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Well... I hope one day you'll see what I'm talking about (or try to).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:04 PM
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Ok. So now imagine sex is a part of your daily life of most days. Great days, Bad days, exciting evenings, tired early nights... It's always possible, always nice but sometimes more than others. Do you think you'd experienced it the same way ? Probably not. That's what I'm talking about. Edit : I'm not trying to insult you. I asked to highlight how expérience affects one's pov.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:59 PM
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Ok. Still doesn't adress the subject. To make it more clear : how many times do you have sex per week ? For how long did you maintain this frequency ? Can you count it by years ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:40 PM
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Oh thanks !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:32 PM
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Lol to the non referenced visual coming right from your ass. I'm not talking about sex drive, I'm talking about how sex becomes some usual, easy, comfortable thing. It has a charm on its own, which is different from the excitement of discovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:31 PM
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Lol to the non referenced visual coming right from your ass. I'm not talking about sex drive, I'm talking about how sex becomes some usual, easy, comfortable thing. It has a charm on its own, which is different from the excitement of discovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:30 PM
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Well that's not exactly what I was saying. The romance doesn't have to end, but it certainly evolves. I woudn't trade my long term perfectly known hubby to any new more "exciting" situation. What we built and learnt together is irreplaçable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:50 PM
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Totally. It still feel special, but like a nice and privileged moment feels special compared to the rudeness of life. It's comforting, not overwhelming. And frankly that's totally ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:47 PM
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Sorry to break it to you all, but somewhere through the years of adulthood sex stops to feel like a discovery and looses some excitement. It's not even about libido or anything. It juste becomes a well known territory. Yes, it's warm, it feels good and makes you feel close to your SO, but it's not the great unknown it used to be. Maybe that's part of an explanation for so much dead bedrooms in LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:37 PM
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For the record, it is talking about since the 19th century. Nothing new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:42 AM
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Yeah... I bet your promotion of a retrograde lifestyle depriving women of knowledge, perspectives and autonomy has nothing to do with any agenda. You tell on yourself with the premisse that women and women only waste their time in university and don't do well in the job market. That's just not true. Maybe you have some regrets or bitterness, maybe you're just pushing some delusioned conservative propaganda.. I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:12 AM
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Oook. A conspiracy it is. Just for you know, there are places in the world where unis are cheap or even free, because there are public services.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 07:56 AM
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Man you're so wrong. If only you could see the bond my son and hubby have together. Baby is 18 months, always asking about his dad, looking for him, calling him to play. They have the most loving and beautiful relationship. My SO is able to take care of him as much as myself, in a different style but providing the same amount of comfort and love. I had an emergency C section so baby had his first hour of skin to skin with his dad, while the docs put me back together. He didn't have the choice to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:16 PM
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Men can be more than relevant in childcare before 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:02 PM
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Lol, an expert.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:02 PM
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They definitely are. I know mine is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:42 PM
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I got a degree in psychology I definitely use as a full time psychologist. I had my first kid at 31, went back to work when he was 5 months and kept breastfeed him for several months after. He just flourishes in day care, never cries to go, plays with other kids his age, has fun and learns a lot. A perfectly happy little boy, except for a bad teething. We plan to try for a 2nd next month, and that I will go back to work half time around the 6th month of the baby, for a period of 6-12 months. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:41 PM
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Bigotry + antifeminism. All about control right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:55 PM
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Tbh, any kind of religion. I respect everybody and all, but not for me please
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:23 PM
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/s ? A joke ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:26 PM
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Not inside the wedlock, but it is absolutely the case for concubines and couples united under our "civil union", which is about half the births here because our social expectations about it is not that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:05 PM
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Not inside the wedlock, but it is absolutely the case for concubines and couples united under our "civil union", which is about half the births here because our social expectations about it is not that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:04 PM
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Yes, to abandon a child is immoral. To not be absolutely clear about their intentions of being a father or not as soon as the pregnancy is known is immoral too. I can understand it in cases where the couple is young, not that serious or commited. If the man is clear about his intentions, the woman has the choice to keep the baby alone or abort, and I think it's fair. The case where a father tries to contest his paternity later is not what I was referring to, and obviously awful. But he's very un…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:00 PM
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No, it's because paternity here is not about genetic but the will to take responsability for a child. The word of a man is enough, nobody cares if he's the biological father or not. There's that, and our providential state allowing family support, child support and even more for isolated parents. We don't need to pursue unwilling genitors for support because mothers and children are already taken care of (more or less). We had a natalist policy for a long time, granting many privileges to people…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:35 PM
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So... Do you have sources ? Cause nothing forces a man to claim a woman's child, unless they're married. Are you sure you're not talking about a situation where the legal father is ordered by court to pay child support ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:23 PM
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I'm not, but I'm in a middle of my day you know...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:18 PM
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Are you talking about something in particular ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:17 PM
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Do you have sources of that ? I'm pretty sure is quite complicated to force paternity into someone out of the blue like that. Plus it's not the culture of the place. Everything is made to preserve men's privileges, like the mother having no say about who claims her children in the first place. When I was pregnant, my SO and I realized that anybody could register as the father of our unborn child until he did the papers, and we would have been forced to undo it, with a long and complicated proced…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:56 AM
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Yes. For unmarried parents, which is almost 50% of births here, it's not up to the mother to declare the father of her child, but to the man. He needs to register at the city hall and officially claim the newborn as his own. It's a perfectly free choice, he has no pressure to do it, so in a case of a "baby trap" he can just refuse the responsability. The counterpart being that if he didn't do it within the first year of the baby, he losts the possibility to have his paternity recognized and any …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:13 AM
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Well France grants men and women reproductive rights they don't have in the US right now, like abortion and possibility for men to not take the responsability of a child they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:31 AM
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And why is that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:20 PM
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Yes. It's not even that uncommon to see some men in the women's toilets when they accompany their children. We shouldn't care. Or better, toilets should be unseparated in the first place don't you think ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:43 AM
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I've always done it without a 2nd thought. I'm discreet, I don't look to the urinals direction, I'm barely noticeable. More and more places offer non separated toilets nowadays. I'm more than ok with it since the distinction always felt artificial and unececessary. So basically I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:14 AM
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Yeah, do you have stats for medical personel, nurses and maids working double shifts, day and night at the hospital ? What's the gender partition ? They have been there at their post on every battle fields, you know. The other went to work in the industries while men were fighting the WWI and WWII in Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:21 PM
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Man, if he became a couch potato I'd pull his ass to the doc and support him through this depression (what else could it be ?). I woudn't leave him unless he makes the choice to go down instead to fight and heal. I'd let him take the time he needs to do it. So yes, I'd pull his weight in these circumstances. I don't care if someday he wakes up and tells me he needs to do another, less well paid job. He'd have my support for whatever activity he wants to switch with. We would probably move in a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:14 PM
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He's not pulling my weight. The part of my income dedicated to the family is bigger than his, even if it represents less money. The nicer things we have due to his money are nice, but not necessary. Plus, I do pull my weight by commited most of my time, money and dedication to him, our life together, our child, our future. Everything I do goes for us all. A relationship is not an economic transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:26 PM
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I'm sorry, but no. My SO earns significantly more than me, but I work a lot too, we both spend most part of the day at work, we both go home tired and looking for a rest, and we both want to live in a clean and nice house, have clothes to wear and a good homemade meal in our plates for dinner. There's work that needs to be done in order to get all of that, it represents more than what one person can do on their own, so we both need to work on it. That's just it. Honestly you sound like you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:33 PM
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I think I have always been awake. I have always knew how pressing the zone between the legs felt good. When I discovered what it was about in my childhood, I was horrified and took a long time to get back to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:56 PM
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We need to also give men an analogous right to abortion as well as protecting fathers rights more strongly. -> It's possible. Just for example, French law allows it very easily, contrary to the general belief here. But you US guys are not ready for the social system required to make it sustainable for the mother and the child. I'm talking about a complete change of paradigm here, that probably won't ever happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 10:15 PM
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We try, the thing is babies are constantly sick or teething, they need their parents badly whenever they feel unwell. So it's never a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:43 AM
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8 years of relationship with my man, a life built together, a civil union, a wonderful little boy, plans for the future including a second baby in the few monthes to come... An ever lasting romance, deep love, very alive sex life... And yet, since I went back to a full time job after my maternity leave I'm so overwhelmed that my libido and investment in the relationship are bombing. Once I did my work and took care of the baby and the house, there's nothing left, except for some personal time. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:33 AM
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I don't really care. But the thing is I'm 32 and a mother. If I was ever single again I would like to have a boyfriend who is able to relate to my experience life and understand it at a deep level. So probably someone who's been married and have children too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:09 PM
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In your scenario, both husband and wife are miserable. Should they divorce and try to find their happiness elsewere ? Or stay in the statu quo and try to live like this ? Frankly it's up to them. A third way is possible if they try to restore their relationship, reviving some romance, including affection and sexuality. They should also consider how their unhapiness affect the kids, cause it always does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:14 AM
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Man you have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 12:59 AM
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What a great advice ! I know exactly what. You're awesome !
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:32 PM
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Not to me no. My first answer would have been his point is to be a lover. We started our relationship with a 50/50 dynamic but I just can't keep up. And that's not gonna get better with a 2nd baby and me making a pause in my work because you just don't have a choice with 2 under 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:30 PM
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Thanks. You're right. I believe I'm a valuable part of the team too. But I feels odd to feel like our life fits so perfectly in the statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:25 PM
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Yes. And also, it almost feels like I shoudn't have all these nice things. I didn't earn them right ? They're not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:21 PM
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How do I make myself a victim here ? Victim of whom ? Of what ?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:20 PM
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My man got a nice pay rise and a bonus this year. He just bought a wonderful vintage library furniture for the living. He also wants to offer us a brand new set of laundry washer and dryer to make our life easier, with the baby and all. It's expensive enough to represent 1 month of my salary. We've been together for 8 years, he has always earned more than me, mainly because of our respective careers choices. I've always felt grateful for his generosity towards me, but I feel a bit uncomfortable …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:36 PM
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"In France, affairs are considered a private matter." What do you mean ? You think it's considered somehow ok or acceptable in a relationship ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 04:42 PM
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Not really no, not objectively of course. I have a good life and I'm grateful. I meant I keep thinking about these aspirations and ambitions, and believe I still could get back to it. Like, when baby will be older and I could do some adaptations with my job to have time for a thesis. The defeat would be to renunce completely to something I really want..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 12:57 PM
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I feel I missed some things I would have liked to do in my 20's, like a PhD instead of leaving uni right after my degree, or traveling more with my man before we had a baby. But I don't feel defeated yet. [EDIT] I'm a 32yo woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:16 AM
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Most people dont want more than 1-3 children. Westerners have the means to limit their birthrate. That's why. Hubby and I have a 1 year old and absolutely love it. We plan to start for a second child this spring, we'd like them close in age. I can imagine having a 3rd, but it probably won't happen. Beyond 2 of 3 children, the house work needs a full time dedication, and frankly I don't want this life. I want to keep working my job that I like so much. I want some time to myself, to read, workout…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:19 PM
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Therapy can help to recognize earlier when a relationship is going nowhere, or not in the direction one hopes. It helps to identify how and why the failure happens, and to make better choices. I woudn't call it "lower" one's standards. On the contrary, being able to meet someone who shares your plans for the futur and reciprocates your feelings sounds an amazing improvement of standards to me !
