GivMeLiberty Archive

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34	They all lie, trust your gut. No unicorns. I’d say the lesson here is in part that, sure, women lie, but more importantly, you’ve gotta take the emotion out of the equation and look at your situation objectively. I’m guilty of staying in relationships I should’ve left sooner, too. But reading this, the second I read “3 year relationship” my thought was like cmon man. Don’t beat yourself up for letting your brain convince you of what you wanted to believe, just learn for the next time that that’s part of your nature to do so, as it is par…	/r/TheRedPill	26/07/26 11:10 PM
3	Gf disrespected me - don't know what to do The shit test wasn’t whether you’d let her comment get to you, it was whether you’d allow such a disrespectful comment at all bro. Yes the thing to do is to remain calm and in control of your emotions, but that doesn’t mean you tolerate disrespect. “I’m sure you didn’t mean that to be as disrespectful as it was but do not ever make a comment like that again” “But i was just…-“ “I’ll stop you there, I’m not upset and we don’t need to talk about it any further, eat your food :)”	/r/TheRedPill	25/07/26 05:01 PM
4	If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be? Right? Lol other boxes he didn’t check included - Secure income (he was a live musician when they met playing local gigs, very wealthy now though) - No children from previous relationships (single father, but a very good one at that) - Catholic So this list wasn’t just some cute list with no deliberate thought put into it too!	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/26 07:26 PM
8	If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be? “I had written this long list of things that I wanted my husband to have and the only one your father checked off was that he was hairy” - my mom Her and my father have a been married 30 years and are very happy together	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/26 05:35 PM
6	How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing? I was able to “forgive” and even start to appreciate the opposite sex for the uglier aspects of their nature by genuinely realizing that the uglier aspects of their nature are out of their control and necessary for the parts that I find attractive.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/26 05:39 PM
1	What do you consider as feminine and how can you help a tom boy out? I realized that the biggest factor that contributes to my perception of a woman’s femininity is her appearance. Not in a shallow “tits and ass” way, I mean a self-care and makes-an-effort-to-present-well way. I’ve noticed with partners of mine how self-care, however simple or complex it was, that was generally performed for beauty/health reasons did a lot for them. There was some structure and routine to it, which mitigates some degree of uncertainty which femininity doesn’t like. There was a se…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/26 04:05 AM
3	Guys Who Get Women on a Deep Level: Has It Killed Your Ability to Fall in Love? I’d claim to understand women because, to me, their behavior is mostly predictable. I’d claim to understand women on a “deep” level because I have realized that vulnerability is the primary driver of their behaviors. At present, I am convinced that my ability to fall in love is contingent on whether I am able to find beauty in that, which I can, and whether I am able to separate my own emotions/impulses from that, which I am actively working on. In the same vein, it is my current opinion that ta…	/r/TheRedPill	05/05/26 09:02 PM
2	About men's mentality A lot of red pill truths are only truths because they’re based in certain biological truths. Things have changed a LOT for humanity over the past couple centuries at a rate faster than our instincts can adapt. Think in the context of when we were actually evolving the sexual instincts that we still have, during the hundreds of thousands of years before the industrial revolution / capitalism / modern life / civilized society. Having a baby is brutal on a woman’s body. A woman’s physical capabilit…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/04/26 08:02 AM
11	Bf texted another girl to compliment her There are very limited circumstances that would make it appropriate to call another woman beautiful while in a committed relationship. I’m struggling to think of any circumstances that don’t involve the fact that she’d look beautiful for another man. Like, it’s your wedding day, you look beautiful (unspoken that it is for your groom). You’re on your way to a date, you look beautiful (for your date). You’ve disclosed some insecurities to me, you look beautiful (to everyone). What I think you shou…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/26 08:46 PM
1	Do men really treat older women as they describe on the internet? I’m a Christian FWIW. But the concept of only being with one man can be explained in the same context of our instincts/evolution. Before birth control, DNA tests, etc… a woman who slept with multiple men had no way of knowing certainly who the father was. You realistically HAD to save yourself for the father of your children if you wanted him to actually invest any resources (which, at the time are immensely valuable for his and your survival) in you and the child. Otherwise, all of his instinct…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/26 05:21 PM
1	AskTRP Megathread How did I find them? Honestly just whatever circumstances were at the time happened to put me in the position where I’d be exposed to them, discovering some interest that motivated me to explore further.	/r/TheRedPill	29/03/26 08:05 PM
1	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? A lot of people have misinterpreted my response in which I chose my words very carefully. There is no advice in my response. I also do not share any personal preferences of mine. This was me sharing my personal experience and the conclusions I drew from it, which I felt was a perspective that was relevant to the discussion and that may be valuable to expose the OP to. I’m aware this is a woman’s sub, I lurk here because I learn a lot, too, from it. I comment occasionally when I think I have some…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/26 05:15 AM
