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Yeah, like a conversation by me on the second date of "fuck you pay me" Imagine being this much of an asshole to someone you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:15 PM
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Fairly sure the restaurant will not want you back there as a liability with the hot industrial dishwasher machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:12 PM
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There's also a specifically male form of intellectual curiosity that seeks understanding of systems and theories, leading to math, science, philosophy, technological innovation, etc. And female brains don't do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:26 AM
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How would I know? In real life there are so many mixed race couples, I see them everywhere here in California. Maybe you live in a solid white area, I don't know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:40 PM
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I grew up when Michael J Fox and Prince and Tom Cruise were the sex symbols. Height is a non issue. No special snowflake, a lot of women lusted after Prince. Not everyone is racist. Asians are not inherently anything, they are all different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:32 PM
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I am with an Asian man who is 5'6" and he is the love of my life. I don't care what other people think, I fell for this guy HARD and all the weird height fetishism makes no difference to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:28 PM
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But the females have sex with just about every chimp in the troop. Sneak off and do it behind the alphas back. You do know people have researched this already.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:30 AM
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That would literally change the whole world, because it would by default mean that most relationships are loveless No, it doesn't. Women are not all attracted to the same men, despite TRP saying the word Chad. We have different types, thus women are going for different (perhaps overlapping perhaps not) groups of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 03:20 PM
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One day, you wake up at 35, 5 bad relationships, numerous hookups, and hopefully no kids if you're lucky. This does not reflect my experience, or many of the other women here. But what if it did? Should she fake attraction and take on a boyfriend she sees as a buddy? Should she marry for money? What? It's not social media or cultural trends that determine which people you find hot, it's genetics and early childhood molding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 03:18 PM
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They often try and tear down your self esteem to "knock you off your pedestal" Ie they try and drag you down to their level vs being good enough to be at your level Yup, I had a guy pull this one on me. Because I gave him a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:34 AM
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The conclusions drawn by evolutionary psychologists remain pretty speculative as our knowledge of the mating psychology of our ancestor remain pretty limited. Exactly, everyone is just guessing. Maybe early humans were like chimps who just mate with anyone and everyone around them, excluding mother-son. Or maybe marriages were arranged by parents who don't give a shit about looks. Maybe women had no choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:01 AM
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How old are you? Why are you getting so emotional over a debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:44 AM
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Also makes it easier to abuse the weaker partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:00 PM
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Completely arbitrary, remember?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:01 PM
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"What is considered a “clean” home is completely arbitrary." Is it? Would you stay in a hotel room or an AirBnB the looked like a filthy bachelor pad? Sit on a piss-splattered toilet? Bathe is a scummy bathtub? Eat off crusty kitchenware?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:53 PM
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They will respond with "status" or "beta bucks" or something else that makes no sense. Imagine being with a man you don't like, his tongue in your mouth and his hands on your ass every day. Gimme a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:28 PM
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Are we lying about our lived experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:24 AM
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None of that sounds familiar. When people bully and use verbal abuse, that's not a test. I know that manipulation occurs in some people's relationships but I refuse that. All of this is toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:24 AM
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most violence women face from men is a choice as well since they choose their DV partners Dude, just stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:59 PM
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What happens if a girl asks guys out? They take advantage of her "desperation" and then brag to their buddies later about how easy she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:32 PM
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I have asked this too and it's always vague answers that explain nothing, so Shit Tests are like Shroedinger's cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:50 PM
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Nope, that's just not part of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:49 PM
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Very well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:40 AM
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Lone cowboy is a hero. Lone woman is a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:10 PM
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Why do u need the approval of government to tie your lives together tho, you can just do it without any formal documents. Before gay marriage was legal, gay partners sometimes would adopt the younger man, in order to be legally bound and guarantee next of kin. They thought it was pretty important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:35 PM
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Some of us are religious and view marriage differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:33 PM
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I get accused of being with Chad, and also settling for a Beta, depending which angry poster wants to insult me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:34 AM
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He, like my ex, felt that he had to pull her off her pedestal and yank her down to his level versus being good enough to her to be able to be on her level Its this "I feel like she is too good for me, so I have to make her feel like sitting ol' me is all she deserves" So, they try to wear down your confidence so you don't feel like you can do better than him. Which is exactly what ends up turning you off from them Yup, been there. Dumped them both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:05 PM
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Lonely men also self-sabotage when they do get into relationships. I was interested in quite a few in my younger dating years, and their loneliness was so severe that they either 1) Could not believe that I actually liked them, and would constantly want me to prove it, or 2) Would play push-pull games because they thought they were inherently not good enough to be in a relationship, but also still wanted me to stick around. I have seen this both happen. Guy I liked played mind games on me until …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:03 PM
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Correlation not causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:43 PM
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Dude. What accountability? She had a boyfriend before you and must apologize for it? Is she a bad person for being unlucky in love, just like you? Aren't you divorced or something? What credibility do you mean, is she presumed a liar? And I get that for men like you she needs to be fertile so you can have kids, but not everyone wants MORE kids. Older people fall in love all the time, why deny yourself something wonderful?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:24 AM
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TikTok Trends aside, you do realize how this paranoid way of thinking will only hurt you? Meet a sweet girl who likes you and offers all the things you want in a LTR, but you dismiss her out of hand because she is over 30 and therefore must be a whore. You end up alone, she moves on to someone who isn't nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:03 AM
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It's easier for women to catch STIs due to anatomy. They could also be monogamous wives who are infected by cheating husbands. STI rates also occur in children, do you want to hear more about this? I hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:55 PM
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Why make up a worst case scenario to quiver in fear? Just live life and find someone to love. If she is not into you, dump her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:20 PM
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What lies?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:49 PM
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uh...what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:02 PM
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Do you like salespeople hassling you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:58 PM
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Or....most women are not promiscuous and don't want to take off their clothes in front of a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:58 PM
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Correct. People are messes, no one needs an evil motive to fail at something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:55 PM
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I wonder how many of these guys realize that they are making their own lives worse with these kooky beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:46 PM
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We can never win. Either we're sluts who put out, or it's AFBB if we wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:45 PM
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How do you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:44 PM
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I am still boggled that men on reddit hate travel and think it's dumb. Like...most of human history was traveling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:28 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:51 PM
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I got my Asian Chad!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:53 AM
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Do you have any proof of any of the things you just typed?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:50 AM
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I am genuinely cracking up at "boots and beer"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:46 AM
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Roving rich chads with boats makes a lot more sense in that context. No it does not. I live near OP and it's mostly Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:37 AM
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Too late, fell in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:23 AM
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When I dated, I was looking to fall in love. Most men are slobs, I would not interview him on his cooking or cleaning skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:05 PM
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OK that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:51 AM
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if a decision is an objectively poor one she only has two choices; accept my rationale, or end the relationship. Could you give an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:13 AM
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No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:12 AM
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because you not sexually attracted to hardly anyone and that problem Do you want women to be as unpicky as men? So when you are married, your wife just drools and pants after random strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:07 AM
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like you cant find any random guy sexy and tell him that How do you picture this playing out?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:04 AM
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You could gender flip this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:09 PM
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I agree, women should not have to settle for anyone they do not find attractive either. Let someone call you shallow, and shrug.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:03 PM
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or wait for feisty 3rd world migrant men That's what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:34 PM
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Rome collapsed because of hypergamy??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:33 PM
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He wants parents to teach their kids to pick Billy Beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:23 PM
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Oh I made plenty of choices my parents did not like, and in retrospect some were for good reasons. But you have to live as an adult with agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:20 PM
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My mom would have me marry a Bible scholar from a conservative church. what she would have liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:18 PM
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In western countries, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:58 PM
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I mean, definitely more explicit teacher training for elementary school teachers on how not to be biased, even subconsciously, in their perception of naughty behavior. Have you ever taught elementary school?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:45 PM
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Oh thank God.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:35 AM
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The record producers decide what sells, not the singer. Marketing department and other people in charge sell you a product that is Katy Perry or or Sabrina Carpenter. Ask them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:23 PM
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They see anger as justified and therefore rational. Some driver cuts you off on the freeway, you cannot let them get away with it- time for road rage. See? It's suddenly logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 07:03 PM
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Rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:50 PM
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It's simple- women have types. Like my best friends have husbands they adore, but I find unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:05 PM
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They say it here all the time that they're perfectly satisfied with this arrangement. Maybe it's just a sampling error, Reddit being introverts. Also we gals were told for years that being alone was our punishment for not choosing ugly men, so we now get to argue against that with happy content lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:04 PM
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a man with a divorced family who lost half his premarital wealth why would he lose premarital assets?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:59 PM
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Why would she do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:32 AM
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Women shit test when they feel attraction or when they feel horny. So during ovulation, the bitchiness increases. Only in red pill do people believe this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:41 AM
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It's not just you. We are all tired of hearing about shit tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:07 AM
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I'm 54 and in a 10 year relationship. OP is bonkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:29 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:02 AM
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If you're going to marry someone and vow to be with them till death, you should be their top choice, not their backup option that's good enough. On this we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:57 PM
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Like seriously there was a question for women on here not long ago essentially asking why women can’t just fuck “inexperienced” men to “help” them. LOL I remember this!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:52 PM
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Interesting how they tell on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:51 PM
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But the flip side is, as men age they lose testosterone and become cold all the time. Like my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:38 PM
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Op did not mention any of these issues which also are present in Afghanistan.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:37 PM
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So should black men be thanking white men for giving them rights after the Civil War?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:36 PM
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Oh for the happy days of yore! Those pesky women and their rights, making everyone grouchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:32 PM
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Pretty much, except they picture this sort of life with themselves as the warlords who order people around, they are never the peons. Never do they mention their sisters or moms being subjugated and how that would suck. It's all a video game.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:24 PM
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Have you noticed that no one loves anyone in these scenarios? It's all bangs and SMV and rankings and rutting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:21 PM
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And yet these are the same guys who hate Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:12 PM
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But it was not just women. Men who had been sexually assaulted also came forward. Terry Crews.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:03 PM
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There were some women who complained about being cold in offices. Estrogen makes people feel colder. Testoscerone makes people feel warmer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:02 PM
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He will say that Might Makes Right and then flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:58 PM
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They just tell on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:57 PM
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Your first point is that girlfriends should be emotionally nurturing, which I agree and I am. But the idea that a man cannot show any weakness or she will lose interest, is not true. Your second point about birth rates being women not getting approached enough? Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:52 PM
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What are women failing to offer?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:06 PM
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A lot of men get on these subs and complain about the women that are sweet talkers or vixens or able to finesse and manipulate tons of men. These men blame the women, yet these women are constantly finding an endless supply of men to sleep with. The reality is men are attracted to the seduction of women like this. The tension and uncertainty and the excitement that comes as well as how it triggers scarcity and desire to pursue. To blame this on women as a whole is flawed. Most women aren’t femme…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 06:58 PM
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She describes herself as Aspergers and in her mid 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:25 AM
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I feel like we get this same post every few months and women in the comments write paragraphs defending their "value" to some guy. One female poster, when asked what she brings to the table, answered: "Fat thighs, stinky breath, champagne taste and a bad attitude."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:51 PM
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Asian manners are different than Western ones, so of course they stared at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:14 PM
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I used to eat alone at restaurants now and then because I wanted to. I was young and pretty, but most people I knew wanted pizza or burgers and I wanted the weird Asian food.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:54 PM
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When I was young and hot, I dated a couple guys who made a huge angry rant about women being liberated and earning their own money, and they insisted I pay my way. It was a huge turnoff. Yes, I could pay for my own food, but why the angry rant? Why be angry at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:05 PM
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Especially if someone spends his last dollars to buy you a coffee. This would be just stupid Just how broke are you???
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:58 PM
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Agreed, things will continue as they are but many couples will not be formally married. Like my sister and her partner, they will just live together for decades. Monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:04 AM
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I am always stunned when I hear stories of women getting money from their boyfriends. I was not raised that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 10:55 PM
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So if you were married to a woman who hated you, and you hate her, and the kids are shaking in fear during your nightly barn-burner fights, divorce is not allowed?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:32 AM
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I knew a crazy incel in real life. He had delusional beliefs and seemed more than a little nuts, but he had tried therapy back in the day and it did not work. I asked him if he told his therapist about his imaginary girlfriend or about his beliefs in magical powers. Nope. So how was the therapist supposed to address his mental illness?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:02 AM
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As opposed to red pill make believe?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:40 PM
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How does the blue pill humiliate themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:32 PM
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Would you trust a fake doctor the same way? We can keep playing this game, but you get my point. Someone who is an armchair expert is no expert.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:30 PM
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So based on your analogy, you could work as a car mechanic after watching YouTube but never having worked on an actual car?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:18 PM
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See, let me break it down for you: I have never fixed a car engine, but I have seen people do it. I tried but I cannot figure it out, so I saw the type of people who fix cars and now I have it all figured out. See?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:09 PM
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Whereas what guys read we are into more action, and sci fi and it makes sense. Most people (not nerds like us, most normal people) never read books at all. I read sci fi and whatnot but no romance novels. My normie boyfriend never reads. And most novels are just escapism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:07 PM
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Zits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:42 PM
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Yeah, I used to try harder to convince the incels here that there is hope for short men, and the love of my life is short. I get told I am settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:54 PM
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I'm not clicking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:55 PM
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They think we are all in Chad's harem. I should tell my boyfriend about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:55 PM
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You can't. In the coming decades there will be a famine from all the coming drought, many people will die, human population levels will settle around 4 billion again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 11:48 PM
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Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 09:49 PM
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It's like when I found out my buddy was gay and I lost attraction and just saw him as a pal. If I learned that a man was refusing to date women, my brain would put him in the asexual category.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 09:07 PM
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That's actually a good joke. Upvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 06:22 PM
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So if one must "leave immediately" at the first sign of asshole, then the relationship would never get off the ground. People make dumb mistakes- is he a crappy person or was he just anxious? Did he deserve to be fired? Did he have a bad day or is he always like this? You need time to figure out another person's baseline. If I had "left immediately" when my partner of ten years lost his temper we both would have missed out on a beautiful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:34 PM
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Yeah, I can only nab one LA guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:53 PM
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So if a person is a victim, it must be their fault and they must frame it as such. "My ex was an angry yelling cheater who got fired from his tech job, and it's all my fault."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:52 PM
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Welp, guess I got myself a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:50 PM
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Ooops, looks like we overspent on our loved ones. What to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:47 PM
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It's different subsets for different women. The guys my friends find hot, I do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:45 PM
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There is your love match!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:29 PM
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Plenty of women are single and looking to date in LA.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:27 PM
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You never had a bad relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:25 PM
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I agree. Toxic people who treat others like crap should be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:25 PM
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This is so universally true, I wonder why red pill never mentions it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:18 PM
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Well shit, I just wanted to make the world fairer for men! By dating all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:49 PM
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Get over it. OK, I am over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:37 PM
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So date men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:24 PM
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I personally don't understand how a man can lay there getting ridden by his woman, all pinned down, and thinking "yes I am equal to her" lmao. What a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:23 PM
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You heard it here: in order to be fair to men, you have to date all your male coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:22 PM
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But all women have the anecdotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:59 PM
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So...here's my story. When I was 24 I dated a 34 yr old dude from my church. He was not that attractive but he was nice enough, at first. I was a tad ashamed to be seen with him by anyone my age, as I knew how it looked. He was rather immature and goofy for his age, and I made more money than he did. Quickly it became obvious that I was not in love, and he was always insecure and jealous. Always accusing me of having feelings for a certain other guy at church who was younger than him and better …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:58 PM
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It was all White Replacement Theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:38 PM
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I heard it a lot more in the older days, when Roosh and his ilk were talking about society being destroyed by liberals and gays and women. The gist of it is that women choose the "wrong men" to father their children and so society is overrun with criminals and "degenerates" who are not the Great White Savior they prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:33 PM
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Where is this bottling up taking place? I have seen male coworkers scream and punch holes in walls, I have seen men cry, I have seen men road rage so hard they put everyone in danger, I have seen guys throw hysterical fits, you name it. Mostly it seems like men are allowed to express rage, and so they go for it. If that is bottled up, the cap has a leak.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:57 AM
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Azusa Pacific University? A private Christian college that does not allow fornication or even dancing? I went there for a couple years and it was 4 girls to every guy on campus. You are free to go there as well, but they are a biased source.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:32 AM
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I know a lot of furries like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:29 AM
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I got my own experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:09 PM
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Agreed, you have proven your point that most homeless are harmless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 06:53 PM
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A women would hate teaching because lessens the emotional intimacy between her and her partner. Yeah, I hated teaching too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 03:28 PM
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So by your own admission most homeless are harmless? And having lived in Skid Row, you know that only the ones you cannot see are dangerous? So what did the woman do wrong? How was the angry boyfriend justified?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 03:25 PM
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So the homeless guy represents immigrants? Or the hot sexy boyfriend is the immigrant? Because I got the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:32 PM
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The women I know who are gung-ho about romance novels and movies are average women married to average men, or lonely old spinsters with no boyfriend. No threat to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:22 AM
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Did you have kidney failure like my friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 10:51 PM
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It would probably look more like America (or basically any Western country) before world war 1. So, brothels on every corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 09:26 PM
1

