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Something to keep in mind—deadbeat dads of today are standing on the shoulders of the deadbeat dads of our childhood & tv programming from the late 20th century Watching late 80s/early 90s tv, outta highschool in the early 2000s, the tv messaging was that deadbeat dads were vanishing acts. completely gone—if he showed up when the main character was an adult then he was just there to get in the way or for the mc to show himself that he was grown up and on his own, or that his adopted or real fami…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 01:32 PM
52

I've had to remind myself that being with my LVX ended up worse than being by myself. Even at the last times I was around him I'd be thinking to myself "I would rather be just sitting alone in my room."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:51 PM
1

Few ideas, I'm imagining being in mixed company and wanting to convey quickly that the sleeping around guy is not impressive for it: "Creeper" Creeper is definitely a word you think of or have used for a guy who was trying to get in your pants, but it's usually only used for a guy who' glaringly unsuccessful. Why not also use it for the guy who's just as unable to control himself (he just gets farther along)? -The rw dorks that make a big huff about being anti-parn for every reason BUT that it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:11 PM
24

If he's not a sommelier then really how else should he have answered though besides "can't help you lemme get the right person" assuming the restaurant even has that. She should have interrupted him to ask for the right person instead. And if the restaurant doesn't have a wine expert then any waiter being asked that would be answering with whatever they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 08:41 PM
4

I have 3 guy roommates and I can only think the 7x from living with just one (and that's one who supposedly likes you!) comes from all the re-cleaning his attempts, the extra cleaning because if you ever miss a spot or leave it for when you get back or let the stain soak he'll interpret that as "well she's messy too," and the need to have it always spotless in some hopeless hope that they pick up on clean as a baseline standard and not a punishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 09:53 PM
25

And Plan B would work way better obv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:00 PM
8

Cumcount it is. I don't "like" the term, but it refers to exactly what it means and is perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:30 PM
6

Love this and needed it Especially the vacation/vacation companion and being worldly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:34 PM
33

His girlfriend or wife might not want to see her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:59 PM
23

I had a whole diatribe about the last time I felt kinda like this and just deleted it because it all boiled down to What you're describing, is running into a guy who is basically a midwit or at the obvious least, not as smart as you are, or not as well thought out as you are at the drop of a hat, and he's seeing it by your lack of swooning, and how he's getting fitty over it instead of appreciating you for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:48 PM
41

I thought quora only existed to demoralize my Google searches. Makes so much sense now that it's an awful app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:56 AM
49

Love this. It's a perfect counter to their whining about divorces, which are either right before or right after they try to gloat that it's the men who are holding off on marriage (calling themselves the key like you said), followed up or preceded by "well she should have picked better" when the topic is some chick in some undeniably abusive scenario.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:49 AM
22

I'm wondering why they're even there in the first place. "On daddy duty" for a whole hour and a half, waiting for their son's hockey lessons or their own (grand)daughter's skating lessons to be done? I can't flip a coin to guess which is worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:07 PM
2

I'm not getting why he was keeping his booster-shoes on if he was in a relationship with her for two years already. They just got stuck to his two year old shoes, or he's still using Tinder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:06 PM
870

everyone here seemed to miss the "Me, aspiring and know what I want, clear thinker. Her, quiet (sic) lost in her life, no directtion or idea of what she wanted..." Translation: he evangelized her about himself most of the time and she shockingly didn't have much to say to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:37 PM
163

dollar to donut he does care about social media and has a sock account
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:39 PM
6

it rhymes, and has a logic to it that anyone can follow, and deconstructing it into a bl@ckpill ruins people's memories of giving a slight chuckle while watching the intro to The Jetsons. The phrase is NEVER going away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:26 AM
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idunno if doing so is a good use of time. The site doesn't look like it's simply for reporting or women who got an abortion, and certainly not NVMs who got what they wanted when an abortion was done. Instead it reads like it's to report pracitioners who aren't following the law that Texas passed and are performing abortions past the heartbeat detection cutoff, which they state is "generally around 6 weeks." Which would have impacted me in my decision and I don't know how I feel about that right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:22 AM
12

I would think if he ran into creditcard debt he'd stay with her so that she can pay it off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:44 PM
6

Yes you can go back, to whatever level you want to keep it at. It's gonna keep growing back, anyway. I can definitely back up the [he has an opinion about this hair--to--he is an awful choice in a man] correlation, too. Not as overt as what you encountered though, but still holds up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:44 PM
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The PickMe ears are only hearing his "I didn't have a choice" as some kind of humility from him, or she was so great he had no other choice but her 'cause she's so great, so therefore she actually chose him and she's this great man-lifter; and "uuuuugh I was getting oooold" that he was actually family/long-term minded at a young age, and is a weak attempt to flip script about the meme of women being "baby crazy" (a social sin when I was young) and 'hitting the wall' in that he was also worried a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:46 PM
8

Almost feels like a troll post 'cause there's no real way this person took a peek at anything on this sub. "why are they trying to date men?" Most of the posts are why you shouldn't, or poking fun at men, flipping scripts, and comments are filled with commiseration and that note-sharing from our own experiences with men we already did date in the past (unfortunately for past us). There's so many examples and comments and posts of women owning up to their own past behavior, of putting up with awf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:38 PM
10

This is paranoia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:06 PM
19

depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:03 PM
10

Someone called outa guy's "Hapsburg facial features" and I had to scramble for my sunglasses the nuclear explosion was so bright
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:42 PM
6

The Amy Schumer = every woman comedienne meme was literally bursting out of my forehead while scrolling through the comments. Except for a single skit that was posted here that lasted too long, she really isn't funny. I just haven't seen it. But her humor that she's way more known for, is oversexed toilet, so it stands to reason that that's what would be promoted in the national/Netflix level and landscape instead of say, someone who isn't related to a New York Senator. This group--definitely ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:39 PM
6

It's just eww. Eww being promoted by yahoonews which copypasta'd it from Insider. It's not wholesome, it's horrifying to people on/in this group, and crazy making to Pickme's who are experiencing a shred of cognitive dissonance and trying to move towards the light. "But it worked with her!" ​ Eww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:23 PM
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So he....handed this to the judge with a sh*t-eating grin to argue "hey she signed it and broke it I'm obviously in the clear, right!??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:39 AM
7

I def can't name a HV quality to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:41 PM
5

"You should have thought of that before"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:52 AM
49

All I get from this is that guys care about other men's height waaaay more than women do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:38 AM
3

Yeah it was like "Surely now that he's complaining that he can't see outta the blue, he'll accept a vitamin that isn't a gummy childrens multi or weed! Maybe he'll umderstaaaaand that I caaaaare about him!" honk honk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:47 AM
3

Oh God you tried the "here's supplements because you're too lazy to change your diet please pick me" act too? Bromelain isnt cheap (I get some for bug allergies) but the Lutein I bought my nvx ("well it happens to be BOGO so I would have bought it anyway!") sure isn't either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:29 PM
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I have heard nv's at work straight-faced answer up to the following: "corn, potatoes, wheat heheh, is bacon a vegetables? uuuuh whatever my food eats!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:22 PM
2

oh this makes so much sense! I was born in 83--too young to be an Xer as far as I hear, and wrt Millenials I remember so many times in high school and college (and even today at work) wondering how the hell the kids just up to a few years younger than me got the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:18 PM
3

