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| 474 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love. | Conversation | GickyRervais | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 12:00 PM |
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| 2 | Caffeine, Alcohol, and Porn: some of the most detrimental contributors to social anxiety are also the most accepted by societyIt's over sexualized for entertainment. Sex is romantic and passionate. Porn is dramatized and fake, and usually degrading to women. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Caffeine, Alcohol, and Porn: some of the most detrimental contributors to social anxiety are also the most accepted by societyAnxiety comes from expectations/worrying about the future. Porn gives people certain expectations that usually aren't realistic and contribute to peoples worries. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 12:31 PM |
| 43 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?I'd say not enough banter/flirting. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 09:47 AM |
| 11 | Embracing the F*ckboy imageNahhhh. Where I'm from there's a big difference between a guy who fucks, and a fuck boy. Fuck boy is definitely an insult. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it easy to get laid if I’m skinny and short ?can’t gain weight tbh I can eat like 15 cheeseburgers and drink 2 liters of chocolate milk everyday and I’m still going to be skinny. If you did this everyday you would gain weight, I guarantee it. Your problem is probably consistency. If you want to gain weight for real check out r/gainit. | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 10:02 AM |
| 10 | Accused of rape last year and haven't been able to recoverHard to see a lot of signs if you’re also a bit drunk… | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 03:44 PM |
| 0 | I am a nice/good guyBeing yourself does work, it helps you find a match that is suited to you. Clearly the girl you went on a date with is not a match for you. Keep dating and being yourself and eventually you will find the right person who loves you as you are. | /r/seduction | 31/03/22 03:36 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Exactly haha. | /r/seduction | 22/11/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | To attract girls how can i seem confident even if i'm insecure?Pretending to be confident is the first step to becoming confident. | /r/seduction | 22/11/21 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Type of women you can attractI’m 6’ 195lbs 14%BF and most people consider me skinny 😂 | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 1 | What are good purposeful questions for dates?I actually have a second date tomorrow so thanks for reminding me about this haha, but I made a post a while back that might have some helpful content. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lne808/the_36_questions_that_lead_to_love/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Teeth whiteningAnything that actually whitens your teeth effectively will make them sensitive. | /r/askTRP | 04/06/21 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Teeth whiteningThat is the same as the UK haha, not sure how that other person has not heard of it. | /r/askTRP | 04/06/21 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Guaranteed way to know if a girl wants to be ApproachedHow about stop wasting time trying to figure out who wants to be approached and who doesn't, and just go and say hi to any girl you find attractive? | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 10:05 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.And I appreciate that you are VERY annoyed by deep conversation, you obviously aren’t a very open person, which is fine. Well technically it’s one paper with 3 separate studies/tests. Correlation doesn’t implicitly mean causation, but in scientific studies such as these, most variation due to other effects is deliberately limited. The whole point of a study is to get meaningful results by limiting irrelevant inputs. Correlation is very close to causation in most scientific studies, otherwise the… | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 04:48 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Sorry what? | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 03:56 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Sorry but this sounds really creepy, it sounds like you're trying to trick her. | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 02:31 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Ah I see. | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 01:46 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.De nada | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 01:43 AM |
| 3 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Good for you. Thanks for your input. | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 01:40 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.they are clearly canned from some stupid book or website These aren't random questions, they were meticulously chosen by psychologist Arthur Aron for his study into interpersonal closeness. they certainly won't "lead to love" There was a direction correlation of these questions being asked and an increase in interpersonal closeness. High interpersonal closeness = love. So it certainly can 'lead to love', as the study proves. Feel free to read it, or feel free to be ignorant. https://journals… | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.I didn’t know you could will someone into loving you, please elaborate! | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 09:12 PM |