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:07 PM
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Right, because interactions with environnement is not a factor at all. Human beings don't learn. They don't relate to culture to the point where any "natural" phenomenon belongs to a complex web of significations. And this has never been studied and writen about either. You're right. Whatever you do, never open a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:45 PM
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No I woudn't. I'm in a 8 years old LTR, happily unmarried. We have a baby, plan for another one this year, and I feel safe enough to consider a ~1 year pause in my carreer to care of the children. To be fair, we do have contracted some sort of "lighter" civil union,and we talk about getting married after the 2nd child. It's totally common in my european-secular country. Half the families or so live like this. There's no difference between married and unmarried couples when children are involved,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:38 AM
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Oh, I understand. How do you do with that goal ?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:44 AM
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There's a belief here about how built and perfect a man needs to be to attract a partner, or to maintain attraction in a LTR. My example is the one of a man with a totally average body, not working on it at the moment, and enjoying a passionate and loving romantic/sex life. That's all. A sip of a normal, attainable, reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:38 AM
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People prefering muscled men ?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:32 AM
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I like skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:25 AM
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Nothing wrong at all
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:25 AM
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My man is 5'9 136 lbs. Our BMIs are exactly the same. He used to run a lot and play soccer but he had to stop due to an injury. We do hiking together rn, he's trying to heal. Still, I'm very excited for his body.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:13 PM
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No, being approached is boring because your friends are the ones you actually want to talk to. Not some random dude, attractive or not is not the issue if I don't care to meet anyone new. To fantasize on naked women right in front of you feels a bit like cheating to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 08:02 PM
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To be approached is bothering, and avoidable. Women ignore them, pretend they didn't see, didn't heard, they leave, and if that's not enough they refuse to chat and start to behave less nicely if not totally bitchy. It's easy and common. Most of us have strategies with our friends, code words etc. These guys you're talking about, we just manage to make them not exist at all. In the case we really want to hang out with our friends of course. But someone planning to cheat will always find a way, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:39 PM
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Strip clubs are designed for men to watch women and have boners. Their very purpose are related to sex. Clubs are made to let people dance. Your comparison is just not accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:02 PM
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Have you ever been to a club ? Do you think they're full or naked men ? Do you think women pay to watch them dance ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:55 PM
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I don't know man, to it actually sounds like trust issues. I really like to go out with my friends without our bf/hubbies, and none of us never thought about cheating. Maybe you're the one insecure here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:11 PM
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Yeah they're awful 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:56 PM
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Mmh ok ? I was just mentionning something nice he did (and still does) for me. No it's not exceptional, yes both of us are attentionate and of course that's just what happens between 2 loving people. I just thought the many men in this sub talking about being a player, a bad boy or a beta bucks could use the anecdote. Even more important is to normalize men being an equal parent for children in my opinion. Like botlles in the middle of the night, diappers, sick days at work etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 01:23 PM
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It worked for me because I already liked the guy. When I started to spend nights at his place, he woke me up with a coffee and a fresh baked croissant in bed every morning. Just around that time I decided there woudn't be any other guy, ever, for my entière life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 08:10 PM
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So I just turned from "I'm gonna start trying for another baby in the following monthes" to "I need to see a surgeon from a great hospital of the capital city to talk about the removal of my left ovary". Let's just say the gyno appt didn't go as expected...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 12:11 PM
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Yeah that's just crazy. My child was born perfectly healthy at 36weeks ! I'm 100% pro choice but at this stage of pregnancy it's right to call it murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:29 PM
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You're right in this context. Even if litterature is and always has been a very powerful mean to learn about human nature and character, as well as social dynamics. I'm thinking about actual littérature, not anime
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:15 PM
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In any situation, I'll loose respect for a guy choosing to fight instread of leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:28 PM
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When I go outside, I don't think about attractiveness of people. I'm not looking for some handsome guy and struggling, I'm never excited to the sight of a hot guy I don't know. I'm just not that aware of people around me in the first place, and not interested in them either. So no one feels particularily interesting or repulsive. I just don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:49 PM
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Not at all. What's illegal is to get your child's dna tested without the consent of both the parents, like any medical intervention. But even if you did, legal paternity is not a biological of genetic issue for the law. Nobody cares if you are or not the biolocal father. Paternity is a claim, it's a declaration men make freely. They have the right to ignore a child they conceived and to have no part in their life. They have the right to question a paternity they recognized in the past too, even …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 12:58 PM
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"if the Earth is not flat, how come so many people can't feel its curvature ?"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 12:15 PM
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Libido is not the only parameter to take account to. Affection and partnership are equally important parts of what makes the relationship desirable. In my experience, the more I feel emotionnaly close to my SO, the more I want him, the more my libido is getting high.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:47 AM
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Yes you're probably right. The best option being not to have anything to do with a man thinking like this !
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:53 PM
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At any point of the relationship, asking for a paternity test is implying that said relationship lacks one its most important fundation. Why even go further ? It's not a mariage, it's not a LTR, it's nothing more than a fwb. Of course, trusting your SO prior to even think about building a family with them should be a no brainer. What kind of parents are you going to be if the very root of your plans for future is already rotten, or never existed in the first place ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:35 PM
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I am a mother. And a wife. We never had any trust issues in 8 years. He never questionned his paternity with our child, because all over these years we learnt to trust each other and had the opportunity to weight how commited we were to our shared life. That's the kind of environnement you want for a child to be born.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:23 PM
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Thank you ! Sometimes I feel like no one here understands what all of this implies...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:18 PM
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So your view on mariage looks like a probation. Get it. Most people don't need that and just trust their trustworthy partner after a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:53 AM
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You better be certain of the trustworthy of you partner BEFORE you even dream about having a child with them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:47 AM
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In a healthy couple's life, trust is proven on a daily basis. You just don't need all the drama and accusing your SO of cheating over one of the most important step of your lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:44 AM
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In that scenario I'd refuse a paternity test and I'd broke up with the father. I'd probably had an abortion if possible, as I really woudn't want to be a solo mother. If not possible, up to the father to be present in the child's life or not. I won't stop him. That's very simple : a man who asks for a paternity test implies that I would have cheated on him in the most irresponsable way, put both of us at risk of STD, got pregnant and then lied about this pregnancy in order to make him pay or wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:38 AM
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Hubby is 40yo. 5'9 and 143 lbs. Has a good job he adores. Drives a family car with a ridiculous yellow color that he bought from his dad. Can't do sport since a bad knee injury. Work from home 3days/week in order to be there for his family. Is a wonderful and dedicated father for our 1yo. Provide ~2/3 of our income, because of the disparity of our careers and the fact he's 7 years older than me. Had a receding hairline when we met, and is clearly balding now 8 years later. Is a careful and passi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:25 PM
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My husband earns about 3-4 times my salary. We do have a child. Now here's how we split the bills : The house is only his. He bought it alone, he pays the loan, the bills and taxes related to the house, anything concerning his own ownership. When we (he) extended the house to make room for future childen, I offered us a new kitchen with all the équipement, because this house is my home too and I wanted to participate, even a little. I save money from the rent I don't pay, and I plan to buy somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:00 AM
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F32 - M39 It'll be 8 years together in March. We have sex from once a week to 2-3 times a week. Sometimes less when we have a hard week, sometimes more when all the stars align. At the beginning of our relationship, it was around once/twice a day maybe ? with exceptions. We have a 10 month old. We had to stop having sex around the 8th month of pregnancy because it gave me contractions, and waited a couple of months to do it again after the birth. My libido was a bit down for 6-7 months, mostly b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:21 AM
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More than anything, you sound disgusted by man body and sexuality. To the point that previous partners or encounters are supposed to damage or ruin a woman. That sounds crazily hateful for...men. Heal your relationship with your own body, dude. There's nothing wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 09:53 AM
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Honestly, we really enjoyed our past lockdowns. He worked from home, I just had free time cause the facility I worked at was closed. So much time to spend together in our freshly bought old little house. We worked a lot and made a home of it. We had a lot of sex. We wrote songs for our band and grew some vegetables in our garden. It was a wonderful time. Now with our 10mo, it could be more difficult, as daycare would be closed and I got a job at the hospital now and would have to go everyday. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:52 PM
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Hubby is putting to bed our crying, teething, extremely unsatisfied baby, and he's doing it like a champ. And that, my friends, is the secret of a long LTR and a lasting through the years sex life. Presence at home, dedication, partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:20 PM
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Excitement and adventure, yeah sure. Like light hearted non commited funny relationships. Why would it have anything to do with dark triad ?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:37 AM
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I probably could have met my SO on my campus, or at the little live music club we both liked before we met. I would have been like : "OMG he looks so nice and cool. Let's go order a drink at the bar right next to him". From there, I would have take any pretext to start talking to him (probably the band playing that particular night) and I would have tried to determine if he were interested or not. Knowing him, he could have been too much polite to respond actively to my flirt. Or he could have d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 06:19 PM
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He answers, it opens a discussion about our relationship, our dynamic, what we do good and what we miss as a couple, our needs and how to fullfill them etc. We have the same deep (human) needs. Just not always at the same moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:33 AM
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Being obsessed by your own image and body shape doesn't sound very smart to me...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:17 PM
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Never been interested
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:26 PM
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I like smart guys 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:19 PM
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I know it takes a lot of efforts, and that's exactly why I don't like guys with muscles. The time they spend at the gym looking at themselves like little Narcisses is lost for any other interesting shit going on in their life. Friends, hobbies, passion... They have nothing except a self consciousness about their belly buttons... That's boring. And sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:02 PM
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I think they do. My SO thinks I'm hot when he watches me play my bass, be an expert in my field or success in anything. When I'm the one bringing some new kicking artist or new song (that's rare). When I handle our baby and make him sleep in no time or cook my speciality for us. I'm hot in his eyes when I win one of our hard and animated debates. Looks are an empty shell if we don't like and appreciate each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:56 AM
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I love his sincerity. I was impressed when I met him, by the courage it takes to actually be franc and direct about your feelings. He felt vulnerable, but I felt like I've never met a bravest man. He's just like this, honest and upright. I love his cleverness also. He's a brilliant guy, I value this a lot. We have an interesting relationship, and an interesting life together. My 3rd favorite thing about him, related to the first, is his commitment to the goals he pursues. He puts the efforts to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:34 AM
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Dude come on. You're a religious country, whatever you think you are or claim officially. That has consequences over people values and behaviours, and obviously over how you interact with each other. All these headaches about purity, early mariages, slut shaming, teen pregnancies... How do you expect to light heartly get to know people in this suffocating atmosphere ? Add a unhealthy relationship with money, and you got something unsufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:47 PM
