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179cm, white (but irrelevant because I live in a country that's 99%+ white), just under 6 inches knob, very full head of hair, 180lbs, work out with weights 3 times per week for an hour each time, good income but not buying yachts every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:52 PM
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Can't relate. Everyone in my social circle is in 5-10 year monogamous relationships or marriage. All still madly in love with one another, and most raising healthy, happy families. What you are describing is not normal. I think your brain may have become warped from porn use.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 11:07 PM
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I doubt they'd have been traumatised by it - they were in their mid 50s at the time. And yes: they had me at around age 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:35 PM
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Police in my country aren't as harsh as you might be accustomed to. Generally, kids don't get charged with those kind of crimes unless they commit a serious sexual offence. Obviously, I would not have done it if I lived somewhere that the penalties were harsher.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:33 PM
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Married my mum in the mid 60s when they were ages 19 and 17, both virgins, both each other's first kiss. To illustrate the generation/experience gap: when I was 15, the police brought me home after they caught me and my girlfriend at the time in the park bushes doing the old handjob/fingerblast special. My dad openly weeped with disappointment. Full-on bodyshaking sobs. So in short: no. He was entirely useless for that kind of advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:24 PM
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I get you, and that's very measured and reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:02 PM
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Fair enough! You can handle more than I can, evidently. I'd push the nuclear button for this. Wife of Caesar etc (or husband of Caesar for that matter - no double standards from me.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:25 PM
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Fair enough. Although I will say that by my personal standards, what was shown in the video is a step beyond the norm, and I do not think drunkenness is an excuse. There are a dozen pictures and videos of me floating around on social media where I am absolutely ratfucked and hanging out with my female friends, and not one of them has caused my partner concern because even when I am absolutely slaughtered I am able to police my behaviour so as not to disrespect her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:15 PM
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Yes, I understand that many people don't leave after cheating occurs. Personally, I learned at a very young age that I can't do second chances, so every time I've been cheated on since - I have walked. What is your personal standpoint? Would you walk or work it out? And would their job as a politician influence your decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:04 PM
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I can't believe I'm defending this, but I can actually see the logic. You want a partner with standards (i.e. doesn't just fuck anyone who looks at her twice), but at the same time you want her to find you so irresistible that she is willing to throw those standards to the wind in order to bag you. Obviously, the inherent flattery of that situation is attractive, but theoretically it also indicates that the woman in question won't cheat on you (a. she has standards and b. you're her ultimate cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:37 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean. Marin didn't have sex with anyone - she was flirtatiously touching a guy on a dancefloor, and he was kissing her neck. Would I be correct in assuming, by your response, that you wouldn't find that a big deal if it was your husband/wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:05 PM
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Yep, I agree with you, but unfortunately a lot of people would happily accept that embarrassment if it means they get money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:58 PM
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You might be surprised how quickly pride falls by the wayside when you find out that you can legally rinse someone for free money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:45 PM
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Of course, but my question doesn't really pertain to politics, it's more of a simple "what would you do if this was your relationship?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:33 PM
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...err... I'm asking because it's a "what would you do if this was you" situation. I assume relationships are a fairly universal thing, so countries and politics have no bearing here. Remember: this is a forum for debate on romantic issues, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:15 PM
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...I'd say that's pretty normal actually, yeah. Weddings require a lot of planning and prep, but anyone can shit out a kid in 9 months. About half of my mates had their young kids at their weddings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:11 PM
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It's not a question about politics though, it's a question about boundaries and fidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:09 PM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:59 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=T3KvlSDgHx4 Here you go!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:56 PM
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Would I be correct in saying you'd end things if you were the partner? Would your decision be affected by whether or not your partner worked as a politician? I.e. would you be more likely to forgive a politician?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:53 PM
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Your response is measured and is definitely the most "mature" middle ground. Here's the kicker though: would you be more likely to forgive it if your partner worked as a politician? Or would that have no bearing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:49 PM
