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I should have done more research first, I'm sorry. I will next time. I didn't get much sleep last night because of the baby. The financial abortion would be really easy to obtain. It wouldn't be comparable. Really though, in my perfect world, abortions would be used in emergencies only, not birth control. I think we should focus on male bc and making it ridiculously easy and cheap to get bc, even without insurance. Then unwanted pregnancies would drop and it wouldn't be as much of an issue. If t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 02:11 PM
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Read the edit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 01:53 PM
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http://www.alternet.org/story/151268/10_states_where_abortion_is_virtually_illegal_for_some_women As for banning abortion, I'm not entirely for that. I believe an abortion is okay if the woman's life is at risk, rape, or incest. However, how would you implement that legally? The woman would have to prove she was raped, which would be very difficult and next to impossible to do in the amount of time she would have to get an abortion. I've been doing a lot of thinking on how things SHOULD be, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 01:03 PM
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Many states don't allow abortion. I am morally opposed to abortion, so I would never have one. I'd let any partner know that before intercourse. Edit: while it is technically legal, it's often very expensive and the person may have to travel great distances to have one in a legal way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:39 PM
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It isn't a choice for me or many other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:34 PM
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I absolutely think it's unfair. Men shouldn't have to pay for someone else's child, unless the man legally adopted the child, in which case he has taken over responsibility for the child. Even that is a bit of a gray area for me. It was his choice too, since I let him know up front. I also take EVERY step I can. I have an IUD, I use condoms, and he pulls out. We've talked about what would happen if we had another kid. We talked about it while I was still pregnant with the first one. I don't know…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:33 PM
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I wasn't talking about male rape victims. If the man is a victim of rape, the woman should be thrown in prison and the child taken from her. Yes, she willingly brought it to term, and he willingly didn't use a condom. In my case, I'm against abortion for myself. If I had an oops pregnancy, I'd keep it. I'd let the guy know up front, because that's what a responsible person does. I also don't have sex with someone I'd never in a million years want a baby with, because I understand the risks. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:27 PM
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What about when they knock up someone in their new country, since they've shown they don't like using condoms? Flee again?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:22 PM
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She's responsible also, but in this situation, you have already established that she is an irresponsible shitty person. Obviously he's pretty damn stupid if he would breed with that. It is going to the child if she uses her own money to meet the child's needs. She would be reimbursing herself with the CS, allowing her to pay her rent (which also benefits the child because, you know, a place to live is nice) and clothe and feed herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:15 PM
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It was the man's choice to say fuck condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:10 PM
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No, it's the man's "blunder" as well. It takes two people to get pregnant, and usually two incomes to raise a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:09 PM
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That's when people have to be really careful not to get druggies pregnant. As long as the child is taken care of, she can use child support to reinburse herself for what she spent on the child between payments.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 12:09 PM
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But I've never claimed any of that. I don't understand how you are adding anything by pointing out what other people think. It's a strawman argument. I'm done now since you don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 10:28 PM
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How do I have odd rules? You're wanting me to debate using points I don't believe in. I can't argue for anyone else, especially if I completely disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 10:19 PM
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I do not hold the views of society. I'm done debating with you. If you would like to talk about things I've said, let me know. Have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 10:11 PM
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You are debating with me, not society at large so I'd like you to refrain from attempting to use things I have never said in this debate. It's pointless and is making you look ridiculous. In the situation with my boyfriend's sister, she is 19, living in a friend's camper, has no job and until last week, no phone. The phone is only because her mom gave it to her out of pity. She had to shower at my house because she didn't even have water. So no, she couldn't afford trojans.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 09:56 PM
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You haven't been told by me. Keep putting words in my mouth. Only making you look bad. I've had to help my boyfriend's sister pay for bc. It isn't free if you don't have insurance. She finally got insurance. Now I'm having insurance troubles. Obamacare didn't fix everything. And men are having sex too. Why not tell them to stop to protect their wallets?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 09:43 PM
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Because I never claimed she was strong and independent? I don't see where you're getting this from. Kids are expensive, and normally take 2 incomes to support. If the dad decides to not pay his part, then she has to pick up the slack. If she can't afford it, then she will need public assistance. It seems a lot of the time it is lower income people who are in this situation. Couldn't afford birth control, didn't go to college, work a medium wage job, etc. Those women can't afford a baby on their …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 09:30 PM
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Did I personally ever say that? Why are you putting words in my mouth? I personally believe fathers are extremely important and should have an active part in their child's life. I think 50 50 custody should be the default. I also think that if they are not in their child's life by their own choice, they should help financially support the child that they helped bring into the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 09:22 PM
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It won't be her bearing them alone though. It would go to taxpayers, and by extension, him (assuming he is a taxpayer).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 09:00 PM
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Do you have any idea how hard that would be? I've had a baby. There's no way I could have given him up. How about since the woman is taking responsibility (believe it or not her money will be going to the baby too) the man does too?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 08:33 PM
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I just explained how it isn't always a choice. It's much easier for a man to say "I'm not giving you money" than it is for a woman to go through an invasive medical procedure. Also, many women are completely opposed to abortion, it is not legal in their state, or she cannot afford it. It is also better for society as a whole if everyone paid for their own children. Really, the best solution is birth control options for men and all forms of birth control being low cost or free and easily availabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 08:25 PM
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There's a third person here. The child, who will suffer if they are brought into this world and the mother cannot support it on their own. Some women (myself included) would never have an abortion for a variety of reasons. For me, it isn't a choice. I would let someone know that up front before having sex with them, but unless you have that discussion, you wouldn't know. Also, abortions are expensive and not available in all states for people who want them. Would the man pay a portion of that bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 08:17 PM
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Most pro choice people don't believe they are taking a life during an abortion. They do not think it is life yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 08:12 PM
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The person told you that's not how they feel, then you told them that IS what they believe. They explained their position further, and you just said nope, not listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 06:56 PM
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I am largely opposed to abortion being used as birth control. I believe life begins at conception.I believe we should have more forms of birth control for men so that unwanted pregnancies are less likely to occur. That is my personal belief. Now, not everyone feels that way. I get these ideas primarily from my religious beliefs, which I understand not everyone shares. To argue from the standpoint of someone who is pro choice (not necessarily my views), in the time frame a woman has to get an abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 06:31 PM