over-oxalated food is banned Holy shit, someone else knows about oxalates causing kidney failure, I am genuinely impressed!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 09:17 PM
1

It'd be good for society if most single, working women became mothers instead. Single mothers?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 09:11 PM
2

It means I am telling the truth about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 07:35 PM
6

So you have catty shallow friends ? Maybe if I were neurotypical I would have seen more of this up close, but the only women I saw acting like this were my bullies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 07:07 PM
6

Wanna hang out IRL? Of course not. So you have my word.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 07:05 PM
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No, I just learned from my mistakes and got input from people who could see the forest for the trees. It took decades to figure out and I am shaking my head over things I missed, but if you can use objective reasoning on yourself (and your own flaws) it sometimes clicks into place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 07:05 PM
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It depends on the woman. I always preferred men who lit up my brain, and now I release I was screening for the wrong traits. I picked the wrong nerds, most of whom were losers, because they were entertaining and they liked me. I am not drab and forgettable, I am autistic and creative and don't know how to vet. So over and over again I picked some guy whom I later dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:58 PM
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I am glad you have this hindsight, but can you recognize that she is just one person?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:50 PM
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I prefer short men. I desire them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:48 PM
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Women are content to just have a lot of superficial friends that come and go and extract utility from each other. In a way they have men defeated in this area of life. Men are able to minimalistic and simple and non-demanding compared to women in most areas but women are better to be able to be content being surrounded by a superficial carousel of fake friends and no sex. There is a power and leverage that comes in wanting things (like morality or sex) less. Where are you getting all this? Do yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:43 PM
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lying When did I lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:39 PM
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But subconsciously, they still know their friends are judging them based on the label on her hand bag, the men she dates, the outfit she’s wearing, etc. Women thrive much more off of validation whether it’s from the opposite sex or same sex friends. Those deep bonds women claim to have are often times only surface deep. She will cry with her when she needs her to. But then she has 5 text windows open, telling the rest of the girls why you’re crying. You got this from TV shows? I have female frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:12 PM
0

I have had that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:24 PM
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I see no proof of your claims. Plenty of women are not swayed by peer pressure, plenty of men are. It's not gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:32 PM
3

They want the freedom to spout hatred w/o pushback.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:25 PM
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If a bunch of incels were making spiteful posts the subreddit would want to crack down on that so they don't get banned. It's self preservation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:14 PM
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It's Austin, and vastly different from San Antonio where I lived. No one in S.A. was gym-maxed or in shape, at least not after college. The men were huge, and wore casual clothing. The women were the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:39 PM
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it was usually some horribly lit selfie where they weren't smiling and they looked literally depressed. Taken using a dirty bathroom mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:36 PM
3

So you admit that both genders are hypergamous?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:45 PM
2

Holy shit yes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:22 PM
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Paying for another's person's meal, someone you like and want to make happy, is apparently simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:52 AM
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Too agreeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:56 PM
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Look at all the men here who don't want to support their partners, and are up in arms even about paying for a first date. If I have learned nothing else from PPD, it's that men here are cheap as f.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:17 PM
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But it's super important that we all know it's only the second leading cause, because women are overreacting to threats of their male partner hurting them. right OP? Is that the impetus for this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:14 PM
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Yeah the men here never blame society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:10 PM
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"be honest don't give me clean socially acceptable answers" It depends why he doesn't work. I would leave a lazy man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:01 PM
3

Liberal boyfriends were a sample size of two so just based on that, I was disappointed with their attitudes about what would happen if we married and had kids. One was so opposed to marriage because “why can’t we just live together? Religion is stupid.” The other expected me to be a strong and independent woman while he played video games. It was not going to work, and liberal attitudes towards sex and religion were not compatible with my life and what I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 05:20 PM
1

That is the traditional marriage arrangement. Which is why women reject it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:06 PM
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No, I am not offended by a man hitting on me. I am irritated if he persists after I nicely turn him down, and I am afraid sometimes of a violent reaction. A few times the rejection was not handled well and I had to get help from friends for my safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:14 PM
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You’re missing the entire point. Trad marriage is a bad deal for women, the only redeeming part is financial compensation. If there is no financial benefit in a trad arrangement then the woman loses completely
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:00 AM
4

Right, which is why I have friends and family all over the political spectrum
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:48 PM
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But, still, you’re supposed to co-own whatever asset you produce during the marriage, don’t you? Family wealth isn’t really part of that. Correct. In case of divorce she gets nothing, but if he dies she gets the house unless he puts it in a trust for his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:40 PM
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It's a long story of religious training and I had to undo some of the thinking. My mom had us go to a conservative church which ended up being a bad thing, but I was all for it until reality smacked me in the face at age 24. Then I did a big turnaround and while I stayed Christian I am much more lenient and attend a very different church. Also I am no longer political, but I have very liberal friends in the art community. So I hear both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:47 AM
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OK dude, you need to spend more time with different demographics. The liberals I know are not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:09 PM
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Eh, some people are pushier than others. The conservative men I knew were all loud and proud, but I imagine some could keep it under wraps. Also, remember that not all relationships are male-led.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:04 PM
12

Pretending to be something you are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:56 PM
18

She may as well live with her parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:42 PM
25

Video games aint gonna play themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:38 PM
24

So zero benefit to marrying you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:38 PM
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Back when I was a hard-core Conservative dating men from church, I was not treated very well by these boyfriends. All of them, without exception, pushed for sex despite it being against our religion. Some of them demanded I give up my male friends and have no career, others pushed me to be the breadwinner so he could be lazy. There was no advantage to dating conservatives, or even Christians. I have a separate rant about liberal men, but that's for another debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:36 PM
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Modern western women are indoctrinated with feminism from birth, its just not possible to undo all of that. Glad to hear it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:32 PM
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So does that mean a large portion of those women will never find a man? No, guys will pretend to be what she wants until the marriage or whatever makes him think it's secure. Then the mask comes off, and she reacts accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:28 PM
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I was denied two separate jobs because I was a woman. This was back in the nineties so maybe things have changed, but they were office jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:51 PM
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So he looked calm or confident to you? Was that amused mastery?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:46 PM
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Hes fit, exudes confidence, He absolutely did NOT exude confidence, he seemed nervous the entire time and overreacted to his fear of Louis making him look bad. Peak insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:00 PM
6

So if a priest hits on you then your types is priests?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:09 PM
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By that logic, every woman's type is the crazy homeless guy outside the grocery store who follows her in the parking lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:07 PM
2

Even my boomer dad believes men should pay for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:04 PM
2

You know I could gender flip this, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:00 PM
2

I am so sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:16 PM
5

All victims of cons are really just victims of their own greed. Huh? Scam victims like my elderly friends are just greedy and not in a panic when the scammer tells them to buy gift cards?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:10 PM
1

And for good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:04 PM
6

Thank God that finding a partner is as easy as reading labels! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:01 PM
1

Arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:59 PM
2

None of us are going to be around when it goes red giant, so it does not matter. The argument is that sunlight isn't taken from one person when another uses it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:01 AM
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It's weird how little agency they give themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:09 AM
1

But the sunlight is still free, and unlimited. It's the resource. Wear a solar panel on your hat, see if I care.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:05 AM
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No exactly, by having solar panels you are using land which someone else now can't use to put there own solar panels, same with a windmill Where do you live that people don't have solar panels on their own roofs???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 12:51 AM
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There aren't infinite resources that can be given to everyone equally. Of course this is easily disproven. Sunlight is not diminished by me putting up solar panels. Wind is not stolen from my neighbor when I put up a windmill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 12:37 AM
2

I did. He was a virgin at 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:16 PM
6

Yup. I am willing to stick by my principles even if it means living in my car when I am older.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:52 PM
5

the vast majority of people end up inheriting the politics of their parents. Not in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:43 PM
2

No one would say yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:41 PM
5

It's implied that the guy (on first dates) will pay if he is interested, and will let her pay if he never wants to see her again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:20 PM
1

I live in the US and it's normal here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:12 PM
3

That's not widely accepted for coworkers or friends, why should it be different for dating? I pay when I invite friends. How often do I eat out with coworkers? Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:07 PM
3

Yup. I have no idea why etiquette is no longer taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:01 PM
8

I know someone who had an AI best friend, AI boyfriend, AI family, AI baby, the whole bit. Even a dog. They got wiped out when ChatGPT4o was upgraded.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:13 AM
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Dating age ends at 20 now???
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:03 AM
1

Exactly. You are just a customer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:01 AM
1

Only one woman described her husband as red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 05:20 PM
3

I met my SO on Match and we are together since 2016.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:36 PM
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This commenter is acting like if women just hear something long enough we will want to do it?? That seems to be his idea, just brainwash young women into wanting something they do not want. You can see how well that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:32 PM
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Into the conventional wisdom of a society. The conventional wisdom I was given was to marry a Bible-thumper with money. And then submit. I did none of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:45 PM
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feminism resulted in it being considered rude to teach women and girls any lessons that would imply that they're not born perfect. Holy shit, no. From early girlhood we are taught to be nicer, prettier, more agreeable, less assertive, quiet, and courteous. We are always reminded that we are too this or that, and need to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:54 PM
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In what ways should you be taught to treat your partners that would differ significantly from say, your siblings? I am guessing that the answer involves sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:50 PM
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these issues need to be addressed more honestly by female thought leaders shaping the common narrative. Like....who?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:33 PM
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Submission was drilled into our heads in my religious upbringing. It was explained that God wants it this way, and men are natural leaders. If we gals are naturally submissive, why do they have to browbeat us into it? For that matter, I have met a huge number of men who are NOT natural leaders. Something is off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:08 PM
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most notable widespread SSRI and birth control This does not stop people from falling in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:21 AM
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And they sound so...superior? Like they (and their lack of experience) make them better and wiser.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 05:17 PM
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There's a saying that you can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into. And yet I have been here 9 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:09 PM
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Lookin' good! Keep it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:49 PM
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She also went through menopause so that might be a rough patch in itself. My own experience was terrible, but once it was over I was free.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:22 AM
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No, because women all have different types they like. I myself like shorter men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:58 AM
3

I know one. She made herself an AI family, complete with a baby and a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:51 AM
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I am 53 and I am fine. Things got waaaaaay better after 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:49 AM
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He never explained why those single women he met were crying. Why she was in grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:45 AM
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53... I have seen it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:19 PM
3

Sounds like if he was a woman he would be just fine. Why would you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:46 PM
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I guess I have different friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:41 PM
3

Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:25 PM
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Right! So how do you think Plain Jane feels when she gets hit on by someone she would never in a million years pick?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 08:23 PM
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By the same token, do you feel happy and flattered when gay men hit on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 08:18 PM
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Which sex do you think has a harder time being humble, and submissive and obedient The one taught from day one that's her place, or the one taught his place is at the top, the head, and that he is the one to be obeyed? Perfectly put. I have been religious my entire life and it's mostly women holding onto church. Men go along with families once they have kids, but usually have no interest in bible studies or subservience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:29 PM
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They're getting approached but not by guys they want. There were no hot guys at the furry convention.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:27 PM
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Eh, you need to talk to more Plain Janes. My friends who complained of getting no attention were correct, except that only the bottom of the barrel hit on them. So yes, Jane is getting approached but it's guys that no one wants. Like, NO one was into these dudes. I should also point out that this was at a Furry Convention.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:18 PM
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Hypergamy is the biggest lie red pill can sell to insecure men. Yet they cling to it like a bible. Guys, it's really simple: we all have different types we like. It's all different guys, not the same Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:58 PM
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since women may not be attracted to that many men at their own SMV-rank level, the ones they can actually land, then they NEED to sample a lot of men their level to find their type. Being able to find their type is what enables mid-SMV women to be able to desire mid-SMV men. This is all silly. You know what you find attractive w/o having the sex. You already know what you like, I know what I like, people try for it and might fail but they can try again with someone else. SMV is all made up. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:55 PM
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So you would be OK marrying a woman you did not find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:51 PM
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Women should look at the pool of guys that are already interested in them, and choose the most suitable one from there. But this is something most women are too stubborn to comprehend. I'm not stubborn, I just see no point in a romantic or sexual relationship with a guy I see as a brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:40 AM
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If you swiped someone else's car, your example would make sense. Her own car? Does she apologize to her car?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:59 PM
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Women are constantly apologizing in person and feeling like they offended someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:15 PM
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Apparently she is to blame for picking the man who did not work out, so she should apologize to...her ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:09 PM
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That tracks. Women I know are always feeling guilty for hurting someone's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:08 PM
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Then she ignores him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 06:59 PM
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Why would it hurt her ego? Is she super needy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:10 PM
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Why would anyone care if some guy is ignoring her? She is not his type, move on immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:06 PM
8

OMG me too!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:10 AM
5

Same. but OP thinks we don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:53 AM
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All 3 billion!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:46 AM
2

Tell a woman you don't like what she is doing and ask her to not do it, and see how she reacts. "babe, you look like homeless person. I want you to wear more makeup. Why can't you look sexy for me? My ex used to do her hair better and I want you to do that. Why are you wearing a t-shirt over your bathing suit? I am losing respect for you."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:09 PM
2

It was a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:32 PM
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No one here ever talks about falling in love or looking for love. It's all Primal Attraction and ONS vs. Oneitis and Settling and Cock Carousel and it makes humans look like dogs. My boyfriend and I love each other and it's profound and meaningful and he's the love of my life but try explaining that here. They told me I am "coping" and I must have settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:13 PM
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Or she won't, we are assuming a lot. It does sounds like sexual repression.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:38 PM
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Your post sounds like a kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:36 PM
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I wouldn't take it that far. I too was raised super religious conservative and it screws with your head, messes up your views of sex and men. When everything is super-sexualized as SIN you begin to associate Men with Sex and therefore, it hypersexualizes them in your repressed brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:32 PM
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being naive to manipulation is a plus since that means it'd be easier to keep her attracted You could just get a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:26 PM
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But you can see why your posts (I checked your reddit history just now) make you look like a Pick Me? Ex: How can we support Men's Rights, How can We Stop Being GoldDiggers? And then this. It sounds like you want men on the internet to praise you for being Not Like The Other Girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:25 PM
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my question was more focused on wanting to spoil men in general In a sexual way?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:18 PM
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Young adulthood is generally prime. Zitty, anxious, poor, stressed out from school, afraid to stand up to your boss, and generally naive to manipulation. Plus if you date a young adult you will be forced to watch Anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:14 PM
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Dunno, I met my SO on OLD. Noting toxic happened to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:09 PM
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But is it wrong? All the gals here are agreeing with OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:17 PM
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The point is, even if men settle for women off the apps, that doesn’t delete their preference for the women who they would swipe right on and carries that desirability into their in-person interactions. See how this is genderless?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:07 PM
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Every other week a new "study" concludes that intermittent fasting is either the best thing EVER and everyone should skip breakfast now, or intermittent fasting is the WORST and no one should follow this fad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:54 PM
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If a racist uncle of yours quoted a "study" that concluded one race of people is less intelligent than all other races, would you default to believing the person with an agenda and confirmation bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:51 PM
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And men don’t prefer hotties too?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:23 PM
3

I just now read this and I am SO GLAD you dumped him. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:22 PM
1

Cargo shorts. Every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:18 PM
1

what did she tell security you did?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:17 PM
8

This is the "personality" part of attraction the guys here deny.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:38 PM
10

It’s childhood issues like abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:17 AM
1

Do you date men?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:02 AM
1

You never met a shitty guy who is also ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:37 PM
4

As a woman who’s been yelled at by my male bosses and expected to keep calm and deescalation for them, bullshit. So many memories of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:26 PM
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I've had male bosses follow me around yelling at me insisting that they weren't yelling and were completely calm. Ugh, I know the type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:20 PM
2

How are we sociopathic?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:22 AM
2

I am upvoting your comment, and it feels weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:58 PM
1

Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:56 PM
5

I am so glad that the men I know IRL are not like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:55 PM
5

So everyone else is lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:54 PM
5

Shit, I forgot to focus on the 6'5 millionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:48 PM
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I actually was completely infatuated and I wasn’t 20…so I do think it’s possible. And once we started dating we actually did spend every spare moment together. Same with me. I fell in love HARD at age 44 and it felt like being a teenager again. We are still together.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:04 AM
3

You think crows are cattle??
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 02:54 AM
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Um, no. Many species lack sexual dimorphism. Can you tell a male crow from a female crow?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 02:47 AM
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Most of them were incels under another label, no marriage or kids. The YouTube ones are of course grifters who lie. I have known a few guys IRL who were MGTOW but again, not by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:58 AM
5

How are we failing our societal duty?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:37 AM
2

why do you think men seem so focused in either having a lot of casual sex or no contact with women altogether? Once more, this is just You.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:16 PM
2

I am rereading Into the Wild about Chris McCandless and how he left society and his family behind to hitchhike all over the US and then lived in Alaska off the land for months before starving to death. He was living the MGTOW dream without hating woman or marriage. It was also 1992. Since then many people have idolized him and wanted to do what he did, because living apart from society speaks to us on a deep level. Bigotry is not needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:44 PM
5

This just sounds like a You problem. Most women are not immature toddlers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:40 PM
4

These men that you're describing probably had multiple kids and built a family only for their wives to get bored and leave them. Not the impression I got.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:37 PM
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Also, way passive aggressive post. Agreed, he just wanted to take a jab at us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:26 PM
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I could have written this very comment. See, op? People have to think before they speak. It's not gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:01 PM
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and it never occurs to them that women don't have to find the same small percentage of men attractive. We keep telling them, and then we are "gaslighting"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:10 PM
8

Humans naturally pair bond false
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:27 PM
12

See this right here is why women do not wish to be placeholders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:45 AM
3

No trust me- some men are creepy and it's behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:43 AM
16

Buddy you have no idea. Every religious man I ever dated tried for sex. Except the gays ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:19 PM
6

Maybe she is religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:35 PM
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When I first found this subreddit I used to gasp out loud at some of the hateful things red pill men would say. Literally jaw dropped. I sincerely hoped that those people would NEVER find a woman, because it was clear they would abuse her. So now, nine years later, this place is full of incels who cannot get women. And it's a relief.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:38 PM
5

You’re not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:43 AM
1

Do you feel empathy for men in the same way people feel empathy for strangers under the understanding that they’re also people? What a bizarre question. I feel 'empathy' for people I know and people I know of, meaning compassion. Why would men be different? Why is gender relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:43 PM
0

Only for the ones I know, or hear about in the news. For example, I am reading up on Chris McCandless and how he was treated so badly by his parents as a kid that he left without a word and took off across the country and died in Alaska. It's an old story, but the new book by his sister really highlights the abuse they suffered at home. I have sympathy and compassion for people like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:50 PM
21

Girls are taught to be nice and not offend. Sometimes this goes too far and women are too afraid of being seen as bitches, so they go along with things that they don't like to appease someone else. This can have tragic consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:05 PM
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By that logic, she should grab the first guy who walks in the door and forge a connection with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:03 PM
9

What should we teach girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:00 PM
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Maybe she on a mission for god. Maybe I am too!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:59 PM
10

The weight drops off when she is less stressed out. cortisol hormones fire off when you are under stress and make you fat. Stress from a job or a husband or anything upsetting can go away and thus she loses weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:58 PM
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Maybe she tried variety of events. Again, dating is a numbers game
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:53 PM
10

Everyone used to smoke a lot. Thus, they were skinnier.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:45 PM
15

I too am curious. What should we teach Sally and Timmy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:44 PM
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But I was told wearing makeup is lying and deceptive and bad and to take her swimming literal LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:41 PM
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Why does she have to be a prize? Not everyone has to be Special, they still deserve dignity and choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:31 PM
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They seem to believe she is uppity or thinks she is above all the guys there. They want her humbled, maybe even in tears of "introspection" and then she will pick her beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:01 PM
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So she branches out. Goes to concerts and religious retreats. So what? Dating is a numbers game, she will eventually fall in love with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:00 PM
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It's literally insanity to keeping trying the same failing recipe She tries different events, not the same bunch of people over and over again. Your analogy does not apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:51 PM
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Yeah I am confused what they think she SHOULD do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:49 PM
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How do you know she is undesirable? Maybe she has certain standards like "goth" or "religious" and no one at these events had those qualities. That does not mean she sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:48 PM
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That is the very opposite of perseverance. So if you get bad results from trying to find a partner, it's insanity to keep trying?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:47 PM
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What's to introspect? She knows what she likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:23 PM
2

What’s comphet?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:54 PM
13

So wearing a pencil skirt or a tube top is the same as paying a prostitute?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:35 PM
6

My boyfriend is my Chad. It's like dating a rock star, I am a simp for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:33 PM
1

I have been with my partner ten years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:34 PM
1

The whole point is love goggles. When a woman is over the moon for a man, he could shave his head or wear cargo shorts and she would still sigh with lovelorn wonder at the sight of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:25 AM
2

You do not understand how women see the men they love. To a woman in love, he is THE most attractive man in the world and no one can tell her otherwise. If he goes bald? He can wear a hat, who cares. She still smiles when she sees him and can't wait to throw her arms around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:56 AM
1

when time passes and brain matures "looks dont matter than much" so women focus more in personality, as much studies suggest. Wrong. I never stopped caring about how a man looks, or whether I was attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:54 AM
2

Have you ever heard a woman say "as I got older, looks started to matter less?" Those are women that ultimately still want to pair up for whatever reason, but know they had to or will have to sacrifice physical attraction to do so. As a woman in her later years, this is horseshit. I would never sacrifice attraction or use some boyfriend "for whatever reason"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:51 AM
2

It does matter. If OP is from Saudi Arabia, men and women are not allowed to be friends...so that changes the whole dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:06 PM
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I have seen the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:28 PM
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I was raised religious but do I go around shaming people who do things contrary to my religion? No, that's rude and they are just living their lives. Just because you think something is immoral does not make it universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 11:01 PM
1

That's a damning view of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 10:54 PM
3

Count yourself lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:38 AM
7

Cheating is extremely rare???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:02 AM
-1

So a humorless broke man with gambling debt is good?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:00 AM
1

Or they would ‘believe in 50/50’: that one truly made me laugh my ass off each time. It never even occurred to me back when I dated church conservatives just how hypocritical this was. Men rule over us, husbands get to boss around wives, yet she has to pay? How convenient
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:23 AM
4

I still work hard, I am still educated. But I make very little money. It's not a pity party, I just live my life. But I am no longer conservative for other reasons beside this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:11 PM
2

He's just making things up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:49 PM
2

Most ‘conservative and libertarian men’ I met, had a lot of lefty behaviors/views, if you pressed them. Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:45 PM
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All my conservative values about hard work and education were lies. My first job out of college was the usual office environment and it was all schmoozing and who you know, not a meritocracy. I worked SO HARD and late nights and it meant nothing to these people and I was fired so they could schmooze the client harder. With a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:44 PM
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Precisely. Church was a dumping ground for misfits and underachievers. Conservative religion made marriage SO IMPORTANT and you could not have sex without it, so women married men they met at church even if the guys barely had a job. I have no idea why the men on this subreddit don't figure this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:42 PM
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This was my experience as a young conservative woman who dated men from church. They were losers. Some of them were nice, but they all tried to get in my pants despite religious beliefs. Only one of the bunch turned out successful. Not chads, not even billy beta since most of them could barely afford anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:43 AM
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Conservatism feels safe, it has the answers, That was my experience when I was conservative. It felt comforting to know all the answers and never be wrong. Until real life hit me in the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:35 AM
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Oh shoot, I forgot to science and just answered OP's question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:30 PM
18

I was in nerd fandoms for two decades. Men were nerds, women were nerds, people just dated whomever. A lot of the dudes were bi so they had double the options, but there were very few incels. Were those men average? No idea. Very few Chads, I can tell you that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:20 PM
0

Um you need to get away from the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:57 PM
1

It's hardly rare. Most couples love each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:07 PM
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it is near impossible to find even just a woman that is not bought into whoring feminist zeitgeist, has actual family values and wants to have children. Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 09:08 PM
1

You could gender flip this entire thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:06 AM
3

I don't care if you are sarcastic, I am going to give benefit of the doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:39 PM
12

Not any of the posters, no. But I feel better that I spoke up in case young impressionable people are lurking and absorbing. It's better if they don't fall for toxic beliefs that will make their lives worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:07 PM
3

He would punish women for leaving relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:59 PM
5

No!! People must be PUNISHED!! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:54 PM
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With no proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:24 PM
3

How does a short skirt or a fun party bring down the west?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:50 AM
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Women go above and beyond for guys they're very attracted to and infatuated with. That is very true. What's the problem? Find a girl who is crazy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:00 AM
1

