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Red Pill TheoryGovernor_Humphries/r/TheRedPill29/07/17 01:54 AM
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Governor_Humphries/r/askTRP25/06/17 03:59 PM
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Eat more lean meat
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:52 PM
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I like chub Even money this is another lie he's telling himself. Guys don't like fat girls; they like attainable girls.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:51 PM
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They want to follow your lead, but they don't want you to explain what you're doing like an autistic robot.
/r/askTRP14/04/19 08:50 PM
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And a good group of friends who for the most part share these same qualities.
/r/askTRP13/04/19 12:08 AM
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It's not either/or. It should be both at the same time. Assuming you want to continue the conversation. If a girl says "I'm a Pisces" you can: Agree without amplifying Oh that's cool. The problem here is that you give the conversation nowhere to go. Disagree without amplifying I don't believe in astrology. Same problem as before. Note that whether you agree or disagree has no bearing on anything. Also note that you could say Astrology is dumb and that that is a way better answer, because it crea…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 06:20 PM
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"I know. I'm going to stay young and handsome as I age." This is cringy. You are bragging in a try-hard way, not amplifying. Amplifying means taking things to a ridiculous level and being deadpan about it, thus indirectly calling attention to the stupid premise underlying the original statement that the person made. I'd so with something more like: "Yeah, I'm actually only 11. My fifth grade buddies and I are super excited to try our first beer."
/r/askTRP31/03/19 05:53 PM
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Dress half a step better than the average of the group you will be spending time with
/r/askTRP21/03/19 05:33 PM
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Make/identify double entendres. Here's an example that has worked for me. She says something like, "Wow, spring came early this year." Response: "Well, we've all had that problem at one time or another."
/r/askTRP08/03/19 05:10 PM
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If she is an otherwise reasonable person with strong political opinions, whatever. If she defines her identity by the political opinions she holds, run.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 08:10 PM
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Antidepressants can help you break through that wall of social anxiety. Here's the thing, though--once you break down a particular wall, that wall stays down. The experience of having successfully navigated the scenario stays with you, and the anxiety goes away. It's not the pills that do it; it's the experience. The pills can make it easier for you at first, but you don't need to take them for years and years.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 01:22 PM
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A lot of guys will ruin their chances with girls by going too strong too fast. If a girl doesn't want to kiss you on the first date, the problem is a lack of attraction, and she won't want to on the second date, either. Guys who go for the kiss on the first date aren't ruining their chances; in those cases where a girl doesn't want to kiss him, they are cutting their losses and not wasting extra time.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 01:18 PM
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Snake Diet
/r/askTRP27/02/19 10:24 PM
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Read the sidebar. Essentially you go into a period where your mission is not to get laid, your mission is to get better. Figure out what in your life isn't working like it could be, and make it your #1 priority to get that shit fixed.
/r/askTRP27/02/19 07:13 PM
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Monk mode for a year. Lose weight and start talking to everyone around you, not just attractive girls.
/r/askTRP27/02/19 06:55 PM
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Maybe she's just a slut. There's your answer
/r/askTRP27/02/19 05:06 PM
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If a woman sleeps around she's a slut, but a guy's a stud This makes sense on two levels. One, cultural. Traditionally, women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men will screw anything and everything without a second thought. So a man who sleeps with a lot of women is doing a good job of passing "would I want his sperm inside me" tests. A women who sleeps with a lot of men has low standards for the sperm she will allow inside her. Two, biological. A man's best strategy for spreading his genes is to tak…
/r/askTRP27/02/19 05:05 PM
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You don't want to be more romantic, you want to be more attractive. Women want a man to take the lead. Show some initiative. Also, "surprising her" is not the same thing as doting her with gifts.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 06:36 PM
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Make yourself attractive. Pay attention to what people do, not what they say. Focus on your mission. These are good rules that apply in almost every aspect of your life, from business to family.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 01:24 AM
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Imagine a kid with a decent ear who starts piano lessons at age 8. He catches on pretty quickly, so his teachers encourage him, and without too much effort he starts producing results that are objectively good. That feels good, so he practices even more to get more of that good feeling, which leads to him getting even better. How did that kid figure out how to make good music without taking a music theory class in high school? Is it talent? Starting early? Positive reinforcement? More hours put …
/r/askTRP19/02/19 01:18 AM
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I'll second what someone else said--learn to cook. It's practical, you get immediate feedback on how well you're doing, it will pay huge dividends in college, it has a learning curve that isn't steep at all, and it makes for great foreplay on a stay-at-home date.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 02:49 PM
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Actually, the majority of posters here are bots. You can tell because one of them will post a question that a reasonable human should already know the answer to, and then another one responds with "Sidebar."
