the end of the day, if I am not paying alimony, CS, and no mortgage, I think I am in a pretty good spot.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:21 PM
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Yeah, this is a very rough situation. Unreal!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:15 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:14 PM
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Ah… got it.:)
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:13 PM
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Thank you. I filed. The process started in February and finally signed the divorce papers last week Wednesday. Yes, I roughed it out for the kids. We where separated back in 2010 for a year and had to go back because I didn’t want my kids to grow up without me around. I can say they’re safe and secure, and they know that I love them and would be there for them if they need me with no doubt in their minds. Yea, I got an apartment for now and I am almost done furnishing it. I am here right now and…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 12:00 PM
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Thanks for sharing brother. This is very helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 11:54 AM
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Nice. Thanks. Will DM you
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 11:49 AM
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Nice. Did you do a solo?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 11:47 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I will also listen to the podcast .
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:36 AM
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That’s a good point. I am thinking of joining some community activity of some sort so I can try and meet new people.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:33 AM
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Ah… I will try a beard lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:31 AM
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Great point. I feel great actually but you never know right?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:29 AM
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Will do just that. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:27 AM
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I figured, my kids love it and wanted my ex to have it so she doesn’t struggle.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 08:27 AM
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I will check it out. Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:25 AM
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Thank you. This helps a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:24 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I had similar experience when I took my first nap at my apartment.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:23 AM
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That’s definitely very ideal. However, we have tried Counceling, and everything else you can think of at this point. We’ve outgrown each other. We’re cool with one another though, and the girls understand. I think we are at a better place now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:21 AM
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I will look into this. Thank you so much for your recommendations. I will try therapy as well.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 04:54 PM
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How is it in Cali?
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 04:52 PM
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Unreal! I dated a Beautiful Indian girl for a while. At first, she would insist on splitting expenses such as travel, meals, etc, then, that changed, she now made it a point that I paid for everything, and even started asking to borrow money to send back home to help out her parents.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 02:29 PM
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Thank you. Good job to you as well as a Dad. Sounds like you did solid work with your kids. I am In the greater Atlanta area, and a boat sounds like game.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 01:17 PM
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I will do all of the above. Thank you sir. It’s about time I tried Lagavulin.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 12:58 AM
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Thank you. These are all great points. Will map out a plan for the next year and 5 years from now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:29 PM
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One of the best advise thus far. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:18 PM
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Thank you. This helps a lot. I happen to be in good shape since I run and workout everyday. And yes, the heavy listing is now over.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:16 PM
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Thank you. It’s ironic you mentioned lifting, I happen to lift weights every day, and I find that it’s good for mental wellness.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:07 PM
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Thank you. This is very helpful and uplifting. I’m now thinking I should find some activity I like and learn it to develop a habit. I like that approach.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:05 PM
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It’s not bragging, it’s facts, and I figured I will get more specific responses if I added a little more context. Why do you think this is bragging? I am confused.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 11:01 PM
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Thank you for all these tips. I will definitely look into taking a solo trip to Europe.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:59 PM
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Thank you for your input. My first born is Econ major with minor in math and currently interning at one of the big 4, and about to be a Junior. My 18 year old is enrolled into college and will be majoring in architecture.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:54 PM
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I am in Georgia. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:50 PM
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Thank you. I plan to do a solo trip in the next few weeks or so. I will also look into some interesting activities and see what I can find.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:48 PM
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Thank you. It’s been quiet a journey. I appreciate your insight and words of encouragement. I feel empowered.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:16 PM
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Thank you. This is helpful. Good luck and happy anniversary.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 10:13 PM
