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I’m not on your profile. I can see your comment in the entire thread that I commented on. It’s one of the first few comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:33 PM
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This is the same screenshot you said that you saw on two X today. And when I asked you for the original thread, you sent me a post from the women subreddit from 86 days ago and when I search keywords, they don’t show these comments. That’s why I called you a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:31 PM
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Misandry is as real as reverse racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:39 PM
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I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t really care to go back and forth with things that people made up in their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:31 PM
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Problematic I will be then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:30 PM
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That’s being inexperienced, not an incel. Hypotheticals and reality are two different things. If someone would have gained the lived experience, they would have a different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:29 PM
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I just explained that the women’s experiences are based on violence and abuse and the men’s experiences are based on hypothetical fears. The two experiences have very different circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:25 PM
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I didn’t call anyone an incel. But the talking points and the reality of it are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:20 PM
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No but these things are a reoccurring topic on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:11 PM
2

How would a man who’s never been married and has no kids experience divorce and child support? It couldn’t have happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:20 PM
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He was close to being right but I think he often made points in bad faith, which made him someone who I wouldn’t take seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:35 PM
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I’ve seen ppl who say this consider women sharing their negative experiences with men as hating men. Which was my confusion about seeing 2X and FDS being labeled as equivalent to incels but when I went to check it out for myself it was mainly women talking about experiencing violence and abuse from men. So I don’t think this is the opposite of men saying horrible things about women. Women are coming from a place of experiences with men and men are hating on women they’ve never even encountered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:30 PM
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Good for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:22 PM
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Which is useless if you don’t have a house. And I’m certain most people don’t. If you live in an apartment you call maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:21 PM
4

So are men, most are just too afraid to get in that butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:21 AM
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So does the abstract and that doesn’t support what you’re trying to tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:32 AM
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Yall is whoever makes these claims. Not that much. The result is the same but by choice takes more discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:20 AM
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The abstract says that women receive more messages but only half of those even end up in meetings irl, a third end up in casual. There’s no follow up on the enjoyment of that third who had casual sex. What did you put this article here for? Curiosity is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:17 AM
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But y’all don’t take the orgasm gap seriously. Yall think women can get on an app and have sex with a random man and she will come out the ordeal satisfied. Women’s sexlessness isn’t rare. You’re thinking so hard that you’re going past the point. Are female or male orgasms necessary for survival? No. If you are left unsheltered, with no food, and no water. You will die. Is it necessary for survival of the human race? No! Because not everyone wants children and not everyone has sex for procreatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:01 AM
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Sex? No. An orgasm? Maybe. You can orgasm by yourself. You can do it in your sleep if your body decides it needs it that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:01 AM
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There are women who are raised with conservative, right wing, religious, red pill ideologies, all of which aren’t too kind on women. So they regurgitate that. I come from a family of women who don’t like other women but give men a pass for just about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:08 PM
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How did you jump from being “too nice” to acting immoral? Be assertive and communicate what you want better. No need to be a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:18 AM
1

What is so wrong with masturbation? It’s not the need for sex, but the need to orgasm. Which can be done by oneself. External validation isn’t a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:15 PM
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I know a lot of men have mothers, sisters, cousins, and aunts who coddle the hell out of them. Where are your mommies? If anyone is going to give you unconditional love and support that you want, it’s the women in your families. Not strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:11 PM
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I think men look to date women in this age range and then get mad that they are very immature. Most of the complaints about women here are about women not being mentally mature but somehow that is their “prime”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:53 AM
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Women would be pumped and dumped more. A lot of men like to reject women after having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 11:33 PM
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I think there are more men not taking care of their biological children than men taking care of not biological children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:05 AM
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Get a dating coach please.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:50 PM
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That’s above average. You’re talking like it’s 3 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:34 PM
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It’s not just about dick size, it’s about what’s done with it and the whole experience with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:32 PM
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That’s a really weird metric of value.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:54 PM
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Is she still high value if she gets fat or has children and becomes a single mother after divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:43 PM
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Y’all are so insecure and think ass backwards. Instead of trying to create a better sex life with your partner and create new great sexual experiences, you admit defeat to previous partners and just call it a day. Y’all aren’t even trying! Just competing with people in your own head!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:27 PM
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That does matter. If she doesn’t stay married she will reenter the market when she is older and no longer valuable in your eyes. Cause I’m sure that you think divorced women have no value either. It sounds like the only value women have to you is so that they can be used up. Cause getting divorced is a common reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:21 PM
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You answered your own question. Women aren’t going after older men, older men are going after younger women. You just explained to us how you’re going to pursue women who are younger than you in great detail and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:48 PM
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Do you think they stay married? Is the value their naivety?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 04:30 AM
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Let’s break this down. 18-26 year old women haven’t been around the block, they have realistic expectations based on their little experience, then they gain experience and it changes their expectations because they now know more. They had no idea of reality, then gain the ideas, and adjust accordingly 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:40 AM
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That’s hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:36 AM
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Not having to pick up poop off the floor is far more superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:35 AM
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And I don’t want to be a monster ☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:34 AM
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Then yall would get along 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:18 PM
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Saying they like animals more than you. Tf are you here for then?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:33 PM
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Yes, being white is the beauty standard but white people have their own hierarchy of the most beautiful to the least. So a nerdy white man isn’t going to be considered the most attractive in comparison to a tall, muscular, blue eyed, blonde haired white man. The same way light skin women are considered more beautiful in the black community. A hierarchy of beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:58 PM
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There’s levels to it, there’s a hierarchy with the standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:48 PM
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I had a friend who other friends and my family said I should date because he was a nice guy. He’s very smart, he’s creative, I’d consider him handsome. However, he’s a bit of a pussy. We never dated and stayed friends. We met up one day to catch up and he was telling me how he dogged tf out of his girlfriend. My dad is like that too. A nice man, he never raises his voice but incredibly avoidant and passive aggressive. My dad has cause a lot of hurt and problems by being that way. He’d leave a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:47 PM
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I don’t agree, the nerdy looking black guys always had their equally nerdy looking girlfriends. One real skinny, one real big, they both wear glasses, they both smell a lil funny. I know non white women who usually go after nerdy white guys because they themselves don’t fit the beauty standard so they go after other non beauty standards and shared common interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:17 PM
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Smell and the sound of their voice 🫢
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:11 PM
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Well they’re not going to see the same thing on the other side. There seems to be a blind spot here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:03 PM
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It’s so easy to find tall white nerdy guys. They’re pretty much the most represented when it comes to nerds. I grew up with some really really nerdy black men but they don’t look like Urkel, who is an annoying dork. Absolutely none of them had a problem dating because they were fun to be around but also don’t “look” nerdy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:00 PM
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I only shame the men in my family for their preferences because it ends up effecting me directly at some point. They date idiot women who I have to interact with and I’d rather not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:28 PM
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Comic book stores, regular bookstores, game stores, thrift stores, art related things. A lot of these places have pop up events.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:22 PM
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Men on here have a REALLY hard time believing that women are attracted to men that don’t fit their narrative of what women are chasing. It leaves them wondering if they also have those nerdy qualities, then why aren’t they successful?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:17 PM
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That’s so Riverdale
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:46 AM
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They have to be from small towns with little diversity. Their ideas of “bad boys” and felons come from tv. Cause their ideas of felons can easily apply to military men, and they never mention them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:45 PM
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Sometimes, but only when I’m ovulating. Ovulation brain goes crazy for me personally, but those are just thoughts I keep in my head. I’m not actually going to sleep with someone with the intent of having their babies only.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 01:19 PM
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Porn addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:37 PM
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I always make this point because it seems to be a complete blind spot to people who ask this question. This isn’t a sentiment that manifests in adulthood. Women realize the dangers of men before they can even finish childhood. Older men catcalling you, stalking you, sexually harassing you, being predatory online, and worse. On the street attacks (mainly rape) has been more common in the news in my city and it has primarily been teenage girls as the victims. Girls are being killed for not accepti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:53 PM
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It’s a form of social mobility.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:36 PM
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School is out and semesters have ended so it very well might be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:53 PM
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The patriarchal societal pressures never went away, so the pressure is still there. If a woman comes from a conservative or religious family then this would be an expectation of her. Women’s families and communities would definitely pressure them into being with a man just for the sake of doing so if she wants the acceptance of her family and community.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:35 PM
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Even if we kept the race the same for the woman and she was heavier and had a fuller figure, the messages would look a lot different. She’d attract different men. Cause I think the woman used would be considered skinny, and most women aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:52 AM
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Both would have very different results.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:49 AM
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The experiment was detailed and meticulous but only gives information related to the specific experiment. Change the woman’s weight, height, race, and body proportions and you’ll get a different result.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:45 AM
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I don’t need to, I’m a black woman? For people who complain about generalizations a lot this is a big conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:34 AM
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I keep saying that it’s unconstitutional. People have the right to privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:15 AM
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Do the study with a black woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:11 AM
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It’s not about the money, they are definitely not respected and actively shunned and stigmatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:14 AM
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Sex workers. Y’all don’t treat them as human.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 01:18 AM
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I pointed it out because someone asked me about it directly and I explained it further. I bring up other men because I’m saying I’ve seen the same build on a shorter man and it doesn’t make them less attractive to me. I mention in another comment that I like big ears and big noses too. His appeal to me is that he has a unique appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:49 AM
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His height in combination with other things but not just his height. I just described his build, which I like. I wouldn’t feel the same if he was tall and lanky. Yeah that’s how it works. It’s just one factor. So no it’s not always height. I don’t see why you’d doubt that when I just said it’s okay with me. I’m average height for a woman and have been with men who are also average height.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:15 AM
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It’s not just about his height, he looks strong. I’d feel the same if he was 5’8.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:57 AM
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It’s more in reference to his build. He is tall but he looks big in comparison to other people. There are some people who are tall but don’t look tall, but he looks like a giant. His top half of his body looks like a rectangle, so he has broad shoulders but his chest and waist is proportional to his shoulders. He’s not lean, not too bulky, but somehow looks effortlessly strong. I hope I explained that okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:18 AM
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The male gaze of men vs the female gaze of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:09 AM
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Nah you’re right he’s so hot. I love men with big ears and big noses but also stocky.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:10 AM
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I think Adam Driver is average looking in the face but he is built like a damn tank.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:01 AM
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There’s no such thing as a Chad. Chads are a mythical boogeyman to men to make sense of why they can’t pull. It’s easier to put all your dating woes on Chad™️ instead of being introspective and maybe realizing that women don’t want you because you’re not likable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:23 PM
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Women are the ones having sex with men. If you don’t believe them then you have sex with men and see if it’s true or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:12 PM
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I have a little bit of grace for people when they are younger because they haven’t experienced much to know what they want. I always question what people mean when they call someone a bad boy because that can just mean a man with tattoos, a man that like sports, punk or alt men, extroverted men, or a MOC. Women aren’t chasing downright criminals unless they’re criminals too. Most people aren’t to make their lives harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 05:11 PM
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That one’s a hard one because no one knows you have a small penis unless they see it. It’s not something you can judge men on first glance. You can not feel diminished by it by accepting it and finding women who aren’t size queens or women who don’t orgasm from penetration. You can’t change the minds of size queens so there no need to beat yourself up over something someone else wants (and it just happens to be not you)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:23 PM
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I agree. I know millennials have been the face of helicopter parenting and intellectualizing all of their children’s feelings, but I really feel that children need some grit. Not tough love but they just need to be able to emotionally handle losses. Sometimes you’ll lose in life. Not everything is fair. There are parents who yell at teachers and just about everyone else defending their kids over small things and no surprise that their children grow up entitled and anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:46 AM
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I agree with you. I have a kid and I worry about the other kids around the neighborhood. Parents really need to be mindful about what their children are watch and listening to and what they say around their children. My kid tells me things other children say and sometimes it really makes me stop in my tracks out of concern. Unfortunately I know some of these kids parents and their parents are too big of idiots to care, so I pray for these childrens protection. These children need to stay off the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:36 AM
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Yes, there are women like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:42 AM
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No, I’m celibate. I don’t have these feelings but I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:32 AM
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For a ONS you don’t need to know a person well. All you need is sexual chemistry. It’s not like you’re going to have them meet your family or rely on them emotionally. For a relationship you need to be compatible with values and personalities and have sexual chemistry. There’s more boxes to check with a relationship because it’s long term. Also the difference between the two is commitment and expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:31 PM
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How do you know that he’s out of her league and a privilege to sleep with? Where did that come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:17 PM
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Well that’s a big assumption. And that was my OG point, there was most likely no ulterior motive, she didn’t have sex to get someone into a relationship. She had sex because she wanted to have sex. Just as much as you think these women are temporary, so were the men in their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:31 PM
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That’s fine. But you’d be going into her recreational bin too. To her you’d be much less worth than a diamond because you’re no different than men who just wanted to fuck. They were disposable and I don’t know why you see that as getting treated better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:26 PM
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I see men say this a lot here. If he just wants sex like the other men, then just say that. Say that’s your intention just to have sex. If you are trying to get to know someone and your objective is a relationship, then investing time, money, and energy is not done in vain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:19 PM
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Is this really being done to appease women or are you just being polite to the people in your surroundings? Everything you just described is just exactly what is expected of people who are in a workplace setting. That’s how I interact with coworkers. This place is starting to feel like a twilight zone. Yall don’t be outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:24 PM
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Is that not vetting?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:15 PM
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She didn’t “give up” something. She participated in mutual agreed upon sex. What does she get out of “giving free sex” or having a ONS or a FWB? Having sex. You’re not even acknowledging that women can enjoy having sex and don’t “give up” pussy to reward or punish men. Like that’s the obvious answer here but you can’t fathom the idea that a woman wants to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:14 PM
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I find the nose piercing and colored hair comment hilarious because just as there are alt women, there are alt men. They’ll find each other. Same thing with women with tattoos. Yeah these women won’t attract conservative men and they clearly don’t care to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:47 PM
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Naive is the perfect word. Idk what world ppl are living on if they think that statement is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:53 PM
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That is very very wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:47 PM
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Psychopathic men are more than likely rapists. No I would not. I will stay single and celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:09 AM
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That would narrow the dating pool down to a puddle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:04 AM
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There was the one child policy in china and people wanted boys. There were orphanages full of girls. Girls were killed or lived under the radar. That’s why the gender disparity is so bad in these countries. From decades of making sure there were no girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:35 AM
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Idk man. China and India would kill girl children because they were so unwanted. In the US child brides are mainly girls. Sex trafficking is mainly girls. I know you’re talking about men and women but I can’t focus on that because women being less favored is something that is apparent before women even become women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:13 AM
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I’m from NYC but I never lived in manhattan. On the rare occasion I go to Manhattan that’s where I’ll see the tall attractive model like people. You’ll also see them in some parts of Brooklyn too. Honestly when I’m home I usually don’t encounter these tall wealthy men that ppl say are the top 20%. Which is why I don’t take the idea of women aiming for these men seriously. We don’t live around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:20 PM
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No homo is very 2010’s I find the use of no Diddy to be not funny as he is a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:14 PM
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He’s saying no homo because Diddy has rumors of having sex with men (aside from being a sexual predator)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:00 PM
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Talk to other men ? A therapist? I don’t even vent to people in my life like that. I vent to my therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:22 PM
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I’m an agreeable woman. I’m pretty easy going and I don’t like to argue about things. I’m willing to compromise on little things. I’m patient. My dad is very much like that too. Being agreeable is okay, but agreeable to what? What am I supposed to be agreeing to? You can’t be agreeable with a person who isn’t. Because sometimes someone will try me with something so stupid and outlandish that I can’t possibly agree with it. And usually being agreeable, I get a very harsh reaction when I am not. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:58 PM
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I agree with other commenters that this isn’t the sub for this. Men will tell you not all men but in reality you’ll never know who will hurt you because everyone is capable. It’s not just “bad boys”. My parents used to tell me that men on the street would hurt me but the only people who did were long term boyfriends. I think you should watch Promising Young Woman. I don’t think it’s bigoted. I got harassed the most from 10-20. Being older now I find peace and safety in being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:15 AM
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But she has an extra choice, he doesn’t. So if he doesn’t want a woman making the choice for him then he should be proactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:50 AM
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It’s a natural consequence of having raw sex. If you know that you’re emotionally, financially, and mentally unfit to be a parent then don’t do the one thing that could make you a parent and leave the decision up to the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:45 AM
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Making someone be responsible for their children isn’t a punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:24 AM
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It’s not the same. Abortions do not leave someone else footing the bill and taking responsibility for another person for over 18 years. Abortions don’t create scattered half siblings either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:38 AM
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It’s obviously not all of them but it’s a common occurrence enough for it to be a problem and have to be regulated. The law does allow men to raise their children and have the mom pay child support if it’s in the best interest of the child. There’s nothing stopping that from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:45 PM
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Men have a history of creating and abandoning their children. If they are able to have children with no accountability or consequences they will keep making them and keep creating broken homes. Not only that but there are mothers who pay it too. No one cares about the circumstances of who wanted it and who did it. If the child exists, there are two parents who are responsible. Child support actually cost less than what it would be to have full custody. They are actually getting away easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:00 PM
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People don’t like DV victims. Not women, not men, not even children. You’ll hear people victim blaming actual children. It makes them feel uncomfortable and they can’t help but to blame the victim. We live in a society that goes out of its way to protect abusers and their enablers. Once you tell someone about it, you can see them losing respect for you in real time. I’ve seen the advice to not go into detail about it with future partners and I understand that line of thinking now. I’ve disclosed…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:57 PM
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About 9/10. I was expected to do dishes and laundry for everyone in the house, take care of my little brother, whatever Cinderella nonsense my parents could think of. I was able to cook for myself. I was also a latchkey kid so I was expected to not blow the house up. I started getting cat called at that age too. I got my period at 9 and was told that I’m a woman now. Which is crazy to think that in the eyes of others, I was only a child for 9 years. What is insane is watching my brother grow up …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:17 AM
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I’d be in a horrible place if I listened to my male family members. Most of them “advise” me to give my abusive ex more chances and have more children with him. And to be a good woman is to stfu and clean, cook, and take care of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:52 PM
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Both. It honestly more easy to witness sexual assault and it’s something I’ve seen before since school. Yes I think that sexual assault implies something less severe than rape but it’s also used as an umbrella term. All rape is sexual assault but not every sexual assault is rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:57 PM
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Pretty much always because it’s more than likely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:51 AM
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Thank you for letting me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:52 PM
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You’re right. They’ll ask for advice just to go and debate about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:31 AM
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I don’t understand why men ask women for advice when they don’t respect women’s opinions in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:28 AM
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Then don’t? Find someone who wants the same thing as you. There are men who don’t want marriage either, hopefully the two will find each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:57 PM
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Oh. They have no problem getting into relationships or sleeping with women. There seems to be an abundance of women for them because honestly I can’t keep up with who’s who. I wouldn’t consider them “high value men” either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:28 AM
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The men in my family, mainly my brother, are hypothetically gender swapped versions of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:52 PM
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She was in disgust in every single frame 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:41 PM
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I don’t really need to imagine when I see the experiences that the men around me go through. I have a brother and cousins but they don’t have the problems that men on here say they have. They date women who men on here consider unattractive and they’re never single. The only man I knew that had these problems was a coworker but he’s odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:44 PM
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Happy Cake day 🫶🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:23 PM
1

I never said they were? You can be in community with people. Yeah but there’s no depth to that. That’s just fetishizing someone. When the reality is that you are with someone who you have nothing in common with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:19 PM
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That’s why I said immigrant communities, Chinatown is right there. You’ll always be competing with rich white men overseas too. In the SE Asian countries, all you have to be is white to get attention but you need the money to back you up or the attention will be quickly lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:36 PM
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(I’m biased because I’m from a big city) there are immigrant communities in the US. You can find what you are looking for in the US. So I don’t understand the need to go to an entirely different country. Sure men say hey don’t want women who are “Americanized” but with the internet women over seas can have the same views. I think it’s important that they respect and actually try and integrate into the culture that they are looking to seek a woman from. Culture differences cause more problems tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:18 PM
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People under estimate financial abuse. If the provider would decide to start abusing the providee (not really sure of the exact word to use) they could do it with no resistance. It happens to children and the elderly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:25 AM
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It definitely happens. Most people I know from high school are in relationships, married, and have kids. A lot of them are on their third or second kid right now. We’re in our late 20’s. Everyone where I work is married (or was married) but there aren’t many young people. Being a single person in spaces surrounded by partnered people is very annoying to me at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:47 PM
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It really just comes down to luck. Some people are lucky and others aren’t. A lot of people have been in the right place at the right time. A lot of people with find their person later in life, some not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:04 PM
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When we listen to other women complain about their relationships woes and troubles. Then we look at their boyfriends and we see that they’re with men who are not attractive, short, fat, autistic, poor, not educated, or any combination of these. I’ve seen women accept absolute scraps from regular men. There are women who will do anything to get and keep a man. There are conservative and red pilled women, you need to find your own because clearly what you want and it being attainable aren’t matchi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:16 PM
1

You need to consult your fellow men for the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:27 PM
2

I’m a solo parent. It’s up to everyone else if they want to do it. A lot of people are not going to watch kids on a weekly basis so the parents can enjoy themselves. We just get told to suck it up and deal with it. I wouldn’t want to date myself because it’s not fair to someone that I can only see them at random when I’m free with maybe weeks or months in between with little notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:31 PM
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Yeah but they live in the same household. Two different homes means that someone gets to live a childfree lifestyle occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:06 PM
12

Most single moms I know have shared custody. So they have the free time to have a relationship if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:02 PM
4

You really think a woman can get romantic affection from a stranger (who is probably not looking for something romantic) from tinder? There’s nothing romantic with having sex with strangers who you might not see again. That is the biggest shot in the dark.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:26 PM
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No. It’s a really quick way to get your partner to hate you. I think consideration is very important in relationships. Requiring sex from someone at any time YOU feel like is shitty. Because it shows that you don’t care about having good sex with a someone willing and enthusiastic, you just care about getting your rocks off. It’s a one way street (to nowhere)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:52 PM
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I don’t understand how people want mandatory testing but probably also don’t want child support. If more men are legally confirmed to be the father, more men will be put on child support since determining paternity is the first step. I know y’all are trying to hold the mom accountable for possibly being a slut but you’re also making it easier to put men on the hook for child support, especially if they have multiple children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:24 PM
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Not just PPD, but it’s said by men on social media a lot. I’ve heard men irl say they don’t want to be with a woman who is promiscuous but they will sleep with her just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:03 PM
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I hate to break it to you, but society treats rape victims horribly. Man or woman. It’s not just the act itself but then you have to live through the rest of your life being degraded even further than the initial incident. You’re now stigmatized. If this happened to you, you’d most likely be called gay long as people know about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:53 PM
8