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Me either, but I've seen a lot of people who otherwise would have ended things saying that they'd accept it from a politician partner, and that has piqued my interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:45 PM
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Okay, but what would YOU do in that situation? (I.e. not a hypothetical average person's response - but YOU). And would your decision be affected by whether or not your partner was a politician?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:39 PM
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Same on both accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:37 PM
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I see. That'd be a proper rock and hard place situation for you then.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:36 PM
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I SAID "THE VIDEO IN WHICH SHE IS SEEN TOUCHING A MAN'S ARM AND CHEST WHILE HE KISSES HER NECK".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:35 PM
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As I understand it, it was a club hired for a private party. But it's not my intent to get into semantics over the location, I'm only interested in what the "average person" would do if they were the partner of someone who did this, and whether that would be affected by their husband/wife being a politician. I think the situation with Marin's husband is a bit different from what (I assume you're American) you're used to in the US - Finnish politics isn't nearly as lucrative as American politics,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:34 PM
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Am I correct in assuming you'd leave if you were the husband/wife of someone who did this then?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:28 PM
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That's a mature approach and I respect it, although I myself would choose the nuclear option in that circumstance, regardless of my whether my partner was a politician or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:27 PM
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Yes, but the question is what would you do with the relationship if you were the party who was cheated on? And would your partner working as a politician influence your decision either way?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:25 PM
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I think the situation in the USA is a bit different because Hillary and Bill were both career politicians at a time when divorce was still semi-taboo for major political figures. Whereas (as I understand it) Marin's husband is just a normal guy with a normal job, in a country which is more socially liberal than the USA. But either way, what would you do in that situation? Divorce or stay? Would your partner working as a politician influence your decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:23 PM
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Q4A: What is your opinion on the video of Finnish Prime Minister Sanna Marin's behaviour at a nightclub? Specifically, I am referring to the video in which she seen is touching a man's arm and chest while he kisses her neck. Marin is married with a 4 year old child, FYI. Would you be okay with your partner doing this? If you discovered a video of your partner doing this, what would that mean for your relationship? Personally, that would be it for me. I'd end it and seek divorce. While I wouldn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:12 PM
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Hold on, what does this mean? Are they literally saying that anyone in a relationship or married is a "beta" and anyone single is an "alpha"? Is that what's meant by beta bux?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:03 PM
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I'd disagree with that. I've seen guys trying to run "game" (defining game as practiced pickup artistry) on my some of my female friends and almost felt the shockwaves from their fannies drying out like a vaccuum. Others love it, of course. There isn't one size that fits all. None that I've ever witnessed, at least. What repulses one will attract another.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:10 AM
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I was involved in this discussion the other day, although I ended up deleting my comments due to an oddball DM I received. What I will say here is that I think social skills and flirting/"game" are two separate things. You can have great social skills yet zero "game", and that will cripple you with some women. At the same time, "game" will turn other women off entirely. I'd put social skills and flirting skills in two distinct categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:56 AM
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Because although I agree with the basic message, I don't have the same level of vitriolic cynicism about it. I agree in moderation. That allowed?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:14 PM
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I wouldn't put it quite so harshly, but essentially yeah - that's the vibe I got at the time. Bear in mind that I've worked with these women for a few years and they've all been single the entire time. It's like rejecting a Christmas present because the store had sold out of your favourite colour of wrapping paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:20 PM
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Q4W: Here's an interesting one. I was talking with some female coworkers today and they asked me how I proposed to my partner. I told them: went on a romantic holiday and did it at a nice secluded location. Told them how I'd prepared to propose twice this year already, but didn't go through with it either time because of circumstantial bad luck (first time we both had the shits from a bad curry, second time I got into a punchup with some idiot who tried to open her car door), and that her respon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 06:57 PM
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Well, that's your experience and I'm not going to belittle it. BUT, I'm on here reading about this apparent epidemic of lonely men, 80/20 rule etc, all the while in real life me and everyone in my social group have all managed to do very well for ourselves, romantically. And crucially, none of us are prize pigs - average at best. I hear what you're saying, but it just doesn't match up to what I or anyone I know in real life has experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:27 PM