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You forgot secular lifestyle, more progressive views, available Sex Ed and Sexual Health. In one word : freedom. Very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:53 PM
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Big Boy is angry that women have self determination. Also he's not sure if work should serve big corporations or be an alternative path to capitalism. That depends on your gender, actually...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:06 PM
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My time is well employed, thanks. It's dedicated to a great cause, helping people in need, contributing to the well being of the community and its members. Not all of us are monsters of egocentrism, I'm sorry you sound so cynical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:20 PM
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You're so funny... Oh so now the only worthy work needs to produce money ? Who's alienated to the corporations now ? Public health doesn't pay, pal. Doesn't mean it doesn't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 11:36 AM
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Yes. My work doesn't produce any wealth or any money, its value is strictly a human one. Doing it as a paid job is the only realistic way to spend that amont of time per day on it. Because you see, I need food and shelter too. My baby needs it, especially if I want give him some time to do all these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:16 AM
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I have to work too. And for your information, child and home care are work as well. I'm just saying that's not enough. People of all times and ages have done and are doing art during their free time. They invent stories. They invent games. They explore their environnement and seek knowledge. The moment they have food and shelter, people look for higher aspirations. The luckiests get to make a living of it, like I do. My job doesn't pay that much, but it's full of sense, accorded to my humanist v…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 08:50 AM
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I disagree. As much as I love my child and my home, it's not enough for me to be happy. I have a job I love, I need to engage in intellectual activities or I just die of boredom.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:51 AM
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1.I don't have children for the sake of society, but if it was an actual parameter, the good choice would be to not have children at all, or adopt some, to light climate and overproduction issues a bit. 2. To look for an exact balance is bit odd, especially because gender costs and privileges start to weight on it long before the birth of the 1st child. No it's not that much. Like I said, some support system. Good, affordable infrastructures to care for young children during the day. Good and af…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:13 AM
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Yes you're kind of right. I'm a new mom in a country where health care, child care, maternity leave and recently a 1 month paternity leave are granted by the state for free or close to it. Same for the school. That helps. A lot. My son has currently a nanny whose salary is half paid by the state, and that's because his father and earn well. I still had my first baby in my early 30's with late 30's hubby, because we wanted to settle our careers, a housse, some stability, before welcoming a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:43 AM
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I don't know stats, but I was the first to talk to my partner, I was the first to invite him at my place after a nice evening, I was the first to say I love you. He kissed me first. He invited me to our first weekend together. He proposed for our civil union (a sort of "lighter" mariage).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 05:25 PM
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In mine, for example. France. Legal fatherhood has nothing to do with biology, it's about a man claiming a child as his own. You take yourself to the city hall, you state that you recognize Baby X, born from Mrs X, as your child and that's what makes you a father. That's the way you give your last name too. You can do it before the birth, or until the 3rd day after birth to have plain parent rights over the child. It you take more than a years to do so, your name appear on the birth certificate …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:51 AM
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That actually exists in some countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:27 PM
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About this subreddit, RP men here don't need anybody to harm the image of men in general. They insist to paint them all as shallow, driven by their impulses, unable to any sort of self control or rational decision... Who needs enemies with avocates like that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:00 PM
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Oh, and what are you doing right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:40 PM
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Most of people don't react like that... Why the generalization ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:02 PM
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It's call natality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:18 PM
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I prefer a woman for a gyno, but in any case I trust their knowledge. It has nothing to do with personnal experience, it's about how well this person studied and became an expert in their medicine speciality. Since my recent pregnancy and the birth of my child, I really care less. I had SO many appointements, so many people looking and touching me, that I just got used to it. I had a male midwife at the hospital the day my baby was born, he was the most attentive and careful. He took care of my …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:10 AM
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I met my partner when I was 24, he was 32. Now that I'm almost 32 and have a child, if I had to go back to dating (sadly), I woudn't take seriously any man below 30+. 32-40 would be my range. I'd like someone at the same stage in life, preferably a father maybe...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:22 PM
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What's so unrealistic about it ? A master degree is ~5 years, meaning people are able to start their careers around 23. Let's say 26/28 if you want to do a PhD. By that time, the ones wishing to have a family probably have met their long time partners and are living their best romantic years with them, as well as planning a stable future to start making kids in their late 20/early 30. What's the problem here ? The woman of the video is struggling with fertility issues and a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:08 PM
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Depends on the culture you're from. Where I stand, marriage is only one way to be in a ltr among others, including living together or having a civil union at the city hall (not a marriage). In that perspective, forever girlfriend is not even a thing, just a non married couple. I personnaly find it odd and unaware to marry someone after only one or two years of relationship, or before few years living together. I wouldn't, because relationships need way more time than that to prove themselves hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:19 PM
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Same here. It's even free under some conditions. For minor girls and until 24yo I think, or if you have a prescription from a doc. But it's cheap anyway so... Men often like to buy it, as a symbolic way to share the burden. That's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:22 PM
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From my experience, the lack of sex after birth mostly comes from post-partum itself. I mean the hormonal drop and its effect on your mood, the more or less mess pregnancy has left your body, the pain, the blood, the fact that your whole world now revolves around a new born who needs you 24/24 to survive. Yes, lighthearted things like date and sex are not the couple's priority for a while, and that's ok. Plus, if you want to brestfeed, you need to know that it can affect your libido. So there're…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 06:28 PM
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Probably.. 1.done my job he disapproves 2. bought my baby vaccines for his pediatrician appointement tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:32 PM
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I prefer a man from the 2nd category, because I dedicate myself to the same values as well. That's something I share with hubby and probably a key of the success of our relationship. Not particulary gendered, but still I'm not interested in men of categories 1 and 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:46 AM
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My opinion on him woudn't change if he refused to be a part of a war. He and I never knew any violence in our country, he's a peaceful intellectual guy, and we have a child. I don't need a hero, I don't need my beloved one to raise against the world's forces and defend democracy with his bare hands. Sorry, I need him alive, close to me and our child. Now, if he was under conscription, he probably won't fight on a battlefield because his competences and knowledge would be useful elsewhere. Hopefu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:05 AM
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Ok... If you want to have babies before you even reach adulthood, please do. But that was not the subject of the debate. Edit : how about the point you were trying to make ? Which area of the world are you talking about ? How about the fact that most of people nowadays in the West DO NOT have children on their teenage years ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:09 PM
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Do you really talk about these countries ? Do you think women in "southern" areas where cultures are more traditional (and religious) have casual sex with handsome guys instead of getting married ? That's very unlikely. If we're talking about the West, unexpected pregnancies can be prevented, and in the case there're not, there still are solutions. So what are you talking about exactly ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:37 PM
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When women are hot & young, they will fuck the ‘bad guy’ their parents don’t approve of, but who was attractive and made her feel some type of way she never felt before. Whether it’s because the guy’s simply physically hot, or has a sexy personality (women love cocky, abrasive attractive men), or isn’t afraid to tell her to shut the fuck up and it subconsciously reminds her of her father, etc. The point is, despite not having high quality futures women will still simp and often have kids with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:14 PM
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I don't. Guys complain everyday for not being objectified but treated like whole persons instead, and don't even understand how one could think it's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:19 AM
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I'll lose interest in any man voluntarily engaging in any fight lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 07:28 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 09:05 AM
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Your first mistake is to claim that sex is equals domination.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 07:51 AM
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Just here to say that it took litterally ONE DAY for me (F31) and my partner (M38) to conceive our 1st child. A perfectly healthy boy. Statistics are accurate for demographics, but no so much to predict individual destinies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 01:06 PM
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I almost did. I dated a 32yo guy when I was 24. It worked because the stages we were in life were not so different. I was a broke student with no car living in a ridiculously small appt, he was a broke post Doc with a 20yo car living in a slightly bigger appt. 7 years later we're still together.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:13 AM
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The wall according to whom ? "Oh no, stranger young men won't find me attractive now that I'm having a family with the man I love. I'm doomed."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:59 PM
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You call this a source ? 😅 Maybe someday, when you'll be done with diapers, you'll be able to actually learn something and introduce yourself with real knowledge. I assume around your 40, if you're not toi tired to do it !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:38 AM
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Yes I see what you mean. It's sad, especially for those who don't even really want children in the first place. I think these choices come with some price, and sometimes we just find the price too high or not worthy. My country offers a nice maternity leave, and I planned to take it plainly because I won't experience this - motherhood, first steps in life with newborn - many times in my life. I don't want more than 2 or 3 children. But a job opportunity I waited for a long time popped during my …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:33 AM
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You don't know what you're talking about. But please do as you wish. Don't even think about having an education, or a job you like, or one you can earn fair money with. Forget about a mature relationship too. Your teenage BF you met just 1 year ago will do perfectly for a lifetime commitment with huge responsabilities. You think so, or you hope so. It's a bet anyway. Fingercrossed ! For your information, the vast majority of women are fine having kids til their early 40's. It happens EVERYDAY. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:07 AM
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And thanks to you too. That sounds very meaningfull. Best of luck to build something as close as possible as your "perfection" :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:46 PM
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What do you mean give up on their lives ? I think it's possible by taking the time to actually have a life before starting. A good partner helps too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:43 PM
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Was I unclear (english is not my 1st langage) or didn't you read correctly ? For context, I'm not your regular tradcon pro-lifer married-at -19yo -church-wife. People do whatever suit them. Childfree, one child, 10 children, it's their very intimate choice to make. What I was trying to say was : what OP wrote is not true. You don't need to sacrifice your life, your interests, your couple, your hobbies and your career. Not even your body ! On the contrary, it's possible and very welcomed to keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:49 PM
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I'm typing this with my new born hanging to my breast, drinking like he's in heaven lol. I'm not advocating for childfree people to change their minds and have children. That's very personal. But I think your reasons to make this choice are mistaken. My question is : why won't we have both interesting lifes AND families ? Why not have it all ? If you thought you could, would you ? It's perfectly possible to study, build a life, a career, a worthy and loving relationship before you have kids, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:58 PM
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No, they're not. If you can, stop this posture for two sec and look around you. Whatever you're going through, if you're out there spreading you hate and spitting on strangers, you deserve no sympathy. .
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:14 AM
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Mature people don't do that. But you need to understand that misogynists on the internet are so ridiculous, they sound so unsure about their own masculinity, that they beg for insults mocking exactly the (sick) point they try to make. Not because dick size matters, but because it's funny to tease them about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:18 AM
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I don't know what arby is 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:46 AM
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Small tits energy... Like forever young tits ? Not-concerned-by-gravity energy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:10 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 04:25 PM
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4 !