I've never heard of Generation Jones. What range of births would you mark Jones as?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:41 PM
4

All the same caveats apply of course. His car skills could be just that he dorks around, makes cruddy repairs but it's a "good enough" job that it passes inspection (at the place where he knows a guy). Or he's legit, the repairs set the car up to outlast everything etc, only reason he's not running his own certified repair shop is .....who knows. But he reserves the worst of his personality for doing, discussing, planning said repairs. Which makes that $70 oil change at a shop seem much more att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:40 PM
5

Did the landlord believe him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:19 PM
11

Even a couple channels that are named or themed around "THIS IS STUFF YOUR DAD SHOULD HAVE TAUGHT YOU"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:18 PM
1

Living in cruddy rural-ish New England houses that are over 150+ years old and only kept up to code to collect rent; I'm pressing X to Doubt on the myth of the Boomer men's oh so great life skills to make repairs on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:07 PM
5

I read your first sentence in my head fully in the meme voice before getting to the end. LOL well done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:46 AM
53

Another point in the "don't tell men about abuse you suffered as a child" bucket
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:59 AM
78

As long as the Twitter OP doesn't agree with the guy replying to her or respond at all to the interaction she's gonna keep tap dancing in her Clown shoes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:31 PM
37

"So you're telling me you're no longer a preteen/teenager in the late 90s and still listen to Marilyn Manson." -me, I wish, in response to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:37 AM
32

Sick producers too Cameraman coulda found a big burly German man crying no problem in that same crowd (and probably did but was told to find someone else) This is a men are disgusting problem for sure, but also a "culture is produced for 'us' and consumed, people no longer create and curate it" symptom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:18 PM
54

They must be mutual friends who've heard his complaining about previous girlfriends before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:28 AM
106

How long until he updates his post with "when she stormed out of the restaurant she bumped into a scout for a very ethical cartilage piercing modeling agency and now she's on her way to Paris on the agency's dime to be featured in their exclusive cartilage piercing photo shoot. So so ANGERY!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:26 AM
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This may be too vague, but a sign that I couldn't read properly two years ago was When you're explaining to a friend why he got so upset, your friends can't wrap their head around what actually upset him. Like they know what you said, you spoke in complete sentences and they're still "Yeah but why is he upset by that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:11 PM
110

No "ew gross" reactions to me answering his question about what I'm eating, what I ordered, what I bought for myself in the grocery store. I shouldn't be more embarrassed about buying chicken thighs in front of him than tampons. Edited for relative pronoun fix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:50 PM
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I feel like if she had actually said oh you're my best friend too yup love sure nothin changes love" he'd have inflated it into her confessing eternal lust-love and trying to jump his creaky bones. She's probably seeing him as a father figure because he can't be too far off from his daughter's ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:07 AM
2

This scrote-holder convinced you to pay, because he'd taken someone else out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:04 AM
74

Fingers crossed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:53 AM
12

I used to be afraid to be seen even looking at the flowers displays in stores lest I look like I think I'm getting flowers....very nutty I know But now that so many stores have moved them up front or in my way I really can't avoid seeing just how not-that-expensive they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:58 PM
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this this this this this I can't count how many RP/mgdork comments and posts declare every day of the week up and down front street, that men don't care how much money you make, they're attracted to women in "nuturing" jobs like waitress or yoga instructor or teacher (while in the next post/comment thread bemoaning how feminized schools are these days) ...and then this woman is starving herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:44 AM
94

So I guess me from the parallel universe has had a reddit account for years. At least it was only a year she wasted on this boring manbaby, and 33 is a fun age to have while you got it. I can't stress how valuable this sub is for these kinds of posts--seeing over and over again and in almost every comment thread, the same story of women putting up with The Same Thing My Ex Did does so so much to opening our eyes to break the conditioning of our own shitty relationship, and realize we're not so a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:41 PM
2

As you should!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:11 PM
14

His videos are suggested to me alongside Queen Cooper's now on YouTube. Tried to give one a listen and it was all word salad. I think he appeals to men because he dresses well (the "Malcolm X style" definitely has visual appeal) and keeps his studio very clean. And he's blowing cheeto dust up their butts with the kind of "advice" he's doling out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:05 PM
9

The Guy Dorkes mask pushed my ass off ....lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:05 PM
5

It would be damsels in distress who need their help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:35 PM
13

That's what stuck out to me from OPs list, the netflix and Spotify subscriptions being shared across a few people....it probably was a signal to the nvm that she's not as isolated and vulnerable to his future maskoff bullcrap. ETA even the monthly nail salon and uber count as this....both are also indicators that she won't remain vulnerable-she can't control the weather but she CAN do something in response. Even becoming a regular somewhere is...better than what I've done for myself in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:30 PM
75

Only way they reject you is if you do the offering, right? So don't offer. Same as you don't offer the guys you're comfortable around. Also...he probably doesn't shower properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:48 PM
18

This isn't parody or hyperbole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:55 PM
36

He was expecting "neither! I'm down to earth and low maintenance unlike all those other girls! I'd be thrilled to just buy you a drink...at my place tee hee!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:53 PM
9

Best thing my HV friend did for me was stop responding the last time I texted her to complain about my NVX treating me like garbage....because she'd been hearing about him treating me like garbage already for sooo long, and told me so many times that I deserve better. Didn't even feel bad about it--I knew I had created the problem myself, and one of the last times I'd talked with her, I was basically telling her that I wanted a relationship like she had. Her continuing to indulge was just being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:48 PM
9

I was 18 or 19 when it came out; could definitely feel what ended up being later called (by Red Dorks) "Dread Game" from that song. Awful, plus gets stuck in your head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:31 PM
7

I'm such a former PickMe, it was almost always the guy who did the breaking up. When they actively reach out as an ex, it's stupid news. They don't want you-you back, although they'll take ass if offered or if it came to them; they don't want to make amends, or share something they realized from therapy or hiking the Appalachian Trail or biking across the US, you're just a familiar name and likely won't verbalize that you hope they die immediately. But not too familiar a name, 'cause a member of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:46 AM
37

I literally just changed my ex's number in my phone to Do Not Reply last week! Today I finally blocked him--and hoping I can last through the week of not checking my blocked messages on my phone. (Only reason I'm posting this comment now, to "be accountable" outside of my head). The first year I was seeing / talking to him, his name in my phone was (very similar to) "Mr Very Good Man." He even signed the Valentine's Day card with the huge vase of flowers he had sent to my/our work as "Mr VGM." B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:07 AM
66

Oh I see you dated the Magic Word Guy too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:30 AM
25

There's absolutely worse meme text put over his face, I'm sure of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:57 PM
10

This and the wholesome eavesdropping... Is Thursday like...Wholesome Thursday or Green Thursday or something lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:06 PM
96

"Protect my daughter without being a jerk?" Lordy I am ready to go now. Please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:18 PM
5

Possible the realtor was agent for the couple buyers as well? I'm thinking since they can be agent for buyers and sellers of the same house, lassoing multiple buyers would be considered a cinch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:37 PM
5

