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Gloomy-Jicama/r/askFDS20/03/20 02:18 AM
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If you are stopping a chick, she will assume you are interested. Any attempt to pretend otherwise is frustrating.
/r/seduction21/01/21 01:29 PM
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Hey (name), if I didn't come and stop you I would have regretted it a bit. Whats your name? -Talk normally... So hows your day going? Finish: SOOO are you single? If she says yes you ask for her number.
/r/seduction21/01/21 01:26 PM
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Being honest yourself about what you actually want. Instead of going out and telling yourself "I am here to have a good time not to find women to hook up with."
/r/seduction19/01/21 03:32 PM
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The only factors you need to "change" when it comes to attracting women are how you dress, how you look, and how anxious you are. What you do with your life is something else entirely. You are more likely to adopt this "pleaser" mindset if you still are having issues with women.
/r/seduction19/01/21 03:31 PM
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lol no one is making an "argument." If shes into you on some level she likes you. She can STOP liking you on the date because your weird. These women can do a million other things with their time and they chose to spend that time with you. Most of the time, what weirds her out and gets her complaining is the fact that the guy she is with is trying to get her to like him.
/r/seduction19/01/21 03:28 PM
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I feel like I could do this for someone. I did it for my friend for free (it wasn't an official arrangement it just sort of happened). Browsing through this subreddit, it seems like basically every guy on here is completely clueless and could use like basic advice. ​ Most of the "dating advice" I have seen online is also just not true. There is so much theoretical discussion about "game" and "looks." I could see how guys spin their wheels endlessly getting no where.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:22 PM
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Yes women care about how you look. WTF is this. If you are having trouble with women the FIRST thing you should look at is how you look.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:19 PM
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This is so dumb. You do not need to over complicate cold approaches like this. A guy with approach anxiey has trouble walking up to girls and saying anything. It would be very hard (and counterproductive) for him to have all of these "steps" and lines walking around in his head.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:17 PM
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When I was starting out, I hated that advice. It did not make any sense. I still think its dumb. If you are having trouble hooking up with girls, you want to hook up with girls. You should do stuff that will eventually help you complete that goal. Becoming a "well rounded person" is a huge waste of time. You should dress better, cut weight, and beat approach anxiety because you want to hook up with more girls. You will complete the job faster when you are being honest with yourself.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:15 PM
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A lot of advice you will receive here will be stuff like "just enjoy yourself" and "don't have expectations." You will inevitably think "How.?!?!? I want to hook up with more girls. Why would I NOT have that expectation." This thought is exactly right and anyone who gives you that advice is an idiot. ​ If you have trouble talking to the girls you want to talk to you are suffering from ANXIETY and LACK OF EXPERIENCE more than charisma. Charisma is NOT a prerequisite for getting laid what so ever.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:12 PM
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You don't need to be charismatic. What you need to do is actually talk to the girls you want to talk to. You don't need to be the most "well liked" guy at the party to do that.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:09 PM
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I guess a second piece of advice would be to double down on how many girls you are talking to... however it is you do that. If you use a lot of online for example swipe more and get better pics. If you hit on girls walking by make sure to do more of it. If you have a lot of girls in your pipeline you will be less nervous.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:07 PM
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They complain about dates going bad because the date went bad. That does not change the fact that if she shows up, shes into you on some level. You do not need to think about "increasing" how much she likes you because you can't do that anyway. Trying to just puts you in your head which is not where you want to be anyway.
/r/seduction18/01/21 10:00 PM
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Be comfortable with the fact that your going to be in your head like that for a while. Each date or whatever try to get a bit more aggressive (touchier) each time. Get more comfortable asking girls to come over after dates ect.. Over time, you will eventually accumulate enough experience and success to feel comfortable. There really isn't any shortcuts to "feeling confident."
/r/seduction18/01/21 09:58 PM
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It does not do anything and its a waste of time. You have trouble connecting with women because you lack experience doing so. You are trying to avoid doing the hard work of confronting your deep fears and insecurity. ​ Flakes are normal. Most girls flake. If everyone flakes you are either kind of weird or not attractive. Both of these problems, for the vast majority of guys is very fixable.
/r/seduction15/01/21 04:05 PM
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I think this is the fundamental problem with "seduction" as a concept in general. You cannot really "seduce" people all that much. Some women are in to you and some are not. Some women are available and looking and most are not. Its YOUR job to find out which are or are not available. Nothing you do or say really changes the outcome all that much unless your weird generally.