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/u/ianturpiesmoustache is supporting his/her argument and is trying to have a discussion. You are completely ignoring all of their reasoning, and instead of presenting your own ideas with supporting reasons, you are pretty much going "lalala can't hear you, you don't like men and want them to be slaves lalala," even though they just said that is not what they believe. If you don't want to have a discussion, just stop replying. It just makes you look like you have no idea how debates work.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 06:22 PM
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There are many valid reasons a woman would not want an abortion. I'd never get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 06:11 PM
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How is money more important than life? Yes, society will have to support them, because that is how our society is currently structured. If we are saying this is a hypothetical situation where that doesn't exist and the woman can't afford the child, they both die. Two lives for a portion of one man's money. I personally would never have an abortion. Not something I believe in for myself. However, I literally almost bled to death after my son. I had blood transfusions, an abysmally low blood press…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 06:02 PM
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I'm sorry, but a parent's money is not more important than a child's life. If the father (who is half responsible for the child) doesn't pay his fair share, society will have to through their taxes to support the mother on welfare. It isn't like the mother's money isn't going to the child as well. She is caring for the child not only financially, but the child is also living with her and she is responsible for the child's wellbeing. The dad isn't the only one who takes the hit. Does it suck for …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 05:53 PM
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What did the child do to deserve to starve? A child can't help the circumstances of his or her birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 05:20 PM
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My father was on steroids towards the end of my parents' marriage. He became volatile and terrifying to be around. I remember one day in particular, my mom tried to give him a hug, and he shoved her off. Eventually, she cheated on him and the marriage ended. Who was to blame here? They both majorly screwed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 08:42 PM
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I'm a stay at home mom. We actually save money by me staying home. Once I'm through with college, I will go to work and my boyfriend will stay home with our kid. With childcare prices so high, I would be just barely covering day care costs if I went back to work now. It was what was (and still is) best for our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 04:15 PM
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I'm blue pill. My mom got a 10th grade education and dropped out of high school. My dad finished high school and is a master mechanic at a steel mill. I was the high school valedictorian and I'm in college for web development. I got my AA before I finished high school because I was in my school's dual enrollment program. Since my parents never went to college, or even took AP classes, they always make it sound like going to college full time with a kid is super easy. They also figured I'd just g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 01:33 PM
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Exactly this. A woman like that isn't worth dating in my opinion. If enough men put their foot down, it would stop being expected. Will it be harder to find someone willing to go on more than one date with you? Maybe somewhat, but then you just need to take a look at your priorities and see if you want to pursue women like that. I'm in no way condoning it though. If I were a man, I wouldn't put up with that type of behavior and I would find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/15 06:38 PM
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Yep, exactly. There's no way to justify it in my mind if both parties have a job. Now if a man takes out a jobless woman and he is aware of that fact, he should pay. Same thing the other way around though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 11:15 PM
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I wouldn't expect a man to pay for me. I would want to pay for myself. Right now, I'm a stay at home mom and my boyfriend and I live together off his salary, so obviously he has to pay for me now. However, if something were to happen to us and I was back in the workforce, I wouldn't let a man pay for me. It just wouldn't feel right to me. I'd want him to know I was there for his company, not a free meal. Back when my boyfriend and I were younger (we are talking in high school because I'm 21 and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/15 11:05 PM
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OP wanted anecdotes, and that's what she gave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 04:48 PM
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No I don't. I've only been with one guy, who is my current boyfriend. We got together when I was 14, and have been with each other 7 years. He's the only guy I've ever even kissed, let alone had sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/15 11:50 PM
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Thank you so much! The hypergamy thing makes me laugh. It's so opposite of who I (and many other women I know) am.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 02:26 PM
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Thanks! I can look at a naked woman and think, wow she's beautiful, but that's the extent of it. I honestly don't feel like I'm missing out. This man knows EVERYTHING about me. We grew up together. He knows how to get me off every time (when the vaginismus permits sex haha). I don't want to throw away what I have on the off chance that it might be better. It's okay, I'm just glad I'm finally able to get help. First I wasn't able to because I had to keep sex a secret from my parents, and then for…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 02:15 PM
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I'm definitely comfortable talking about sex! Are you straight? Bi? Are you comfortable with your sexuality? I'm straight. I haven't ever experimented with women, but I really just don't like vaginas, so I really don't have any interest in touching someone else's. Plus I'm in a committed monogamous relationship, so no experimentation with anyone else here. If you had sexual experiences in highschool or college, do you think it helped you grow sexually? Were you sufficiently empowered into realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 01:36 PM
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No it's not. It's that if you are very religious, divorce isn't as viable an option. Edit: I also said "or other personal beliefs" meaning beliefs stemming from things other than religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/15 08:57 PM
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Bingo. Correlation does not equal causation. There are definitely other factors at play, such as religious or other personal beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/15 02:21 PM
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What happened with us was I went on birth control, and lacking proper sex ed, I didn't know about how it could cause dryness. I also didn't know about lube. So it was really painful. Now the tightening is a completely involuntary action because I subconsciously expect pain. Sex always ended quickly, and with me in tears from the pain. It made my boyfriend feel horrible, and made both of our sex drives plummet. I'm finally getting help though, I'm going to physical therapy weekly. I'm really hopi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/15 02:31 AM
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More than just testosterone comes into play to determine sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 11:12 PM
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We are not talking about generalizations though. We are talking about a specific individual. Ask her how much she masterbates.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 08:57 PM
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She may have the sex drive of an average man since she says she has an extremely high sex drive. Not all women are into casual sex. I'm definitely not. Before I developed vaginismus, I had an extremely high drive. My boyfriend and I were abstaining from sex for about a year and a half randomly in the middle of our relationship because I did not have access to birth control and we didn't trust just condoms. It physically hurt me pretty much on a daily basis. Since I developed vaginismus, both of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 08:48 PM
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One point I will give you is that she doesn't know what it's like to be shamed for being a virgin (most likely). I hate virgin shaming and I really wish it wasn't a thing, like slut shaming. However, she may very well have high testosterone levels, as well as other hormone levels, that would make get as frustrated as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 07:35 PM
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What do you mean by she can't understand the frustration? Of course she can, she's sexually frustrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 07:31 PM
