GlowinUp8 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Need help figuring out what I did wrong in this chat	Conversation	GlowinUp8	/r/seduction	03/09/21 09:15 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How bad are making "cringe" jokes for fun? If it’s your personality go ahead and do it. But it will be obvious if you’re forcing it.D	/r/seduction	22/09/22 05:51 AM
3	Girl I like in my college class Never slide dms especially when she knows you could just walk up to her and say something.	/r/seduction	22/09/22 05:46 AM
2	Are some people missing a gene for this? Exactly that my friend. Your humor is fine, you’ll just learn who, when and how to use it to avoid a repeat of that situation. Btw she was probably just insecure about that but maybe next time you’ll be slower to pull that joke out. Your personality is fine btw, good luck!	/r/seduction	10/09/22 08:03 AM
3	Me: "Can I see you again?" Her: "You can come to my volleyball game" I swear 99% of this sub is pure bullshit can’t lie. Her setting a good time to see each other again literally CAN’T be a bad thing. But here comes the 6hr a day, Reddit user “alphas” talking about “wasting time”. You would think all these guys do all day is have sex. I’m glad to see someone with common sense.	/r/seduction	10/09/22 07:54 AM
2	Are some people missing a gene for this? You refusing to be vulnerable is your issue. Fail, look stupid and learn when and how to flirt. Like anything else, it’s basics. ALL PUAS are scammers, they give you a system that makes you feel equipped when nothing actually changed. Be vulnerable and succeed.	/r/seduction	10/09/22 07:46 AM
12	How the hell do people do this The part you’re missing is that it’s all an assumption. They are literally just another person. Ask someone out, it’s just a date not sex or marriage. Take dating off it’s high horse, it’s just two people exploring what could be. If you don’t feel confident go do self improvement and fix that. No girl or relationship will fix that. If you think women don’t pay attention to you, make them, make an effort to talk to them and be in circles and places with them. I learned that NOTHING will change if…	/r/seduction	04/09/22 07:30 AM
1	Random Too much effort is pretty reliable. If he’s always texting you and always trying to hang out with you to the point that you notice he’s talking to you too much, he probably likes you.	/r/seduction	10/08/22 07:32 AM
1	Family obligations causing me to feel trapped and hopeless I do not mean to sound rude in any effect but there is no secret to it. If you refuse to go anywhere where other people are, it’s impossible to make friends. Download Snapchat and use the snap map feature and click on the green/yellow/red spots on map. It will show where people are posting to their story and will also show you where people are or maybe promotion for events/kickbacks/parties happening in your town. Here is a sure fire way to find where or what people are up to. It might not be su…	/r/seduction	08/08/22 07:25 PM
1	Family obligations causing me to feel trapped and hopeless Under 50k isn’t super small. Take the opportunities you can. There are always festivals in town or things that these other people go to. No chance they just sit inside the house with their friends all day. Just follow their lead and blend in slowly.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 05:56 PM
1	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero Here’s my advice. First learn to love yourself. To me that means hygiene, grooming (haircut) and mental health. The first two a pretty self explanatory and I self reflect for the last one. Then go out and treat people like you do yourself. See someone with an outfit you like, tell them it’s a nice outfit. Go out to places you wouldn’t maybe for you like a bar or a coffee shop. Be yourself even if people call you weird. The only way you attract friends is with personality and you have to show it.…	/r/seduction	08/08/22 05:50 PM
6	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero First, most likely OP as man does not have to worry about being physically forced to do anything by a woman. You speak as if you haven’t talked to any woman in your life in a while. Secondly, that younger women are more desirable because of their youth, is telling me a lot. Nobody cares about your type but if “youth” is your first category (your order not mine) for desirability, you are probably are a creep. Your dating life isn’t dependent on getting the women another man is attracted to first …	/r/seduction	08/08/22 07:14 AM
4	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero There’s nothing wrong with that happening organically. There’s a problem with targeting partners with no experience. You are telling him to target younger women for that sole reason, which is weird asf if you cannot tell. He should go and find women who are attracted to him and he is attracted to, forget about experience as long as they are legal. And there’s a damn good reason why a 27 year old targeting 18-22 year old women is weird. I’m not trying to be rude or anything it’s just weird advice…	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:56 AM