Honestly women might be bringing down the west more than anything, How?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:13 AM
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the women on this sub don’t understand how it works for men, and yet I have paid for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 08:09 PM
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Are women adding stress into their partners lives? Are they prepared to be judged the same way they judge others? Without a doubt. But women bring so many benefits to men, the stress is usually overshadowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:27 PM
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I know a woman like that. Very sad, very traumatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 04:09 PM
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So what is the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 04:03 PM
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You assume that the 45 yo spinster had "her fun times" implying lots of sex and relationships. What if she was unattractive and an introvert? What if her idea of fun is crochet? Then the 45 yo man never touched a woman- why is he not her equivalent? An unattractive introvert whose idea of fun is WarHammer? You want to believe the woman had a blast while the man had boring resentment but what if they are the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 04:01 PM
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Agreed, I hardly ever see the dynamic he describes outside of old sitcoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:53 PM
2

AGAIN, some of us do in fact say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:08 PM
0

Some of us like and prefer short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:07 PM
6

Now they are arguing with Milliners Well, I want my hat to be made correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:01 PM
-1

Wow, more advice!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 01:44 AM
0

No. But why would you date someone you don't even want to kiss?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:47 AM
1

They need to stop trying to change men into better men and stop cleaning up after them if it's unsustainable especially adding kids into the mix. Gotcha. Dump any guy who is not working out, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:45 PM
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Just pick one of the literal hundreds of good, safe and compatible men who want to be your long term partner instead of rejecting those men in favor of players and assholes. Oh thank God you told us!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:41 PM
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In my case, it was a disaster. There is no point in pretending to be attracted to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:20 PM
3

Speaking from my own tale of woe, it did not help.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:01 AM
3

This has been my experience as well. There were a couple guys I dated who might have been smarter but that did not help our relationship and I gave up looking for Brainy Smurf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:01 AM
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Because of course, men all pick based on personality. Come on. Why not just admit that vetting is hard? Why not concede that many people are not good at relationships? Why is it gendered?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:59 PM
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the wish of men wanting women to approach more and trying to frame it as a win-win situation is just a power switch fantasy and the hope to "humble" women. This explain is it. I was wondering what the "women should ask men out!!!" posts were really about, since that would change nothing for incels. It's about humbling us, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:56 PM
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Also the problem is when women keep picking the wrong men And men all pick The Right Women? People are not excel spreadsheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:51 PM
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It's really telling. They honestly believe themselves to be the Good Guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:50 PM
1

It's changing by a slight margin, and my uncle DOES cook Thanksgiving dinner...but the majority of men don't like domestic work and refuse to do it. Even ones who are all for equal rights live like slobs ands eat out of soup cans, or McDonalds. Something about the male brain just does not care enough about a filthy floor or bathtub, but they appreciate someone ELSE cleaning and cooking. The only exceptions I see are gay men or ex military. I wish this were not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:34 PM
5

Are you a sovereign citizen?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:39 PM
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attachment theory and healthy relationship should be taught in hs. Women should be taught. Exactly what would you teach high school kids? What are women not being taught that you think they should learn?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:21 AM
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The common trope now is calling it “abuse” when a man is with a woman for a long time and won’t marry her. I have never heard this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:16 AM
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Not necessarily. Maybe there was no AF, and she went straight to beta bucks. Religious women do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:07 AM
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Sad. Those poor men must have been distraught.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:06 AM
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I was told sexual compatibility is a myth and any Christian man and any Christian woman could have a healthy marriage. OMG I heard that same crap!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:05 AM
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For me it's the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:37 AM
2

Right, he was gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:20 AM
3

Men start to care when they have daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:52 PM
1

There are plenty of sad love stories where the woman dies for her love. Little Mermaid is a good example.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:00 PM
3

So if your girlfriend whom you love unconditionally turned out to be the nurse who murdered all those kids in the hospital, your feelings would be unchanged?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:02 PM
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I am in my 50s and I am not on SSRIs and I am not miserable. Where is my horrible punishment for not marrying?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:47 PM
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So? What if that's true? Why is that a problem? She is happier single, let her be happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:30 PM
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I would love to know their answer to this, because it seems like "sacrifice everything for some dude who wants you"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:28 PM
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For every woman that obstinately refuses to pair up that’s one man that also loses the chance to be a husband and a father. But you just said that it's a tiny minority? not the 99.9% that matters?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:00 PM
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This is it exactly. I was raised Gen X and was told how to wait for boys to ask me out, how to look pretty enough, how to "date to mate" like a good Christian girl. Prom was only for couples, but most things were geared toward making couples. Church was one big mixer to meet your future husband. Everything was about your future marriage, and Christian colleges were just marriage farms. If you said you never wanted to marry, people would assume you are a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:51 PM
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What's the other half?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:41 PM
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Who says that?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:35 PM
1

Why would she need to settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:57 PM
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Yes, often.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:54 PM
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As someone who used to be fat, it's not always laziness. I was a gym rat but I got fat because of hormones. Once my hormones were corrected, I no longer struggled with hunger. But to an outside observer, I was just another Fatty Patty who must be lazy and food-obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:41 PM
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I could say the same thing. If I were to type out my struggles, it would be incomprehensible to you and someone (maybe not YOU) would ridicule me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:39 PM
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So correct the narrative. How is she wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:01 PM
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How do you know she has done nothing to improve her situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:56 PM
2

Women can often steer men into positions that lead to inevitable relationship downfall. Examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 10:07 PM
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Some guys here think any dude who gets women is a Chad. So by definition every character on the show was a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 10:03 PM
1

Plus, Indians, both men and women, can be pretty hot when they take care of themselves. I noticed this frequently in my area of the US. Lots of foxy fine Indian men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:53 PM
1

I can tell you from experience this does not work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:03 AM
3

Could be religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:13 PM
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No. If you talk to enough people, are they all lying? Or was that one chick biased?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:13 PM
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Why would I want to put in effort to only be able to fuck men I'm not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:28 PM
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autistic women are forced to learn to mask and learn social rules more than autistic men. We get more feedback (even if it's not direct feedback but social exclusion) in younger years, while guy friends may tolerate more. Male bullying and female bullying can be quite different Spot on with my lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:12 PM
3

Glad to hear it!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:09 PM
2

The stereotype is alcoholics who beat their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:59 PM
0

OH NOES!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:18 PM
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It's Kpop and the like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:26 PM
3

Prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:08 PM
26

So should I date even MORE men? Is that what you are suggesting?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:48 PM
3

Sounds like you should date men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 05:30 PM
2

How would this look in reality? A boycott?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 06:18 PM
24

But how did you arrive at this? Stats show why marriages end, and it's not "she nagged him until he drank."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:12 PM
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Majority of marriage issue? Really? You could just google why people get divorced, and it's adultery, abuse, alcoholism, much more serious things than "she grew resentful that the party stopped."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:09 PM
2

That's cute. Go ahead and make stuff up, no one in 100 years will be checking your Reddit posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:39 PM
3

Why would you predict anything that far out? For all we know, it could be The Day After, with humans barely clinging to life after a nuclear apocalypse or The Road Warrior or some other grim future.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:30 PM
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In the next 100 to 200 years? We are going to have far worse problems than this, Climate Change is going to be a roller coaster of chaos.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:27 PM
1

I too would choose the train guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 12:14 AM
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Women are trauma inducing for me. So would it be better to stay single?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:55 PM
1

Oh I see! I have to date everyone, just to be fair. Like a charity. Or a candy dispenser.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:29 PM
0

Exactly! And I choose not to date people with high STD risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:27 PM
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Is that what you are hoping?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:25 PM
1

Do whatever you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:23 PM
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Marilyn Monroe had a super high number of sexual partners but men did not care, and they all wanted to marry her.She also was mentally ill and had other problems, again, no one cared and she was the most desired woman in the industry after Sophia Loren. No one actually cares about this if you are hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:16 PM
1

I had a coworker like the woman you described. She was the kind of pretty that all men adore, and she knew it but she was not a bitch. She did however cheat on all her boyfriends and use them. No guilty conscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:33 PM
1

Can medication cure my autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:30 PM
2

I could use an army of simps to do a LOT of things. Imagine how much work you could get done.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:29 PM
2

I had a bisexual boyfriend, Everyone, even my bisexual friends, warned me he would cheat. I thought that was bigotry and I ignored it but HO BOY did that man cheat with every dude he could get. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:18 PM
-1

I never see this happen, ever. Most women date and marry down.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:44 PM
0

The miscommunications alone due to body language almost broke our relationship. Could you give me an example? I may be guilty of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:46 AM
1

find a fixer upper guy and give him the peace to grow in. Bad advice. Adults are ASIS, are you gonna nag him into being the CEO who works out twice a day?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:06 PM
2

the very specific period of French history i'm fixated on Which period? I am into Napoleonic history.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:03 AM
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Same here
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:13 PM
2

I have paid for plenty of male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:26 PM
0

You are showing your cards again.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:21 PM
3

Here comes the endless validation! Oh wait, did I miss my shipment? Dang maybe it’s all a lie. Maybe women have just as much mistreatment and crap as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:20 PM
-1

Apex fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:30 PM
-1

Some men monologue like chatty parrots and some men sperg out on their favorite hobbies and that does count as trying, I will give you that. But true wit and gift of gab? Rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:13 PM
1

It's actually helpful advice for birds of a feather to flock together. As a nerd girl, I have met men at Renaissance Faire and nerdy conventions and Comicon and so on. At least 4 of my boyfriends were from these venues. Therefore, I made 4 nerd guys less lonely and not incels. Am I not helping?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:12 PM
1

If we are Low Value yucky women, and we are with whatever men we could get, then are we not the perfect demographic for you guys here? Would that not make our advice MORE relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:01 PM
1

But most women are better conversationalists that most men, and keep the banter flowing. Most men don't entertain with wit and verve.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:34 PM
2

So if what you are saying is true and I am an Ugly Nerd Girl who dates in my league, what did I do wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:30 PM
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As a nerd woman myself, I have dated plenty of nerd men. So I am apparently Not Picky by your metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:20 PM
2

Ostensibly heterosexual women have such aversion to sleeping with men who are short. UH, what? News to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:15 PM
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Also, women had slightly more tact 20 years ago than today. Maybe, maybe not. I recall 20 years ago some gals saying incredibly cruel things to me, and no one called them out on it. Women can have acid tongues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 04:01 PM
5

If we are all such drags on you guys, why did you marry one of us? Why not marry a man who is reasonable and competent?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:52 PM
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Join a nerd fandom and meet nerd women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:29 PM
3

Oh boy! You must be fun at parties. All those happy times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:25 PM
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Correct. All the women I know with "baggage" are from a crappy childhood with parents who either abused or neglected them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:24 PM
3

Couldn't you gender flip this statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:23 PM
0

Be the change you want to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:23 PM
4

Are you ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:21 PM
8

I agree with you, it's getting paranoid. No one can talk to their ex anymore? What if they have kids together? Dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 04:37 PM
1

That's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:19 PM
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Wrong on all counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:09 PM
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You sure seem to believe your own claims. I do not. Most women fall in love with their men. If that fades after marriage, different problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:34 PM
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I am 53 years old and know a lot of women my age. Just from conversation, no one is banging the gang. A couple boyfriends, a couple husbands, so lifetime counts are around 3 to 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:28 PM
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Most women have very low body counts too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:23 PM
0

So we are all lying again?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:16 PM
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/thread
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:12 PM
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Can you gender flip this paragraph?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:13 PM
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while themselves ugly, low class undereducated low income... Yup, that's all of us here- just a passel of hags. Now what? How does that change what we say?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:46 PM
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Exactly it’s cruel
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:30 PM
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I am interested in this parenting method. How does one "humble" a child? Telling little Timmy "U aint shit." and telling little Sally "You're a spoiled princess and I am sick of your crap." sounds abusive. So enlighten me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:59 PM
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Even if true, so what? Incels should not be hypocrites about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:48 PM
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So you openly insult your daughter to keep her humble?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:34 PM
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I’m trying to humble my daughter as much as possible since her looks will get her further than her brother solely because she’s female. Men are no longer the privileged gender in the West Uh, how exactly are you trying to humble your daughter? Negging?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:31 PM
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the amount of hurt is not related to attractiveness Yup. It's way more about chemistry/personality than guys here would believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:30 PM
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The worst pain I remember was from a nerd I was crushing on back in high school. And then later another nerd I was crushing on in my 30s. Both were attractive to ME, but no one else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:29 PM
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No, those women are simply invisible to you. Which proves my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:35 AM
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a lot of these things women are judged on they can easily change, but men can't change Why do you believe this? A woman can have an ugly face or wide shoulders or horrible health problems too. She can look like a dude in a wig, I have seen it. Not so easy to change. Why bash people for things they cannot help?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:30 AM
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This again. Is it the weekend already? Why do incels keep pushing this narrative that any guy who is NOT unlucky in love must be a raging asshole?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:26 AM
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Oh trust me, the worst assholes I ever met were average looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:22 AM
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I pay my own bills. Are you having a hard time today?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:44 PM
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Dude, you are not winning anything here. I pay my own bills. I am 53 years old. Never married, never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:38 PM
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Hold on, I am making a carbon copy of myself to do the laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:27 PM
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OMG how did you KNOW?? I am sitting right now! Uh...paying my bills. Online. With no man sleeping in my bed. Huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:24 PM
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Why would anyone do that?? Sleeping in bed with someone you find gross every night? French kissing? Bad breath? Sharing a bathroom? For what? Do not say "resources" this is not 1880.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 08:13 PM
2

Same. I have had four men propose and I still never married
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:21 PM
3

Oh my gosh she gets to live with her parents and work a shitty job while sleep deprived.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:19 PM
3

