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| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026indeed, as mentioned above I only know black and white, no in between. I have to learn to be more flexible, to accept things as they are instead of forcing a specific result. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/26 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026not trolling | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/26 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026Thank you, your analysis helps me a lot as you seem to have a good understanding of hyperfixation and the problems that result as a consequence. I questioned the relationship to my wife often and never had a feeling of truely belonging, potentially just another problem created by wanting things a specific way – just black and white, no in between. Reading the You are Alone thread recently helped me as well. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/26 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026the autoimmune disease was mentioned in context of intensity of executing exercises the herniated disc was mentioned in context of question about specific exercises like deadlift and squats | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/26 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026She treats you the way she does because she doesn't see you as that dominant man. Indeed, u/HornsOfApathy said she smells the incongruence of me wanting to be treated like a high value, dominant man while failing to act like one. She wants a man who will throw her over his shoulder, March her up to the bedroom, toss her on the bed, and call her a good girl as he pins her arms down. Done that, in different versions, got rejected hard. Do not ever treat me like a piece of meat was the answer. I ge… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/08/26 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026Dude you just lack focus. True, I chose to not chase money and status. But I made progress with the new position, I have a 3-5 year plan within the new corporation. For the first time in years I'm in control of my finances. The only true focus I still lack is where to go in live, for example the question to have or not have kids. That's manic response to anxiety of dread. I assume that she has gone through withdrawal phase too. Withdrawal = physical / emotional distance? 100% She is not trying t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/08/26 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026this whole post reads like an android trying to learn what it is to be human. this matches your analysis from last week in the comments: I'm gonna step out on a limb here and guess you're on the neurospicy spectrum somewhere. You might not even be aware of it. Where's your squat and deadlift? I have a history of herniated disc, tried different methods of squats but always stopped at a point where it felt like close to slip again. Instead of free squats I went with Hack-Squats Machine, should giv… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/08/26 02:19 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2026OYS 64 38y / 6’2 / 86kg / married three years / together 15y+ / no kids Routine: PPL Split, 4 x Week / BF: 18.1% (navy method) Lifts: BP 70 / Lat Pulldown 55 / Chest Fly 61 / DB Hammer Curls 9 / Landmine Press 15 Daily Stack: 10g Creatine, 2.5mg Tadalafil Gym I’m still in rest week as my post corona symptoms didn’t improve. My plan is to start by end of the week. Activity This week I had shift in focus. Instead of overthinking potential problems, I managed upcoming events that will lead to an im… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/08/26 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026I didn't read it all, my first impression: you are disconnected from life and yourself. try going archaic. have you ever made a fire? have you ever been walking barefoot? next time there is a storm outside just go right into it. I think you have no idea what's waiting for you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/08/26 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026thank you for the feedback, it helps a lot. see comment above | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/08/26 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026I get your point, and I agree. I think my journey is a back and forth and I'm bad at orientation at this point. All the above points, more or less I internalized it. I understand the concept of fun, the importance of health and fitness and so on, I implemented it into my life. I mostly enjoy my life, at least the parts I do on my own. You’ll be butthurt and sulk because you’re still holding onto this massive covert contract. I wouldn't call it a massive CC, instead, yes, I expected things to cha… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/08/26 05:43 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026I agree with you 100% – but what happens when all of this is done and sex still isn't happening? I know I have to ask myself what I really want. Either I'm OI and just move on with my day, or if I really have and want to fuck, I find another pussy to fuck. So far I'm stuck in this model, unhappy with 1 but not going for 2. So I have to decide what way it will be, thank you. EDIT: just saw now that you updated and extended your comment. I agree on a lot of it. I have been told that there is a cha… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/26 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026> Weekend is for sex. Wait...why? I know it's not good, but it's the current state. I initiated so often, leading to so much tension and frustration that her resentment grew. So she came up with don't push me into sex while I'm at work (remotely from home). Problem here is that she basically starts within five minutes after waking up, and late at day she is too tired. So all the initiations and rejections during the week lead to the point that she requested a fix spot for sex, where she can rela… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/26 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026Have you read Bang? Yes, will revisit Assuming you haven't fucked another woman yet, have you made yourself aware that you could? Not just being attractive enough but willing? Yes, I agree. I have isolated myself recently too much, only working from home or going to the gym, social life more or less non existent. Time to go out more often, interact and connect. I have made good experience with social dancing, as it combines touch and fun in a playful way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/08/26 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026So my big priority right now is to figure out a way to take my life back. I'm not an expert, just sharing my experience. When it comes to fixing yourself, I often see the same pattern: First impulse would be to watch yourself and your thoughts 24/7, maybe even start journaling about it and so on. If you ask me, the opposite is what you should focus on: taking the self completely out of the equation. you will find your true self and thus overcome the problems you mention by channeling your energy… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/26 04:02 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026Lying in bed