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Oh I'm so sorry! I'm on mobile and I was just replying to the stuff in my inbox. Oops! My whole thing is, yes, men GENERALLY speaking have higher drives. However, this woman was stating that she had a high drive, and the other guy responded basically by saying she was wrong since she was a woman and so she doesn't know. He was trying to push the individual into the generalization, and that's not how those work. You use them to deal with groups of people, not individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 06:42 PM
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Don't have an example at the moment because I'm on mobile and taking care of my cranky 9 month old, but I see it all the time. Hell, I was in another thread earlier saying that sort guys deserve a movement life the fat acceptance movement for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 06:14 PM
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Yes, but you were speaking to an individual, who was saying she had a high sex drive. Why try to force generalizations on her when she told you that's not the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 06:12 PM
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There are huge variances in how individuals experience sex drive. My boyfriend has a low libido despite being in awesome shape and having testosterone. Many women have sky high sex drives. To tell this woman who says she has a high drive that she doesn't know what she's talking about is ridiculous. I can't imagine what it's like to be you, just like you can't imagine what it's like to be me. You have no idea what her drive ACTUALLY feels like, or her testosterone levels. She may very well know E…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 03:46 PM
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I could just as easily say the same thing about a woman's drive. Have you ever been a woman? No? Then you know fuck all about it. See how that stalls a good debate? God, that's why this sub is going to shit. Instead of just telling people they don't know because they've never been a man, why don't you have some empathy for the other side as many of the women here try to do? Edit: At least make a good counter argument instead of just saying the other person is wrong because of your feelz.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 03:28 PM
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I don't wear makeup. I suck at applying it, I don't have the patience for it, and I want my boyfriend to love my natural beauty. That being said, it's not like men NEVER see women without makeup. The stuff comes off. Just take them swimming or tubing or something for a first date if it's THAT big of a deal. Some of it is waterproof, but some of it will wash off. I don't think it's as big of a deal as you're making of it. Honestly I feel the most pressure to wear makeup from other women, not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 03:03 PM
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Being fat should be a detriment. It's (usually) something you can change and is a result of an unhealthy lifestyle. Fat people can get skinny. Short people can't get tall. Trust me on that one, I've been trying to get taller for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 02:35 PM
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I'm not saying force people to date short guys. Maybe just say things to make short guys feel more confident? That's what they're doing with the fat acceptance movement. Confidence is sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 12:44 PM
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Wouldn't that be what a short acceptance movement would be for? To make short men more confident and show women that they can be attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 11:44 AM
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Yeah, the guy I fell in love with for who he is just so happens to be tall. There are many short guys that I've found extremely attractive. Just because I'm currently dating a tall guy doesn't mean I'd be against dating a short one. If he was 5'2" I'd still be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 11:21 AM
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I'm cool with a short acceptance movement for guys. I've found many short guys attractive. My current boyfriend happens to be tall, but since I'm short it causes difficulties occasionally. It would make life easier if he were shorter (I'm 5'1" and he's 6 ft). I'm all for short guys feeling the love and feeling masculine and sexy. Edit: As far as the fat acceptance movement goes, I'm kind of iffy. I don't want fat people to feel bad about themselves, but it is unhealthy so it's in their best inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 02:28 AM
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Just treat them like he would anyone. Like, don't go around buying a while bunch of stuff for them, don't bend over backwards to do things for them, etc. Just act like he would their guy friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 08:41 AM
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I have a 9 month old son. I'm going to raise him to treat women like people. Not put them on a pedestal, but not treat them like shit either. Just like he would his guy friends. I don't want his only goal in life to be to just get laid. There are more important things in life than sex, and that should never be his main focus. I'm going to push him to do well in school, like his father and I did. I'm going to keep myself open to listen to his problems, so that he knows to come to me with anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/15 12:36 AM
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Why would you believe men aren't raped by women? Not every man wants sex with every woman at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/15 05:00 PM
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Many women have moral of religious reasons to want a lower partner count man. I do. I'm not lying when I say I'm not interested in men with high partner counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/15 02:20 AM
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Yes I do. I've been with him 7 years and know him extremely well. He has some emotional scars from the incident. He won't even sleep with me if he's been drinking because it causes anxiety and he says it feels really wrong. Edited to add: The same girl did it to his older brother too. Waited until he was wasted and he kept saying no but she fucked him anyway. He's really torn up about it too. The woman is really nasty. She's an awful person. My boyfriend could have had any girl he wanted at the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/15 08:28 PM
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Nope, not at all. I prefer men with super low partner counts. My boyfriend only had one sexual encounter before me, and it was non consensual on his part (date rape scenario - he doesn't have any memory of what happened). The way I see it, I valued my virginity, and I want a man who feels the same way. He doesn't have to be a virgin, but I want him to have the same values around sex as I do, and that necessitates a low partner count.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/15 01:15 PM
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Mostly, but before I got boobs (I went up 2 cup sizes when I got pregnant and they stayed after I had the baby and lost the weight, yay!), I was told that I wasn't their "type" due to my boobs. Most guys just don't find me sexy. At 21, I look like I'm 14. I feel for short guys, I really, really do, I was just pointing out that there are similar things for women too. I know short guys have it rough. From what I've seen, if the short guy is really muscular he can overcome it, but it takes a lot of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 12:15 AM
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Actually I've been rejected for my boob size. I was extremely flat chested and guys made fun of me for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/15 11:50 PM
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There are lots of women who it just doesn't matter much to. There's shallow women just like there's shallow men. I'm not saying there isn't a preference, but everyone had preferences and you aren't going to conform to everyone's ideal image. Work with what you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/15 10:44 AM
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Boob size. Push up bras can only do so much, and eventually those come off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/15 09:50 AM
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Haha I'll try, but I don't think the world can handle 2 of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 07:35 AM
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I'm against both coddling and quotas. Both piss me off to no end. There are qualified women, and they should be treated as such without having to prove themselves to their coworkers more than any man would. Women shouldn't be hired just for the sake of being women, they should be held to the same standards or go back to school/work harder. The coddling/having to prove themselves thing sounds like a shitty deal for women to me. It could suck for men too if time is wasted explaining things that do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/15 12:27 AM
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I never said it wasn't, whereas you said you doubt it's hard being a woman in tech. I'm asking why you feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/15 12:20 AM
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What do you mean it isn't hard to be a woman in tech?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/15 12:09 AM