/r/seduction15/01/21 04:01 PM
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They don't expect you to be whitty off the bat. They do not expect any kind of "conversational abilities" or whatever and do not think any more or less of you whether or not you have them. What screws guys over in this whole thing is attempting to be smoothe. Its so dumb. ​ They also don't expect you to approach at all. Most guys simply do not. If you think she is giving you "signals" she may or may not be checking you out. From your perspective, it does not matter though. Your job should be to …
/r/seduction15/01/21 03:58 PM
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Experience. Its easier to accept that in the beginning, your just going to be head in your head more than you would like. After experience and success, you won't.
/r/seduction15/01/21 03:54 PM
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Nothing is going to "get her to like you." If she is on a date with you, she probably already likes you.
/r/seduction15/01/21 03:53 PM
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If you care about this stuff you should do whatever you can to NOT be average looking.... "Game" is dumb and is not real. Some women will really like your personality while others won't.
/r/seduction22/11/20 05:28 PM
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Yup I have and I do understand. I am no longer on them though. Just because someone diagnoses you with extreme anxiety does not mean it cannot be handled. The way you get over anxiety is by repeatedly doing the stuff that triggers it.....unfortunately. What you choose to do is in your control. How you feel about it is not. You DO have the ability to walk up to the girl you want to talk to and open your mouth. Your heart may be pounding out of your chest when you do so. You may not be able to mak…
/r/seduction28/08/20 02:32 PM
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That’s most people tbh. No one says or does anything. I got over this by making sure I do a lot of cold approaches in public. The people are just NPCs
/r/seduction27/08/20 06:55 PM
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There does not “need” to be anything. The chick will or will not give you her number.
/r/seduction27/08/20 06:54 PM
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No.
/r/seduction27/08/20 06:54 PM
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No. I am saying to push yourself DESPITE the fact that your anxiety may be debilitating/excruciating. The ability to ACT even WITH the extreme fear you are experiencing is what determines whether or not you can win at this thing. The solution "just go up and talk to her" is simple. I did not say or suggest it was easy. Its not supposed to be in those beginning stages.
/r/seduction27/08/20 03:33 AM
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No. Everyone here has anxiety. That’s why they are here. The issue is that “just text her.” Is the solution. The thing to do is the simplest. It’s your responsibility to push through the anxiety.
/r/seduction21/08/20 12:10 AM
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You don't know why she rejected you thats the point I am trying to make. There is absolutely no way on earth you can actually figure that out... Some girls are available some are not. Some will be into you and some will not be. The things you can "control" are how many women you ask out and to a large extent how you look like...
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:04 PM
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Blast all online dating apps. Go to bars if they are open and hit on everyone I see
/r/seduction17/08/20 05:54 PM
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You don’t need to learn something from every interaction.... You just ask out another girl.
/r/seduction17/08/20 05:54 PM
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That’s where I do it the most
/r/seduction17/08/20 05:53 PM
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No he is adding all of these caveats and rules regarding confidence and eye contact.
/r/seduction14/08/20 07:41 PM
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Why is this forum full of a bunch of weirdo stuff. Just fucking ask girls out that you want to ask out. There are no other prequisites or rules. If you didnt ask the girl you wanted to ask out its because you have some anxiety issues... which is fine. The cure to that is simply pushing yourself to ask out another girl you want to ask out. ​ There is no need for any of these weird concepts. A lot of this over-analysis is the reason why guys have problems in this arena.
/r/seduction14/08/20 05:57 PM
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It’s dumb and a waste of time lol. Only dorks do that
/r/seduction21/07/20 03:30 PM
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You can. I lost all the girls I was seeing in January. However, girls are now done again, whether from online or even straight up cold approach.
/r/seduction21/07/20 03:29 PM
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No. Don’t do all of this other stuff that has nothing to do with getting better with women. You get better with women by actually hitting on women and working on the stuff that matters. You should A) Hit on women daily B) Keep improving your looks (get low body fat + improve style). C) Get a professional photoshoot done every few months as your looks improve. That way you’ll have more girls hitting you up over time. Seduction communities always equivocate vague notions of self improvement (impro…
/r/seduction21/07/20 03:27 PM
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Mental masturbation homie. Being attractive = being attractive. Being more confident with women is a result of having continued prolong success with them, which comes from experience.