after, with post-nut clarity, I realize what the fuck just happened. The last few days, everything I wrote above, it was all just one big test. I've been there, too, but I'm wondering if this perspective is healthy. When reading this, it boils down to the moment of having sex as your ultimate goal. By calling the days before one big test, you merge it all into A (test) leading to B (sex), which means that all actions connected with A unconsciously become a hidden CC. It might sound … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/26 09:12 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2026OYS 63 38y / 6’2 / 86kg / married three years / together 15y+ / no kids Routine: PPL Split, 4 x Week / BF: 18.1% (navy method) Lifts: BP 70 / Lat Pulldown 55 / Chest Fly 61 / DB Hammer Curls 9 / Landmine Press 15 Stack: 10g Creatine, 2.5mg Tadalafil Gym No gym this week. One week rest after being corona positive with fever. Will start in two days on thursday again. Financials Signed the new contract, starting in September. It’s a big step for me personally because now I can calculate with bigger… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/26 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 28, 2026OYS 62 38y / 6’2 / 86kg / married three years / together 15y+ / no kids Routine: PPL Split, 4 x Week / BF: 18.1% (navy method) Lifts: BP 70 / Lat Pulldown 55 / Chest Fly 61 / DB Hammer Curls 9 / Landmine Press 15 — I’m doing better. My focus shifted from nice guy to how to serve myself first. I put work in improving my CV and application over the last months and I finally managed to get a new job. Contract about to be signed, fixed income. This helps me a lot as I still have debt to pay. I alrea… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/26 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 14, 2026I value your feedback. I'm not interested in hiding behind excuses. the fact that I bring up the autoimmune d is that it forces me to find a balance. when I push too hard, it sets me back for a while. that's why I focus on improvement instead of chasing adding numbers. and being able now to do pull and chin ups from hanging position shows that my body is working and improving. I won't bring it up anymore. I didn't measure a new round of bf for the oys post. I'm going to do so and share it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/07/26 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 14, 2026I agree. I'm doing better but still not good enough. the 'live like you are alone' mindset helps a lot. the current state is that she questions my decisions a lot, could be a shit test. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/07/26 07:09 AM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 14, 2026I'm aware of this, but there are differences to it. my numbers didn't improve but my physique is changing, it might take a while to break out of this plateau. also consider the autoimmune disease talked about in early oys. the goal isn't to chase numbers but to grow strength and build physique, and that's what happening. I'm able now to do multiple chin ups and pull ups, both from hanging starting position. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/07/26 05:32 AM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 14, 2026OYS 61 38y / 6’2 / 86kg / married three years / together 15y+ / no kids Gym Bench Press Flat 70 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 21 // Cable Tricep PD 21 // Hanging Knee Raises 18 // Lat Pull 55 (all in kg) Routine: PPL Split, 3 x Week / BF: 18.9% navy method General 10 months after my last post I’m back here as I want to improve things and find solutions for myself what to fix. The marriage continues, I decided to stay and it works in general. I rebuild myself… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/07/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 23, 2025OYS 60 late 30s, 190cm, 86 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kidsRoutine: AB Split, 3 x Week / BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 70 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 21 // Cable Tricep PD 21 // Hanging Knee Raises 18 // Lat Pull 50 // KB Upright Row 14 Dynamics / Relationship Currently talking divorce seriously. In my last post I shared the experience I made with another woman outside my marriage. I handled the situation badly, let it e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/25 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 15, 2025OYS 59 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Reading The Game (Neill Strauss), Book of YaReally Playing With Dynamite In life, people tend to wait for good things … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/07/25 09:53 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 01, 2025it wasn't too bad. you know I'm gaining weight for around 2 years now so I'm past the point of pain as you described… I learned to eat a while ago, how to prioritize proteine and what I need to support recovery. I agree that the act of eating such a monster of pizza is a great metaphor for other aspects of mrp, that's why I said the pizza post is pure gold. it sums up discipline, strength and goal oriented thinking without half assing nicely. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/07/25 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 01, 2025I just went for a walk and ordered a pizza, the one with most ingredients on top. the pizza post is pure gold. gain weight, motherfuckers. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/07/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 01, 2025OYS 58 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Reading The Game (Neill Strauss), Book of YaReally Gym Had another week with friends visiting town, didn’t execute my … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/07/25 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025part 2 ideally (if you would have had and pushed it from the beginning and, like I said, chosen a suitable partner based on it), 100%. I remember one of our first actions in bed, she sucking cock like the whore that she is, and when I got close to finish bluepill mindset took over and I asked her if she wants to swallow … fail of frame, she rejected. right there I had the opportunity to just blast my load and set the tone, yet I went with BP and lost. and if she doesn't buy in, you literally hav… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/06/25 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025ideally (if you would have had and pushed it from the beginning and, like I said, chosen a suitable partner based on it), 100%. I remember one of our first actions in bed, she sucking cock like the whore that she is, and when I got close to finish bluepill mindset took over and I asked her if she wants to swallow … fail of frame, she rejected. right there I had the opportunity to just blast my load and set the tone, yet I went with BP and lost. and if she doesn't buy in, you literally have no ch… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/06/25 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025when you made that pick and married her, you either 1) picked a woman who didn't want to fuck you, and now you're trying to change the rules of how you engage after the fact...2) you picked a woman that was fucking you, and you changed who you were...or 3) you picked a woman that was fucking you, and she changed who she was. I'd say a mix of 2 and 3. I definetely fucked up and lost track on where to get, what to achieve. the moment my desires werent met is when I started to look elsewhere, so I … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/06/25 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025why do you as a husband leave the door open for her to share her frame? two options pop up in my head but it's more like learned answers instead of true from the heart. 