Birds of a feather, however I don’t think they would have longevity in a marriage. I’ve seen players get with low n count women and inevitably hit the streets again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:47 PM
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Promiscuous women are desirable, just not for relationships. Men wouldn’t want to wife a promiscuous woman, but they’d have no problem cheating with one. If they were undesirable then they wouldn’t be promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:25 PM
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I don’t think he’s high status if he’s morally bankrupt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:29 PM
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You’re not an asshole but you’re not going to get very far because everyone is thinking the same thing. How is this working out for you so far?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:30 PM
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When I am surrounded by old heads, family, or at work. Me not being interested in men gets translated as me being a lesbian and I’m pretty sure I’m not a lesbian. My family still calls me a butch lesbian till this day just because I am celibate. To them I should just accept any man just to have one. Older people genuinely don’t understand it. My older coworker said maybe I’ll get a man and he’ll take care of me, I just said sure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:47 PM
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When people say that women should have accountability they really mean that she should take blame for someone else’s actions. They just want women to say “this was my fault” for how someone treated them, but never hold accountability for the person who is being terrible in the first place. You can only take accountability for your own behavior and actions, not the way others try and treat you. It’s like telling someone to try and take accountability for being robbed in the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:52 PM
2

Sports isn’t social?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:15 PM
2

Some people are very loud, desperate, and angry about it. That’s why.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:30 PM
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Be patient but still continue to focus on the other areas of your life. This applies to everything you said before too. You can’t put all your eggs in one basket when it comes to your happiness. A lot of it is just luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:08 PM
1

Yes they can. But I would say those have a higher priority because those are needed to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:02 PM
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Those men need to find more ways to make their lives satisfying rather than thinking a romantic relationship will satisfy them. Because if they do get a girlfriend and then they’re still unhappy, then what? Men need to focus on being able to make themselves happy first rather than expecting external relationships to make them happy. This really all sounds like codependency. Even if men don’t have friends, they still need to build a better internal relationship with themselves. I’m okay being alo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:19 PM
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I’ve been single (and celibate) for years. Doing things with my friends did make me very happy and I did have a love for my friends that was very satisfying despite not having anything romantic going on (I use past tense because my friends moved away and some are in relationships so the dynamic changed). Sometimes if you’re happy enough with your friends then it’s enough to make you forget. It’s definitely not a replacement but there are other ways to enjoy life and make it fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:00 PM
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Being a fake nice guy is a personality flaw and manipulative. Wearing makeup is not and it’s not fooling anyone. I’m sure than men care more about women’s bodies more than their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:10 PM
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Clearly women aren’t equal if they have to be given less to carry because they are not as strong. That’s also not equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:39 PM
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This was my first thought too. A female soldier is more than likely to be sexually assaulted by fellow soldiers. Idk who said it but someone said that “maybe women shouldn’t be there” if they didn’t want it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:29 PM
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Y’all need to understand that anyone is capable of abuse. Just because someone is a nerd, an introvert, or passive doesn’t mean that they are not capable of abuse or even just being an asshole of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:18 PM
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History. Like historical trends. Also just thinking, I don’t need to listen to other people to think of something that makes sense. What would a phd in math/ physics have to do with social studies? Psychology Degree, I’m telling you what I’ve learned myself and having done it myself. Studies can be done with bias and to be manipulated. It happens all the time. Once again, it all needs to be used together to have a complete picture. Stats don’t mean shit if it’s not interpreted correctly or with …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:12 PM
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I listen to what men say about parenting. Also, history? I’m not pulling anything out my ass. You don’t understand statistics and studies to know that it can be easily manipulated, recorded wrong, have questions that can be interpreted differently, have a population that doesn’t represent the majority of people. Stats very much don’t tell the whole story. You need to be able to combine it with real world context to get the full picture. It’s not a majority, historically men have been expected to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:56 PM
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LMAO why do people here make such big assumptions. None of my friends have children. Why would you even assume that? Studies don’t show everything. Studies don’t show cultural or personal beliefs. Just because a controlled study with a sample size says differently, doesn’t make what I said not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:42 PM
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My dad was like that too when I was younger. He was active and we did stuff together. We went fishing, he took us out to eat every Friday, I’d watch him fix his car, He’d make one of 5 meals he could make. Over time he became a lot more distant despite being present every day. So I really understand having both versions of that dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:16 AM
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I think what matters most is that who he’s partnered with agrees to it and is okay with it. If a guy wants to work more rather than do child rearing that’s fine, as long as his partner is okay with it. He’d also have to be prepared to take less work if his partner is becoming overwhelmed or find ways to help. He still needs to be involved and active.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:36 AM
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A lot of men think being a father is going to work, paying the bills, and being the scary guy when the kids are acting up. They don’t intend on giving up their lifestyles or hobbies. They assume it’s a backseat thing when they say they want to be a dad. Some men make the effort to challenge these roles of a father and do a great job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:20 AM
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Do you talk to women in real life? Like do you have a sister or a mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:29 PM
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That’s what most of it revolves around. I don’t think women are downplaying it, they’re saying their experiences and it is mostly being sexualized. Women don’t have more advantages in relationships. If they don’t put out and don’t stay attractive then the relationship is as good as gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:47 AM
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Men have been hitting on me since I was a child and that’s a reality for many women. Getting male attention is not an advantage. It is abundant and potentially dangerous. Men wanting to use your body for sex is not an advantage for women because we hold most of the risks involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:00 AM
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Pearl is not pretty enough to talk the way she does. If she were, you’d see men saying “we need more women like her 😍”. However she is essentially Meg Griffin, so no one has a reason to pretend to like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:18 AM
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And what happens with serial baby fathers who keep getting women pregnant and saying “not it !” To avoid responsibility? No one cares about the circumstances about how the child came about or if they were wanted or not. If you have an existing living breathing child, you are responsible for them. No amount of not wanting them is going to make their needs nonexistent. I don’t support the idea because the fathers can easily come looking for a relationship when the child becomes an adult so they ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:01 AM
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If children are involved or will be involved, it matters. Children put a huge cap on women’s earning potential. If they’re going to be to one’s that have to leave work every time the kids get sick (which is often) they’re less likely to be promoted and less likely to take jobs with little flexibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:52 PM
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That’d definitely be a problem. Thanks lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:42 PM
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Damn. Yes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:31 PM
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I’m going based off YOU said. If men swipe on everyone with no discernment, then women should have standards. There is A LOT of projection going on here buddy and it’s definitely not directed at me. You don’t know what my league is and I’ve never said I want a man better than me and to do all the work. I just said that I made an effort to make conversation and try to get to know people. So I’m put in the effort. I’d never aim “above my league”. I’m not playing any games and men are not a prize t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:02 PM
2

It is what it is!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:41 PM
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Women’s standards are exactly where they should be if men have no discernment and operate out of convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:32 PM
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You know how many compliments I’ve sent to men on bumble just to get a “thanks” and have the conversation ended right there? Edit: compliments
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:31 PM
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Well they’re not doing it. When I do it, they’re also not doing it. I don’t think I’m unsuccessful. Shit just doesn’t work sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 12:42 PM
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That’s the point, if you swipe right then that means you’re interested in them and want to get to know them better. If she matches you, that means she’s interested too. The effort is in getting to know the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:53 AM
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That’s a very big assumption 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:17 AM
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Of course. Even when they initiate, sometimes they don’t even answer when i respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:17 AM
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I don’t see men who I find attractive very often. If I do they’re usually with their girlfriend. The only men I really interact with are my family, coworkers, or other parents at the park or school, or service workers. I don’t talk to anyone on dating apps or social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:49 AM
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I was on dating apps for a while. Most conversations don’t get past them saying “hey”, “what are you doing”, and many other one word or one sentence answers no matter how many open ended questions I would ask. So yeah it’s low effort if you can’t even show interest in someone. What do you expect from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:33 AM
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There’s A LOT of men willing to have raw sex with a woman and get her pregnant. Men willing to be active fathers (who mean it and are not just saying it for the opportunity to have raw sex) ? I’m not sure that’s as easy of a find.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:01 AM
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Yet in the real world, women in their 30’s, 40’s, AND 50’s find love every day 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 03:48 AM
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Autism is can be comorbid with other disorders (ADHD, Bipolar, OCD). So you never really know who might be comorbid with what and how that interacts with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:34 AM
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I’ve had class with autistic men, worked alongside autistic men, and know some women in relationships with autistic men. They’ve all had their ideas about women that were definitely not appealing. They’re just as capable of being a jerk like anyone else. So maybe women having more exposure to autistic men is turning them away from them, but I don’t think women go out their way to be hostile to these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:25 PM
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I don’t think men would enjoy the idea that women could get sex whenever they want. They would have a lot of very bad unsatisfying sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:30 AM
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They don’t. They want women to lower their standards enough for them to get a chance. They’re trying to convince women that being in a relationship with a man who isn’t relationship material to begin with is better than being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:21 AM
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Just because a man is average, below average, ugly, poor, or fat doesn’t mean that he would make a better partner because he doesn’t get many opportunities. If given the chance these men would be the chads they claim to hate. So I don’t think giving the “nice guy” a chance means it’ll make people happy. It’ll just give the nice guy ™️ the chance to play Chad. A lot of people are not dateable. There’s just going to be large chunks of the population that shouldn’t be in the dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:27 PM
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On Twitter. I see some radfems on Twitter from time to time but their posts are pretty rational (to me). The ones that aren’t get mass reported by men pretty quickly. They’ll get straight up doxxed and harassed until they’re ran off the internet entirely. So maybe that’s your answer. I also see are women repeating the same bad takes of men as well. Sometimes bar for bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:28 PM
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If a woman has abusive parents she’ll be more likely to have an abusive partner. Some people don’t think of that behavior as red flags or out of the ordinary. Also, abusers don’t start off as abusive. It’s a frog in warm water situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 06:04 PM
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Beauty standards are different based on your culture. Some cultures prefer women really small while some prefer bigger women. It’d be the same for women. If you’re a woman from a culture with men with a average height of 5’7. Height isn’t going to matter. I’ve had girl friends that haven’t found anyone I liked attractive and I haven’t found anyone they like attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:21 AM
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My dad used to be active when I was small but then scaled back on housework (because was old enough to do it). Then he realized he could pay half the bills and can contribute nothing to food or household things. Then eventually stopped giving my mom money altogether. He became a real waste of space. All my mom would do is yell and pick up his slack. He still doesn’t understand why they’re not together anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:05 AM
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Higher social status (married men get promoted more and make more money), they live longer (married women have a shorter life span), domestic duties being done by wives gives more free time to be put towards hobbies and careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 03:24 PM
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*if it fails Men lose more if a marriage fails because they gain more during marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 03:10 AM
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Any male friends I have I’ve grown up with. So it wasn’t always an issue until we got older and they became interested in girls. But everyone distanced over time. Guy friends usually disappear when they’re in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:20 PM
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I see the way my male friends treat women and I don’t want to be a part of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 05:29 PM
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It’s all fun and games until you have a side baby and your household funds have a new permanent expense. Which is a reality for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 01:02 AM
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You’d see more women in situations where they are taking care of a man like a literal child. She cooks for him, clean up after him, tell him to clean up after himself like a child, he throws tantrums if he doesn’t get his way (this is not limited to men in relationships, men can also have women in their family that do this for them). A lot of men go from mommy taking care of them to a girlfriend taking care of them. You don’t see men taking care of women like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:38 PM
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Yeah but that’s not going to kill you. She can try and manipulate you, you tell her to fuck off and go about your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 12:35 AM
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I think being creepy means that someone is unsettling and creates a feeling of fear. I don’t think most men are scared of women in that way. I don’t think most women can be creepy in a way to create a sense of immediate danger for men. Only thing I can think of is being a stalker, I’d definitely consider that creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:49 PM
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People are products of the same environment. Think of a brother and sister of abusive parents. He’ll seek a woman like his mother, she’ll seek a man like her father. Behavior like that is not out of the ordinary. Women are conditioned as girls to accept bad behavior of boys/men as something that just comes with the territory. As a child it’s, he pulled your hair he must have a crush on you! As an adult it’s, he’s a good man savannah!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 02:42 AM
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Children will make you poorer. For women, mothers are not treated well and very frequently shamed and criticized for just about everything. You’ll see people telling struggling mothers (married or unmarried) “well you shouldn’t have become a mom if you didn’t want this life” childless women see that and want no parts of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:42 AM
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I think it’s doable if you have a lot of money to put the child in good daycares, good schools, good nannies, tutors, and lots of extra curriculars.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:40 AM
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A lot of this isn’t specific to step children. You can experience it with your biological children (if you want them) too. You can not relate to your biological children, your biological children can resent you, you can fight with your in laws, your children can just straight up hate each other, your children can fight over inheritance, you can still show favoritism with biological children. I’m not saying that means you should date women with children, but don’t think that having your own biolo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 11:13 PM
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People will pay for a fetish. I don’t see women paying for tall escorts or hear about them buying OF until they’re broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:11 AM
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Taylor Swift is seriously so tame. I don’t know where you pulled narcissism and toxicity from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:49 PM
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People are bad at interpreting data and studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:29 PM
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How can you really tell that? Are you with them behind closed doors where these things happen? Most bullies/abusive men will have no problem pressuring for sex. It’s not about the women who chase bullies (they’re most likely also bullies), but who the bullies decide to chase. Once again, if they decide they want someone, they are not taking no for an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:30 AM
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I’m not talking about allegations. These things happen to people who are dating. It’s very realistic. I don’t understand why you think a bully would be ethical enough to not bully someone into sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:21 AM
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You’re being goofy. We’re talking about bullies having more sex and the reason why. Come on now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:14 AM
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Yes. A rapist is a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:08 AM
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They are products of the same environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:03 AM
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This study is dealing with adolescents. I’m not going to take it seriously in regards to adults. Instead of thinking that girls and women are throwing themselves at bullies and bad boys please consider that the bullies are bullying girls and women into sex. They are not taking no for an answer (which is coercion). You wonder why girls and women stay with these boys and men? It’s almost like their bullies and won’t let them leave easily. No one should be considered these men successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:56 AM
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Theres a very good chance that most of that sex is coerced on account of them being a bully.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:50 AM
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I see men have preferences but will still fuck their non preferences and then turn around and call the non preferences names. There’s no consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:23 AM
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Y’all talking about personality disorder women again?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:55 PM
1

Sometimes yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:25 AM
1

Little brother energy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:20 AM
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Kind, patient, smart, generous, assertive. I’m 4/5 of these things and I want someone who is too. I added assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:23 PM
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Literally never. If I had an active fwb I probably wouldn’t be actively dating. If I was, I probably wouldn’t want to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:23 PM
2

