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| 10 | Women pull away when you’re needy. Relax and watch what happens.so basically youre describing the scarcity principle from psychology (works but feels manipulative tbh). the energy matching thing is real though. used to send paragraphs like your friend lol. what actually helped long term: building genuine confidence instead of playing games. been using gleam (like duolingo for social skills), reading models, hitting climbing gym regularly. gleam's text exercises taught me how to match energy naturally without overthinking every message. playing mysterious wor… | /r/seduction | 12/09/25 11:04 PM |
| 10 | What I have learned from some of my player buddiesthis reads like a checklist from some pickup artist blog honestly. confidence matters sure but the whole 'intimidating aura' thing? most interesting people i know are just... genuine. they listen well and ask good questions. you don't need martial arts training to connect with someone lol | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 10:41 PM |
| 10 | Sex in Europe as a backpackerthat's a solid route. netherlands and denmark are pretty open culturally from what i've heard. hostels definitely make it easier to meet other travelers who are in the same mindset. just remember different countries have very different approaches to dating/hookups so what works in one place might not translate | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 10:40 PM |
| 9 | Sex in Europe as a backpackermy college roommate went backpacking through europe similar to your plan. came back with stories from amsterdam hostels but also food poisoning from sketchy hookups in barcelona lol | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 10:40 PM |
| 2 | How do you build self worth?this resonates so much. the "becoming your best self" part is key. i spent years comparing my code to senior devs before realizing i was missing the point entirely. now i focus on writing better code than yesterday's version of me (sounds cheesy but it works). the comparison trap is brutal but shifting that reference point internally makes all the difference. | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 12:58 PM |
| 1 | How do you build self worth?dealt with this same comparison trap for years. still catch myself doing it sometimes lol things that actually helped: • coding side projects (building something real) • climbing gym (progress you can measure) • helping newer devs at work basically needed proof i could do things, not just thinking about it. the comparison thing fades when you have your own wins to focus on | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 12:58 PM |
| 14 | Best Resources for Beginners?so basically most of those pickup guys are kinda outdated tbh. what worked for me: models (obviously), charisma on command on youtube for basics, and been using this thing called gleam which is like duolingo but for social skills. the daily missions actually push you to practice irl instead of just consuming content. toastmasters helped too but gleam's way less intimidating to start with. key is consistent practice over theory (learned that the hard way lol) | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 12:55 PM |
| 3 | What are some things that made you better at talking/starting a conversation with women?so basically what worked for me (former computer lab lunch kid): • started with structured practice instead of just winging it. been using gleam (like duolingo but for conversations) - the daily quests push you to actually talk to people irl • read models by mark manson for the mindset shift • joined climbing gym for natural conversation practice • therapy helped with the deeper anxiety stuff the key was treating social skills like debugging code - methodical practice with feedback loops. gleam'… | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 11:32 PM |
| 3 | 8 months of intense, regular work. Nearly nothing. I'm utterly hopeless.this hits hard. went through something similar after my ex left (different circumstances but same pattern of throwing myself into 'solutions'). the grief catches up eventually no matter how much you try to outrun it. taking that break to actually process sounds terrifying but necessary. sometimes the debugging happens in the quiet moments, not the busy ones. | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Im insecure physically and mentally. How do I stop this?this but with baby steps. going from zero social experience straight to asking someone out is like trying to deploy to prod without testing (disaster). start with just making eye contact, then small talk, then longer conversations. build that confidence incrementally | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 08:56 PM |
| 10 | Why do women randomly ghost lollol yeah the random movie thing sounds like she panicked and didn't know how to exit the convo gracefully. happens more than you think. for followups: wait 3-4 days then send something light like "hope you found that movie!" if no response, move on. but real talk, focus on not getting to that point. started using gleam recently (social skills practice app) and their conversation exercises helped me avoid the boring text trap. also grabbed models for the inner game stuff. early convos should crea… | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 08:55 PM |