I missed the part where he actually described the actual problem with a chick who "is hashtag girlboss" He described a guy busting ass at work (yup that's what you're hired to do) "only to come home to a...-mumbles- hashtag girlboss?!?" Like, can you try cOmMuNiCaTiNg, dude? And the other doofus just nodding along. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:58 AM
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$1,055 direct PickMe dollars I am still too ashamed to admit by explanation, but is an unassailable number. I can't really add the rest up, I have to chalk it up as "that's just the money number." The other debt/cost of PickMe Clown College is immeasurable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:09 PM
19

"...because it was the only [time] you felt seen, validated and loved by them..." Very this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:52 PM
24

Gotten into health sooner, instead of just internalized my flaws and health gripes that can be improved by better nutrition. No I wasn't just an acne person," I was constantly slathering cheap foundation into my pores. My knee hurting wasn't a personality trait, I needed collagen in my diet. When I got into that early, mid, late 20s, and every day of being 29, version of dread spiralling...I wish I had the brains to say out loud something like "time travel is evil." Kind of like in the FDS handb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:21 PM
17

lightbulb clicks on dingdingding I am now ready to watch Bridezilla shows/episodes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:46 PM
8

I like "I am a timeless entity."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:04 PM
11

jaw-dropper first learning that she's been an advice columnist since 1992, when I was 8. If we had that showing up in the newspapers instead of "Dear Abby" or whatever, we'd have sustainable flying cars by now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:31 PM
8

was here a week and a half ago But tbh any 2-3 minute clip of Queen Deborrah Cooper's energy is gonna suffice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:15 PM
35

They have to out themselves it's hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:31 PM
16

That video clip of Deborrah Cooper booting a guy out-literally out- is coming to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:25 PM
10

I hate how that always shows up in some "GREATEST MOVIE SCENES OF ALL TIME" listicle like...what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:24 PM
14

Spiders again got our backs, looking all spooky amd fast-moving as a running decoy for us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:21 PM
7

I probably qualify as weird coworker, except that I actually shut up about whatever I think about Big News Story and just work; and totally support this line being used on the coworkers who just have to evangelize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:17 PM
7

A week-before-deadline-written Master's thesis...he belonged to the streets in multiple layers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:50 PM
7

This entire thread, OP and everyone's own stories, all of these guys sound like they either do or would prefer to keep either human or doll body parts in a freezer or display case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:32 PM
7

What an awful jerk! Glad you're rid of his ass, it was enough of a drag on you by itself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:27 PM
1

Last weekend, I saw one of their posts screenshot out in the wild on Twitter and it was really obvious (as someone who reads and comments here regularly) that it's a poor parody since they even have developed their own words as insults. It wasn't "femoid" but something that ended in "-oid" and even from context I couldn't figure out what it meant --probably why now I can't even remember it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:51 PM
5

I can only imagine a dude treating it like a hedge trimmer and just THAWACK and that hurting like the bejesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:43 PM
3

so the butthead couldn't even actually comprehend and reply to the topic as presented. Shocker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:41 PM
21

kfc this is something the "anti-feminist" PickMes who peanut gallery at MRA/redpill sites need to see more of, and not just from their own post or comment history. 'cause all of us former clowns have totally tried this and gotten some awfulness like this in response. Many years ago I joined in a comment thread about women being mean or something; I mentioned a coworker who non-stop complained about everything her fiancee did. All day long. Hating him was her personality. Surely today, closer to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:35 PM
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Yeah but he likes them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:06 PM
2

Whoever in this comment thread is on their payroll, excellent work! I felt like an actual pervert last time I tried to analyze bikini segments and bathing suits in the store. And good lordy trying to sift through amaz0n or ebay, just so gross and uncomfortable. These look like they're made for humans! And pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:56 PM
171

Her name, his name...this is astrology proven beyond a shadow of a doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:14 PM
6

Best part is it saying she didn't even like sewing but preferred cooking. She's just like me dot jpg "This is such a pain--that's it, easy how-to replicable patterns!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:25 PM
6

Yeah maybe it was like a "worth the hassle?" decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:01 PM
19

Also so no one has to see her talking to him. Giving a scrotey "a chaaaaance: even back then was looked down on lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:56 PM
23

Because porn is so expensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:15 PM
54

She told on herself with "attends the gym" instead of "works out"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:31 AM
74

"He's fit and regularly attends the gym" calling nah on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:06 AM
1

I have never looked at someone else's toes as much as I have been looking at these. And they'res nothing wrong with them. They're shaped and lengthed just fine, and you need them all the time, so hopefully you're not planning on getting rid of them. Instead of trying to hide them, why not indulge them? Get a pedicure--they help with the logistics of cutting the nails evenly, a nice foot soak, putting money into likely another woman's small business. Get the nice foot cream from the store later. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:55 PM
1

A man's reaction to feet is 90% because of porn (somehow, I don't want to know), and 90% because he doesn't actually know what "dainty feet" means other than "they're connected to a chick who's new and I think about her caring for my p a lot." If a man is HV he's gonna appreciate you, who have feet. Also, men's shoe sizes are calibrated to be numbered lower than womens' by 2 (in the US). A man's 11 would be a woman's 13, etc. So if a man says "whoa" to a woman's shoe size it's 90% because he's j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:40 PM
23

(Impossible)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:57 PM
16

He's never even put his girl's hair into a ponytail. No one is gonna take a little girl's hair and not be over-careful at first and go by communicating, right? ...right? ...please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:31 PM
10

That's something worth pondering. I had to watch DV as a kid. Then would have to watch her yell and scream at the cops. Or yell at me for trying to call the cops. Or watch her yell at my older brothers once she got wind of their plotting to get the guy a taste of his own behavior and out of all our lives (idunno the details and nothing actually happened, but they were just teenage boys in the early 90s, using their brains best they could I guess). Or visit the guy in jail the few timeS the cops …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:11 PM
12

I would counter with, Why can't he think of one thing to say and let you respond? I'm thinking of all the times my nvx would, instead of text multiples, text to break his NC/Stonewalling of a week or so (instead of a call). And it was always just a vehicle for him to vent spleen at me: not-so-subtly accuse me of fucking my ex, send a "sorry for all that but Im grateful u were in my life smiley emoji," or whine that I'm missing his corned beef and cabbage. So to the OP's idea I would think to app…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:10 PM
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It's a great big gotcha they've got for themselves. I found her explanation of why she posts nudes to be so bafflingly sad. Or unsure if it's not written by a dude for an A/B test of answers. How is it comforting to post a nude? How is she young enough to be so saturated in this...milieu but still believe she can do so anonymously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:52 PM
17

All they know how to do tf outta here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:10 PM
3

All I could think about reading the post and watching the original tik was the thread here a few weeks ago about how some of us have dealt with surviving assault and harassment by dressing differently for years at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:40 PM
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Very pretty (her) and nice song/vidya. Hairline on one of the dudes lifting her up....yikes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:38 PM
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Yup I had to settle for seeing Encino Man as a kid (too young to see anything other than "he looks nice") and by the time GotJ, no way my brothers could have been able to endure ....THIS ART.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:31 PM
27

Thank goodness there's a Brendan Fraser post to cleanse the palette and palate after falling for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:35 PM
20

aaaaand now I have to see George of the Jungle 1997 I wonder what the linked writer would say about the 2016 Tarzan movie with the healthy Skarsgard man, 'cause that post reminded me of that one, which I did see--and does kinda have a bit of "just gonna enjoy the show" element to it from what I remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:34 PM
8