9	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero As if women having experience is a bad thing? You sound like a predator right now.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:46 AM
3	Family obligations causing me to feel trapped and hopeless Then approach or put yourself in rooms where these people you can relate with are. The truth is nothing will change from understanding your situation, you gotta get out there and do something. Even if that’s playing golf at a country club or reading in a coffee shop. Get outside so you have a chance to leave an impression on someone. I do understand the pain of not having a lot of close friends or any especially when younger. But you can’t let that be the theme of your life for the rest of your …	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:44 AM
12	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero Nah that’s just your voice in your head telling yourself that you can’t do it. There is many men living happy dating lives who started late. The worse thing you can do to yourself is deny what you want based on someone else’s opinion. Go do it fuck what he says. Your 27 not 72 calm down. Go out and make friends and go date. Your ONLY 27, your not an old man. If you don’t like the way you look work on that. Take care of yourself, and do what YOU want.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:38 AM
17	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero Don’t be a dickhead. Do you get off on making other people feel worse? Anyways yes make friends, girls have to see that you are a safe person to be around. Having friends means you are at least somehow sociable and filters out a lot of weirdos. You do not want to put in that pile, there is literally no way out of that. Good luck!	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:28 AM
1	Family obligations causing me to feel trapped and hopeless Learn your environment and how other guys in the area are finding what they want. I don’t have much else other than that.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:25 AM
1	is the dating world superficial or accepting? No such thing as a “nice guy”. All that means is that you want a reward for being a decent human being, that’s the standard not the exception. All a “nice guy” is, is someone who refuses to see their own flaws and instead refers back to basic decency as their main case to get a date. I was there once eventually you realize that it’s pathetic and it’s really a lie you tell yourself to feel okay being complacent. You have to offer more than being a decent human as a man, it’s 2022 not 1922.	/r/seduction	03/08/22 07:32 AM
3	How do i get a girlfriend? I feel like I’m commenting on myself a couple of months ago. If I were you I would stop worrying about everything and just love yourself first. Look inside and at yourself and see what you want to improve. Doesn’t mean you’ll be the perfect person once you do that but you will have the confidence to say my personality is worth interacting with. I used to bash myself constantly because I didn’t think I was as good as others while really it was me thinking that way that pushed me into loneliness. …	/r/seduction	02/08/22 07:45 AM
2	Is picking up girls at the beach possible? One thing I will say stop with that “vibe” shit. Truth is you don’t know her at all and it comes off stupid as hell imo. Only works if she finds your attractive already.	/r/seduction	01/08/22 07:14 AM
2	Friendship to FWB? Is it possible? FWB isn’t a defined state. It just happens don’t look for it. Act on your feelings and go along with what happens.	/r/seduction	31/07/22 08:20 AM
2	I feel like I lost my value as a man Work on yourself, the first problem here is how much you don’t love yourself. You shouldn’t need a woman to tell you are good looking to feel good looking. Trust me your aren’t the only man who has felt invisible to the other sex. The truth is that you made yourself that way. Confidence without works is dead. Yeah confidence is worth nothing if you never use it to talk to people. Confidence is worthless if you don’t work on yourself. Personality isn’t determined by the languages you speak or wha…	/r/seduction	31/07/22 08:09 AM
2	A guide on how to (and how not to) use humour Ngl I have nothing to say other than that North Africa joke caught me tf off guard lmao	/r/seduction	20/07/22 07:25 AM
1	Hot and Cold: What does she really want? Why don’t you just use your words. She’s not being direct so you be direct. Whatever happens happens, you are both wasting each other’s time right now. Just be real.	/r/seduction	20/07/22 07:17 AM