/r/seduction21/07/20 03:24 PM
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Thats normal tbh. I really wouldn't think about it in terms of "winning her over" though. It puts guys in the wrong mindset. It makes them feel like they are selling themselves. In reality if a women goes on a date with you, she most likely already kind of likes you. ​ If a women goes out on a date with you chances are A) She is in the right state of mind to go out on dates B) She is also attracted to you. ​ If you want more dates and more options the right thing to do is to talk to more women (…
/r/seduction07/07/20 05:29 PM
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We don’t know anything about you. How you look like, your level of anxiety, your experience. We can’t give you any real advice
/r/seduction04/07/20 06:45 AM
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Its one thing to convince someone to like you. Its another thing to convince women to sleep with you. Thats a whole other deal. ​ You cannot convince an unavailable women to become available.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:20 PM
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Yeah i agree. When I am in L.A by online dating pops. When I am in S.F or S.D its not as poppin. I think thats a density issue more than anything else though.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:08 PM
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Keep getting more experience. Thats the only way those nerves go away. ​ Also, if your feeling nervous, just tell the girls that your hanging out with that your nervous. They generally LIKE that. It will also calm your mind a bit. A lot of "nerves" come from you thinking that you need to present yourself a certain way. This comes from you thinking you aren't good enough. ​ Here is the truth, if a girl is on a date with you SHE ALREADY LIKES YOU.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:07 PM
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By doing it. Asking for a stranger's number is always kind of akward. You just have to push back your reluctance. ​ Also, ignore the notion of "being smoothe" in general. This is the idea that is screwing you up. Hitting on someone you don't know is going to be kind of awkward. This is fine.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:04 PM
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lol dumb, The only way you decrease your "conversion ratio" (ew) is finding the girls who LIKE YOU. It has nothing to do with your "persuasion skills."
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:00 PM
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If its a numbers game, then the notion of "game" does not make sense (which is something i agree with). ​ The truth is that you will hook up with more than enough women if you look good enough, talk to enough of them, and have a bit of courage.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:00 PM
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The issue is that guys get into "pick up" because they don't know how to "be confident." Confidence with women is obtained through success with them, not mental masturbation. ​ This is not real advice but simply mental masturbation.
/r/seduction03/07/20 09:58 PM
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It helps yeah. I use IG as a way to save girls for later. A lot of the reason a women rejects you is simply because of timing. Having an IG solves that problem. I will ask for her number, she says no for whatever reason. i ask for her IG she is cool with it. Ill occassionaly slide into her DMs here and there. This has worked sometimes.
/r/seduction03/07/20 09:56 PM
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Women don't want assholes. This is stupid. They DO like guys a bit more assertive. That has nothing to do with being an asshole and has a lot more to do with you doing what you want.
/r/seduction03/07/20 09:54 PM
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You solve this problem by talking to more girls and being comfortable losing the ones your trying to hook up with.
/r/seduction03/07/20 09:53 PM
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Yes I understand that people should do other stuff... But if you are a beginner, you need to go "all in" for a while until your at a place where you are comfortable. You can balance your life AFTER you get to a point where your at least doing ok. Given the types of posts I am reading on here I can guarantee that 99 percent of guys here have virtually no experience and are pretty much starting from scratch, which is fine. ​ I have never seen someone go from a total loser to actually pretty good w…
/r/seduction02/07/20 04:39 PM
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Ok. I am not sure what being a "king" is. But yes, you should build a career/business because being broke sucks. I only pointed this out because making money has nothing to do with hooking up with a bunch of women (if you are under 35). Every guy I know (including myself) who does extremely well with women is not rich by any stretch. Women (especially if they are DTF) do not care about money. Working on financial goals when your biggest pain point is your romantic life is a giant giant giant was…
/r/seduction02/07/20 02:16 PM
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Experience is easy to get. If you hit on girls daily for a month you will probably have more experience than most guys do in their entire life. 99 percent of guys are no where near as "ugly" as they think and they don't give themselves a chance. All you need to do is get "above average" and you are good to go. That is not hard considering most guys don't take care of themselves and don't put any effort into their appearance. ​ When I was starting out, I thought I was ugly as well. I was not gett…
/r/seduction02/07/20 02:10 PM
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Thats good. Now simply ask for directions and then say "your cute by the way" and leave. That way you can start the convo by doing something your comfortable with (directions) and then adding an extra "step" of doing something uncomfortable (your cute by the way). After you get comfortable doing that, start just walking up to girls and hitting on them. By hitting on them, all I mean is saying something like "Hey I know this is out of the blue but if I didnt say hi to you I would have regretted i…
/r/seduction02/07/20 03:23 AM
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I never said to "approach 75 women a day." My point was that the way you get better at approaching is simply by approaching. Not doing a bunch of other junk and endlessly mentally masturbating.