1	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? Haha now you’re getting the hang of it!	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/26 12:45 AM
0	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? I’m sure some men like that exist, but the overwhelming majority of them would be that exception i made referring to men who are solely sexually motivated.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/26 10:01 PM
2	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? I should remind you you’re in the red pill subreddit… we’re not here to talk about what’s fair or who deserves what… we’re talking about realities of sexual strategy. You are entitled to your opinions about that reality. I’d also suggest you reread my post. No where do I say this is fair, this is how things should be done, or that my own experience doesn’t impact my own capacity for intimacy. I’m only sharing my own observations and thoughts from my own experience. I agree, there is value in wai…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/26 10:00 PM
11	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? With the woman I’ve dated, I’ve noticed it was much easier to form meaningful/fulfilling/genuine/intimate relationships with those who were less experienced with prior relationships/love/sex. I’ve noticed the less experienced women have a greater appreciation for the relationship. (Edit to add: these women seem substantially happier as well.) I am convinced the reason for this is a mix of being more sensitive to new stimuli, being naive or ignorant to the problems that can come from a failed rel…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/26 01:20 PM
7	I am overly picky when dating This was some really vague advice but it’s good this guy shared some of your relevant post history. I was also in OPs shoes once and it was one of the most developmental periods of my life. I am now in a healthy relationship with a great girl who would make a great wife. I understand how engaging and exciting it can be to be in a relationship with a hot, sought-after, and emotional girl. But there is a higher level of intimacy and passion obtainable with a girl who genuinely convinces you they’d…	/r/RPChristians	11/03/26 02:48 PM
4	Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase. I’d add that the men’s “anger phase” really only ends when the man starts taking accountability for everything in his life. There are some uglier aspects of female behavior and nature, but they exist by necessity. For a long time, a woman’s choice of a mate was a big factor in their survival. It’s not for no reason that their instincts tell them to seek out high value men. So step one is to forgive women for their nature and their selectivity, which is easier if you realize that it comes from a …	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/26 02:53 AM
44	What Having a Personal Trainer Taught Me About Social Dynamics with Women I’m not bagging on your post, just I fail to believe you couldn’t find anything yet related to women gravitating towards “dominance and control” and things in a similar vein in this sub lol. But to actually contribute to the thread, I’d say that I think personal trainers offer are a great example that a lot of men could gain some hope or insight from. A lot of Personal trainers really dont have that much money or many resources. But they’ve generally got attractive physiques and their career req…	/r/TheRedPill	24/02/26 02:17 AM
8	My(29f) fiancé (34m) is sole provider for his family ^ this No one on Reddit can tell you your fiance’s plan is here… only he can. That said, if I were you, I’d pause any further wedding planning / home buying until this is 100% sorted out.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/26 01:34 AM
23	Information Became a Skinner Box Good read but someone has to comment on the irony of it :)	/r/TheRedPill	18/02/26 01:32 AM
2	Do men really treat older women as they describe on the internet? I think you have a misunderstanding of what exactly is attractive to men about younger women. In a purely biological sense, younger women display more physical traits of a more favorable mate. That is, they are younger and thus have more years of good health ahead of themselves and their reproductive organs. I won’t get into a whole lesson on evolution, but basically (over millions of years), the males who were sexually attracted to older females had less of a chance of successfully reproducing …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/26 05:10 PM
6	I’m with a good man, i’m near the wall, but he wants to continue living in the state we relocated to and it’s nearly unbearable for me. To stay and be tolerably unhappy, or go and find a man who isn’t so passive? I guess I’d say you’ve had 10 years to find a way to be happy with him, do you think year 11 will be different?	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/26 10:31 PM
10	I’m with a good man, i’m near the wall, but he wants to continue living in the state we relocated to and it’s nearly unbearable for me. To stay and be tolerably unhappy, or go and find a man who isn’t so passive? This is just my opinion, but I strongly believe this relationship would end in <1 month if you were not having sex. I’m not the biggest preacher against pre-marital sex, but there is truth to the fact that it clouds the judgement of both parties when evaluating their happiness and compatibility within a relationship. The first thing you mention when it comes to “relationship pros” is the sex. Actually, sex takes up more than half of your “relationship pros” section. The remaining body text of yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/26 05:00 PM
10	Worried I will come off as career driven or too educated when I’m not. Should I avoid a masters try to change into a helping career? I’m a man so I can’t understand what you’re feeling but I can share a mans perspective. It is unlikely that any man finds your corporate career unattractive. The unattractive “boss babe” stigma you’re referring to isn’t defined by having a career or being a responsible/independent adult woman, the unattractive “boss babe” has an overly-inflated ego that presents as arrogance based upon comparing her own independence to women who’d choose to be a wife and be dependent on a man. Think about how yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/26 02:36 AM