| 5 | Have you cried in front of your LTR? What happened after that?I once cried in front of my partner, and she proceeded to laugh in my face. Funnily enough we aren’t together anymore. | /r/askTRP | 19/02/21 06:24 PM |
| 8 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Thanks for your kind words. Really appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 06:17 PM |
| 3 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.Oh definitely, I think each one of these could be a whole conversation on its own, perhaps if you were a few years into a relationship you could try doing 1 per night for a few weeks! But a couple of them, as you said, could be sprinkled into early dates just to find out more information about compatibility with someone, without it being too deep. | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 06:06 PM |
| 4 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.I read it and found it very fascinating, so I thought I’d share it, I’m glad you appreciate it as well. | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 06:01 PM |
| 12 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.You sound like a bundle of fun | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 04:44 PM |
| 5 | The 36 Questions that Lead to love.No worries! Are you planning to use some? | /r/seduction | 19/02/21 01:28 PM |
| 10 | Are you guys getting dates during this bullshit?I'm near London UK, I've not spoken to a girl that's worried about Covid. I've had multiple dates and multiple girls over to my apartment, even during full lockdown. | /r/askTRP | 25/01/21 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Stop negatively comparing yourself to her exWhere did I say that? There is a chance for it, but some people put in all the hard work they can and still won't. I get your point, but its stupid, you should be telling people no matter what, you can achieve your dreams if you work hard, yes you can be realistic and accept that there will be set backs and interruptions, but if you focus and get back too it you can achieve anything if you really want to, if you make it your life mission. Why should you not try to motivate people, what's the poi… | /r/seduction | 12/01/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Stop negatively comparing yourself to her exSo basically what your saying is that if you're lucky, maybe you will get your goals and dreams, but its not bloody likely, even if you're working your way up in life its probably not worth it to be honest, don't even try. Let's agree on your theory. | /r/seduction | 12/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Stop negatively comparing yourself to her exbut if you're an asshole at the core, you won't change that I'm not saying personalities don't change You said, that if you're an asshole, you wont change. And now you're saying they can change? get your argument straight. Sounds like you're agreeing with me now. My point from the beginning was that you can change physically, you can change mentally. If you work hard enough (the majority of people don't) you can change anything. | /r/seduction | 12/01/21 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Stop negatively comparing yourself to her exPeople can definitely change a lot, physically we agree is easiest. But personality, lots of things can bring change to your personality; death of a loved one, getting divorced, finding religion and many other things. These can all bring about massive changes in mentality and personality. Everyone has the potential to change anything, don't be so pessimistic. | /r/seduction | 12/01/21 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Stop negatively comparing yourself to her exYou can always change it. Physique, you can change.... Personality, you can change... ugliness, you can change, have you seen pictures of kylie Jenner when she was 15 compared to now. if you're that upset about being ugly, get yourself a better job and earn the money to get a nose job or new teeth, whatever you require. You can change anything if you want it enough and work hard. | /r/seduction | 12/01/21 10:30 AM |
| 0 | Less charming, more SexyI think everyone would be surprise how effective it is. Once you're both horny and in the mood and in the bedroom, saying sexy shit like that will only turn them on more. Well it works wonders in my experience anyway. | /r/seduction | 11/01/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | anyone feel trapped?For people over 80 years old haha, currently still in full lockdown, no socialising with anyone outside your own household, yet the girls still want to meet up... | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop thinking of your ex having sex with someone else and feeling bad about it?Guaranteed, if you work hard on yourself, you'll find someone way better than your ex. Then you'll forget her name. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What do I do?Unfortunately, while you're living in their house and eating their food you must live by their rules, but at the same time you need to explain your needs to them. They should let you, as an adult, do whatever you want within reason. If you really cant stand living with them and they wont give you the freedom you need, then your only option is to work your ass off and move out. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 02:07 PM |