5	Should I just focus on improving or still cold approach? I get that, if you’re not confident then nothing with work tbh. If you feel like working on yourself is the best thing to do right now do that but please don’t make the mistake of thinking the confidence will come once you get ripped or something. Confidence is mental thing, always work on that. Bless bro.	/r/seduction	19/07/22 06:44 AM
15	Should I just focus on improving or still cold approach? You can do both at the same time. Improvement also means doing the things you want to do so go ahead and talk to girls. It can be part of your improvement as well.	/r/seduction	19/07/22 06:36 AM
3	My current perspective Well imo stop focusing on being love-able and start focusing on loving. You’ll find that more enjoyable right now.	/r/seduction	17/07/22 07:04 AM
1	Is Android a turn off? An iPhone is the cheapest “sign of wealth” at least in the US. It’s dumb if I’m going to be honest but I think you should be fine. And the most messed up part about it is that having an iPhone doesn’t mean you have money for most people it just means you have a phone bill. If you have a galaxy fold you should be good though, every girl I’ve ever seen see one of those is impressed lol. People are annoying, sorry bro.	/r/seduction	17/07/22 07:01 AM
1	Is it important for you to look for signs that she likes you before making a move? Trust me just keep looking back and you will find that some are looking straight at you.	/r/seduction	15/07/22 04:35 AM
2	How to know if you’re good looking enough Take care of yourself and the people that would find you attractive will. The easiest way to not be attractive is to not take care of yourself.	/r/seduction	14/07/22 05:23 AM
5	Is it important for you to look for signs that she likes you before making a move? Eye contact is all for me. Eye contact is the visual sign for active listening. If she gives you her eyes she has given you the chance to get her direct attention. Just notice when girls look at you in your peripheral, they are looking for you to look back. I trust it so much because it takes intent to look into someone’s eyes it isn’t random, especially when that person isn’t looking at you at the time.	/r/seduction	14/07/22 05:19 AM
2	I often go through this moment where I get to have a good eye contact with a woman out there and don't know what to do next and how to escalate it to be honest. Same here. I’ve learned the best thing is to do something tho. I won’t be the most helpful but basically think of it from her perspective. From her perspective she gave you a sign. All she wants is for you so do anything back to show that interest back. I don’t have anything more than that sorry lol.	/r/seduction	14/07/22 05:13 AM
1	My biggest fantasy Stop watching porn… you literally just described sexual harassment.	/r/seduction	14/07/22 05:10 AM
28	Sedditors from nine years ago or successful sedditors disappear after a few years? Why is this? Because anyone who can actually live the life they want to live, does exactly that. Most people who a rich don’t spend everyday trying to teach others how to be rich, they just live a rich lifestyle. Same with sedditors, they deserve to live the life they earned. Anyone who swears they do all the stuff people dreams of and finds the time to post on Reddit every day is just plain out lying.	/r/seduction	11/07/22 07:30 AM
1	Good night, but last woman was terrible Yup, I usually say fair enough so I don’t have to get into pointless arguments lol. Women like guys with friends, that’s it. You’ll be hard pressed to find a guy in your town or school that gets a lot of attention from women and has no friends. Women have higher requirements to safety than me simply because they often cannot defend themselves. Getting approached by some single guy who is with nobody in a party with 50 people is odd af for anyone. It just helps, either you get friends or at least…	/r/seduction	11/07/22 06:25 AM
1	Improvement I know a lot of people on here will say just go approach anyways but I wouldn’t. Not having friends present makes you fit some of the worse stereotypes woman have for men. Imo I would use the areas you would plan to approach as a way to make friends then go back the plan A. It’s much easier to approach not as a loner especially in places like parties, festivals, fairs. It is okay to go it alone but if you think it’s holding you back then go out and make friends first.	/r/seduction	11/07/22 06:20 AM
1	How can I make girl do the first move? Yup it’s a biological thing, women have the advantage that way but women who find themselves out of current beauty standards struggle as well.	/r/seduction	11/07/22 06:18 AM
1	Improvement Of course it is. And it is scary for everyone it’s just that some people are able to shake that feeling off with confidence better than others. Remember you can’t really reach the life you want without that risk but jumping out there is what makes it worth it.	/r/seduction	10/07/22 07:36 AM