15	Should a guy visit your city as opposed to you going to his for a first date? I think any man who puts you in a position to speak up on behalf of your own safety is either A. Very ignorant B. Making little effort … more than likely the latter. To clarify, I’m not saying he’s dangerous, I’m saying he’s deliberately choosing to ignore the real danger that women face when online dating for his own convenience. Under different circumstances (i.e. not online dating strangers) there would be some more nuance to my answer. But in any case, I wouldn’t want my daughter to be an ho…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/26 11:49 PM
8	Followed RP advice in my 20s. Now in my 30s and financially well off. Where is the RP financial advice?	/r/TheRedPill	13/01/26 05:07 PM
19	Can RPW cause a 180° change? Yes. Based on how your post reads, I think RPW’s biggest impact on you would be reshaping your mindset towards dating to one where you are more selective. Vetting is a big part of what they teach, I’m not an expert but I believe if you had better vetted those 20 men who didn’t commit to you, you would’ve actually only ended up wasting any time on going on maybe a few dates with a handful of them. You should be able to at least sniff out whether commitment is on the table before sex, realisticall…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/26 05:40 AM
26	Do men really treat older women as they describe on the internet? Yes and no. Men who objectify and assign the value of women entirely based on what they can offer sexually do exist. I wouldn’t concern yourself with these men, they tend to have poor character and judgement and many insecurities, or are purely just speaking out of spite. The people who think older women are “useless” are the ones who will select for one partner over another purely because they have bigger boobs. Most men don’t feel any distaste towards older women, they just lack the same insti…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/26 07:27 PM
5	How to do your bloodwork tests? I’m no pro but been in the bodybuilding/AAS world for a while. If you google “order my own blood tests / blood labs / etc” you will be able to order them yourself without a doc. They’re kinda expensive, insurance usually will only covered doctor-ordered lab work. Go for a comprehensive panel for men’s health. Whatever else your concerns are, but I’d strongly recommend every man off of TRT tests their total testosterone, free testosterone, ultra sensitive estrogen, SHBG, and TSH. You can self med…	/r/TheRedPill	07/01/26 04:12 PM
1	How Feminism Ushered in Rule of The Pimp That’s true. The thought occurred to me that there’s likely people among me who do engage and leave me out of it. I’m just surprised that it has literally never once came up, even when I have been apart of countless conversations where it would’ve fit the context among people who could be honest with each other and trust they wouldn’t face that backlash you’re referring to. And that’s also something I hadn’t considered. A more casual use of those subscription services. The internet makes it seem…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/01/26 07:45 AM
2	How Feminism Ushered in Rule of The Pimp That read was more well-articulated than I expected from “Powered by Orgasm” Lol. I don’t know of any men in my circle who engage on only fans or with sex workers, maybe I’m ignorant to how large that has gotten. This article makes it seem like that is like the average male behavior today, but I’ve always been convinced that men who participate are of a small minority. I see a lot of sugar daddy/baby relationships, does that fall within the realm of this discussion? Even then, it seems to me lik…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/01/26 05:08 AM
1	How do you see the traditional wife role—toughest job or easiest path? My opinion is rooted mostly in speculation as an unmarried man. But I think, just as there are difficult jobs that men are better equipped for than women such that it might even be easy for a man while being difficult for a woman, there are jobs that are the inverse of that. Homemaking being one of them. I think the overall perception of the traditional wife role is spit into two hemispheres, one that fixates on “stay-at-home” and stigmatizes the role and one that fixates on the duties that come…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/25 07:23 AM
3	The Female Manipulation Index: 11 Tactics That Bend Reality, Steal Peace, and Leak Power This is a very well-articulated post. I don’t know exactly how TRP presents or stores MVP-level information, but I’d say this post needs to be right there on page 1 or 2 of the “frame” chapter. I’d recommend to any men that, if they identify any of the behaviors OP mentions among their partner, that they IMMEDIATELY address it, or even call it out. The best thing for my relationships and my own happiness/well-being has been to call out any sort of undesirable behavior from my partner and immedia…	/r/TheRedPill	21/12/25 01:41 AM
5	For some time now I've been trying to understand the mechanisms of attraction in women and how their minds work; correct me if you see any error. I agree with you and OP, I still think it’s poorly worded. Instead of “women are extremely intelligent in social filtering”, I’d say “women’s instincts are very adept and well-refined for filtering sexual partners and perceiving social hierarchies” or something like that. A good example of what I’m suggesting is that women get the “ick”, they don’t consciously, rationally think “this guy sees me as his source of validation therefore he is weak and I am not attracted to him”. Maybe they’ll work t…	/r/TheRedPill	05/12/25 07:11 PM
26	For some time now I've been trying to understand the mechanisms of attraction in women and how their minds work; correct me if you see any error. I read the first few paragraphs and then I decided I’d just reply. I stopped reading after “red pill is based on… hypergamy” If I had to chalk TRP up to one single principle, it’d be frame. I’d stop wasting so much time trying to understand women if I were you. Ironically, I didn’t understood women like I do today until I stopped trying to. There is value in being able to rationalize concepts like hypergamy, shit testing, alpha/beta, etc.. But women aren’t going to give you time to whip out your…	/r/TheRedPill	04/12/25 02:41 PM