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I have and tbh I agree. Never known anyone socially aware who struggled with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:21 PM
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I liked it too. Hope they make more. But I find it weird how lots of people online (mainly Americans... no shade but it's the truth) have adopted enjoyment of the film as a sociopolitical statement, and get really angry with people who don't say that it's the best film ever made. To me, it's just a long overdue decent, simple Predator film.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:12 PM
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Still in uni and casual job at 28 is the biggest obstacle for him here. But as long as he's not picky, he'll be able to find someone. She won't be a looker and probably won't be very good socially either, but it'll be someone. Do you know why he's waited to such a relatively advanced age before starting dating? Quite a unique situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:31 PM
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Newest in the neverending parade of "alpha" grifters. What sets him apart from his predecessors is that he's oddly histrionic and easily triggered for someone who is a multimillionaire pro athlete. Lad, you've made it. Why get into such a flap over inconsequential stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:19 PM
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The fact that most men and women manage to find faithful, monogamous, fulfilling relationships is something that triggers both the incel and femcel populous of this sub. And honestly, it's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:04 PM
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They're his god damn kids too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:42 PM
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I actually disagree. The reality of life is that some families end in divorce, so I reckon for those kids watching Doubtfire, they probably felt relief about watching a film that reflects their situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:39 PM
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Mrs. Doubfire is a good example of this. Pierce Brosnan is painted as a villain. However, he treats Sally Field very well, and there's even a scene where one of his pals asks him "what's your angle here" and he says - no angle, I genuinely love her and love the kids too. Interesting fact, the original script had Robin Williams reuniting with Sally Field, but Williams refused to be involved unless the ending was changed to show blended families in a more normalised/positive light.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:34 PM
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Damaged beyond repair it is then, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:27 PM
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If you truly believe that all men will cheat just because they are men, you are damaged beyond repair. I would sooner submit to a lobotomy or castration than cheat on my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:24 PM
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Is that the one with Professor X in it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:17 PM
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Telling stories that involve cheating or contracting STDs and thinking it's funny. Perhaps I simply don't understand women's humour, but to me those things are extremely offputting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:12 PM
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Let's forget "we" then. I know guys like this. Maybe you don't, but I do. I also know the type of guy you're describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:52 PM
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I would note that I did leave my comment genderless, and that was intentional. We all know fellas who have zilch in their favour but think themselves deserving of supermodel heiresses. We're living in a culture of widespread self-delusion and entitlement, and that's not exclusive to either men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:47 PM
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That's just my perspective on life. Existing is the bare minimum; being alive doesn't ascribe inherent value to a person. Value is something you have to work for (or, the unfortunate inequality of life: be born into). I can understand why that might be upsetting for some to hear, but it's not something I intend to be offensive or hurtful. Just realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:43 PM
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...I'm fairly secure and happy though. If what I've said triggers you, it might be worth examining why.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:15 PM
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Not OP, but I'd say that yes, such maxims are low level brainwashing. They're blanket statements of affirmation that don't account for individual context, and are intended to gas people up by placating them with positivity that may be neither realistic nor warranted. "Know your worth" for example, carries the implicit assumption that the subject has high value, and should recognise this fact. But the harsh truth of life is that most people aren't worth much, and some are even entirely worthless.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:22 AM
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Relieved to hear that. Similar to your bf I'm also Man A with my partner, but hearing yesterday that the type described in B is the preferable option just set my paranoia bells ringing. I couldn't be a B if my life depended on it - it's not in my nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:25 PM
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You can't really see either woman. One is photoshopped within an inch of her life, and Two is clearly going to an Elizabethan costume party. Could be the same woman, for all I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:13 PM
