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A. Plenty of men prefer having sex with only one woman? Recognizing the existence of other attractive women - hell, even enjoying looking at such women - hardly means they "crave sex" with these women. Even fantasizing about such sex doesn't mean they "crave" it. B. What does this even mean? I am attracted to my wife, who is my own age, and who has been getting older with me. I am not attracted to teenagers, who look like children. Some men may feel differently. It's a big world, plenty of peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:36 PM
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The nuclear family is a relatively modern phenomenon.
/r/MensRights29/05/22 02:24 PM
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So everybody should have to submit to DNA testing to make it less awkward for men who suspect their wives/girlfriends of cheating??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:04 PM
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Successful men don’t need sex to feel validated. Insecure men who have trouble getting what they want in life feel that sex will validate them, not understanding that sex is a pretty routine thing for most people and that after high school, nobody gives a shit whether you’re having sex or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:40 PM
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Porn and video games have been popular with young men ever since they were invented. Men’s inability to earn enough money to start and care for a family has more to do with the persistently bad economic circumstances they’ve found themselves in since the Bush administration than their preference to simply be idle. Or their being criticized by The Culture. Josh Hawley is a crank and should be dismissed as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 10:23 PM
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Sounds like you're fixated on the single mother to the point that it's affecting your ability to forge relationships with other women, despite your apparent interest in doing so. You would potentially benefit from spending some time in therapy to work through these issues. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:17 PM
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It’s been 5 years since I was single, but I continued to date girls in my network in addition to tinder/bumble/hinge/okcupid in those days. If guys aren’t getting dates from their own network, then either they don’t know enough people or there’s something wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 03:16 PM
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Here: obsessed with “n-counts” Real world: not obsessed with “n-counts” Could be an age thing, though. By your 30s, everybody has a sexual history, some more, some less.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:15 PM
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Right, but even so, is that because girls don’t want to be girlfriends (apparently not, since OP claims they’re complaining about being single)? Or is it because guys aren’t meeting standards? My question is really about how this issue is being framed: it takes two to tango, so why the focus on women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:34 PM
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I guess I count as blue pill, in that I’m not a red piller, but I think the biggest difference is I don’t view women as being monolithic and I’m not trying to mon-max or optimize my life around sex. I’m in a committed and happy long term relationship, building a life together with my girlfriend. We may marry, we may not, but that’s going to come down to what’s best for us both. The types of relative value considerations that seem to obsess red pillers don’t enter into it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 01:41 PM
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Why is the focus on women? Given the roughly even splits of men and women in this country, the statistics must be comparable for men. Given it has traditionally been the man’s responsibility to propose marriage, why is the question focused on women? The short answer is that in a world where women no longer need to rely on a man’s income for survival, where men no longer need marriage to have sex, and children aren’t needed to help on the farm or whatever, marriage is increasingly viewed as unnec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:06 AM
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The birth rate is down because it’s expensive as fuck to have kids in the urban areas that young people disproportionately live in. My LTR and I are successful by most standards and could probably afford to have kids once were married, but in order to provide the standard of living we would want for them, we would have to give up pretty much everything we like to do, or at least radically downsize. For some people the trade is worth it. We’re not so sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:32 PM
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If a guy is going to lash out, there’s probably nothing you could have said to make him act more like an adult. Just be grateful to have extricated yourself from the situation and chalk it up to being right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 07:05 PM
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Politely and directly. “I’m sorry but I don’t feel a romantic connection” or “I’m sorry, but I don’t think we’re compatible as romantic partners.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 07:04 PM
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Not a red piller, but it seems pretty damn obvious that a happy marriage is possible until death. People do it all the time. The problem is that lots of people, men and women alike, are either deeply immature or otherwise unpleasant and incapable of making a relationship work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:33 PM
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He obviously only wants sex and you are obliging him. If sex without a relationship is a dealbreaker for you, stop fucking him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:16 PM
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I think attractive women were more likely to die in childbirth in the Middle Ages than get rich off their looks. Even if an attractive woman somehow found her way to court, she wouldn’t have any financial power of her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:28 PM
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Probably because it requires design/marketing talent to be a self made social media millionaire. If looks were all that mattered, we’d have a lot more millionaires.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:26 PM