The “nice guy” is just a Chad playing the long game.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:08 PM
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I hate misogynistic women. Behind every terrible man there is a group of women (usually his family) supporting and enabling him. Women who will always stand behind a man no matter how terrible he is (because I never see them standing behind hood men) I don’t like boy moms either. I absolutely love having a daughter and I don’t like when women act like having a daughter sucks because they don’t know how to have relationships with other women (circling right back to them being misogynistic)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:56 PM
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He works 70 hours a week and might be unbearable to be around when he is home. There could be financial abuse happening too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:48 AM
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Sounds like contradictory standards are the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:28 AM
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Sometimes just curiosity. Sometimes you vibe with someone and you just see where it goes. If I cum, cool. If not, it was an interesting/fun experience. The best sex I’ve had never came from casual though. So I don’t care for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:08 AM
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It doesn’t really make a difference 30+. You’re more likely to have it together by then. It makes a big difference in the 18(or younger)-25 range because they are more vulnerable to financial abuse. Also with dating people in the 18-25 range there’s very much a maturity issue a lot of the time. You’ll hear the older party complaining about things the younger party does and it’ll be regular teenage or early 20’s nonsense. Don’t date people in their teens and early 20’s and then be shocked when th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 12:56 AM
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A payday of $400 a month
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:35 PM
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Men have historically had a bad track record with taking care of their children. They abandon children and create new families out of boredom, they can have multiple women pregnant at once, there are men with 10+ children and 10+ women. I am absolutely not interested in making it easier for men to abandon children.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:31 PM
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I mean 23&Me has health testing services for hereditary diseases. No. If people put in effort and use their brains then this will not be a problem. It just boils down to both parties being stupid and the government shouldn’t mandate things just because people are dumb. If you don’t think you’re the father of a child, don’t sign the birth certificate and go to court or test them yourself. I also don’t think it’s fraud if a man willingly signs a birth certificate stating that he’s the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:38 PM
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23&Me does that. If the biological parents want to know that’s their prerogative.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:27 PM
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When establishing child support you can ask for a paternity test first. The system is already in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:01 PM
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No, I’m certain that it’s unconstitutional in some way to test every single person born. Like that’s definitely a privacy issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:59 PM
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You can do it, just don’t be a dick about it. A lot of men sleep with fat women and THEN reject them. Also a dickhead move.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 06:41 PM
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It’s all fun and games until someone’s husband beats your ass or she slashes your tires or she stalks you or you catch a charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:40 AM
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Ask yourself why there is an influx of bad partners for women. Most men are not socialized to be good partners they’re usually looking to get their needs met. Women are socialized to understand that and accept that. There are a lot of “normal” men who are bad partners. Weird quiet men can be abusive. Fat men can be abusive. Short men can be abusive. Ugly men can be abusive. There is no one look to abusive men. Any man can be abusive, including the men you think are the “good ones”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:54 AM
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My father would choose a man who provides minimally and has me cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, working, and paying for all the groceries, household items, insurance, and kids needs. Just like he does. So no thanks 🫶🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:44 AM
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“Why should I like you?” If you don’t like me off the bat and you’re just looking to see what I can do for you then I’m not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:56 AM
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You can switch cancer battling with pregnant and the statement will still be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:22 PM
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You make a lot of assumptions about your neighbor. How do you know that she had high standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:37 AM
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I don’t understand, do these men not have moms, sisters, and cousins? Are they ignoring what they women in their life say? Are they invisible to you because they are not romantic interests? I honestly don’t interact with men often unless it’s my family. But I listen to the things they say and they’re all very red pilled, especially my brother. The things majority of men say on here I have already heard grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:17 PM
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No amount of empathy from women will fix men. We can’t fix you. We can’t do the thinking for you to fix your mental health. What do you want from us? A pat on the back and a kiss on the cheek? That won’t fix men’s mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:28 AM
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That’s why the idea that becoming a single mom is because of choosing bad boys and having one night stands has always been so silly. Most scenarios follows what you’ve described. From pregnancy, to childbirth, to the first 1-2 years, there are so many pressures to strain a relationship to the point where it shatters. The whole process leaves the woman vulnerable. But people just tell woman to shut up about it and deal with it because it’s apparently the life they chose and what they signed up fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:27 PM
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Why is it not plausible that a lot of women experience abuse from men? (Rhetorical) Why is it more believable that most women are lying rather than believing that most women experience manipulation and abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:44 AM
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In their 20’s, women’s peers might not have the same maturity as they do. I think everyone gets leveled out in their 30’s. By your 30’s most people are settled into their careers, done with their education, have a okay place to live. Which means people are less likely to date out of necessity. I was in relationships in college in my teens and early twenties and it was hard for me honestly. Another factor is children. There’s nothing more damaging to a woman’s career than being a mom. So it’s eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 02:03 AM
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It does not replace bonds with other people at all. It’s just something to make yourself happy and feel proud of so you don’t have all your eggs in one basket with relationships. Being able to make yourself happy is the key here. Sure I feel lonely sometimes but I often forget about it when I keep myself preoccupied and entertained. I like thrifting old things so sometimes I go on a little hunt for something and when I find it it’s rewarding. I maintain my fish tanks. Sometimes I build things. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:17 PM
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Thank you!! Around 300K-450K. I’m from nyc. I don’t plan on owning a home cause I don’t care to do upkeep, maintenance, and repairs. So a condo is good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:50 PM
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I’ve been saying this. We can’t force or change others. That’s why I think if you don’t like your dating pool now, just give up on it for a minute and work on other stuff and try again in a few years. I don’t think it’ll be time lost because you still have everything else you worked on going. I’ve taken a break from dating and I’m going to school to change careers. I want to make more money so I can buy a condo. That’s what I’m focusing on right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 10:56 PM
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My dad is a pretty weak willed man and gets told he’s a “nice man”. It’s easier for me to spot a passive, avoidant, door mat of man rather than the opposite. Also I know what it’s like for you to need someone and they scurry and hide rather than defend you. It’s unattractive. My dad’s family picked on my mom for decades and he never defended her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:45 PM
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I’ve been saying this. The high body count, monkey branching, emotionally neglectful, sexually charged, highly immature, attention seeking women that men describe on here are just women with BPD. Women with BPD can smell desperate men from a mile away. That’s probably why so many men here think all women are like that because the only women that pay them any attention have BPD. My ex has BPD but in describing his exs, they also had BPD and they behaved exactly like how men describe women here. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:23 AM
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All that doesn’t matter if you a generally unlikable and are devoid of charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:35 AM
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A lot of implants come here, so there will always be a steady amount of single people moving to nyc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:19 AM
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Just swipe left?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 01:10 AM
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What’s defined as a bad boy is pretty arbitrary to me. Men with tattoos and piercings are labeled “bad boys”, which it’s really just alt and not inherently bad. Drug dealers and criminals are obviously labeled bad boys but if you’re not poor, how exactly are you finding yourself dating them? In what environment are you in that those people are in your dating pool. It makes sense if a woman is dating a man that sells drugs, has felonies, and baby mamas it’s because they’re both poor and peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:03 PM
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I’ve been in an unloving relationship and I’ve been single for a while. Being single is much better than being with someone who is actively neglecting you. At least when I’m by myself there are no external influences weighing on my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:05 PM
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Thats after the fact. That’s the path most people follow but you didn’t choose them knowing they’d be mean to you. You chose someone to be friends with, then they were mean, then you had to make the choice to not be their friend. You can’t say you chose poorly because the initial choice was done in good faith with good intentions. It’s not your fault that you had to make the decision based on their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:06 AM
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They are wrong for BEING bad friends. It’s isn’t a issue of choice it is a issue of the person behaving the way they do. That will always be the core issue. In order of chain events, that comes first. If no one chooses them, the issue will still be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:47 PM
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People, in general, don’t choose to be mistreated. There’s no choice that you can make that will mean someone else will make the choice not to mistreat you. Once again that is someone else’s actions, choosing or not choosing doesn’t negate the fact that it’s someone else’s actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:34 PM
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Women care! That’s the whole point! Part of the cynicism includes doesn’t only include men they choose to date, women get harassment from men they haven’t even decided on yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:45 PM
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Even if you choose not to, men can be incredibly wicked when rejected. Men can be very unkind to women they aren’t attracted to. It’s not just about the men women choose but it’s also the ones they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:40 PM
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You took the first half of that sentence out of context. Accountability is about your own actions. You can’t take accountability for someone else’s actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:33 PM
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It’s men’s behavior and being on the receiving end of that behavior is what is the complaint. You can’t take accountability for something someone does to you or how someone treats you. If women keep encountering this, it makes sense to be jaded. Its not limited to men women date so that you can just tell them to choose better men. But it’s also our peers saying and doing noticeable things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:33 PM
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I feel like a terrible woman is so easy to spot. I don’t even think they hide it at all. They are the same exact kind of trashy every step along the way and it gets looked past every single time. My brother talks to me about the women he talks to or messes with and everything single time I tell him that based off what you just told me, this lady sucks. Please don’t continue to see them because they will cause you problems. But then he’ll just continue to date them and then complain that they suc…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:53 PM
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IMO, a mamas boy is a grown man who has a emotionally incestuous relationship with his mom. I’d avoid dating a mamas boy because his mom will think that you are his competition and will be a MIL from hell. You’ll be “the other woman” against his mom. Being a mamas boy makes sense when you’re an actual boy but a grown man up his moms ass isn’t cute. She enables him. He’ll go crying to his mommy when you have a relationship problem and she’ll back him up no matter how wrong he is. To me it’s very …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:26 PM
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If women don’t know how to raise men, maybe the men should raise their children? Why leave your children to be raised by someone who you think can’t do it? That’s neglect. If teachers are predominately women, maybe men should take interest in being teachers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 07:50 PM
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There were some tweets this week with men saying why should they impress women on the first date. In general, I don’t understand getting through life without putting in any effort. If I want a job, I have to put in effort and impress people. If I want my art to be better and get recognized, I have to put in effort and impress people. It’s not any different with dating. You have to put in effort and be consistent with it. Yes it’s about impressing people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:43 PM
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I see the exact same thing happen for men, but you wouldn’t see it because you’re probably straight. You also see couples and then also see them separately when they inevitably break up. I’ve seen the same few guys on dating apps on and off over the past few years. What they all had in common was shitty defensive bios. There one guy I’ve swiped left on every single app cause his bio states that he likes animals more than you. Another said swipe left cause you were probably going to do that anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 07:58 PM
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There’s a big difference between someone who was promiscuous and someone buying/selling sex. One is for fun, one is paying someone to use their body. If there wasn’t money involved, there wouldn’t be sex. These are incomparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:15 AM
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A fat woman will be okay as long as she’s the right kind of fat. As long as your belly isn’t bigger than your butt and you have wide hips, I think you’ll be okay. Now who you attract is a whole different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:41 AM
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Majority of the women (and some of the men) on my 600 pound life stories start out like this. They got molested as a child and then started eating as a coping mechanism. Their fat is a suit of armor for them. Almost an invisible shield because they’re no longer desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:32 AM
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What do you consider your legacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:16 AM
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Of course it is. But if you listen to men talk about women they are not attracted to it is generally unkind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 08:40 PM
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Respect is given where respect is due.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:58 PM
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Some of those people on both sides are gay. Some don’t want to be married, some don’t want kids. A lot of those people are not even emotionally capable of maintaining a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:52 AM
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That’s always the response and reason for everything despite people saying everyday that’s not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:16 PM
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It feels like a damn minefield. There are a lot of men just looking to waste both our time. There are A LOT of poly men (and yes they’re average looking men). Like an overwhelming amount, which is something I never see men on here ever account for, all the poly men are already partnered. When I was on tinder (it got off it years ago) there’s a lot of men looking to satisfy kinks and fetishes. Why would I say yes to a stranger about a shit kink, breastfeeding kink, or incest kink or to engage wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:07 PM
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In relationships 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:55 PM
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Not everyone who is overweight or obese is going to look overweight or obese. You can be these things technically but it also depends on your body type. There’s way too much variance on what a overweight body can look like. 5’2 Becky might be 200 pounds but if she has a pretty face, big boobs, a small waist, and a big butt, she’ll probably be just fine. If a man is 5’10 okay in the face and stocky (meaning no beer gut and man boobs), he’ll probably be just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:43 PM
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Then don’t be in a relationship and have raw sex with women if you don’t trust them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:28 PM
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I get that men would want to confirm that their child is their child. But it’s very insulting if they’re in a relationship, the man never questioned infidelity before or during pregnancy and then wants a paternity test. He’s right to want that but it doesn’t come without consequence. The implication is that not only did the woman cheat, but she cheated raw and also had an alleged man cum in her AND THEN tried to pass a baby off as her partners. It’s implying that she’s a deceiving irresponsible …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:13 PM
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Oh no, I know. I have autistic friends, friends with autistic boyfriends, autistic classmates, and had coworkers who were autistic men and women (the women all had autistic husbands and autistic children). So I know that autistic people have very normal lives but I’ve definitely seen with my own two eyes how they struggle socially. Anyone is capable of being a loner and a loser realistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:08 PM
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I’m not cherry picking anything. We might just be using the word anti social differently because I’m not talking about the disorder. I’m talking about people who can’t or don’t interact with other people. I just said it’s associated with loners. Not everyone who does anti social things has antisocial personality disorder. There’s anti social and antisocial. The same way not everyone who does narcissistic things has narcissistic personality disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:37 PM
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I don’t think so honestly. Violence and thuggery don’t exist in a vacuum it’ll always involve two or more people. It’s also mainly used to make someone else do something, it’s primary function is manipulation. Like it’s socially acceptable in some situations. I think anti social behavior is associated with the loner in their mom’s basement stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:07 PM
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Dangerous and violent men have something that autistic men don’t and that’s the ability to socialize and understand social cues. Dangerous men know who to pick, how long to act normal for, when to start being violent, who to be violent in front of without consequence, and who will enable them (ie religious communities and other men).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:53 PM
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Idle men are angry men and I don’t want that in my home.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:25 AM
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Men on here don’t sound like they want a relationship to have the chance to BE a good boyfriend or husband. It doesn’t sound like they are looking for companionship, otherwise their requirements would go beyond physical attributes. It sounds like they want a girlfriend or wife just so they can have someone to make them happy and I don’t know what advice women can give to help y’all get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:22 PM
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I’ve dated fat men before, two of my long term relationships were with fat men. From a sexual perspective, they’re very sweaty and that sweat tends to give yeast infections. They have less stamina and flexibility with positions and there is like a inch of their dick buried under fat. I’ve never seen them cook much of anything. They not fat because they cook and eat a lot, they were fat because they were fat kids and turned into fat adults. I don’t think they’re necessarily funnier. They just try…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 12:36 AM
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I don’t think that women are reopened by niceness or kindness. Women can see that some men are just pussy. It’s not the niceness that’s the problem, it’s the passiveness, the being a doormat, and overall being weak willed. Guess what, it’s embarrassing to be seen with someone who can’t defend themselves or you. Also abusive men and kind men mostly start off on the same playing field. That’s exactly why women end up with abusive men, because abusive men start off as kind men and women fall for it…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:17 PM
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I had a boyfriend in high school who did this to me. He’d beg, threaten to cheat on me (he did it anyway), block me from leaving, yell, threaten to expose me, or come to my home and cause a scene. Most of the time I gave in cause I was scared and didn’t know what to do. It’d just make me feel disgusting. He’d done it to other girls too, it was just his common tactic. So like yes, it works but it’s just going to make a woman hate herself and you. So do it if you’re comfortable with people thinkin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:09 PM
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They are literally abusive. Most of their “scoring” is done through manipulation and coercion. They also know who to choose as their victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:50 PM
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Women mainly populate caretaking careers. So CNAs, nursing, elderly care, childcare. All the jobs that involve cleaning other peoples shit are mainly done by women. And they make a lot less money doing so. Also social work and mental health as well, which can be scary and dangerous at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:55 PM
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Apparently so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:25 PM
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Have you ever considered that women sometimes reject men just because they are not in the headspace for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:30 AM
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Men will sleep with women and then decide they don’t want her. I’m not talking about just chads, I’m talking about the same guys that say that they will take what they can get. That’s why women will have rules for themselves not to have sex after a certain time because after sex is usually when the rejection happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:48 PM
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Life keeps whooping my ass and I just don’t feel comfortable dating anyone while struggling. Also I’m a parent, I can’t even comprehend how to navigate relationships as one. So I’ll just throw in the towel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:30 PM
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I stumbled upon it. I think I was on the dating subreddit, the men there kept talking about how toxic FDS was so I went to check it out for myself, and that led me here. All that aside I studied psychology and sociology, so looking into how people think will always interest me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:51 AM
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When I hear “average man” thrown around on here I always assume that average is meant to mean a slightly homely, 5’10, not skinny, not fat, but also not buff, white man with a (lower) middle class job, from a midsized city. Which is not average at this point. My qualifications for an average person is someone that I can see at any point in my daily life. Someone I can see on the train or the bus or in Target. I don’t run into or encounter supermodels or rich men during my week. I encounter peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:48 PM
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There is a secret third option 🤫
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:33 PM
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Therapy? If therapy isn’t an option you can always find dbt worksheets on Pinterest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:02 PM
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At this point no. I’ve done it before and was told that I clearly chose wrong, so anything that happened was clearly my own fault. So I’m not doing it again. Also the men were very insecure and mean about me either working or making more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:58 PM
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What if I said that women are more likely to be in therapy and are airing their grievances there?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:13 PM
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It’s not resentment. There’s not really anything to resent. I wouldn’t want someone inexperienced because I want someone who has experienced enough to know what they like and don’t like. Being with someone who is inexperienced runs the risk of them realizing they they might not like you as they gain more experience. I only say that because I was inexperienced myself at some point. There were things I thought I liked and I stuck to what I knew (which was very little) as time went on I just outgre…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:10 AM
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Idk how old you are, but I remember growing up the media was a lot more ruthless (it’s the reason things are a lot more sanitized today). Magazines would have stories just tearing women’s appearance down. Bloggers were incredibly cruel. A lot of tv had pop culture references to women known for plastic surgery and turned them into caricatures. So is society really accepting of women who artificially enhance themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:52 AM
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Platform shoes are a thing. Like every brand has a shoe with a thick sole. Just get some doc martens and call it a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:46 AM
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Streetwalkers don’t wear Givenchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:54 AM
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It’s a red carpet event for a vanity affair party. She’s not going to be dressed regular degular.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:31 AM
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That doesn’t make her promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:26 AM
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Because she had 2 boyfriends that we know of? One of them being Future?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:13 AM
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Ciara is considered promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:33 PM
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It depends on their body type. Weight numbers looks different on different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:15 AM
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My brother and I both have our mother and father. We’ve all lived together for up until our early twenties. My parents never told either one of us anything on how to date or even safe sex. The closest I got was that I need to cook and clean because I will have a husband and kids some day. My mom claims she was a married single parent (I don’t agree with her as an actual single parent) it made no difference as to her telling my brother anything about dating. I don’t think my parents have the answ…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:46 PM
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I don’t think most women get together with someone who they don’t find attractive from the very beginning unless they’re a sugar baby or something. It would make sense that some women start out attracted and lose attraction over time due to losing respect for a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:29 PM
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There’s more risk involved with a woman being in the fuck zone. That’s exactly how men end up with baby moms they never even liked to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:35 AM
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Two of my exs seem to be fine and in relationships from what I can see on social media. The other one still seems to be increasingly mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:06 PM
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A lot of these things are temporary. Some people are more resilient than others and are more mentally equipped to deal with natural stresses of life. These things scare some, but not others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:55 AM
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That’ll never happen. It’s more of an incentive for men to be a serial baby daddies with 8 kids and 8 baby mamas because they’ll never be responsible for the children in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:22 AM
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Thanks. You live and you learn and I’m happy that I’ve learned. We all get there eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:43 AM
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I did. They’re all exactly my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:23 PM
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It’s not easily attainable. I’d like someone who actually likes me and isn’t using me as a placeholder just to pass the time. That’s really all it is. I’m okay with a fwb but they have to actually be a person that I enjoy their company and they enjoy mine and we respect each other. That’s not really something I can go on tinder for lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:21 PM
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There are definitely people who want the same but there are also so many people who are lying about wanting the same just for sexual access. It takes time to figure out who’s who and use discernment to weed people out and I deadass don’t have the energy or mental stamina to handle that disappointment right now. But you’re right it’ll take some luck and good timing but I’m patient enough for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:11 PM
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I like doing kind things for close with. I want to be able to make someone food or buy them something that I saw that they needed. Those are part of my love language and I’m not utilizing any of it with casual sex. I’m just not built for this. I don’t want sex, I want to hold hands in Target on a Thursday night. That’s more satisfying to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:21 AM
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I would say so. I’m really looking for someone that I feel comfortable with, I’m not necessarily looking for meaningless sex. It’s more an issue of seeking intimacy and not being used as a human sex toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 11:28 PM
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Pretty much. It’s not sex I really want, it’s intimacy that I want. Having sex with someone once and never hearing from them again feels more damaging because I’ll always want more and to learn someone’s body. It’s never fun just once, I’d want to be comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 11:23 PM
0

It’s not a small group of men. Literally any man is capable of doing it. Old, young, rich, poor, tall, short, fat, skinny, handsome, or ugly. I know that men want to separate themselves from “bad guys” but realistically anyone is capable and that’s the reason for the suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:13 PM
43

I’ve currently been at the longest I’ve been without sex at 2 and a half years. I don’t really think I have a high sex drive. Plus what I want isn’t easily attainable for myself so I’d rather go without. I tried casual and it made me sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:03 PM
2

I really only got manipulated when I was younger, from about 13-21 (I hit puberty early so advances from boys and men started early). I had strict parents (and toxic/abusive) so I didn’t really have much outside experience or healthy relationships. It also caused low self esteem. It’s not like family gives good advice, they’d tell me to do literally anything to keep a man. Also not being in a financially secure position makes it easier to be manipulated. It’s easy to be manipulated when you don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:16 AM
1

They want to be mothers. They have a hard decision to make either way and they will be shamed for every outcome. Even if the man did want the baby we know that men are liable to abandon their children at any point, especially if they don’t want the mother anymore. And it’s not like most of the time it’s women getting pregnant from OOS, they’re usually from established relationships. If the man is present or not present, the woman is going to be doing most of the child rearing anyway. I’m a singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:10 AM
1

Yes, all the women in my family. And I’d really call them male centered more than a pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:41 AM
1

My lesser attractive exs have a history of being more promiscuous (they are also not afraid of using sexual coercion) because they both believe that they need to take every opportunity that they could get no matter where it came from because they didn’t know when the next time would be. Didn’t matter if they were attracted to the woman or not. Didn’t matter if she was clearly mentally ill. When they’re in relationships, it’s only until anyone else comes along. My point is that lowering standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:39 AM
3

Race, culture, and location have big influences altogether. And media influences as well. The men I saw on tv growing up were my starting preference because they were my first crushes (it changed as I got older).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:56 AM
0

I’d say both. Men are no longer a need for women and are now a want but men are struggling to “make themselves the prize” so to speak. Women are weighing their options between being in relationships and having children with men and being single. The relationship with a man has to be more beneficial than being single. And I’m talking more than being 6’ tall and making 6 figures, does this person make me happy? Does this person make my life easier? Does this person add to or take away from my life…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:42 PM
0

I’m sure that I’ll be fine. I hit puberty really early so I know that being desirable makes you a target. I don’t interact with men on a daily basis anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:53 PM
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He’s just not my cup of tea. Women have different tastes in men so yeah there’s going to be some one who will like him. There will be a slightly autistic woman who likes Pokémon that will be a better fit for him and will have more in common with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:42 PM
1

One of my work colleagues. He’s tall, can hold a conversation, has a personality and interests. He’s also autistic. I personally am not attracted to him but I know someone else would be. We’ve spoken about it before I think he goes after some really weird women. I can see obvious red flags but he can’t. I just think he presents himself as too much of a doormat and it pushes certain women away and attracts women looking to step on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:33 AM
1

Men treat their hookups like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:34 PM
0

I have no idea what black pill is honestly. Well yeah how men looks effects how they are perceived but what’s more important is perceived to who. If you’re going after a certain kind of woman then you need to be appealing to her in a way she wants. I like alt looking guys, but I’m not alt looking. So yeah they’re not going to look my way. I’m not going to get their attention. I also think there’s someone for everyone, no one is too ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:39 PM
4

Sounds like the average guy is unattractive. It’s really easy to find something wrong with someone’s actions when you find them not attractive in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:28 PM
3

Of course nothing is set in stone, especially with people. But someone would have to decide if the risk is worth it to them depending on their situation. If they value companionship and family then it will be worth it. People also have to ask themselves if they would be able to survive if they were to split with this person. People should take their time with the process, they should be gf and bf for a few years, engaged for a year or two and live together, then get married. Yes it’s easy when t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:27 AM
5

I believe in marriage for certain people. Getting married means you can possibly gain a new safety net. Mother, father, brothers, sisters In laws can all be beneficial (if it’s not toxic). Aside from that, don’t marry too young or too quickly and use your damn brain to think about the person you’re marrying now and in the long term. Marriage isn’t necessarily a mistake or worthless, but everything you listed is mainly about divorce. That’s just the price of breaking a contract. If the woman was …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 05:12 AM
1

It’s possible to see behaviors and thoughts in people (as a collective) and be able to say this. Like we see the things men who are complete strangers say here every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:16 PM
2

Vet the women you want to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:04 PM
1

Chad isn’t enough. They’re not usually long term partners. But nice guys are waiting for Chad to fuck up so they can seem better in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:56 PM
1

I think nice guys are trying to ride on the coattails of chads. They try and get women under the guise of “well at least I’m not an abusive asshole” okay cool. But what are you then? Is that enough to keep someone with you? Them being happy that you’re not hitting them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:43 PM
2

I give compliments to anyone but most of the time it’s a food/retail worker if I’m already talking to them. I always tell women I like their nails and for men I’ll say I like their shirt (provided I genuinely like their shirt). I don’t go out of my way to compliment random men who aren’t talking to me. If I’m outside doing something I don’t want to bother someone else outside doing something either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:31 PM
2

Not really. I know as a woman that a lot of men are willing to sleep with just about anyone who gives them the chance. It’s not about attractiveness it’s about accessibility. I’ve see absolutely abysmal women always surrounded by men simply because she’s accessible. I’m talking about chads and average guys but average guys are more likely to play the long game and sleep with women until they feel confident enough they could find someone else tomorrow. I don’t take most advancements seriously bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:55 AM
3

Some women will be, but they still probably won’t like him as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:43 PM
1

I would say marriage benefits women if she gains a bigger support system.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:12 PM
24

A man can improve his health and get richer but it still won’t make him attractive to someone who is not attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:53 PM
10

Same. My dad got increasingly incompetent as time went on and is at his absolute worst now because he’s always had someone to enable his nonsense and refuses to learn anything. At this point it’s concerning. When I was younger my mom would force me to deal with my dad’s incompetence rather than tell him to get it together or deal with him herself. I get really upset with my mom for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:43 AM
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a person using celebrity’s as their main role models probably doesn’t have parents or relatives that are good role models for them to be looking up to a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:55 AM
2

I’d say that they’re impatient and can’t stand to be by themselves. They’d rather date just about anyone who comes along who shows a little interest in them and try and change them rather than wait until they meet someone who meets all their requirements. Some people will really accept just about anyone and tolerate a lot of shit to avoid being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:39 AM
1

Companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:28 AM
13

It’s because of Keke Palmer situation. It sparked a conversation about men talking about how they want their girlfriends to dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:06 AM
2

I think a boundary is something between yourself and someone. How someone directly interacts with you. Someone posting themselves on instagram or choosing how they want to dress is not a violation of a boundary. There’s a difference between saying “I don’t like when you do something” and “I don’t like when you do something TO me”. Yeah he’s controlling telling her what to wear, what to post, and who to hang out with, realistically has nothing to do with him. He met her doing all those things. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:08 AM
1

I’ve been celibate for about 2 and a half years. I’ve felt comfortable during this time. No pregnancy scares, no worries about stds, my health is better now that I don’t have anyone throwing my ph off, no worries about someone looking at my naked body, no one accusing me of being with other people. It’s just peaceful in comparison to what I see people in relationships deal with. I’m happy with no one begging me for sex and making sex feel like a chore. Of course I’ve struggled with it and consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:27 AM
7

That’s like 85% of the population. I think you can come from any of those things and still have parents that love, care, and take care of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:54 AM
1

Single fathers tend to be the non custodial parent. So yeah it’s easier to date when you only have your kids 2 weekends a month and maybe summers. Single moms tend to have their kids majority of the time or all the time. I have a cousin who is technically a single mom but her kid lives by dad during the week so her bf (who is technically a single dad but never has his kid) stays with her during the week. My other cousin was technically a single dad but only saw his kids during holidays and summe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:33 AM
1

I have about 600 and it’s mainly people I went to school with from elementary-college. Some people are just from the same city as me. It means very little because I’m mainly a spectator. I don’t post much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 04:39 AM
1

He is not ugly to Beyoncé. That’s all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:03 AM
1

If most women are considered fat and a good portion of women have children, then you’re talking about a minority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:15 PM
1

Mostly it was to stop me from breaking up with them or I can’t say no to sex because they did something for me that came out of their pocket. It wasn’t cash money in my hand but just paying for stuff sometimes. It wasn’t hundreds of dollars or expensive shit, I didn’t even ask for things. Just normal stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:11 AM
2

I don’t really watch porn anymore. I found a few male performers that I liked years and years ago and have stuck with them ever since. I’ll just watch the same few videos over and over. Some of the performers have been working for a long time so they’ve had times where they’re more buff or more fat. They have gray hair now (which I think is hot). It’s really about how they treat their co stars because God I wish that were me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:25 PM
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No, it’s an example of a power dynamic but there’s a good chance that’s where a older man/younger woman age gap relationship is heading. The younger woman living with the older man. An example without cohabitation would driving with your gf and kicking her out the car for disagreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:53 AM
10