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 08:29 AM
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I'm a woman, 31 yo. Around 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 04:43 PM
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What the hell are you talking about ? Is that specifically what you think of when you hear "sexuality" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:58 PM
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To have sex with someone doesn't mean a lack of respect for oneself or a partner. You just have a very sick view of sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:05 PM
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Great ! Why don't you just do that andnact accordingly to your values ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:06 AM
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BOUM
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:53 PM
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Just being nice is not enough, as well as just being tall or whatever isn't enough to be chosen as a partner. You need mutual attraction, you need to like each other, be compatible... It's a rare and fragile emulsion between two people. It's just way more complex than you seem to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:28 AM
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A very accurate description of the men in that sub
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:23 AM
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Why would I be upset ? I never met men like you in real life. You're like an interesting curiosity of Reddit. People in general have standards. But the behaviour you're describing, women only caring for height and wealth, men for look and purity, is a gross caricature of shallowness and bigotry that you apply to the whole world. Sounds like a huge projection tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:20 AM
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You sound fun ! We should hang out ! So, you don't like freedom, love, and sex. How so ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:38 AM
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I'm not american of even native english speaker. It's just the convention where I'm from. How'd you type ? 19th century ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:35 AM
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Seriously, to visit this sub feels like a trip to the past. What ? Pseudo science made to protect and maintain some rigid, religious-rooted sexual order ? Are we in the XIXe century ? Hygienic medicine and all ? What ? Unironically talking about virginity past teenage years ? Purity before mariage ? Is it really a western country sub ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:58 AM
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You're projecting. He's telling they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:38 AM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:37 AM
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Yeah ? And how exactly ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:21 PM
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My story is not an exception at all. Most of my most happily married or settled friends did have fun in their teenage and young adult years too. I'm talking about men and women. Light hearted experiences and fun during youth are not the moral prejudice you all conservatives/trad/religious/RP people think they are. Some people never grow up, never get bored with this lifestyle, THEY are the exception. To most of us, it doesn't take long to realize it suits early 20's very well, but it gets old th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:19 PM
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I'm 31. I've slept with ~20 men, before I met my partner at 24. I lost my virginity on purpose with a guy I was sure to never see again, because I felt insecure about it. I had a 5 years LTR with a 1st BF not long after that. He was violent with me, especially during sex. He forced me most of the time. I left him after years, my mind and my confidence broken, and realized only later that I had experienced rape multiple times. I started to party a lot with a close friend of mine, and became the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:26 AM
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I'd like to marry my partner to take his name and be a unified family with our son. Basically that. The party should be nice too. Nothing to "gain" or expect from it except the nice symbol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:48 PM
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But really, that's obvious. Sometimes my partner and I argue about something, sometimes he really pisses me off with his stubborness, but I woudn't leave him for the world. Because I love him. Other example : It feels awful to be woken up several times per night in order to give some breastfeeding. But. It has nothing to do with the fact that I love my newborn son. Obvious, isn't it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:28 PM
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Absolutely right ! Thanks for this clear explanation ! Edit : et salut à toi cher compatriote.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:36 AM
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But why ? What an absurd scenario... I'd take the deal, go do a PhD at university, and keep working as a psychologist like I already do... But for free, for the people who can't usually afford it. I'd keep time for my baby too, and for the ones I hope to have in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:26 AM
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"established fact [...] biological mechanism" . Yeah. Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:07 AM
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Nobody cares. It has no effect at all on "society". Do as you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:27 PM
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Is that a real question ? Of course it does !
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:42 PM
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Absolutely. Nothing hotter and more heart melting than my partner parenting our newborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:07 PM
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I cheated my boyfriend cause he was forcing me to have violent sexual practices, guilting me about my attempts to refuse and constantly making me feel like less than him. I was depressed and pretty traumatized. From time to time, some gentler and nicer guy tried to flirt with me, and I had a taste of something I didn't really know about yet. I should have left him sooner but unfortunately, I had a lot to do on myself before I could just think about it. I'm not sorry, I don't regret. I think I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:37 AM
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The whole obsession about virginity and purity of women comes from religion. That's how it's related.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:53 PM
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I know all of this. Poland is not a western or a latin european country so I'm not sure why you mention it to answer my post. Church and State can be separated on paper and not so much in reality. Hungary is a good example, they are some others. Usa is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:52 PM
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Not to the extent of the usa, sorry. Or if you prefer, we abandonned it a very long time ago, around the time you started to become crazy of it. Juste look at things like separation of church and state, official religion (or the lack of it), representation of atheism in the society... You can't ignore how deeply rooted in religious values are the conservative views like the red pill ones. They would have been too old for my grand parents haha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 11:01 AM
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Here in western Europe, where we were never bred to puritanism and mostly adopted a secular way of life, free from religion except for celebrations and folklore. Majority don't care about count, or sexual past. Like someone said here, having a sexual life is considered as a part of being adult. Nobody in my circle talk or think about it. Those who do are the migrants from countries way more religious than mine and their descendants sticking to their traditionnal values, so generally speaking, pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:33 AM
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I purposely lost my virginity with a guy I didn't know well and didn't plan to see again - but very nice - to be able to move on from it and feel more confident with boys. So no lol. There was never any feelings involved. 15 years later, I never think about him, but if you ask, he was nice and gentle, it was a good experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:02 AM
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Boum ! I love your energy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:15 AM
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I think she laughs because the Bible was not written yet at that time 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:09 AM
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I think men should have the right to refuse a paternity, as well as women should be able to easily abort an unwanted pregnancy. To each one its responsability : for the woman to be a single mother if the man she got pregnant from doesn't want the baby, for the man to renunce to every right, legacy or claim over this child if he doesn't recognize him as his own. Everybody should have a choice, and be accountable for that choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:50 PM
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I disagree. How do you pick between so many handsome to nice looking men ? Why do you fall in love with one in particular? He's not always the taller or the most handsome, but the one you have a great connection with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:42 PM
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Have a good sense of humor. Have culture. Have charm. Be emotionnaly and socially intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:36 PM
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Yeah, it varies a lot from couple to couple, but I agree with you about it not being a necessity. Most of the time I don't think about my exes at all. But if something fun or sad (why not) crosses my mind about it, it's totally safe and ok to talk to. Same for him. Maybe we are outsiders I don't know, but the fact is partner and I were both very insecure about sex when we met and try together, because of past stories and bad exes we had. We built our sexuality being very honest and explaining wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:29 PM
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Coffee and croissant in bed a sunday morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:48 AM
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Frankly you're all so alien to me. I've never felt ashame about it. Never tried to hide or lie about with any men. If you're my boyfriend and we trust each other, I'm gonna tell you my funniest stories, and maybe also my most pathetic ones, because I want you to know me for real. I'm gonna want to hear your stories too, and laugh with you, be empathetic with your past pains and mistakes, because I love you. We're gonna conclude how wiser we are now, and happiest together than we've ever been bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:04 PM
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Did you try Xanax ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:54 PM
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No. You don't need look to be a father. You need to have the actual desire to raise a family with me, to be my partner in the everyday life with our child, and to be as happy and enthusiastic as I am about us building a life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:07 PM
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Abortions to save the mother's life happen everyday. Same for abortions of non viable fetuses. Now your scenario of 39week abortion is wrong, or a bad faith one, because at this stage it's just a basic birth. From 27/28 weeks, a fetus has good chances of survival in case of prematurity (with the proper medical attention, of course)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:20 PM
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Yes, just 7 monthes ago, after partner and I had made everything in order in our lives to welcome a child. We've been dreaming of it for years and our son will be born in less than 2 monthes. I'm 31 right now. We'd like to have a 2nd child in 2/3 years max. Not sure about a 3rd.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:06 PM
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Depends of your relationship. From "never" to "just right now" ? ^^
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:03 AM
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Not at all. It's exagerated and ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:25 AM
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Nowadays in western rich countries, army is professionnal, and wars are won with technology and strategy. Not sure all men would be conscripted in case of agression. Don't forget we have power of dissuasion with the nuclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:50 AM
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Lol, go have some reality check. You need much more than an army to win a war.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:59 AM
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That's not true. You clearly don't know what happened in our old Europe during WWI and WWII. Every women and old enough children were supporting the war effort, meaning ruling all the economy while men were fighting. I mean fields, industries, logistics... Producing and carrying everything the army needed, and have the leftover to barely survive until the armistice. My grand father had to quit school at 13 and take the place of his own father in a coal mine, while his mother was assigned to raff…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:47 AM
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So no, I don't "strive" to have one man for the rest of my life. As I said, I don't care about the other men. They exist, some can be attractive or interesting, but to keep looking for a "better" partner, and then an even better one etc, sounds exhausting, never ending and totally illogic for someone interested to build a meaningful relationship. But I do believe such a relationship needs some striving, and absolutely deserves it. Because it takes efforts to keep it alive, light-hearted, enthusi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:38 PM
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What happens when you look backward in your past and reevaluate the path you took ? You aknowledge good and bad choices you made to the light of their consequences. You're able to rewrite the story with more awareness of what really happened. You head is colder and more objective as the years pass, and that's the moment you can really tell what was important and what was finally not so much. That's how I'm able to say that my relationships before him were not so deep or so special after all. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 08:42 AM
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Lol, how would you know if he is or is not special to me ? When you expect your latest to be the last, that usually means something's different about him. As I wrote, he's not my "current boyfriend". He's a part of all my plans for the next 5 decades, and more. Exes were...just boyfriends. The relationships never evolved to the point of being life partner, living together or think seriously about the futur. My SO never had doubts or second thoughts about my love and commitment to him. I didn't, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:23 AM
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What an odd question... My exes weren't that special after all, considering the fact it didn't work well. Are you under the impression people regret their past relationships long time after it ended ? They don't. Anyway. He's not my "current boyfriend". He's what's closer to a soulmate as possible. Do he knows that ? Of course. I tell him... well, all the time. I've spent the last 7 years loudly adoring him, giving him a place in my life nobody had before him. I moved with him, I care for him an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:40 AM
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Non, you shoudn't. Your spouse is not a therapist with you. She coudn't be even if she wanted to, and she definitely shoudn't try. That being said, knowledge is usefull in personal life. To react better and smooth things when something bad happens, or to avoid triggering your SO when he struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:45 PM
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There's higher risks for women, but frankly, in a western country where we have easy acces to contraception and healthcare, this biological factor barely plays a minor role. You think what you want, but reality doesn't fit these theories. Many people, men and women, have sex just for fun are totally fine. Many other fall in love. Sometimes they're the same people but at a different stage of their life. Attachement is not gendered lol. It's just human.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:08 PM
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Or.. men and women are equally able to have sex without feelings, or to get attached. Why should it be gender related ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:49 AM
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Yes, but really what's the point ? What's the big issue about said loss of attractiveness ? Do you think you keep obsessing about your look at 30, 40, 50.. the way you did when you were a teen or barely an adult ? This anxious relationship with your own body and face, your miror, your clothes... what a loss of time and energy. Some day you just realize how immature you were then, and how life is much more interesting and fun now that you made space for actual preoccupations.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 11:57 AM
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I already have my own nerdy adorable guy to raise a family with🥰 But this one seems very nice, maybe he'd win some more points with a beard. He's a bit too young to me now, but at the age I was looking for a partner, I would definitely have written to him and see if we had things in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 09:39 AM
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Haha not bad. A great novel and a joke. It's not that hard !