/r/askTRP15/02/19 02:39 PM
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My plan is to schedule a meeting with my boss and basically say that i want to be hired by them officially. Good plan. In that first meeting, your message to your boss is essentially--I want to get hired permanently. What do I have to do, and when do you see it happening? If the expectations and timing are reasonable, then meet the expectations and schedule another meeting when the time period has run out. Document everything. In the meantime, start looking for other jobs in case your boss decid…
/r/askTRP15/02/19 02:14 PM
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Not sure why people are shooting this down. This is exactly what girls want. What beta chumps don't realize is that women feel secure when they are with a big, strong, competent man, and that they feel like the only girl in the world when he takes the lead and she enters his frame. You can't fight the way that women are; you have to make it work for you.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 04:22 PM
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I was a scrawny little wimp in high school and through most of college. Here are the biggest things I would tell my 16-year-old self. Kill your neuroticism. Identify moments when you hear that Woody Allen voice screaming inside your brain, then tell it to fuck off and do what it was telling you not to. This is gradual, but it's cumulative. Once you make a particular breakthrough, it's for life, there's no backsliding. There's two types of not giving a fuck. There's not giving a fuck what other p…
/r/askTRP12/02/19 04:17 PM
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"We are a bunch of butthurt dudes who are gonna confront you. Slightly." Man, what a fucking fantastic quote.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 03:47 PM
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I've had good success with asking for a split check and then telling the girl, "If I let you pay for my meal, then I'd feel like you'd expect me to sleep with you."
/r/askTRP12/02/19 02:02 AM
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My advice is to pick a date that you guys are physically close in (not movie or dinner) and do it early in the date. This is great advice, OP. The first time you touch her shouldn't be when you kiss. If you do kino and physical escalation the right way, a kiss will naturally happen as the next step.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:06 PM
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I feel like the Red Pill is going to preclude me from ever loving a woman the same way again I added the words in bold. Learning that Santa wasn't real precluded me from ever enjoying Christmas the same way as I did when I was a child. That doesn't mean I resent the fact that Santa isn't real or think the world would be a better place if adults believed in him.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:01 PM
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80% of it is very simple--Look good. Good clothes, good haircut, good physique... you are already her prize
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:46 PM
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So do you think I fucked up by telling her she's a priority Yes. Men think this is the type of thing that women like to hear, because it's what they like hearing from women. But women's psyches come from a different evolutionary mindset. Alpha fucks, beta bucks. Telling a girl she's your priority makes her more likely to want you to raise her kid, but less likely to want your sperm inside of her. Most of the time, she's not even aware that that's true; it's just her lizard brain kicking in. Ther…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:52 AM
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You aren't going to be able to fight the decline all on your own. That said-- If only there was someone who was more naturally abled to stay at home and raise the child...etc This is snarky. If you want to win people to your side, don't be snarky. Instead, you should write something like this: In earlier times, there was usually a mom who could stay at home with the kids. Sure there were downsides, but there were also major upsides that we as a society didn't appreciate until they went away. I'm…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:40 AM
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A man's physique is a direct reflection of his discipline.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:26 AM
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This is more likely an IOI than a shit test. If this is on a dating app, ask for her number. If via text, ask for a date. If you’ve already been out with her, tell her to come over.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:31 PM
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Find one of your friends’ girlfriends. One who is reasonably attractive. Start swiping for yourself on Tinder with her as your copilot. Go slow and discuss each girl who pops up. If you get a lot of “she looks sweet” or “she’d be good for you” and they are all chunksters, your SMV isn’t as high as you think it is. That’s who she views you on par with. If they look like her, then she finds you attractive and your SMV is whatever hers is +/- 1. If they’re more attractive than her... lol that isn’t…
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:27 PM
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Because women with tattoos were likely raised in an environment/culture where tattoos are viewed as normal and cool, and as a general rule tattoo-philic cultures produce fewer winners in life than tattoo-phobic cultures
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:16 PM
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Attraction comes before love. Quality women aren’t attracted to skinnyfat slobs
/r/askTRP04/02/19 04:39 PM
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Lunges
/r/askTRP01/02/19 05:58 PM
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Don't get in the habit of having transactional sex. Sex isn't "earned". You have it because you are both into each other. If you are having it for any other reason, you are undermining her physical attraction to you. It shouldn't be a "chore" for her, she should give you a BJ because she wants to.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 03:39 PM
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It sounds terrible, but what worked for me was arrogance and contempt. In most cases I advocate judging yourself against yourself rather than others. But with neuroticism, introspection is just fuel for the fire. I'd find someone I didn't much respect, think "I can do better than that motherfucker" and then go and prove that I could. Bob's afraid to shower after gym? Fuck Bob, I can strip down a soap up. Jim doesn't want to go talk to those girls over there? Fuck Jim, I can at least go ask their…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:43 PM
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introverts have a tendency to not be very sociable. Introverts have difficulty cooperating with their social groups which make them less likely to survive because they'll have few allies. This is not necessarily true. Is it possible to be a socially dominant introvert? Fuck yes. Ever hear the expression "the strong, silent type"? You never see a Clint Eastwood movie where he plays a social butterfly, but he's almost always the most commanding presence on screen. Introversion/extraversion is one …
/r/askTRP31/01/19 12:55 PM
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Lift Dress better. Get a better haircut Eat less crappy food. Don't drink soda Don't make playing video games your default "when I'm bored" activity Don't watch porn Take schoolwork seriously Keep your phone in a different room when you are sleeping. Or at least put it in a drawer out of sight.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:09 PM
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Get better photos
/r/askTRP29/01/19 09:58 PM
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Don't invest emotional energy into outcomes that you have zero control over. That means TV shows (easy), politics (harder), and sports (really hard).