What was the medieval-set movie some of these were from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:27 PM
2

Doesn't sound like he really needs you in this conversation, he's doing just fine by himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:24 PM
36

She should just try to rip his dick off and when he protests "nothing, nothing" since she doesn't want kids like it's totally something that gets in the way of her getting what she wants so she should be able to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:20 PM
4

What is the book called? Having my birthday right before Christmas when I lived on the west coast always just meant Christmas lights, but after 10+ birthdays up further north where there are seasons, it's felt really different to have my birthday right when everything just closed a month ago for the season, while all the guys I dated have spring or summer birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:24 AM
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He argued that she started it when tried to flex on him with her rich boyfriend. Am I the only one who walked out of this thinking he wants the boyfriend instead? I had to read everyone else's comments to realize he's wishing he was 23 and could bang the 23 year old sister. And I can't wrap my head around being in your early to mid 30s, and see someone in EARLY 20s, not to mention related to you, and not see them as a "kinda child" you should be ready to protect (either with good advice, or a li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:14 AM
25

funny and harsh and puts the inner PickMeisha down like an absolute savage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:06 AM
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"EYE CONTACT WHEN YOU PULL INTO MY DRIVEWAY AFTER A 15 MINUTE DRIVE??!! waaaaaaaaah You've become so demanding and don't even want to fuck me anymore because you're just gonna cry afterwards!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:28 PM
10

I developed "histamine intolerance" and was staring at trying a FODMAP diet in response to me ignoring my body's nvx intolerance that had developed over the past year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:16 AM
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"having my bed up high will do my sex no good,” ....aaaaaand now I want to block and delete vice. I have a mattress on a barely-there not-even-a-box spring, right on the floor. If I weren't in between rentals, lived on a first floor with narrow everythings, and could find an adjustable metal frame (I love rearranging my furniture), sure I'd probably have a frame. But for now it's all I need, and I came from having nothing so I'm just grateful my friend was able to help me get the mattress. But a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:04 AM
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When I first read about the nest before seeing it on this sub I only saw part one and thought oh that's funny, what a goofy thing. But the smell and everything else it was doing like....they're just so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:47 AM
3

jaw-dropping line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:51 PM
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Or if she wanted she could suppose how he's gonna feel when his own mom has passed on but...but most women aren't actively hostile and bored enough to think of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:46 PM
100

Some more people who won't like that article about our own cervixes vetting for high quality sperm posted recently ETA: obv my cervix can't help my awful mobile typing or spellcheck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:25 PM
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Pretty sure that....nevermind lmfao it's literally a pick your poison just lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:07 PM
6

Only 11 minutes 12 seconds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:52 PM
11

"Burger King sperm" I'm now afraid of some of you artists. That is a barrel bomb of rhetoric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:40 PM
2

And he expected NTAs? This was written....by him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:58 AM
10

A few weeks before I moved out of an ex's house he complained about how I did the dishes "just like ex wife did" and even the Pickmeshia I absolutely was had to fight like hell to not shoot back "hope it was worth it dumbass."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:45 AM
44

I did a double take on "such skinny arms" and his beer gut is like, ripping through the shirt now. Can't unsee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:56 PM
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"actually run by male incels in deep cover" uh, thanks male incels, for helping me get over my ex and feel better about ending the pregnancy I'm now about half-convinced he gave me on purpose? I can only lmfao at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:24 PM
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I've only recently realized how deeply ingrained the idea that both roles I've had at my company were completely unnecessary to the functioning of the company and actually a detriment--because I was dating a guy who'd been there for 12+ years while I was only there about a year or so when we first starting dating. Of course at first he said even his job was easy and that I could do it, and that he used to do what I did. At first. Relative to other coworkers my attitude wasn't that bad, but I rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:13 PM
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I caught the super chill before anything else Super chill huh, is that how she would describe her job? 80k...at super chill? Entry level? No one else could remember to apply for it? And even "I'm in a stressful environment" dude maybe you're not good at your not super chill job or no one likes to work with you unless they absolutely have to. Or your hours are so crap because you're dorkin around during the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:41 PM
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...to HIS WIFE. "I can't get married cause what'll all the men in my life who 9/10 have never seen the word simp think? And what about random strangers online who just repeat the word simp what'll they think?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:33 PM
8

Well if you would remember to lift with your legs and not your uterus, he wouldn't have had to remind you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:02 PM
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I suspect, because deep down they know that with that birthday, they're too old to be staring at/leering/going after the much younger girls; or that they're not really gonna be that professional video game player in space like they wanted to (but did nothing to move towards). And...they were expecting to age like fine wine by doing nothing but having a Y chromosome. So instead of facing facts or facing the nutrient-dense food or exfoliating scrubs in the stores they complain that they haaaaaaaat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:00 PM
3

The financial cost--that's exactly the point of having money, to be able to do this for yourself when you need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:40 PM
3

Next convo I have about this is gonna be an invitation for the trash to take itself out. The NVM is outing himself as unable to tell a difference between human and animal, in a situation where it matters in more than just semantics/biology, which means he thinks humans are animals, which means he basically is an animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:16 AM
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Conflates criticism of how he treats the dog, or any annoyance with the dog, with criticising the dog himself. Feeds him basic cheapass dog kibble AND from his own plate. AND THEN complains when he buys the expensive kibble, that the dog won't eat it. Just buy the ground up real-meat dog food from the same butcher shop you bought your steak from, and incorporate a transition. Quality up, dog health up, plate sovereignty up... Feeds him treats constantly, complains that the dog is fat. Tries to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:11 AM
22

Never had a problem in a gym until this week. Most interactions have been wordless "you using this nah you go" or eyebrow raises at recognizing a fellow coworker. A single, very helpful and very polite suggestion on how to use a machine. But last week. Romanian and stiff-legged deadlifts, trying to make sure that when I do one, I'm not actually doing the other, with really low weight to focus on my form. I'm facing the mirror. And I notice behind me after a couple sets, this scrote lounging/lean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:29 AM
10

wtf--was he trying to ask you out or just...figured it was the equivalent of yelling out a request for directions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:23 AM
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I used to have a job that allowed headphones, and over the course of about a year I tore through many many hours of old-time horror radio shows, spanning from late 30s to mid/late 70s; and picked up the following very general themes 30s to early 40s--protagonist/antagonist could be male or female. Basically some Unexplained thing befalling the hero(ine), the person being immoral--the thief, the cheater, the colluder with the debbul, etc--get a comeuppance. postwar to mid-50s--all about the terro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:55 PM
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28 days later Love this film. It's not obviously feminist like some of the others listed but it portrays a realistic dynamic between the leads. Also has a male portagonsit who isn't a standard "alpha" action hero. He developes bravery through his bond with the female lead... No spoilers so I'll stop there. I only saw it once and it left such an odd feeling at the end, that only now I can describe as "I just watched a decent spooky movie." Of course if I watched it today I'd just swoon /fangirl o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:42 PM
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That's a really good way to look at it, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:34 PM
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so gross. It was probably around the time you watched that interview, I stopped mid-channel flip (okay sounds like 15-20 years ago) and watched a made for tv movie clip about him; how mysterious and cool he was but also crazy murderer blahblah so much mystique....and in the scene he stops singing suddenly and punches out a big-preggo woman right in the nose and kept going. Yes a movie, but I was shocked at how this could be a behavior people found out about years later (nevermind cult members, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:10 PM
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Can't tell the difference between a mirin' look they got when they were 20 and their metabolism could still outpace their shitty lifestyle; and the look of horror they get from a young woman in response to his creep-eyes at her when he's 81. However, they seem to figure out pretty quickly the death stare I throw right at them when I catch them doing it to very young girls though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:57 PM
1

that "George Washington meme" song was just so ruined. It was already dumb and dumb-funny, which was fine, but then all of a sudden it's "here's him with d*cks all over this is how cool he was!" ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:51 PM
6