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:16 PM
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What I really like is to play with my SO's body. Guys, your body is so funny, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 10:10 AM
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On OLD; he noticed we liked the same litterature and music. He talked to me about Dostoïevski and Roy Hargrove. Now you need to represent yourself the contrast, the very shock it was to be approched like this when my random daily messages were about my ability to suck, my favorite position or even just a dick pick 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 05:02 PM
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I'm expecting a son. I hope he'll find a partner as good and loving as his father and I are to each other. I hope we'll be a good model of a happy, respectuous, funny and affectionate relationship to him. I want him conscious of his own values and boundaries, of his flaws too, and never doubting he deserves to be treated with fairness. I'd be a bit sad if he'd never had the opportunity to find a good partner and have his own family. So my answer is husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 10:09 AM
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I'm sad you think that way. Hopefully you'll realize that's not true :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:06 AM
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Please, explain why you call it fake ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:00 AM
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So much drama and unhealthy attachement. No man, love is not an ultimate sacrifice, and has nothing to do with death. We're not in a greek trajedy, or your favorite war movie. You slowly learn and build thrust, affection, partneship. Someone become your most intimate other, you grow together, you work together to something bigger than the both of you, and there is some sacrifice yes. The effort to create some beauty and keep it alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:16 AM
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Why is the 2nd question a gotcha question ? Abortion is about not having a baby on your own. Not in your home with you, not in an other family after an adoption, not in foster care. Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:02 PM
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Why is the 2nd question a gotcha question ? Abortion is about not having a baby on your own. Not in your home with you, not in an other family after an adoption, not in foster care. Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:02 PM
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First ex would have answered 1 the first 4 years and 2 the last one, when I wouldn't accept to be abused and forced into sex I didn't want to anymore. Second ex would have answered 1 too. The thing was, a wife was the last thing he wanted to at that time when we met, because he was freshly divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 03:15 PM
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BC never had any effect on my libido. I didn't stopped to want my - not so tall, very gentle - partner when I stopped BC to get a copper IUD, or when I quit every contraception in order to conceive. One struggle of the pregnancy is that I still feel horny, but too sick, heavy and tired to have good sex. So no effect on libido either. Women are not mares or pussies. We don't have 'heats".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:42 PM
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Not very different lol..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:00 AM
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Sex is not something she gives him. It's something they do together. You want some and she's not craving it as you do ? Make it appealing !
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:00 AM
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Heu... He's like 14, 16 at best ? They all are... Is that really the democraphic RP talks about ? If so, that explains a lot !
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:45 AM
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Oh that explain the writing. Janitor or professor, it's the curiosity that matters 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:42 PM
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Oh that explain the writing. Janitor or professor, it's the curiosity that matters 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:42 PM
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Yeah, it's very interesting. I absolutely love this scientific mindset, looking for answers and knowledge even with very few odds of success. Just for the beauty of it, and to make humanity progress. And this deep subject of our origins... It's passionnating. Is it your job ? Are you an archeologist, or a student/PhD maybe ? I assume this since you write about it ? I would have loved to do it, but it seemed almost impossible to get an actual job in that field when I considered studying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:17 PM
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Yes exactly !
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:11 AM
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Many RP theories rely on fantasies and romanticized ideas about prehistorical way of life. So many people here let their imagination run about how societes worked at these times... And nobody knows shit about actual paleontology, or experimental archeology, or anthropology, or anything else. I'm not an expert myself, I just happen to find these subjects interesting and take any occasion to visit painted caves and ruins when I can. There are some in my country and in Europe in general. Just to te…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 07:50 AM
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They're not. Mine defy gravity and keep it dooing exactly the same over the years. All I ever heard about them was how perfect they were 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:14 PM
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Lol, stop speaking for "men". Speak for yourself, who is someone apparently not caring about what your (hypothetical, I presume?) partner wish, feel or desire. That's just an abuser mindset, even a rapist one maybe ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:00 PM
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I'm sorry, all your premisses are wrong. Experimentation has nothing to do with more attraction. First of all, it's a wish to experiment, preceding who the partner is. Secondly, it's about the quality of the relationship, and how comfortable you feel with someone before you accept to vulnerable. What you're describing is a woman feeling like she has no choice but to do something she doesn't really want. It's not desire, it's just gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:00 PM
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Lol.. you're sleeping with 2 other girls while seeing her and you don't want to form a relationship before 6 monthes ? Well, you deserve what happens to you. Her wanting to wait is probably exactly adressing your behaviour, and lack of implication. You need to decide if you like her enough or not, to give it a genuine chance. Or just let her go.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:10 AM
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Yeah right ? I don't understand what these guys imagine relationships to be !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:17 PM
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Such an unrealistic story... Anyway, yes I hooked up a lot in my 20's, until I started to do so with my now husband. On the contrary, the less I know a man, the more reserved I am. So hubby is logically the one I've felt the most comfortable with to try things etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:07 PM
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Well in Europe it's not even an issue. Most people remain thin or non-fat. Overweight is more and more adressed like a public health problem. So I'd say yes, your expectation is reasonable. But I guess it depends the area you live in ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:21 PM
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Why would someone in plain possession of its own mind would purposely behave like an absurd monkey just to make some (over)simplistic theory come true ? Come on ! You guys aren't even aware of how complex ethology can be, and how nuanced are relationships into chimpanzees groups (for example). The level of projection is sad. Really.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:19 PM
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My partner was not my best lover ever when we met and started to be together. It was not very important to me because he made me incredibly happy and I fell deeply in love with him. He became the perfect, best lover over the many years we spent together, because he learnt to be the most skilled expect of my particular body lol. I guess people - men and women - in healthy LTR have the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:04 AM
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"infinitely" higher.. at the very least ! 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:53 PM
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Yeah.. because we women never stop to obsess about attract immature boys looking for quantity sex, despite being in relationship most of the time past our 20's, having jobs and responsabilities, being mothers or planning to be.. Sounds totally realistic 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:35 PM
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If that's the definition of the wall, it actually concerns a minority of women. "Twenty-something mentality" sounds like immaturity to me and doesn't apply to most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:58 PM
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Of course men benefit from abortion rights too. Many here faim to realize that most people in couple decide to have a baby or not together, not unilateraly. You're absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:02 AM
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I though age was the only point missing, but trying to figure an answer I realize I can't choose cause I don't know WHO they actually are. Their past doesn't matter to the point that it would make a significant difference between them. I could very easily be compatible with both, independantly of their n-count cause it's not a criteria to me. You felt in love before and tried to make something of it ? That's beautiful. I'm sure you grew a lot doing so. You joyfully jumped into experiences cause …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:25 PM
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How old are they and how old are we (women answering) supposed to be ? Both sound young and unexperienced. Only one relationship in HS equals only ONS and no relationship at all. I imagine they'd be 20 with this romantic past ? But if they're 30 or more, it's even worse lol. So frankly I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:33 PM
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No, but it sounds immature and childish and/or over religious to care about this question in the first place. On both cases, frankly it's boring as hell...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:59 AM
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"Possible in some exceptionnal circumstances" doesn't mean it's usual or very likely. It wasn't trying to be exhaustive here. But I agree too, as I got pregnant about a week before the day of my (supposed) ovulation. Not during period, but not the day I thought either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:43 AM
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Dude, period is not the moment a woman is fertile, at all ! Ovulation doesn't happen during period, but around 14 days before. You're right about men having control, but in order to do so, you should learn a bit about biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:46 PM
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Lol you're right. If you have nothing to offer, I guess it's better not to engage in an emotional relationship after all...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:50 PM
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Because you could happen to love your partner, cherish what you've built together and not want to destruct everything to start some new hypothetical thing 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:56 AM
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Definitely scandinavian countries
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 11:11 AM
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No I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:48 PM
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What is dumb is to bet uniquely on your wealth and looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 07:03 PM
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Your definition of a HVM is my definition of a dumb AH I'd never want to talk to. Few times it happened to me to be pursued by men like that, often in clubs or bars. There was these guys workingg in the soccer ball field, very wealthy but sadly confident about it. Poor things didn't have anything else to offer than their money and their arrogance. Very vulgar, my friend and I just left them. Idem with a rugbyman probably playing very close to national team, he thought him being built and big, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:25 PM
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Because I'm pregnant !
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:17 PM
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Lol and where are you from ? I'd be happy to give credit to your very objective projection, but you see, it doesn't relate to reality at all. "Valueless sluts"... Yeah, I wonder why anybody would felt insulted. Woman think you're a "mysogynistic control freak" ? How surprising 😂 Oh you guys are so sadly funny..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:08 PM
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It's a very US problem. I've never been asked about my count. I never felt the need to lie about it, or never experienced guys being bothered by it. I'd tend to say men don't care, at least in my circles. So I don't lie or defend lies to partners of both sexes in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 06:06 PM
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Sure, but he has to cook for me and teach me some recipes 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:28 AM
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The question is already so hilarious ! I can't wait for the answers !
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:17 PM
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Why should I bother ? All I see on this sub is massive generalization over dumb stereotypes. You guys don't realize that what you call "natural behavior" mostly concerns conservative, North American people, and not even the whole Western World. Not precisely universal. It's not science mate, it's what your Mom, Dad and Church taught you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:51 PM
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Because it's not a serious or relatable field of psychology. And definitely not science 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:05 PM
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Because it's not a serious or relatable field of psychology. And definitely not science 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:05 PM
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Everyday, sometimes twice a day when we feel like it. Like permanent vacations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 02:09 PM
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That should be the norm? Nobody deserves less than that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 06:31 AM
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They are individuals, not a monolith, not even a "group" outside of theoric models. So I reconcile considering the person I have right in front of me. The instant a man I talk to sounds misogynistic, I loose all interest for him and leave. I try to avoid assholes when possible. My SO and I share the same values, and he does consider me as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:16 AM
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No way I'd be in an LTR with a person so religious. No way I'd marry before long years living together and building a life, if I ever marry at all ! So I'm sorry Sarah, you're nice and all, but we couldn't be less compatible. You and me together is a promess for a disaster. Good bye and godspeed About the scenario : where's the logic ? Either she's a very religious virgin, or she's not, is sexually active and doesn't regress like that. It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:43 PM
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It's not magical. More like : "Hot. Nice to watch. Let's give a try ?" Or at least that's how I imagine physical attraction for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:31 AM
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So cynical... So they 'd premeditate the whole thing monthes, years before having an (hypothetical) actual chance ? Really ? Or is there something inherently attractive in pregnancy itself that I missed ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:44 PM
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Thank you so much. Same story with the nauseas, resulting in eating all day to feel ok, but it begins to get better ! Some in my family and in law tell me how choklingly fat I am, or my belly is for my state. It hurts my feelings, and I worry about gestational diabete. But except that, pregnancy is going well. I can feel my son move all day now, and it helps thinking that I'm not doing so bad after all, cause he feels very alive and already turbulent hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:38 PM
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Oh thanks you for this !🙏 I feel so guilty. How did you do after the pregnancy ? Was it easy (doable) to go back to your previous body ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:09 PM
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I think your point is : it's easy to cheat. Yes it is. But do you realize how far from it one can be while starting a family ? It's almost unthinkable. Plus, even if I wanted to, condom is a hard requirement as you don't want your man, or worse, your baby !, to be contaminate !