2	Update on my previous post: A man I used to be only casually involved with asked to spend time together and is showing a lot of changes in his behavior. How should I proceed to explore this safely? That’s great news, I’m happy for you! That removes many doubts I would’ve had. It sounds like he has a genuine interest in seeing things through. I’d also say it speaks a lot to his maturity/awareness/discipline to be able to abstain from sex and evaluate things with clearer judgement. I’d only still advise you to proceed with caution. That’s a really great update but I still wouldn’t ignore the comment about not feeling emotionally towards any woman for 4 years. Still, that comment is much less…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/11/25 01:04 AM
5	Need advice: I want to please my wife, but I'm stressed... Earrings are for women and homosexuals. Without knowing anything about both of you, my guess is she just saw some guy with earrings in a movie or somewhere, thought it looked good and thought the look is replicable on you. Any sort of sexual excitement she’d get from this is likely more to do with having her mark on your appearance, not necessarily the fact that it’s an earring. Think how some people might find giving their partner a hickey exciting. Regardless, I think the degree to which you’r…	/r/RPChristians	29/11/25 07:52 AM
–	[F26] I'm trapped in a cycle of craving "Alphas" who treat me like dirt. How do I stop self-sabotaging and choose a good man? “Getting” the women I wanted wasn’t ever really a struggle. But now i am able to also get the dynamic or the relationship that i want with those women, if that makes sense. My partners respect me, they are more feminine, they almost always tell me they feel “safe” with me.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/25 12:12 PM
5	[F26] I'm trapped in a cycle of craving "Alphas" who treat me like dirt. How do I stop self-sabotaging and choose a good man? To put it bluntly, this reads like it was written by a woman, possibly with a promiscuous past, who is now realizing she is not as desirable as she was when she was younger and is confused why garnering commitment is not as easy as it once was. “Alpha” and some of the traits you mentioned (rebellious, emotionally-unavailable, manipulative) are not mutually exclusive but they’re also not synonymous. I’m not a woman and don’t know what to tell you to help you become attracted to men who’d actually…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/25 11:38 AM
3	Update on my previous post: A man I used to be only casually involved with asked to spend time together and is showing a lot of changes in his behavior. How should I proceed to explore this safely? A guy in his mid thirties “opening up about his past relationships” to someone he views as a casual sex partner sounds weird to me. Which is me saying that either he views you differently or he’s a weirdo. I’d encourage you not to feel scared of anything. It sounds like you’re already emotionally invested in him, which would be evidence to me that casual sexual relationships aren’t for you. IMO they don’t go well for any woman. But it’d help your worries to remind yourself of what you stand to l…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/11/25 03:28 AM
17	3 Ways to 10x Your Dating (Using Evolutionary Psychology) I think if your point is to use evolutionary psychology to your advantage in sexual strategy, then you need to speak in the context of evolution. Get shredded you are physically capable of handling / protecting against environmental and other physical threats (woman monkey brain is safe) you are physically capable of acquiring resources (woman monkey brain is fed) you already acquire enough resources to maintain your good health (woman monkey brain will also enjoy good health) Hang with winners …	/r/TheRedPill	20/11/25 07:34 PM
2	Update on my previous post: A man I used to be only casually involved with asked to spend time together and is showing a lot of changes in his behavior. How should I proceed to explore this safely? If he is genuinely considering a serious relationship with you as he’s showing these signs of interest, then your reciprocating interest shouldn’t put him off. If there is truth to my theory that he harbors some insecurity towards serious relationships with women then I think your showing interest may even ease his mind a bit. Maybe this is easier said than done as someone who doesn’t understand your fear of rejection. But really what do you stand to lose here? A casual sexual partner? Are you t…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/25 03:55 AM
5	Update on my previous post: A man I used to be only casually involved with asked to spend time together and is showing a lot of changes in his behavior. How should I proceed to explore this safely? Seems like he explained his feelings pretty clearly. For all this conversation, it sounded like you missed a good opportunity to explicitly ask him the questions that you’re now asking Reddit. But based on your conversation it sounds like he’s open to exploring a more serious dynamic with you. If you are open to it as well, then I’d advise against seeing or dating other men until you have seen things through with this guy. You don’t need to give him full exclusivity and reject other men, but if …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/25 10:02 PM
1	2026 is 2 months away. How do you upgrade yourself as a man? Have and maintain a good attitude whenever possible Hold yourself accountable for everything in your life. Which will make having and maintaining a good attitude easier, among many other benefits. Find that 1:1 ratio marginal effort to improve your physical appearance and marginal return and be consistent with it. Never stop striving for progress in your career. I don’t know if other men struggle with this because I don’t see it talked about. But I find myself rapidly advancing, reaching a comfo…	/r/TheRedPill	17/11/25 05:34 AM