Please post more when you're half asleep and really, really irritated because this was hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:43 PM
4

Estrogen in beer mass-produced today, probably. But basically since forever beer = processed carbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:32 PM
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Are there any specific moves that are red flags by themselves? Or would that fall into general "he said he was advanced but his form on basic exercises is dangerous" would flag he's just a dumb liar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:21 PM
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I think that'd only happen if you spilled the beans on it was deliberately left there to vet him, here's what vet means, here's all the possible meanings to how you could have reacted and on and on Just a "oh I did? Thanks for letting me know I'll remember to grab em next time I see you" should be all it takes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:31 PM
1

Paragraph length listing of what political ideology + "I'm open minded" = "I am just recruiting more to this obnoxious niche ideology that women generally have no interest in, this is all there is to talk about...also lemme do what I want with my magical p"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:42 PM
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My LV ex really was funny He could take a scenario we were encountering and just his subtle "are you seeing this?" Micro-expression could have me stifling laughter His reaction time to deliver a punchline perfectly, or just running commentary --stupendous Nicknames made up on the fly that were just funny and not mean Ability to build on and callback to previous things ...and yet his sarcasm was just him deciding to be shitty, with no clue that he was "just joking" until I was in the shit for not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:29 PM
1

And I bet the shopping teacher was the only one who actually tried to enforce the dress code with any attempt at "reasonableness." Maybe also enforced it to the boys but wouldn't bet hard on that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:56 PM
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The teacher who shopped isn't skilled enough to get a flannel to not look like a deepfake lol she was not gonna figure out how to shop the boy's polo team
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:54 PM
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There's definitely a balance that women and young women have to strike for themselves- mitigate obvious risks as best able Do not live in fear and in hyper-focus of the risk (unintentionally giving the idea of the risk so much power that it comes into being) As to the time the guy pulled you into the bathroom and luckily you weren't wearing a short skirt--what if it'd happened the day before or another day when you were wearing something "more accessible"? I've been there--it's disgusting to rem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:47 PM
20

Al Bundy wasnt presented as the dreamboat, but as the HERO and that has made all the difference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:27 PM
26

TV isn't "failing" us --TV is the enemy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:24 PM
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"Another" "Rape" "misunderstanding" NVM hat trick lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:43 PM
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Well you said your goodbye so everything seems to be in order. You are cleared for b&d takeoff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:40 PM
2

Exfoliate ur ballz ...yes please do. Extra strength 'cause you're so mAnLy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:26 PM
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Anyone who can't be subtle at work about "mUh controversial edgy interests outside of work" that I've encountered are absolutely insufferable. Whether it's an interest I may share, or just be aware of. Just overall crass. Example: a few months ago there was some dumb meme about "birds aren't real" being a conspiracy theory. It was dumb, low quality, obvious bait. The feds were training someone that day. And for a couple weeks my team members couldn't stop flexing over it, pretending to go along …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:02 PM
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"Haha. Meanwhile, something so simple as asking him for communication via FaceTime or call, turned into an argument, with me ending up apologizing for asking for the bare minimum." That is the most insidious, when suddenly "having an attitude" because you don't want to be treated with open disdain anymore can't just be a heart to heart with someone you love, but a fight where you're tripping all over to apologize. For just asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:48 AM
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How would you feel if you knew about this other woman, on or just before your first date with him? How repulsed would old-you feel? I bet you wouldn't feel hurt or questioning yourself just wtf lmao blocked groddy scrotey go away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:09 PM
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" I say "ok then u agree men need to come out of their pockets for the company of women they want". " And there were no survivors. Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:39 PM
2

How the following -often do you reuse a pair of gloves? Assuming it's not the cheapo one time use, Subway restaurant type of plastic (which I'll use for applying henna-type treatments). -keep the dishwasher from getting into the gloves? Are you just...that careful? (lol and a few days ago I tried ragging a stock photo of a guy doing dishes in a post, this I deserve)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:23 PM
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Tell my roommates I said hi lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:09 PM
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I think Anti vax is just too broad to declare that to indicate PickMe behavior. If you're not taking it just because guys aren't into it or expressing their preference for someone nonvaxxed, sure. But if you took in the available info and are still sticking to your boundaries and standards and not getting it, or waiting until the data is available for the product to be improved, I'm just not seeing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:54 PM
5

Almost forgot their personality And by personality I of course mean their weed addiction Not just weed or ashes but their nasty bong "cleaning" habits Literally just sprayed resin on the kitchen backsplash walls and left it like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:51 PM
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I am no longer alive If you're gonna go down the "deodorant /shampoo etc cause cancer" route then you gotta get substitutes--there's a learning curve to making your own but it's not impossible (your own toothpaste way easier than shampoo for example) and you can just buy something from a health store that doesn't have the bad stuff in it. And if that doesn't work then go down the "beliefs are important" route and just use what you like and tell yourself you'll be fine. Your ex had no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:41 PM
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Diet, shower habits, Only AC no outside window Never vaccuming their own room or any kind of common area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:30 PM
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To help the male lurkers even more because this is such a hate filled sub Loofah is the plain beige sea-sponge looking thing, not the "frilly or lacy" thing with a clear plastic handle. Their handles look "natural." If you only recognize a long scrub brush like from cartoons that'll work just as well. No one's gonna look in your cart, use self checkout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:21 PM
11

This comment is ONE SIMPLE TRICK to not break your Intermittent Fasting plan for the....rest of my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:15 PM
8

The roommate who at least regularly showers can't wrap his head around my advice to not hang his towel to dry in the bathroom he just showered in. Up to two other people will use that shower in a day. I guess he figures it's dry by the time he walks out? Figures he used soap so the air is sanitized?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:12 PM
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That was pretty much how I figured, marry on Saturday, move in on Sunday concept. I was a renter, he an owner so it wasn't like he was in any way comin up short. But even bringing up what you see a lot as a path (which I also was concerned about but "hE lOVeS mE") was out of the question because my "tone" over the phone when I asked him if he was going to marry me As in called me at home during work to get me onto the Zillow to check one out was just an awful nasty tone and he couldn't even answ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:22 PM
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This. SO. MUCH. My ex's retort to my "I'm not sure I want to buy a house with a boyfriend without being married" was "how the fuck is that gonna work? We're gonna be married and living in separate places you with your roommates--Hey Brad where's your WIFE Sally-oh she's with her male roommates in the other town!" I was just dumbstruck that he was....so stupid. Like, yeah it sounds like it'd be a pickle but somehow it had been done before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:11 PM
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This is a really good analogy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:55 PM
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"Stand up comedy followed by a late night snack" My God please just ghost me already and tell my friends I'm a gold digger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:40 PM
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I thought it was about nothing and just funny noise forced onto society to make people insane to distract from the second Iraq invasion. Like it was brutal going through senior year, fast food work and first year of college being unable to escape it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:36 PM
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The model in the dishes pic has never washed dishes before. Apron? Gloves? A huge handled scrubber for the outside of a bowl? ...maybe he has "I tRiEd tO bUT it'S sO hArD!" actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:58 PM
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Just the improvement in the quality of the Google ads she'd get while browsing the web would be worth leaving his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:38 PM
5