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I never meant force them into those fields, I meant in high school, education should be better. Girls should be pushed to do better in math and science and boys in English and humanities. I think it may increase representation in previously underrepresented fields. Also, each field would have to be de-stigmatized. It's hard for a woman in tech, just like it's hard for a guy in health care, since people are dumb and try to say that a male nurse is somehow less masculine. Now, after education is f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 11:03 PM
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Would it be trying something new if you were exposed to it in high school? If so, then it would be trying something new for everyone in the field. Better education performance broadens career horizons. Where a girl who would have otherwise not been comfortable enough to go into CS, if she did better in the required fields, she might decide to. Same thing with men and healthcare. Why would it be a bad thing for more women to pursue CS and more men to pursue healthcare if they are equally qualifie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 07:36 PM
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Diversity. When I worked in the nursing home, we had 1 man on our shift. He was great. He was physically stronger than most of us, and we were in a shitty, underfunded facility so we were killing our backs without his help. Women bring fresh ideas to the table. It also opens both sexes up to even more career options, which is great. As far as pushing kids in school, most kids are lazy and unless they are pushed, they will under preform. I'm not saying only allow them in certain classes, but if g…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 07:29 PM
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I don't believe I mentioned a quota in any of my posts. I think quotas are bullshit for the most part. I understand we are talking about career choices, but aren't people more likely to choose a career in a field where they excel? If so, then it follows that pushing children to do well in those fields would boost their representation in said fields, unless there is another underlying factor. Basically, if men are biologically better at math and women are biologically better at language and inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 07:17 PM
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To make well rounded individuals. I'm talking more high school rather than college here. Math and sciences are extremely important, as are language and interpersonal skills. Why shouldn't people be pushed to excel in both?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 07:02 PM
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I actually ceded that there probably is a slight biological advantage for men due to the prevalence of math in the CS field. It takes a bit more work for women to be great in the field. I think women should be pushed in school in STEM areas and men should be pushed in areas that they are biologically less inclined towards also.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 06:56 PM
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I definitely see what you're saying, and I do know that studies have shown that men's brains are more geared towards math (which is huge in CS). I have read that it is possible to restructure the brain by studying and learning about subjects. It would be slightly more difficult for women as a blank slate to master the field. The programs are giving women an incentive to work harder in those areas, which I think is great. I've never personally has any issues in math, but I've always thrown myself…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 06:31 PM
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Yes they do. Not all of them, just like not all men do, but a lot are capable of showing compassion. Hell, one of my closest friends would probably be considered an omega male.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 12:22 PM
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Why is that though? There's a movement to get women interested now. I believe it's a social thing rather than a biological issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 09:31 AM
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No that wasn't my point. You said women don't like the work. I actually really do like the work, so I thought it was funny. That's what I said. And the guys in most of the other cliques didn't have more issues than the girls at my school either. That's just my experience, it may be different in cities, I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 04:04 AM
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I said "in my experience." I admitted to not knowing how it is in other areas. I haven't personally seen men get shafted in school. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen, but in my area it isn't common. If you would like to share your experience on how men have the shit end of the deal in school, I'd sincerely like to hear it. I hear people quote the statistics that there aren't enough men in college, but I never get to hear stories about men having it a lot tougher in school. You are picking a part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 03:10 AM
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And also why women either have to go to college or have a difficult time spring themselves, hence more women in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 03:05 AM
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Oh, I don't doubt it. My point was that they will often forgo college to jump straight into the workforce. It's harder for women to do the same and support themselves comfortably, so that's probably a big reason you see more of them in college. The ideal situation would be to develop better technology so that it is less physically demanding so the men aren't killing themselves and women have a fair shot at the job. As it is now, employers would hire a man over a woman for the job, so it would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 11:06 AM
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I think kids in general should be pushed to do better in school. I don't think it's necessarily the system just biased against men (I don't have that experience at all, but I live in a weird area), but social expectations in general. They put more emphasis on sports and whatnot for boys. They try to use being a guy as some sort of excuse. In my family, I had a 4.75 GPA when I graduated and my brother is failing 10th grade. Instead of telling him to quit being lazy, to study, and to actually even…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 07:32 AM
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I've never had issues in school, so I'm not too concerned about dropping out. I have too much to work for, especially now that I have a baby. This was actually the first time I had communicated worth the professor, so if he didn't like me personally, I have no idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 07:23 AM
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I think you misunderstood me a bit, maybe I wasn't clear. When faced with the choice on whether or not to go to college, some men think it's a better option to go straight to work and make a decent living doing manual labor right out of high school rather than struggle through college with no money and come out with huge debt. Women on the other hand have a harder time doing the physically demanding jobs. I would probably have to shoot test and spend a ton of time working out to be able to do a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 03:10 AM
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Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like I'm completely disregarding your idea. I added that I was from a super small rural town because that may have a role in why men have the advantage here. It's the common belief (even by many teachers at my high school) that women and men should have separate roles. There's almost no feminist presence in my town. I'm in the minority. As far as women not liking the work, I personally love it. However, it is hard for women to get into it. In school people thought I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 03:03 AM
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I'm 5 ft 1 and 110 pounds. I would get laughed at if I applied for a construction job or something similar unless I was just driving a machine around. A man would get hired over me because he could do more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:28 AM
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I'm actually a woman in web development, so the whole "women don't like the work" thing makes me laugh. In my experience, men have the upper hand when it comes to school. I live in a small, rural, conservative town, and it seemed like the school was more strict worth girls. The jock guys were pretty much coddled and the teachers went pretty easy on them. I was the valedictorian and never gave any teachers trouble, and my math teacher hated me. I have no idea why. I turned in my work on time, got…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 01:48 AM
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I have a 6 month old son. My boyfriend and I love him with everything in us, but we aren't going to have any more kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 12:31 AM
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Women are probably the majority of college graduates because it's much easier for a man to find a well paying job without a degree. A man can easily get hired doing manual labor, such as construction, and make a very decent living. A woman on the other hand, would be hard pressed to find a job that would support her comfortably without a college degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 12:21 AM