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:20 PM
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Contraception ? SMS and phone call ? Odd behavior, sudden new friends or late duties at work ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:10 PM
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Thanks for that haha, so many people pretend they didn't notice just to keep their seats ! Maybe I'm prettier while fatter, yes? I've never had this impression. Or maybe men like the idea of a fertile women ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:06 PM
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He couldn't know while I'm pregnant, but could if I wasn't ? Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:01 PM
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Lol who is so not open to sex that can't get pregnant ? 😅 I'm not sure I know any woman like this. I live in a country where half the families are from unmarried couple. People live together and many manage to build solid environnement for their children, but marriage is not part of it. So your statement sounds a bit weird in that cultural perspective. But I see what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:00 PM
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It's not that common lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:54 PM
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Sexual, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:52 PM
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Not only the boobs haha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:52 PM
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Funny and surprising observation to submit to PPD : Since it became visible that I'm pregnant, I receive significatively more attention from men in the street than before. I'm not sure why, considering the facts that : I obviously already have a man in my life common sense tells that I'm surely not available to romantic encounters at this moment anyway and most of all, I've never been so fat in my whole life lol. I sort of compensate my slightly underweight body shape by gaining more than usual.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:53 PM
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I'm not 100% sure, but it's just that.. as a man you need to actively claim a child to be legally considered his/her father. You need to give him/her your family name. It has nothing to do with biology, or any claim of the mother. Paternity results from a father's declaration to the state. So if you don't, you're just a stranger to the child. An other man can do it, it happens, or the mother can claim the child without any father being registered. You as a genitor have no rights and no obligatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:55 PM
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It's rude, but I guess it makes sense from your point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:14 PM
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Well frankly, I work in a hospital too and it's pretty common to see people coming like they just felt from the Moon with strange or crazy demands. She just needed to be explained that it was too late for an abortion and what options she had. You could have said it to her as well before the appointement. It took me 30sec to find the british norm about abortion ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:46 AM
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Oh ok so your point is only to force your own ideology on people who don't live by it. If I understand well... To enjoy sex is sluttiness. "Premarital pregnancy" (as if every parents and families were married at all) is a "fault".To give birth to a child is a "sacrifice" of the body, and a standard lol. That's just biology baby, and instead of a sacrifice, I'd say an amazing super power ! And of course, it's better to punish people for the sex they had and deny them the right to not have every a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:29 AM
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It seems that abortion is possible in the UK until 24 weeks, 6 monthes. That's so late ! I didn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:06 AM
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What if it becomes women's choice to bear the burden alone ? What if we give women the ways to sort this on their own ? (As it's the case in many places in the world). Double standard : how so ? There is a double standard when you give the choice to women and not to men. Fathers devalued in comparison to mothers : how so ? It has always been the case, as children are women's prerogative, remember ? But I feel it's changing. Fathers have more and more space in the first childhood world (from what…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:33 PM
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Lol, Care to elaborate or bring actual arguments ? 👻 Just remind that the question is not about abortion, it's about the fairness or unfairness of a situation where women have the choice and men don't. To deny choice to anybody is not relevant here, unless you see it as some equality in crap lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:06 PM
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When women get pregnant, they only have 3 bad choices-parenting, adoption, and abortion. All of them are terrible, painful choices. Lol are you crazy ? A wanted pregnancy can be hard but it's also very happy and exciting. Abortion is not that terrible, sorry. For most it's a bad moment to get through, of course, but not the trauma we pro-lifers talk about. Adoption is the worse in my opinion, that's why I didn't even mentionned it. I really disagree with you. It was a thing in the 70's and 80's …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:56 PM
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I don't understand why a woman should have a choice to take that responsibility, and a man don't. When you, as a woman, have access for free to all the contraception and reproductive care you need, including abortions, you choose to take or not the burden. Men have no right to influence women's decisions about having the child or not, but they definitely should decide for themselves if they become a parent. In most case, people know pretty early if they want to keep a child or not. They talk abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:33 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:12 PM
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How so ? The man has the choice to : not be a father, by not claiming the child be a father, by doing so; give his name. In that case, he can be as present as he wants, from father at home to barely see his children and pay ichild support instead. But if he can't afford it, he won't have to pay anyway and there will be no serious consequences to him. It's more than fair in my opinion !
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:01 PM
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Why ? The social system is very different too. The state provides for basically everything concerning the child and the motherhood, especially for a single mother, as the help you get is proportionnal to your income. I mean Healthcare, Childcare, School from 3 yo to PHD, specific help to get an appartement and moderate fees, low or no taxes etc. Even unemployed or disabled, you're not supposed to raise your child without ressources and homeless. Remember that you chose to have said child, as con…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:07 PM
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"No, they don't. I looked it up" Actually, here in France a man has to go and declare the birth of his child to the City Hall to be legally considered as his father. Otherwise, the child is declared to be born from "unknown father" and the man loose every right to claim the child as his own when this child turns 3yo. You can't sue someone for not having recognized his child. Paternity test is not an argument to ask for child support. So you can refuse paternity and never be bothered by anyone, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:35 AM
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What country was it ? In mine, abortions are possible until 14 weeks. That's why I'm shocked. In case of medical issue for the fœtus or the mother, there's no limit, but that's known to be awfull to get through for the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:41 AM
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In what country is it legal to have an abortion at 8 month ?? I mean, at that stage a fœtus just takes the time to gain some weight. He can be born at any moment, perfectly healthy and not even being considered prémature.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:36 AM
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I thought for a long time my best sex was one of my exes of few years ago. It turns out it is not. My SO is, and by far. We both needed some time, intimacy and trust building to really reveal to ourselves. I wouldn't have taken the opportunity to have sex again with said ex. We broke up for good reasons. At the end of the relationship, I was unable to have orgasms from him anyway, because nothing went well anymore. No I don't fantasize or daydream about him. I do about my SO. All the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:00 PM
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I met my SO online. We did one week of chatting before meeting IRL. We learned to know each other by spending (a lot of) time together. I don't think many women desire him. He has had some casual and relationships before me, but not much. Anyway, all my girl friends were envious when I told them how the dates were going and how amazing he was. Some of them call him "the perfect man" for fun. I believe he is and does what most women expect from a man and a relationship. EDIT to answer the questio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:35 PM
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I'm from Western Europe, I've never heard about n-count before coming on Reddit. No men I know care about it. No lover never asked be or was bothered by something in my "past". It's definitely cultural, and you're probably right about puritan influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:16 PM
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Yes, same feeling and experience from France hehe. Totally relates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:22 AM
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It's so sad you think that way. I wish you could realize how low are your expectations from life, and how helpless you sound. Good luck. Really.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:22 PM
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....why are you yelling ? 😆 Dear little troll, you're hilarious. I like to feed and pet you. Keep show your belly and purr for me. Enjoy your country becoming a religious dictatorship. In less time than you think, you'll discover yourself a new friendship and shared values with the talibans and Isis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 06:47 AM
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You don't understand how such a system works. It's about solidarity. Everybody pay for the community, so the most vulnerable can have a free - yes- access to health care, including reproductive one. For a simple reason : civilized people do GIVE A FUCK about justice, and can't stand to let people suffer from treatable diseases (or lack of choices) for the reason they are too poor. That's unfair. It's not about me, I'm very protected with my degree, my good job, my educated husband and our own lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:11 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:09 AM
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Maybe YOU don't need it. I understand you have your own way to prevent anybody from making a baby to you 🙃. That's on you. People in general need it. Married people and people in LTR. Teenagers. Single people. The vast majority of people have a sex life because, well, that's a very important part of relationships, and also it's nice. (You should try it some day.) When society don't provide easy access to reproductive health (in a large definition), what happens ? People have sex anyway. With all…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:05 AM
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I wonder what triggers you the most between the possibility to have a safe sexual life, or the fact that USA are well known to be a terribly rude place to live, unless you're part of the wealthiest. Why ? You call me a bitch cause making love with my husband is a great joy in my life, and because I support a health system providing what people need to have safe sex and choices over their bodies. Or to be protected during vulnerable periods of time like pregnancy.To use contraception is responsab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:48 PM
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Ok. Full of hate, entitled and unable to read. Yes, a country not bothered to let its people die in the street, from lack of health support or violences of all kinds, can not pretend to be civilized. The same country becoming a religious state, more and more alike islamists states, can not pretend to be civilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:50 AM
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I'm not comparing myself to dying people. That being said, "homemade abortions" often lead women to death. As well as too frequent or complicated pregnancies, hormonal diseases that can be treated by BC, etc. People "choose" to smoke. They "choose" to eat till they can't go out their room. They know how hurtful it is. By your own logic they should be held accountable for the conséquences of their actions and not expect the solidarity of their fellas people. Why do you make a difference ? It's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:54 PM
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I believe you didn't understand a single word about what I was saying. It was pretty simple : Reproductive health IS a health issue like any other else. What's so special about it ? If you agree to take care of cancers, even for the former smokers, and of any heart diseases and side effects of obesity that occur, there're no reason to make an exception about it. Also, it really benefits to a society as a whole to give legal and safe ways to limit unplanned fecondity. Juste open a History Book an…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:56 PM
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Very candid. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:44 AM
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Lol no sorry it was unclear, I'm still pregnant ! I just finished the 1st trimester, so I actually gained a little too much weight at this moment. At the end of the 9th month, you have around 10kg of baby + amniotic liquid + increase of blood in your system. Only 3 kg would be highly concerning lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:39 AM
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I'm 30yo. 155cm and 48kg before pregnancy. If I translate well, it's 5'08 and 105 lbs ? I used to run and practice yoga 3 times a week. . I stay active, hiking on weekends and walking more. I still do a lighter yoga almost every day. I gained 6 lbs since the start of pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:58 AM
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Tell me about your cost of living 😆🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:23 PM
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Funny thing is... that's actually the case XD. You see, I live in a country where reproductive health is taken charge of, like any other health issue, by the state without restriction. So yeah, BC and IUD are cheap because of that, and you got refund for the very small price you spent for a gyn appointment and a prescription anyway. I'm pregnant right now, it was the right time. Every costs are taken care of. Appointments, exams, ultrasounds, genetic serology, everything. I had a 2 monthes sick …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:05 PM
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Yeah, no wonder usa looks more and more like a third world country with this mentality. I'm not surprised, you let people die in any possible ways, no matter what. You have no clue what "society" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:31 AM
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Birth control benefits to women AND men, as well as the whole society. The entitlement is to think your personnal opinion about sexuality and body choices matters to anyone but yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:13 PM
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He's 10 years younger than me. He's lost. I worry for him. Our father sucks. Sometimes I hope than my my wonderful partner could be like an older brother figure to him, a valuable model. But that's not that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:30 AM
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Lol, what an odd question. Why do you ask ? So you can go on about how unfair it is you can't have a "great" numbers of sexual partners ? The number means nothing mate. It has nothing to do with actual happiness, or meaningful achievement in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:54 PM
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I'm pregnant right now, I won't lie it's hard. But I'd never do that. Surrogacy sounds like body exploitation to me, I woudn't want to be a part of it. I don't want to inflict to anybody the struggle of pregnancy and the trauma to have to give the child after the birth... just to gain only money. The only thing making pregnancy bearable is the thought of the baby you are creating, the excitement to meet him/her soon, and the knowledge that you're getting through all of this for the best reason i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:16 AM
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You're proving her point 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 08:03 PM
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I woudn't, no. Body hair is the most attractive thing about men's body (very personal opinion, I know :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:21 PM
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I'm not trying to defend this practice. I think nothing particular about it, it's not that common in my country except for religious or medical reasons. I understand it's almost the norm in USA ? Why exactly ? From my little experience, circumcision seems to reduce a bit the quality of pleasure for the man. The skin of the head seems oddly less sensitive to pleasure but more likely to be painful. So I'm not a fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 07:13 PM
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No. Excision and circumcision are nothing alike. The equivalent for boys and men would be to cut the whole head.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:27 PM
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I love them. Imberb men look to me like giant babies, which I don't find attractive at all. Let them grow !