5	Dating with a promiscuous past I used to be one of the guys with the obsessive thoughts about my partners sexual pasts. My advice for you: Recognize it is wired into all men’s instincts to have at a MINIMUM some discomfort around the topic of their partner’s sexual pasts. It’s just the reality, forgive men for it. Actually forgive yourself for your past to the point that you no longer carry any resentment towards it. You’re miles ahead of other women who are not even reflecting on their own decision-making like you are. I’m n…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/25 06:58 PM
16	Field Report: Greeting My Husband At the Door After Work I’m just a single guy on my own so maybe this is subject to change in the future, but I believe I’d much prefer reminders like this, that the people who are dependent on me at home are just happy and excited to see me which would be evidence to me that I am fulfilling my own duties in the relationship, over any sort of explicit verbal expression of appreciation/gratitude. Reading this has made my day and makes me hopeful to one day have a relationship similar to yours. I’ll share that I fantasiz…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/25 08:18 PM
6	I’m not sure the man I’m dating has a romantic interest in me. How should I navigate this? Hookup culture is pretty rampant in the US and many men will try to distance themselves from it by deliberately withholding sexual advances. He’s planning dates with you so he’s definitely interested. He might be less sexually aggressive as an effort to demonstrate good intentions.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/25 10:52 PM
4	I’m not sure the man I’m dating has a romantic interest in me. How should I navigate this? I’m unsure the culture here so this might not be accurate. If OP was among my peers, than to me it sounds like he’s even making a deliberate effort to demonstrate that he’s respectful and not only interested in sex.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/25 09:42 PM
21	What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage? I’d add, only base “fair” off of what you and your partner agree is “fair” and not on what the rest of the world deems “fair” and keep your “fair” arrangement to yourselves and inside your relationship. Everyone will have their own opinion and red pill relationships tend to garner some stronger opinions from a lot of people. Don’t worry about others and focus on what works for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/25 09:11 PM
2	How would yall handle this Eh. Part of being that man I’m referring to in my comment is doing a lot of things you might not be comfortable doing. Unless by “comfortable doing” you mean things that are within reason. Obviously there’s nuance. But removing problems and stressors from women’s lives is not something I’d do if it wasn’t rewarding. The point is to do them from a strong frame.	/r/TheRedPill	14/08/25 12:12 AM
10	How would yall handle this You can be redpilled and be kind/gentlemanly/chivalrous, too. You can talk about to what degree you driving an hour and a half to save her $40 on an uber was beta. You can talk about whether the sexier thing to do was to reject the favor or to call her a ride yourself or whatever. Or you can stop thinking so much and just hold frame. If you’re available and feel like it, offer the ride. If you’re unavailable or don’t feel like it, decline. People gotta stop looking at red pill as some formula fo…	/r/TheRedPill	13/08/25 05:35 AM
3	How to Find a God Fearing Woman I’d say that you need to focus on identifying a woman’s values earlier (you mentioned a TWO-YEAR relationship) and controlling your emotions/impulses instead of allowing yourself to fall in love with women you’re incompatible with. The best way to find any type of woman would be to be direct and forward with them when inquiring about them and when sharing what you are looking. A nice bonus is that they will respect you more for being direct and forward about your intentions, which will help to i…	/r/RPChristians	26/05/25 10:17 PM
2	I (27f) saw texts on my bf (31) phone from exes It’s possible the messages were faked, but this does happen.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/25 05:32 PM
1	Do you like "bad boys"? I’m a man. For lack of a better way of putting it, I’ve always believed there’s a threshold when it comes to male hygiene/fashion/fitness where it goes from appearing like taking-care-of-oneself to appearing homosexual. When it comes to how I dress, I literally only own/wear tanks/shorts while I work (construction) and button ups / jeans for any other occasion. I’m curious to what extent you mean they “don’t think about fashion”. A total disregard for their environment and wearing what is comfor…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/25 12:02 AM
2	Vermillion-Rx AMA Thank you for the detailed response. I’ve always imagined myself as kind of the opposite of autistic. Instinctually, I’m highly aware of social cues. I have a very strong social intuition. It takes zero conscious or deliberate thought to perceive others when communicating. But, when actually processing what I gather in social situations, this can lead to over-analysis and trip me up on allowing natural and charismatic but still rational and non-reactive responses to flow. I’m 6’5 and lean/muscul…	/r/TheRedPill	05/04/25 08:28 PM
5	Vermillion-Rx AMA My understanding of autism in short is that across the spectrum there are varying degrees of ability/inability to comprehend/process social/psychological cues. I’m not on the spectrum and just haven’t been exposed to autists very much in life, forgive me if I’m way off there. If my understanding is generally correct, does that serve you any benefits socially? Either with women or life in general? If my understanding is incorrect, please correct it. But then same question, does it serve you any b…	/r/TheRedPill	04/04/25 09:08 PM
2	It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate? IMO, pulling back now isn’t a good move. But it’d definitely warrant having an open conversation with him about it if you decide you need to do that. If he really just needs some time to decide if he wants to commit to you and if your current relationship with him is going well, I wouldn’t turn things sideways by withdrawing after the fact. Again, he was open with you about wanting time.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/25 01:41 AM