/r/seduction02/07/20 03:19 AM
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Thats because you have anxiety, but not because there are any consequences. Guys who can push past the nerves do well. Those who use their nerves as an excuse do not.
/r/seduction01/07/20 09:00 PM
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None of these gurus no what they are talking about. Once you see for yourself that much becomes obvious. By simply asking a few girls out each day, asking for their number, and actually trying to meet up with them, you will go MUCH further than anyone reading any of these books.
/r/seduction01/07/20 08:58 PM
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You don't need to "transition." Meeting a stranger and asking for their number is supposed to be kind of awkward. Pretending to be Mr. Alpha or smoothe is whats screwing you up here. ​ If you have nothing to say, thats generally the best time to ask. "I got to get going and if I didn't ask for your number I would probably regret it." something cheesy like that works just fine.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:50 PM
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You are failing because you are listening to TRP and not gaining experience. Your 25. Thats fine. I was pretty hopeless at around 24 and turned it around completely after that. Get in better shape, get some decent clothing, get a professional photo shoot, and start swiping... This is the first thing I would do in your shoes. No "frame" or "alpha" b.s is going to be helpful for you.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:48 PM
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Wait how old are you?
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:46 PM
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You aren't "losing frame" lol. Your just not that busy right now and your goals aren't big enough. Getting into arguments online is what normal people do when they are bored.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:45 PM
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lol. Wtf. You are 17 of course she is going to assume exclusivity. If your "serious" about being non-exclusive, (since your 17 I doubt it) you tell her you're not interested in being exclusive. Thats all there is to do.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:44 PM
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Don't beat yourself up over it to be honest. Guys on sites like these will tell you there is a cure for this. It is ok to fall in love with someone. I will speculate that TRP is a result of a lot of heartbroken guys pretending they aren't. I ​ The truth is that you will get over her in time. You are just going to have to go through what you have to go through.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:42 PM
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I stopped approaching like March-May. Started again in June and it's the same. Don't worry about it, just try it.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:40 PM
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lol. Your a man. Men chase women. What you "say" or type out does not matter all that much. If they are available and into you they will meet up with you. If they aren't they won't. ​ I usually use that heart eye emoji. If she responds I will say "so whats it going to take for you to let me get you a drink later this week." It works sometimes and other times it does not lol.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:39 PM
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When your in a prolonged calorie deficit your sex drive goes down. Don't worry about it and keep going. Youll perk back up once you start eating at maintenance again.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:36 PM
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lol nothing will make your "smv" better other than looking better, getting experience with women, and decreasing your anxiety over time. A hobby won't help with that.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:35 PM
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If you are in High School, just get good grades, work out, and chill out. Nothing you do at this stage of your life really matters at all. I didn't really understand what I was "supposed" to be doing until I was 25.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:34 PM
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Who cares? lol. Analyzing SMV based on weird charts isn't going to solve your problems.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:32 PM
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This is mental masturbation at its finest lol.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:30 PM
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Stop talking to her I guess. You don't know whats going on. Any speculation is a waste of time.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 07:28 PM
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If a women is looking at you it MIGHT mean she likes you. It might mean nothing... You should approach any attractive women who looks at you though. ​ Just say "Hey I saw you look at me and Id feel bad if I didn't come say hi to you," or something like that...
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:26 PM
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This is racist and weird. Im not even an SJW or anything (just look at my post history) but this is weird. ​ The way you "game" black women is by talking to them while looking good. The same way you "game" any women.
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:24 PM
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lol. Any youtuber selling you on "getting numbers" is an idiot. Most women give out their number so you can go away. Some women who gave you their number will meet up with you if they are available and are into you. ​ Don't think about math. Only think about how many women you are going to approach TODAY.