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What other time period could possibly compete with the modern, social media era?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:14 PM
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Your friend’s boyfriend is full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:14 PM
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Depends where you went to school and which social circles you run in, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:05 PM
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If I’m the only one who noticed, wouldn’t that make it less relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:52 PM
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Romney is a neoconservative. He was the Republican nominee for President a decade ago, it’s amazing how quickly the base has shifted away from what used to be fairly mainstream conservative views.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:50 PM
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More often than not, curly hair. Some can pull it off but I usually think it looks bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:47 PM
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Plenty of worthless humanities degrees end up highly paid lawyers/consultants/bankers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:47 PM
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It’s a standard expectation in the Anglosphere, at least. Perhaps Germany is more enlightened, in which case OP should have phrased his question on this basis, rather than asking whether this was a “foodie” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:30 PM
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With respect, reproduction is subordinate to survival. From the standpoint of a species, reproduction is necessary for the propagation of that species, and the survival of an individual post reproduction doesn’t matter from an evolutionary standpoint, but that isn’t to say the purpose of an organism is to reproduce. I am willing to grant that we are both showing our biases here, but I am not willing to grant that the purpose of an individual is to reproduce from a standalone, objective point of …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:27 PM
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Right, but why is it relevant for us? Is this a post about whether soi-dissant foodies expect dinner on first dates or is this a post about what “orientals” expect?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:28 PM
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A lot of these people have joined communities like TRP because they’re not getting the validation they crave from the world. Not exactly the right mindset to engage in good faith debate with an open mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:27 PM
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“I’m not comfortable investing time and money into a dinner date with a stranger, but if this random stranger expects it then maybe I’ll do it?” OP, if that is in fact what you’re looking for, have some more self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:56 PM
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It’s generally expected that men pay the entire bill in western societies too. Nothing to do with the location of a first date, except making it a real dumb idea to go to dinner for the reasons you’ve already acknowledged. What are you hoping to discover in this thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:44 PM
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“Why isn’t this sub about what I want to talk about?”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:38 PM
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Why is her ethnicity relevant? If you’re not comfortable taking someone to dinner on a first date, don’t do it. In my online dating days I would never in a million years agree to dinner for a first date. Coffee or drinks is the standard for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:37 PM
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Why is casual sex so prevalent now? Because it's no longer shunned? Because contraceptives are widely available? Because it's fun? Also how do I find people who aren't into that (not that it's objectively wrong or anything). Churches? Mosques? Temples? Match.com? Christian Mingle? but I've basically remained single for 10 years as I've never found anyone who had the same "values" I have. Where do you live? Is the issue that you're not finding someone with the same values that you have, or you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:50 PM
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Since we live in a gynocentric society Our most powerful politicians are men. Our business leaders are men. Our wealthiest people are men. This sort of delusion that underpins most red pill thinking. If you think our society is gynocratic, you are living in an alternate universe. The truth is that women don’t have any more power than they did before online dating, it’s just that men are so willing to swipe right on just about anybody because A) the bar for casual sex is lower for men and B) ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:31 PM
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I don't see how we're disagreeing? I'm arguing that "be attractive" is good universal advice that's not going to be the same in all contexts. It sounds like you're effectively arguing the same thing: that it's a useful model but attractiveness is going to differ by culture/sub-culture. The particulars matter when it comes to taking specific actions. And your linked post has some great examples of what I'm talking about in my OP: TRP makes benign enough claims like women are attracted to men with…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 01:34 PM
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No doubt there are many ways to be a leader (although this smells a lot like moving the goalposts) and of course people only want romantic partners who bring something to the table. This is something understood by just about everybody, male, female, or otherwise. Like I said up top, there are true enough "truths" to red pill ideology, but these truths are fundamental observations that nearly everybody implicitly understands, except for the entitled jerks who make up the majority of content on su…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 12:56 PM