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For the sake of our hypothetical, let's assume both A and B are equally straightforward and honest about wanting a relationship with you. In terms of clinginess of B, let's say he is not clingy or needy, just extremely attentive. There are no tricks or hidden negatives or agendas built into either A or B - it's a straight choice between two honest men who are interested in you for a relationship. Does that affect your judgement?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:03 PM
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How did/does that affect your dating/relationship life?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:59 PM
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Q4W: Had an interesting discussion with a user on here yesterday about the primacy of attention level in determining attraction, and the difference in perspective on this issue in men and women. When I was dating, I had a minimum threshold of attention I'd accept. Beneath that threshold = obviously a writeoff, move on. But once that threshold is reached, the volume of attention I received was immaterial in determining my interest in the woman. So if I was talking to two or three women, it wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:41 PM
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Hmmm, I don't think that's necessarily the case for everyone. I've had women head over heels for me in the past who required constant novel stimulation. In fact, I'd argue that it's "worse" (from an introvert's perspective) the more a woman likes you. Generally, when you like someone you become more covetous of their time, and demand more from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:00 PM
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You make some good points, but I think a substantial number of women would disagree with you that a Netflix on the couch night counts as an acceptable date activity. At least, that's my experience. Although perhaps the maintenance level of those I get involved with is higher than average - I can't comment for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:55 PM
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It's a matter of perspective. In my view, something in the vicinity of three long daily texts, two dates a week, and three phone calls a week, is a perfect amount, and would not be classified as "someone who doesn't have time for you". I understand that women are different though. But with respect, dating is a different experience for men and women - as a man you have to be constantly thinking up new dates, cooking for them, entertaining them, paying for them, and generally making sure everythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:44 PM
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As far as I'm concerned, my partner can go first; I'll go second; and all the other women and children can get yeeted to the side like when George Costanza discovered the fire at that child's birthday party.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:59 PM
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I understand. For me, it's the opposite: gender-flipped, once a threshold level of attention is surpassed, I would always pick the woman who is more attractive and a better match for my personality, as opposed to the one who provides me with the most attention. I wonder if that's a gender-based difference in attitudes, or an introvert/extrovert difference in attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:23 PM
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My question here, I guess, is: Two men - Number one is very attractive, and a good fit personality-wise with you, but only has time to contact you a few times a day, takes you on dates twice a week, two or three phone calls a week, occasionally forward you funny stuff on Insta. Number two is attractive, but slightly less so than number one, and is not quite as good a match in terms of personality (still a good guy though), but goes all-out to pay you lots of attention. Good morning and goodnight…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:04 PM
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Yes, but the best "you can" often requires you to be aware of your own limitations as a human being, and that requires temperance and management of expectations If you go all out at the start of the relationship/talking stage - which can mean juggling responsibilities and putting tasks on the backburner in order to treat her to the absolute limit of what you are able, she's going to expect that treatment as a bare minimum standard in the relationship going forward. And unfortunately, we're all h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:10 PM
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Glad you said threshold. That's exactly the word I would use too. Your opinion matches mine: in the past, when talking to multiple women there was a minimum threshold of attention I'd accept. Once that threshold is passed, the amount of attention they show was immaterial - it was all about other positive attributes. But the original poster made it sound like her attraction levels were proportionate to the amount of attention she receives, which is what I was addressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:43 PM
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Hmmm, basing your attraction on who shows the most attention seems like a recipe for disaster though. Very easy for lovebombers to take advantage of that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:33 PM
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She's arguing that it's incestuous to give your son or daughter dating advice now. Something beyond Reddit's paygrade going on there, methinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:20 PM
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If you think I'm suggesting that children should fuck their fathers and mothers, your mind is warped beyond repair. What I am saying is that I wouldn't sit idle and watch my hypothetical teenage child learn behaviours that will lead them to inceldom/femceldom. If I had a child who was unable to attract their preferred gender, or was unable to maintain a healthy, fulfilling relationship, I would consider that to be my failing as a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:03 PM
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Strong disagree - parents should prime their child for success in all areas of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:05 PM