Genuine compliments from strangers are usually quick to the point, you're surprised you thank them for noticing or laugh or whatever, or do nothing and just nod, and everybody keeps on with life. The deeper creepers do not budge in any sense and the pit of your stomach could feel their eyes on you for a while before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:15 PM
5

I've seen men, strangers to each other--strike up conversations millions of times that start with dude complimenting other dude. The car, the motorcycle, what's found in the free pile after a garage sale, choices made at the meat counter, the yippy teacup dogs they have...men love strange men a whole lot and they can't get enough of each other. Not only does this guy need to ditch the porn (just guessing) but he definitely needs to ditch the Adam Sandler movies and "raunchy sitcoms."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:10 PM
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Are you in the same area as where you went to school? Or dependent on others for travel? I went through a similar scenario--my problems came from 'home' instead of school. By the time I was in college I was really uncomfortable with "dressing vulnerably" to go outside to wait at a bus stop or ride a bus, or to walk somewhere outside. I had a kind of logic in my head where "wearing a skirt and blouse with delicate sandals = rich" so if I was wearing that to the bus, or as a pedestrian I must look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:59 PM
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The stomach problems!! They're way deep down on a subconscious level making themselves sick instead of having a convo about their relationship because the Adam Sandler movie told them those kind of convos were uncool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:48 PM
19

Wait a sec.... His boys are the ones watching "makeup tiktoks?" Is she showing like a fast forward of her makeup process in her other vids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:04 PM
23

"Your inbreeding comment" Buries the lead for "Hapsburg shit going on" LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:28 PM
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"Next on RedPillSwallow: Are Women Ruining Beer? My special guest is you know him as Damocles Manlift online, he's the king who invented the soap that's shaped like a video game controller, for our kings who want to bag a really superficial plate who SaYs she isn't into our natural man-scent. He's got a story about the time he negged a woman who was faking at running her own beer brewery--spoiler alert, he's got tips for you paid subscribers after the paywall!" -Freemium Episode duration, 5 hour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:23 PM
2

JFC He had to SEARCH for that if....if he didn't buy it at a garage sale. I was gonna say thrift shop but even most of those segment off maternity clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:54 PM
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"I know you can't read my mind that's why I wanted to talk about things"--my phone is literally auto completing this lmao cause the last month of the death march was all in text of me explaining that I wanted to talk about things (like not even a closure talk just "hey this stuff's bugging me let'sfigure it out") and him just not having it. "You ALWAYS want to talk how many times do we have to taaaaaaaaalk!" brings up a problem he had with what I did during sex in the same text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:04 PM
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This story is making me reconsider a part of the mainstream narrative that says "immigrants are here to do the work that Americans are too lazy to do" I mean yeah it's still financed by Republican bigbiz donors to import cheap labor and then they sing the bootstraps song to everyone blahblahblah But your story writ large and the constant stories about guy who can't be bothered to shower properly.... lol I'm seeing so much more clearly where that "lazy Americans won't work" is coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:57 PM
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"After everything I did for her to follow her dreams of (doing probably other men's chores for them) she just ditched me! If it weren't for my (totally not nagging) she wouldn't have had any business!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:49 PM
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He meant he was gonna watch porn later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:43 PM
8

Well there is a difference between "Conservatives..." as in all of them or a big enough group of then and "Conservative critic" as in some singular dork....but good God that /this/ is all they could complain about over Psaki in February? That she was and was not as made up as Kayleigh? Oh that and compilations of her saying "circle back" end of the world a cliche was used. Conservadork, Inc absolutely deserves every loss they fight for. So so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:01 PM
45

Because for some reason the women in his own city don't want anything to do with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:18 PM
36

"Personally Rob I feel," "personally," "this strays into the realms of," basically 'know you meant well but' Hopefully there was some actual....blowback more clear than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:25 AM
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I was gonna guess he's just "just a clueless idiot" who saw the social media narrative before but if his living is from or a huge part of it is engineering social media, them he's an entitled jerk who just expected his toilet reach would impress her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:23 AM
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Maybe it's just the overload of reading scrote horror stories on here, combined with never heard of the guy before but....in the first picture he looks like he doesn't believe you/you as in every each person looking at his pic. Like the camera caught him right in the middle of working up to an actor's smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:09 AM
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"Or give me room to say no" and then the choking example is as crystal clear as this nuance can be. I had fast food coworkers (older sisters, large city, mid-00s) who explained that if a guy ever tries to start anal... "like he just start to miss you turn around and punch him in the d>ck he know what he doing." I mean there's a lot less complexity in that, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:35 PM
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When I took an intro genetics class in college about 15 years ago the basic understanding was that with boys, only X from mom and Y chromosome from dad..... The X Chromosome did most of the work and the Y did....well they weren't seeing it they didn't know there wasn't enough funding it was the sexist blowback that was holding back research money on what the Y chromosome actually did-did. Maybe there's been breakthroughs since then buuuuuuut.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:31 PM
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He's gonna bring it up himself when the kid starts puberty to "relate," whether the kid is boy or girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:54 PM
19

Eeeeeeewwwwww!! Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:45 PM
4

-And apologies for any mischaracterizing of any kind of or era of feminism how others understand it. I came from far or off-spectrum right culturally (but to be clear: I'm here to read what others think, and commiserate about nvx's and leveling up, not preach an ideology that hasn't helped me), which is mostly using Conservadork, Inc timelines as a basis for extrapolation, so I could be missing a branch of feminism inadvertently. Like not even sure I encountered the term "libfem" before this sub…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:38 AM
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I suspect (googleless) that 'daddy' is a perversion of the trope of old married couples referring to each other as "Mother/Father Ma/Pa" out of having enough kids to whom you referred to the other parent as so much the names just stuck. Or maybe it was just a stereotype slur the movie & tv industry used deliberately just to depict poor or Southern families. That was the only way I could make sense out of why that was done when I watched anything that had that. I mean, the t.v. and movie industry…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:28 AM
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I really believe the term "baby" and "babe" as sexual were forced down all of society in the 50s (or whenever it first was shoved).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:26 AM
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Only language he can understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:07 AM
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Me: “Yes, very much so. Except when it’s older woman, younger man. I’m cool with that”. Lmao and this is what the MRAs teach their paid subscribers as "Agree and Amplify" Total Queen response, I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:58 PM
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Conservadork Facebag memes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:56 PM
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Doesn't reply to the "Yeah didn't crash on the drive home" text you send anyway (even a PickMe should get home safely) nvx: "I don't ever know what to say to those texts you send at night they don't mean anything." (Pick)Me: "they just are whatever picture I have in my phone so you know I made it in all set." (Cause I had given up on "yup made it in, love you" as it was just humiliating) nvx: "Oh." continues to never respond
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:36 PM
75