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Whatever subculture you are in, you want to be the alpha as a male. That means socially dominant, the center of attention. Even if we grant this as being the best possible strategy for attracting the best possible mate, every group of coupled-up guys necessarily includes coupled-up guys who aren't "the alpha," or the center of attention. Numbers dictate that the overwhelming majority of men in relationships don't fit this paradigm. Consistently being the center of attention is simply not possibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 12:12 AM
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On a large enough scale, sure, patterns emerge: good looking, well-dressed, funny, successful and confident is going to appeal to all types of women and if you're starting at zero, that's a good set of attributes to aim for. But "good looking/well dressed" are more varied than these subs would have you believe, "successful" is defined differently by different women (hedge fund managers in NYC are persona non grata to some, extremely attractive to others) and funny/confident comes in many flavors…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:32 PM
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The problem with The Red Pill isn't that it contains "uncomfortable truths," but rather that it reduces human interaction to a series of tests, that it views relationships in the framework of give/get with meticulously monitored accounts. Red pillers dehumanize women and in so doing, dehumanize themselves. Some of the "truths" which Red Pillers point to are reasonable enough: women want men with high "social market value" (however any given woman defines that), improving your looks/habits/career…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 08:55 PM
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I sometimes wonder what planet PPD posters are living on. The schlubby man / hot woman coupling is so common it's a cliche. This body positive influencer - hardly a common phenomenon to begin with, let alone representative of wider social patterns, and I note that you've not provided a specific example anyway - has somehow inverted this expectation, and you conclude that it's therefore men who are written off unless they're effectively male models?? Get off social media. It is warping your view …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:23 PM
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Women want sex as much as men do, men just want it more often, regardless of their environment, and are less discerning about their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:50 PM
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Capitalism distorts relationships insofar as it creates inequalities. But inequalities manifest themselves apart from capitalism. The vast majority of (usually male) complaints on this sub focus on physical inequalities, since those are generally stickier, but sure, capitalism is going to affect dating and relationships the way it affects every other system on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:18 PM
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Yeah, definitely men everywhere would be happy with destitution and idling as long as they could put their penises in vaginas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:16 PM
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You’ve misunderstood my post and/or the link. I too am saying that context is important, there is more to context than “is my harasser attractive?” and attractive people are just as capable of creeping women out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:00 PM
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Of course halo effects and other pro-handsome biases exist, but /r/niceguys is full of examples of men blowing it by being creepy after they had matched with someone on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:48 PM
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Creepy men tend to “backward rationalize” their unsuccessful advances by assuming their being creepy would have been interpreted as “being nice” if only they had different physical attributes. Women can be creeped out by conventionally handsome men, too, it’s just that conventionally handsome men have usually learned how to socialize appropriately and not be creepy. The problem for creeps is that their rationale for proactively “being nice” is that they expect a return on their niceness. This ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:15 PM
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While many couples divorce, most people report being happily married when surveyed. Those facts seem at odds. People don’t know what they want / how they really feel, and are just as likely to falsely report being happy as they are to enter a marriage for which they aren’t suited. If divorce is a realistic option, people will take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:57 PM
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Fear of rejection by women seems to drive a whole lot of thinking around these parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:22 AM
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What would your strategy for this be, if you felt getting a 10/10 gf is your sole purpose in life? If I ever felt "getting a 10/10 gf" was my sole purpose in life, I would reevaluate my life. Have some self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:22 PM
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I don’t understand. Because Michael K Williams was in a bar fight, you don’t think women have a right to complain about harassment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:22 PM
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If you find yourself getting slashed in the face during bar fights as often as women get harassed by men, you may be making poor decisions. Most men don’t find themselves in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:20 PM
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I think this is basically a problem without a modern solution. Women grow up knowing EXACTLY where they sit in the social/sexual pecking order and spend their whole lives being reminded of their relative attractiveness. But when men have to deal with the disappointment of not being able to have sex with "Goddesses of divine judgement" or whatever the fuck, it's a "problem without a modern solution." Not everybody is going to want to fuck you, no matter what you look like, how much money you make…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:26 PM
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1) Girls gone wild started in the 90s. 2) Nobody uploads videos of “normal” people having a “normal” time on spring break. All of the videos that people will bother to upload are videos of conventionally attractive people. When you search for spring break videos online, you are seeing only a sliver of activity and assuming what you see is universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:18 PM