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Hmmmm, not sure I agree with this. Parental influence is very important in shaping the person who a child will become. I hate kids and will never father any, but in the nightmare alternate universe where I have them, I'd make sure that they knew how to behave appropriately in romantic contexts with their preferred gender. Can't just ignore it and hope for the best - that's how you get date rapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:03 PM
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PC name for autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:29 PM
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Think that's just a Reddit thing in general. I read something the other day that said people with ASD are more likely to intentionally start and prolong arguments online just so they can get some attention and stimulation. That tracks with the behaviour of a lot of Redditors, both male and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:16 PM
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That's too Reddity a question for my taste, so I'm gonna have to respectfully bow out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:27 PM
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Hahahahahaha fuck no! People on Reddit, by and large, are screwed up. Bear in mind I did say that in my experience none of this tracks in real life. People don't behave like Redditors.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:10 PM
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I don't think life is as simple or black and white as that though. You can be in love and dedicated to someone, but at the same time recognise that they are a human being whose behaviours and habits can sometimes be irritating. This interaction is exactly what I mean (assuming that you're a woman, anyways): it appears as if you can't really grasp that you can love someone and also wish they'd pick their socks up off the floor. For me, the two things don't cancel each other out. From this interac…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:04 PM
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Hmmm, I disagree that people should break up over minor personality quirks/irritations. Life can't be perfect 100% of the time. Our differing attitudes here is kinda what I'm talking about: I view love and relationships as quite important, and I wouldn't firebomb something with someone I'm head over heels for based on a minor irritation. She leaves the bathroom light on - so fucking what? I'd rather talk about it than dump her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:51 PM
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Uhhh... I'm not quite sure what's wrong with you, but best of luck solving it whatever it is 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:44 PM
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Yes, I guess that's my point. Women (or rather, Reddit type women) don't really seem to pull their weight when it comes to making relationships work. It's either perfection or breakup, which... doesn't really track in real life. Regular people, or at least the ones I know, don't have such a black and white view of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:29 PM
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Very measured and fair. I agree with all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:13 PM
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This is a prime example of the discrepancy I'm talking about: We both find discarded nail clippings absolutely revolting. The thought of accidentally picking one up is turning my stomach. The difference is that you would end a relationship over this issue, whereas I wouldn't. I wonder how this maps out on our genders as a whole; are men more willing to "suffer" these annoyances than women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:37 PM
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I disagree, in most situations. Let's say your partner bites their nails and spits them out on the rug. That would drive me crazy, but I wouldn't dump someone for it. Love and relationships are precious; nails can be hoovered up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:30 PM
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Perhaps it's not as prevalent as I perceive it to be, granted. Hate-reading these subs can bias the mind, I admit. And certainly in cases where looks are the "issue", I would tend to agree with the breakup route. But regardless of prevalence, by and large there is almost always a loud female contingent calling for the male to break up with their partner for minor personality-based irritations, and this contingent is conspicuous in its absence from the comments of male posters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:25 PM
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Observing a massive gender divide in reactions to men seeking relationship advice on Reddit. Hypothetical: Man has (female) partner. Man is slightly irritated with an aspect of her behaviour. (N.B. average person would deem this irritation reasonable but not relationship-ending, examples could include; she dominates conversations; she wakes him up in the middle of the night to talk; she never cleans up after herself; she bites her nails and spits them out on his carpet - choose for yourself.) Re…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:11 PM
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Backup plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:00 PM
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Men can absolutely be friends with women. I've been in mixed gender friend groups all my life, with no issues. That said, you never really know what's going on in another person's mind. If being scared of/distrusting all men and believing we are unanimously evil is what you feel keeps you safe - go for it. Better safe than sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:06 PM
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Always more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:45 PM
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Good for you! Half the battle is already won. My only tip for you is this: don't just sit and listen to her talk about her ex. Don't ask her about it, don't mention it. Have fun, casual, lighthearted conversation that will take her mind off her "woes". You want her to associate positive feelings with you - laughter, happiness, etc. Don't enable her to dwell, because that's a surefire way to shoot yourself in the foot. Apart from that, you sound like you've got this. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:48 PM