Yeah wedding receptions are super fun and everyone else has a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:17 PM
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You want to change the world? Hook up with a homeless autist that is 10cm shorter than you. Be the change you want to see in the world! SO let's say OP does just that. Homeless guy is now stalking her. She has to get a restraining order. He ignores it because who cares? Now she has to move states. How is the world better? Instead, OP needs therapy to understand her situation and cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:23 PM
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I later came to realize that my parents also had numerous issues with their own parents, so it seems like an ongoing cycle, passed down from generation to generation. Yes! My grandparents made my parents the way they are, and I did not want to pass this down so I refused to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:21 PM
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All the upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:12 PM
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What do you mean by daddy issues? I have my own struggles with how I was raised that manifest in the saddest moments of uncontrollable crying. What are your symptoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:11 PM
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Especially as OP is just SO HOT that no woman can pass up the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:30 PM
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The friends egg them on until they file for divorce so they can be the 31 is the new 21 girl at the bar. Uhm who actually does this???
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:11 PM
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I agree with the title of the post since my brother-in-law blindsided my sister with divorce 9 years ago. She was the perfect wife and mother, and even went above and beyond to fix up the house. But he found another woman, so BOOM he surprised her with divorce one day. But the body of your post is just about women being submissive. Not about marriage or who is at fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:09 PM
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Seriously??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:23 PM
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Am I supposed to yammer on and on? You guys claim to hate when we brag about our men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:15 AM
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It's just dudes like the ones here, and not most normal guys, but it's sad how they tell on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:32 PM
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Forever locked up or just until things implode? Not all young marriages last, and not all relationships last. No one has to be bad or mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:31 PM
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Someone younger than his daughters???? fuck no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:22 PM
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Strangely, I did neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:21 PM
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He was 53. He was rock star gorgeous. We fell madly in love, and no one was there to judge our "value" or tell us that we declined. Neither of us settled, and we are still together after nine years. But what if I had believe in Red Pill doom? I would have missed meeting this great guy. Sucks, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:19 PM
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If you're a single woman in your 30's, then you either suck or you have terrible judgement in character. So any gaps on her dating or marriage resume must mean she sucks? What if she's only been single for a month? She it just terrible and should be avoided???
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:15 PM
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Now, when the red pill has the most sense is when a single woman is in her late 30s and still feeling she's as valuable (in the sexual attraction sense) as someone ten years her junior. Terrible advice. I am so glad I never heard of this doom and gloom when I was 44 and met the love of my life. Awful to make people think this way, self defeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:13 PM
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A good man will continue to like his wife for the good feeling he has being with her, but he probably won’t be as attracted to her. Wow. Normally you are one of the nice ones here, but this just sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:09 PM
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I wouldn't have married her if she were older because i would question why no man bothered to lock her up. So you admit that if you met your wife today that you would reject her for being old.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:07 PM
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What a sad way to see people. Don't you love anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:05 PM
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A man would have to be a real scumbag to leave a loyal wife for a trophy wife. And this happens a lot. A friend of mine was this person, she was much younger than her husband even...he still left her for another gal (even younger yet) after she bore him 4 children.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:03 PM
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You cracked the code. They want to have average to hot women attracted to themselves, and then have the option later to dump her for the newer model. But they hate it when women do this very thing. It's dumb, but I have seen it play out in RL with men who think this way. No loyalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:02 PM
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Especially for the Christian crowd. I was raised around families like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:48 AM
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I assume BP women are happy because they are in a largely one sided arrangement. Blue Pill is just normal people, normies. So are most normal people in one sided relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 06:09 PM
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the husband has Irish twins not what "Irish twins" means. It's siblings born less than a year apart, not two different moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:52 PM
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Yes, but not the sequel.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:51 PM
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older women will do as well things like vote to import immigrants Yes, and we have been together nine years and love each other very much. Stay mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:03 PM
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Creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:25 PM
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they feel intellectually superior to liberal women. Liberal women are just a silly cute gf who doesn't understand the world or politics but don't worry they can teach them. Conservative men have this weird obsession with molding their partner rather than growing together and learning from each other. This is it. I used to date men from church, and they were all conservative republicans who tried to "mold" me into their worldviews. All of them. It was assumed that I would bend to their thinking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:19 AM
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women have a low sex drive, then why do most of them have at least twice as many sexual partners as guys do? OMG where is the proof?? You made that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:04 PM
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So Great and Noble Tyrant, what shall I do to help Men?? Shall I form a harem or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:40 PM
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Short and average guys aren’t getting matches on dating apps Some of us like short men, try to think positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:39 PM
2

So are you saying I should date multiple men to help ease the loneliness epidemic?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:38 PM
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Right, your short poor handsome charismatic lean brown eyed black haired 20% is totally different from the next woman's tall rich handsome charismatic muscular green eyed brown haired 20%. Vast difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:37 PM
3

I can assure you it is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:16 PM
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I have a specific type that my friends often find ugly but they’re hot to me. I don’t think I could compromise on this even if it meant more material success because it feels wrong. Same here. I have tried dating the "correct" type that my parents would like and it fell apart quickly. If I stick with what I find attractive, it feels more honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:58 PM
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Yeah, and we have seen both here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:13 PM
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I've seen it plenty of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:14 PM
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Mostly average men of various races.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:46 PM
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Weird, the screenshots I saw were nothing like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:29 PM
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Women in their lives. Mothers, sisters, friends…real life is not memes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:58 PM
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I miss that peaceful feeling. It used to be all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:11 PM
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BTW, this is one reason I never married. My religion raised me with this yucky idea and I rejected it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:59 PM
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Your mistake is thinking that men apply logic in their decisions, they don't. A man's emotions willl be his reality, his partner treats him like shit but he'll be head over heels cause she's a size 2. I've seen this play out countless of times. If you are an attractive woman, you can get away with anything. You simply cannot advice a man who's in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:42 PM
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I took The Pill and it had no affect on my attraction. I liked him before, I liked him after. This is life, not a meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:02 PM
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In the western world where people marry for love, this rarely happens. People fall out of love later, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:59 PM
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It's similar to when they claim women never go to the gym because they don't notice the pilates and exercise classes packed with moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:58 PM
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When I was 24 I dated a 34 year old. It did not work out AT ALL. He was so immature, like a little kid, it was a huge reason I left- but also he was insecure about me being attracted to other guys and would constantly bring it up. Then the negging started and I was out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:51 PM
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So very much. Humans are flawed, but I love my loved ones so I tolerate it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:47 PM
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Where do you live? In California people look hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:43 PM
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Women get SO much dating advice in the realm of: Lose weight, fix your hair, stop wearing that, be more confident, try pilates, learn to flirt, get boob implants, do this makeup trick....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:41 PM
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Gender flip this. Still an asshole move.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 04:48 PM
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I think I tried this once.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:14 PM
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He also called me fat the other day. I laughed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:33 PM
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And they call US hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:02 AM
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you are cherry picking. I saw much more average men leaked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:24 PM
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They were average, same as the women. You figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:23 PM
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These men are more attractive than others due to social proof. No, they were not. I saw the leaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:10 PM
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Have you seen the photos of the men and women? Kinda disproves hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:59 PM
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Yeah these are divorcees.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:14 PM
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They are surrounded by friends, male and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:57 PM
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This isn't a woman thing, this is a "person who ends it thing." Very true. When I was dumped (long damn time ago) it hurt a lot and I had to move on whether I like it or not. When I was the dumper, I was just ready to get the heck out of there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:56 PM
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So why do gay men have so many friends? Answer me that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:54 PM
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Women don't have a type Oh gosh! So all women like what I like? Swarthy ethnic men with big noses and thick accents? Hairy men with black shiny hair? Are you saying that is EVERYONE's type too??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:53 PM
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He then pointed out how our very very good looking cousin who literally has modeled, has a beautiful girlfriend. He wanted the same level girlfriend as the male model I have seen the ugliest, least desirable men make comments like this. Part of me believes it's self-defense because no one wants them...but in your example he had a shot with someone and she was not good enough. I have seen that happen too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:52 PM
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I can't believe I am agreeing with a red piller.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:47 PM
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But it is NOT true. I have dated tall men who did not protect me one bit from other people, and my current boyfriend is short and absolutely would beat the shit out of anyone who messes with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:42 PM
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Where do you guys live? Denmark? Short men get love all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:12 PM
1

Tesla had women throwing themselves at him. He was a good catch and all the single ladies wanted him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 09:36 PM
1

Sexual promiscuity is more prevalent among young women than young men All hard science disagrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 08:22 PM
2

She might take his playstation or his beat up Honda?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:49 PM
3

This is the way good moral people behave but read some of the comments here. Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:06 PM
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Everything you typed is incel fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:03 PM
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This is all fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:02 PM
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Most women are not promiscuous and most men are not incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:51 PM
3

Exactly, no one cares. Even using real names, the internet has been doing this since the 90s when people started to trash talk others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:46 PM
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Yup. I was raised in churches like this, and women were allowed very little role outside women's bible study groups. They could not lead anyone else. It was ground into our heads that men are just better, so we should be grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:27 PM
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When I met my boyfriend, I had no idea what he did for a living or who he knows but I fell in love HARD. It was like dating a rock star. He's hot and I was starstruck. No status whatsoever, just rizz.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:02 PM
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I am a prude but have been called a slut since I was a teenager. Both genders, using colorful language and obviously trying to hurt my feelings. Ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:00 PM
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Let him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:51 PM
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Where did you get that fiction??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:28 PM
1

I have two sisters who haven’t and no one else I know has either
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:59 PM
3

That is exactly what the incels want us to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:32 AM
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You should read his other comments
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 10:42 PM
2

You noticed that too? The toxic men are just a force of nature, can’t be helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 10:10 PM
5

The people who are doing toxic things are the ones to blame
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 09:46 PM
3

I am glad someone else gets it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 08:57 PM
10

And most likely their family was this way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 08:55 PM
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Because of a messed up childhood and toxic role model parents
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 08:53 PM
4

We keep telling them that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 05:48 PM
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So she lives in her car with his kids. They live in poverty because she chose to bear and raise his children. She gave up everything and now she suffers. Nice guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:31 PM
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Be sure to let your woman know this is how you feel so she can make choices around your paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:30 PM
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So? My sister was a SAHM for the entire time. When her husband left her for another woman, he paid. He owes her alimony and (at the time) child support. Its only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:29 PM
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I know a gay couple who got divorced. The high earner pays alimony. So.....how is this the courts favoring women? Oh right! it's genderless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:28 PM
1

But you agree there are choices and you make them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:26 PM
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They can! That is why there are pre-nuptial agreements. You can also quit your job to refuse paying anything, then take off as a deadbeat and flee the country. It's so great for the kids!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:16 PM
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Who do you know in RL who did this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:14 PM
2

So you would rather she lives in her car after the divorce, and he only pays for child's needs and that means the kids get to also live in her car when she has them? I literally know someone who went through this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:13 PM
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all those everyday things are what matter in the end, right? If you want to be together, just be together. If commitment only counts when it comes with a big gesture in the shape of a diamond ring and a government contract, I would have serious doubts about someone's intentions. So no marriage! Whoopie! She gets to risk everything and bear his children and then when he leaves her for a younger model, she lives in her car. Yay!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:10 PM
1

Thank God!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:06 PM
2

::shrug:: No one is agreeing with your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:03 PM
2

and many of the default divorce laws are stacked against men Like which ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:57 PM
2

He was hoping you would cry at his profound stinging comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:55 PM
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The height of unintentional comedy. So like Incel Tears but gender flipped?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:42 PM
0

If I were a man doing the same actions I would have been fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:59 PM
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No, I got a taste for why women should not act like men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:24 PM
2

A guy here was just telling me that we should all be "pity fucking" loser men to give them confidence. He doubled down on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:18 AM
0

I have to agree here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 11:05 PM
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When I was in high school I asked guys out. My friends clued me in that it made me look desperate or easy, and the dudes used me for free meals. the guys also then talked shit about me to their friends, like I was easy or desperate. So never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:55 PM
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I can tell you never date men. I have personally dated at least three men who were mentally ill (bipolar) because as an autist I had no idea how to vet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 05:23 PM
0

How does that makes sense? The most abusive relationships end in murder. Stats prove it's mostly men killing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 05:22 PM
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A long time ago I dated a guy who had all crazy exes. I thought that's odd, but I am autistic so I believed him. When I broke up with him he tried to kill me. So.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 05:03 PM
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Nope people should not be pity fucking anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 01:06 PM
4

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:19 AM
5

Some women said they were glad to age so they could have peace and quiet. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:17 AM
2

I no longer hold back my sexuality What does this mean??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:14 AM
2

If they were interested they would ask her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:12 AM
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And every case I know of was deeply religious on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:43 PM
-1

Oh wow you said the quiet part out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:56 PM
2

Um what about the more obvious choice to be alone rather than endure humiliation?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:53 PM
2

I agree completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:55 PM
3

I've helped my male friends out a LOT. This incel idea that female friends are parasites is just bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:48 PM
2

Women would love to have polygamy accepted by society and I also think that's the only solution Uh what? I know no woman who would like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:44 PM
6

I wouldn't be against the end of democracy Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:39 PM
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Instead of lifting weights, I'm riding horses Twins!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:25 PM
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the real solution is if the solution is not dating apps and cold approaching? Make RL friends. Most men here have zero friends and yet somehow they expect a relationship with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 03:46 PM
1

That's certainly what the guys here tell us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:18 PM
1

so damn hard to be eight or nine that's where a lot of women don't realize it Maybe you are overrating yourself. Not being mean here, but the market decides your rank.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:09 PM
1

I made it pretty damn easy for my boyfriend, because I like him. Of course he is smoking hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:08 PM
2

No. I had no idea my boyfriend had multiple cars when we started dating and I fell in love. You don't fall for a guy because his car is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:57 PM
3

No. I like men who are dark and swarthy ethnic types. Other women find that gross. I find their pale men yucky. Completely different men being selected.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:54 PM
2

Hot? yes. don't care about tall or rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:24 PM
4

We keep telling them that but they cling to OKCupid like it's the Bible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:19 PM
0

I have a type and my gal friends find my men yucky. I find their men boring and no one is overlapping.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:17 PM
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You guys like to build your own hell, you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:37 PM
3

there will be no love between a woman who has been flooded with attention since she was 12 and who had to turn down male advances essentially every day of ger life and a man who lost his virginity at 22. Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:13 AM
6

Spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:13 PM
3

Wow. Who else here on PPD do you consider kind?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:56 PM
2

All good points.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:55 PM
5

actual genuinely kind people should be winning. But we're not So you include yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:49 PM
5

they did not “fake” being pleasant. They were just weird and unapologetically so, and in the incel’s case it was bad enough that I stopped liking him. I had the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:39 AM
5

They are not a good partner, and anyone looking for a relationship would be wise to reject them. I am upvoting this so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 09:20 PM
2

mildly misanthropic Nothing mild about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 09:18 PM
7

So you choose to be an incel because people love their partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:18 PM
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Why monasteries used to be a big option.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:03 PM
2

Do you have friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:50 PM
1

So?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:48 PM
7

, I feel bad for the men who ended up with the women who pumped and dumped your husband though, they got settled for after their partner had all their fun. How do you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:15 PM
12

Finally, someone said it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:13 PM
1

He gets his facts from the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:19 AM
1

I never did. You are biased by TikTok maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:18 AM
2

Perhaps Norway needs more hot sexy immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:13 AM
1

So? What do you want, a dating site for Kingdom Hearts?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:37 PM
1

I am the nerdy girlfriend with a Chad normie boyfriend. He is entertained by my sperging out on my fave topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:29 PM
15

Apparently, I'm supposed to care very much about height. This cracks me up because I too had no idea I was supposed to hate short men or whatever. My man is gorgeous beyond belief and he is short, so what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:02 PM
2

What do you expect people to say about their love partners? "He's embarrassing and smells bad but I love him because he reminds me of my dad" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:14 AM
5

You remind me of me. I was not dating "chads" and top percent of anyone despite being a hottie myself. I fell in love with dorks. No red pill dudes believe this but it was just normal for me until I met my current partner and then it felt like being with a rock star. There was no AFBB, it was more like BBAF.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:09 AM
1

That's where AF/BBs comes in AFBB is a fairy tale made up by grifters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:39 AM
2

Guess who suffers in the experience of sex? The man has to pull out or wear condoms. I am rolling my eyes so hard at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:30 AM
3

But you're gonna drive yourself wild waiting for everyone to admit it I'll admit it. I like what I like, and my boyfriend is super hot. Why would I lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:27 AM
1

And?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:00 PM
2

Dude. This was before Napoleon was emperor. He was madly in love with the socialite Josephine when he was still just a scrappy general that no one found hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 07:16 PM
2

You should read Napoleon's letters to Josephine if you think romantic love is a modern idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 04:30 PM
1

If a guy is angry with you, he will try to break your nose. or murder her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:26 PM
1

Why are you doing any of this??
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/25 12:00 AM
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Is anyone stopping you from getting the test? Go get em, tiger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:05 PM
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Not sure what’s hard about that. Dude, take care of your own kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:01 PM
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So what is a normal circumstance? She unilaterally declares she will have a baby, no man needed, gets artificial insemination? No men at fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:57 PM
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OMG we are all just stating facts here!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:54 PM
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Why would anyone answer this question?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:52 PM
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Women are the selectors when it comes to granting access to a relationship and sex. So once again, a woman at the grocery store can just collar you and take you home whether you like it or not because women are the selectors for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:40 PM
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no deadbeat dad can exist under normal circumstances without a woman deciding it so. What logic is this? He "goes out for cigarettes" and never returns. How is that her fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:24 PM
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And an unhappy man will stay to fulfill his duty. While cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:22 PM
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Women are the selectors. Women, both good and bad, have always been the selectors. Why do you guys parrot this line? By this thinking, a woman can walk up to you, point a finger and declare "HIM!" and you have no choice but to follow her home. That's bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:21 PM
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maybe learn next time not to choose that type of guy. But you guys hate single moms and think she should never be allowed to pick anyone since she will be using him for his beta bucks?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:20 PM
1

I had a bisexual boyfriend. He cheated on me with other men and caught chlamydia.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:18 PM
2

and will pay for my life choices How are you paying for her choices in life?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:24 AM
2

So according to you, women with low self esteem got that way (most likely) because they are unattractive. All the women with healthy self esteem are (most likely) hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:28 PM
3

Funny because 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:05 PM
2

Data shows that women tend to accurately estimate their own physical attractiveness and overestimate the physical attractiveness of other women And? They can still have self esteem issues due to strict upbringing, or religion, or bullying, you get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:02 PM
1

Dude, I spend my week working at horse stables.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:00 PM
4

Mmmm not sure about that. I was a smoke show with low self esteem when I was younger. I dated down. It is freakishly common for young women to think poorly of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:31 PM
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Men are hypergamous by nature. They want a woman who is more attractive and younger than them. Yup. I am nine years younger than my man, and I know plenty of cute girls with guys who are not handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:27 PM
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They are not rare. good grief. Can you tell a male black Phoebe from a female black Phoebe? Neither can I. Most bird species where the genders act the same, look the same. Even horses are hard to tell male from female without looking at the genitals, and the genders there have different roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:25 PM
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So low self esteem means someone is not attractive enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:11 PM
4

sounds like she wasn’t attractive enough Where did you get that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:06 PM
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The amount of coddling of men's feelings you're expecting women to do while simultaneously completely disregarding hers reeks of entitlement. Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:25 AM
6

r/whenwomenrefuse
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:24 AM
12

Ick!! Just reading this is gross. I am sorry this happened to you at Whole Foods of all places.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:17 AM
1

Count me shocked too. I remember trying to get this one guy I was hanging with (in a group) to pay for my hot chocolate and he made a scene at the restaurant to shame me. Never asked for anything from anyone again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:48 AM
3

We all know the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:00 PM
0

There is a perception on the internet that confident, social, and flirtatious men are "selfish" or "assholes" but this is usually the viewpoint of unsuccessful men who are jealous You cracked the code.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:34 PM
1

Ya know, I wish I had been treated like a princess by my parents but instead I got strict disciplinarians. When I look at the outcomes of the princess girls, they turned out more successful in life than I did. So ...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:34 PM
6

I read both true crime and historical war fiction. Now that you mention it, they are both about innocent people being killed...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:50 PM
5

Could someone please define princess treatment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:08 PM
1

Same. I do farm work and push heavy wheelbarrows, much better than a gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:55 PM
2

I have never seen this play out in real life. People fall in love, get married, then things do sideways. Who do you know that fits your weird scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:16 AM
5

pay for this foolishness They cannot help showing their own cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:31 PM
3

Some of the men here would love that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:30 PM
3

but yes you females are privileged. You receive more than you give. I'll be sure to tell my boyfriend that. Maybe he will pay for the brake job on my car. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:14 PM
1

If you believe in God and the Bible you want to worship him and be around other believers. There is a verse about keeping one day of the week for god and so Christians made that Sunday and made it church so we go.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:16 PM
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At my old church, whenever anyone got divorced they would just switch to a new church where no one knew them. Saved face.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:22 PM
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Delerium tremens?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 11:44 PM
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An alcoholic can stop drinking, and I have seen it happen for decades so yes, behavior can change. Accountability is wonderful for personal growth and apologizing to people you hurt...but trust has to be earned. And why would I trust the meth head who crashed his last three cars? Yes, I am talking about someone I knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:36 PM
11

Smart girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:33 PM
1

Star Trek has a comprehensive answer to this question but women aren’t generally into Star Trek 🤷 Oh come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:31 PM
2

Why would I dump my hot as fuck boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:30 PM
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Don't you ever love?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:02 PM
1

Gonna have to disagree with you, chief. My short gorgeous boyfriend would too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:01 PM
12

Same. I like what I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:58 PM
1

Also some blue pill people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 05:09 PM
2

The way a brain works does not calculate bank accounts, it sees faces and receives words and body language and other signs of sex appeal and goes off that. Someone who is lazy as the day is long could also be rich due to inheritance but it would not make them attractive. Laziness is a turn off. Brains interpret actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 05:02 PM
4

I'm been in situations where women have been in my face, saying hurtful shit So have I. When you are older you will have more perspective on the cruelty of human beings, and it's very easy to forgive peccadilloes and foibles of youth. When you have seen true evil, and it's not rare, these stories will pale and fade into "who cares?" just by scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:43 PM
2

that's a doozy of a story. You must be young if you think this is a doozy of a story, no offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:34 PM
4

Do you think that because he was unattractive that he did nothing wrong? We were TEENAGERS and did stupid things to each other. No one was a villain here, we were just young.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:24 PM
2

Same. Attraction has nothing do do with income.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:21 PM
3

I was 18 and had many options but my best friend (who was jealous, it turns out) nagged me to be less shallow and "stop going for the physical" so I dated a guy friend who was not even slightly attractive and that was wrong. I stayed with him for a little over a year but mostly because my home life was in chaos and I needed a place to stay on the weekends and his parents let me sleep in the guest room. I cheated on him but told him upfront I was going to do it, and just generally was not as nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:18 PM
4

Oh lord, I did that when I was young, it was very cruel with good intentions and I will never do it again. He got HURT.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:06 PM
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I absolutely feel guilty about the guys I hurt when I was a teenager, so I reached out and apologized through email long ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:00 PM
3

Oh that just sucks. I dated a guy who did cold shoulder and sulked all the time, and I lost attraction. What a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:49 AM
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Probably he hamstered the failure away as some version of "she turned out to be xxxxx" instead of recognizing his blunder.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 04:40 PM
3

That is sad. Did he own up to his error?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 04:37 PM
10

Hell, the current 6ft craze is absolutely societally conditioned. Correct. I remember the 80s when Tom Cruise, Prince, and Michael J. Fox were the teen heartthrobs. All short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 02:18 AM
6

Naw, I fell in love just as hard at 44 with my current boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:37 PM
1

So don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:36 PM
6

My high school boyfriend of two weeks was the most powerful "love" I experienced for decades afterwards, and he dumped me for unclear reasons (we were 15 and 16) so I spiraled for a whole two years. Never let people tell you that teenage love is not real, those feelings I had then were just as genuine and the same as falling in love (mutually) when I was 44.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:08 PM
2

I have seen this first hand and it's self sabotage but they cannot face that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 02:40 PM
4

He is going to say AFBB.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 02:30 PM
2

You could gender flip this. Hypergamy is genderless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:01 PM
9

OP never considered that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:59 PM
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women throw around to absolve themselves of accountability i Accountability for what? Liking her boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:10 PM
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It has always been misogyny, it will always be misogyny. That is the foundation and it will never change. I wonder how much the grifters themselves bought into it vs. peddled it for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:08 PM
1

during the "heyday" of Return of Kings and similar dinguses. oh wow this brings me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:06 PM
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When’s Santa Claus coming again? Why? Do you have a thing for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:05 PM
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Sometimes they waffle it or walk it back when confronted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:52 PM
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Can you further explain the “nature of women” here? What exactly do you mean by that? What is their nature? He means we just use men. Not love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:43 PM
5

So you've got everything all figured out at age 16,
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:05 AM
4

Same. I had a boyfriend only 3 years older and I felt uncomfortable about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:48 PM
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HIS HIS HIS I caught that too. Apparently she owns nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:41 PM
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Marriage was invented in the dark ages lol. Uh, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:36 PM
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"I'll never walk down that island"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:02 PM
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Short man syndrome is when a guy acts like a dick and like he is over compensating in the worst way possible. Exactly. I had a boss like this once and I still cannot understand why he was such an asshole right off the bat, to me and everyone else. I date short guys, I was never snarky to him, so why was he a prick?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:52 PM
4

The age at what you get married should never be planned. You can't plan love AMEN brother!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 03:07 AM
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I am in my fifties so my plan WAS to get a degree, get a job, work and pay bills. I have done that and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:32 AM
4

What did the stats say?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:15 PM
35

What would you suggest we do about this terrible problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:59 PM
-1

He is pretty hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:54 PM
2

I pay my taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:38 PM
-1

What career is this? Nursing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:43 AM
1

Young men in particular don't despise women enough. How's that working out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:42 AM
4

Why did you not elaborate when I asked?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:24 AM
5

I asked you to explain your side and you refused. So I asked if this is what you meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:17 AM
3

Do what makes you happy idc. Yay! I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:58 AM
7

all laws and obligations put on men must be abolished.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:54 AM
5

So you want murder and rape to be legal because dating is unfair?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:50 AM
8

If dating is truly to be unfair and amoral, all laws and obligations put on men must be abolished. What does this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:42 AM
8

Maybe he confuses feminism with radical feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:39 AM
3

ignoring everyone who doesn't have exactly the image you're looking for is just as likely to get you hurt as at least trying to be open to growing together. So we should settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:05 AM
5

It was really bad in the old days of black and white movies. Marilyn Monroe running around in a bikini playing with the dog while Clark Gable sits fully dressed in a beach chair looking old enough to be her dad. That was normal in old films. Dating a guy your dad's age. Yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:24 PM
9

Dude, it's no one else's business if someone wants to break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:15 PM
11

Who are you to decide if someone else in a relationship has a deal breaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:11 PM
19

So you want people to stay in shitty relationships for no reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:49 PM
23

It's like people just run away from responsibilities. Why is it anyone's responsibility to get married or have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:45 PM
9

Yeah, and its tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:36 AM
0

women are neither as smart, deep and thoughtful as they think they are and are generally extremely swallow creatures whose idea of a hobby is putting Netflix on and eating three tubs of ice in an evening. Dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:00 PM
4

My boyfriend is gorgeous like a model but he is shorter than I am. It never even occurred to me to care about this and yet the guys here have also accused me of either settling or being ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:17 PM
10

My boyfriend and I have been together 8 years, and I am baffled at the opinions of many incels. The idea that short men can't find love is so alien to my 53 years on this planet, I don't know what they hell they are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:43 PM
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Don't forget me!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:13 AM
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I been drinking matcha latte protein drinks from Koia and they are GOOD.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:09 AM
3

Sex is absolutely a need. No, this was long disproven here on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:48 PM
11

Abusers come in all types and appearances so there is no easy way to tell who will be an abuser. Men who are desperate do not get a pass. The only man to ever hit me was a gawky engineering student
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:08 PM
11