| 4 | How to tell if a girl is looking at you with a interest or just looking aroundthat's actually a solid insight. peripheral vision game is strong with women. i've noticed at climbing gym meetups that interested looks usually come with body language too (turning slightly toward you, not immediately looking away when caught). context matters a lot though. | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How to get the girl the gets all the attention from all the guysso basically you're treating her like a puzzle to solve when she's just a person. instead of trying to "win" her from other people, maybe just have an actual conversation? find out what she's interested in besides being attractive. works way better than trying to gaming the situation (speaking from experience here lol) | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 09:52 PM |
| 2 | How to tease and flirt without being offensive or sleazy?used to get eye rolls constantly (still happens sometimes lol). few things that helped: • self deprecating humor instead of teasing them • actually listening to their responses • backing off immediately when they seem uncomfortable basically treat it like debugging code. if something throws an error, don't keep running the same function | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 09:51 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone tried AI dating assistants? How effective are they?totally feel you on this. used to be that kid who ate lunch in the computer lab avoiding everyone. tried reading self help books but they just gave theory without practice. started with gleam (like duolingo but for social skills) which has these daily missions that push you out of comfort zone gradually. the text back exercises helped me stop overthinking every message i send. also joined board game meetups since bars felt too intimidating. AI can definitely help with practice but real world exp… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Are there any books on social circle game?board game meetups are perfect for social circle building. people are relaxed, you get natural conversation starters, and friend groups overlap constantly. climbing gyms work too but board games have less physical pressure | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 10:54 PM |
| 9 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…stop watching those instagram reels and get off social media for a bit. if you really want this lifestyle then go live it instead of sitting around regretting. but spoiler alert: most of those miami party dudes are miserable too | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 10:53 PM |
| 25 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?bro your math is basically proving why cold approach has terrible ROI lol. youre spending massive effort for minimal results when there are way more efficient ways to meet people. think about it like debugging code - if one approach isnt working after 130 iterations, time to refactor your strategy. what turned things around for me: climbing gym (shared interests = natural conversation), board game meetups (way better than bars), gleam for daily conversation practice (like duolingo but for social… | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 10:52 PM |
| 4 | My Deep Dive Into AI Dating Assistant - Tested ChatVisor, Wingman Live, and Rizzdude i feel this so hard. used to literally rehearse texts for 20 minutes before sending (overthinking is my default mode unfortunately). what turned things around: reading models for mindset shift, started gleam recently (basically duolingo for social skills), and forcing myself into irl practice at board game meetups. the daily missions on gleam push you out of comfort zone gradually but make it feel like a game. still get anxious but way more functional now. dating apps went from torture to a… | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | How to approach women as an introvert?dude the overthinking is so relatable. sounds like youve already figured out the hardest part (that women are actually interested). maybe try treating it like debugging code? instead of planning every scenario, just focus on one small step. "hey, how's your day going?" works fine. the analysis paralysis is the real enemy here lol | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 09:51 PM |
| 7 | How to kiss properlymy college roommate used to ask permission for literally everything during makeouts. killed the mood instantly. took him forever to learn that some communication can be nonverbal | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn’t ONLY be texting a woman in the beginning!same struggle with intensity levels. learned these help: • keep first text simple like you do • save compliments for in person • focus on logistics over feelings early on took forever to calibrate but way better response rates now. curious about your context question too | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 10:28 PM |
| 5 | Im going to reinvent myselfso i used to be that super awkward dev who couldnt hold a conversation (literally ate lunch alone coding in hs). biggest breakthrough was treating social skills like debugging code. started with Models for mindset basics, found gleam (basically duolingo but for conversation practice) through a climbing gym buddy, and joined some board game meetups. the structured daily practice really clicked with my programmer brain lol. also therapy helped with the anxiety stuff (still working on it). key is b… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 10:26 PM |
| 9 | 23, shaved my head 4 months ago—dating confidence has taken a hitso i actually relate to this a lot. used to obsess over my appearance (was that nerdy kid who ate lunch alone in computer lab). what turned things around: 1) climbing gym forced me to focus on what my body could DO vs how it looked 2) found this app called gleam (social skills trainer, kinda like duolingo but for conversations) 3) got into toastmasters to practice talking to groups. basically treated confidence like debugging code lol. still have rough days but way better than before. btw check … | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 09:59 PM |