1) because I value her as a partner and want her to express herself the way I do the same or 2) because I'm afraid of saying what I truely want and desire, telling my I'm not ready to nuke the relationship, still BP rooted behavior. -- what I don't like about 2 is that it means there is a certain way I expect things to be in orde… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/06/25 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025and you know that the resulting thought of your frame being rejected is wrong, where in your mental model of the world is a correct thought being changed to incorrect? that my definition of frame, or my progress of building frame, depends on the decisions of others, in this specific case the compliance or rejection of my command. Hint: Its likely within the realm of how both of you interact when your mental models collide. the thought I need to root out is the weakness and thereby lack of frame … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/06/25 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025having frame comes with certainty. when one acts in his own frame then there is no option of attempts to move action into my frame because with a mindset like this I'm questioning my own status and thereby fail to have frame. if acting in my frame, in this specific case, I'd say what I want (suck my cock) and either take it when she complies or decide how to move on if rejected. it's about me and how I react. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/06/25 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025if things don't go the way I'd imagined them what's that imagination based on? porn, validation, or True Desire? and what part didn't go the way you imagined, her lack of enthusiasm or your lack of strength to fuck the bitch out of her? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/06/25 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025she ended up on all fours in our shower. It wasn't the best sex, but it wasn't bad last week we talked about arousel vs validation – head vs dick. how did it feel during initiations and in this specific moment? the way you write about it, I don't get a sense of joy. did you enjoy fucking your woman or did you act from your head? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/25 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025OYS 57 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Reading The Game (Neill Strauss), Book of YaReally Gym no activity in gym because of travelling. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/25 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025That’s a nice excuse you’re perpetuating for her. I mention it quite often, she def knows I want it. currently even bj are rare so I'm not too focused on making her swallow. it's on the list of things I want in my sex life, yes, so I will keep pushing for it and I'm not ashamed of demanding/verbalizing it. Mystery method, the game, and book of pook. thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/06/25 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025Did you have her clean it up with her mouth? there is a deep rooted rejection for my cum so far, which probably reflects the true level of attraction. so the answer is no. but I keep telling her that I want her to swallow, so she knows I want it. This is girl game. They are being available to you. I agree, have to step up my game and have some fun when this happens. recommendations for learning day game or navigating such situations better? Your lifts are still shitty for doing this for a year. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/25 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025Where I struggle lately is figuring out when I'm actually responding to all that and when I'm operating under a need for validation. for me, the difference is if you feel the arousel in your head or in your dick. simple as that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025indeed, what would your natural response look like if rejection is no option? imagine a stranger chick doing this to you, how would you react? What I should be thinking is probably more like "sweet. Titties," are you aroused by your wife in general? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025I obliged for a bit, but didn't push things further. I should have taken the opportunity. your wife puts her tits in your face and you hold back, what do you think is the reason you reacted that way? Good sex is your responsibility. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/25 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 17, 2025OYS 56 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Dynamics / Sex Things are slowly improving. I notice my wife is more attracted to me recently, by… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/25 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 10, 2025and cum hard so that I am not horny for couple of days and can focus on doing shit that matters to me this isn't working, let me quote from my oys if you are reading this and can’t get in such a state of deep focus and appreciation for a specific action, you might suffer from a form of addiction that won’t let you get there. if you can't execute what needs to be done, because you are too horny to do so, the solution isn't the one you chose. the way you write it is out of your responsibility, lik… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/06/25 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 10, 2025OYS 55 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Gym Completed 3x again. muscle soreness is still high, the supplements I bought for this do not r… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/25 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025just read give your bitch nothing to do but fuck you, and realized that this matches what I wanted to share with this oys and is exactly where I currently am – rotating out of anger phase by focusing on work that needs to be done. Just do everything. Divert your anger into discipline. Everything YOU want to do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/06/25 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025I agree, wording wasn't good here. I should have said that I'm inspired by off grid solutions, because it shows me how dependent I am when it comes to food and material. imo there is also a link to issues based on oneitis, where it's also a lack of independence. as I'm rotating out of such systems I discover new opportunities. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/06/25 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025OYS 54 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Gym 3x, completed routines as planned. I find myself looking for progress in the mirror and somet… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025counting lots of she here | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025"i want to [fuck my wife], i'm going to [fuck my wife]." instead of "will she let me fuck her, oh maybe she hopefully will". to lead with that decisive energy. in the end, it is that simple. I'm overthinking, making it complicated without having to. either I fuck her or I don't. the end. thank you for hammering that into my head. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025I went in with a plan, responded to the rejection like I intended. you want it too much, but not in a good way. you are just in your head, starting your fuck session with a plan. think about this. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 08:37 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025My energy levels have been okay but I’m feeling like shit. you have to loose weight and are cutting kcal intake. sounds like you demanding more of your body than you are able to handle. this isn't how you grow, you are just taxing your system. think about proper recovery. think about your priorities. why exactly you want to become a runner? cut kcal, lift heavy and focus on recovery by eating high quality foods, get your blood sugar spikes down and sleep. that's all you have to do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 08:33 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025(For example after fucking her good: "Good girl. Next time I want to cum in your mouth.") Did she answer in a way that makes it clear, known, and unambiguous? Was it "Ewww, tehe...no." or was it "That really grosses me out and isn't my thing."? I'm doing that quite frequently, maybe too often even. recently while being outside for a event, we got spicy in talking and got to the point where she talks about sucking my dick. out there, in the wild with little to no chance that sex happens she is mo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025we talked later that day, she was all lovely and cuddly, and she let it slip that she wanted to fuck way before I took her. this is telling me she is rejecting even though desire is already there. I get your point, you talking about attraction and creating energy, pulling her into my frame. I'm getting there, not done yet. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025thank you for taking the time writing such a respone, thanks! You have my permission to go "rambo". in this case, rambo meant to me being demanding for things or actions I don't earned yet. it's like a shortcut, like I don't want to wait any longer, give me all those pleasures even when it means to divorce as the ultimate consequence. but because I don't want to take shortcuts, I used the term rambo here. the way you describe it, the term is not appropriate and indeed, I'm lacking being assertiv… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/25 08:12 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025OYS 53 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 67.5 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Gym Finally pushed through the 60kg plateau for flat bench, now I’m at 67.5. I’m making progress … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/05/25 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025I didn't receive a notification for this answer. just saw it now. That's your problem. You aren't committed. I have to think about this. I agree, but don't know how to translate this into my everyday actions (for now), because pushing is needy is what I learned. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/05/25 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025it's about having all kinds of interaction with (ideally beautiful) woman. this will open your eyes. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/05/25 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025I’m not sure how to create abundance in a monogamous relationship your mindset of wrong here, you think in black and white. abundance doesn't boil down to have a pussy available, it's the magic that comes with being active and outside. I realized this in one of my last oys – once you interact with woman irl, meet, talk, enjoy, maybe even dance, touch whatever, you will realize how pathetic it is to put pressure on your wife to have sex with you. go out there and have some fun and maybe you will … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/25 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025I want to grow up. I'm grateful for having the opportunity to grow now. that's still vague. you are still just talking, even lying to yourself. potentially because you are afraid of putting in the work and the consequences that might come with it. ask yourself if you are ready, and if yes, don#t hold back anymore. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/25 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025so what is it that you want? you happy with, even grateful for, not having sex? is that what you deep down feel? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025Are you watching any porn? no I don't, guess it's just an easy way out for her and a sign of her resentment. all of this very much sums up the knot the sex life dynamic is in. I will focus on myself, enjoy my time and see what progress I can make and if I can create the sex life I want and enjoy – or not, and then think about consequences | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025that's on point. First, be attractive. physical changes are happening, mental state is clean. drive is missing, income is below compared to what my wife brings home. we don't own a house yet. my SMV based on optics might be above her, with focus on status and money it's not. good point. Maybe you're missing immersion here within the DEVI framework. 100% – it's not because I do something specifically wrong but created the wrong routines with years of bad sex. this specific topic, missing immersio… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025learn to feel good even when I'm not having sex with her Am I shooting myself in the foot with this? my wife is not wrong if she wants me to be happy before she opens her legs it's one thing to own not having sex by making the best of the given time, learning, exploring, lifting, whatever … your solution sounds more like you are soothing yourself because you cannot change the given situation. ask yourself if you really put in the work or if you bitchin around. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025triggered a main event, me falling into deep depression, and what seems to be endless not-so-good days. you want this to end, you want your good days back. you don't really want to improve yourself and aren't interested in becoming the man you could be. you are just here because the thought of doing it right provides you with comfort. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025You must have some underlying and consistently incongruent behavior here she is pointing out like smelly bullshit. Do you know what that is? you are right with that observation. I have some ideas, from very obvious to potential overthinking: unattractive behavior: I'm still too much at home, working from home, being available. this point might be too obvious for me to see. I remember two occasions when she acted like the slut I want her to be, both occured when I removed presence. the only one t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/05/25 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025I’m struggling to calibrate withdrawing attention, the other day I cuddled her in the morning then started grinding on her, she said no, so I got up and left. It was abrupt and felt forced. She made a comment about it, and she was right but I’m not actually sure what I want here. Maybe a partner that is receptive, but I think the main problem was that my action was dictated by me being annoyed she wouldn’t fuck me rather than just getting up because I had other things to do, still, I don’t want … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/25 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025thanks, that is good advice. I read that technique in other oys before but will now focus on implementing it for myself. the dynamics are still off, initiations are shut down before I even started to the point that I loose interest. not sure if this means that I don't want it enough, which she might be testing. Perhaps sexual shame is in there too. I'm not sure if it's shame or just a fail to make things happen that I enjoy and want. recently I pushed more and didn't hold back (verbally) to tell… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/25 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025you are here for a quick fix, this isn't going to work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/25 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025are you aware of blood glucose levels and its impact on your energy levels, food cravings and fat storage? having carbs is fine, but make sure you understand how and when to use them. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/25 11:24 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025OYS 52 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Stats in kg Bench Press Flat 65 // DB Squeeze Press 15 // Chest Fly Machine 61 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 // Cable Tricep PD 18 // Arnold Press 12.5 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 27.5 // KB Upright Row 14 // KB Lateral Lift 6 Gym Went 3x. Good sessions, still adjusting my exercises to have a good mix… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/25 09:12 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025this reads like written by LLM – no? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/05/25 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025that's exactly what I meant, missed the chance to game my wife here. I've had similar situations before and mostly reply with 'yeah she knows whats good' or similar. didn't push it to the sexual level yet. will do so next time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025OYS 51 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.0 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kidsRoutine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid)BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Stats Bench Press Flat 62.5 - 8, 6 // DB Squeeze Press 15 - 12, 12 // Chest Fly Machine 61 - 12, 10 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 - 12, 12 // Cable Tricep PD 18 - 12, 12 // Arnold Press 12.5 - 12, 12 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 25 - 12, 12 // KB Upright Row 14 - 12, 12 // KB Lateral Lift 6 - 12, 12 (all… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025Plan activities I enjoy by myself or with my family and go do them. - See the difference makes sense | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/05/25 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025I agree. shit runs deep in my family, and only recently have I realized this pattern and its dysfunctional consequences | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/05/25 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025Maybe it's time we talk about what your leadership, or lack thereof, looks like? It's the lack of it, or it has been until now. I've always been the silent type and have no problem with others making the decisions as long as the issue isn't critical. I'm in the process of changing that and becoming more active and involved when it comes to making decisions. So far I've been a mix of lazy and broke - the worst. Restaurants, trips and holidays, all sorts of activities I've skipped when it comes to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025don't list your weight on a daily basis. track it on your own and calculate the weekly average, share that number here. you can list your daily kcal intake, that's another thing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025OYS 50 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.5 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Routine: ABC Split, 3 x Week (A Legs/Hybrid, B Pull, C Push/Hybrid) BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Stats Bench Press Flat 62.5 - 8, 6 // DB Squeeze Press 15 - 12, 12 // Chest Fly Machine 61 - 12, 10 // Cable Bicep Curls 18 - 12, 12 // Cable Tricep PD 18 - 12, 12 // Arnold Press 12.5 - 12, 12 // Hanging Knee Raises 10 // Iso Lat Pull 25 - 12, 12 // KB Upright Row 14 - 12, 12 // KB Lateral Lift 6 - 12, 12 (a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 09:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 29, 2025Everything you wrote in your dynamics section is all about how she reacted to you, and how you're a victim of her actions. I agree with your point. I'll try and only focus on my actions for next oys, but think that the response or result is part of the process and important for context. When are you going to stop being a victim and take some ownership of your circumstances? what does this mean in my specific case? I'm taking ownership by accepting days that won't work as I want them instead of g… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 29, 2025the conversation with that hot one on the bridge made clear to me how easy it could be to game when there is no history, just frame in the very moment. it's not an excuse but 15+ years of relationship with lots of blue pill and nice guy bs takes time to untangle. and to be honest, I said so in one of my last oys already, I had to fix myself first before even thinking of fixing other areas like relationship dynamics. I'm finally doing better, my mind is clear. there is some deep rooted resentment… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/25 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 29, 2025OYS 49 mid 30s, 190cm, 88.5 kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Stats Bench Press Flat 62.5, DB Squeeze Press 10, Deadlift Trap Bar 50, chest fly 61, Cable Bicep Curls 18, Cable Tricep PD 18 , Arnold Press 10, Hanging Knee Raises 10, Iso Lat Pull 25, Upright Row 14 (all in kg for 2 x 8, 1 x 12-20 compound, 2 x 12 assistance / isolation) – BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Gym Talked to a coach and collected information from gym threads, updated my routine accordingly. As … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/04/25 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025I appreciate you taking the time to share this. it resonates well with me and I agree with it. I already told her that I am who I am, when being confronted with always wanting sex or wanting too much. I will read your message again and probably again and then act accordingly. I'll stop trying to save her and instead just