| 1 | anyone feel trapped?UK, you should move here. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Do I lose my patience too quickly and it prevents me from meeting girls?You don't need any patience when it comes to girls, if she turns down the first offer of a date then you just soft next, don't text her again, doesn't matter who it is and you shouldn't care, abundance mentality. If she wants you she will eventually come back and maybe suggest a day, and if so then you can decline because you're busy and suggest a day that better suits you... | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 01:58 PM |
| 1 | anyone feel trapped?That's mad, I'm no chad, but the girls where I am are thirstier than ever! The past few months I've found getting laid way easier than usual. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 09:31 AM |
| 8 | anyone feel trapped?Seriously needed this, Thank you. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/20 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Where is the line between mysterious and boring?Wow man, that's sad, you can't follow your dreams because you're scared what your LTR might say?? Obviously you need to talk to her about your plans but man you need to do what you want to do, you cant let someone else hold you back. Sounds like you need to take some risks. I can guarantee you'll feel a million times better for it whether you're still with your LTR or not. Your own feelings are more important than anyone else's, don't live your life trying to please anyone except yourself. | /r/askTRP | 02/12/20 09:09 AM |
| 13 | Where is the line between mysterious and boring?so you need to keep working, making money, so you can can afford to upgrade your lifestyle on a regular basis. You should be doing these things for yourself anyway, not for her. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/20 09:02 AM |
| 1 | How do I make up my lost years?Agreed, I live in the UK and life is fucking easy here... Girls are easy to find. But maybe that's because I'm 27. Might be harder for a 21 year old. Either way OP has a lot to look forward too. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/20 10:07 AM |
| 3 | How common are flakes/let downs for you guys?yeah I will be honest with you, it happens a lot, its a numbers game! When I first started OLD the first 2 girls I spoke to I went on dates with, no flakes, but also no lay. Then the next 6 in a row all flaked right before the date and I was gutted, I couldn't understand, but I kept pushing on. Now I'm talking to multiple girls and I've got laid twice this month! Which is good for me considering I haven't got laid this year haha! | /r/askTRP | 19/11/20 09:19 AM |
| 15 | Serious question, how do you guys have the time to chase girls?You're doing it right pal. Just enjoy being in the moment and hanging out with your friends, don't worry about what anyone else says. But if you do ever feel the urge to meet girls and go on dates then yes you will have to make a bit time for it... I currently try to keep one evening a week free incase an opportunity arises where I want to ask a girl for a date, because I want to make time for that. But every other day I'm busy and the girls will just have to wait. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/20 12:27 PM |
| 1 | When should i start dating?(28M) I've met most of my friends through sport, I have a big social group from playing field hockey, as well as a few from tennis. I don't have much time to play other sports regularly but I do play other when I get a chance. I do meet some women through sport but its generally male friends that I got from those. I usually meet women when I'm out at a bar with male friends. I'm from the UK as well, its very hard to meet new people at the moment which you just have to deal with and not expect an… | /r/askTRP | 04/11/20 03:02 PM |
| 16 | Feeling guilty about bringing a plate home...Sounds like you're trying too hard to fuck the girl who is living in your apartment, probably not a great idea in general. Definitely bring the other plate over and fuck her if you want, that sounds fun to me, who gives a fuck what the other girl thinks. Some girls might get jealous, some might think you're a fuck boy, it could go either way but don't worry about what she thinks. Just focus on your other plates. If she changes her mind and wants a piece of you then great, if not, then who gives … | /r/askTRP | 04/11/20 02:46 PM |
| 9 | I'm dealing with extreme sexual performance anxiety. Need help.Exactly. It happens to the best of us, it's out of your hands, don't try to control it. Just have fun. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/20 01:25 PM |
| 9 | Thank you Red Pill.One of my ex's I was with for 3 years, from 18-21yo, she broke up with me and I got over it pretty quick because I was 21 and wanted to enjoy myself. A few month later she got back in touch and basically went full psycho, she had hacked my Facebook and was crying to me because I was chatting and dating a few different girls. After a few weeks of her non stop calling and texting I couldn't think of anyway to get her to leave me alone other than to just be brutal and tell her to piss off and ignor… | /r/askTRP | 06/10/20 10:22 AM |