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You also run the risk of ACTUALLY raping her if you misread her cues. Hell, I can kiss someone and say no to sex. I can keep kissing them and still NOT WANT SEX. Wouldn't it also be nice if women just stopped doing this? The behavior is getting rewarded, so she's not going to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 02:36 PM
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I'm sure it would suck, but I imagine prison sucks a whole lot more. Consensual non consent is discussed beforehand and a safe word is used. It's completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 11:34 AM
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So you would rather do prison time than wait to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 11:32 AM
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If they aren't acting like an adult, why are you bothering with them? They will get the hint eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 12:01 AM
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That seems fine if everyone is happy. It's the people who just do it any way that don't make a whole lot of sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 06:20 PM
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I have an idea on this. When I woman puts up "LMR," why not just believe her no? At worst, you don't get laid that particular night. It also keeps you from putting yourself at risk for a (pretty justified if she's saying no) rape case. If she really does want to have sex with you, she should act like an adult and say what she really wants. If she's going to be immature and not say what she means, she probably isn't worth your time. When she goes without getting laid long enough, she'll figure ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 04:05 PM
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Alrighty, I understand. I just don't want you to feel as if I'm trying to force my beliefs on you or anything just by mentioning that I have them :). I hold beliefs that are actually controversial within religious communities as well (I'm pro marriage equality and I don't believe men are inherently superior to women and must be submitted to, among many others), so I get hate from both sides anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 03:26 AM
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Oh no, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make it seem as if it wasn't emotional to you as well. I was just outlining my reasoning for only wanting to have sex with someone I'd been with for a really long time. I also have a pretty damn low self esteem, so extreme trust comes into play as well there too. Why would you be annoyed by people who believe in a higher power if they aren't pushing it on you? I ask because I'm just curious really. I never try to convert anyone, I just have my own little set of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 03:10 AM
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All I'm saying is, I feel like he and I are truly perfect for each other. I don't mean soul mate as in he's the only one who could ever make me happy, just that he is perfect for me in every way. I don't think there's one, and only one, perfect person for everyone, so maybe soul mate isn't the best word, but it's how I typically describe our relationship. As far as "meant to be" goes, that refers back to the religion thing. We have a fundamental disagreement there, so neither of us is going to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 02:49 AM
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Hey, if it works for you, awesome! For me, sex is such an emotional thing, moreso than physical, so I wanted to only do it with someone I was going to spend the rest of my life with, since it is really so special to me. Religion played a big part in the beginning, but lesser so as our relationship went on because some of my views have changed. I still believe in God, but I don't think he automatically hates you for having sex. Before I thought it was a huge sin. However, my first point is really…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 02:20 AM
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There really isn't too much of a point. My boyfriend and I just play what if a lot. I have a pretty good idea of what I would want out of a relationship if I had to start all over. I don't think sex would magically change its meaning for me, so that's why I'm pretty confident that I'd want to wait if there was a next guy too. It's all a moot point though considering my relationship is happy and stable. We were more making fun of each other for how awkward our first dates would be if we did split…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/15 10:16 PM
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Compromise and always thinking of the other person as well as yourself. Don't over analyze everything as a shit test or some kind of power play. Make sure you genuinely love and care about each other, and show it in any way you know how. In my relationship, all decisions are talked about between the two of us. If we can't agree on a course of action, we compromise. There is no leader in our relationship. We are equal partners. It really works best that way for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/15 02:55 AM
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If social customs would change, women probably wouldn't feel like they had to lie. Not much we can do about it now, but probably some time in the not so distant future it won't be as big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 10:30 PM
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What do you mean by "is there a point?" Never planning on leaving him, we actually just had our first baby, and I'd prefer not to be a single mom. This was more wondering what would happen if he left me or cheated on me, which would be one of the VERY few things I would leave him for.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 10:27 PM
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I love to see the other side. I don't believe I could ever be "redpill," but I want to understand the thought process. My boyfriend has a redpill friend, and honestly, I don't think he's a bad guy. From what he's confided in me, he was hurt REALLY badly. That seems to be why he took the red pill. I honestly just feel bad for him. I feel like if I talk to you all and understand the mindset as well as possible, maybe I could possibly help him see the good in the world (and women) again. I'm much b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 09:33 PM
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I figured, that's why I threw that in there. I've seen the don't ask don't tell thing on reddit all over the place though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 08:34 PM
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Well, I'm now 21 and I can say with confidence that if my boyfriend and I broke up (which is unlikely) I wouldn't be quick to have sex with the next guy (if there even is a next guy).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 08:33 PM
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Number is really just a preference for both sexes really. It narrows your dating pool if you want someone with a low count, just like it would if you had a super high count. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, as long as you are still respectful to the person if they haven't wronged you. The big point of the OP is: if you are really hung up on a low partner count/virginal woman, you are probably going to have to wait. If she had sex right away, then she probably wouldn't be a virgin …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 07:20 PM
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Is it really something that's THAT common to lie about though? Truly curious here. I've always lived in a super small town, and while girls in middle school would occasionally, it seems something that a lot of women grow out of. Something that really seems the most common is "don't ask, don't tell" when it comes to the exact number.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 07:14 PM
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It seems as if high partner count doesn't matter as much to men today. Based off what I've read on /r/sex and from what I've seen in real life, it isn't nearly as big of a deal as it used to be. There isn't as much of a motivation to lie anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 06:57 PM
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What would the real motivation to lie about that and nothing else be? If she's lying about that, there's probably other things she's lying about as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 06:47 PM
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Gotcha. I wouldn't hold it against someone if they broke up due to a lie, be it about virginity or otherwise. I just wanted to let you know that I was never saying that men should stay if they had been lied to:).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 05:26 PM
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Well chances are, if she's sitting there telling you a virgin, not expecting to be showered with gifts, not flirting with anyone else, and telling you she's into you but just wanting to wait until she knows you well to have sex, she probably isn't lying. Now, if she is begging for huge expensive things, not being close to you at all, is coming off as an impulsive liar, and not seeming to be into you, then that's a whole other story. Edit: If you are worried about a girl lying about virginity, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 05:19 PM
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Of course that would take time. Hell, it took me and my boyfriend both a lot of time for our walls to go down around each other. I'm not saying that he should drop that the second he meets her, just like she shouldn't be expected to have sex super early on either. Relationship building takes work, time, and commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 05:16 PM