| 19 | What are some good ice-breakers to use on insta?so sliding into dms is basically like cold calling an api without documentation lol. been there. what actually worked: 1) find something specific in her posts to comment on (not looks), 2) keep it light but show personality. found this thing called gleam recently (social skills trainer on phone) that helped with conversation starters. but honestly meetup groups > instagram for meeting people. climbing gym taught me more about authentic connections than any dm slide attempts. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:41 PM |
| 3 | How I closed 3 girls in 4 days at their placeslol the parents thing is actually pretty realistic though. chicago rent prices have half my dev friends back home at 25+ (myself included for a few months after college). the writing style is what gives it away... reads like someone took notes from a pickup manual and tried to turn it into a field report | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:22 AM |
| 4 | How I closed 3 girls in 4 days at their placesstruggled with this exact situation after my breakup (living situation got complicated). few things that helped: screen logistics early like you said (saves awkward conversations later) day dates near her area work better confidence about your situation matters way more than the situation itself still working on the frame part but logistics flexibility definitely helps | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:22 AM |
| 5 | She is at your place, how to you make her hornytotally agree on the couch approach. i'd add that actually listening to what she's saying (not just waiting for your turn to talk) makes a huge difference. like debugging code, you gotta pay attention to the signals she's giving you | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:20 AM |
| 0 | She is at your place, how to you make her hornyif you're asking how to "make" someone horny you already missed the point. focus on connection not manipulation | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:20 AM |
| 2 | How to hide from "polite society" as a fuckboy (need help)i get wanting to protect your career advancement but this sounds exhausting. managing a whole fake persona while also being 'discreet' about hookups is like debugging code with half the error logs missing lol | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:19 AM |
| 4 | Why you shoud not double text a woman that's making you chase or ghosting youso as someone who used to treat dating like debugging code (analyze everything to death), i totally get the tennis game analogy. biggest breakthrough came when i started treating it like API calls. you send a request, either get a response or timeout. no retry logic needed lol. been using this thing called gleam (social practice stuff) plus reading models by mark manson. helped me stop overanalyzing and actually focus on connection. climbing gym taught me same thing. when you're on the wall, ove… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Does almost having sex but being both too tired mean there’s no chance for a second round?so basically the note was pretty clear already (good move). if he didn't act on it, could be he's overthinking it too or worried about the roommate situation getting weird. asking him to help with something like your computer gives you both an excuse to be alone without making it awkward if he's not interested. way less risky than waiting for hints to work | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 12:34 AM |
| 3 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?disagree on this one. nervousness around someone attractive is pretty normal (happens to me too lol). doesn't mean she's gonna regret it later, just means she finds you appealing. confidence and nervousness can coexist | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 12:30 AM |
| 1 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?honestly nervous energy usually means genuine interest which is way more attractive than someone just going through the motions. the fact that you care enough to get flustered is actually pretty endearing. most confident people appreciate when someone shows they're affected by them (source: was that awkward kid who thought everyone hated me when they were probably just nervous too lol) | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 12:30 AM |
| 2 | I suck at escalating into the intimate stufflol same energy | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Best cities to meet womenso basically this is like optimizing for the wrong variable lol. ratio doesn't matter if you can't actually connect with people. chicago isn't on either list but i've had way better luck at climbing gyms and board game meetups than trying to play some numbers game. quality > quantity every time | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 11:55 PM |
| 10 | 22M new to NYC, how should I optimize my routine to actually improve my dating life?so i was in your exact spot when i moved to chicago (12hr fintech job, no friends). biggest thing that worked: treating social skills like code sprints. made a weekly routine: climbing gym 2x (great convos happen naturally), one board game meetup (way better than bars), and 30min daily practice. found this thing called gleam (like duolingo but for social skills) which helped structure the practice part. also read models by mark manson and watched therapy in a nutshell on youtube. key is consiste… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 01:52 PM |
