GoldenSlippersL8M8 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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13	Pickmes are the women that men should ACTUALLY be worried about. Pediatric research on injured children or developmentally disabled children shows that the best long term outcomes for the child occur when the mother is at a higher socioeconomic status. I am not sure what it is for healthy children. The mother is typically tasked with giving a child a good start and the father is tasked with the role of providing for that/ supporting that. When a good father is present, children have more confidence and the fathers often verbalize more long term goals for thei…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 02:21 AM
2	She is right, society pushes us to give “nice guys” a chance even if we are not attracted to them It was pretty anticlimactic. He shared he was into the animation in the new MLP. I loved MLP as an 80s kid, so we watched some episodes together. I enjoyed it and they’ve done a good job; I guess I wasn’t “into it” enough. Then he told me about the fandom and the bronies, and how he was a brony. I thought a brony was a guy who liked the show. Then he was frustrated that I wasn’t into his stuff enough, and we grew apart with him breaking up with me but wanting to stay friends. He brought up the i…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/21 02:38 PM
50	She is right, society pushes us to give “nice guys” a chance even if we are not attracted to them I dated a guy I thought I was good for. He ended up being a Brony.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 07:26 PM
4	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. They see their commitment as the prize awarded to the woman. Why should she want any more than to say she is his wife? They don’t appreciate that she is commiting as well and the demands on her will skyrocket as a result.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 05:38 PM
1	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 12:12 PM
3	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. I had a bad (pickme) habit of asking low but thinking that would increase my ex’s appreciation of me. I didn’t want to be demanding as that seemed unfair. I had low demands and high hopes. That did not serve me well. I feel for this woman.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 12:11 PM
5	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. “Hanging With Mr. Cooper,” Friday nights on ABC on TGIF. Character was Vanessa, played by Holly Robinson-Pete. I loved the plotline where his cousin, struggling to rebuild her life and her confidence after a divorce (or possibly widowed) applies to his school as a teacher and is given the job of principal!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 01:30 AM
25	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. And folks from back in the day say it was both proof he could provide and was willing to.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 01:24 AM
26	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. I think he already had the ring and figured it should be fine as an engagement ring.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 01:22 AM
19	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. Whether he likes it or not, on a societal level this is social and financial PROTECTION for her. If their assets are frozen, or she can’t get access and he is in a coma (has happened bc they didn’t have a will drawn up) then she still has the ring. The men she works with or encounters know she is valued and provided for—they back off. This is something she will wear every day and give to a granddaughter or great granddaughter as a sign of how a man should treat you and value you. It represents t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 01:14 AM
7	Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it. Even young brides without children were expected to have housekeepers (underpaid, disenfranchised housekeepers). In my community some of the elderly women are starting to speak out in interviews and name names of people they worked for when they were younger. Wealthy households tried to pay them with the barter system but with old clothes or expired canned goods. The husband or father in law of the housewife would beat the (often) teenage girl if her work was not satisfactory. Or worse. These we…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/21 05:51 PM
5	Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it. When it comes to equality, we argue and fight for women to have the same rights, freedoms, and pay as our male peers/counterparts. This is regarding status under the law, taxation on products, and equal pay for equal work. I don’t see the logic of treating your date let alone your wife with the quid pro quo you see in business or the tit for tat of a professional colleague. Then they act shocked their behavior irritated their date and they don’t see her again, or that their wife has had enough a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/21 05:45 PM
2	The Risks Associated with Dating in the Modern Era Often they are misers. He gives her the bare minimum because he has an “I’ll show them” mentality as to her role in his life. He might marry because he wants a son, but she means nothing to him—just an accessory.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 02:47 AM
12	Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't. NOBODY just gets the benefit of the doubt anymore. Not a soul. It must be earned, like trust and respect, and it is very tenuous. My mother raised me to give people the benefit of the doubt. Never again. Never never never. Why is there doubt? Whose responsibility is the resolution of said doubt? Is that person addressing the doubt? No? Bye!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 02:33 AM
9	Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't. Silence is golden.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 02:19 AM
13	Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't. I have worked hard to be an excellent communicator, and this goes far back. I went to an elementary school where we had workshops on communication and conflict resolution. That has helped professionally when I need to craft a persuasive email. It hasn’t made a difference in dating relationships. Clear communication means NOTHING to people who don’t value you. Assertiveness means NOTHING to a controlling spouse or a selfish date. Editing to add: the book But He’ll Change by Joanna Hunter was an a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 02:09 AM
20	"You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation here It’s interesting and sad how as men become more and more medically complex they put more and more responsibilities on their spouse until she leaves, exhausted. They will expect her to do the work of 4-5 disciplines who get rotating shifts (so 10 people). Then they act surprised at how much work she’d been doing and how why didn’t she just say so? This didn’t happen to your dad because he didn’t live that long, Earl. All those people you see at rehab or the hospital are people who do services you…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/21 02:46 AM
31	This Sub is so empowering that I can't stand other relationship subreddits A woman posted about about how her boyfriend said he loved her once, during sex; she was concerned when he wouldn’t say “I love you” in the weeks after that, and the CoMmUnICaaaaaTe responses blaming her for overreacting and overthinking it and StahP PuTtInG PrEsSuRe On ThIs PoOr MaN ILU iS a ReAlLy BiG sTeP fOr SoMe GuYs was what we would expect. I hope she kicked him to the curb. And we usually die alone anyway.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/21 01:12 AM
6	Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it. I like Investing With Rose, but I’m a newbie in many ways.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/21 03:08 AM