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How did you meet her/get the date? What are you planning to do for it? What's she like? Don't mention the doll. Don't mention incel stuff. Don't mention Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:40 PM
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Absolutely, but that's the zeitgeist right now isn't it? Playing the old "male feminist who C A R E S" card. End of the day we're all looking out for #1 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:29 PM
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100% accurate but men do it too. Hypergamy is real, and it's not a gendered thing - it's a "human with options" thing. We all want the best for ourselves. Cutthroat, yeah, but what other man is going to come at me for swerving a 5 in order to bag an 8? None except disingenuous ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:24 PM
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I must be a woman then, because I always preferred quality over quantity. That's one of the major ways in which I diverge from the men on this sub: when I was using OLD, sub-7s didn't even register to me. Men are limited to 25 swipes per day on Tinder, why would I waste that on women I didn't find attractive? Even before OLD was invented - I wouldn't have gotten out of bed for a sub-7. Nothing is the preferable option there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 08:53 PM
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Embarrassing yourself isn't the end of the world. I embarrass myself all the time. I had an interaction with a delivery driver yesterday that's going to haunt me for 20 years to come. Just do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:53 PM
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Stop reading studies about Tinder, for one. I did great on Tinder, so did all of my friends who used it - and none of us are in the top 0.6% of attractiveness, or whatever miniscule figure is being touted today. Just upload a spread of decent photos, keep your bio sparse, maintain an Instagram so it looks like you're popular, act normal when you're talking to people, and you'll be fine. Reddit is so biased against OLD. I've seen photos in the ratings thread before - most lads here aren't ugly. J…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:20 PM
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Huh. Different life experiences, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:05 PM
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Eh, dunno man. When I was a teenager, randoms on the street would tell me to smile all the time. My "outside face" is a perma-scowl, always has been. Never been told that by a stranger now I'm a grown man. And never been told to smile by friends... ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:00 PM
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This is absolutely correct. Observation from a man: you get told to smile a lot by random strangers when you're a kid/teenager. You don't get it when you're a grown man, because everyone knows it's a recipe for getting your head caved in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:36 PM
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Nah, you can't go around policing other people's emotions and expressions. She's not a performing monkey. Besides that, no one knows what's going on in a stranger's life. Woman's parents could have been obliterated in a car accident and some random dickhead on the street tells her to smile? Throat punch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:11 PM
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I suspect that a lot of people use therapy recommendations as a passive-aggressive secular alternative to the phrase "I'll pray for you." And yes, the general misunderstanding of OCD by the general public is extremely irritating. It's an exhausting and hellish condition to live with, not something quirky or fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:30 PM
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If you think that's bad, I've had a doctor use WebMD right in front of my face before. The idea that medical professionals give a fuck about anything beyond going home at the end of the day is self-delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:23 PM
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Happy to hear that, if that is the case! I'm just making my judgement on Reddit's continual insistence on the use of therapy for what I perceive to be minor personality quirks (i.e. being annoyed at anything; being unfulfilled in a relationship; being stressed about deadlines at work). As I understand CBT, it's only really used for IDC/DSM classified mental disorders - it wouldn't be effective or appropriate to use it to treat a situation like "I'm annoyed that my neighbour mows his lawn at 6am"…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:16 PM
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100% agree. CBT/MIT are just as effective if you buy a book on it and follow the instructions yourself. I was prescribed CBT for OCD by my doctor some years ago. Went to the session, and the therapist was reading verbatim from a print out of a CBT textbook. I didn't like the whole "therapy experience" in general, so went home and Amazoned the book. Went through it myself. I can't say that it "cured" me, but it definitely helped. I don't see the treatment being any more effective had it been read…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:06 PM
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It depends on the type of therapy. Reddit is majority American, and it's funny as a non-American to see such high levels of support for Freudian-style talk therapy. There's no evidence that this style of treatment can cure any mental disorders, despite its popularity in the US. Yes, it is essentially paying for someone to validate your feelings. However, I suppose this can be important if you feel lonely, ignored, or repressed in day to day life. Other types of therapy have mountains of medical …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:34 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:49 AM
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The meat-style names are intended to appeal to meat-reducing consumers, not vegans/vegetarians. Marketing departments think that conforming to known conventions and names will put these consumers at ease. It works too. When I was a teenager I worked in a small grocery store. They stocked up on raddicio, but no one bought it. Owners changed the sign to say "red lettuce" and people started buying it. Consumers gravitate towards things they are familiar with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:43 AM