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:23 PM
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Your 19. The fact your dealing with this at that age is totally fine. You deal with this problem through gradual exposure therapy and some success. (Hooking up with women and getting more comfortable talking to really attractive women over time.)
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:21 PM
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Reading these books won't help you except for how to win friends. That book is generally good for general social skills. ​ You get better with women with experience.
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:17 PM
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Don't listen to the people who say you should have screwed her. You're 15 man. Doing whatever you're doing is normal.
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:16 PM
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For what?
/r/seduction01/07/20 06:40 PM
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This weird mathematical over-analysis of everything is everyone's problem.
/r/seduction01/07/20 06:38 PM
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How many guys that actually get laid spend their time reading "smv charts."
/r/seduction01/07/20 06:37 PM
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No they don't. Most men become fat, bald, and depressed through their middle age. Men aging and women "hitting the wall" is a myth.
/r/seduction01/07/20 02:09 PM
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Your overthinking lol. Im not saying you can't instigate sex. I am saying there is no reason to do any flashy moved. just the kiss the guy and touch his wiener. That should pretty much to do it. Being "smooth" and all that is for Hollywood and PUA dorks. Real human sexual interaction is not like that. It's messy, gross, awkward, and sometimes abrupt. There is nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction01/07/20 02:05 PM
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Thats not long at all if you put it into perspective. If your a virgin at 22 you probably have a good amount of stuff you need to work on. Your general social anxiety is probably pretty high. Your anxiety regarding hitting on women is probably through the roof. There are no easy fixes in life. Good things take time, patience, and a bit of hard work.
/r/seduction01/07/20 02:03 PM
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Started from the bottom.
/r/seduction01/07/20 06:42 AM
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Men who get laid Look good Talk to girls Men who don’t: Don’t look good Don’t talk to girls
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:46 AM
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NOPE. You have no idea why a women will reject you. She could be Be having a bad day Be on drugs Be married You remind her of ex... Don’t think about this... Just talk to more girls.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:45 AM
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Get jacked + an edgy style I guess.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:44 AM
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Dumb lol. This is a forum for picking up women. Chasing money and “power” (whatever that means) is going to make you a rich socially inept and lonely weirdo. Most women don’t care about “money.” Those that do are typically not dating guys under 40.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:42 AM
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If your serious about this stuff why stay average looking? Get in good shape and dress fly.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:16 AM
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If your a female you shouldn’t be making moves. If a guy likes you he likes you.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:15 AM
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Nope. Comments here are obviously fake. Guys who go to “clubs” without being part of the “in crowd” don’t get laid... They are just PUA dorks. If you don’t like clubs don’t go. Bars, daytime, and online work just fine.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:14 AM
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By looking good... There is no secret here.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:12 AM
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By looking good and actually approaching women your already ahead of 90 percent of guys. Your average guy looks like shit and does not talk to girls he does not know. Instead of trying to fake stuff just tell girls you approach that your nervous. I did this all the time when I was starting out. “Hey I don’t do this very often but if I didn’t talk to you I would have regretted it.” If I would stumble over my words I would say “sorry I’m a bit nervous because I don’t do this very often.” When I re…
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:11 AM
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If they want to keep kissing you....
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:07 AM
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NO! Don’t read books on attraction. Wtf! There is a reason dumb guys are good at this stuff.. Because they are actually talking to women instead of reading about them.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:07 AM
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Lol who cares. If she’s coming over the battle is won my man. It’s ok to be nervous. You could just tell her your nervous and you haven’t moved that fast before.... This is FINE. I’ve said something a long those lines and it’s totally fine. She wants to hook up with YOU not someone your pretending to be.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:05 AM
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You don’t “build a connection.” It’s there or it isn’t. The issue is either A) Your not talking to enough girls B) Your not actually trying to sleep with them C) Your spending way too much time “trying to build a connection” instead of connecting.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:03 AM
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If girls are “staring at you” you shouldn’t even think about doing anything else.
/r/seduction01/07/20 05:00 AM
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Lol “high value” wtf. That’s just a made up term used by dork PUAs. If you already hooked up with someone ask to hang out whenever you want.
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:59 AM
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You tell her it was nice meeting her and ask to meet up with her... That’s it. No need to “build attraction.” If she was attracted to you when talking to you and she is available... she will meet up. If she wasn’t available or wasn’t into you then she gave you her number because she was being nice.