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Unfortunately both of my parents are dead. Her parents seem to to in good health in their late fifties based on the pictures and videos I have seen so far. And yes. It will be very expensive financially and emotionally if they came to the US.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 12:18 PM
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Their daughter is treated well by her husband, and they are financially dependent on her even in their current situation in India, if she skipped sending them $500 allowance for one month, I think they would stave. So as far as buying a house here is out of question. She’s literally their retirement since they never saved for retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 06:01 PM
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Great points. They’re both well, no illness. My gf was telling me that her Dad wasn’t happy with the way her husband treated them when they came to the states to visit for a month. They are currently in India and she asked her Dad and Mom if they would be willing to come and live with her here in the state, and their answer was “we will come where ever you want us to come”
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 05:25 PM
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Thanks for your input. This is something I’ve never experienced so it will be a challenge, and I don’t envision myself getting accustomed to this culture. I like my privacy. Btw, she’s also planning to come out of her current marriage from an Indian man. She’s currently separated.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 03:32 PM
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Not gonna happen. My pull out game has been strong so far but it’s risky and silly. I need to stop this now before it’s too late. Great points and thanks for pointing them out here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 03:21 PM
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Absolutely great point. That’s a great point for sure. And I agree that this topic has been glossed over, it’s a big deal and I think she would do anything to get this taken care of and who knows, maybe that’s her objective all along where she might even end up dumping me after she gets her green card.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:57 PM
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This is sounds advice. Thanks for sharing your story. I am not even gonna go as far as if or when, I will just stop my relationship and jump to being completely single. It seems I’ve been thinking with my small head. Time to out some serious thought behind this action.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:30 PM
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You are right on point. This green card subject has been coming up multiple times. She’s on HB1 visa which needs renewal every three years and looks like she wants to secure that situation through marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 10:17 AM
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They don’t have millions at all. They’re are broke, so she sends them $500 every month for upkeep. And when she recently went to India for two months, she bought her Dad a car on top of renting a high end hotel for their stay for a couple of days so they can enjoy and took them to fine restaurants among other things. They depend on her in a big way. So they don’t bring anything to the table but headache.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 08:46 AM
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For sure. Thanks for the input.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 08:41 AM
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I am 46, I guess it depends what kind of benefits you mean. She's a sweetheart and earns well so she's financially independent and she's nice to hang out with considering she's beautiful.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:57 AM
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I agree. Thanks for the input. This helps a lot. I feel like all my life I've never had true freedom of living alone. This is my chance now that she wants to steal from me. I am not doing it. In fact, I am thinking of just ending the relationship all together so I can have true freedom of not feeling like I have to answer to her. I need this time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:52 AM
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That's a lot. I can't even imagine going through what you did. Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:48 AM
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This is deep. Here's a bit of context. My Indian girlfriend is also separated, she moved out of her marital home for a while and left her husband by himself. She told me that she needs time to think and make a choice between me and her Indian husband. However, it looks like she's already chosen me, and I would rather by the end of six months she goes back to her husband. I don't feel like moving forward in this. She's already asking me to marry her and sh's making future plans on how we're going…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:43 AM
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Indeed. I agree with you. That’s plan for sure. I want to do some soul searching by living alone and explore some options.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:58 AM
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Thanks for sharing. This really helps especially coming from you. You understand the culture better since you were married to one. I sense the same about the way she talks about her parents. It’s like she would do anything to please them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:55 AM
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Yes, this is a great talking point and that’s exactly how I feel. I don’t want to commit this soon. So, I will put myself first for a change. I’ve had enough drama in my marriage and this might end up being worse than my current marriage. I have a bad feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:51 AM
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That’s the thing. They’re pretty young to be retiring into their daughter’s care. It’s too much to handle.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:45 AM
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100%. Thanks for for the word of encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 11:17 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I want to be able to walk around freely in my own house.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 11:16 PM
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I am not. Thanks for helping me process this situation. I am glad I posted this question here. I am just coming out of a long term marriage and not really looking to commit that fast. I need some time to heal, and staying by myself for a while will do the tick.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:44 PM
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agree, and I am not supposed to be a sugar daddy at this point in my life. I have a lot going for me to just settle for this. My understanding is that way are retired so they don’t plan to work when they come.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:40 PM