1	It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate? It depends on this guy who we don’t know much about and the nature of the “lack of respect” you keep referring to. But the bottom line is he did tell you he’d need six months and you should respect that boundary. But to be blunt, I can’t imagine any circumstances that would make me need 6 months to decide if I wanted to be with someone and if I am willing to commit to someone... I’d do your best to step out of your own perspective and look objectively at his behavior while he’s known you and con…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/25 01:39 AM
10	It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate? You kinda set yourself up for failure here by giving him everything a committed partner has to offer before recieving the commitment you want in return. It sounds like he was open with you about the 6 month timeline. That puts the ball in your court to decide if that is satisfactory or if you need to leave him. I’m not sure what you mean by how you’re not “respecting” him how he needs to be respected but if that’s been an issue, I’d suggest you be prepared for him to leave you if you don’t respe…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/25 11:11 PM
1	From A Psychological Perspective, It Pays More To Be An Asshole, Even When A Woman Is Being Nice To You I thought about this for awhile after reading your question. I’d say I prioritize myself, but it’s worth noting that advancing my own interests often requires that I advance my partner’s interest. I am a good person and it’s important to me that my partner is happy and enjoys my presence. I have a genuine interest in treating my partners well. It is in my interests to reward certain behaviors by advancing my partner’s interests. This isn’t to say this is how I’m thinking about it in the moment w…	/r/TheRedPill	06/01/25 02:31 AM
1	From A Psychological Perspective, It Pays More To Be An Asshole, Even When A Woman Is Being Nice To You Yup… been there. Sucks. Learned from it though and now I’m just rock solid up front. This specific encounter was a bit of a first for me but it definitely pays to demand that respect early on and walk away if it’s not given.	/r/TheRedPill	30/12/24 11:10 PM
1	From A Psychological Perspective, It Pays More To Be An Asshole, Even When A Woman Is Being Nice To You Theres a lot. I hadn’t been seeing this girl too long, so I kept it pretty short. Specifically, I told this girl something like “before we can be in a committed relationship, I’d like for us to have the degree of trust in each other such that, when I tell you to do something, you understand that there is a good reason for me telling you to do it and you do it without protest.” I’m sure I worded it differently, but I still intended to convey the message as bluntly and forwardly as possible. I WAN…	/r/TheRedPill	29/12/24 06:45 PM
31	Anyone else cant wait to get married? This post reads like you view your education as an obstacle to you dating and/or finding a partner… is that what you’re suggesting? Why?	/r/RedPillWomen	28/12/24 09:47 PM
98	From A Psychological Perspective, It Pays More To Be An Asshole, Even When A Woman Is Being Nice To You I think this is a quality post, but I also think it doesn’t read the way I’d have written it. In my experience, it’s not necessarily being an asshole that evokes attraction from women. I think women would find being an asshole attractive when it is necessary. I think women find it attractive when a man acts like an “asshole” when it comes to things like teasing or being unapologetically themselves or standing firm in their beliefs despite being in the minority. But just being a dick hasn’t reall…	/r/TheRedPill	26/12/24 08:49 PM
2	If TRP believes it’s mostly unsustainable to meep LTRs, why does it always blame the guy if the girl leaves him? IMO, red pill would argue that as a man, you are fully accountable for the things in your life. No one cares whose fault what was and you shouldn’t either because dwelling on it accomplishes nothing, you should care about end results. I own a small business. If my crew is late to a job and the customer is pissed, they don’t care to hear my honest explanation that someone called out sick and it took me awhile to find a sub. My crew was late, end of story. I can write it off as something that was …	/r/TheRedPill	11/12/24 04:18 AM
1	Handling Impotence in Marriage TELL HIM TO TRY CARDIO!!! An erection only happens if your heart can pump blood into your penis. Very common with big guys like myself, if your cardiovascular system isn’t strong enough to actually get that blood into the penis, then it’s not going to be strong enough to get an erection or keep an erection after you start moving. The answer to that is cardio and kegels. Have him do 30 minutes of LISS cardio (120BPM-140BPM is the target HR) everyday. Maybe start him out doing 1 hour for the first…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/24 09:49 PM
8	why are simps/beta males against passport bros? Because the local women are against passport bros and the simps/beta males let those women define their own opinions, at least publicly. Their MO is to offer whatever validation they need to to receive something in exchange.	/r/TheRedPill	22/09/24 11:34 PM
1	Only getting approached by very young guys Then that’s just the cards your dealt and you’ll have to learn to navigate them. I’m a very large guy and I learned many men would feel threatened and get unusually standoff-ish towards me. I’ve adopted a goofier, less-intense personality that’s helped smooth out many social situations, especially with strangers. You look extremely young, people instinctively will treat how you look unless you compensate with your personality. My current girlfriend is 22 but she could pass for a well developed t…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/24 07:17 AM
16	Only getting approached by very young guys I’m 24M so still maybe not within the age group you’re seeking and maybe my advice doesn’t apply. IME, almost all men find short, petite, and/or young-looking women attractive. Idk if this applies to you, but I always try to find some evidence that these women are of legal age before approaching. Whether that be a tattoo, maybe we are in a 21+ place, something like that. Maybe this is just me, but the fear of accidentally approaching an underage girl in public is a big deterrent for me and unles…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/24 07:35 PM