| 7 | How idealism and daydreams can destroy your dating gameReading that actually hurt me a bit, I feel like an idiot just reading stuff all day. | /r/seduction | 01/10/20 01:50 PM |
| 3 | Self employed, gyms are closed here, tinder is dry, friends all have gfs and are busy with life. Where can I really meet women?I'm(26M) in a pretty similar situation, I want to meet girls and build up my social skills a bit more but tinder is hard work, in the past 2 months I've had 2 dates, both went pretty well. I've organised about 6 other dates where the girl has flaked. I think Covid has made a lot more people sign up to OLD and the options for girls has increased even further, making it harder for guys. My plan is to just stay focused on myself for the next few months until things start to reopen, looking for girl… | /r/askTRP | 01/10/20 09:34 AM |
| 3 | I'm getting ghosted and flaked on at an insane rate these days and I don't know what to doI'm on 5 flakes/ghosts in a row now over 1.5 months, which is definitely way more than usual. I'm thinking its to do with covid and a rise in people on OLD, the girls have a lot more options, but I'm just guessing. Interested to read other comments tbh. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/20 11:31 AM |
| 3 | Any else been "zeroed out"?Hey man, don't throw your life away for this garbage person, you are now free to do what you like. Try to picture yourself in 10 years time and where you want to be, picture yourself with the body you want and your dream job, and work for those goals. Read books and build you're knowledge. I know it will be hard to see at the moment but you've got so much to look forward too in life, so many new people to meet and new things to experience. Please call a helpline if you need it. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/20 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Ways to BS your SMV on the financial sideI used to have a new BMW 3 series. The girls used to always say "I don't like guys with BMW's" then funnily enough they'd always end up back at my place. Now I have a Ford Fiesta and I bought my own house, I have noticed a slight decline, but its probably my own fault not the car. I used to like picking up a girl in my car to take her on a date, which I don't do anymore. | /r/askTRP | 28/09/20 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Overgamed a girl to the breaking point, now unsure what to doHe got laid... | /r/askTRP | 23/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 1 | My father wants me blue-pilled really badly.Just ignore it, have some banter with him. The way relationships work has changed dramatically over the past 20-30 years. All I can say is don't ever take dating/relationship advice from your parents, they have no idea how much it has changed. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/20 10:52 AM |
| 2 | can't decide what to do with my LTRHer making you commit to talk to her is just ridiculous. 1-3 hours a day is also ridiculous. This is very needy and a massive red flag imo. You should be focusing on yourself and getting done what you need to get done, some days you might chill in the evening and speak to her all night if you fancy it. But some nights you might be busy and only have 5 mins to talk, or maybe even no time at all. Don't let her put stupid limits on what you can and cant do. Edit: This post pissed me off because it … | /r/askTRP | 23/09/20 10:13 AM |
| 23 | Overgamed a girl to the breaking point, now unsure what to doYou've lost her already, don't apologise. You didn't over-game, you played the game well and you won, until you started to catch feelings, then you lost. She obviously enjoyed it to start with but probably came to her senses and realised your not the guy she wants to be in a relationship with (because of the whole arrogance thing). If you're only interested in sex then you played the game well. If you are seeing people with the potential for something more then I suggest you play the game slight… | /r/askTRP | 23/09/20 09:39 AM |
| 7 | If you make a lot of money, how do you use this to benefit your SMV?Not earning much money myself makes this a hard one to respond too but I thought I would anyway. Whatever money you have leftover after investing, I would spend on fashionable items for example clothes, shoes, watches (maybe get a stylist). If you're not that great at sticking to your workout routine then get a PT, if you're not great with your diet then get a nutritionist. Spend your money on things that you enjoy and make you personally feel more confident. Id personally get a nice car because… | /r/askTRP | 21/09/20 12:40 PM |
| 4 | Asked my LTR a favor, she replied "do it yourself" cause she thought I was being lazy. How do I handle this?Compromise sure, do things for each other definitely. Just don't expect it 100% of the time, they aren't your slave. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Asked my LTR a favor, she replied "do it yourself" cause she thought I was being lazy. How do I handle this?100% put your own interests first, if you need to get shit done the best way is to do it your self. If you need help then ask, in general that person would probably help you out. I'm just saying that they don't have to, they aren't your slave that has to do everything you say. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 02:25 PM |