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Yes. I was prescribed cognitive behavioural therapy to overcome OCD. The fact that I sought medical help was too much for my ex to handle. She was of the opinion that real men shouldn't have any problems with their mental health to begin with, and that it was shameful for me to seek treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:22 AM
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Baby killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:14 PM
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That's so considerate! Your friends sound great. It was never really like that for me when I was that age - we all hung out, but it was every man or woman for themselves as far as romance was concerned. I suppose I'm as guilty as they are for perpetuating that kind of environment - looking back, I could have organised situations that would have resulted in little group date scenarios, but I fully admit I was too self-absorbed to even think of it. Kudos to you for looking out for your pals.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:10 PM
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Well, being able to buy guns in supermarkets is how you get Elliot Rogers - every Western country has a stigma against men expressing themselves, yet only one has problems with mass killings. But besides that, Elliot Rodger was a child - he didn't have years of anything under his belt. These spree killers are all kids with no life experience. When an adult man gets sick of the culture of emotional repression, statistically he's way more likely to end his own life than harm others. Biggest killer…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:10 PM
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And she was feeding you the whole time you were there? Cooking for you, washing your plates?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:35 PM
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That's not really being "set up" in the traditional sense though. What you're describing is more akin to what I meant when I said: >invite you to events where you'll be socialising with those friends via your friend, which will give you the opportunity to lay the groundwork yourself A set up is when friends do all the groundwork for you. Edit: I'll also add that those are some very good friends you're describing. Most people would not have the consideration or foresight to even do something like…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:21 PM
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How often did you cook and wash dishes when you were at her place?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:57 PM
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I think it's a safe assumption, yes. I've been with women who thought I was the most attractive man on the planet, and to them everything I did was hilarious, romantic, thoughtful etc. I've also been with women whom I could tell thought "ehhh... he'll do" about me, and with them I could run myself ragged and they'd still have found something to complain about. My takeaway is: don't bother with a relationship unless you both find each other extremely physically attractive. The alternative rarely …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:50 PM
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Yeah, it'd be a better world if we as men could openly discuss or express feelings, but unfortunately the one we live in trains us to suffer in silence. We can use that to our advantage though - years of stifling feelings and silently accepting can train you to see the bullshit for what it is, and be less frustrated by it. Instead of taking the platitudes to heart and getting frustrated, we can just look at the reality - when is the last time a man ever got handed something on a plate? Never. Er…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:40 PM
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I don't think the platitudes people receive when they're distraught about getting turned down are things that should be taken seriously though. People just say those things to get you to stop talking. They don't want to deal with your moping, so they distract you with the "bright side" that the woman who rejected you will set you up with her friends. It's not true - it's just something to say that will end the conversation. I thought everyone knew that "it's not you, it's me" means it's definite…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:05 PM
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Most people don't "set up" their friends anyway. I've never saw it happen even once in my entire life - never had it happen to me when I was single, and never done it for anyone else. People in general are incredibly self-centred; they're not really thinking about the welfare or desires of those in their social circle. If you're a man looking for a partner and don't want to use the apps, then it's a great idea to have close female friends. But not because they're going to "set you up" with their…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:50 PM
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Kidding yourself if you don't think women do this as well. I've got three messages in my Reddit inbox right now from women calling me ugly because I said something on here they disagreed with. I don't think this is a gender issue; it's an immature person issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:03 PM
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I think you should look at what they do, not what they say. For all their demands, they always seem to end up with average looking men with porn and video game addictions who can't stick a slice of bread in the toaster without instruction. Does that not tell you something? Internet bravado does not = what's happening in real life. By and large, they're just lonely mediocre women who have been hurt, and are using the anonymity of Reddit to lash out at the world. I sincerely doubt they act like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:34 PM
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1) Yes, I've been a couple of times - dragged there while on a stag do both times. Strip clubs are highly regulated in my country, and certainly aren't the sexual free for all described by posters in the US. For one, our strippers are only allowed to be topless - no vagina on show. Secondly, when you get a private dance, there's a bouncer standing RIGHT THERE in the room with you. If your hands leave the armrests of the seat for any reason, you're going to get your skull caved in. My friends bou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:59 PM