Have you ever dated men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:00 PM
8

Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:23 PM
1

This is junk science that the manosphere trots out all the time. No proof. I took BC and it had no impact on which dudes I liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 03:05 PM
1

If that's the case, he should be used to it by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:33 PM
2

oh, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 06:48 PM
3

But yeah marrying the wedding person will fuck up your life way more than just being single, and I think that's a much bigger issue. What does this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 06:40 PM
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Millenials did not invent social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 06:09 PM
0

As a woman, I was never informed that I could just "exist" and everything would fall in my lap. Sorry, this memo skipped a lot of us. It was drilled into my head that I had to do everything- be pretty, be charming, be agreeable, never offend, and of course be a soft place to land and a personal therapist. And as for not paying for anything? I missed that memo too. It seems now that the manosphere is angry about women having "privileges" I am looking back and wondering where mine lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:50 PM
1

I'm already tall, handsome and in shape, if not slim (and I'm lean bulking anyway). I smile when I talk. I'm charming. I'm intelligent. I have a good sense of humor. I treat people well. I communicate. I'm emotionally available. I'm consistent. So the only problem could possible be the paying for dates thing? NO other reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:35 PM
9

Agreed. What I find attractive and what Martha finds hot are two completely different men, so how is it quantifiable?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:13 PM
3

nobody is obligated to date you at the end of the day. Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:03 PM
5

::shrug:: You argued that a lonely woman just needs to get skinny and she should prioritize her looks. My best friend was very lonely despite being twiggy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:59 PM
5

Is it weird that I am unable to find a sad lonely unmarried woman over 50? I am 53. Unmarried. No kids. Shouldn't I have lots of cautionary tales by now? Yet I don't. Instead I see sad divorced people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:54 PM
7

So a skinny woman can never be unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:46 PM
4

Best comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:23 PM
1

You have stated an opinion and proven nothing because you have nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:11 PM
0

So men in prison are weak and effeminate but the men outside prison are all stoic Ayn Rand heroes?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:34 PM
0

This has nothing to do with your statement about men following duty and women following emotions. Do you honestly believe that all those men in prison were dutiful?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:38 PM
1

Life teaches women to listen to their emotions their entire lifetime. Men are incentivised the opposite - care less about emotions and follow duty. Holy shit, you could not be more wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:33 PM
1

with men is they want stability because theyre not emotion driven. What??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:32 PM
5

but once a woman see’s her worth the care/harm philosophy kicks in, this is awakened during college especially when she takes certain degrees or classes that teach her this. A woman then looks for opportunities that she needs from a man women do not love HUH?? I do not remember this in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:43 PM
7

Yep, just today I went for 20% of the men I met. As par for the course, I AFBB my way through traffic on the morning commute and CC my way through the grocery store. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:00 PM
3

This.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:13 PM
3

I don't get any of that on my algorithm so it's just your content scrolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 04:41 PM
2

Men and women who have been in relationships aren’t damaged goods. Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:42 PM
2

So dating damages women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 02:49 PM
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Nerd conventions, anime meetups, you name it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 09:33 PM
3

Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:42 PM
3

Worrying about a woman trying to peel away your money ??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:39 PM
16

But I think men run into those neurotic women and just think it's every woman you know? And here's the kicker: her fun past did not make her cray cray, she was already neurotic and so there's no point in beating her over the head. She was always going to be crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:38 PM
7

You still have to worry Or not. Just have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:32 PM
12

“If I’m expected to be stable, healthy, and emotionally available, why should I settle for someone who only discovered the value of those things after the damage was done?” Why not flip the script and be the exciting guy? The adventure? And why assume damage from a fun life?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:24 PM
13

We all want to be someone’s first choice. Their passion. Their excitement. Not just the person they learned to appreciate after the emotional rollercoaster broke their spirit. So no, it’s not that we expect virgins or perfect pasts. It’s that we don’t want to be an afterthought in someone else’s redemption story. Again, you can gender flip this. But in your one-sided narrative, only women make poor choices and only men can be picked last. What about the good girls who are the safe choices after …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:23 PM
11

You nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:56 PM
7

Don't we all? But how does this thinking help him? Everyone over a certain age has a past.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:47 PM
8

So when someone is killed right in front of you, maintain stoicism and just stare in boredom?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:44 PM
-1

That’s the nightmare. That she’s building a life, loving him fully, showing up daily, while he secretly wishes it was someone else doing it. That every time they have sex, his mind wonders back to the girl who made his heart jump. See how easy that was?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:37 PM
8

Sounds self-defeating. If you eliminate any woman who has ever dated before, your choices are limited to weirdos and the very unattractive. So what's the lesson here?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:36 PM
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You guys spend way too much time thinking about dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:24 PM
1

Short and mesomorphic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:30 PM
1

Oh noes!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:20 PM
4

We are stretching definitions of "date" if everytime you guys hit up a Starbucks you consider that a date. By that logic, I go on gym "dates" every weekend with my partner. And grocery "dates" and car service "dates" and you get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:10 PM
4

You could spend less time online and realize hypergamy is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:25 PM
7

I think you need to look within and resolve your trust issues. Oh cool, I just did and confirmed that I am good :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:23 PM
8

Lots of assumptions here. If I am meeting a stranger from the Internet, I want to meet at a Starbucks not too close to my house and I inform my friends of my whereabouts in case I go missing. Some people will go the extra length and have a friend waiting in the parking lot as security. So coffee dates with a stranger are a must. But if we are together for while or know each other from way back, coffee dates are kinda pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:59 PM
2

Precisely. Why ask why? Just find someone else who DOES like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:00 PM
8

Did you not read the part where she says she is a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:50 PM
3

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:26 PM
7

women's rights advocates to have our support with no reciprocal support for our needs. Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:12 PM
4

What's the alternative? If someone is failing at something, just give them a pat on the head?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:49 PM
8

Men are waking up. Women are despicable. Women you once considered ride or die will turn in a heartbeat. So you like men better?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:59 PM
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So how do you know if she “withheld sex” or if it was his choice? Or some other reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:46 PM
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But he was a beta simp for my mom who withheld sex Gross, how do you know this about your parents???
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:22 PM
4

Falling in love with someone, loving them, feels the exact same way as it should the first time (as a teenager Absolutely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:05 PM
11

The person most likely to initiate divorce is the person most likely to benefit from divorce. So, the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:21 PM
2

IME It's because the women have been planning the breakup in their hearts for a long time, and there does not have to be another man at all. She is just done and needs time to process her painful decision before pulling that trigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:16 AM
1

Wise list, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:14 AM
3

What I didn't know is that many many women had the same experience, the guy that they gave a chance, the "nice guy" was the absolute worst. Yup. Never agan.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:49 PM
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She never apologized for it (boomers 🤷) Yeah, this has been a problem. If you get offended by the negging, you are too "sensitive" and can't take a joke. Apologies only happen if I get REALLY upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:32 PM
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My mother struggles to offer constructive criticism because she presents it in the most assholish, insensitive way possible. Mine is just passive aggressive and relentless with criticism. I makes me want to do the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:23 PM
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It sure happened a lot for us Gen Xers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:22 PM
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they just feel however they feel in the moment and act on that. Hence deflection, blaming others, no accountability etc. This does not describe the women I know. Most gals are constantly self-reflecting and beating themselves up over faults real or imagined.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:11 PM
2

I mean, you are technically right that this would wed out a LOT of people. It would also weed out most of your friends. And anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:12 PM
4

I used to get genuinely confused why these guys were so pissed off over 40 bucks. Until you pointed out the Real Reason, and now I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:10 PM
2

Lots of Spice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:13 PM
7

That's not hypergamy, that's having an axe to grind. Thank you for saying this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:04 PM
4

I use The Voice like any Bene Gesserit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:52 PM
6

We have a lot of these moments on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:50 PM
5

Even Schopenhauer said women are children, you're proving him right. OK, this is where I thought this would go- you are looking to Schopenhauer for advice on people. That's like looking in the Bible for how to fix your car's engine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:26 PM
4

Now why didn't I think of that? Gosh, it sounds so fun- sitting there with someone I don't like at some loud restaurant and making cringe conversation just for some buffalo wings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:23 PM
4

I also think with this a lot of it is just them being upset a date didn't work out and they're just looking for a reason to be mad at the woman for that. I had not considered that angle, but maybe you hit on something. They were rejected for being a big sourpuss and no fun at all, and she did not outright tell him why she was not seeing him again so he invents some SHE USED ME FOR FOOD scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:21 PM
-1

If I invite my male friend out to dinner on his birthday, it's not assumed that I'm paying for him. Yes it is. Why are you bring so cheap with your buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:18 PM
1

Don't bring a person to a fancy restaurant expecting them to pay for themselves while knowing that they won't be able to afford even a snack. OMG can you imagine how awkward that would be????
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:12 PM
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Oh my dude, I had a guy try this exact shit test on me (I forgot my wallet in the car! Can you pay?) and I told him to go get his wallet from his car. He sulked and grumped and made no eye contact afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:11 PM
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The exception is when she’s post-wall and beta buxxed some nice guy, in which case that is her choosing a good guy for financial stability over the excitement of choosing an asshole. Yet I have never seen this happen, have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:08 PM
10

Over twice as many women receive welfare benefits than men do. Because they have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:49 PM
1

Sure, as long as he doesn't sit at home all day dong nothing. I don't need a sugar daddy, I just need him to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:52 PM
1

I had no idea what my boyfriend did for a living or how much he made when I fell in love. He was just SEXY and I could never let him get away. But if I found out he was a bum, it would be a downer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:56 PM
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a wardrobe that’s not 90% sweatpants, ratty jeans and graphic tees. I have noticed this about foreigners. The men wear button up shirts and tuck them in, with a belt. Fewer tennis shoes, more cologne.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:53 PM
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off-putting sloppy jeans and a graphic tee with anime or comic book characters on it really is to the average woman. Add a bad haircut and/or a scraggly beard This. If straight men dressed more like gay men do, it would honestly help. And you understand I am not talking about effeminate gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:52 PM
1

If the dudes here actually talked to women, they would find out that many women are baffled by the men their friends find physically attractive. SO TRUE. None of us were panting after our friends' boyfriends. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:48 PM
1

I agree, number 2 is all about height and a loosey goosey rating system that I do not buy into.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:45 PM
5

their behaviour became obsessive. I understand completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:43 PM
9

Yup, when I am crushing on a guy I get tongue tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:22 AM
3

but let’s look at the rate of sex work today as women have more opportunity than ever to work the same as men. Kind of telling. Huh? Just because hookers exist that means all women are hookers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:31 AM
3

I don't think men can comprehend what it's like to have our hormone levels at all. We are simply not pumped full of testosterone so we don't have the same confidence or drive or horniness that they do, so they think we must be lying about not being horny, or we are lying about being scared, or we are exaggerating how depressed we get, or what have you. They hear "studies" about birth control pills ruining us or making us lust after the wrong men or something, they just cannot know what it's real…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:29 AM
5

I think data has shown that, yes, they are, but also women are the opportunistic sex. What data???
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:25 AM
5

But don’t you worry, once the kids are grown up women will cut ties and try, try again. So why did you say this? Are women somehow not capable of love and duty? Are men more virtuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:15 AM
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Eh, your mileage may vary. Menopause made so deeply depressed and anxious that I went on HRT and it saved me. Now science agrees that my experience is a result of my hormones crashing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:13 AM
4

But isn't marrying for love a good thing? Isn't that what men want women to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:05 AM
2

Same! They think we are all outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:29 AM
2

I have seen this a lot when women talk about their partners here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:29 AM
0

You just made all that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:27 AM
2

women have to make their life checklist happen, and necessity becomes a virtue. I guess this happens now and then, but I have never seen it. Women in the west marry for love or don't get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:24 AM
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autistic people have trouble empathising with neurotypicals, but we can empathise with each other, and neurotypicals struggle to empathise with us. I am really glad I read this. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:01 AM
2

None of that was uncomfortable nor was it true
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:12 PM
1

You just made all that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:45 PM
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A furry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:37 PM
2

How am I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:25 PM
1

His marriage to Wallace Simpson was a political connection???? Um, he abdicated his royal throne for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:24 PM
1

I doubt any of them were virgins either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:24 PM
1

It’s about who’s actually worth competing for. Why is everything a competition to you and not just "I like this person and we are compatible and they like me back so let's date"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:15 PM
3

I bet you think toning is real too which is a marketing gimmick used to suck in women. Buddy, you don't know shit about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:11 PM
0

movements like red pill and MGTOW, and we just get called sexist for it, but somehow independent women gets praised. What else can we do? Be better people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:01 PM
1

Curves and the like went out of business because it was a very specific type of workout that was trendy for a few years. And because their hours sucked. If you worked 9 to 5 you could never go.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:59 PM
3

and women take fitness a whole lot less serious than men. So men are making regular doctor appointments and drinking less?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:58 PM
1

Half the people at my gym are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:57 PM
3

but this comes off as pretty patronizing. You’re basically saying that men need to help us poor stupid women change ourselves because we’ll only be motivated if men don’t like us. Just say you want men to make women feel unattractive so we’ll be more likely to chase after you. That was how I read it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:57 PM
2

So you admit to being the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:53 PM
0

Eh, yes and no. King Edward viii married a divorced woman with a reputation. Was he "high value" or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:53 PM
1

and if enough men held higher standards, it would indirectly cause a rethink for a lot of women who do care. No, those women would just find other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 04:47 PM
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That's the only type of relationship worth having with women: A Détente. I think you are pretty safe from any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:39 PM
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It's why every guy I have broken up with in my life his first question was "is there someone else?". And even though there was not someone else, I had just had enough of him, and I told him there was no one else, most of them still ran off and told their buddies "she left me for someone else". The idea that women "always" monkey branch while men don't, is something men tell themselves and then spread amongst each other precisely because it saves them from having to do any introspection on how th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:36 PM
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I don't find gay men repulsive, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:30 PM
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Yup. Here is your bag of useless objects. You have no use for them. Privilege!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:51 PM
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So what, it's still sex right? Any time? Therefore a privilege according to OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:37 PM
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Good news, lots of gay men likely would jump at the chance to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:28 PM
10

sounds fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 04:44 PM
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You should be dating a minimum of 15 guys at any given time. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:46 PM
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Wow, that's all fantasy land. I and most other women are certainly attracted to men. Sorry dude, you need to get out more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:46 PM
-1