The action of doing so is pretty much the same. Both are coercion. If my dad says that I need to lend someone my car he gave me for a few days and I need to remember that he pays my car insurance. so I if I say no, maybe he doesn’t need to do that anymore. If I live with my boyfriend and he says I need to wash and fold his clothes but I need to remember that I live with him and maybe I don’t need to be here if I say no. Both are withholding something if you say no. It doesn’t make sense to turn …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:38 AM
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Idk if I’m considered older in my late twenties. while I’m not rich, I do have my own apartment and car and I live okay. I worry for younger women because I was a teenager who has dealt with men using money or things they bought me as leverage to try and get me to do anything they want. I was really only put between a rock and a hard place because I had abusive parents who would threaten me similarly. I don’t deal with stuff like that anymore because I’m more established and secure than I was th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:23 AM
1

no one needs to be fucking someone they see as a mental child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:12 AM
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That’s the point, make her feel stuck with you and she probably won’t even put you on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:11 AM
1

It’s a mutual exchange. They’re both providing each other with something. It’s gross to frame the woman as a child if he’s having sex with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:09 AM
0

Cooking, cleaning, child rearing, and sex (in a traditional relationship) are all provided by her. That’s definitely more time spent than 40-60 hours a week at a job. You can’t call out sick, you can’t call for back up because you have no co workers, you’re on call.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:03 AM
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Most men? Probably not. But there are definitely men who are willing to do that just to slow down a woman’s life. Child support enforcement is a joke so it’s possible to dodge it for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:55 AM
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They are happy knowing that the woman having the child will leave her with less romantic opportunities and will leave her more likely to keep sleeping with him because she can’t get any one else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:41 AM
3

I believe in love for other people but it’s not for me anymore. You have to be able to accept a certain level of nonsense from people to exist in a relationship. I have low tolerance for things and have been comfortable alone. I just don’t have the energy for it. I’m happy with my platonic relationships but the expectations for romantic relationships are something I can’t fulfill. There’s no amount of vetting that can predict how someone might be 10, 20, 30 years down the line. It’s human nature…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:36 AM
0

You can do this, but if you’re an absolute tool then you’ll still have trouble getting a girlfriend. The only thing that’s better is that you’re more likely to meet women who have the same lifestyle as you in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:31 AM
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You’re strongly interpreting it that way cause I’m not talking about morality. You’re just putting it in the conversation but it’s not a morality issue. It’s a weak qualification to choose a partner for. It’s unsustainable. It’s definitely something that doesn’t have longevity and doesn’t affect the quality of the relationship. You can grow hair back, there are things that you can do to put hair back. You cannot reverse youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:06 AM
5

The kids are getting left too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:48 AM
7

I didn’t say either one was more or less superficial or moral. It’s just that the only way for a man to maintain his attraction to youth and fertility is pull a Leo DiCaprio replace women with younger women every time they get too old, while he still continues to get older himself. It’s not like women are throwing away their tall boyfriends for even taller boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:46 AM
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You’re taking the data way too literally. A woman who is 5’2 is not going to notice much of a difference between a man who is between 5’7-5’10. Women are not good with judging height in person. Sure it’s easy to do online, but in the real world women can’t tell much of a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:56 AM
1

I don’t think her face is unattractive. If she lost the weight she would probably look mostly the same. If you look at pictures of her when she was younger her face was the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:39 AM
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That doesn’t make what I said not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:35 AM
6

“over here in the real world” And you quote bumble? And 2 controlled studies? Seems like the real world to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:31 AM
2

Women say they want tall men but in reality just want a man that’s taller than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:45 AM
5

That makes sense if you’re genuinely interested in her and her youth is not your main attraction to her. If you’re still attracted to her at 42 and she’s attracted to a 62 year old man then there’s not much of a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:43 AM
2

Bone structure alone is not enough to make someone attractive. Not all fat people look alike. Some have fat people faces and some don’t. Some people lose the weight and still have a fat face. I know that’s what they’re not commenting on but usually when someone is described as ugly or pretty it’s referring to their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:40 AM
8

I believe you but I also have replies saying to get a new woman when the first one gets too old. I believe both are things are possible and both happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:04 AM
3

I’m sure their partners would have a problem with that. It seems like there are men who have a issue with that because the women their age are with older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:50 AM
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But if you’re picking someone based on youth you’ll have to keep picking new partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:46 AM
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What’s tall to you? Cause even the average height man will still be taller than the average height woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:44 AM
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He’s comparing them in if they can be controlled or not. Yeah you can’t control your height but once you stop growing that’s it. It’s finite. Age isn’t, people will always be growing older.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:42 AM
6

That means they are not comparable
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:34 AM
2

She’s not ugly in the face, just fat. Being a fat women doesn’t automatically make a woman unattractive. a big butt is considered attractive. A man that big probably won’t be able to preform well sexually so they’re less desirable than fat women. I often joke that if you see a women who looks like that there is probably a Jamaican man in her DMs as we speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:47 AM
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Tall men stay tall but young women don’t stay young.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:28 AM
1

Yes and no. Some women probably don’t need to change anything about themselves physically or mentally to get a man that is exactly her equal. There are women who grow out their arm pit hair, never shave, hardly bathe, have short blue hair, and tattoos and piercings and maybe kinda annoying, I never see a woman like this single. she’s usually with a man who is exactly the same. Good chance they’re both poly and date even more people who look like them. I’ve seen some women with 4 baby dads, no jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 05:04 AM
1

Same! I’m planning on going back to school to be a therapist. Sometimes I can see the outcome of a situation clear as day but the person who is in the situation cannot see it. Some people just don’t have that insight or self awareness, some gain it eventually but a lot don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:34 AM
9

The average person isn’t a psychologist. Most people aren’t even aware that something is wrong until looking at it in retrospect. I think that most people aren’t even confrontational enough to deal with a situation with behavior they find inappropriate. I used to do groups for people in psych wards. One day the topic was healthy relationships and boundaries, a lot of people can’t even recognize red flags. There are people who go their entire lives not knowing certain things are “red flags”. If y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:01 AM
7

I like learning about people and theorizing. I’m also just a curious person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:28 PM
2

It reduces the chance with a woman who is emotionally avoidant herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 05:49 PM
2

My last bf when we first started dating I was in school and working and he was job searching. When the dynamic switched and I wasn’t working and he started working and I was staying with him for a bit the dynamic completely shifted to him telling me that I had no say in the relationship anymore and had to do what he said when he said it. If a man who made $10 a hour felt comfortable saying this to me, then I couldn’t even imagine how ridiculous things can get on such a larger scale. So I’ll pass…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 02:59 PM
15

You thinking of single moms as a stereotype when realistically any woman from any background can become a single mom. Any man from any background can abandon his children. Some women become single moms after being in a relationship or married for years, sometimes after multiple children planned together. It’s not just women getting pregnant from ons with felons. It’s not just women who date felons. Not every baby dad of a single mom is a bad boy, most of the time they’re just regular average men…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 02:52 PM
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It’s mainly desperation. Yeah sure there are some women who love doing sex work because they are exhibitionists and have incredibly high sex drives. But there is a reason you don’t see many homeless women on the street, they get sucked into prostitution very fast. Same thing for pornography. Girls who just turned 18 and women on drugs are usually eaten up and spit out. There are some career porn stars, but there are 3 times as many women who did a few movies just to get out of a situation they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:38 AM
3

I’ve only gotten broken up with when there was another woman already in the picture and he was confident enough to leave. The reasons are just made up out of thin air. I had one relationship when I was a teenager that was very on and off. The very last time he broke up with me (he tended to break up with me and try to keep coming back) it was because he said that I was not clingy enough. I wasn’t blowing up his phone and acting crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 01:27 PM
5

Women aren’t avoiding men because of privilege or abundance. I explained why.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:33 PM
6

Women learn to be aware of danger as girls. We are not allowed to go out late or hang out at friends houses or have sleepovers with people all while sometimes watching our brothers be allowed to do it. We get policed on what we wear to make sure we don’t look too “grown”. A lot of women have had experiences with adult men sexually harassing them when they were girls (family is included in that). So yeah. Women have a different way of navigating with men because women have been taught to avoid si…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:28 PM
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The man can get a job eventually but sicknesses can be unpredictable. The man having a job is a contribution to the family, it helps pay rent, bills, and food. A woman having sex with a man should be for both their pleasure, but the way it’s framed it’s for his pleasure. These things aren’t equal if one gets taken out of the equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 11:59 PM
5

I always look at other parents at school pick up and school events. Clearly everyone in the room had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:07 PM
1

I think it FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:59 PM
1

I never really defined my standards and I never really heard other women verbally say I will only date xyz. Most women I know have just dated men who they know and try to make the best of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:24 PM
2

I’m a single parent myself. I’m not going to say it’s completely off the table but I usually don’t seek out single dads. If it happens, cool. If not, also cool. It really depends on the situation that they have going on. I love kids, so they are not a problem to me. But if he’s coparenting and life is already hectic with that, I kind of don’t want to be in a too many cooks situation. I’m not looking for someone to be a step parent, I’d be looking for a relationship. My cousin coparents and she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 01:15 PM
1

So poor baby moms can become sex workers, I’m not sure that’s any good. What’s your point here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:11 PM
1

It didn’t but those are all very rich people. Being a baby mama when you’re rich with your own money doesn’t mean much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:04 PM
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They are equivalent to me. Both of them are in a position of wanting more but having to settle for what the person they want is willing to give them. A woman being fuck zoned is a path to becoming a baby mom that a man tolerates. There’s less risk with a man in the friend zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:23 AM
1

I think the men that are struggling have a personality issue. I see average men and below average men with women. If they’re struggling it’s because I don’t think they have enough charisma, charm, or pleasantness to make them a slightly bearable to be around. I think it’s easy to make up for being physically below average or just average if you’re funny. I’ve been on dating apps on and off for years. I’ve seen the same men on there for years. What they have in common, regardless of above or belo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 03:53 AM
1

Conversations about being average and being mid don’t amount to much honestly. What is mid to one man, is a 10 to another. Same for women, what I think is attractive my friends would say isn’t attractive. So everyone is right with what they are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:36 PM
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It’s easy to keep having kids when you aren’t the one who has to give birth to them and you aren’t the one taking care of them. Also some people just don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 09:58 PM
1

Mens standards are be young, don’t be fat, don’t be ugly, and don’t have kids. You don’t speak for me and my standards. I don’t know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 12:58 PM
1

Women already get told this. So have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 12:50 PM
4

Of course men have a choice. They can choose to change their standards and date a wider pool of women. The quality of the relationship matters a lot for women because the worst case scenario for a woman with a poor quality relationship is that she ends up with a child, with no money, or dead. The opportunity to have more risks is not a better option. Idk why men are complaining that they don’t have the opportunity to be exploited like women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:23 PM
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I’d question the quality of some of those relationships. A lot of those women are not getting attention and relationships from men who genuinely love them, there’s a lot of men who target women like this because they’re easy to mess with. A “stupid” or naive woman is less likely to leave you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 10:40 PM
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This is all radical feminist theory. Women can be a “human fleshlight” in a relationship too. Probably more likely to be in a long term relationship. So I don’t really see a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:15 PM
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Women don’t benefit from casual sex and most women don’t want it. Women have more access to not have an orgasm with a stranger and maybe get a std, that’s not really a privilege. Men wish it’s something that they had and could do and that’s why they keep calling it a privilege but the grass isn’t greener on the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:07 PM
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No, they genuinely suck. They don’t add anything to my life despite me being beneficial to them. My father, brother, cousins, uncles would call on me if they needed help but I could never rely on them. They would leave me for dead given the chance if I were ever deemed not useful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 07:11 PM
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Reading. There’s a lot of books about sex and sexuality. When I was a virgin I gained a lot of sexual experience from reading and also porn but porn isn’t a good teacher all the time. I still read books about sexuality now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 04:13 PM
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Not constant fear but women learn to be careful of men since we are children. Not to make men out to be a big scary boogeyman, but many women can tell you that their first experience being sexually harassed or assaulted is as a child or teenager by adult men or boys our age. By the time we’re adults we’ve experienced so much that we’re more cautious because being naive will get you hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 02:25 PM
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We wouldn’t be together, let’s start there. Doesn’t matter about the past, I’ll be unsatisfied with who he is right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:40 AM
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The standards for men and women to be able to date should be the same. Both should have income at the very very least. They should both try to be as healthy as they can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 08:30 PM
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Never, I’m fat so I don’t have these problems. I got hit on very very often by grown men from the age of about 11-21 (I hit puberty early). So I don’t mind being basically invisible. I finally get to exist in public in peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:22 AM
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I have a lot of great memories with my dad growing up. However he is a very passive man. My mom would yell at me for hours on end and I would beg my dad to help me and he would tell me to figure it out and leave me to fend for myself. I was always told that fathers are supposed to be protective and my dad could not even protect me against my own mom. He’d use me as a shield against my mom, as long as she was torturing me that means she wasn’t bothering him. He’s always been present in my life ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 03:43 AM
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I really think the only difference between a nice guy ™️and an asshole is that the asshole is not afraid to hit a woman. I’ll hear other women say “oh he’s a nice guy it’s just that he describes emotional, mental, and maybe financial abuse”. Its easier to shove all those things into a gray area in comparison. It’s also their passive aggression.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 03:15 AM
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A lot of the time race is never mentioned but BM will assume it meant them and take offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:33 AM
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She’s a millionaire and lawyer. It makes sense that she would not want to date a bus driver. They have very different lifestyles. She wants to be with someone who has the same status as her and that makes sense. BW date down A LOT and are encouraged to do so by women like Iyana.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:31 AM
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Sure there will be people it won’t apply to, but from what we saw in the pandemic/quarantine with the division of childcare solely falling on women to the point where women couldn’t hold their jobs, It’s something that isn’t really geared towards changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:03 AM
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No but it’s a common trend for generations. I’m not making assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:55 AM
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Most men who want to be fathers want kids but they aren’t as interested in raising them on a daily basis. They just like doing the fun stuff but usually pass all the annoying gross things onto the mom. The standard of being a good father is providing for your child and that’s what most men know and want. So they wouldn’t want to have a child and be solely responsible for it 24/7, they want to have a child and feel comfortable that the child is with mom while they’re at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:17 AM
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I think you have it incredibly confused. Abusive bad natured behavior typically isn’t what attracted women to these men. The men do not start off abusive and bad natured, that would only attract women of the same nature. They don’t want a woman strong willed like themselves, they want someone weak willed. They start off normal and loving but slowly start to drop the act. It’s not women choosing abusive men, abusive men know exactly who they can fuck with. Young girls and young women, women with …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:31 AM
2

Are these dirt bags the 5%-20% top men that get all the women?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:17 AM
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There’s several types of feminism and they all have different views on hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:15 AM
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I see it being utilized more by women who don’t want to ruin their body. Rich women already have the option to use surrogates. I don’t think men would bother with this unless they’re a gay couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:13 AM
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I’ve seen a lot of couples like this on tinder looking for a third. Drugs are involved. The woman has an ugly dad and he’s ugly like her dad. Women with Cluster B personality disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:05 PM
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No. My younger brother and my older cousin I grew up with choose the worst women imaginable and stay with them for way too long after they see that they are terrible. They are NEVER single. I wish I could just ignore their choice of partners but my brother’s girlfriends have jumped someone in my moms house and broke MY bed, caused damage to my mother’s house, sent him to jail. My cousin has 3 baby moms and 3 kids and we help with the kids when we can when they’re around but have to tolerate his …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:16 PM
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It can be either depending on the result.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:04 PM
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Boy Scouts wasn’t encouraging violence but from what I see it’s about children not having access to the same things. Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts don’t do the same things. Boy’s scouts not being boys only is about letting girls who don’t have “girly interests” have something to do. That is definitely something men need if men and the people around them are saying that men are lacking social skills and personal skills. They don’t need competition but collaboration. Who are their opponents? You’re r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:03 PM
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I mean outside in the real world where it’ll actually help.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:49 PM
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It’s only toxic masculinity when it’s genuinely toxic. I understand the concern for certain spaces for men because when some men get together they do it just to share hatred and possibly encourage violence, so yeah that’s going to be shunned upon. There’s been a lot of violence that has come from members influenced by certain mens groups. It can easily be positive. Men being there for their younger brothers, nephews, cousins, and neighbors to teach them hygiene, how to care for themselves, how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:12 PM
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That makes sense. I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:03 PM
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And that mentality is why men are suffering from loneliness. You guys could have strength in numbers but are too concerned about only yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:01 PM
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That’s part of any relationship. You’re not always going to gain, but it is also not taking anything away from you to support others.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:58 PM
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If no one is contributing then no one is benefiting. I have a brother who is like that. He never shows up to help anyone and actively avoids talking to people but will whine that nobody helps him. You have to participate in society and contribute to help make it better for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:33 PM
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Support with mental health and personal issues. I mean it more on a physical level, not just being chronically online. Like actually having clothing drives, job readiness training, providing resources, helping maintain personal relationships. If no one gives a shit about struggling men then why don’t men care about other struggling men? Like that seems like the place to start is with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:31 PM
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Can the men not say no? I don’t think it makes sense for women to want to invade mens spaces. I feel like it’s the other way around. You see trans women wanting to be included in cis women spaces but don’t hear as much about trans men wanting to be included in cis men spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:18 PM
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If men think that society is against them and not for them, why don’t they support each other? Why don’t I see men creating support groups or volunteering? Non profits, social work, and therapy are overwhelmingly populated with women. Why don’t I see men trying to build or be part of community?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:10 PM
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This was 5 years ago. I already said blocked him and never spoke to him again. So I’m not actively choosing him at all. I feel like my comment was pretty clear that I didn’t like his behavior and I didn’t continue contact. He definitely wasn’t mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:42 AM
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It’s not an exclusive monogamous relationship, but it’s still a kind of relationship. Friends are relationships, family are relationships, co workers are relationships. It’s not a bf gf relationship but it’s definitely something.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:10 AM
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I was 22/23. It was a relationship but we never defined it as such, I guess we were FWB but I genuinely thought we were friends. We had previously dated when we were teenagers. He came over and made dinner for me, he helped me move some stuff to my house, he met my kid, I watched his kid once for a few hours. I was just going with the flow trying to move on from a past relationship, he seems to always be in this kind of situation. We saw each other for about a year and a half but we didn’t sleep…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 05:19 AM
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Maybe 25% and I think it’s because of hygiene issues mainly. I’ve seen all types of men have girlfriends (that are their equals). Short, bald, physical disabilities, fat, ugly, and any combination of them all. I worked with an older (older than me, most of these men were in their late 50’s) population. These men obviously aren’t models and some never were good looking but they would have gfs, wives, and children. The men who were never in a relationship were the ones who were incredibly unbearab…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:59 PM
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To be fair, a drug dealer can be a workaholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 07:22 PM
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Being a “bad boy” attracts equally unstable women. Realistically they are products of the same environment. You wonder why some women would want to be a third, fourth, or fifth baby mama, that’s the environment that they came from where they see it as acceptable. No need to pretend being a bad boy unless you want a woman that will slash your tires and will fight your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 01:18 PM
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A starter wife is the first wife of a man that’s with him when he’s either broke or building himself. Usually a woman he’s settled for. then leaves her for who he really wants when he has wealth and status. What does that have to do with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:47 PM
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Oh okay. So he wasn’t old old. And sorry for your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:05 PM
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Ask her questions and get feedback. Ask her what she likes, ask her how she likes it done, if you’re doing it ask her if she likes it or if she wants you to go faster or harder or whatever. Every women is different, so there’s no one size fits all. you have to take your time get to know what pushes women’s buttons. Once you know, it’s not that hard. It’s just the effort learning someone’s body.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 09:44 PM
1