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:58 AM
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This is a load of crap. If your seriously struggling with women you should spend as much time as possible on the issue until your comfortable. Guys end up spending endless amounts of time improving themselves thinking it will get them laid. That time is better spent just fixing this area and moving on.
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:55 AM
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Here is how I did it. I would just tell girls “hey your cute” and walk away. After a while of getting used to that I would say “hey your cute what’s your name.” Proceed to have “normal people talk” and ask for her number. That’s all you need. No need to over complicate things.
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:53 AM
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You don’t need to be interesting. You need to talk like a normal person and actually ask for her number. Thinking you “need to be a certain way” just gets in the way. If she’s available and into you she’ll be down to meet up.
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:51 AM
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Yeah. Pretty easily. But it’ll take consistent action over time. If you A) Improve how you look like B) Beat approach anxiety C) Hit on girls daily (bars, in the day, and online And actually try to hook up with them you can get there in a year or 2
/r/seduction01/07/20 04:50 AM
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This post will get deleted immediately so take with it what you will. I went what you went through, albeit at a way younger age. I was a bit of a "late bloomer." Started doing the casual thing at 25 but didn't really see any success until maybe a year later. Here are some things to consider. I want to preface everything im about to say with asserting that I don't believe in any of that MGTOW or red pill stuff. Most of that stuff is written by guys who cant get laid. ALL of the anger they experie…
/r/askFDS27/03/20 10:15 PM
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Yes to all of the questions. In shape, set up financially, emotionally good to go, have friends the whole deal. There is no way a women can make any real assertions about me as a person just by sleeping with me once. The above “self improvement” stuff isn’t the problem. I wish it was cause then I’d just fix it lol. I think the stuff your suggesting is sort of the initial stuff every guy thinks is wrong with them. They don’t know anything about me so how could they know whether or not I’m deficie…
/r/askFDS25/03/20 02:49 AM
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No. Although I’m now certain that people responding to this aren’t reading anything I’m saying. I said that there is NO WAY it is possible to KNOW how to make a girl orgasm the first time you sleep with her. She would know how to make HERSELF orgasm a lot easier than some dude she just met can.
/r/askFDS25/03/20 02:33 AM
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/r/askFDS23/03/20 03:40 AM
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/r/askFDS23/03/20 03:40 AM
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/r/askFDS23/03/20 03:39 AM
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What does that even mean? Change my attitude with whom? How? Why would that change my results? Your comment was not an attempt to help me in anyway and you know it.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 02:58 AM
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Its not helpful because it's not actionable. You're not giving anything I can actually take action on.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 02:55 AM
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Someone already suggested that. I stopped after the first request thanks.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 02:53 AM
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Why do new commenters keep popping in to give unhelpful advice? Im saying it takes time to get to know someone sexually. I don't think it's possible to get someone off after a one night stand unless there is a lot of natural chemistry. That is ALL I MEANT.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 02:51 AM
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lol thanks for the feedback.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 02:21 AM
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I want to make a point on the fragile ego point. I keep getting accused of having one. I think it may seem counter-intuitive but I don't think ANYTHING destroys the "fragile male ego" more than doing what I did in the way that I did it. ​ When you approach dating this way, you experience more sexual and romantic rejection in a month than most people do an entire lifetime. The reason the majority of guys DO NOT have as much success as I did is because they are generally unwilling to risk the emba…
/r/askFDS22/03/20 07:36 PM
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Thats mean lol i don't think Ive "perfected the art" of anything. Most of it is just playing the numbers game, being myself, putting an offer on the table, and waiting for some to accept and others to reject it. I was rejected the majority of the time of course. After gaining experience, all that happened was I got more and more comfortable. I never said that 'banging women" (your terms not mine) was my only interest. I have a career, friends, and hobbies. How can you extrapolate my ENTIRE LIFE …
/r/askFDS22/03/20 07:23 PM
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I SAID you SHOULD try. I merely outlined what I think is possible. SOME men have fragile egos and some don’t. I know PLENTY grounded and well adjusted dudes. I also know many that have serious emotional issues. People (yes even male humans) are a mixed bag. Also, I’m starting to see a major trend regarding members of your forum. Y’all like to make generalizations about almost everyone and everything. I PROMISE if you keep living your life this way you will be extremely unhappy.