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I remember when I was on OK Cupid, I would be consistently amazed at how awful most dudes’ profiles were. Bad pictures, lame writing. Like, what do you expect is going to happen? Of course girls are going to move on. You’ve given them absolutely no reason to be interested. Couldn’t see guys’ tinder profiles, but I’m sure they were just as bad on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:35 PM
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It is not abstact not theoretical. It is what I find out in her past after extensive investigations. You are defining her best as something that she did with other guys, which you only learn about through "extensive investigations," and not leaving any room for her to no longer want those things. There are not specific, concrete things you're after, you're after the feeling of knowing that she hasn't done something with someone else that she's not doing with you. It is abstract AND it's centered…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:51 PM
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However, biologically speaking, the entire purpose of an organism is to reproduce successfully. Biologically speaking, the entire purpose of an organism is to survive. You've demonstrated your own bias right here in this post! Any study that relies on self reporting is going to inherently be subject to biases. Studies on sexual behavior are going to be subject to both overreporting and underreporting, for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:47 PM
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My happiness comes from me getting her best. Her "best" being an abstract, theoretical concept you just claimed to not care about. If I am not getting her best, I am not happy. So you would be less happy with a woman who previously engaged in anal sex but no longer does than with a woman who never did and still doesn't? If her best is not enough to meet my bare minimum requirements then I was never in a relationship with her in the first place. That makes sense to me, but OP's question was wheth…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:45 PM
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If anal sex is such an important criterion for a happy relationship that such a judgment is possible (i.e. she is now "worse"), I would argue that her past willingness to have anal sex is not more relevant than her current unwillingness. If you are not getting what you need, that is what's relevant. Her past behavior should have no bearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:40 PM
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I don't deny that every relationship can be viewed transactionally. It is a cliche that relationships are give and take. My point is that viewing relationship solely in transactional terms, itemizing every behavior in some constant cost/benefit analysis, is a recipe for unhappiness. I think focusing on one's own happiness is a better model, and all of the responses in this thread suggesting an otherwise happy relationship would be ruined by the knowledge that one's partner formerly engaged in ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:38 PM
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If you define a woman solely in transactional terms, you are always going to be disappointed relative to some theoretical best. If she is with you and you are happy, what difference does it make what sex acts she may have done with someone else? If she is with you and you are unhappy, what difference does it make? Focus on yourself and your own relationships, you will be a happier and more complete person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:50 PM
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Can people not change? Isn’t it conceivable that someone “celebrated buttfucking Friday nights” in their youth and then realized they no longer wanted to have anal sex? Isn’t it conceivable that a woman was being constantly pressured into having anal sex and went along with it for fear of losing a relationship? There are any number of reasons someone might change their mind besides double standards. And how are “one night stands” relevant in the context of an ongoing relationship (besides an ope…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:43 PM
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I cannot imagine caring more about someone else's relationship than my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:32 PM
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? If that line is a reference, I don't recognize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:24 AM
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I could buy that 20% of people on these apps get likes from 80% of the pool (or some other similarly shaped distribution, where it skews heavily to one side), but the analysis needs to consider that likes are unlimited, and somebody liking someone in the top 20% isn’t barred from liking somebody in the bottom 80%. To your point, such a phenomenon would have drastic consequences for procreation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:15 PM
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To be fair, somebody describing the subway as “the traditional hotbed of lust” is not likely to have typical/representative thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:55 PM
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Is it “Red Pilled” to recognize that attractive people have an easier time getting dates than unattractive people? Or that less physically attractive people need to compensate somehow? Seems like common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:47 PM
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Beating is amoral. TRP, m'ladies and gentle-sirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/14 06:33 PM
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You're assuming they're false accusations coming from "the biased mother," but your only information is coming from another biased party. No doubt some guys get screwed by the system, but when you have a comprehensive list of violations like what you've described, I have to believe that there's probably something to these accusations.
/r/MensRights06/08/14 08:00 PM
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You should stop making things up and posting them to reddit, for starters.
/r/MensRights17/07/14 03:21 PM
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