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This is clearly it. She could be a lovely person for all I know, but realistically who in their right mind is going to want to be seen in public holding hands with Monica Lewinsky.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:37 PM
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Even when there's no indication that a guy is incel. Shit, I can go one even better than that: last week I disagreed with someone on a FB hobby group and they immediately started with the "shut up incel no woman will ever look at you" routine. ...meanwhile my profile picture was literally a picture of me and my missus. Basically, they're using the term like we used "gay" 20 years ago, before we realised it was wrong to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 02:13 PM
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Same, my rule is: don't say anything that would get me a punch in the face if I said it down the pub. That's one reason why I keep myself transparent - self-accountability. Doesn't stop the nutters though. I had someone sending me death threats the other day because I said I don't want kids. End of the day, It's rather risible: if a fella chooses to hide behind an anime profile picture online, I somehow doubt he's going to fly to the other side of the world to fight me to the death outside my of…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:14 PM
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I'm very easy to doxx as I don't hide my identity on Reddit at all. You would not believe the amount of times I have had Insta or FB hate mail because something innocuous I've said has offended or triggered someone. People on here are unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:20 AM
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Strongly against. My government can't even fill potholes. They can't be trusted with anyone's DNA.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 03:31 PM
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How do they figure this out? How common is this? I can only chime in to comment with my personal experience. I've been in one relationship where this applied. In that instance, she told me whilst drunk. That happened in one out of a total of six longterm relationships. No idea what anyone else's experience is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:36 PM
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Most boring answer but it has to be Deep Red. It's perfection. Taking Argento out of the equation, it's a tight fight between Don't Torture a Duckling and House with the Laughing Windows. I love a rural giallo. Right now Duckling is the winner out of those two. Yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:43 PM
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Aye, the Internet is a strange place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:33 PM
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Nah, just my profile picture, age, IG handle and name along with a bunch of Chinese whispers about me being a right-wing transphobe COVID denying Kyle Rittenhouse supporter. None of which was even remotely true, but there we go. Not even American, didn't even know who Kyle Rittenhouse was at the time, for context.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:26 PM
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Whole interaction was: Sleepaway Camp is my favourite. That movie is problematic and transphobic. Yeah I know it's a relic, but I'll always love it. Typical white straight man response, you need to educate yourself etc etc etc Nah fuck off I'll continue liking what I like thanks. And that set them off. Not really enough to warrant messaging my missus with rape threats in my opinion, but YMMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:24 PM
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Perplexed me for the same reason as well. There's a similar discourse surrounding Silence of the Lambs, even although it is explicitly stated in both the book and film that Jame Gumb is not trans. Bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:00 PM
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I had people attempt to cancel me once. Was part of a horror group on FB and there was a discussion about favourite summer camp horror films. I said that mine was (and still is) Sleepaway Camp from 1983. For those who haven't seen the movie: it's about a mute girl who got traumatised by a boating accident which killed her brother and father. She goes to a summer camp, gets bullied, and then starts killing all the pedo coucillors, creepy molestor adults, and teenage bullies. Bit of an anti-hero. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:30 PM
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Been in a relationship with a nightmare woman who had BPD before. Here's my opinion: In my situation at least, she didn't start out like that. In fact, she started out as a very good partner. But around the 4 month mark, something started to switch. And it was like a frog sitting in a pot of water that's getting hotter and hotter - you don't realise that you're being boiled alive until the skin is falling from your bones. And bear in mind, I wouldn't describe myself as a particularly "nice" fell…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:13 PM
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I'd say if he's hospitalised it's pretty serious. If he's lying in bed at home, sure - dig him out all you want. But hospital? In the past two years I've only personally known two people who ended up in hospital with COVID, and both never came out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 12:09 PM
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If he's in hospital for COVID in 2022, when we've had multiple vaccinations and time to develop herd immunity to the most common strains, then he's likely in very grave condition. Redditors gonna Reddit, but in real life it's generally not seen as acceptable behaviour to stand over someone on a ventilator and attempt to teach them a lesson. Saying "I fucking told you so" as the person you supposedly love struggles to take their last breath isn't what anyone deserves in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 12:01 PM
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