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 08:38 AM
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Don't worry :) It's not so common
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:17 PM
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Congratulations ! You're wise to think about "safer" days ! Hubby and I didn't, and I got pregnant 1 week after the removal of my IUD 😅 We're glad, but we could have use a little more time haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:40 PM
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Hubby brought me croissants and patisseries in bed when I started to sleep at his place. I just...never left ! XD
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:13 PM
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What's so wrong with that ? My husband always insisted to pay for birth control as his part of the team effort. Now that I'm pregnant, all the costs are supported by he and I, I pay with the jointed account. We both work, and our country has a great healthcare policy. There's no need to split the costs, but I think it's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:10 AM
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Lol Are you familiar with jazz music and how often a chicken is involved when there is a horns section playing ? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 02:11 PM
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Oh, nice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:31 PM
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Are you a gynecologist ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:24 PM
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😆
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:10 PM
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Lol, don't worry, I'm far from thinking that blood or pain are normal. I have been said that I should go to the hospital for a check up at the first sign of blood because it doesn't belong to me to establish a diagnosis. I was ok with that, I called my doc before going and that's exactly what she said. No need to worry after a sexual intercourse. About "fragile", its possible the term has not the same implication in my langage it has in english, I don't know. Would you say "sensitive" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:09 PM
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It's mandatory in my country, that's the difference :) Are you sure about the porn ? Is this happening in the US ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:51 PM
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Yes, sorry :) I immediately called the gyn, she said the cervix was more fragile during pregnancy, sporting was normal and didn't matter at all..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:48 PM
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We had sex education once a year from 11 to 17 yo at school. It was about the usual feminine cycle, prevention from STDs, contraception, numbers to call in case of troubles.. But I remember very clearly to have learnt to put a condom on a cucumber during these classes. So much fun 😅 Not many, but some of us had already have sex around 12-13 yo. It's comforting to think that precoce teens can find some serious ressource and be able to protect themselves don't you think ? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:43 PM
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Thank you !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:21 PM
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Thanks ! 🙂🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:16 PM
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1 month pregnant, I just learnt that it's common to bleed after sex. So scary 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:10 PM
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I'd stay without cheating. I'd support him through his pain, and his recovery. But I woudn't give our sexuality up. I'd do my best to preserve some intimacy, sensual moments and tenderness between us. Like taking bathes together, give him massages, cuddle a lot, I don't know... Hopefully, he would enjoy it, and with time we'd create some new way to feel close and love each other physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:49 AM
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So, from what you say, the problem with impulsivity is the potential bad consequences of your acts, when they are inconsiderate. I agree. But my point stands. Some could claim that random little attentions inside a couple is actually a wise thing to do in the long run. But it becomes an issue if you're money short, or need this money for something else more important. Now don't you think people can make the difference, and consider consequences before they choose to do something or not ? I'm con…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:36 PM
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Where are these studies your refers to ? Having had several partners has nothing to do with impulse control. Impulse control implies that the décision to have sex would be impulsive, and go against values or morality. As if it was not the result of a choice you make consciously. Why do you assume that in the first place ? Someone who don't stick with the religious/conservative representation of sexuality doesn't consider having casual sex like an impulsive or shameful behaviour. It doesn't go ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:59 PM
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I track both !
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:26 PM
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Every 2-3 days, generally. During a challenging week like this one, 5 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:25 PM
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I don't value fighting or violence in any sort. Him starting doing MMA and taking pride of fighting skills would be the real turn off. But he's my life partner, who I love. As anybody else, he could have a weird and insecure phase, and need to proove himself something foolish. It's unlikely, but let's say : why not ? If It doesn't last too long, I could bear it. I probably wouldn't go to the fight, cause it would be awful to see. So in a scenario where he does fight, loses and needs to be comfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:20 AM
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Haha that's nice ! What's your parents' story ? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:27 PM
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Half white/ quarter black/quarter indian. France
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:03 PM
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My current partner is the best man I've ever met, as a whole. Now to answer your question, I ended a "situationship" with someone with whom I had great sex, in order to start something with partner. For several reasons, sex between us was very difficult at the beginning, so we both could say that none of us was the best at that moment. Because we liked each other a lot (it was surely love, even at that moment), we just gently adressed our difficulties, resolved them, and created some trust and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:23 PM
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I agree but... Girls on Instagram ?.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:32 PM
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It's not that "m'en" are not supposed to do it. Nobody should. Partner has some of my codes, I have some of his. We always ask for permission to take the phone or laptop of the other. I think it's basic respect, don't you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:17 PM
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I had a copper one, because I wanted to free my body from hormonal therapy :) I let my gyneco chose the model, but I believe there all very alike : little, copper, "Y". It fullfilled its duty for 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:53 PM
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Absolutely !
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:27 PM
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Yes that's the plan ! It's a very moving moment for him and I. We waited the time we needed to have our lives in order. Now, finally, it's time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:59 PM
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Oh, glad you didn't have to get through this ! Do you have children ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:53 PM
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For the first time I genuinely wish my partner and I marry someday in a not so far future. It took me 6 years with the man, living together and being incredibly happy, plans to have children like, right now, and also the realization that father has been an influence so terrible in my life, I don't even want to have his name anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:46 PM
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I heard that too. I hope it's true ! You mean you thought you could be pregnant ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:36 PM
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Yes lol ! Sorry, i'm not a native. I juste hope it won't hurt as much as when I have it installed. That was terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:14 PM
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First ? I'll have my DIU removed the day after tomorrow. I'm so excited.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:08 PM
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I dont value look that much. I don't like shallow people, I don't want to be one myself or either attract them. I don't think I need to compensate my look, but that's not the asset I prioritize. I even despise it a little bit, to be honest. So I believe I fit in your category. It did very well. I find my friends and my partner to be very interesting, funny, original people. We share the same values. It's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:33 AM
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What ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 01:14 PM
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Lol what's the thing with France ? Yes, it's not an issue at all. But it seems to me that our cultures are quite different regarding relationships and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:50 PM
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It's totally a trust issue. To force someone to become a parent against his will is a terrible betrayal, immoral, an awful thing to do. Now if you tell me that you consider the posibility your own GF or wife could do this to you, it only means you have no trust on her. At all. Same for the paternity test. Seriously ? If you believe there's even a chance that your wife is cheating on you while you trying to have a baby together, it's already wrong. I was saying that sterile or not, OP would have …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:54 PM
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Condoms only reduce, and it's a good reason not to wear them ? But you do wear them even with a long time partner ? Someone who, by the way, you dont trust at all ? Seriously dude... It's a joke. By the way, in my country a man needs to declare the birth of a child he recognizes as his, to be legally a father. He needs to give the baby his name, actively. Inside a marriage, it's automatically assumed. For a man who didn't give his name to a child, he's not considered a parent at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:40 PM
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It's still a surgery. And there are non hormonal birth control methods too. Mine works juste fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:26 PM
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Lol, sterile or not, you need condom all the same because it's the only known method to avoid STI. About the power to choose, if you happened to mistake si badly about someone that she would use you to have a baby on her own, you wouldn't have to recognize the child. You wouldn't have to be called a father at all. So that's not really an issue, right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:20 PM
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In western countries, at 20yo you're most likely to live at your parents'place,to be a student, to have at best a little job like BBsiting or fast food. You have very few responsabilities, when you have any. That's not being an adult. Look at the situation : it's an important topic, it's absolutely personal you're right, and also he claims his décision is made and firm, but yet he's asking strangers on reddit for validation. That alone is not very mature, is it ? It's a personal decision, but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:35 PM
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You don't know that. 20yo is teenage, and very likely to evolve, change mind, define new goals and directions..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:03 PM
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Terrible idea to my opinion. Nobody wants children at 20. You're supposed to think about having fun, flourish, try things and build a life. Who knows what you could want in 10 or 15 years ? Dont close to yourself any opportunity right now, there no need at all. Plus : to be sterile could be a no-go for many women, I think. I'm sure it would have been to me. I won't have taken the risk to have feeling for a child free man, not even at 18 lol. Edit to adress your main argument : birth control is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:47 AM
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It's maybe a general trend, but it doesn't mean it has to concern you and your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:36 AM
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Why would it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:08 AM
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Lol. Unimportant studies. Studies stating nothing new. Studies supporting the same popular thinking that have always been repeated again and again. Like, for example, that "marriages fail because of cold women"... these studies don't get cited.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:03 PM
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The study has been cited 4 times in 3 years. It tells enough... And if you read the abstract, you'll realize the author of the article don't add anything out of it. It's very likely that he didn't red the whole paper either. Edit : I do criticize because the statement is silly and sounds biaised. The article doesn't tell about the number of people in the cohort, to begin with. As far as we know, it could be the author's social circle. It's nothing to take seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:47 PM
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No I did't read the studies, I don't hack and it's not free. I found the abstract and I believe the article has been written only with that (you learn nothing new) : https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-52545-001 To accept what exactly ? What do you imagine (in terms of frequence, for example ?)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:31 PM
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Lol you call this a source ? It's not a study, not even a decent article. Don't marry too early, not before several years of actual relationship at least, living together, being a couple, and you'll see. And yes, be prepared to meet with adulthood responsabilities ! At some point, you just don't have the luxury to spend the whole weekend in bed with your lover like you used to. You'd love to, he'd love to, but you can't. Because there's chores. There's family. There's this side project you want …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:04 PM
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I do love my partner. He's my favorite person in the world. He's the only person I share a plain, true intimacy with, and it's a perpetual wonder to realize that love and attraction between us don't need no pretend, no glitter, just our simple genuine selfs. I'm constantly enthusiastic about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:49 AM
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It seems we are a minority here. Thanks !
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:32 PM
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I got positive to covid Yesterday, spent the day in bed. Husband went to the pharmacy for a test in the evening and was negative, so he came back with roses, and the ingredients for a Fondue Savoyarde. Good cheese, good wine, good bread. I made a Biscuit de Savoie for the dessert, to stay in the thematic lol. It was almost as if we had a weekend in the Alps lol. Unexpectedly nice !