"Refusing to make any sort of introduction at a party between you and his friends you’ve never met before (but just diving into convo without acknowledging your presence)" To add to this one, this includes friends you have met before, too. And if they're supposedly mutual friends, can you add a word in edgewise or participate in the convo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:22 PM
15

I had that waaaaaay at the bottom of what I now know was my "Closure List" talk. But during the bomb phase, he soft-asked for my help for him to quit. Idunno what he wanted me to do since later on any criticism was "leave if you don't like it." I told him I'd rather he smoke cigarettes than keep up his soda addiction, and thus my dream of being a free lifestyle health coach was shattered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:00 PM
22

I used to give ex leeway about this because he was a smoker so would jump out of the car before I could get my seatbelt off, but I too quickly noticed that he would be walking while lighting up. The few times he was driving I had a better chance at a head start but even then. It's exactly what it feels like it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:41 PM
14

AARGGHHH I'M GONNA COOOOOOOOMUNICATE* *I can't read minds tho she has to communicate too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:22 PM
6

Edit: added to wrong comment sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:21 PM
9

She probably totally did try to pleasure him while her torso was trying to repair itself and he probably pawed at her once any bandages or support was removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:19 PM
62

Age at which women magically POOF men no longer have interest in them, the wrinkles, just now invisible, no longer attractive, no longer fertile. When I was 22-ish the wall was 30 or something. Which made being hit on by a 22 year old a month after my 30th...neato. (I told myself maybe he's a young looking 25 which still felt weird) I'm think today at 37 idiots say it's akchually 25. Now that I think about it it's predicated on the idea that men can discern age correctly (they can't or they lie)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:56 PM
51

Well...have you seen The Average? "Above average" doesn't sound impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:42 PM
27

Only man I was with who was out loud "willing to learn" already knew how to cook, very well, so it was a tradeoff of him learning how I do This Whatever, he'd talk through or show me His Whatever the next night. Very fun, and I learned of some foods and palate combos I wouldn't have considered before him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:47 AM
22

I think it's just said by literal boys or MRA-brands (alas I repeat myself) who're just repeating the meme, or they've repeating the lamentations of the poor older women in their lives (an aunt, sister, coworker whatever) who still are afraid to take off the PickMe clown get-up and....that's the one of the few times they can believe what a woman says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:12 AM
14

Almost reminds me of that spongebob meme "Is she a mom?" NVM: Yup! "Is she your mom?" NVM: I got a diamond encrusted chocolate cake for my mom for Mother's Day, ordered it months ago! What kind of man do you- "Back to your girlfriend." NVM: Oh yeah the ol ball and chain haha "She's a mom and isn't your mom, are you in a relationship with her?" NVM: yup! "Soooooo you're gonna get or do something for, her for Mother's day, the holiday?" NVM: BUT WHHHHY! Geez wahmen are such gold diggers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:31 PM
8

(Other ladies further down the self esteem rebuild path, DEF correct me) And I think this is different from, say, him listening to you, sympathizing with your POV --and needless to say, actually believing you--and later saying "maybe this is how the other person saw it, when something like that happened with me I approached it like blahblahblah and that worked..." yknow like actually have a healthy conversation with someone you care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:32 PM
19

I got this severely because we worked with/interacted with the same people (I knooooooow) so if I had a work disagreement with someone--or they were just being shitty to me--it was all about how I just don't understand, I can't see the big picture wrt the company, this person is so much more important than I am, it's my job that's actually the problem (like the entire department should be eliminated kind of assessment), I don't know what else is going on, and on and on. But he would tell me work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:23 PM
3

ikr...exhange and absorb energy, check...but then I can't tell if we're supposed to be the phone, or the computer? Are we the files? The files in the computer? And having guilt or trauma isn't the same as a corrupted file that has to be deleted or isolated or destroyed. As far as I understand you can't "uncorrupt" a file GAWD what an awful analogy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:59 PM
9

I love her accent and have no idea what she's saying except for the last sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:20 PM
6

Same Oh Lawd the roommates know I'm comin nowadays. *scrotes all of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:39 AM
62

That's 100% bingo Edit: because they literally brag about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:30 AM
48

He was starting the "shut up you're not actually hurt you're fine see she's out of the train tracks she's fiiiine here you can hit me back" routine. IF there's ever any court hearing where this film is shown a judge "well he tried to help that shows he felt bad."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:31 PM
10

I love how this was not only written for me but also has it spelled out so simply You don't get any money back from a trauma bond. Not in 5 years or 20 or 50. They just don't mature. Trauma bonds are No Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:25 PM
25

Oof. Good, gene pool is closed to them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:18 PM
57

His d*ck was so bad her uterus said "nope that's it start all over!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:13 PM
13

This literally de-raged me Sassyheather is an artist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:17 PM
8

Not even those specific addicts, but just knowing that it's "an option of what's available to get off from because all porn is fineeee" impacts people who otherwise would never have occurred that that could be imagined as "sexy." It's adding to the milieu which, unless you're an American libertarian (in which case who cares what you think lol), is a real impact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:16 PM
50

Pikachu shocked face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:48 PM
23

Good for you! And your skin! And your wallet! And your bathroom or vanity space! I quit the full-face routine cold turkey 11 years ago, almost out of the blue. I worked in an office and by 10am every day, the stale office air made my face feel like the soggy sided rotisserie chicken skin, come down to room temperature. And everything you said, still intimidated by someone with better or fresher makeup on, or the rare chick who was fresh faced and she LOOKED JUST FINE. Feeling "ugly" despite havi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:36 PM
38

They're hyper-atomized individualists. Believing simultaneously that 1)they should "pmp & dmp" as young as legal and as much as possible 2)encourage others to do the same via their podcast or sm brand 3)somehow find a PuRE wOmAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:17 PM
12

She rates dogs--found one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:04 PM
49

WMD for me to have to look at that picture of him Hopefully not a derailment--when are the ladies who watched FRIENDS when it was hot and new going to deconstruct that awfulness? I was in high school at the time and never saw it then. Only a couple episodes in 2019 (someone else had the remote basically) and, mercifully just a few episodes. But all I could sense was that every character hated the others. And the awful acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:00 AM
3

Like yk that sitcom I watched because some people spent A LOT of money to produce, and more money to advertise so that I knew to watch it, and then speny no moneys to get gifs from the show shoved into the downstream consciousness by ~iNfLUenCErs~.....she's just like me! The poison is everywhere. Poor kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:03 PM
18

The guy who's opinion wasn't asked for is trying to impress gullible pickmeshias that he's liberal "but not one of those kOOky TyPeS," maybe. He's definitely signalling to his fellow Brosephines that he's a respectable left-centrist or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:11 PM
10

"Can you listen to a real Malcolm X speech, without saying 'But America-' in the first minute after it's over" Maybe that is too narrow (my intellectual bar is WAY too low) but that's basically what she has. Have you ever reflected internally about big picture things. Within that, you can fit the whole "political spectrum."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:08 PM
63

...oh that hit from another angle. Dang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:38 PM
14

They're at least run by their advertisers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:34 PM
54

Wtf can he POSSIBLY be resentful over? He's gpnna be getting a free house and bangmaid in the north expensive side of the city soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:22 PM
32