How old was he?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 09:34 PM
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Aren’t littles a kink?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:31 PM
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I’m a single mother. I don’t have sex much. I’ve been celibate for 2 years now and I have been celibate for a year or so at a time since my kid was born. I don’t care for sex anymore. I’m sometimes too tired to even attempt. Dating is hard and I don’t want to subject my kid to my relationships (I grew up with my parents fighting all the time and they still do till this day) so I’d rather stay single. It’s also very noticeable how different men treat you when you’re a single mom. They approach yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:04 PM
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I don’t think there’s anything you can do to prevent someone from changing their mind after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:43 PM
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If a man is being patient, then why worry about being second option when he is clearly in first place? YES, If he wants to leave then he can leave. There’s nothing stopping him. Nothing was really invested other than time, so it’s not a big loss. What emotional resources would he be giving in a couple of dates? This whole situation is based on the woman being honest about her past, so yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:41 PM
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There probably won’t be a issue about a man leaving just because he didn’t get sex soon enough. That’s the point. To weed out men who can’t wait for sex. If it’s like this in the beginning it wouldn’t be any better if it turned into a LTR and the woman didn’t feel like having sex sometimes for whatever reasons. If you learn something from it, it’s not a mistake. That’s part of growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:28 PM
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Entitlement is a word that keeps getting thrown around here today. No one has to do anything that they don’t want to. There’s always the option to not deal with it at all. Women aren’t entitled to special treatment and men aren’t entitled to special treatment. That’s what this is all about, just because a woman has had casual sex before doesn’t mean the next man is entitled to it just because whoever before has done so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:06 PM
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Not getting sex right away is not a punishment. Once again, it’s not about her delaying sex to make the new guy feel bad, it’s about her delaying sex to make sure that she is comfortable and builds a connection. It’s not about torturing the guy. If he feels like he is being punished, then he needs to go ahead and take himself out the dating game altogether until he can stop thinking that he is getting punished when he doesn’t get his way. This is a conversation I had with a literal child. Just b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:27 PM
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But her decision has nothing to do with him? She made the decision to wait prior to meeting him. If she wasn’t attracted to him, she wouldn’t even be dating him. I think this is all being internalized and he’s taking it personally when it’s not. You’re viewing this as a punishment for the man. I don’t think someone changing their mind about casual sex is a mistake, it’s just someone who learned what they like and don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:55 PM
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Don’t forget that they’ll also call her a slut for doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:33 PM
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It’s almost like it’s a different kind of relationship and he will be treated differently because it’s a different kind of relationship. If he just wants to have sex with her and be tossed to the side like everyone else the he needs to open his mouth and say that. Or he can find someone who is still into having casual sex. No need to be upset because someone is in a transition period and you want to be treated like the people she’s leaving behind. It’s not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:31 PM
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The relationship is doomed if someone spends their time comparing themselves to the last person and not paying attention to the person that they are in a relationship that is in the present. Who fucking cares about a ring costing less?! It happened and clearly doesn’t matter because the relationship didn’t last. You want sex easily but don’t want a ran through slut? You have a lot of animosity for someone who isn’t entitled to sex. How can someone be mad about how a crush treats people? They’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:19 PM
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People grow up and can change their mind. People can also realize that they don’t like casual sex. Idk why people are expected to act consistently about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:53 PM
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It’s not rejecting sexual advances, it’s delaying sexual advances. Sex is on the table when the women feels more comfortable with the guy. Women get told to choose better all the time and delaying sex helps a woman get to know a man better without sex clouding judgement and it should be the same for men too. If the goal is a relationship for BOTH parties, then a delay in having sex would be fine. There will be times in life where sex isn’t going to happen all the time, it’s nice to know you’re c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 12:52 AM
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I know that there’s medical misogyny. Women aren’t taken seriously about health problems. There’s no pain treatment for IUD insertions. Most medicine is trial run with men. Women still die in childbirth despite modern technology and medicine. It’s hard for women to get hysterectomies and abortions. Maternity leave is nonexistent and childcare is expensive, typically forcing women to stay home. Women woman dominated industries typically pay less. It’s easier for a woman to have her kids taken awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:26 AM
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It’s easier to manipulate younger people into things because of their lack of experience. For the gay community, there are a lot of young boys and men that get kicked out of their homes and it’s easy to take advantage of them in a vulnerable position. The same way some men prefer hardly legal girls, some men prefer hardly legal boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:38 PM
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First off, I’m fat, black, almost 30, college educated, and a single mom. Pretty much every day on here and twitter I see men very vocally stating that they hate all the things I am. So I know that men will never choose me on purpose. Anyone choosing or pursuing me is probably trying to settle and I don’t want someone to do that. They need to be with who they want and I’m not it. Second off, I don’t know any woman with a husband or boyfriend who is completely happy. The things they tell me that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 03:13 AM
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My response is okay. I’m not going to try and convince someone to do something that they don’t want to do. I’ve done things with exs that they asked for and it turns out I hated it, it hurt me, or it was downright degrading. I don’t want to do it again because it doesn’t make me feel good, I feel like that should be easy to understand. Non sexual related, I once had my ex get really mad that I wanted to go to Applebees because “I should be choosing new places to create new and not places with ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:50 AM
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The average onlyfans costs $10-$20 a month. If a man is spending so much money on onlyfans then he probably has an addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:33 AM
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You can always make more money but you can’t undo having sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 05:08 AM
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Men’s standards are fairly low. From what I’ve seen here their standards is to just be a legal teenage girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:20 AM
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That’s the justice system. Not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:16 AM
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No. If you have suspicions then take the effort to get paternity established in court and have your name added to the birth certificate after. The system is already in place, it just requires effort and it sounds like no one wants to do it. The government is slow (and sometimes wrong) with pretty much everything. Child support enforcement isn’t that great, you can evade it for a long time. It’d just be one more agency to fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:40 PM
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It depends. I love kids so I don’t mind but he’d have to be a good father and have a good relationship with his child’s mother. I don’t want to date a weekend dad or a dad that just sees their kids during the summer because we don’t have similar lives. We’re not the same kind of single parent. I wouldn’t date a single dad with intentions of having a blended family, I’d want us to see each other when we don’t have our kids. I don’t think it’s fair to kids to be subjected to our relationship and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:27 PM
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Nah, I got downvoted too 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 12:46 AM
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I have a few types that I’m attracted to but they all have full dark hair and dark eyes. I like facial features that are the opposite of my own. So I like men who have strong eyebrows, big noses, and a sharp jawline. I have a round face and soft features. My types are: slim, alt, 5’6-5’10 Hispanic men curly hair with tattoos, mixed artsy black men, 6’0-6’2 European white men with a mustache and a old timey boxer build. It’s not limited to that but those are my top 3. Ideally Ideally, want someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:08 PM
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He shouldn’t but there’s nothing he can do to get rid of the child. Government doesn’t really care about circumstances, they just see a child that needs to be taken care of. Women are forced to share custody with their abusers all the time and there is nothing that can be done about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:09 PM
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She’s a placeholder until someone they really want comes along. They’d rather waste time with her rather than be alone. They’re using her to keep themselves occupied. They’re satisfied with the sex and maybe sometimes some company, but they don’t see themselves sticking around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:51 PM
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You can’t force someone else to get an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:39 PM
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If a man doesn’t want kids but relies on the woman using contraception only, that’s not rape, that’s just taking a leap of faith and being stupid. Even if she says she is on it birth control, I’m sure most men won’t even bother to verify that or ask her to prove it. I had this conversation with my younger brother and told him that he can’t rely on his gf (or other girls) using birth control only because it can fail or she can just stop taking it. He has a tendency to date crazy women, so maybe d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:09 PM
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A whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:33 AM
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Got into a poly relationship? That’s not the average woman at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:25 AM
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I feel like there’s way too many people from so many different backgrounds in nyc to fail here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:06 AM
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I’d honestly say that ugly is subjective. I know in PPD standards being fat means you’re automatically ugly. I think those are two separate categories. Also what culture you’re from determines what you think is attractive. So a ugly woman might not always be undesirable. I would think men are even harsher to women they see as ugly who turn them down. Because if the ugly girl turns you down then what? If he hurts her no one is really paying attention to the ugly girl anyway, so he’s more likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 08:09 PM
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I’ve heard everything on TRP and PPD in real life, so it’s nothing new. Seeing men say the things they say on a daily basis in a loop just makes me not want to date men or be friends with them. I don’t hate them, I just don’t want to be around them. I already didn’t trust men so nothing has changed. I’m attracted to men but have lost the desire to be in a long term relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:55 PM
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Chads, average women not dating average men, average men not having opinions (they have options they just don’t want them), no one wanting fat people. Everyone is pretty much dating in their league because everyone has their own circles that they are in. What ppd considers a low class woman won’t be surrounded by high value men, she’ll be around low class men. Location matters. I’m from a big city, rich people date within their circles and so do poor people. People from certain cultures do too. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:59 PM
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From what I’ve seen with my peers who I’ve grown up with, men have their type that they will openly date but will hook up with with just about anyone. Most men I’ve been with I haven’t been their type. Some have verbally said “oh yeah my type is Asian girls” or “my type is skinny tatted Latinas” which is confusing considering that I’m black, not tatted, and not skinny. However they have always been my type. Most of the guys trying to get with me during high school and college (who I turned down …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 11:14 AM
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I’m not a black man (I’m a black woman) but I’m going to say no. Any woman looking to date stereotype of a black man is not something you would want to begin with. They’d get mad when at you when you don’t match the image in their head. They’d be interested in what they think you are, but not actually you. I think they are easy to spot so just leave them alone. There will always be women who have a similar temperament to you that you will click with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 04:21 PM
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I’d straight up not encourage babies and children being born into foster care and having both parents pay. Foster care is not a good institution, child support is not a strong institution either because it’s really easy to avoid paying and enforcement isn’t strong either. There will never be equality for this. Men are upset that they don’t have the same option but there is no male equivalent to an abortion. They may see it as unfair but it’s just biology. Women live longer, are men going to sugg…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:16 AM
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Accept that both parties don’t have equal say in becoming parents once a woman is pregnant. Biologically there is no way to make this equal. Once the baby is born, then the man has rights but as long as it’s in her body then he has no rights to the decision over someone else’s body and medical decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:02 AM
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Yes, that’s what I think most women want is someone on their level. Thats the ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 12:11 PM
1

The last time anyone has asked me what my body count was I was in high school. Anyone asking already has a number in their head and they are just looking to argue. There are some sexual encounters that I don’t count as a body because they’re debatable to me. There’s at least 3 occasions where a guy tried to put his semi hard or soft dick in me and then nothing happened. One guy was really small and had a condom on so there really wasn’t much happening there, it didn’t feel like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:43 AM
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I have one, but I wish I had at least 2 more. I like children and I have the patience for them. I don’t think I will be having more because I don’t have a good enough support system and the current state of the US (mainly education) is not ideal for raising children. I don’t even see myself meeting someone and starting a family with them because dating sucks. I’d get a donor.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:25 AM
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Domestic violence towards men obviously isn’t good and I don’t support it. I know men (mainly family) who have had been physically attacked by women but they themselves don’t even see it as domestic violence or abuse. Just as “bitches be trippin”. There was more property damage involved with men. they all moved on to other relationships, they don’t get viewed as damaged goods like women. Men can take the same legal steps women take. They can report it and get a restraining order. However they mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 03:40 AM
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I’m single and on bc. I wanted to be on bc when I was a teenager because my periods we unpredictable and painful, but my mom said no suffering is part of being a woman. I got pregnant like 3 years later. I found out I was pregnant at the appointment to get a IUD. I went off my bc a few times and my sex drive was still low. Idk if it’s bc or depression. I tried the nuvaring and it works for me so I stuck with it for the past few years. I stay on it even with being celibate just to have consistent…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 11:15 PM
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Id say Sam. I’d want someone with experience, I’d feel a lot of pressure being someone’s first. But it depends on how many sexual partners they had, how they treated them, how many were long term partners. If they had a habit of cheating or ghosting after sex, then no. If they had the same body count as me or a little higher then that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 03:17 AM
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I wish some women would stop being so male centered or codependent with men. I hate to see a woman tolerate their loser boyfriends behavior non stop but will be really harsh on their female friends and cut them off for really silly things. They’ll defend and protect their horrible male relatives but not their female relatives. Women who raise their sons and daughters to different standards (I’m the oldest daughter, iykyk)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:38 PM
2

Women are far more likely to die from abuse. Especially during pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:37 PM
2

I don’t like STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 12:42 AM
4

A extended multigenerational family is simply stronger than a nuclear family. There’s more people contributing and each person contributes something different. Its easier to make up for shortcomings with more people. I think that’s something a nuclear family can’t do. I grew up in a extended family that became more nuclear over time. It was always better having more people around. Especially as a child. My parents are pretty insufferable when it’s just them two alone. A 2 parent household is onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:42 PM
3

I mean single mother has become a very broad term. There are single mothers who have long term boyfriends, there are single mothers that co parent, there are single mothers who still live with the dad, there are single mothers that live with family. Even married women claim to be single mothers sometimes. Single mother doesn’t mean solo mother anymore, it just means not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:38 PM
4

If a woman is a single mom and taking care of her child, then she is being accountable. Most single moms have children from relationships that failed, I don’t think it’s from casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:22 PM
3

I don’t think that men need to be step fathers but they can take a more active role in being grandfathers, uncles, cousins, Godfathers, and teachers. Building community is a good way to handle fatherlessness. The single fathers I know utilize the hell out of the women in their family (if they don’t have a girlfriend). Women can do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:50 AM
4

Probably just my last boyfriend. He’s handsome but also has BPD and was also bipolar. I’m not even sure he can be considered a chad because he’s a serial monogamist. He tends to jump from relationship to relationship, he’d do casual very little in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:45 PM
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I honestly have not dated much since becoming a single parent but I gave up about 2 years ago. They type of guys I like didn’t really change. I dated 2 single dads, which I didn’t bother with before. I can’t say they understand being a single parent the same way I do because their children’s mothers are heavily involved, one still lived together with his bm. The biggest change is in the men who like me. Men will now approach me under the assumption that I am dumb, desperate, and easy, to which I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:25 PM
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How can a woman know that a man is a deadbeat if he doesn’t have children? If a man has 3 kids and 3 baby mom, sure. It would be stupid to have that man’s child. But if not, what definitive trait will guarantee that he will be a good father? Forever? Anyone women can become a single mother at any time. All it takes is a man changing his mind. Women become single moms even after planning with the father to have children, even after multiple children. I always tell my brother to be responsible eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:30 AM
-1

It’s not about over eating. Eating is a fraction of maintaining weight. People have to be active and know what their body needs. Even Lizzo is vegan and works out and is still big simply because she’s built like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:33 AM
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I already explained it. Some women are prone to gaining weight easily. some aren’t. It will be hard for some women and easier for others. The same way it is easier for some men to gain muscle than others. Peoples bodies are built differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:24 AM
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Why not? Skinny women go through this too. They get bloated and gain a few pounds. Genetics and metabolism also play a factor in it too. There’s way too much to just attribute fatness to diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:17 AM
-1

It’s not about eating. Women’s bodies go through a estrogen cycle every month and their weight fluctuates with it. Stress causes women’s bodies to retain weight regardless of diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:11 AM
3

Nurses work with diseases, child care workers very frequently get sick from children. with social workers frequently work with people who are in prison or are mentally unstable. They all have to deal with adult or children who are not mentally stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:59 AM
6

Men who work in dangerous and disgusting jobs are most likely in unions. Which gives them protection and privileges.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:53 AM
1

What? all jobs I named are hands on. I’m not talking about stay at home moms, I’m talking about teachers, nurses, social workers, and health aides.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:46 AM
-1

I’m not complaining, I didn’t say anything about being entitled to anything either. So?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:34 AM
1

I get what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:49 AM
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Women make up most caretaking, nursing, social work, and childcare jobs. Are those jobs not disgusting or dangerous?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:42 AM
0

I don’t think things are as bad as they seem. I don’t know many single people other than myself. I see all kinds of men with girlfriends and wives every day. Short men, bald men, fat men, disabled men, poor men, mentally ill men, old men. They all have girlfriends, wives, and families. I know very few single men. I went into NYC this week and it was the first time I’ve seen men who fit the chiseled, 6ft tall, and (I’m assuming) 6 figure income position that people talk about on here. Other than …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 09:38 AM
3

Girls get their period as early as 7. They’re most likely not going to preform hysterectomys on children and teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:29 AM
5

My honest opinion is that WM like skinnier women and they consider BW obese. I see what men say here literally every day and they don’t want fatties or high bmi women, even though for BW we just tend to be thicker but carry it differently. Depending on who you ask, they think BW aren’t attractive because they are loud, ghetto, have attitudes, and are too independent which doesn’t fit into the docile wife narrative. WW who emulate BW bodies date BM. That’s who they’re trying to impress.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:32 PM
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It was odd until you said that she was mixed and then it made sense. if she’s mixed with black and white there’s a very good chance she learned her racism from her white parent. That’s not self hatred in the black community, it’s self hatred in the mixed community.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:11 PM
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I think that’s a valid point. BM (mainly dark skinned men) tend to be hyper masculinized but dark skinned BW get the same treatment of being masculinized. BM do have a fear of being effeminate because they have social power as men but not as a black person so they need to hold onto it. I don’t think WM are effeminate though. I think BW get fetishized really hard because the people who are fetishizing them don’t know many BW in real life so they are going based off media portrayals which are eith…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:31 AM
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It’s not necessarily because the color of peoples skin. It’s mostly cultural differences. Some women want to raise their children in the culture they were raised in, some women don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:06 AM
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He did meet my standards. Issue is I was 19/20 so I wasn’t asking for much and my standards have evolved since then. You can desire something, but sometimes you have to hold out for what you’re looking for. I know many men who entertain women they kinda like while looking for who they want. Mentally stable women exist you just have to vet and take your time with women because mental illness doesn’t always show after one or two dates. Social services and non profits exist for people to get help. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:59 AM
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My bad I was confusing the European comment with someone else. Less likely than white women, but still more likely than black men. I’m not reading that whole thing rn because I’m playing Skyrim. A degree is not just a piece of paper, there were at least 4 extra years of education behind it. I value what I learned from college.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:52 AM
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Men absolutely can have their preferences, but the preference that is being prioritized is allowing destructive mental illness to slip under the radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:54 AM
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No need to be rude because you based your view on BW finding a “quality European man” because you’re European man who sleeps with BW but doesn’t date them. Which you said is your own experience. Is that not equally brain dead then? BW earn less but are more likely to have a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:48 AM
8

I’ve definitely seen a lot more black men recently, but I think the sub and Reddit as a whole is predominantly white.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:42 AM
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That’s why a lot of BW are not even bothering with dating altogether. Which I’m all for.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:40 AM
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We got a lot going on here. Standards as in what we want in a partner and what we’re willing to accept. I hate to break it to you but I’m a single mom and overweight but that doesn’t mean I don’t have standards. One of which is that I want to be with someone who is mentally healthy. It’s something you should focus on too instead of focusing on physical standards. Dude respect yourself and say no. Unless you are a trained mental health professional you cannot help this woman the way she needs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:36 AM
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I don’t think so at all, I think white men are exactly in black women’s league. All BW I know have college degrees and steady jobs, they pull their weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:24 AM
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I think we have the same standards but tend to settle if we hit most of the checkmarks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:52 AM
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I see a lot of BW with WM but it’s usually a certain demographics of BW. Either highly educated or they’re alt. I know when BW mainly date WM simply because of their hobbies. Where they grow up matters too, if they grow up in predominantly white areas then that’s who they date. I think BW who strictly date BM is because that’s who they grew up with, I don’t think it’s about not wanting or liking WM. As for low response rate, yeah I wouldn’t reply to WM often because they’re first sentence is “I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:50 AM
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She’s spittin. she’s right, BW get told (a lot of the time by the women in our lives) that we should take what we can get, especially if it’s a safe and stable option.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:39 AM
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I’m a BW but I haven’t dated a BM so I don’t have much to personally contribute. I don’t know many black people who are in relationships with other black people. From what I’ve seen from my parents, aunts and uncles, and a few friends and family, if you don’t ask then they will never answer you. You can go years without the other person helping you or giving you anything. For the black women who have dated black men that I know, their men are always there, they just don’t help them in any way. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:38 AM
0

Congrats on having a nice ass. The crop top picture is chefs kiss
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:27 AM
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This is why as a BW I take everything men say here with a grain of salt. Most men here are white and we’re not on their radar or who they desire. They’re mainly talking about white and Asian women standards which in comparison to BW are high (which I don’t think is a bad thing).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:22 AM
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They have to be undeniably black.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:11 AM
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The men in my family don’t see men as threats or red flags in men. They excuse all types of shitty behavior because they’re more likely to put themselves in a guys shoes than have my best interest at heart. My own father said to give my violent abusive ex a chance (despite the fact when I gave him chances I was called an enabler) My brother doesn’t believe in child support, so he would support my ex not paying it. Only thing is that it’s not just the men in my family, the women uphold nonsense t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 01:41 AM
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A lot of women say they don’t want to date cops or military men, which I agree with. Other than that it doesn’t really matter as long as it’s stable and legit. People lose jobs and change careers all the time so it’s not something I’d turn someone down for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 02:06 PM
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Women wanting the top 10% of men or only 10% of men running the dating scene and average men are lucked out. I don’t know why people don’t take proximity into consideration. The average woman most likely won’t even be in the same circle of these top percentage men. The most likely don’t work, live, shop, or hang out in the same places. Even if they find themselves in the same place the top percentage man is most likely choosing a woman from a similar background. All the couples I see are average…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:00 AM
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They are, but they can be waived if the father swears it’s his child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:38 PM
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It would make it easier to put fathers on child support, which is something I don’t think men want. So it’s a double edged sword.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:35 PM
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Idk. Dating outside social norms used to get people killed about 60 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 02:07 AM
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They can be more forgiving, although there’s always going to be some who are not. I typically see larger women with black men (of all shapes and sizes).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:38 AM
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I think single dads have 50/50 custody more often and tend to be the non custodial parent, so their kids are usually with their mom and they have more time to date and share time with a partner if they have one. The kids aren’t really in the way. Single moms usual have primary/full custody so their kids will be a road block and some men say they want to be prioritized over someone else’s children, so they don’t bother with moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:32 AM
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A lot of Christian or conservative men, which is confusing because I’m into spirituality and a single mom so I don’t know why they would even like me. Sometimes potheads who aren’t doing anything with their life show interest in me. I mainly like indie/alt guys so I’m not interested in the guys who are interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 01:27 AM
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That’s really only a problem if he marries the mother, the father terminates his rights, and the new father adopts the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:07 PM
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All of those things are relatively common. You will have a hard time dating if you eliminate 50% of people. It’s also a little unfair, people who come from those kinds of families don’t really have any control over it, it’s not their fault their parents divorced. It’d be fair to judge them by their character and morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:01 PM
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I don’t agree. Most trauma happens as a child, teenager, and young adult when a person has less control over the circumstances of their lives. Adulthood is really just dealing and coping with all that trauma as well as unlearning a lot of harmful things that was taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:15 PM
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Idk if you’re talking about a specific person because idk how career got into this, but I’m sure she’d understands the choices she’s making. Choosing a career over a relationship isn’t based on maturity, women have different goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:00 PM
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Someone can be younger and have emotional issues from their childhood/teenage home or bullies. Everyone is going to have some emotional issues one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:48 PM
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Those don’t have anything to do with each other. A woman can decide she doesn’t want to be married or in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:25 PM
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My brother is in his early twenties, the girls he dated are still very childish. Of course there are going to be immature 30 year olds but that’s even more of a problem. Someone who is 18-22 it should be a little expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:48 PM
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I’d argue that younger women bring more baggage with them. If not more baggage than immaturity. They don’t have the tools or maturity to deal with issues that a 30+ year old woman would.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:28 PM
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A man who has slept with 100+ women has no appeal to me. I would not enter a relationship with him because there’s no way just me alone would be able to satisfy him. I’m not sure I’d even sleep with him because I don’t think someone who slept with 100+ people is good at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 12:40 AM
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I don’t think it’s right to burden children with that kind of information. My kid asks about their dad and I just let them know that things didn’t work out and we couldn’t get along and it’s better for them that we’re not together. No need to say that he became increasingly mentally unstable and kept trying to kill me while pregnant. It can be as simple as saying that being married means that you have vows to each other and they were broken. My mom and dad till this day tell me every single issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:39 AM
3

There are “bad boys” who do bad things and there are bad boys who are bad people. I don’t think either of those are exclusive to bad boys, I think that the line of separation is bad boys being openly violent. There are normal every day guys who are capable of emotional abuse, manipulation, and risky behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:54 AM
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Financing the divorce and separation is the consequence. You have to pay to break a contract. If a non married couple breaks up they don’t have to pay for a divorce or divide assets or accounts. They can just go their separate ways. Marriage is a higher risk if it doesn’t work but more secure if it does works out. That’s why I only think people should get married if they are super secure in their relationship through thick and thin.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:40 PM
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If they’re equals and they decide to split amicably then there’s not much of a consequence other than paying for the divorce. If they both can’t work it out then they have to pay. So yes, (under normal healthy circumstances) work the relationship out and have both parties work towards maintaining it or it’ll cost everyone divorce lawyers. And I mean this for issues that can be resolved with some therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:08 PM
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I don’t think it has anything to do with neuro chemistry. I think girls are just socialized differently. Girls are given toy babies and dolls to play with and are typically encouraged to play in a social caretaking manner. But I don’t think that’s something that is given to girls and not given to boys, boys are more likely to be involved in sports which is something that helps develop social skills. Even some video games can help boys with learning emotional regulation. They’re given different o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:58 PM
2