/r/askFDS22/03/20 08:14 AM
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I see what your saying. Like what you really want kind of manifests itself in how you're behaving and what you end up pursuing... and eventually getting. All im saying is its really difficult to imagine finding a long term partner if I am having an issue getting a third or fourth date. Lastly, its definitely hard to "let people in" the way I used to when I was younger. Over time I definitely got a bit jaded. That is something Ive been working on though.
/r/askFDS22/03/20 12:53 AM
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Thanks for the explanation. I agree that I think women really "like" having casual sex. They never seemed to really like it all that much. Most of the time I think they classified any experience as a "mistake" or a lackluster at best. There is no way I could know for sure though. ​ Also, im not sure if I am looking for a "life partner." Its not like Im against that or anything but I cant conceivably think that far ahead. I was only asking about getting a third or fourth date lol. Ill worry about…
/r/askFDS22/03/20 12:23 AM
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I’d rather not go into detail with you lol. I don’t think dick size or any of that stuff matters though.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 08:35 PM
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Hahahahaha thanks I’ll forward it to her. Your the first person who made a comment about that here.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 07:27 PM
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Bars, online, or just out and about. I just turned 27. I dated girls from the age range of 24-33. The vast majority were in their mid to late 20s.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 07:17 PM
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Hahaha. It’s not that I think I’m “great” in bed. It’s just something that I really tried improving upon because it was the obvious first conclusion I drew. The reason I say “that’s not it” is NOT because I think I’m some super stud lol. I came to the conclusion that women don’t really like or enjoy sleeping with you until they develop a certain level of comfort around you. Really understanding someone sexually is one of those things that develop over time. Sometimes it is just a chemistry thing…
/r/askFDS21/03/20 07:12 PM
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Lol thanks. I was rejected by the vast majority of women I hit on so that’s not really a surprise. Interestingly enough, I developed a completely different way of “judging” a woman’s n count throughout this thing. That was a welcome and pleasant surprise. I think before, I would have cared and felt insecure if I believed a potential partner had a high number count or went through a “party stage.” Now, I honestly wouldn’t care one bit which brings me A LOT of peace.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 06:23 PM
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“Same conversations same questions.” Yeah it be like that hahahahaha. I wish I could “feel a spark” BEFORE I asked someone out. However, I don’t really KNOW anything about anyone I ask out so their really isn’t much to feel really. Any “spark” I could potentially feel would be made of my own imagination. No bueno. Sometimes I feel a spark on the date and that makes me happy. Usually that means it’s a bit more painful when I don’t get a text back. That’s the only thing I never ever truly got over…
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:59 AM
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That’s fair. I only wanted to say that because I feel (especially in evaluating a member of the opposite sex) that people are really easy to make snap judgements about people. If I learned ONE thing over the past couple of years is that snap judgements are usually always WRONG. I’ve made them and I know girls have made them about me. I think 2 or people here immediately assumed that I’m miserable and am addicted to porn Hahahaha.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:45 AM
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I mean maybe. I’ll try that eventually. I find dinner dates boring and so do a lot of girls Hahahah
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:37 AM
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A lot are from online. A lot are from me talking to girls when I’m out and about (gym/running/grocery store/on the way back from work) or af bars. I don’t like to attach the “quality” of the girls to where I meet them because it’s honestly a completely mixed bag. I live in an expensive city so most are doing cool stuff. I don’t make it a big deal that I want something serious. On the date they ask (typically) and I tell. Some choose to sleep with me after the date and some don’t. As far as what …
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:33 AM
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Lol well I’m definetly not going to date for a while so that’s going to happen anyway. Although I DONT want a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. Although I agree with most of the things your saying I want to push back a little on the “wait for the one” comment. I’m a guy, if i don’t “make something happen” sexually/romantically nothing happens. It’s just how it is on our end. Nothing “arises naturally,” when we wait. I’ve even come to the conclusion that their attraction to you isn’…
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:20 AM
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I want to push back on that a little. I don’t think the women were “low quality.” You can’t make an assumption about someone based on ONE thing. Accepting a drink date with me is more of a reflection of where they were in their lives. A lot of the women I dates were high quality people I really wanted to see again.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:06 AM
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Thanks. Thats the solution I drew as well. No drink dates and I should be a bit more selective on who I end up dating in the first place. Over the last year especially, I played the numbers game really hard. I’m talking like hit on 5-10 girls a day, online dating, and going to bars on the weekends (only to talk to girls). I’d end up sleeping with like 1-2 girls a week at the height of it all. The experience was extremely extremely valuable and I would not take it back. However, towards the end i…