He a demon, ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:19 PM
42

Women not earning money Women not voting (they don't like that either because you're not "informed") Women voting for a third party Edit additions Voting for the R or D party who lost Criticising the party/candidate who won if you voted for him/them ...ESPECIALLY if you didn't vote for them Not agreeing with the "if you don't vote you can't complain" (I understand the sentiment but it's usually given to me by men to counter an actual point or move the goalpost, so off to my linguistic chop-shop …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:25 AM
90

I can see the thread now "I DM'd that chick on FDS that she's not royalty!" "Great job king!" "Thanks king!" Why any guy would have a 'problem' with this is beyond me. This is awesome. It's really pretty, your nails look fine, and that's all there is to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:09 AM
4

"What do you think of germ theory?" If he's skeptical, continue to vet. If he's full blown "tHe ScIeNce Is In which IFL," continue to vet--but if the question is enough for him to scurry off, probably saved me the trouble. If he has no idea what that question even means, back to my netflix tab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:01 AM
10

Disney is always lying to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:36 PM
6

"Justice boner" Priceless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:01 PM
13

oh my God SHE DID THE HISS From 11 to 14 yo I remember getting the hiss whenever I walked down my neighborhood street. It was so scary. Mostly the ones that are loud and coherent don't ping my gut to FLEE, but this always put me on edge. Everytime I've explained the hiss to guys (who "at leAsT thEy DoN't dO ThAT"), they're baffled, need another go of explanation/demonstration, and then seem bothered by it, like they are hearing about something they would not like done to them. Lightbulb in a min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:45 PM
30

That's wonderful that you're there for these younger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:30 PM
24

I'm close to your age and always felt this missing from the advice of older women in my younger days. "Yeah that's easy for YOU to say, you're already all set!" Which I never said 'cause even the few moments of an older woman giving me advice was always ...was not asking for their thoughts or advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:29 PM
8

The dairy is a wonderful idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:21 PM
8

And then "but you ran off and left how am I supposed to cOmunNiCatE with you?" I should have blocked him as once I realized he was literally upset that I left his house and drove home...after he kept repeating that I need to go. (Actually much earlier ofc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:19 PM
22

My ex was built out of number 5, 6 and 2. Upset over the literally tiniest slight, that everyone else on the planet would have solved with "hey!" "Oh what?" "X and y." "Oh sorry about that." "Okay back to being a human being" Instead was walk out of the room, stay away, don't touch me or talk to me for the rest of the night if I didn't say something. I ask what's wrong and I might as well have said I was going to spit in his food and f*ck his best friend, the microexpressuon on my face half an h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:59 AM
98

"Now she keeps it waxed" NOW she does How on earth is applying hot wax there and then pulling not mutilation?? Edit: I've used clippers with the attachment, so it's not just razor to that skin, never been able to understand waxing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:18 PM
3

What would make a guy read about some awful nvm who presumably isn't him, in an unambiguous narrative--and think "I know what will put this fEmAle in her place a dick pic!" Like what did he think he was going to prove there? My ex I'm now discovering from this thread, sent me the Philosophers Face emoji several times. But because my phone is cheapo bal-Mart android and his is some bling iPhone, I always saw it as a woman's face + a gender symbol (I legit mix them up so maybe it was a man's face)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:01 PM
8

For her sake, I'm going to believe that the woman who owned the ring before was a wonderful queen and was gifted the ring after (or at the beginning of) a wonderful day full of surprises and affection, her bar was over the stars and the guy who got it for her skipped over it everyday....and it was in the possession of her/their kids fallen on hard times, and she's gonna absorb the prior woman's queen energy and be comforted by it. I mean, what else is she gonna do, return it? ThAt'D bE SO rUDe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:31 PM
13

Definitely a case of "if he wanted to he would."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:54 PM
11

My ex's ex the Christmas before stopped in the middle of them wrapping Christmas presents for their kids (thankfully for her they had their own, no blend) when aLl oF a SudDEn she went to get a pack of smokes and an hour later was found to be at some bar drinking. By the second round of holidays with him I was down to join her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:38 PM
23

My gosh a cat is ~literally~ a different species than a dog. This is gonna haunt me for a few days I know it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:26 AM
16

That is so sweet! He's a good kitty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:23 AM
15

The single struggling mother wouldn't have the place that bad though. okay maybe if she's inadvertently training teenage boys to expect Pickme treatment from women, but even then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:17 PM
19

" They want it all. " And yet the big brain Redpillers bemoan the daring of a woman who "wants it all" when she...holds down a good job that takes place in an office.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:01 PM
37

ugh..."Yeah I know" is like...thanks so much. Unbelieveable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:56 PM
7

It's the same picture dot jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:28 PM
15

So it's come down to "What if rocks could like, bang a lot but like, in sex way?" This really is making me understand the appeal of Hallmark movies/Wal-Mart harlequinn dollar bin romance books that get derided as "chickp0rn."* ​ *even aside from the post a few days ago that spelled out the difference between those and "duh it's porn type porn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:27 PM
83

"They bathed in this shower" no they did not. On that ex's life, they did not bathe in that shower. That was done at her place, maybe, while he lived in that, which meant to him, "they bathed in this shower." So I guess "He makes an attempt to clean his bathroom before you come over to his house/making sure the toilet is flushed before you use it" counts as lovebombing as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:01 PM
101

I can smell the fridge from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:57 PM
12

Thank you so much for the Stonewalling link. It snapped my finger away from the Text function on my phone to try to apologize out a response from him. literally just in time. The Gottman's four horsemen almost cracked me up, because our relationship started with the stonewalling at the beginning (of what should have been the end) and is now fully accrued at the criticism/blame stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:07 AM
41

I always ran into this with my ex. I could never get across to him that my problem wasn't ever that he was upset and telling me, but that he wasn't telling me until I started to act out because I was tired of/freaking out over his total shutdown silent treatment. "I can't say anything!" Yeah I've noticed you can't until you've gotten the shitty reaction from me. I still read these gaslighting stories and see myself in a lot of the 'abuser' column.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:08 PM
17

"Being that I'm an addict..." but then it's clean off pills & alcohol 17 years...off porn, zero years and he has bylaws memorized in order to count a few technical months here and there. She watched it with him in summer of 2020, after he'd already been watching it on his own for a year already. ​ "...she said God was punishing me for my porn habit." After 7 (or then 6) years THAT is what's at the tip of her tongue, huh. Gee I wonder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:19 PM
32

by "muh porn muh freedom" standards this is still a new ground-breaking study
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:07 PM
32

"think of the economy!!" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:06 PM
3

they're afraid their yuuuuge dongola is gonna touch the edge of the bowl or the waterline or something, which they are terrified of how dirty it is, which if they lift the seat, they can see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:21 PM
6

"we need them" dude you need natural sunlight and a glass of water so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:37 PM
6

or how later it'll be hard for you to conceive. First off, that's a lie. Most women who have abortions go on to have children. Abortion has no impact on fertility. Second, even if it did, so what? Are you going to ruin you life now because of what could possibly happen later? People are always so goddamn pressed about the baby you might not be able to have later. Thank you for saying this. "Destroying later fertility" was one of the concerns I told the nurse in the Planned Parenthood during the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:23 PM
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