GlitteringMermaid Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Kind of mad I wasn't born 2-3 generations later so I can experience "enlightened" men Wooow. Fascinating and disturbing. Don't read the comments unless you're ready to bleach your eyes afterwards though... Ew!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/03/22 12:56 PM
2	A daily reminder to protect your womb from LVM scrotes. Apparently once you have a kid, you are no longer allowed to have standards. Stating "she's making herself a target for misogynistic men" is victim blaming. It's not her job to express herself differently because men won't like it if she is blunt.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/22 08:08 PM
4	Red flags are red flags. Not yellow or orange—they’re red. I'm a therapist and let me be blunt - many people who work in my field are not cut out for it. IME there are two types of therapists 1) helper/fixer/enabler types that want to inflate their ego and make you and themselves feel good, regardless of how much change actually happens & 2) the ones that will hold you accountable to your own healing because they believe you can do it. Type 2 will hold a mirror up for you, ask difficult questions, challenge you, and even share their own perspectives whe…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/01/22 09:47 PM
8	That would be instant ICK for me followed by my departure and blocking everywhere. If he is doing something this gross in front of you, imagine the filthy shit he's doing secretly 🤮 Also, how do you RIP OUT ass hair? I don't understand. That sounds painful and grotesque. Who has enough ass hair to rip out? Just asking the important questions. 🤮	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/22 03:16 PM
17	Invalidation in Friendships Try sharing FDS-rhetoric with the therapist and see how they respond. Look for hidden "pick-me" attitudes. A therapist may want to encourage healthy connection -- true, but not at the cost of dating unhealthy people for unhealthy reasons.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/21 03:31 PM
48	Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In Therapy As a therapist, reading all of these positive posts gives me warm fuzzies. Yay to encountering therapists who give you a compassionate real talk! FDS has definitely been informing my work with clients. I've had several older women (post-divorce) tell me that they do not want to date men ever again. There is a palatable pause after they tell me this, as if they are waiting to see if I will pathologize their need/want to be single. I almost always say "your experiences with men are valid and if da…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/21 03:26 PM
6	All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the Victim I have a friend who had the police escort her rapist through her apartment to pick up his things. The scrote-cop had the audacity to HIT ON HER. puke Never trust a cop. They are disgusting.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/09/21 10:19 PM
6	FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here? The liberal "sex-positive" koolaid was so alluring and it brought me nothing but pain. I wish someone hard warned me when I was younger. Not that I would have listened to myself, but I never encountered counter-narratives until I went looking for them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/21 10:28 PM
1	Trauma Bonding - why you need to seek therapy before you date again new book on trauma bonding Cosign on all of this. Therapists who specialize in trauma are a unique subset of therapists. They should understand things like: the physiology of trauma, grounding techniques, interventions such as EMDR or NET or somatic therapy, how to hold safe boundaries while also encouraging growth, hypo and hyper arousal, and they should be comfortable navigating in the weeds with you. I can't tell you how many trauma clients I have had who saw multiple therapists who were of n…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/09/21 07:48 PM
27	This is just wrong in so many ways. The fruits of OLD. How to be blocked in under a second I read this comment to my HVM husband and he went "hmmm" 🤔. 🤣🤣🤣 The comments in this sub bring me so much joy. I can't believe I did a year of poly, I met so many LVMs. 🤮	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/12/20 11:14 PM