You just made all that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:41 AM
-4

So what do women do in a monogamous society? The desirable men get snapped up fast and they're off the market. Everyone has a different type she finds attractive so assortive mating works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:35 AM
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Lifelong virginity and late life virginity rates probably would’ve actually been higher in historical societies than they are now. I believe there were quite a lot of brothels providing sex for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:34 AM
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by flipping the power dynamics, you get to treat the woman just as horribly as they treat men on a daily basis, and really teach them a lesson this way. I see this as a form of resistance and political activism to fight back against the misandrist gynocracy we live in. Call it a tiny step forward in the struggle for justice. So you plan to become an abuser? Ya know, once some woman gives you chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:13 PM
3

Very curious, what is it about short men you like better? More my height, easier to hug and kiss.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:06 PM
2

You pretty much won this whole thread already.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:52 PM
3

I have never met a woman in my life who has said she PREFERS a shorter man over a taller man. I raise my hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:44 PM
2

You have the best comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:09 PM
17

I did this as well. Used to be TERRIBLE at jokes, always bungling the delivery. Now I can make people laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:05 PM
15

20 years ago video games, D&D, comic books, and sports were "for guys". Not even Warhammer is immune. That shit was expressly made for guys, b All false. I have been playing DnD since the 80s, and comic books have always been for girls too. Remember, I am old.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:31 PM
3

To be female is to wander the earth as men sit in smug and confident judgment of women’s value. Women could hand any man clipboards and they wouldn’t even need directions, they’d take a seat and rank every woman who wanders into their field of view and merrily shove her score in her face under the assumption that she cares very much how men feel about her appearance. And we can never opt out of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:40 PM
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I think you nailed it. When a lot of women choose to avoid bad men, it will greatly increase the humber of single people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 03:37 PM
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Maybe YOU do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:33 AM
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Men risk jail time asking a girl for coffee. Yeah, this is just Tuesday for us gals: go to Starbucks, get hit on by some rando, call the cops, watch as they drag him off in cuffs. Then sip coffee. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:50 PM
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there's not one standard, there are billions of personal tastes. We keep trying to tell them this, and they accuse women of lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:48 PM
5

You got my approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:39 PM
14

There is a guy on this very subreddit, purplish possum or whatever, who loves big gals. Talks about it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:36 PM
31

You do realize some men like larger women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:28 PM
5

What if your wife or girlfriend wrote that comment you just made?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:09 PM
2

So who buys you gifts?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:06 PM
6

Important context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:44 PM
7

you typed "her"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:33 PM
9

So she showers her man in gifts, what's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:31 PM
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"I have a friend who often showers her significant other with gifts in any given holiday, he would get me and the boys to stop by a store and we would just follow this guy around while he buys up the whole shop especially on Valentine’s Day." Make up your mind. Are women using men for gifts or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:29 PM
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All men need to be told truthfully that being settled for is a danger they need to watch out for. We tell this to women as well. No one should partner up with someone who is using them. It's not gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:50 PM
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So when someone disagrees with you, they are just gaslighting?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:30 PM
1

That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:26 PM
5

I would argue that the divorce is not WHY his salary shot up, it's just progression of time in his career.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:34 PM
1

Aha! Miss Manners does indeed have the answer for this one: whomever invites, pays. So if I invite someone out, I pay. If it's their idea, they pay. Men on PPD hate this rule of polite society because they have a vendetta against women, and argue that women never invite men out. But I have gay male friends so I know this is crap, and I pay for them all the time when it's my turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:32 PM
7

I have been on this subreddit 7 years and it has changed a LOT. Most of the men here are not in relationships, and maybe never have been. They are angry incels and they want revenge. It used to be red pill men who were divorced or had girlfriends and that is no longer most of them. I used to ask what they meant by "no accountability" or "no sense of responsibility" and it always boils down to us not fucking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:50 PM
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I get asked this, but not as often since I am 52 now and people figured it out on their own. It is my firm belief that people who don't want kids would make bad parents and thus are being good moral humans by choosing not to breed. Tah dah.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:47 PM
5

You know, your responsibility to fuck incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:44 PM
-1

I would feel insulted if a man asked me to dinner and then refused to pay for anything out of principle. Like he just wanted to humiliate me out of revenge on The Sisterhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:20 PM
2

Women's whole biology built as a compromise to reproduce. If something is built for a purpose and doesnt fullfil its purpose, what good is it??? So men are not built to fight and fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:14 PM
5

same here. I met the love of my life at age 44.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:11 PM
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That said everyone will become abusive under the right circumstances Sigh. Don't tell on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:01 PM
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Now that you mention it, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:57 PM
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You are actually benefiting yourself via red pill strategy for women by not engaging in hypergamy as well. Dude, just stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:52 AM
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How was it "down" if we are both struggling? How is making a wise decision for your life "red pilled" and not just old fashioned financial wisdom? Again, there was NO hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:51 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:13 PM
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Clearly she was not down for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:06 PM
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Correct, I am blue pill. I take note that I made mistakes by dating for potential. Notice that no hypergamy was involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:06 PM
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They are all nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:04 PM
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And I do not agree with any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:03 PM
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So we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:02 PM
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I am solidly blue and I have dated Brokies and I regret it and there is nothing red about that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:49 PM
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Why not? Rent is due no matter what pill you take.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:35 PM
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FYI one night stands are really not enjoyable for most women. These types of PPD men really seem to believe we are all out banging strange dick, racking up high N counts. Just...why would we?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:50 PM
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Great. I too have dated men who were unambitious with little income and no drive in life...and I own it and it was stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:47 PM
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Would you date this guy if you were a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:30 PM
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But even if that’s the case, he would probably be a great SAHD. When he's not playing video games, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:23 PM
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people choose the one they like the most. There is no objective x/10 scale for attractiveness, it’s purely subjective. Amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:15 PM
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I’m not hating btw. Your comment just comes off like a lotto winner giving advice on how to get rich. I struggled so damn much before I got my inheritance, it's not even cute. I paid a heavy price in my health and I don't miss it. Maybe I am lucky, but I am also moral and I make th best use of my time on this earth given my medical problems...and this is the best outcome I could achieve. If that money had never been handed to me, who the hell knows where I would be now. But one thing for damn su…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:51 PM
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Best definition yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:36 PM
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still didn’t plan on being lazy or skip finacial planning for my retirement even though I could. Oh trust me, I am not lazy or irresponsible. But I get it you are discussing the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:35 PM
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But what about your situation can you derive pride from? Because it allows me to work a job that I actually care about that helps people in need, and also do charity work on my days off. I create more good this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:33 PM
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If and only if some woman enables that life. Which she clearly did not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:32 PM
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So where exactly in Los Angeles can anyone afford that and raise kids? Hypergamy is just a boogeyman but rent is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:31 PM
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People are human, we Google things, we report what we know. If I found out (hypothetically) that stats proved most people ate their own pets I would have a hard time believing it, to be honest. Sometimes it's hard to reconcile.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:29 PM
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A partner working part time or being stay at home is something that should be discussed and agreed upon by both parties because some people don’t want the pressure of being providers. Pffft, I work part time and I am proud of it. Massive inheritance can allow that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:26 PM
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Part time dual incomes?? Maybe she needed to choose better, as the men here say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:25 PM
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I did not date the smelly ones, I picked better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:16 PM
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How should he support a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:13 PM
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Do you go to these conventions to potentially get a relationship? I have dated 3 or 4 men from nerd conventions, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:11 PM
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I prefer to collect horses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:10 PM
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Modern men are professionals at making the worst choices possible, they will actively shit on and reject good, stable women while pursuing bitches and then wonder why their dating life sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:09 PM
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It's really easy to tell when a guy isn't genuine 99% of the time and I mean comically easy. Not if she is on the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:08 PM
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You need to hit up more nerd conventions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:43 PM
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Most of us are competing for someone, we are picking based on "hey he's cute"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:11 AM
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Ummm, finding a romantic partner is not a group effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:44 AM
4

No, if she was not already attracted to him why bother?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:20 AM
2

None of the blue pill claims can be proven, or replicated under experimental conditions While all of the red pill claims, can In your fantasy world, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:00 PM
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I do like that we live in a time when it is possible and somewhat acceptable to stay single. I hope OP stays single if that is what he wants. Agreed, there should be no stigma for being unmarried.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:55 PM
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Hypergamy is fake AFBB is made up Chad is a myth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:37 PM
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The blue pill act as if it has the intellectual high ground in this topic, while not presenting a single shred of evidence to prove even a single one of their points, despite all these years Because all the evidence backs us up. You guys lost a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:28 PM
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the guy literally talked about how his female friend could have avoided the abuse by choosing the 5’7” guy over the 6’2” guy. When I asked him why height matters in the context of looking for signs of abuse, instead of looking out for actual abusive behavior, he stopped responding to me. Some PPD men actually believe they are unlucky heroes, and if only Stacy chose him he would be SO nice to her...but I have dated all types of guys and the only one to physically assault me was a gawky engineerin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:27 PM
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Thank you, I was not believing him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:23 PM
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I’d suggest that a significant number of them don’t want kids, and have taken great care to avoid having them. Amen, that is me and I am 52. Menopause is a huge relief for some of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:19 PM
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My best friend is the provider in her marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:45 PM
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This comment cracked me up the most in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:25 PM
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I am not surprised by the answers from the men here. Not one bit. They are shut ins themselves, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:41 PM
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Cortisols are not voluntary, and force your body to pack on the pounds. Ask me how I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:13 PM
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Yes the people posting on this thread are mostly young and have yet to experience the effects of age or illness on their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:04 PM
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Where a lot of this argument falls flat, is that you see many women have “post breakup glow-ups” where they start to go the gym, get fit, and dress better. I can speak on this one. Stress hormones like cortisols make me fat, and when I am in a stressful situation for a long time, such as a bad job or a bad relationship, I gain weight. This despite constant exercise and healthy food choices. So...after I leave the bad situation I am relaxed and happy and I lose twenty pounds since my cortisol lev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:02 PM
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How are the single people on Asia who don't have a partner skinnier than single people in the US? How do you explain it? Very good question. Is it genetics or culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:59 PM
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then it may be more helpful to be brutally honest and tell the man why she wouldnt personally have sex with him. Uh, too risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:53 PM
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Get off the internet, it's poisoning your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:37 PM
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Good thing it's not real life then.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:35 PM
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/thread
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:43 PM
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It’s the treasure trail. I had to explain to my boyfriend what this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:52 PM
2

Anecdotal: I grew up with only sisters (lots) and men continue to baffle me. Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:20 PM
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We were all told to get ready for the Tribulation like it was some post apocalyptic fantasy game. Just...weird to think how many people went along with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:43 PM
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Within ONE generation (sometimes even less) the children of immigrants have largely abandoned their parents conservative ways and are adopting western values - wearing western clothes, eating western food, marrying later, having fewer children or no children at all, sending their daughters to university, having children our of wedlock. Same where I live. It's mostly Asian immigrants and their kids are completely Americanized. Culture is just things like food choices at that point...all the rest …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:39 PM
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What an incredibly agriculturalist perspective that marginalizes nomadic people and their way of life Also ignores all the women who tilled the land and oh hey, made the children join in with farm work. Literally everyone on the farm worked the land.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:36 PM
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That sums up my 8 years on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:35 PM
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Growing up my aunts ultra religious family was always talking about “the end times” and “the left behind” books and movies. My uncle died bitter waiting for a “rapture” that never happened. This is my family too. Where was our Armageddon? Who is the Antichrist? Why are we still here after being told over and over the party is ending?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:16 PM
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Just as you dog pile me with “excuses” and “reek” “skill issue” and a tense and angry tone. Why are you offended that women literally give you the same energy back? It's so weird that they cannot see themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 04:26 AM
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I thought I was dating a sensitive artist Been there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 04:22 AM
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that commenter went on to admit that he himself would never move in with a female partner who was also a homeowner bc he wouldn't want to pay her rent, wouldn't want to actively help pay off her mortgage, and wouldn't want her to have "that degree of control over his life" Yeah, I have seen this over and over in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:25 AM
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I was about to say this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:51 PM
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Huh? Are you saying I am dominant over my boyfriend because he is brown?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:44 PM
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And self defeating to believe any of this. How is any man helped by defeatism?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:46 PM
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Just the other day in fact, I was berated because of my preference for short brown ethnic men. I must be fat or ugly, or I am delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:41 PM
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As someone who’s been rejected for having small boobs and made fun of by men Yup. I was told I am not a "real woman" and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:36 PM
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I've also been berated by men. Apparently I'm an ugly antisocial loser because normal women wouldn't like that? They do this to me too, here on PPD. It's telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:34 PM
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Whenever I try and explain my preferences on this sub, I am told I must be lying or I am just ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:34 PM
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What color is the sky in your world?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:40 PM
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In my experience and observations, the men that play around and cheat are not more attractive, they are just less moral.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:23 PM
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So why care about those women? Small minority and all, just find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:12 PM
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Yeah, I am always puzzled by their stinginess about "who pays for dates" and then I remember they have no friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:59 PM
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Which do you think is more common? People date and marry the same types and there is no AFBB. Exceptions are just exceptions, but why would anyone want to marry someone they do not like?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:56 PM
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Source: 7 women you happen to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:52 PM
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Wouldn't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:48 PM
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It's basically just one, top male with several women Oh I forgot that my boyfriend has a harem, I should call them up and arrange a tea party.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:46 PM
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Attraction cannot be negotiated, but mainstream advice is to fake it until you make it, or just try harder. It doesn't work and people should stop pressing couples to stay together who are not a good match. I guess that is "blue pill" and it's wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:27 PM
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And why is that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:44 PM
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