GoAheadHateMe Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Anybody else try to protect their ex-wife’s reputation by not telling your side of the story? I feel like I can’t just throw her under the bus. There’s a song like this called “grew apart”. Give it a listen. Might be cathartic. Was for me and was a good reminder you don’t have to bring other people down just to do it. There’s no obligation. Additionally keeping the peace in general when there is a child involved should be an important consideration.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/24 01:09 PM
23	A heads up to you older fellas wanting to dip your toes in the online dating pool 100% this is some incel red pill garbage.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/07/24 05:56 AM
3	Texas Divorce Texas doesn’t do spousal support very easily. Almost zero chance under ten years. She will try to get it via child support though.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/24 07:10 PM
15	A random surprise this morning. It means she went to Easter service.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/24 12:02 AM
3	What are they thinking? Advice - you nailed it. Consider your costs for keeping this going (financial and mental and time) vs long term agreement costs. $300/mo for 15 years is $54k. And you probably won’t get that to zero. Is it wise to settle for more than you think is actually fair to end it? Absolutely yes. What my lawyer told me: your ideal offer is her worst day in court. Her ideal offer is your worst day in court. And neither of you want to actually go to and pay for court. Negotiate. Give some. Get some. Move o…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/24 02:29 AM
5	Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day? What void. It’s better on the side where you’re not unhappy or with someone pretending to be happy.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/24 05:27 AM
1	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. Assumptions maybe. But not entirely true. I’m handling mine right now. It’s not perfect. We both have lawyers. Either way I think the point I’m trying to make is his original assertion of this is just how it is period, is not true and should not be imagined as the default state. If you want you can escalate anything and make it worse. You can also de-escalate and make it better. I told another friend recently who said they feel like they just have to eat shit sometimes to get through it all. I s…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 04:47 AM
2	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. Legit. The states aren’t and I don’t mean to say they are. Just step back. Be aware. And adjust as needed. My therapist taught me to HALT. Think I’m the moment am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired? These can affect your mood and get you off kilter. Identify, adjust, improve. I love that this dude came back and said you’re right I’m angry. Venting is healthy and normal. But it’s unfair and unhealthy to try to convince the entire world (especially when there’s ample “yes men”) that everyone is bad…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 04:43 AM
2	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. I like the addendum. Absolutely be smart. Protect yourself. But if you have a child you will want there to be a more positive than negative relationship if for no other reason than your child’s mental wellbeing. Be a good person. Be reasonable. Be firm. But most of all be that good person. Your kid will be better because of it.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 04:39 AM
6	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. It’s okay dude. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel all the feelings. I’m on my second divorce. And if there’s anything I’ve learned, keeping emotions in check is critical. That doesn’t mean not feeling them. Just feeling them in the best ways possible. Therapy has helped me. And talking with a close friend or two. Some that let me rant when I need and support me throughout.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 02:51 AM
3	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. “Eventually you’ll move past your state of denial” Clearly you recognize the next stage is anger. Which is where you are. Peace will come my friend. Acceptance happens. Just not always as fast as we want.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 02:28 AM
-4	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. Dude. Emotions are high. I get it. But this only perpetuates that every divorce has to be this ugly thing. Despite your situation there are many that end up with two adults who realized they are not great romantic partners, acting fair, and living wonderful lives from there on. Without harboring hideous and hurtful things. I’ll counter your post with the fact that it CAN be a good thing. And it CAN be a non-ugly non-evil situation. But those aren’t talked about as much. And they don’t get as man…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 02:22 AM
-7	She's not stupid. She's not powerless. She's evil. Sure. Paint every person with a broad brush. That’s TOTALLY accurate.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 02:11 AM
3	Anyone have a marriage fail due to wife being in a cult? My friend you absolutely proved my point. I’m a “lefty”. Because of a rainbow. You follow “independent” news. “I do my own research”. You are in a cult.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/24 08:45 PM
3	Anyone have a marriage fail due to wife being in a cult? Yikes. Yall are both off your rockers it sounds. Though we are only hearing one side of it all yours is still far from roses. But it sounds like both are gullible enough to believe and parrot what your respective (and opposing) news venues tell you rather than EITHER thinking for themselves. Pretty sad honestly.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/24 01:40 PM
4	Anyone have a marriage fail due to wife being in a cult? What “democrat lies about trump” was she repeating? This sounds like less than half the story.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 09:10 PM
2	ALIMONY does anyone know the answers??? Reports no income. But does she contribute to a bank account? Joint or self? That could be in your favor.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/24 03:27 AM
4	ALIMONY does anyone know the answers??? Which is it. You just said she will break a nail and work is a four letter word then you say she brought in $106k.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/24 11:38 PM
6	ALIMONY does anyone know the answers??? Answers like these mean you’ll get nothing valuable here. Step away from the attitude for half a second and present facts.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/24 11:36 PM
1	Divorce Songs List Recommendations Moving on - blue October	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/24 11:42 PM
1	Five love languages Yikes man. Grab some therapy. It makes BOTH conscious wants and likes known. You do you. But with that attitude it’s gonna be a rough ride.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/24 10:49 PM
0	Five love languages A lot of hate for these but it’s a good way to understand what the other likes to give and receive. It can make you aware that getting her flowers is a waste of your time vs just picking up around the house or telling her she looks amazing. Similarly it can help her know what’s important to you and how much. It’s not just taking the tests. It’s about using the info and results. Anyone that says it’s a scam or bs or for women only or whatever is absolutely showing they don’t understand its purpos…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/24 01:18 AM
6	STBXW drinks and drives Child endangerment is taken most seriously by just about all PD.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/24 01:13 AM
3	Wife trying to come back after leaving me for affair partner I haven’t forgiven for much less.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/12/23 11:32 PM
1	Point of no return I want to hear about these amazing rare feet. (In case you couldn’t see the sarcasm, your exaggeration on your shoes leads me to believe total story exaggeration)	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/23 12:07 AM