Marriage is insurance for a long term relationship. If something happens to your partner you have rights. If you have been together for 7+ years and your lives are fully integrated with each other then I think it makes sense to get married ONLY if you are really working together as a team. I don’t think its a good idea to get married if there’s any uncertainty. Any push back against marriage after years together makes me think that one of the people in the relationship is not serious about it an…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:48 PM
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Converse
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:35 PM
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It all starts at home during childhood. If a childs parents don’t teach him emotional intelligence, he’s off to a bad start. Schools have counselors and I think they can be helpful for boys struggling emotionally. Unfortunately, there are a lot of shit head parents that will pull their sons out of counseling because of their own biases. The only solution that I can see is making education more accessible and rewarding for society. Smarter adults means smarter children. Parents who are educated a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:34 PM
1

Communication, motivation, and emotional support are feminine traits? Those are traits that everyone should have in a relationship for it to not be doomed. Money and security is not enough for me to be with a man if he can’t communicate, is unsupportive, and emotionally closed off. That sounds unbearable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:57 PM
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I have a kid, from what I see on the playground boys are incredibly pushy and touchy. They constantly push other boundaries. Girls are usually encouraged to “be nice” which usually means not having strong boundaries. Girls enforcing boundaries usually gets them labeled as having an attitude or being bitchy. I’ve seen people stifle their daughters growth because they want their daughters to be submissive. It’s a real disservice to young girls. I was raised to be a doormat and contribute to the fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 11:01 PM
1

I have several types that I’m interested in. Some rank higher than others. If they’re not my type I can still say if they’re attractive or not but I won’t pursue them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:16 AM
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Do you want women to pick better men or not? I don’t think women should lower their standards because it’s just a guaranteed way to be unhappy. Would men be happy knowing that they are settled for? Because I know I wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:10 PM
1

When I was on bumble I’d always start the conversation with questions or mutual interests and the men never held the conversation if they even responded.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:26 PM
1

I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:20 PM
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Sex work is a slippery slope. It’s why you don’t see many homeless women out on the street. Women in vulnerable positions get sucked into sex work and it makes them even more vulnerable to violence. Yes there are women who do it because they want to and they enjoy it, but I think the majority of women in sex work do it out of desperation. I think majority of sex work is fueled by exploitation. Exploiting young girls, poor women, mentally ill women, and minority and migrant women. Sex workers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:18 PM
0

That’s not toxic masculinity, that’s reinforcing gender stereotypes. It’s not toxic to a man who doesn’t mind paying for dates. Only to men who are resentful because they want to date but is also mad about spending money and not getting what they want in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:09 PM
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The women who reproduce with criminals, lowlifes, and abusers are also probably criminals, lowlifes, and abusers. Of course they would have no problem with a man being like that because they are also that. They’re equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:03 PM
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I don’t know why my brother would listen to my mom about dating. We’ve seen my parents relationship and no one should be listening to either one of my parents. They don’t have the answers to our problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:48 AM
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I care. I don’t believe that I could make someone with a high body count happy. If they are used to sleeping with women and not being in a relationship, they’ll probably continue that. I also really care if a man has a history of sexual coercion or violence, that’s more concerning to me. I’ve been in relationships and spoken to their exs after the relationship and found out that they have a history of being sexually violent, if I had known before I would have never bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 02:25 PM
1

You can’t be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:15 PM
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I think women are already pretty aware, they just can’t fix it. There are women with sons, brothers, and fathers. So they know what men deal with on a daily basis but they can’t stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:07 PM
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Why expect this from women when you don’t think women care? Why not seek that empathy and understanding from people who genuinely feel that way? Makes no sense to me trying to draw blood from a stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:51 PM
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I’ve been a on food stamps, cash assistance, and wic with one child, I was also a caseworker so I worked with people on this. The food stamps are helpful, but you have to be dirt poor to get them. If you make minimum wage you are kicked off of all these things and no one can live off minimum wage. Cash assistance is $350 a month and you have to be either volunteering or working 20 hours. No one is living a good life with these services. The only difference is that dealing with government service…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:25 PM
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I agree. No one is living lavishly with assistance programs. I’ve done it before, I got $350 a month with a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:08 PM
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Damn, you let some little comments on the internet get you that heated? Get well soon love ❤️‍🩹
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:44 PM
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No they get put on a probation period when they start. But the consequences of a bad hire and a bad sexual kink partner are different, I think one is more traumatizing if it doesn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:27 PM
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I’ve actually worked as a recruiter. I’ve had people do multiple rounds of interviews with tests involved just for them to turn around and be unbearable within two months. You can put in the work in the beginning but nothing stops them from dropping the facade once things are secured.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:23 PM
5

That doesn’t mean they can’t get used as a sex toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:05 PM
3

What’s your deal? Someone asked a unrealistic question and I realistically answered it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:03 PM
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When I was on tinder, there were so many men looking for a BDSM or other kink partner. Some are straight up about it, some will have a conversation with you and then ask to smell your feet. I would never entertain them because it’s not a good idea to trust a complete stranger with something that’s supposed to be intimate and involve trust. I used to be into bdsm but some mens idea of bdsm is straight up violence and they don’t care about consent. Sure we could find someone who is into our kinks …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 01:45 PM
1

I get what you’re saying. I think it’s a disadvantage if you’re trying to date white women, but not so much if you’re trying to date another poc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:55 PM
1

I don’t think being not white is a disadvantage, why do you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:30 PM
2

I’d rather get the attention that men get. I’ve gotten cat called and sexually harassed starting at the age of 10 (I hit puberty early). Most women who say they’ve been sexually harassed have been dealing with this starting in adolescence. So it’s not like we’re talking about being scared as adults with adult men trying to talk to us, we know what it’s like to be children being sexually harassed by our peers and adult men. I don’t have to worry about strangers trying to touch me out in public an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:43 AM
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Yes. Age gaps and income gaps correlate. A 20 year old wont make the same money as a 30 year old. A 18-22 is usually still in college. Being a stay at home mom also creates a income imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:10 AM
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He can decide if he wants to be a parent or not, but that doesn’t stop the child from existing. A man and a woman can have the same options but it doesn’t have the same results. He can decide not to be a dad but someone still has to do it (the mom, adoptive family, or foster care) the responsibility still falls on someone. If a woman doesn’t find out she’s pregnant until after the cut off for an abortion (which they’re trying to make 6-8 weeks) then he still doesn’t even have a choice. The best …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:28 AM
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One day you guys are going to figure out that pregnancy and having kids is something that can never be made equal unless men can physically carry a baby and birth it. There is no equality here. Men have body autonomy and can choose where their sperm goes but once it’s in a woman’s body that autonomy stops. Opting out of motherhood via abortion is not equivalent to opting out of fatherhood by neglecting a living child. One creates no baby, the other creates a baby with no parent. Those don’t equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:03 PM
2

I agree. Depending on the intentions of the man, it’s not just about them being young but being young and from a dysfunctional household. I come from a dysfunctional household and it made me blind to predatory behavior for a while. I have 2 parents who have been married for 30+ years but their shitty relationship has lead me to believe to accept below the bare minimum. I was the most desirable at 15-20 but I had literally nothing to offer because I was a teen living with my parents and my older …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:50 PM
9

Bios that are full of hate and self loathing. If your bio is you going on a rant about how you think women are shallow, dumb, and like felons instead of good men like yourself, there’s no surprise that women aren’t matching with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:57 AM
3

Their standards may not be high in terms of looks(so you think and hope for), but in terms of money they’re probably even higher than in the US. Don’t think you’re going to get a wife in the Philippines and she doesn’t expect to be a stay at home wife with a hefty allowance, with a nice car, in a big house. If you don’t have any of these don’t bother. Even with that said I still don’t think it’s right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:47 PM
3

No. It was not the best sex of my life. He also ghosted me immediately after.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:09 AM
3

I don’t think I’m capable of raising a kid and being in a relationship at the same time. I put my energy into making sure I’m raising a good well adjusted person and I can’t have any one else draining me right now. I already have needy parents, I can’t handle one more person that needs me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:35 AM
2

They should work on that then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 11:44 AM
6

What does single moms have to do with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:52 AM
2

Women don’t have enough societal power to improve mens issues. I’ve tried to help men with their issues and have been called a nag and then was ignored. So it’s ultimately up to men to improve the quality of their lives. Women have created WIC and DV services for women and children. Nothing is stopping men from creating programs to help boys and young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:41 PM
2

It would make more sense that their fathers help their sons create better male friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:29 PM
9

Women are usually given dolls and girly things to play with growing up, so some don’t really care for it because it not something they were ever encouraged to do. Women do play video games but we tend to play passive simulation games ie the sims, animal crossing, stardew valley.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:10 AM
3

He likes the appeal of the dark haired women his age but always chooses a younger wife for his status and image. Same with Rodger, he had a heart attack trying to keep up with his young wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:10 PM
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Yeah but she doesn’t stay young and attractive. This situation usually ends with the man leaving his wife for a younger woman. Every time she ages out of his attractive age range, he’ll just replace her but he’s also getting older. In Mad Men, Don eventually ends up with a younger woman and of course it doesn’t work out because he thinks she’s immature and she thinks he’s a drag and not exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:37 PM
1

But women lose their value because of aging, not being a virgin, n-count, kids, weight. They don’t hold value past 25 according to some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:59 PM
1

I’m happier with them as my friend. Also there’s women out there that are better for them than myself. They all have girlfriends who they have more common interests with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:55 PM
5

That doesn’t sound common at all, it also doesn’t make sense to me why a woman would have aversion to fatherhood, she’d be a mother so fatherhood isn’t something she’ll ever experience. The only way that being averse to fatherhood makes sense is if the woman is a lesbian. Men could be good and caring fathers but I’d assume that he was a bad partner to the mom and she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with him if that’s the case. I know great dads but they are horrible to their girlfriends/wiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:34 AM
3

I don’t think what you’re asking about is common and I don’t think it will be. All the single mothers (myself included) I know were in relationships and it either just didn’t work out or their boyfriends/husbands started cheating, being abusive, or just changed their mind. Being a single isn’t the ideal for most women but it’s better than having a child and a physically present partner draining you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:19 AM
1

They aren’t out of my league. If they were then why would they match with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:18 PM
6

I don’t think so. I think more men have 50/50 custody. They’re co parenting, not solo parenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:53 PM
4

I know an attractive man who dates a real rough looking woman. He does it because he has multiple children, criminal arrests, and is generally not mentally stable but she always takes him back because she loves showing him off to prove that an attractive man is interested in her despite the fact that she is ugly and also not smart. To her it increases her value and status. But that’s the answer that I find to be true to what I’ve seen but I don’t think that’s always the case. Sometimes people li…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:15 AM
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Been there done that. it’s not great being at the mercy of someone else. It also creates a power imbalance in the relationship. At one point I was going to school and working and my ex wasn’t, then it flipped and I wasn’t in school for a little bit and wasn’t working and they were working. All of a sudden I was told I have no rights in the relationship and I had to do what he said, when he said it. I couldn’t tell him anything because I wasn’t contributing to the relationship and was dead weight…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:44 PM
1

Child support usually caps at 20%. You have to have about 6+ kids on child support for you to even have 45% of your income taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:36 AM
3

Men will opt out of child support and parental responsibility and then try to reappear in their adult child’s life if they are sick and need a caregiver (especially if they have a daughter). If they’re terrible enough they will come back and ask their children for help. Nothing stops their children from hunting them down either if they don’t want to be involved. That’s why an abortion will never be equal to a financial abortion. The situation definitively ends with an abortion. With a financial …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:02 PM
2

My brother is in his 20’s too and he deals with the same thing. People don’t really have a long attention span on the apps. I remember in the early days of tinder when you matched with people it would ask you if you want to “keep playing”. it’s really just a game to people, they aren’t looking to engage, just swipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:27 AM
3

I had Bumble for a while. I messaged men open ended conversation starters (not just “hey”) and they don’t entertain the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 12:42 AM
1

Okay, that should kinda answer your question. Do you relate to how she feels?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:40 PM
3

Have you seen your mom struggle with anything or talk about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:34 PM
2

If a woman has children, then probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:26 PM
2

Do you have a mom
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:24 PM
3

I don’t prefer casual sex. I get nervous when meeting new guys and it takes away from the experience. I’ve tried it and the sex was just okay, it would have been better if we had done it more but either I didn’t want to see them again or they didn’t want to see me again. I would rather be with one guy, either exclusive fwb or in a relationship so I know what they like and they know what I like and we’re comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:46 AM
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Psychopathic men would not be against stealthing and baby trapping women to continue to be able to control and manipulate them for at the very least 18 years. They know being a mother makes it hard to date, get a high paying job, and can destroy your body. They also probably have no qualms about abandoning a child and having a new one when they get tired of their situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:59 AM
2

I have a ex who said he usually ends up sleeping with women who had low self esteem, were abused, or are mentally ill. He’s what ppd would consider an average or below average guy and he pulls. The only way for some men to get pussy is for them to be with a woman who hates herself enough to give it to him. I always see women with low self esteem in a relationship (the relationship probably isn’t good and the person isn’t good either) they sometimes tolerate a lot just for the sake of being in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:45 PM
11

How is being a single mom a behavior? How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:26 PM
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So what do you suggest? Have the government take away children from single mothers to raise them in group homes? Or maybe force the fathers into the kids lives so they can have a 2 parent home where the kids get to watch their parents hate each other? Or force women to have abortions if there’s no man around? What’s your solution to the death of western culture? One day y’all will realize that being a single parent isn’t a character trait. Anyone can become a single parent and people are single …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:23 PM
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None of what you listed is explicitly feminine. If you had said going to extreme with beauty standards, being a terf and bullying trans women, participating in and enforcing gender roles even if it is destructive, or popping out a ridiculous amount of children, that would make sense. But you listed things that anyone is capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:36 PM
4

Men and women are both expected to provide. Men provide money and women provide care. Women have to cook, clean, listen to him, have sex with him to keep him happy, and for what? For bills to be paid? I can do all that for myself without having someone trying to hump me. Relationships with men is more work than it is fun sometimes. Of all the people I know in hetero relationships I keep seeing the woman putting in more work and consideration into their boyfriends (even on a emotional level), but…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 05:25 AM
1

Of course it does. If someone has a pattern in their relationships (romantic and platonic) I’m going to assume that they will continue it. I’d be particularly concerned about violence towards others and if someone always happens to be the victim in every situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 03:01 AM
2

Sex is not inherently degrading, being used for sex is. There are some men that you’ll realize don’t actually like you and they would have put it in any woman as long as the opportunity presented itself, sometimes you’re that opportunity. I’ve been with guys and later on found out I’m definitely not their type, I just happened to be there. It doesn’t feel good. I’m celibate because casual sex makes me feel very depressed. I think a ONS is okay if both people communicate not doing it again or one…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:50 AM
1

There’s dating fat men and then there’s dating fat men who are insecure about it. I’m cool with my body and I don’t want someone who is going to be mad at me because they can’t do the same for them self.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 09:12 PM
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This has nothing to do with American woman and has to do with what YOU find attractive. The cities you listed seem like they have large ethnic populations. If you’re looking for for foreign (but still white) wife you can still find that in the US. Foreign born and first generation people exist. Move to LA if you want to be around hot people so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:09 AM
1

Ever consider that your girl friends are also just as emotionally distant and afraid of intimacy? If I’m emotionally distant the last thing I’d want is someone who is trying to get close to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:50 AM
1

I already did that, so I wouldn’t venture into a relationship. Honestly other people can be unpredictable no matter how long you know them and I like the safety of being by myself. My comfort zone is my safe zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:21 AM
2

I’ve been single for 6 years and I’ve gotten so content with being by myself. I go to the movies by myself, I work on my hobbies when I have down time, I have my own routines (I’m a night owl). I don’t know how the presence of another person can add to the life I’ve built for myself so far. I like going places and going shopping with others sometimes but I have friends and relatives. The only thing is that I can’t have sex with myself but if sex brings a headache I’d rather not do it at all. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:17 AM
1

Late 20’s, I would say around 10-15. Most people my age have been sexually actively for about 10+ years now. So if there was 1 person a year that’s not a crazy number.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:56 AM
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Being a doctor takes respectable skill, having sex with women is not. How does a man having sex with many women benefit society in any way? There’s no reason to compare a doctor and a man slut. “having sex with many women as a man takes a lot of effort. You have to look good physically, you have to dress well, you have to know how to talk and what to say, you must have money to go out on dates, you have to do a lot of things” You are just describing being a normal person. Most of us do that ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:15 AM
1

He said I was kinda cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:46 AM
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Sometimes. I slut shame my brother and his friends for sleeping with the worst women imaginable and then complaining about those same women. They’re gross and they don’t even like them and I find that nasty. I don’t really have any girl friends who are sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:21 PM
3

For every crazy violent man, there is a crazy codependency woman. They usually find each other. If a woman is attracted to a evil violent man it usually because she grew up with someone like that. None of what you said is normal or healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:51 PM
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If a man grew up with his mom and sisters, chances are that housecleaning and chores were brushed off on them rather than him. He had to take out garbage and mow the lawn at most. There are a lot of men who go from living with their parents straight to living with a girlfriend and they expect their gf to pick up the slack that their sisters and moms did. I don’t even think it’s intentional. When I was 19 my 23 year old bf still had him mom doing his laundry, driving him and picking him up from w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 10:36 PM
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Getting through high school and college and developing as a person is more important than dating. I think it’s good to have great friends and to travel with them. I wouldn’t want to see my kid locked down in a relationship before college. I dated in high school and college and my relationships weren’t great because I haven’t figured myself out yet fully as a person but I also wasn’t fully independent. Realistically as a parent, other people are out of my control. I can only hope I give my child …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 06:29 PM
0

Child support and alimony aren’t specifically a mens issue. Women pay these things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:38 PM
1

Nothing is stopping you from starting a life of crime right now if you want to be a “bad boy” Pro Tip: toxic bad boy men attract equally toxic women. I hope you like codependency.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:18 AM
1

I’ve had a fwb before too. I think those dealbreakers usually create such big turnoffs that it takes the fun out of anything. I think people should stick to their standards and not look past dealbreakers. I don’t think a man who doesn’t want to marry a woman with kids shouldn’t even be fwb with a single mom because if she gets pregnant then he is now stuck with someone he didn’t really want to be with. I’m a single mom and I don’t want any one to settle for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:19 PM
4

It’s basically saying “I like you as long as my dick is in you. Other than that, I am not interested in you as a person.” Some women would have no problem with that and good for them. Other women (like myself) don’t feel good being told I only like you enough to get my rocks off. I don’t like feeling like a sex doll and just a means to an end. I think I’m an interesting person I don’t want to be reduced to an sex object.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:42 AM
1

I don’t bother with expecting money or support from men, it usually comes at a price of either tit for tat help or sex. I am as self sufficient and independent as possible. Do I wish I had someone to help some times? Yes. Will it be men? No. Even with mommy issues I’d mostly prefer to spend my time around women because they are really generous and help me in the ways I need it the most. I’m not even specifically speaking about romantic relationships, I haven’t dated in years (and the men I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:25 AM
1

Yeah, I’ve been turned down before. It’s a little disappointing but that’s just about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:37 PM
2

That does sound like a shitty life to live tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:13 PM
1

They either opt out or suck it up and do it (or a third worse option) . Either way it shouldn’t be a chore for her it should be an equal effort. Edit: I think it would be a big problem for religious and traditional couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:09 PM
3

You’ve never heard women say they feel pressured to have sex with their husbands because it’s their marital duty to satisfy their husbands?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:05 PM
2

Women can be as brutally honest as they want but I think that they will not be listened to and be told “no! Women think xyz!” by (some) men. I see so many post here where women describe what they want and what they find attractive and it seems to get ignored. Like obviously women have different tastes in men. I don’t think (some) mens egos can handle that they’re not getting turned down because they’re 5’8 or they don’t make 100K a year, its easy to accept that women are chad chasers and you’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:41 PM
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I’d say men. You go to work and come home and deal with big household issues. Men aren’t expected to sexually satisfy their wives like women and expected to. I would not like to have sex I don’t want to have just to fulfill my role as a wife. I’d rather empty my wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:10 PM
1

Wouldn’t childfree women who don’t want to get married be the better women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:56 PM
5

BPD
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:48 AM
5

It’s true if you’re a woman who is between the age of 18-25, white, and skinny. Idk if a woman who is overweight or obese would get that same treatment from people authentically.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:22 PM
1

I don’t think women go around spending money on clothes, shoes, purses, hair, nails, and makeup to put on themselves in hopes for some free food. All that combined probably costs more than the food. Spending $50 on a date doesn’t seem as bad as having sex with someone and never hearing from them again. You can make your $50 back but you can’t unfuck someone. You can spend $50 on anything, but having sex with someone is very intimate and vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:53 PM
12

I like to keep up with shaving. I do it because hairy pits and sweat don’t feel good to me. I only shave my legs during the summer but my body doesn’t grow much hair to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:48 AM
1

https://www.rainn.org/about-sexual-assault feel free to read that and the references on the page since you don’t live in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:14 AM
2

It’s saying the same thing. 1 in 4 is millions of women that is a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:08 AM
1

And that’s their standard, good for them. Idc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 06:55 AM
2

I have to keep rephrasing this because everyone is being reactionary to the statement rather than thinking about it, most women have been sexually assaulted, meaning most women have encountered a man that has sexually assaulted someone. The stat is 1 out 4 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 06:53 AM
2

Let me rephrase it so you understand it a little better because you’re pinhole focused on what you’re saying because you can’t see it from any other viewpoint and you want it to be a “you just hate men” thing. If most women have some experience with sexual harassment/assault or physical assault, then simply not being an abuser helps you clear the bar. It’s not saying most men are rapists and abusers, but most women have experienced one and not being one inherently makes you a “good man”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:51 AM
2

It says exactly what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:35 AM
2

I’m not saying that at all. YOU keep say that men are wife beaters and rapists and are insisting that I’m SAYING that. I’m not. I’m just saying in order to be considered a good man just don’t be abusive. That’s it. I’m in the US, I’m not talking about “3rd world countries”. Men and women get away with domestic violence every day in the US too, would it not be normalized here too?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:33 AM
2

What culture do you think I’m from? I’m going to assume you’re white for you to question it in the first place. Average everyday men is the specification.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:24 AM
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Well it sucks that you read it that way, sounds more like an big assumption on your part, cause I never said that. But both of your statements are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:19 AM
2

not at all. I’m in a big city, I see couples all over the place every day. Domestic violence happens every day all the time, wym?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:01 AM
2

Why would she be ran through if they have the same values?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:45 AM
1

They should find each other through shared interest or religious gatherings. Whatever they have in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:55 AM
1