| 2 | What would you do in a situation like this?Definitely this, just be careful and don't get too close. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Combat sportIf you want to win in a fight and make the other guy look stupid, jiu jitsu is the way to go. Go out of town if there isn't one in your area, you can't learn from home. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 01:25 PM |
| -4 | Asked my LTR a favor, she replied "do it yourself" cause she thought I was being lazy. How do I handle this?wow | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Asked my LTR a favor, she replied "do it yourself" cause she thought I was being lazy. How do I handle this?Maybe shes in a mood, maybe shes had a bad day, maybe shes tired. She has no obligation to do anything for you. Do shit for yourself. Never expect people to help you. Get over it. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Coming to terms with being alpha-widowed (not a joke)She has 10k followers on instagram, she was like a fitness model, with a fat ass and could squat heavy. She was insane in bed. Down to do anything, quickies, dildos, porn moves, just mind blowing. They don't squat, they aren't freaky in bed, they are not even close. Seems like you're only interested in sex/physical attraction to me. Soon you will find someone that does all those things and more, but you cant be in a relationship with someone just for this, it will never last. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 10:59 AM |
| 5 | How to ask out a lady at the gym who I have never spoken with?The more you think about it the harder it will be, just walk up say hi followed by some shit, don't get your hopes up, expect to be rejected. You've got nothing to lose. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 09:09 AM |
| 1 | Things I can go outside to do by myself for cheapExactly | /r/askTRP | 18/09/20 08:03 AM |
| 2 | Self care question - My body is white but my face is brownish. I think my face started changing color after puberty. Maybe a result of inflammation I don't know. I didn't really care before but I want to fix this if it is possible. Do you know what I should do?This is a question for your doctor / GP | /r/askTRP | 17/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Things I can go outside to do by myself for cheapI'd recommend Pokemon GO, you'll really enjoy yourself for a few days maybe even a week, you wont even need to go back to the house. This will relieve you of all your LTR problems. | /r/askTRP | 17/09/20 01:14 PM |
| 8 | Guys talking shit behind my back, how should I react?I'd recommend it, its a great book! it was the first book I read when I started my RP journey and it was very helpful. I plan to read it again. | /r/askTRP | 17/09/20 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Do I have to play the "too busy" game?You should always try and keep busy. Make plans for most of the weekend to keep yourself busy, make plans for your Saturday night with other people. Don't give her options of what day, tell her 'lets go for a drink on Friday because I have some spare time', if shes available then great, if shes busy then no worries, tell her you might have some free time the weekend after. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Would I seem insecure to text that?In future though, if someone says 'I will let you know' then don't respond. They might reply, they might not. Just focus on spinning other plates. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Would I seem insecure to text that?Now she asks why. What a dick haha! I'd recommend nexting this one. But if you really need to reply then say something like 'so I can make other plans if you're not available' and if she replies later than tomorrow saying she is available, say sorry but I have other plans now (you could actually make other plans so you don't have to lie). whatever you do, don't wait around for her. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/20 03:19 PM |
| 2 | "I don't love you" out of nowhere after sex, then cold attitude?Why would you ever ask 'what are we'?? if they were just fucking then they are just fucking. If maybe your BFF was starting to feel something more then he should have asked her on a proper date and moved forward from there. | /r/askTRP | 14/09/20 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Destroyed after GF of 4 months broke up with meYou've got your mindset all backwards, it sounds like you were way too invested in her. About 3 years ago my ex broke up with me after a very decent 2 year relationship. She made me drive over an hour to meet her somewhere and then broke up with me face to face, I was madly in love with her and I was pretty upset about this. I left and cried the whole journey home. I then cried most of the afternoon and evening. That night I sent her a long message along the lines of 'thanks for all the great … | /r/askTRP | 11/09/20 12:27 PM |
| 7 | How To Get Over Your Fear of Rejection Forever. (REJECTION is a GOOD THING!)I'm 26M and I have spent most of my life jumping from LTR to LTR (1-2 years) with out any breaks in between. I find someone I fancy and if they fancy me then I immediately put all my eggs in that basket and try my hardest to make them like me more because I'm scared of the rejection, and I also think I'm scared of rejecting someone else because I wont find anyone better. Its been a bit of a shit show so far and obviously none of the relationships have worked out because after 6 months my true se… | /r/seduction | 03/09/20 02:07 PM |
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