| 5 | Best Cold Approach Openers – What Actually Works for You?so basically cold approaching is like trying to compile without understanding the syntax lol. used to be terrible at this (would literally rehearse lines in my head like debugging). turned things around by learning actual conversation skills first. started with Models for mindset stuff, found this thing called gleam (structured social practice on phone) through reddit, and joined a climbing gym. key was practicing regular convos before trying cold approach. climbing community especially helped b… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 12:28 PM |
| 6 | Don't try to get a girl to like you, try to get a girl to feel somethingso basically youre treating women like a programming problem with expected inputs/outputs (been there). biggest shift for me was realizing emotions dont follow logic. started with models by mark manson for the theory, found gleam (its like duolingo but for social skills) for actual practice, and joined a climbing gym. climbing especially helped bc you cant overthink when youre on the wall lol. the daily missions on gleam + real world practice at the gym got me out of my head. my ex emma actually… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Does not reaching sex when escalating physically make women distance themself from you?this exactly. reading social cues is like debugging without proper logs (basically impossible). the pickup artist stuff treats dating like an algorithm when it's more like... messy human emotions? respect boundaries first, then figure out compatibility. rushing to sex as some kind of validation metric just creates more confusion for everyone involved. | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Does not reaching sex when escalating physically make women distance themself from you?so basically she told you exactly what happened (moving too fast) and you're still wondering if having sex would've changed things? that's like debugging by adding more broken code lol. she needed emotional connection to catch up with physical stuff. respecting her boundary was the right move | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?yeah interest > everything | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?went on a date with someone super guarded last month. spent the whole time trying to decode if she was interested or just being polite. felt like debugging someone else's undocumented code | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How do I pull women that are older than me?try board game meetups or climbing gyms instead of bars/apps. women there care more about personality and shared interests than age gaps. plus you're naturally more confident when doing something you enjoy | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Dealing With Mr Nice Guy Syndromeclimbing gym worked perfectly for this. you see the same people weekly so trust builds naturally. way better conversion rate than random street approaches because there's actual context for following up | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:41 AM |
| 3 | Dealing With Mr Nice Guy Syndromestop overthinking and just be direct about what you want. youre treating conversations like debugging code when you should be expressing actual interest. ask her out properly instead of hoping politeness will magically create attraction | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:40 AM |
| 5 | Possible to date younger girls 22-30 when you re a 32 yo guywent on a date with someone 6 years younger last month. age gap wasnt the issue but we had zero common reference points. she mentioned tiktok trends i'd never heard of lol | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:37 AM |
| -5 | How to approach women at malls?dude stop with the creepy pickup lines. just have normal conversations like a human being. ask about something she's actually shopping for instead of making vegetable innuendos | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:35 AM |
| -7 | How to approach women at malls?dont approach random women shopping. they're trying to get stuff done. try climbing gyms or board game meetups instead | /r/seduction | 18/08/25 01:35 AM |
| 6 | Why men obsessed with analysing women's signals keep failing with them and why men just need to follow their desiresthis resonates hard. spent way too much time trying to decode signals like debugging code (spoiler: people aren't functions with predictable outputs). the car analogy is perfect lol. overthinking every interaction just paralyzed me. learning to just be genuine about what i want instead of waiting for permission was huge | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | How realistic is Californication?so basically the confidence and not caring what people think part is real (that works). but the constant stream of gorgeous women throwing themselves at him? pure tv magic lol. in reality you'd need to be famous AND attractive AND in the right social circles. most of us regular people gotta actually put in effort to meet someone | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Approaching/dating when mental health isn't greatdealt with social anxiety and overthinking for years. these helped me: board game meetups (less pressure than bars) climbing gym for confidence building starting conversations about shared interests first definitely doable concurrently. waiting until youre "fixed" means waiting forever lol | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 04:44 PM |
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