Everyone has their equal. Good boring men need to be with good boring women, they shouldn’t even be concerned about what risky women want. Risk taking women end up with risk taking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:42 AM
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If a man hasn’t physically or sexually assaulted a woman (or man) then he’s generally considered better than most men. I honestly thinks that’s all it takes to be considered a “good guy”. They can cheat a little, not take care of their kids, or just be a straight up cheap loser but hey they never put their hands on anyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:36 PM
3

Mmmm okay I understand. Glad you left!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:49 PM
1

I would do as much housework as if he wasn’t there. I’m a single parent and I’ve worked full time, went to school and stayed home, and just stayed home. Working full time was the hardest because my day started with dropping off the kid at school, going straight to work, leaving work, going straight to school pick up, go home and start dinner, do homework, eat, clean up, put the kid to bed, then finish clean up and then relax. Things still have to get done if I’m working or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:47 PM
1

What culture is he from?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:35 PM
2

Specifically, lucky charms.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:01 AM
2

No. Vaccines have been around since smallpox. The concept is that if you introduce your body to (usually dead) viruses your body will learn and remember how to fight it off when it comes into contact with it again. The Covid vaccine wasn’t made from scratch, it was created with the research from the bird flu. The research already existed it just had to be modified.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:40 PM
0

Unless your parents didn’t vaccinate you as a child, you are already vaccinated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:31 PM
1

Yes. They were great when they were okay and a violent piece of shit when manic. They became manic more frequently and we were having a baby and I didn’t want my kid exposed to that one bit so I had to go. I asked him to get help and I’ll be here if he gets better. It sucked but I am responsible for a life and I want to make it a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:27 PM
3

In regards to your friend, when there’s kids involved abusers weaponize the hell out of the court system. If she leaves he’d drag her through the court system to terrorize her and drain her money. You should ready why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:50 PM
2

I think it’s very common. Of course there would be bad moms too. Some people are not parents, just assholes who just happen to have a kid. I think moms are actually shamed though. It takes very little to be labeled a bad mom and very little to be labeled a good dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:27 AM
7

But the only people oppressing men is other men, it has never been women. They’re still the root of the problem. Even if a “few” men did it in your opinion, you still benefit from what they created. You’re still at the top of the food chain as a man. The only one who can disenfranchise you, is a man with more money. Women still aren’t in that conversation so it’s not anywhere near as gyrocentric as you think. Men weren’t interested in women fighting for their rights, they wanted their wives home…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:23 PM
4

Realistically, majority of courts are 50/50. They don’t look at “the better parent” they look at what’s fair for everyone involved. Most of what people say here doesn’t align with the real world. Gender doesn’t determine if someone is a good parent or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:13 PM
7

You’re right, but that doesn’t make it gyrocentric. Women aren’t benefiting from any of that but they also didn’t cause it. But yeah you’re right, men have dominated society for centuries so yeah they’re the cause of most of the problems. They’re the ones with the power so who else’s fault can it be? Women and minorities literally had to protest for their right, society doesn’t revolve around them. I swear y’all don’t live in the real world but also ignore history. Also, there aren’t women in ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:09 PM
10

A lot has happened in 18 years that would change society. War, technology, the pandemic. Like come on now. We live in a gyrocentric society but don’t have maternity leave, high maternal deaths, abortion bans, and universal child care? No women presidents. most judges, cops, politicians, lobbyists, CEOs, and lawyers are men. Women aren’t believed by their doctors. So what exactly in society is revolving around women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:33 PM
5

I take all study data with a grain of salt. It said the what but it didn’t explain why. Also those sources are from over 20+ years ago. If single dads are better parents then why do men think that the court system is biased against them? The courts would give men their children more if that were the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:20 PM
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Oh brother, this again? Having a single mother is less destructive than having a 2 parent home, but your father is an alcoholic and beats your mom in front of you every night. Having a negative male influence is far worse than having no male influence. I don’t know why it’s just single mom destroying society but somehow not single dads. Why is no one telling single dads they made bad choices by knocking up Stacey and drug addicts? (This question is rhetorical)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:11 PM
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I don’t know where it comes from but from my experience, they can be even worse because of resentment. My unattractive exs had the mentality that they had to take what they can when they can get it because they never know when the next woman would come along. Resulting in them being cheaters, but the kind of cheater that would always try and come back to you when they realized they couldn’t do better. Not only where they cheaters but they have to be even more manipulative to get girls/women (I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 06:13 AM
2

Elon Musk is an odd man and bagged Grimes and Amber Heard, both of which are equally odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:15 AM
2

Thanks! As for statistics, it’d still be hard to tell, especially with so many factors. Community and religion can be added to those factors. Numbers don’t tell the whole story. I studied statistics and sociology. I’d honestly say that parenting style, money, education, and age create better outcomes for children regardless of single parent or not. If I were you I’d look up peer reviewed articles about parenting and single parent homes!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:50 AM
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I think it’s complicated and there’s no easy answer. There are so many factors. The parents age, education, their job, temperament (along with the child temperament) and social support create many different outcomes. Two parent homes can easily create the same outcomes, sometimes even worse. if the parents relationship is not good, they’re modeling their toxic behavior for their children. Having two shitty parents is much worse than having one shitty parent. My parents suck on their own but noth…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:36 AM
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No. The LTR guy will have more sex and fun in a relationship, he’s not losing or missing out on fun. It’s just delayed to make sure it’s secure. No one is having fun with disposable guys, they literally don’t matter, it’s just sex. A LTR is way more secure and stable than always being on the hunt for somewhere to put your dick. If you only value sex and not actually having a partner to do things with, then yes, what you said is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:28 PM
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Yes, wanting something long term doesn’t guarantee true love. That is true. However the situation that you described is not one of a normal woman. That sounds like a woman with BPD. If his simplicity is getting exploited, he’s an idiot? The more time spent together he should be able to gauge her interest. The same way women are told to vet men, men need to vet women too. If she’s bringing up bills that need to be paid or needs a favor here or there, ditch her. If he’s wealthy he should be runnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:27 PM
1

How does waiting for sex make things inequal to you? Former partners aren’t competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:43 PM
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You think you would be treated worse because you’re not getting sex right away? Getting to know someone and spending time with someone isn’t using them. I wouldn’t invest time into people I don’t care about. If your objective is to get to know a woman, then it wouldn’t be a problem, but it sounds like your goal is sex and you want to be grouped in with the disposable guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:33 PM
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If she had sex early with other men early on, that just means she was willing to lose him or she learned from it and didn’t like it. If she wants to hold off on sex that means she is actually interested and invested and values you. I don’t think it makes sense to be jealous of men who hit and quit before you because they’re obviously not around and are not significant, unless that’s also your goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:25 PM
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Some men don’t like when they get sex too easily and will be turned off by it, deeming you a slut for giving them something they wanted too easily. They’ll assume you’ve done it for others. Not having sex right away gives women more time to get to know the men they’re interested in better. In my mind the sooner you sleep with a man the sooner he’ll be gone. Some men will decide that they’re not feeling a spark or a connection after sex, so I think waiting helps prevent that, but you can never be…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:32 PM
1

I don’t think most single moms are getting pregnant from one night stands though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:22 AM
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I would not approach a man that looks like he can cave my skull in with one punch. It’s not sexy. A woman who gets turned on by being scared and intimidated is probably mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:17 AM
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Dating down is probably why they’re a single mom in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:15 AM
1

If you want no one to ever approach you, than yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:11 AM
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It was to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:19 PM
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Idk why that’s hard to believe. There’s three times as many single mothers than there are single fathers. A man can see his kids two weekends a month (and not even have a room for his kid in his home) and he’d still be considered a single father which is a vastly different life than having your child 24/7. I’ve dated single dads and they just have way more free time and flexibility than I ever could. Just because people have kids doesn’t make them compatible. I’m not friends with people JUST bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:14 PM
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I saw a real life chad/gym bro the other day. He was wearing a muscle tee with basketball shorts, he had spiky hair and a Pauly D tan. Dude had to be like 6’3. He was actually very scary to me, I feel like I don’t encounter people above 6’0 on a daily basis. It’s funny to see people say here that women chase chads but I honestly never see the description of a Chad in real life. He was with his daughter, who in comparison was very pale. It was sweet to see him with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:55 PM
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A step father wouldn’t be on the hook to pay child support unless the bio dad has his rights terminated, the step dad marries the mother, and he fully adopts the child. Even then, child support enforcement is a joke and it’s easy to not pay child support if that’s really the biggest concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:43 PM
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Most single dads have 50/50 custody but most single mom have sole custody. There’s still a incompatible lifestyle difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:38 PM
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They’re not getting tossed aside because they’re nice. They get ignored and tossed aside because they don’t enforce boundaries, they are passive, and overall are pussy. No woman wants to be with a man she can tell is a doormat. Nice is a neutral default. It’s also not a personality trait, it’s something that you can fake in the name of politeness with a person at the grocery store. A person can be empathetic, receptive, an active listener, generous, patient, consistent, honest, and well tempered…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:42 AM
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Nope. Not since our kid was born. But he went on to have more children. I would hope he understands, if he doesn’t I’d encourage him to find someone who does want to have children, I don’t want anyone to feel stuck with me. I’ve quickly learned that men might say they want children but can bail or change their mind at any time, the best prevention to being a single mom is simply not having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:55 PM
1

I feel that way. I have one kid and although I’d love more it’s probably not going to happen. I don’t want to move on and have another child and that relationship doesn’t work out either. Then I’d be embarrassed twice and I’m not really looking for new reasons to be shamed, shunned, and called stupid. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:18 PM
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That’s what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:01 AM
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I’d love to have more kids, but being a working parent sucks. I don’t get promoted at work and can’t take on more things because I have to do school pick up and the kid gets sick sometimes, which has caused higher ups to feel a type of way towards me (mainly the gay and childfree group) . Which means I can’t make more money so I’m stuck in a low income loop. If mothers had better support systems they’d have more children. But as of right now there’s no maternity leave, daycares cost more than th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:45 AM
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I think women who live at home contribute more. I think most men who still live at home have their mothers doing their laundry for them and they’re the ones getting taken care of. If they were to get a girlfriend or wife she’d just replace the maid mommy. I worked with people in their 50’s, a lot of men lived with their mothers had their mothers taking care of their every need and their mothers were desperate to get rid of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:16 AM
1

Seek therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:05 AM
1

No. It comes out of the persons taxes. They’ll have a smaller tax return.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:03 PM
1

I suspect my ex’s are the ones looking at me in pity considering I’ve been single for years and they’re all in relationships (all though the quality of those relationships are highly questionable. My very abusive ex is with a woman who is not bright, ugly, fat, and has an absurd amount of children, so she will never leave him but I’m glad he found someone that matches his level of crazy because I was not it)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:54 AM
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I don’t think men understand that most women have been sexualized from a very early age. We’re raised to think of our future husbands and children in mind but I don’t think men are raised to be husbands and fathers. It’s very exhausting to know from a young age that men mainly value you for your body. Most women I know started getting cat called as early as 10 years old. Men think that they’re getting targeted for their wallets but that’s only something you can be targeted for as an adult with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:46 AM
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Well of course you would think that, you’re not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:07 AM
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Not necessarily. Men say that without even trying, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Men think they won’t get what they want so they don’t even try. Men get visitation and custody if they go. Especially if they get accused of being abusive or actually are, they’ll get their children out of spite. A man can beat the mother within an inch of her life, have a restraining order against him, and the court will still give him custody. Most courts are geared towards 50/50 custody no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:52 PM
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Then they run and boo hoo to everyone that they got broken up with and now you’re the bad guy 🙄 anything to seem like the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:47 AM
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I don’t think most men file for divorce because they’d rather increasingly treat their wife as bad as possible until she’s pushed to do it than go file for it themselves. The statistic correlates with men not going to court to get their kids. Men just don’t care to initiate court.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:41 PM
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Are you going to add anything to the conversation or are you going to continue to be emotional? Cause you’re only paying attention to only one sentence max in anything I’ve said and all you’re doing is reactively talking about yourself. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:31 PM
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Let me rephrase that then. Recruiters go into schools and put out ads targeting young (usually poor) men making it seem like a more beneficial alternative to going to college. It obviously isn’t easy but the people looking to recruit don’t want their targets to know that. Does that make sense to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 09:36 PM
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It shouldn’t be the case but it’s an easy option. Men have a choice in what they want to do. They can go to school, go into the military, go to trade school, or they can sit around and bitch and whine. It’s all up to them. Literally no one is stopping them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 09:24 PM
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It makes sense that young men are more likely to join the military right out of high school rather than pursue a college education.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 09:08 PM
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Yes. I can be attracted to someone but I don’t need to sleep with them. I can just appreciate them being attractive. That’s all. I got a snap from someone who I was interested in and I do think is attractive, but it was an unsolicited dick pic after 2 years of silence after standing me up so I blocked them. I can find you attractive but I’m not an opportunity and I have self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 05:51 AM
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We all have different types. My friends don’t find my types attractive and I don’t find their types attractive. It’s a really wide range but mostly varying types of nerdy or artistic men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:43 PM
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Most women I know would swipe left on a man that does boxing or mma unless they’re also into it. A man who fights for fun is not appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:38 PM
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I was about to reply with that answer. I have a younger brother and I see him and his friends as children because I actually watched them grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:29 PM
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If you’re a short man, shorter women will always exist so I don’t think there’s much of a hindrance. I always think of Snooki and her husband, her husband is like 5’4 and he found a 4’11 woman. It’s easier to pick and choose on OLD but in real like people like who they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:32 PM
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My ex said he slept with 4 women in just one store (I know of at least 3 others in another store before he left that one because he got one pregnant) most of these women have no self esteem and unresolved trauma so they fall for it, he can be charming. Most of the people he hooks up with are coworkers. There’s a possibility if you are unattractive then you might just pull women who hate themselves enough to sleep with you and will regret it later. If you’re okay with that, then congratulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:51 AM
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What do you gain from that? Why are you wasting your time and energy on women who you think are low value?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:13 PM
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You wouldn’t be complaining about FDS if you fit those requirements. Also, those are average everyday women. Those are the kind of women that I see on a daily basis out in the real world. They look realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:08 PM
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My family is not emotionally supportive at all, they actually make me very depressed. but I have such wonderful friends. I love them all so much. I’m very happy when I see them or we send each other TikToks all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:05 PM
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Having kids and not taking care of them is at the top of the list for a LVM for me. That along with multiple baby mothers. Both are a definite sign that the man is not worth a damn. Criminal history (depending on the crime), drug use, being able bodied and choosing not to having a job, being stingy and cheap, if they have a lot of “crazy” exs, not having a high school diploma.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:37 PM
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When women are in long term relationships and the men that they are with start slacking off and stop having dates and not helping around the house it turns them off. I think most women aren’t turned on by someone who they have to clean up after or constantly force them to do things that grown adults have to do. Women aren’t turned on by men who they take care of. And if the sex is one sided that’s even more of a turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:31 PM
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Yes. I went out with a guy and it was very under average. He was cool but it was just not doing anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:19 AM
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I have exs who are fat, unattractive, balding and they cheated the most. They used to manipulate women (mainly women with low self esteem or emotional trauma) and threaten women into sex. They’re the ones who are happier sleeping with literally anyone. I don’t understand why you guys think attractive or unattractive determines their relationship wants or needs. The world really isn’t that black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:57 PM
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I see your pic in your post history, you don’t look fat to me. You just look like a regular guy. And you are picky but I don’t think you should lower your standards. You won’t be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:35 PM
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There’s no mental gymnastics, it’s pretty straight forward. I want someone who’d take care of our children with me, that’s not gold digging. That something normal to want. It’d be weird if I wanted to be with someone who doesn’t want to contribute to the family the same as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:24 PM
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I don’t know you and you don’t know me. I just told you why I said what I said and you’re pulling shit out of your ass about fancy restaurants. How are you going to tell me how I feel and you’re wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:17 PM
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If I have a family with this man then it matters for my children because he wouldn’t spend it on them. I work so I don’t need his money. My dad is a cheap and stingy man and the experience is not fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 04:20 PM
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Just because a man is wealthy doesn’t mean he isn’t stingy and cheap. Most women aren’t chasing wealth, we just don’t want someone who is dirt broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:08 AM
1

Both parents will be able to afford a nanny, extra curriculars, and good schools. Realistically they can both continue to work those hours but there’s no point of working all those hours and making all that money to not have the time to spend it or to interact with your family. Both parents should work smarter so that they’re there for their family.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:21 PM
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True. I would say they stick as close as possible to their earnings as possible but also their upbringings and backgrounds should be similar as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:12 PM
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They’re equals financially and most likely lifestyle wise. He wouldn’t have to worry about her trying to take his money for a come up because she has her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:05 PM
1

Wealthy men should date wealthy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:57 PM
2

Yes. I’ve broke my celibacy maybe 4 times but I usually go way over a year being celibate. The longest being 2 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 11:09 PM
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Romantic relationships have been so draining to me. I feel a lot happier and safer by myself. I don’t think it’d be fair to entertain anyone and I’m not sure what if I really want someone or if I’m just curious and bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 11:02 PM
1

I’ve been single for like 6 years
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 10:06 PM
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Ole boy isn’t haunting me, he’s the one who was talking about me when I didn’t even know who he was 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 01:11 AM
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💘I’m valuable to me too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:51 AM
2

I’m happy with myself as a person but there’s no reason to hate in the first place. Maybe he should have channeled that energy into himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:50 AM
1

Thanks. I’m doing okay tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:41 AM
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Im everything that Kevin Samuels hated.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:40 AM
2

The physical strength of men is one of their biggest strengths. I think they are also great with engineering and analytical creations. Family and culture wise I think they add security and protection to their families and communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:58 AM
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I think women are valuable for different reasons, I don’t think men are inherently less valuable, it’s just that everyone has their own function. Obviously women are valuable for having and raising babies but I think women preserve culture well. Family gatherings and holidays are usually run and organized by women and traditions are usually taught and passed on by women. I personally find that valuable because I want to pass down my culture and traditions to my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:44 AM
1

It doesn’t really make men more desirable to me. I’ll still stay on birth control because there’s no way to know they’ve actually had a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:31 PM
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Women are conditioned from childhood to clean up after themselves and others, men are not. I’m the oldest daughter in an ethnic household, my brother or father could create a mess and my parents would come to me and ask why it isn’t cleaned up. I’d be punished for not wanting to fold everyone’s laundry and my brother was just there existing in peace. Fast forward to us both being adults and having our own apartments. His looks exactly how you expect but mine is usually put together. Men who grow…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:00 AM
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Choose better women and you won’t have this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:53 AM
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That’s not enslavement. If a man is actually even put on child support, taking 15% of his check is enslavement? Presumably the woman would be responsible for the child so she would be pulling her weight. Why punish the woman and child because a man doesn’t want to commit?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:36 PM
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For most men if they don’t have to do it they won’t, which is why they have to be forced to legally. It almost creates an incentive because they know it’ll always be someone else problem. They’ll learn their lesson and be smart next time if they actually have to pay the price. I know men and women with 10+ children, the reason they keep having more is because they don’t take care of the others. I’d rather my taxes pay for children to live a comfortable and stable life more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:23 PM
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Consent to sex is not consent to parenthood but consent to sex leads to parenthood. parenthood isn’t something that you can or cannot consent to, if a child exist then they exist. You can say you didn’t consent to being a parent but realistically it’s just abandonment and neglect. The world keeps turning even if you say “I don’t consent to this” With mothers who give up their children it does happen often that they reach out after they turn 18 or the other way around and children get curious and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:12 PM
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Money is property of the government. They literally created the money. You clearly didn’t graduate high school and I don’t want to go back and forth with someone who can’t understand basic biology. Enjoy your day and maybe read a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:38 PM
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Men don’t own their money. The government can deem your money worthless at any moment. A bank can seize it at any moment. It can be stolen from you. Money isn’t part of your body. You can lose everything you have and still have your body intact. Wallet≠a body. I do not agree that women shouldn’t have 100% deciding power of what happens to their body. If people wanted to force men to get sterilized it would be an equal violation of body autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:26 PM
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My love, who has uteruses, eggs, and Fallopian tubes? Can the uterus exist and function outside of a body? Uterus can’t be surgically attached into men because it needs a whole system and hormones to function. Sperm creates pregnancy, but does not maintain it. Sperm itself can’t even live that long, womens bodies keep it alive for days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:08 PM
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The baby needs the mother to grow. No mom=no fetus. The fetus is definitely not its own entity, it is directly connected to the mother. If mom drinks, smokes, or does drugs while pregnant, the baby will have life long problems. Dad can do literally anything he wants and if will not affect the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:58 PM
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You’re statement is true, but only once the baby is born. As long as that child is in her body he has no rights to what happens to the baby because it is not his body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:52 PM
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What does a woman being pregnant have to do with a man’s autonomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:44 PM
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What you’re suggesting would be abused so fast. If men get a woman pregnant they can avoid financial responsibility if she keeps it or receive money if she aborts it. Not every woman can get an abortion. Many women find out past the point of return. Then what? I don’t believe in financial abortions because I think most men who do it will reappear into their teenage and adult childrens lives to piggy back off of the work that the mother has done to raise the child. These men will get old and lone…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:52 AM
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Of course a single person with no children can emphasize, they just need to have empathy. I know plenty of single people with no children but have younger siblings and cousins that they have taken care of or are teachers and daycare workers who work with children. The kind of single person that you’re describing just sounds like a person who hates kids and is overall just self centered, which isn’t the norm. And if people don’t want step children then what’s the point of single parents dating ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:38 AM
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There are many single people in the world who actually like children and having a large family and desire both. So yes. They would be thrilled to have those complications because they value family the most. People who do not want to deal with children and exs and extended family don’t need to date single parents if that’s not what they want. That makes sense. If they don’t want any of that I wouldn’t suggest they do it. I’m telling you as a single parent that’s dated other single parents, that j…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:00 AM
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The rotating door is awful and I do hate to see it for the sake of children. It’s even worse when both parties have children involved. I think there’s more at stake when parents date each other. There’s an extra level of compatibility with children having to get along with each other, that kind of conflict sets the whole relationship up to fail. If a single childless person doesn’t want to take care of children then it makes sense they don’t date a single parent. I think realistically they won’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:34 AM
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Not necessarily. I think it’s easier for a single parent to date someone with no kids than two people with kids. I see single moms and dads with rotating doors of partners all the time, so it’s not that uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:05 AM
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Single dads and single moms can be very different, the only common denominator is having kids and that’s not enough to make people compatible. Most single dads are 50/50 but most single moms have full custody. Not only that but there’s about three times more single moms than dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:45 AM
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I’ve seen it happen in real life, mainly guy friends and family. They haven’t really talked about it and if I ask they deflect. but it seems like their girlfriends are boring safe (and a little dumb) options and the women they cheat with are more exciting and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:01 PM
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I know men that will have lovely girlfriend and will always cheat on them with the worst women imaginable. Their girlfriends are perfect for bringing around family and showing off, but the women they cheat with have their real attention. I think that’s who they want to be with, but will not be seen with in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:11 PM
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Financial abortion makes sense if you want to make things “fair” but an actual abortion and financial abortion will never be the same. Once a woman has an abortion thats the end of the story. But if a man has a financial abortion there is an actual physical living child that is being neglected. The thing is that I don’t think people think about the implications 20/30/40 years out. There’s a very large chance that once the child turns 18 and the man is no longer financially responsible, he’ll com…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:37 AM
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It’s really easy to abandon your children if you’re a man. A lot of people find it acceptable to not take care of your kids if you simply say “I wasn’t ready”and “I don’t want to be a parent”. It is much more unacceptable to be a woman and not have your children. Women will get shamed relentlessly. Women will not want to be parents and still take care of their kid (they might not be doing this well tho) Also, when I hear men say that they are single fathers they’re usually 50/50 and the mother i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:15 AM
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Yes. Men get child support from women all the time. Whoever has the children more gets child support. No we weren’t married. He took me to court so he could be acknowledged as the father and then get visitation. They asked me if I want to start a child support case while I was there, I said yes. He said he wanted to pay and it was fine with him. if he never took me to court I wouldn’t have never asked for child support. He had a job at the time, quit, and filed to get his support lowered and did…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:23 PM
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No, it’s me. He took me to court and it’s my name on the case too. The extra expenses come out of my pocket. Either way it’s not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:10 AM
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I was in a relationship with someone who wasn’t working or going to school while I was working and going to school. Long story short, he now owes me $20K in child support. So yeah, it makes sense to date someone who is at your level or above as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:43 AM
1