focus on rebuilding and being myself. thanky you | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025I agree, thank you for emphasizing this aspect | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/25 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025my intention with that paragraph was to describe the dynamic I'm facing, and the progress made so you as a reader get a better understanding of what's going on. thank you, going to rephrase and rethink it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/25 07:51 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025that linked post is pure gold and exactly what I need atm. thanks for sharing. Sex becomes less important to you. it depends, it's still important but not from a I need it perspective, much more I want it – and as quality is by far not where I want it, I'm not satisfied (yet) If I had to guess you did nothing social outside the house without your wife this past week did you? went for a walk daily after work, went to a restaurant. nothing fancy, indeed. What other hobbies/activities do you have g… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/25 07:47 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025OYS 48 mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids Stats flat bench 62.5, incline bench press 40, deadlift trap bar 50, chest fly 61, Cable Bicep Curls 18, Cable Tricep PD 18 , Arnold Press 8, Hanging knee raises 10 – BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Gym I’m feeling good in the gym but I’m not making progess when it comes to increase numbers. probably it’s still a beginner phase where muscle has to develop before it’s able to grow. I notice more power when doin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/04/25 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 25, 2025the way you write represents the way you think. what does it tell you? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/03/25 07:42 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 25, 2025OYS 47 mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kidsBF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method Stats flat bench 62.5 (+/- 0.0), incline chest press machine 20 (+/- 0.0), deadlift trap bar 50 (+/- 0.0), chest fly 61 (+/- 0.0), Cable Bicep Curls 18 (+/- 0.0), Cable Tricep PD 16 (+/- 0.0), kettlebell lateral lifts 6 (+/- 0.0), hanging knee raises 10 Gym went 3x, enjoy my plan. couldn't push to increase weight as I'm dealing with a cold. still adjusting and decided to cut OHP … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/25 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025ok if you prefer to do so in the beginning but sooner or later you should just stop, because deep down you already know what to do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/25 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025I'd suggest to stop journaling. you already have your answer: actions, not words. get out of your head. learn to listen and then follow your instincts. what do you enjoy, how do you spend your day? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/25 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025And praise them gonna test that. thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/25 02:49 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025And would you rather take a cheap, safe pill and have a hard dick or is your ego so fragile that doing so undermines your sense of manhood? it looks like the only solution for now, yes – but I have to keep looking for the root of it so problem isn't solved by popping a pill When I fuck, I bring the energy and desire. An attractive man expressing desire and being confident, assertive , and direct stirs something in a woman. I agree but I don't have that energy atm. I'm trying to get it back. that… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025OYS 46 mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kidsBF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method STATS: bench 62.5 for 2x8, incline chest press machine 20 for 2x8, deadlift trap bar 50 for 2x8, chest fly 61 for 2x12, Cable Bicep Curls 18 for 2x12, Cable Tricep PD 16 for 2x12, Zercher sq 25 for 2x8 (low int. bc of back issues) + accessories like kettlebell lateral lifts, hanging leg raises (all in kg) GYM: researched supplements to increase blood flow because I felt better on… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/25 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025I disagree. you don't know where I'm coming from. I'm making progress when it comes to lifting, I'm able to go to the gym without my system collapsing. I'm having a structured day not distracted with hours of porn or other numbing activities like gambling or drinking. my health significantly improved, I'm having a permanent position now. all of this took its time but it's happening. I've been naive and wanted to have life in easy mode, now I'm paying the price but I'm down with it. I agree, time… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025Chest flyes at a higher weight and volume than your bench press is a big red flag. I'm doing chest fly on the machine 9 weeks ago you were still benching 60 Kg. What progress have you made? yes, I plateaued at 60kg for weeks to month now and just recently finally pushed through. I don't wanna play the victim card but have to point out that I'm coming from health issues with chronic inflammation/autoimmune disease. I'm more than happy now being able to go to the gym 3x a week and not falling back… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/25 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025OYS 45 mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, married three years, together 15y+, no kids BF: 21.4% on digital scale, 18.9% navy method STATS: bench 60 for 2x8, incline chest press machine 20 for 2x8, deadlift trap bar 50 for 2x8, chest fly 61 for 2x12, Cable Bicep Curls 18 for 2x12, Cable Tricep PD 16 for 2x12, Zercher sq 25 for 2x8 (low int. bc of back issues) + accessories (all in kg) GYM: finally making progress. couldn’t push through 60 kg bench press for weeks to months, then finally hit 2x8 recently. I no… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/25 10:43 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 31, 2024OYS 44 mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids STATS bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift trap bar 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 ROUTINE upper / lower split, 3x week READING book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss MISSION stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. GENERAL I ended the year with a focus on what I want to achieve next year. By hav… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/24 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2024OYS 43: mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids STATS: bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 ROUTINE: upper / lower split, 4x week (AB rest AB), each exercise for 2x 8 READING: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss (no progress here) MISSION: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. HEALTH: Last two to three wee… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/24 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024I'm currently on a 'clean' diet, meaning