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That’s what I am afraid of. So it’s better to pull the plug now while I can without any form of cost besides hurting her feelings I suppose
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:37 PM
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I agree. I am not slowing it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:36 PM
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I agree 100%. I consider myself to be a stand up guy. I will practice a couple of times tell her no.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:34 PM
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This is great advice. I think I will get a vasectomy. I already have two kids and they are very expensive both emotionally at time and financially.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 09:17 PM
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This is very helpful. I have not lived with her yet, and I plan do do than for weeks at a time between my place and her place to see how we get along living together. I not not met her parents yet, and yes, the was my thought as well, they seem to be too young to be seeking for care at their age. Also, they both don’t speak English so it will be hard to communicate.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 08:53 PM
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Great point. I feel like I will be under the microscope for the rest of my life. I don’t know if I will be happy to sign up for this. Even if they stay in the basement, it’s supposed to be a man cave,
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 08:47 PM
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Thank you. I was trying to think this way. I don’t envision myself to be a care take yet. I want to have a piece of mind by the end of the day.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 08:07 PM
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Right. That’s a good point. I guess I am trying to navigate on how to handle this situation and see how most people handle it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 08:04 PM
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I think it’s time to pull the plug. I think I found one that might workout
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 03:22 PM
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I agree. Will do that
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:04 PM
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Wow! Sounds like you’re is contested, am I right?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:37 AM
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Well the paperwork says 45 to 60 days but my wife and I have still not signed that paperwork that needs to be submitted to the court house to even start counting that 45 to 60 days time frame
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:06 AM
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This is really nice
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:04 AM
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Did you sign the paperwork from your lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:02 AM
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I called about three weeks ago and the paralegal told me she will get back to me in a couple of weeks despite asking for a firm date. Then I called again on Tuesday only to be told that she’s on another call and will return my call later. After not hearing back from her, I called again yesterday and receptionist placed me on hold and again came back to say she was on another call and will call me back. I feel like this is taking too long but I am not familiar with the process so that’s why I dec…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 11:42 PM
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My Therapyst did diagnose my wife with BPD as well after talking to her on the phone for less than a minute. I think he was pretty accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 12:36 AM
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Thank you. Working on it now. My equity is about $230k. I need to close this deal ASAP!
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 06:42 PM
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I had a discussion with my wife today. Her requirements are that she keeps the house with equity in it, I should payoff her $22k credit debt and pay her a couple of $100 bucks for the next 13 months and that’s it. Sounds like a good deal.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 06:14 PM
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I might get a bonus. But I will definitely file ASAP. I plan to call a lawyer tomorrow and start the process. I didn’t know divorce takes that long. I thought it would only take a month or so. This is going to be tough. But a piece of mind is definitely worth it. My wife and I haven’t had sex in years. We’re currently co parenting and sleep in separate rooms. The marriage has been dead for years. I should have done this sooner had I had the courage and knowledge to do so. The only thing that kep…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 01:46 AM
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That makes a lot of sense. I should have filed earlier had I known. This is very helpful. I think my average for 2021 will end up being $120k. Hopefully they won’t go by looking at by my W2s instead of my currently paystubs. I will call at attorney tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 01:35 AM
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It’s a tough situation. I should have done it when I was at 75k. I think my income will stay this way for a while now since it was a renegotiation of base. I will file then ASAP!
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 01:17 AM
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Good point. My wife is has a stable job and makes 60k per year. She’s in sales so sometimes she makes more than her base. For me, my income last year in May jumped from 75k to 135k, then went up again in November to 160k. I am 44 and my wife is 46. I don’t plan on marriage again. I’d rather stay single.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 12:46 AM
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So, I am planning a divorce and want to stash my cash of 100k. How can I hide it so I can use it after the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 11:17 PM
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Any idea what happens if I have 100k in my own savings account before filing for and after divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 09:44 PM
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Thanks OP.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 08:16 PM
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I am planning on divorce soon after my daughter graduates this May. My wife asked to wait for 3 more years so she can pay off some debt, and be able to qualify to refinance our house. However, I don’t feel like waiting this long especially after being married for 21 years. 3 more years would be unbearable. Any thoughts on how I should approach this situation?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 06:35 PM
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