11	Wanting to be married and a SAHM but not yet and don’t know what to do? Unless you’re leaving out more details about the “income threshold” conversation you two had, I think the answer to your question will be found in a more open and in-depth conversation. I thing some things to ask him might be: Is there a specific $ amount he needs to reach to feel prepared for marriage and so you can SAH? How far from that goal is he currently? What steps is he taking to reach that goal? Can he offer any realistic timeline of when he might hit that threshold? And then some thing…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/24 04:00 AM
0	Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what? I must’ve misinterpreted. You’re right, in this sub I suppose a lot of the basics can go unstated. The part I disagreed with was the part about sorting out those details later. That is what sounded reckless to me. I’d argue that in today’s dating climate, if you’re seeking this type of relationship, you could waste a lot of time not sorting those details out early. And about the age thing, I don’t mean to simply say “find someone older”. I moreso mean that, in the interest of not wasting time or…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/24 03:00 AM
3	Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what? You offered your disclaimer that your input may differ from others, and I was going to chime in that I’d almost offer completely different advice. Yes, OP is young and has lots of experiences ahead of her before she enters the type of relationship she’s seeking. But in the most respectful way possible, all young girls bear some degree of naiveté and are to some degree very impressionable. This makes them vulnerable and opens them up to emotional abuse and manipulation. I’d argue that your advice…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/24 02:39 AM
17	Church elders White Knight! Simps appear and try to prevent young men from getting red pill truth! Recently a few young men at church asked me for advice on dating, and "getting da girls", unbeknown to me church elders eavesdropped and lost their minds! I think the majority of the Church has gone pretty soft and it doesn’t place enough of an emphasis on the role of biblical masculinity today as it once did. I’m a Christian, there are aspects of the red pill (mostly just the sexmaxing) that don’t align with biblical masculinity, but I see nothing wrong with the advice you were sharing with your guys. There’s a duty of man to lead a woman. But a man doesn’t owe a random woman he’s interested in anything she wants/desires/needs. A husband is to lo…	/r/TheRedPill	05/04/24 01:03 AM
3	Is anyone else annoyed by redpilled friends bringing it up on every discussion? I’d be embarrassed to be seen with a late 20s man throwing “beta” accusations around. But yeah sounds like a late bloomer and I’m sure he’ll get through the phase once someone straightens him out. Only takes 1-2 times of explicitly talking ab RP stuff and being met with a negative reaction before one realizes that it’s great strategy… but not a great conversation topic.	/r/TheRedPill	26/03/24 12:28 AM
5	How not to become a plate & still avoid "the talk"? It sounds like you’re doing all the other things right and it sounds like he has genuine interest in you with the frequent communication and planning dates out. Eventually he’ll make some sort of sexual advance or open that conversation… you sound well-versed in the Red Pill stuff… this initial conversation is kind of like a male version of a “shit-test” where he’ll be vetting your own perception of your sexual value. Just like how a shit-test on a man would be an opportunity to demonstrate if h…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/03/24 11:09 PM
7	Guys I date don’t compliment my physical appearance I’m not saying your confidence is an issue. But you commented on your confidence and objectively, confidence can come off as masculine at times. I do feel much more naturally inclined to compliment women who come off shy, not insecure with low-self-esteem, not coy, just shy. I feel like I get a more rewarding reaction to compliment a girl who doesn’t carry herself as though she’s received compliments all day. And “shy” might not be the best word either… but if you’re a model, you may want to try…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/24 03:02 AM
2	Tips on getting husband to want to spend time with me again? She mentions in the OP that her husband works long hours. Per my disclaimer, I’m not married and don’t have kids so I can’t really offer any input about that.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/02/24 03:27 PM
11	Tips on getting husband to want to spend time with me again? If you can put aside the hyper sexual nature of discussion over there, the male red pill section talks about something that I think is kind of analogous. “Dread game”. It refers to tactically inspiring fear that the man might satisfy their sexual needs elsewhere if the woman does not conform to certain behaviors. Just to clarify, I do NOT think that would translate well if a woman were to create any doubt about sexual exclusivity with her male partner, especially in a marriage with kids. But I t…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/24 10:02 PM
1	How to set the rules of a relationship? Good for you for at least being a bit self aware of that. If I were you, I would try to learn how women could be an accessory to you and your mission. You should be able to balance a work life and personal life without either derailing the other. If your ability to improve your own life is contingent on whether the women in your life hurt you, that’s a problem in and of itself that you need to get over.	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/24 07:33 PM
41	How to set the rules of a relationship? You’ve been engaged in “personal growth” for 7 years but are in 12k of debt, living in your grandmas basement, and still building a business that doesn’t do well enough to quit a construction job yet? I get if you don’t want to waste either of your time and that you want to focus on your mission or whatever. But it sounds like you’ve been wasting your own time by lying to yourself that you’re making big moves that require no distractions.	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/24 04:10 PM