/r/askFDS21/03/20 02:02 AM
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Yeah of course. That’s the case for most. If your going home with a guy you met that day that’s what your looking for. I wouldn’t mind seeing them again though! 😀
/r/askFDS20/03/20 09:04 PM
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Yeah I have several hobbies. I’ve noticed several comments assume that I’m miserable! This wasn’t meant to be a “help me I’m a miserable single guy” post lol. My bad if it came off that way.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 08:51 PM
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Gracias. This is a lot so I’ll respond to each point as best as I can. I don’t watch porn. Haven’t in years. I’m not lonely. I don’t see a lack of one women in life as a “void” that needs to be filled. I’m also generally happy. Happier than most people I think. It feels like most people are pretty miserable. Appreciate the actual relationship advice. I’ll use that for later. I haven’t been in a monogamous relationship in several years, which is a good thing. I’ve been pretty happy and working on…
/r/askFDS20/03/20 08:48 PM
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Yeah of course.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 05:35 PM
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I see where you are coming from. In the beginning, I really did try to get laid as much as possible. I think thats an important thing to "get out of your system" and eventually move on from. Unfortunately, the only way to move on from it is to go through it though. At least thats what i've seen and experienced. I can see why you got the vibe that I am "treating them like experiments." I think a lot of that has to do with summarizing two years worth of experience over a few paragraphs of text. It…
/r/askFDS20/03/20 04:48 PM
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I agree. It definitely is hard entering the dating realm as a "whole person." That is a huge huge challenge. I think most people who have any long term "dating experience" develop scars over time. I defiently have and most of the women i've dated have as well. That something I have been working on and will continue to work on. This down time is a perfect opportunity for that.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 04:20 PM
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The "boring in sex" was my obvious first conclusion. I worked on this too.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 04:09 PM
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I have cared and liked some more than others. The women I was seeing for 3 months I really really liked. ​ Also, I don't really think its possible to "get" someone so soon. Thats something that takes years.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 03:51 PM
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I don't watch porn. Whether or not im a good sex partner was a conclusion I came 2 as well. I tried improving there too. I honestly don't think thats it.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 03:46 PM
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Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 03:41 PM
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I completely agree they really can feel whether or not you REALLY like them. I really liked some of the more than others of course. I also cant "get" you without getting to know you. That takes time.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 03:38 PM
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Thats what I initially thought. However, I tried taking things slower and it really does not make much of a difference. The only conceivable difference i've experienced is that girls who I sleep with will text me they aren't interested where as girls I don't sleep with will generally ghost me. It does not really matter either way though.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:34 AM
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I should have elaborated better in my original post. I am not trying to "rush" anything that I am doing. A typical first date would go something like this. I take a girl out for drinks or Ice Cream. We talk about whatever. I usually get asked whatever it is I am looking for. I tell them. Eventually I invite them over for another drink. Some are down some aren't. ​ Some of the girls that initially aren't will see me again and some wont. The ones that do will likely sleep with me the 2nd date. If …
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:20 AM
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No one is on Tinder where I live. Everyone is on Hinge.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:13 AM
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Also, the whole "work on yourself" thing, is usually just a convenient excuse to procrastinate, at least when it comes to getting better with women. You get better with women by talking to women. Not by taking up interesting hobbies or working on your career.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:12 AM
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lol I see where your coming from. However, I only got "good" at this when I started being my "authentic self." Another way of putting it is when I started "doing what I wanted" I started getting results. However, thats a longer philosophical discussion for another time. The issue is not whether or not the girls are meeting are attracted to me. At least SOME of them are, because they decide to sleep with me typically a day or two after meeting me. The problem I am having now is being taken seriou…
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:08 AM
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Combination of online dating, bars, and when im out and about. (Grocery store, gym, and when im out running).
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:02 AM
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I understand why you think what Im saying sounds "rushed." However, the "what are you looking for" talk comes up naturally.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:02 AM
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I don't "ask for exclusivity" after one date hahha. I make it known that exclusivity is my intention. Most of the time, I am asked what I am looking for. I will usually just say I would like a monogamous relationship.
/r/askFDS20/03/20 07:01 AM
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