little to no sugar, no white bread and stuff, avoiding processed foods. mostly organic bought from local producers. not supplementing omega3 but I try to have fish when possible, lots of chicken, not often red meat because it seems to worsen my skin condition as it potentially increases inflammation but my desire to eat it is high, I love a fatty steak. in general the diet described above already lead to good results in terms of reducing inflammation, as … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/24 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024haven't considered this, it's not a thing where I live but I will try to find it. thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/24 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024yeah it's what I'm doing for a long time already. talked to several doctors and got bounced around. blood levels, hormones, etc. next step would be to pay for private services, but that's above my budget atm. most often I got the answer to 'just live with this condition'. guess what, no. I read a lot and dived into multiple rabbit holes, to the point that I thought I have to stop chasing health in order to become healthy. it's not easy to find the right balance here. but I'm with you and agree t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024I'm having 80-100g of oat flakes with honey + creatine 1 hour before gym session. might test the rice next, also gonna increase the amount. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024I will do | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024thanks. I already tried mag glycinate but had the feeling it made me kind of tired, almost depressed. took it in the morning. can relate to the mentioned stress reaction. guess I have been a nice guy and as a result swallowed all anger. this isn't happening anymore, maybe that's part of the improvement I described in my oys. to your request: over-caring. bit isolated. can't express what she wants. tends to excessively collect things. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024good advice, thanks. I'm currently taking mag malate in the morning, 2g = 300mg. I remember taking mag oxide from a friend once (not lots of good reviews) and I ended up with heavy morning wood, might check it out again. I also have q10 in supplement form but stopped taking it bc I couldn't feel a difference. might have to check the numbers again and potentially increase intake. or I skip the supplement and introduce more animal products like heart and liver. vit-D comes with k2 and I take it wi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024OYS 42: mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids STATS: bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 ROUTINE: upper / lower split, 4x week (AB rest AB), each exercise for 2x 8 READING: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss MISSION: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. GYM: took a break of seven days because of an in… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 09:58 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024OYS 41 mid 30s, 190cm, 87kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids — stats: bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 routine: upper / lower split, 4x week (AB rest AB), each exercise for 2x 8 — reading: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss — mission: stop chasing pussy — let pussy chase me. -- gym, body went 2x, strength and cardio session on top of a trail hike day. back from my hiking trip to gym routine. with response to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024as for no sex, no initiations: besides not being attracted to her, do you feel sexual energy or is it lost? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/10/24 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024to me it seems like both offer a false mental model. comfort is associated with positive attributes while vulnerability is linked with weakness — on the first look. I see comfort as a dangerous one, similar to convenience ('convenience kills'). comfort means a lack of drive, one potentially neglects desire and urges by going for the safe route of comfort. by showing vulnerability one allows others to participate, to hook into a specific situation. vulnerability enables connection? it probably cr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/10/24 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024I forgot to add that I do cable face pulls on leg day. should I add another exercise or even two to leg day focusing on shoulder growth? the 2 set approach is a result of overtrained condition in the beginning of my journey leading to easy colds and infections. in case you would recommend ramping up to 3 sets I might drop a few exercises to remain the level of volume. edit: would you suggest doing exercises that load the spine but with very little weight in the beginning? I could see that work a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/10/24 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024my current program: --- upper chest: bench, incl bench, chest fly back: iso lat pull, seated row, deadlift arms: triceps pull down, standing triceps overhead pull core: kettlebell bear pull through --- lower quad: leg extension, box squats hamstrings: leg curls calfs: standing calf raises stability: kettlebell chops, kettlebell halos I didn't say that I'm unhappy with results. quite the opposite, during last weeks my body starts tramsforming quite well. the areas I mentioned (upper chest, should… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024OYS 40 mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids — stats: bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 — reading: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss — mission: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. --- gym good week, went 2x to the gym and did another session at home with bodyweight. I'm travelling and do a lot of … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024when we talk about letting go and accepting the pain, I don't fully understand the point of accepting not having sex like u/witchdoctor_1 shares in his oys. there he says it's been a month since having sex and that his urges are no longer present. this could be seen as accepting the pain, living in the moment and focusing on other areas. instead he gets cooked for not fucking. is the only important difference in this scenario that he doesn't fuck because he has no options to fuck? this is not ac… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/09/24 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024thanks, good advice. might be time for a hrt monitor and get to work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024yes I am willing to let go. I have been at a similar place some oys ago but couldn't follow through, fell back into old habits and patterns. I already learned to be present in the moment, to not depend on others and to free myself from my ego. in my head this already makes sense but my body doesn't follow. I am not truly living it, something is still missing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024focus on (restoring) your gut health when there is a history of poor diet / lots of sugar. learn about it and apply the changes accordingly. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024take into consideration what part of her cycle she was in while you had the talk. things can change from a day to another. you are stuck in your head because you take the conversation too seriously. stop talking about sex and rules. I just had the same conversation some weeks ago and I can tell you that none of it matters any longer. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024I let external factors control my life, my well being and self worth is linked to validation in form of being sexual desired by others or having success in other areas like career or sports; even though I told myself that this isn't true weeks and months before and yet here I am again. I lived a life pleasing others while ignoring or potentially not even knowing what I really want, and if I felt a sense of desire I shut it down because of social norms. I played it safe and didn't realize until n… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024reality is I've been living a life I don't want. I haven't been brave enough to recognize it and act accordingly, instead I've been stuck in a negative loop by depending on validation from external factors, especially sex. the worse my environment got (bad sex), the less I tried to participate in life and the more I chased the good feelz by wanting it even more. I removed myself, a form of being butthurt about life I guess. this hurt my personal growth, my marriage and I wasted years doing so. I… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024I guess there is a short and a long answer to that question. the short one is obvious: not wasting any more time and moving on. the longer one should take other factors into consideration and most likely only fuels overthinking. EDIT: my actions depend on my goal, so to know the next step I have to know what I want before what I meant with my paragraph about how to stop being butthurt targeted the endless loop in my head that's triggered by not getting what I want, especially when it comes to se… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/24 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024OYS 39 mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids — stats: Upper / Lower: bench 60, incline bench 50, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 — reading: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss — mission: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. — gym: currently traveling for two more weeks. gym 1x, other times went hiking, bike tours and doing uppe… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024I don't disregard what you said. I'm open for suggestions and thankful for your input. probably I should stop (over)thinking and just start doing (fucking). | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/09/24 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024I get your point, but I don't agree that it's the case for me. genuine desire is increasing, I can feel arousel coming back simply by looking at a womans body, and not depending on how she acts. I don't hold back with my initiations waiting for her to be as submissive as I want her to be, I hold back bc currently my attempts are still mostly rejected as I haven't fixed my frame yet. and the example after the fight is valid imo, bc the fight happened about the topic of me always wanting and pushi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/09/24 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024I agree, I felt great energy in form of sexual arousel and was close to act on it. I didn't as it felt like taking advantage of the situation and the 'bigger' move was to 'let her go', or maybe that's how I'm rationalizing my way of holding back. however, I'm still careful in this area, because it feels like I want her in that vulnerable position and only then I can be the sexual person I truely am. I fear the thought that I need my sexual partner in a 100% submissive position or I'm not into it… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024OYS 38 mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids — stats: Upper / Lower: bench 60, incline bench 50, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 — reading: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss — mission: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come as a consequence. — gym: another good week, even though my numbers still stagnate. bench press is stuck at 60kg, on some da… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/24 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024yes, since I gained weight on purpose (around 10kg over a span of 1.5 years) I recently started snoring as my wife told me. she even wakes me up from time to time, thinking I might have stopped breathing. so I got a sleep analysis recently and there is no sign of sleep apnea. blood oxygen levels have been steady all night and decibel levels remained around mid range levels, too. I'm using a nose strip for improved breathing. you got other tips to improve nightly recovering? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/09/24 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024just started with dl some weeks ago. as said above, my body adapted over the years to the pain caused by the herniated discs and established wrong movement patterns. this isn't unusual and can take many different forms. neurologist confirmed a decrease nerve signaling right side with around 20-30%. in my case the legs, lower back and pelvic region is weak af. when doing dl, at the lowest point exactly when force has to be generated from the legs in order to lift the weight, almost nothing happen… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/09/24 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024at the moment, yes. or I have to increase the intake. having at least one organic beet root raw daily. might have to add others for some variety. besides NO rich foods I will look into and potential start taking benfotiamine, fat soluble b1 vitamin, for metabolism, energy and muscle health. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024dl weak af, coming from wrong movement patterns based on herniated discs some years ago leading to muscle imbalance/ wrong movement execution. now rebuilding strength but I have to fucking start at zero bc back is still painful. T getting checked this week sleep is a priority with 7-8 h per night. last weeks I tend to sleep with interruptions but won't overstress this for now. diet I'm trying to cut some carbs and increase good fats instead. otherwise on point, mostly organic, balanced, unproces… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024I'm just tapping into the low carb high fat kind if diet. T getting checked this week | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024OYS 37 (posted as gardentreadmill before) mid 30s, 190cm, 88kg, 20% bf, married three years, no kids — stats: Upper / Lower: bench 60, incline bench 50, deadlift 40, leg extension 32.5, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 — reading: book of yareally, the truth by neill strauss — mission: stop thinking, start doing. default to action. reset every day, focus on myself and enjoy the good things that come with it as a byproduct. — gym: last week I finished all my workouts as planned. during… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 09:39 AM |
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