1	Good night, but last woman was terrible Fair enough	/r/seduction	10/07/22 07:34 AM
1	How to slide into the DM's/spit game effectively? Best Player Way Because there’s experience. From experience you gain knowledge on what works for you and with who. The idea that attraction is a playbook with clear rules was made by PUAs who prey on unconfident men. Nobody and I mean nobody can attract the women for you and if you are on here to find a silver bullet, sorry there isn’t one. All of us are different and that’s no different when it comes to attraction. Being yourself and authentic is the most attractive thing you can do. Not to mention that I told…	/r/seduction	09/07/22 08:34 PM
1	Improvement That’s fine, just keep interest at the fore front. If she’s interested and you’re interested keep going, they don’t care if you even have a huge speech impediment. Interest is what your after, go for it!	/r/seduction	09/07/22 07:16 AM
1	How do I make my intentions clearer FWB from what I’ve seen is really just “mutual masturbation” and don’t search for it you won’t find it. For most girls it’s either be exclusive or you have to find a rotation of hook ups. Realistically, go and date the girl, you might actually like her. If you’re stuck on being single then that’s what you have to deal with. FWB is a stage not a defined relationship. What you want is a fuck buddy and good look finding that and even if you do, be ready a hell of a toxic time either way. You’ve enj…	/r/seduction	09/07/22 07:14 AM
3	Question with the girl I like, Yeah, beware on this sub there is a lot do PUAs and users that prey on the lack of confidence of people here. Not to mention the crazy amount of projection people do here. Stay safe!	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:58 AM
1	How can I make girl do the first move? The burden for initiative is on the man in all situations. Texting, date, club, bus or any place it wouldn’t matter. Women (like everyone) have a checklist before being open romantically available to a man. Safety - Women due to the threat of sexual and domestic violence will NOT be romantically available to any man they do not feel safe around. Even women that are mislead by trauma will still choose men that make them feel safe and sadly that can be someone who resembles their trauma, also know…	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:57 AM
1	Question with the girl I like, When in doubt just ask what she’s thinking. If it goes the right way great, if not you have another female friend which goes a long way with women.	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:41 AM
1	New workplace advice. You’re doing to much and they’ll be able to tell. Be yourself. Why act like something you’re not just for a smile from someone in the morning? Don’t force dystopia on yourself.	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:39 AM
2	How to slide into the DM's/spit game effectively? Best Player Way I don’t know much about exactly how to attract a woman but I do know planning is the wrong thing to do. Like the other guy said, spamming YY isn’t going to magically create attract, women are simple just like men but they aren’t stupid. There is a big difference between a man who is interested in them and a man who is fishing the sea. Planning like this will have you waiting for the magic hour, even if you’re not in a club. Not to mention word spreads, you will soon be the guy which every girl i…	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:38 AM
3	Good night, but last woman was terrible Maybe get friends or simply befriend the other women in the bar before going all out. You should be proud of your confidence but women (really everybody) has to feel safe to consider you as an option even as a friend. Women will be more reluctant to see you as a regular guy and not a creep if you have no friends even if you came solo. Try finding a group in the bar joining them or just hang out with one person in the bar then go to try to approach. Right now she doesn’t feel safe because the men…	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:26 AM
2	How do I move forward in this situation? Just keep her as a friend it’s obvious that there is nothing there romantically. Another friend doesn’t hurt, right?	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:22 AM
9	Question with the girl I like, Not to mention women (or anyone tbh) will not be open if they do not feel safe, gotta make sure she feels safe.	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:20 AM
8	Question with the girl I like, It might not be a totally bad thing. You just have to proceed carefully she might be scared of you being more forward. Just talk to her, that’s always appreciated by women imo.	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:19 AM