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Just so you know, not every woman bleeds when they lose their virginity. I didn't bleed at all and the whole thing was a really great experience. There isn't a way to tell. If the two involved decide to wait, then trust is built. If you see the woman is lying about other things, by all means leave. The point in waiting is to get to know someone first. I'm not saying women NEVER lie and say they are virgins when they aren't, but I don't think it's super common to lie about being a virgin, not get…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 05:10 PM
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But I never asked about women who were pretending to be virgins. It's totally beside the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 05:00 PM
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I understand what you are saying, but I think you are misunderstanding me a bit here. In order for a woman to still be a virgin, she had to have not had sex before (it's the definition). A stoic man could have been open with other LTRs. If you find a woman who does place value on virginity, it's going to take time and trust for her to have sex with you. It would take time and trust for a stoic man to open up as well, but he can do it again with a new relationship in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 04:39 PM
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That's not what the OP was about at all though. I was asking for men who want virgins, would they be willing to wait if they found one, or would sex still be expected right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 04:36 PM
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No I'm really not. I'm just trying to clarify my point because I really don't understand what I'm projecting here. I'd love to know so I could avoid doing so in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 04:07 PM
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Then maybe that's not the kind of person the woman is going for in the first place? Maybe they want someone who is more vulnerable around them. Maybe they really don't want the stoic bad ass all the time. I know I personally wouldn't. That would get really old, really fast. I'm sure there are women who would love that man, but I really don't think it's the majority. For a healthy relationship, you need to be really open with your partner, including being vulnerable around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:54 PM
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Don't see how I'm really projecting, could you explain a bit more? All I mean is, it's easier for people to put up a false front than it is to have a low partner count and simultaneously have sex right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:33 PM
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I'm very uncomfortable with sex early. If things didn't work out with my boyfriend, I wouldn't have sex super fast with a new guy just because I've had sex before. For me to be comfortable, I need to love and trust the person. No ulterior motive. I'm sure I'm not the only one. I just use myself as an example because it's easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:28 PM
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Even if she only had 1 or 2 previous partners and they all waited?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:09 PM
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From my experience, he wasn't made to qualify himself at all. He wasn't manipulated in the slightest. I only wanted to have sex with someone I was confident I was going to be with for the rest of my life, and that takes time. He knew that going into the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 12:29 PM
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One seems way more difficult than the other. The stoic bad ass could have a softer side, that because of society, trust issues, or what have you, he does not show unless he really trust someone. On the other hand, if a girl is still a virgin and she places high value on her virginity for whatever reason, it's probably going to take some time to give that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 12:26 PM
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There's a TON that you still don't know about a person after a month or two. I think back to how much we knew about each other back then, and it pretty much boiled down to our shared interests. I wanted to know who he really was on a deeper level, and by probably about 7 or 8 months I knew. I waited longer because we hadn't done very much so I wasn't comfortable with sex itself quite yet. Also, I was young and unable to get myself on birth control without my parents. Just getting condoms was an …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 12:15 PM
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For the record, I'm 21 now. He and I have been together about 6 and a half years, so I don't think he's going anywhere. It probably wouldn't take me quite as long I'd there was a next time because I'm able to get birth control now (my parents didn't allow me to back then, now I'm an adult and make my own decisions), it would still be a long time though. Probably over 6 months at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 11:53 AM
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Haha yes I am:). Towards the end of that year, probably at about 9 to 10 months, we would do other things (blow jobs, etc) and just stop short of vaginal sex. It was really hard to wait as long as we did sometimes, but I feel that for us, it only benefitted the relationship. I know that he was never just in it for sex and that he really values me as a person. I guess it helps that I'm pretty much the opposite of a flirt. My opening line with my boyfriend was "I like your shoes." He looked at me …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 07:25 AM
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I'm not sure if I buy that fact. I'm sure some women know pretty quickly, but there are women who want to REALLY know someone before sleeping with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:20 AM
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I can understand that. I believe people can change (like go from having sex quickly to wanting to wait), but I could definitely see why that would make someone feel inadequate or unwanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:17 AM
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I figured it mostly was. I just wondered if redpill guys would be willing to wait since most of them highly value both sex and low partner counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:15 AM
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I have always been extremely into my boyfriend. We waited for close to a year before having sex. I wanted to make sure I knew it would last before making that jump. I did make it a point to tell him that I wanted him, but that it was important to me to wait for religious reasons and because of the value I placed on my own virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 03:11 AM
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We are talking like 1 partner here though. Not 20. Edited to add: I promise I'm not trying to slut shame here. I don't think having 20 partners (or more) is bad if that's what the individual person wants. I'm just trying to understand redpill logic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 02:52 AM
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I just don't understand how they can want a virgin (or near virgin) and then expect her to have sex with them right away. It doesn't make any logical sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 02:34 AM
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What about if the only other guy she had sex with was a man she was with for several years, and she waited until she knew they were in love and she thought the relationship would last?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 02:29 AM
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How so? What about a woman who marries a single dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/15 02:11 AM
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I've tried to imagine myself single and I can't imagine dating an asshole. I don't think I'd be having casual sex either though. I'm sure there are women who do go for those men, but I don't think they are as common as TRP would have one believe. AWALT seems to be a pretty pervasive idea. I think that over generalizing like that can backfire in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 01:23 AM
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I've never had casual sex. My current boyfriend is the one I lost my virginity to. He's also the only one I've ever kissed. He and I connect on a very deep level. He's an extremely thoughtful and intelligent person. I get that I'm not the norm though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 12:44 AM
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I can kind of agree. I mean of course I want a guy to have self respect, but I don't want to feel like he is trying to be my leader. The captain/first mate model really wouldn't work for a lot of relationships. I guess it could attract someone who is naturally submissive as long as he didn't take it too far to where he was just a jerk. Every woman, man, and relationship is different though. Trying to create a cookie cutter model might work for some people, but you might find yourself disappointe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 11:41 PM