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:09 AM
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Yes, I referred to my last post where I said that sexuality is not dirty or degrading. This train does sound degrading to me, because I can't imagine how someone can have fun like this. Maybe I'm wrong, but I assume it takes some taste for being submittted and/or used, and that you don't enjoy it when you're fine with your inner value, an your boundaries. That's what I call "lost".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:51 PM
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Because I'm hell of a vanilla haha And also because some collective rapes like this (multiple men, one victim) were somehow frequent in my city when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:40 PM
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I did, but still, "train" sounds absolutely awfull. Did you try ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:30 PM
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I can't answer for "most women" [in the world]. But I'm pretty sure that most western women don't think sexuality is dirty, lol. It's at least pretty common around me, for women in my family, friends, teachers and doctors, collegues...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:23 PM
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Oh really ? It sounds awful and violent. I can't imagine someone doing it willingly and consciously. Very unlikely that my balanced, romantic, vanilla husband would be trapped in such a situation lol. I don't know man... If a guy I know since 2 days tells me about this, I'd probably feel that I don't have the energy for someone so lost. I'm not judging, but like l said, it's not my thing. If my husband tells me tonight that he did this a long time ago, of course I wouldn't leave him ! But I'd be…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:05 PM
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I feel that's pretty common, yes. But If can't speak for "most" women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 10:54 PM
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I don't care. Indon't know if you'll understand, but we really don't have the same approach of sexuality. It's not dirty you know. It's not degrading. It's not a power issue. That's how porn shows it, but there are differents ways to have sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:15 PM
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Lol what ? A train ? I'm not a native, what does it means ? You're looking for, somehow, my limit ? I need someone very gentle, soft, attentive and caring.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:12 PM
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Worrying in what sense ? Because he would be bi, or because of the number ? I woudn't worry, no. What counts is how he actually behaves with me, how he's commited, the efforts he puts in the relationship and in the life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:30 PM
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What you're takling about is basic trust in a relationship. It has nothing to do with the number of partners. It's about implication and prooves of commitment during a long time. I understand the fear, I know that cultures have always adressed this issue, and I think marriage had been the response almost everywhere. But I'm sorry, from an individual perpective, to seriously consider that your GF or wife could have cheat on you and conceive a child with another man is the sign that your relation …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:26 PM
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Maybe the fear of comparison too..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:10 PM
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Studies in what countries ? At what times ? I've never been asked this question. If a man asks, I would assume he thinks it's important. That's already a bias. If the culture around me says that sex is wrong, or of I'm not so confident about myself, or if I like him a lot, I could lie to avoid some unpleasant situation. Less hypothetically, I would probably laugh at his awkward question and don't answer. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:08 PM
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I woudn't break up with him because of the number, no. But I would seriously question his attraction to me, a woman, after this sort of experience. It would be surprising, I'd probably need an explanation to understand. My main worry would be that he is pretending to be straight and to love me, just to conform to some social expectation. To marry and have kids, for example. If he had sex with 50 woman before me... well, I 'd assure he had a lot of fun during college and wants something different…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:49 PM
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Well, you never hear about it in my western europe country. I discovered the whole issue on reddit because it's american... Before that, I wouldn't have believe that occidental people from develop countries could care.. From what I see, it's totally related to the place religion takes in a culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:26 PM
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This preference is not universal. You believe it is because it is prevalent in your social circle, it's understandable. But plenty of people - men and women - just don't care, never think about it, never ask their partners how many they had before, or just acknowledge it without a second thought. I don't understand why men here are so obsessed by women' sexuality. I think it's a mix of a religious education, conservative values and some ingrained misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:13 PM
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Lol, not so shocking. I would be really surprised if I found someday that something is not* a kink for some people. Everything exists. It's fun to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:00 PM
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Lol, not so shocking. I would be really surprised if I found someday that something is not* a kink for some people. Everything exists. It's fun to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:00 PM
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I had a quick look....japanese women with penises ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:56 PM
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What's this ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:18 PM
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And it sounds better :) I don't feel responsible for the current national policy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:13 PM
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How ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:00 PM
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I didn't... I stopped my journey with the saxophonist. So many questions remain...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 12:56 PM
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Yes I know... Thanks, it's nice of you. I do have paid sick leave. Fortunately !
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 12:54 PM
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I totally understand your indignation, I'm just used to this situation because it's actually how it works here since 2020. I have no choice, hospitals lack personel in my country. Because of that, to be positive is not a good enough reason to take a day off. If I'm asymptomatic, I'm supposed to go to work and take all the necessary precautions. It drives me crazy too, but that's the law. If I cough, I can stay at home, but because of this particular circumstance that the secretary is ill too, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:37 AM
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I hate it. I keep the longer possible distance with other passengers. Luckily, it's mid morning where I live, there's not many. I'm wearing 2 masks, and I touch nothing. The secretary managed to connect to the hospital network, so I can go home.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 10:17 AM
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I noticed that musicians are better. Especially drummers and percussionnists !
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:56 AM
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Funny how reversed things are here
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:36 AM
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We got COVID. I believe our evening will look like a tasteless soup, some Futurama and fall asleep at 22h !
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:27 AM
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Totally :) Like the Chet Baker Song." Each day is Valentine's Day" Not very usual in PPD to mark love songs hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:24 AM
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I was not into marriage either in my early 20's. I didn't get the point. So I totally would have been in a relationship with someone who didn't want to get married at that age. I recently started to think about it, after 6 years with a man, a house together and the plan to have children very soon. When you grew older, you start to worry about what happen to your family if someone get sick, or lose its job, or anything happens. Marriage is definitely the best protection you can give to your relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:20 AM
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Shitty rainy Valentine's Monday. I got covid. I cough and have something like asthma. I need to go to work (a small and isolated hospital département) just to cancel my appointements because... the secretary has COVID too ! It's only us two on mondays. My train is 30min late because there's been an accident. And plans for a hot evening with husband are no longer an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:10 AM
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These so called "standards" are not universal. What you call strong brave men are generally idiots who throw themselves in dumb fights, believing you'll be impressed. You actually end spending a shitty evening at the hospital because they have their nose broken by some drunk jerk. Immediate turn off. About dating, it's pretty common for women to make moves too. Purity is an incredibly bigot and puritan standard to have in our era. If you believe it concerns only women, then it's misogynistic too…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 10:00 AM
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Actually, I was talking about two differents things, and you're right they are mixed up. It's about the delusionnal belief that attraction can be all rationalized. It can't be. Look at all the efforts put by humanity to attain this goal : it didn't work. But you can find a bit of truth in every art and knowledge production. Up to you to try and figure something. RP is a try to do so, but a very poor one, firstly because none of the science it lays one is actually rigourous. It's more likely to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:11 PM
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Dude, creativity and thirst for knowledge have been used to try to define human mind, feelings and behaviours, including love, from the Antiquity at least. Best possible advice : read poetry, read social sciences, and biology too, read littérature. Go around, grab a coffee and look at people. Learn about painting, architecture, whatever you like : it's always about people. This very disposition of the mind could light on the "spark" in a girl. It already have with me. Partner started to talk abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:55 PM
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They adress the problem so badly, it sounds like a joke. RP suggestions are just the best way to never, ever, be able to bond with someone. It's like : "All your worse - and delusionnal - fantasies about not being enough to be loved ? They're true, motherfuckers ! All you can do is pretend you're worthy, in order to get some attention that you don't deserve, from someone whose true nature is to be just as awful as your worst nightmare". Don't tell me it's not sick, or doesn't cause more damage t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 02:01 PM
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They do because they are trying to find a solution, I know. But you have to admit that the way they try is so obviously wrong, it's sometimes hard to hide one's impatience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:44 PM
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I feel like nothing talked about on this sub concerns me or my circle. Everybody is average, and don't really care. Most of the guys around me have GF or wifes. As far as I know them, it happens that they joke about women but they were never the uncivilized animals that RP describes as the normal man. To be honest, I don't know any man fitting the RP description. The single ones know exactly why they are, and realize how their way of life, behaviour or choices led them where they are. They take …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:15 PM
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Why not ? I could totallly do that yes, but after trying to be friend and realizing I wouldn't be able to ignore my attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:44 AM
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There are, inside the couple of course. I meant it's considered rude in social circles, when you get to know someone etc. Or during a date. Its about courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:03 PM
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Yes I totally agree with you. I asked because I come from a place where it's actually rude and shocking to talk about income and money you make in general. I feel a bit weird with the concept of settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:57 AM
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Frankly, you think you got me, it proves your point and all, but that's because you just don't get how a partnership works. He pays more yes, because his income is about twice mine. It's not equal, but equal would be unfair, as he and I are not "equal" in terms of age, career, and needs. We chose to do it fair, meaning that each of us do its best. That's what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:51 AM
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What do you mean by "settle" ? Many RP here talk about it and it sounds revolting, but maybe I don't fully understand what is it about ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:09 PM
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Husband has a PHD, I decided to have babies first, and then eventually go back to uni to do one. Even if I don't, I have a degree and my own career. His field is better paid than mine, but we both work full time and share proportionally the costs of life. When we met, he barely had a salary because his work at uni was not funded anymore. I'm really not sure that hypergamy is a relevant dynamic in our couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:02 PM
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Frankly, I'm a huge counter example to your theory. I'm 30. I had around 20 partners. I've never really thought about size, and even less about shape lol. Some lovers had smaller dicks than other, and they often compensate very well with their skills, sensuality, or whatever way they had to be unique. It never bothered me. Same with erectile dysfunction. Because yes, men do are human beings. They do have feelings, insecurities, or pressure to perform. I have as well. It soon passes when you crea…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:38 PM
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My questions in the last comment were about basic methodology and epistemology : you need to know the definitions and context of a study to be able to understand the results and interprete them. Otherwise it doesn't mean anything. I don't see what point you want to make about historical wars. I'm actually interested in too, mostly because I love littérature, which is often related to historical events and context. I'm not talking about fetichizing it, coslplay or anything, just appreciating to l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:01 PM
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If you say so...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:41 AM
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Oh ok. Wow. Frankly, I'd be interested to read more of your thoughts about this déterminism and its relations with morality. But I totally understand if it's too long or complicated online haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:03 AM
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Your choice is funny and interesting : how would you like to unite an individual perspective based on responsability for one's actions (the law) and a field where (if I understand correctly) the behaviours are explained by biology ? That's not my field either, I'm into clinical psychology, and in a foreign country.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:46 AM
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They have no scientific relevance because they are... not science, but respectively politic and religion, which are also 2 differents things... They have different purposes and functions too.. they can't be compared actually
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:34 AM
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What do you mean ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:12 AM
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Feminism is a political movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:06 AM
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Lol yes you can. Thanks you !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:04 AM
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An intellectually honest scientist shows caution and distance from the theories, studies and datas he (/she) presents. Especially in fields where results are not exact and can't be rigourously proven or predicted, like human behaviour. If you treat them as unquestionnable truths, you don't do science, you do religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:09 AM
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I'm not sure these categories make sense in the first place haha. How would I know if my positionning means something ? What are the definitions of feminity and masculinity used here ? How the questions are they relevant for these definitions ? Take the question about historical wars.. History students are in their large majority... women. What do you think ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:29 AM
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Women 30 here : Feminity : 100 Masculinity : 90 The test doesn't sounds consistent or scientific at all.. but why not ? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:45 AM
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I used to envy a friend of mine who does the same job. She got her degree before me, got married early, has now 2 young children. I felt late compared to her. She's currently having a terrible burn out, and will probably end as a homewife. I worry for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:04 PM
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Homemade meals everyday (almost), with fresh vegetables and fruits. Reasonable portions. Moderate activity, but regularly (2/3 times a week), and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 04:54 PM
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Attention and influence are not the same thing. You can be self restrained, serious, not easily influenced... And still choose to give attention to your partner. Not because you can't resist, but because you genuinely want her in your life. Why would my man want to resist to my charms lol ? He's generally very happy when I offer them to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:21 PM
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