2 of my relationships with were overweight and balding men in their early 20’s. They’re not lookers and my friends and family have told me so. Neither of them have redeeming qualities personality wise. I dated them as a teenager and didn’t have high self esteem at the time. The “hotter” men I’ve been with were aggressive and the “ugly” men were manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:08 AM
0

Women and men are just about equal when it comes to physically assault each other, but women are more likely to get life threatening injuries. I know men who were in relationships with abusive women and they were definitely depressed about it. The women I know have had broken bones and have been hospitalized within an inch of their life, and the craziest part is that most dangerous interactions from women take place when they’re pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:37 AM
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A lot of men say they are interested in long term relationships but they also have casual sex while looking for the long term relationship. You (and him) won’t know if you’re a serious prospect or a one night stand until you sleep with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:24 AM
1

I’m have the opposite problem. I like alt men of color but they usually shack up with white women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:11 AM
1

I wish I was a SAHM. Im a working mom and it’s super stressful. I work a 9-5 as a supervisor and after work I have to clean, cook, do homework, get us ready for bed, and that’s every single day. Finding jobs that coincide with school hours and vacations and are understanding about having kids is hard. I’ve had a manager position recanted because my kid got sick. I wish I could be a SAHM so I can have more time to do more activities with my kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:23 PM
3

I had one ex that said he like to date crazy girls because they don’t have self esteem, which was perfect for him because he was a slob and below average so that means he had a chance. I have another ex who is mentally ill himself (bipolar & BPD) and he tends to date women who are also mentally ill so that when he inevitably starts abusing them it’s “she’s crazy too so she deserved it” I only suffer from depression (and after him PTSD) he said being with me made him feel crazier than being with …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:39 PM
1

Women are mainly responsible for childcare whether they are married or not. Since women are usually tasked with school drop off and pick up, dealing with the children when sick, and school days off, they are usually taking less risk jobs, part time jobs, and jobs within school hours. They’re also less likely to be promoted because of it. The gender wage gap isn’t because people are deciding to paying men and women differently, it’s because if you have children or anyone that you are a care taker…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:52 PM
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I’ve hooked up with guys and at the end of the date they’ll say “I’d love to see you again” or “we can do xyz next time” and then I never hear from them again. I lost my virginity to my bf when I was a teenager and he stopped talking to me after for a while until I broke up with him. I don’t know whats their reasoning for it, I’m sure they all have different reasons, but I’m over it at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 03:46 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hope you’re doing okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:27 PM
1

Rarely. I hardly see men my own age and they’re usually in relationships when I do see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:18 PM
1

Every single heterosexual couple I know has the woman cleaning up AFTER the man. She’s doing his laundry, washing his dishes, making his food, watching the kids, all on top of having a full time job while he comes home from work and just relaxes. I wouldn’t want to have a long day at work, come home to work some more, and then be asked to give a bj. It sounds miserable. I think the issue is that it’s very unsexy to live with someone who you have to pick up after like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:27 PM
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If you think that women are looking for a meal ticket and provider here, depending on what country you go to, you will be a one way flight out of poverty there. Will you be desired? Yes. Will it be genuine? Possibly not. You also have to be respectful and willing to learn their culture as well. If you can’t see yourself having your children fully ingrained in that culture then leave it alone. I think of the AITA posts where white dads get mad that the moms speak their native language to their ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:04 PM
1

My first long break was a year, then I was seeing someone for about a year and a half, after that 2 years, then another year, and I just made a year again. I will note that I was on birth control and I’ve been depressed so I don’t really have a high sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:12 PM
1

I wouldn’t mind if the kids are okay and they get along with my kid. I like kids and I always wish I had more. A few issues I’d have is the kids getting along with my own and the kids mom. I also wouldn’t want to be a replacement mom. I see a lot of single dads that only date to replace mom and the gf does all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. I’m not trying to become a nanny maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:25 AM
1

If women have children, it takes a major hit on their careers. They get taken out the work force, can’t take all jobs because of child care, and don’t get promoted as much. I don’t think men have their careers affected like that. Women have to choose one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 01:13 AM
1

Their money belongs to the government that created the currency. Then to the job that determines how much money they get and when they get it. Their money isn’t even something that they fully posses and own. It can be seized out your bank account at any given moment. Cash can be deemed worthless. How does currency and wealth equate to body autonomy? It doesn’t and never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:25 AM
5

Women have been much better friends to me, so I’d say women. My women friends are very kind, empathetic, and caring and I love them all very much. I had male friends mostly in high school and I don’t think they’re very good friends. Every single one of them would have sex with me given the chance and I don’t have to worry about my female friends trying to have sex with me despite the fact that we’re all not straight. My guy friends have tried to get my nudes and fuck me in my sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:15 PM
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I agree but I think that men think that is the way women operate. I would like a man with a job at the very least but he doesn’t have to be ultra rich. The chance of me running into someone who is wealthy is slim anyway because they don’t live near me. I don’t think women put money and status as the highest importance because we can do that on our own now. Some women absolutely do and their goal is to be a trophy wife. But most women aren’t looking for men based on their possessions. We shouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:10 PM
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They don’t seem to want to be alone, they tolerate their bfs and that’s better than being alone. I personally rather be alone. Their boyfriends aren’t abusive, I think they just suck for many reasons. What makes them good men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:26 AM
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I think it’s not difficult if the woman is willing to settle and tolerate some things she doesn’t like. The women I know who always seem to find someone to be with are never really happy, there’s always a few giant red flags that they’ve decided to ignore until the problem gets to big to ignore. It’s easy if you’re not picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:36 AM
2

That’s wonderful for you! The social interpretation of the stat still doesn’t change anything either one of us said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:23 AM
2

Where are you looking? How well can you interpret data?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:07 AM
2

It’s not anecdotal at all. The stats that you gave and what I said say the same thing. Less men go for custody which means there is a smaller percentage of men with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:01 AM
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As a woman people have told me that my bad interactions with men were because I chose the wrong men. So it makes sense that I choose the best man that I can find so I right? Not being with any man is a better alternative to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:08 AM
2

Men usually don’t ASK for majority of custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:56 AM
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Most men I know (family and friends) are never single or alone. They go from being catered to by their mothers or sisters then their girlfriends. They will tolerate the worst woman possible before they are alone. They either get sex or have a gf that cooks and cleans and takes care of their kids. They benefit from having women in their life. Even when I’m around them I’m expected to do more. I end up doing more simple tasks and answering simple questions about normal things when I’m around men t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 03:16 PM
2

I seem to attract men with mommy issues or BPD. I wasn’t keen to it in my teens and early 20s but I’m very aware of it now. Something about me gives off a “I will take care of you and baby you” vibe. I will admit that as a person, I am absolutely a giver and do have a big heart, as I got older I definitely hide that part of myself because it attracts nothing but leeches and moochers. I was seeing a guy but I got so turned off by him because he seemed to be attracted to the fact that I cook, clea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:08 AM
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My ex was so cruel to me when I was pregnant because he wanted me to drop out of school and get a job. One day in a fit of rage because he was mad I didn’t physically write out a list of things we needed for the bby, he screams at me “I don’t want you to be like my mother”. I get that he didn’t want his child to grow up like he did but he showed he wasn’t willing to change it himself. He told me that he wished his mother gave all her children her last name, he said he wished she finished school …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:12 AM
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I think you’re right. I have a friend that people tell me that he is the man I should have chose to be with (because he’s working to become a doctor), but he is a complete doormat, the butt of everyone’s jokes at all times and it is deeply unattractive. I have a brother, he is masculine but expects everything to be handed to him. There’s very few men who are in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:30 AM
1

I’m pretty sure that the people who believe in mandatory paternity testing at birth also believe in financial abortions. If a man is not the father and eventually the real father is found, and he just says he’s throwing away his rights, now what? Lmaoo I don’t know if it would be considered fraud if you willingly signed the birth certificate with suspicions. If you don’t trust the woman you got pregnant, don’t sign the birth certificate. You can always get a test and then get put on the birth ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:24 AM
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I don’t want sex or a relationship with men and I haven’t in years. The men in my family and the boyfriends of my family members never do anything on their own. Their gfs or wives take care of them in one way or another. I already have a kid, I do not want to take care of anyone else right now. I’m happier by myself and no stressors.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:12 PM
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I’ve been studying astrology for a few years, I’ve been doing a lot of photography, and I have a few aquariums that I maintain. I’ve started getting into doing my own nails and hair lately too, I feel like that counts as a hobby lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:30 AM
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Pick Me women support misogyny and patriarchal values as long as they directly benefit from it by getting male acceptance and validation. Their objective is to increase their value by devaluing and stepping on other women. Think about all the women who have mothers that are pick mes and have their mothers choose men over them every single time and put those men first. They’ll believe and support men before women, the sad part is that it doesn’t prevent them from getting mistreated (See Serena Jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:06 AM
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Dude, you’re 17. What you’re describing is legit just shitty high school behavior. That’s not the real world. Things are different when you have better control of the people around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 03:02 AM
1

I get called fat. No one really cares about stuff like this. Who is calling you ugly on a weekly basis?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 02:51 AM
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I’m really on the fence about it. I’m a solo parent myself but I don’t know if I want to try and date a single dad again. I dated one and it was awkward. I’ve seen him lie to his bm who he lived with and it was weird. He’s a good dad but awful everything else. Most single dads I know turn their gf into a babysitter as soon as possible and then get her pregnant, cheat, leave, and the cycle continues. I think it’s more important that they’re a good parent. Being a single parent isn’t a personality…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:12 PM
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I’ve never seen that happen out of high school. Like the whole issue seems like something only teenagers do. If a person is handicapped regardless of gender, yes they will always be someone to defend them. I don’t think people will do the same for unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:48 AM
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I never claimed to be a feminist. You honestly just sound like you need therapy. What you’re describing isn’t the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:56 AM
5

Who hurt you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:52 AM
5

I’m a woman I know how we’re treated lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:47 AM
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They are not a thing. Most people don’t care or put women on a pedestal. Go outside and see the real world dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:36 AM
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No we won’t. Ugly men are still men and we still run the risk of getting beat up. If a man makes fun of a woman in public people will probably just do nothing. The world doesn’t work the way you think it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:27 AM
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I don’t think people are more hostile towards them. Openly bullying people is generally frowned upon these days. No one really goes out of their way to be hostile towards ugly guys. The same can be easily said for any unattractive person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 11:56 PM
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Just because a man is short or unattractive doesn’t mean that they have good personalities, there are a lot of them that are straight up assholes and are simply getting a taste of their own medicine. The short, fat, and unattractive men I’ve encountered are even more aggressive and depraved than “attractive” men. They’re no different in terms of hostility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 11:45 PM
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I went on a date with a guy last year, we never talked to each other after, he clearly didn’t like me. A few months later I see him on Instagram being exposed as a serial rapist who drugs women. Dating as a woman will always be a giant risk. A woman recently died from getting drugged on a date. Colleges routinely have sexual assaults. I feel like it’s dangerous for women to adopt the mentality that it won’t happen to us or that it’s rare because far too many women can tell you otherwise. Also, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:26 PM
2

Most people in charge of the laws in America are men. For the US, I don’t know why people think a country that’s never had a woman president, majority of congress and senate are men, majority of cops and judges are men, and majority of the Supreme Court is men, isn’t a male dominated society.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:31 PM
1

Yes, most of the time it worked out. Most of the instances it was just sex but I feel like if I asked in a romantic sense it’d probably be a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:11 PM
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I think whoever is the older one in the age gap relationship is probably has the same emotional maturity of the younger person they are dating. Especially if the younger person is between 18-25. There are so many shifts between that time I don’t know what someone in their 30s or 40s would have in common with them unless that person is a loser or rejected by their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:01 PM
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Between men and women, women tend to have better long lasting friendships because women usually do more emotional labor within their relationships than men. Most women definitely talk about their problems and listen to other women about theirs, I’m not sure if that is the same for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:17 AM
1

Then that just sucks and seems to be rare. I still don’t think testing everyone for something not common is necessary. That’s how often court dates are set from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:00 PM
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What you’re suggesting is expensive and honestly lazy. We shouldn’t have to mandate everyone to test their children because some men are too lazy to go to court or order a test from Amazon. It cost maybe about $20 to file the request for paternity in court. Time consuming by going to the court every 6 weeks means nothing if you don’t want to be on the hook for 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:21 PM
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In a perfect world, sure. Unfortunately violence against women is a daily occurrence. Men are the ones who have to put in the effort to find that information out. They can go to their local court and file for paternity to be established. What you’re suggesting already exists, men just have to go down to the court and do it and a lot don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:04 PM
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If he willingly signs a birth certificate without testing, he is legally responsible and it’s not fraud. He is the one who has to ensure that he is not getting screwed over. Side note: women aren’t making bank off of children. The average amount of child support is like $300.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:58 PM
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It probably would be high. Most women who are murdered are murdered by romantic partners. I don’t think it’s important if it would put people in danger. Hospitals don’t really have good security to calm down men if they find out their kid isn’t theirs in the hospital and freak out. I know people think of a woman gets murdered because of this it’s justified but the children suffer reguardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:47 PM
2

Well theft is a crime, this isn’t. Is it ethical? Probably not but it also is not punishable by law.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:39 PM
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That is all personal problem. Like I said, if they are concerned they can test early on instead of investing their time and money and guessing for years. Watch Paternity Court on YouTube. Some men will dance around it a child’s whole life instead of just doing a test or going to court to do the test. Some men will definitely commit a murder/suicide over something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:19 PM
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Id rather my taxes go towards people getting food and shelter rather than protecting peoples egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:09 PM
2

Yes. The parents can get paternity tested through court.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:01 PM
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It’s all case by case, a lot of women might not know. If a guy doesn’t want to take care of kid that he doesn’t know is his then he should be very proactive in finding out if the child is his. There are men who don’t even take care of their biological children. I can tell you that the government is absolute shit when it comes to enforcing child support. I don’t think that they would be any better at caring about this. I’ll be honest I don’t think this is a big enough problem for it to be mandate…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:56 PM
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Will the government help look for the real dad if it comes back negative? Will we have a government Maury Show? Edit to add: the government doesn’t care. They want to see parents both being responsible for children or it becomes their problem. The easiest solution is for the father to not be put on the birth certificate until they do their own test. I suggest people watch paternity court, a lot of men blindly sign birth certificates and don’t show up to court.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:28 PM
0

I have 2 nose rings and am trying to attract my fellow nose ring havers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:10 AM
2

I don’t trust the men that are interested in me because I don’t believe that they are really interested in me. I think that they’re interested in what they THINK I can provide for them. I’m a mom so they think I’ll pop out another child for them or raise their current children. They also assume I’m desperate and I will take whatever I can get. It’s weird and can’t be explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:33 AM
2

Women create life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 03:48 AM
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Fun Fact: FDS criticizes women too 🤫
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 12:01 AM
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Being a Pick Me has gotten her in this position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:21 AM
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My ex started driving with no hands on a highway and he was break checking people when I was 9 months pregnant. My heart was in my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 06:08 AM
1

This dynamic is common with gay men too. The younger man is usually looking for money or a place to stay (due to being ostracized from their community) and the older man is looking for companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:42 AM
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I honestly don’t think that’s true. I think BM have more options when it comes to dating. If you have WW walking up to you thinking you’re down just because she’s a WW and she’s obviously what you want, then you’ve had more opportunities than I have lol. Is it an ideal opportunity for you? No but it is for many. WW are seen as the prize, not BW. There are BW who only date BM and non black women who only date BM, I hardly ever hear men say they only date BW. And if I do, they treat them horribly.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:41 PM
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Oh man I wish that were true. BW are treated as public enemy #1 until everyone needs help. I’m from the suburbs, WW will call you hostile for simply existing and then BM will side with those same WW. BW are at the bottom of the dating totem pole. We aren’t being chosen by non black men or black men. BM tend to marry outside their race more than BW and the richer they get the less likely they will marry someone black. As for societal issues, BW do not get the same about of attention that BM get. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:17 PM
2

Same! I couldn’t imagine having a male partner right now because of the absolute neediness from my father, brother, cousins, and uncles. It’s like they think the women in their lives are secretaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:04 PM
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You mean ✨white✨ women. I’ve seen them get away with murder as long as they cry a little. If you’re a black woman, not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:48 PM
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Most of the men in my family are bald, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:08 AM
2

That’s okay! Thank you for understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:00 PM
2

At the time love I didn’t need them so there was no codependency on my end. Helping people achieve their goals isn’t enabling. I’m not justifying their behavior at all. It’s not right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:50 PM
1

No, I just want reciprocation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:48 PM
1

Okay 👍🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:37 PM
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The same way that there are different kinds of intelligence, there’s different kinds of labor. Physical intelligence requires physical labor. emotional intelligence requires ✨emotional labor✨ You think psychiatric nurses and therapists have jobs that aren’t taxing? Labor is labor. Whether it’s physical or mental. Working on a roof makes people tired and dealing with other peoples problems non stop makes people tired. My time and energy has value whether or not Im building a shed or teaching some…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:25 PM
1

That’s emotional labor. Especially if it’s one sided. I have a narcissist parent, listening to their problems all the time with no reciprocation is very draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:11 PM
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I personally haven’t tried to fix anyone, I was taught that’s what you do when your in a relationship, you help the person that they want to accomplish. No one chooses “bad boys” or “degenerates” on purpose. Those kind of people are exceptionally good at fooling people. They have dreams and career aspersions too, and that same bad boy behavior probably gets them further in life. They have ambitions like everyone else but they’re willing to stomp on people in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:05 PM
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I was on cash assistance for a little while while I was in school. I got $300 in cash and $300 in food stamps. Is daddies income is $600 a month? Probably not. People think women are having multiple children for a measly $300 each when daycares cost $1200 and up for just one child? LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:39 AM
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There’s a problem with women not wanting to date broke/poor men? I don’t think anyone is saying be a millionaire, at the very very least have a job. I’d rather be with someone who has their shit together than be with someone based on their hopes and dreams. I’ve been in relationships with poor/broke men who had only hopes and dreams (I was a teenager) I helped them with college and looking for jobs. When they achieved those things, they left for the women they really wanted. I’d rather someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:25 AM
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Attractive is subjective though. I like men with big noses, big ears, and dark hair. My friends like dark skin men with locs and tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:34 AM
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When I was 19 and my ex was 23, he was just like this. He was convinced that if I graduated school I would leave him because “I was just using him until someone better came along” ( he was broke there was nothing I could use him for) long story short he got me pregnant on purpose thinking I would drop out of school and get a job. I didn’t. That’s exactly the next thing that’ll happen for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:14 PM
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Babe, I don’t care. You’re saying a lot but nothing you’re saying is important. Be well💞
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:36 PM
0

Sweetie. you are saying things that all false equivalencies. Those don’t add up. You’re saying it’s like this and it’s like that, but I don’t care because I’m talking about what IT is. What you wear has nothing to do with rape, but putting a condom on your dick DOES prevent pregnancy. I don’t care about being called a feminist or a misandrist. I’m done with this convo because it’s going nowhere, enjoy your day hun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:06 PM
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I think you’re being willfully ignorant! If men feel that women have the ultimate reproductive power then they should always prevent themselves from falling victim to situations where they are helpless. Men have the option to wear condoms, get vasectomies, and even pull out as last resort. All those things should be done FIRST if you can’t trust women. I’m just talking about prevention, not about being pregnant and abortions. If men know women have autonomy with pregnancies, then don’t give them…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:49 PM
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It’s not the same. One is internal and one is external. One is causing physical chemical changes in your own body, one isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:36 PM
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You’re analogies have nothing to do with body autonomy. So they’re useless. So men don’t consent to sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:32 PM
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and removing a condom and lying about birth control are 2 different things. You can see a removed condom but there’s no way to see if a person is on birth control. Not being on birth control is agency over her own body. I’m placing on the blame on the person being lied to because they’re placing the faith in someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:30 PM
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Dental dams and condoms prevent different things???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:25 PM
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There may not be consent to raise a child just because he had sex, but the consequences are still there. The child still exists. if they don’t want to have children and aren’t taking preventative measures then they’re being negligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:07 PM
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If a man can’t confirm that a woman is on birth control, then don’t go in raw??? It’s a real simple solution. Most men just risk it and hope for the best. Worst case scenario they say a crazy bitch trapped them and everyone gives their sympathy. At this point, you’d have to be a Grade A dummy to believe and have so much trust in a woman who you may or may not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:05 AM
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My ex had a rape fantasy/kink, turns out he was an actual rapist. I’ll never trust men who are into BDSM or anything like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:44 AM
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I regret telling my ex that I was going to get on birth control and get a IUD. At first he pretended to support me but then later said that he would rip it out because he wanted me to have his baby. Men are scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:30 AM
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