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Actually yes, I have dated guys that I wasn't really attracted to. Bear in mind, I've been with my current boyfriend since I was 14 (21 now) and so we are talking junior high here. Looks mean more to some people than others. They are more of a bonus for me than anything. If my boyfriend and I were to split up and I decided I wanted another relationship, I would give people I wasn't initially attracted to a chance if we had a lot in common and they were nice. Attraction can grow over time. It's h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 11:08 PM
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I most certainly do walk around with no make up. I hate make up and I suck at doing it. The most I ever do is eyeliner and mascara (and that's if I'm going out with my boyfriend and trying to look nice). I didn't wear much before I was in a relationship either. About the same amount actually unless my mom nagged me until I put some powder on. I alway went with the "if a guy doesn't like how I appear naturally, he's not worth my time" idea. I also don't just date guys I find attractive. There hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 10:52 PM
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It may be declining, but they are still there. Part of it may (and this is something that's just now hitting me) be partially due to men who look for the other type of women (the ones who are "easier"). Now that it's more socially acceptable to have pre marital sex, men are looking for it without committing. Women, wanting love and attention, have adapted. The sexual revolution may have been the catalyst, but men looking only for casual hookups definitely haven't helped slow the decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 10:18 PM
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So it's kind of a quantity over quality thing then? That's perfectly fine, it just bothers me when red pill men do this and then get upset with the quality of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:58 PM
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If you are looking mainly for quantity, you probably are going to have a harder time getting the quality you are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:50 PM
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Just then they end up with women that they don't like or respect and it enforces their AWALT view. It's a nasty cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 08:49 PM
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Why do you need to strategize though? Why not just meet a woman who has similar interests and let things happen organically?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 08:25 PM
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Blue pill woman here. I don't personally watch porn, but if my boyfriend wanted us to watch together for ideas, I'd be down. As a whole I'm okay with porn, as long as everyone involved are consenting adults. When it comes to extreme porn, I'm slightly torn. On one hand, it could do damage to society by showing crazy sex acts as the norm. It puts more pressure on couples (ones who regularly see this kind of porn) to perform like they see the actors do. It could leave one or both sides feeling ina…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/15 11:51 PM
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I don't think that's how it goes. One of them would have to be wasted out of their mind to the point where they are incapable of informed consent. If one was black out drunk and the other was tipsy, the tipsy one took advantage of the wasted one and that one is the rapist. If they were both equally wasted, then it is a grey area and much harder to determine who is at fault. In a case like that, I think intent comes into play a lot. Also, it's definitely not always the woman who is raped. Men can…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/15 07:07 PM
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I definitely do! I love them both with everything in me!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 06:41 PM
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I am extremely lucky. My boyfriend had a really horrible childhood (abusive single father) and so he's trying to go above and beyond to give his son what he didn't have:).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 06:28 PM
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You are definitely right about the messy eating. He's teething and thinks it's hilarious to bite the spoon then blow all the food off. I guess I misunderstood you then. The only thing I still don't understand is that my boyfriend does all of that too, so I don't see a huge difference. One thing I will admit is I'm much more patient when feeding him recently since I do it more so I know tricks to get him to open his mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 02:01 PM
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I think he needs both of us because we are two completely different personalities. I'm just really not feminine at all, so I don't think the whole feminine/masculine thing is a huge deal. I'm his mommy and I love him, but he won't be seeing much girly-ness out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 12:52 PM
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In America at least, school is so expensive that most people don't have the financial means to go just because they love the subject. I'd love to study philosophy and sociology, but I'm studying web development because I want a job when I get out. I do agree that it's sad, but until college becomes significantly less expensive, that won't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 08:37 AM
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I'm not too sure what you mean by "feminine attention." I'm a housewife by necessity and I'm by no means feminine. My boyfriend also does AMAZING with the baby and is probably my son's favorite person. He definitely needs both of us, but I don't think it has anything to do with femininity or masculinity. Edit: I hate auto correct sometimes....
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 08:33 AM
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It also served to deter assholes, so I guess it worked out for the best haha. And a lack of openness makes relationships REALLY difficult, especially if you don't open up more over time. My boyfriend wasn't super open when we got together. When he opened up to me it made me feel special and loved and grew our relationship. I'm almost glad he wasn't open with everyone because it bring us close.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 10:47 PM
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Haha I wasn't really looking for sympathy too much on the boyfriend front. I do have a feeling that if I hadn't met him, I would still be alone. Nobody showed interest in me really. At first I thought that it was because I had a boyfriend, but it was never like that for the other girls I went to school with. My boyfriend told me it was probably because I never dressed skimpy (I freaking LIVED in hoodies) and didn't act flirtatious with anyone. He said he wouldn't have asked me out of his sister …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 09:50 PM
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Of course I do. Growing up I hung out with the "nerdy" guys. They were socially awkward and conventionally unattractive, but they were my friends and they meant the world to me. I still keep in touch with some of them. Looks aren't all that matters in a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 09:07 PM
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Man, I feel for you with your son. Up until very recently I could not put him down without him screaming. He wouldn't even sleep for naps unless he was on top of me. It sucks, but I really hope it gets better for you! I have a huge baby and I'm a tiny person so on days when he's clingy it kills my back. I kind of ran into problems with intelligence in high school. I was the valedictorian and I was also taking college classes at the time. It was really hard for me to make friends and get boyfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 08:51 PM
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When I was young I tested into a gifted program as well. I hated sleep. There was always too much to think about an analyze and too many books to read haha. I find my boyfriend extremely deep and intelligent. It's what I love most about him. Why would your wife saying that cause you pain, if you don't mind me asking? I'm actually gaming right now while my son is asleep. I save and turn it off when he wakes up. He takes 2 to 3 naps a day so I have some time. When he wakes up he plays while I do h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 07:26 PM
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Haha wow I feel freaking retarded. In my defense I was up with a crying baby last night. I really was being honest. I personally wouldn't even date a guy if they aren't into gaming because it's a big part of my life. The thing I see a lot is men who are self conscious and who have that classic "nerdy" look going on have mile high standards. If you want a super hot girl, at least get in shape. If a guy doesn't want to appear attractive then he really shouldn't expect the women who want him to put…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 07:04 PM
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I'm sorry, maybe I'm an idiot, but I have no idea what truff means. Could you explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 06:31 PM
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If by nerd you mean intelligent, reserved, possibly a gamer and whatnot I find that attractive. If they LOOK like the classic nerd then they might want to hit the gym first to make themselves feel a hit more confident and look more attractive. Nerds can get women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 02:28 PM
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21, female, 1 partner (who I am still with)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 06:22 PM