6	How to measure a man's heart? Good for you for working out. I’m not trying to offend you, I’m speaking objectively that the average weight for a 5’6 woman is around 130-140lbs and you are 100lbs over that. I think one reason why this subreddit offers great takes on dating for women is because it acknowledges men’s basic instinctual nature without calling them “shallow”. There are many men out there, especially high value men, who just simply do not even consider overweight people as sexual partners. It does not make them sha…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/24 05:06 PM
6	How to measure a man's heart? I’m sorry but if you are a 235lb 5’6 woman, you need to prioritize losing some weight first and then reevaluate the men who enter your life. Losing weight will open you up to a new caliber of man, these will be men who have much more experience with leading women and thus are more emotionally mature. Your post reads as though you get excited to receive any attention from any men at all, which makes sense for someone who is overweight, and this likely has lowered your standards a lot. Losing weig…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/24 03:25 PM
12	Should I cancel the date? I share the belief that the man should lead when it comes to planning dates and working out logistics. But as a guy on dating apps, I am also aware that until we have met a few times and established basic trust, I’m still a total stranger that a woman met online and I cool it on the “leader” aspect until I’ve gotten a feel for how comfortable the woman is with me. I wouldn’t expect full on leadership, planning, rides, etc. from the average new guy on a dating app if I were a woman. I would wait …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/24 12:27 AM
5	how to deal with losing your best woman I think most people here can somewhat relate to what your going through and I’m with all the guys sharing the advice in the thread. I think there’s some value in a period of being single for men. Until I was single, I never learned the reality that, as a man, it’s your duty (and yours alone) to shape your own world into what you want it to be. Whether that means finding a secure long term relationship where you inspire security from your girl or whether that means sleeping with a ton of women, y…	/r/TheRedPill	01/01/24 11:35 PM
1	should i save myself for marriage? Of course sex in and of itself is not always degrading. To clarify the point I was making, for lack of a way to say it without sounding crude, a woman performing oral sex on a man outside of a committed relationship is receiving nothing in return and that is degrading and impure. Have all the premarital sex you want. No one’s gonna stop you and I’m not going to judge you. I’m just sharing my opinion (and others I’ve heard) as a man who is seeking a pure wife and who has discussed the topic with …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/23 07:59 PM
1	should i save myself for marriage? No. The comment I had responded to is now deleted, but OP had said she wanted to be as pure as possible for her future husband (or something to that extent). Any premarital sex of any kind will take away from that purity she can offer her husband.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/23 07:45 PM
8	should i save myself for marriage? If purity is a concern, do not engage in other forms of sex like you mention in your post. Everyone (other men) I’ve had the conversation with agrees that oral sex is much more degrading for a woman to engage in than actual sex. If you want to offer purity than stay untouched until marriage.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/23 10:38 AM
3	My Size CONSTANTLY Bothers Me As a Man What the guy said about playing the cards your dealt^ I’m assuming your width/broadness is the small thing you’re worried about: Lots of high volume lat pull downs on back day (minimum 4 sets of 15+ reps, AMRAP, heavy as you can). Don’t do shoulders on chest day, give shoulders their own day and do high volume. Look up how Arnold did incline DB bench and do that, stretching as far back as you can on the bottom. Do NOT train your traps/shrugs, the bigger/taller they are the more it will take away…	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/23 06:24 AM
19	Social NPC Grow your self esteem. This is hard to do in your shoes when you’re a virgin and actively admitting to yourself you sperg out. Focus on the fact that you’re hot shit now, you’re getting attention from girls (something that very few men garnish), you’re getting into law, you’re in the gym. You are and will continue to be a catch on this trajectory and women are already acknowledging it. Trust your social instincts. When you have built up some self esteem, you can start to trust yourself enough to…	/r/TheRedPill	12/09/23 07:10 PM
1	Help from the men here for becoming the ideal rpw For sure. I haven’t read the other posts but I saw the edit you made, sorry that you didn’t get many other answers you were looking for. Just thought I’d add, I think the fact that you are here and (I’m assuming) making an effort to make yourself more desirable to men IMO would put you ahead of many women. Men are the pursuers and I think you should let them be. But it’s VERY noticeable (and attractive) when women make some sort of minimal effort back. Obviously, not giving it up easy or being a…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/05/23 03:57 AM
8	Help from the men here for becoming the ideal rpw M23, Christian. I don’t have much experience with LTRs but I think I have high standards and I’ll just share my own thoughts. IMO, the most important things I see talked about on this sub (and some of the most important things I look for when dating) are: Positivity (not nagging, get sad instead of mad, being sweet, etc.) Embracing traditional gender roles (very attractive when a woman instinctively starts to clean or surprises me with something she baked/cooked. Or when they [act like they] nee…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/23 11:37 PM