2	Ask her out over DM? Just go for it. Meeting in a group again doesn’t help you build a connection with her if anything it shifts the angle from date to friend. Women are open to being friends or cool around men who have asked them out. Not to mention showing that you’re open to it even if you get rejected could lead to her playing wingman for one of her friends for you. Confidence is always appreciated imo.	/r/seduction	09/07/22 06:17 AM
3	Where can I meet girls with the “girl next door” vibe? You first stop watching porn, then you realize everyone lives next to someone somehow lmao	/r/seduction	08/07/22 04:44 AM
1	I went from being unemployed and broke to getting a job offer for $60k+. I'm 25 and live with my parents. Now what do I do? Do what you can then. Not really much else for you to do. Try and do what you can, take it as a challenge. Idk jack shit tho so take this comment with a mountain of salt.	/r/seduction	16/09/21 05:39 AM
1	For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you? That’s a whole different convo tho, the point is the best thing you can do when talking to woman in the moment is be yourself. You aren’t gonna become the best version of yourself between the two seconds when you approach a woman. Have confidence in yourself knowing that you are becoming a better person every day. If you change yourself to “increase” your chances, chances are you are lowering them, because anyone not just women can sense it.	/r/seduction	04/09/21 07:36 PM
5	For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you? All facts	/r/seduction	04/09/21 03:21 PM
64	For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you? That advice is so misunderstood. It’s more about being confident than impressing someone with yourself. Confidence is arguably the best thing you could have, the more shots you take the better and more confident you are in the shots you take the more impressive you will be. Also don’t change yourself to be a “bad boy” or someone else, that definitely means you don’t have confidence in who you are or your actual personality.	/r/seduction	04/09/21 02:48 PM
2	Need help figuring out what I did wrong in this chat Yeah Ik that’s what I drew it out to be, not personal just the convo turned out to be a dud. Wanted make sure I wasn’t being delusional tho lol	/r/seduction	03/09/21 11:03 PM
2	Need help figuring out what I did wrong in this chat I asked her how her day was going, then she said sorry cause she asked how I was doing and I told her I might have rona which is true and I thought I might bring at least one question which I could then turn away from the boring topic of rona. Then pretty much I asked her about school , got a one word response, then asked if she had plans before school started, boring reply. I’m pretty much carrying the convo so it gets boring cause she doesn’t add anything to it. So I ask her if she works, hopi…	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:07 PM
1	Mixed signal coming from a girl. She probably doesn’t wanna leave you on read. So instead she waiting until one of those times when she isn’t busy. Don’t sweat it, she already told you she is busy a lot. It would be ruder from her perspective to open it and leave you on read while she tries to figure it out. Be excited tho, the nerves mean something!	/r/seduction	03/09/21 07:10 AM
2	Rejecting yourself will lead to rejection from women Be honest with yourself, the life you have now isn’t one you want to have for the rest of your life. Get up in the morning and find goals of what you are gonna do for that day. Take everything day by day. Find time to self reflect and try to learn from your past. Ignore blaming people in those past situations, remember you can only control your actions. So ask yourself what you could have done better, what was holding you back, etc. Good luck! Take things day by day forget about the next 10 year…	/r/seduction	01/09/21 07:00 PM
1	Rejecting yourself will lead to rejection from women Don’t give up then, do just that develop yourself. Don’t worry about the girls just become the person you want to be, the person you would want those girls to date. Find 3 positive things that are important to you and invest your time into that. You will likely run into relationships and girls on the way. If you have the funds find a therapist, if not just do self reflection and make goals for yourself that are immediately possible such as get a haircut you have never had, workout 3 days a week …	/r/seduction	01/09/21 06:56 PM
1	pulling girls at school If you sit next to a girl, just talk to her. Easiest way to find a partner while in high school is getting into or an in into their friend group. As much we like to say women are complicated, they usually show their intentions we just don’t read them. Also remove the intention of getting them into sheets. Girls at our age are kids just as we are. There are some who are into casual sex but most aren’t and you should expect that, we ARE STILL kids. Build a connection with them, and don’t be scared…	/r/seduction	01/09/21 06:44 PM