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We do, thank you for noticing. We've been together 6 years now. I was only 14 when we got together. He's my best friend and we both know we can tell each other anything. A little appreciation goes a long way too. He doesn't act like I don't earn my keep around here. I don't think this arrangement would work if he constantly called it "his" money or threw him having the job in my face. Lately we've been a little shorter with each other than usual because the baby hasn't been sleeping, but we try …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 02:12 PM
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Exactly. And when I just can't get it all done, he doesn't say anything to me about it. Taking care of a baby is a full time job in itself. I do what I can, but I don't feel bad if the house gets a bit messy or I have to ask for help to catch up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/15 02:25 PM
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I'm a stay at home mom. My son is 5 months old. My boyfriend works full time and makes enough money to support us. If I were to go back to work, I would be working just to pay for childcare and he wouldn't be able to work as many hours. Since he has more earning potential at his current job than any I would be able to get, we would lose a ton of money. I try to do a majority of the chores. Our son is extremely needy and wants to be held constantly some days, so sometimes they don't all get done.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/15 02:32 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 12:04 PM
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We are just excited. We both make enough money right now and I don't have much longer left in college because I got my AA before I graduated high school so we will have even better jobs soon. The pregnancy wasn't planned, but we have always tried to have plans in place in case it happens. Not exactly the ideal time, but we are still extremely happy about it.:)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 12:03 PM
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I'm not married but my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 5 years. We plan on getting married after we finish college and make more money so we can have a nice wedding without going into debt or having someone else pay for it. We've been living together for about 2 years and are expecting our first baby! We are extremely happy and in love. Edit: We are both 20, by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/14 04:41 AM
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I've seen posts by bluepillers that actually point to things in your sidebar. Then they were told that that is not what you all believe. No matter what we post here, we are told that we don't know your position. Could you please tell us? If even the sidebar isn't your true position, it will be hard for us to find out what you truly believe without you just coming out and saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/13 01:59 PM
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I don't think that preferences, such as bands and whatnot, have logical bearing. I just thought his car example is kind of silly I guess. I figured he would use something a bit more meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/13 04:17 PM
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For someone who can't afford it or who would go into debt, yeah, they're illogical. However for someone who can afford it, why not? I get what you're saying though. I'd still like to see some examples of women's illogical behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/13 01:39 PM
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I don't understand why buying a truck or super car is "illogical." Impractical maybe, but I wouldn't say illogical unless you can't afford it. Can you give an example of women's "illogical" decisions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/13 11:29 PM
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And all women are illogical and completely unpredictable? I realize you guys deal in generalities, but I don't even think women in general are less logical than men. Now, you could argue that PEOPLE in general are illogical, and I would agree to some extent, but I really don't think that women are so much less logical than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/13 06:47 PM
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Another thing that could probably help is dirty talk. Then you're coming out and stating your intentions in a sexy way that keeps her informed and turns her on. I am on the same page as well, but like AdmiralRedShirt, I think straight up verbal communication is best.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/13 02:54 PM
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I was thinking of the kind of situation you described. I've been with the same guy since high school, so I really don't have many stories like yours. The only one that came to mind was I was in gym in like 8th grade and I was hanging out with my boyfriend at the time (obviously now ex) and some of his friends. I hadn't even had my first kiss yet, which he knew, and I caught him getting a condom from one of his friends. I freaked out lol. Anytime I think of LMR, I think of a first date situation.…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/13 04:08 PM
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Exactly what I was trying to say. I really don't see much of a downside for taking a no as a no, except maybe missing the opportunity for sex every once in awhile. It even protects the man from being accused of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/13 05:39 PM
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That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying if a woman says no, stop. Period. If she doesn't like it, she'll change. I didn't mean it's a man's job to teach her, but life experiences are how she would learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/13 05:00 PM
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I don't know either, unless the person escalating doesn't realize that the advance isn't wanted. As long as someone is paying extremely close attention to the woman they're trying this with, I don't see a problem with it. Not all RP posters seem to be as in tune with the woman's feelings though, which is problematic. The only example I can think of is tofu tofu. I would never advise someone to follow that advice, because it would make me and I'm sure many other women uncomfortable. If she shows …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/13 03:55 PM
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If that's the case, no harm done. I've just seen some posters who either seem to not realize the girl in the situation is uncomfortable or they just don't care. That's where I have an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/13 06:06 AM
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I'm fine with handshakes. Those aren't the problem. However, I really don't appreciate men touching me, especially if I don't know them. I greatly enjoy my personal space. Don't put your hand on my leg, don't get too close, etc. I just feel awkward and uncomfortable. I move VERY slowly in relationships, and I'm a shy girl. Kino would make me extremely uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/13 04:25 AM
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Have you ever made one guy wait to have sex with you, but gave it up to another guy much quicker? If yes, was the guy you gave it up to more "aggressive" about trying to have sex with you? I waited 11 months with my current boyfriend, however, he is the only one I've ever kissed, let alone have sex with. We've been together 5 years now. Have you ever kept a male friend around who you knew desired you but you didn't feel any attraction to? Yes I did, but I was completely honest with them about my…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/13 12:36 AM
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Gross not grows sorry. I'm typing on a phone with a new keyboard that likes to autocorrect everything haha. I guess I can understand that. It just shocked me that there was even a subreddit like that out there.
/r/MensRights26/07/13 11:06 PM
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Are we looking at different subs? The post I saw had someone vividly describing raping someone... It was gross... Edit: fixed typo
/r/MensRights26/07/13 11:17 AM
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I don't really see what's so humorous about it... I honestly don't like seeing stuff like that posted about rape. I take rape very seriously, whether the victim is male or female. Censorship isn't the way to go of course, but I just don't know how people could be awful enough to say that...
/r/MensRights26/07/13 12:32 AM
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I never post here and I'm not subscribed, I just lurk. I am soooooooooo happy you said it is not legitimate. That was the first time I'd even heard of that subreddit (I'm pretty new to reddit) and I about threw up just now reading some of the posts. I don't understand what would make people even joke like that... I know you said they are just trying to piss off feminists, but I think that is just going way too far... I wish I never would have read any of the threads there.
/r/MensRights25/07/13 06:21 PM
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I normally don't post here and so I'm not going to argue with you guys, I just wanted to say that I was on the pill and it messed me up pretty bad to the point where I had to stop taking it. If you read the side effects, a lot of them can be pretty nasty. The ones I encountered included loss of libido, depression, anxiety, weight gain, water retention, and mood swings, among others. It got to the point where I felt so awful my boyfriend actually suggested I stop taking it. The point of what I'm …
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