/r/askTRP25/01/19 10:48 PM
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Finance: A Random Walk Down Wall Street History/Civics: The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt Literature: Treasure Island
/r/askTRP25/01/19 10:44 PM
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Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat. It's a book and a Netflix series. It doesn't just give you a list of ingredients and instructions, it teaches you how and why food tastes good.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 10:36 PM
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I am 19 years old and I am feeling as like I am wasting my life. You probably are wasting a lot of time, but not your whole life. You are just 19. I waste a lot of my time on video-games and movies and all that. Find a better "default" activity that you do when you're bored and have nothing else going on. Reading is good; writing is better; something like painting or woodworking where you have a tangible real-world result you can touch and feel at the end is better still. I want to get better wi…
/r/askTRP25/01/19 03:00 PM
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If you quit you make yourself ineligible for unemployment benefits.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:34 PM
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Should you fap less than you currently do? Probably. Should you stop watching porn altogether? Yes. Is that a good community to become involved with to improve your life? No.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:12 PM
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You are just upset that the opportunity wasn't what you thought it was. Don't universalize that disappointment into thinking your entire life sucks.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 10:24 PM
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Normies This is poisonous rhetoric and awful framing, by the way. Don't consciously put yourself as part of the out-group.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 08:42 PM
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Think about where the name comes from--that scene in The Matrix where Neo had a choice to go back to the simulated life he had been living or expose himself to the harsh reality of how the world really worked. I agree with those people who say the end goal is self-actualization, but this sub is mainly focused on the sex stuff because that's the part of our society that's gotten the most Matrix-like. For most things you can straight up ask what's wrong. Want to hang a shelf? You don't have to ove…
/r/askTRP21/01/19 08:32 PM
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95% chance it's just a shit-test or validation-seeking. That said, there is another possibility... Women often fall into the same mistake as inexperienced men--they think that the opposite sex thinks about love and sex and attraction the same way that they do. Inexperienced guys think that girls will appreciate it when they commit 100% to them and let them know that they are the #1 priority in their life, because that's what they want from a girl. WRONG. So much of this sub is disabusing guys of…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 05:28 PM
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Lift, obviously. Learn how to cook. (Pro tip: don't ever buy anything at the grocery that you have to microwave) Read. Nonfiction and classic literature are best, but anything is better than nothing. Be deliberate about how you spend your money. Recurring expenses will kill you. Don't get in the habit of spending $5 a day on coffee, don't subscribe to anything you won't end up using. Don't watch porn. Don't make soda your default drink. Spend time with people who are already successful, or those…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 04:53 PM
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90% of the time, good sex means good foreplay. Don't consciously worry about getting to the part where you put your cock in her vagina. Take your time, relax, enjoy yourself, and let your caveman brain take over. He's got a million years of evolution behind him, he knows what he's doing. Trust your instincts. (Except when your instincts tell you it would be so fucking hot to fuck her without a condom. That's the only fight you shouldn't let the caveman win.)
/r/askTRP20/01/19 04:35 PM
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I’m the perfect and ideal candidate for a post wall woman to get her claws on me People don't say stuff like this unless they've read a decent bit of TRP material. OP probably did read the sidebar. Reading ≠ acting. Guys think that if they just understand the theory, it will all magically click. This is partly because they have a lot more experience with school than with the real world. But it's mainly because sitting on your ass and reading is easy, and lifting heavy things is hard. Theory can …
/r/askTRP20/01/19 04:25 PM
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Take more risks. Conversation ≠ Small talk. Small talk is terrible. No one likes it. It's just a social lubricant so that you don't have to acknowledge that you'd really rather not talk to your coworker on the elevator, but then they might think that you hate them, so you say, "How was your weekend?" More than two minutes of that shit and people want to fake a heart attack to escape. Good conversation comes from covering a topic that both people want to talk about. Since you don't really know wh…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 04:17 PM
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You don't want to kill yourself; you want to kill the current, shitty version of yourself. You can do it, too. Almost nobody ends up staying the same way they were at 17; almost everybody ends up much better. But it takes time and discipline. Ask yourself two questions: What can I get better at? (Almost everything) What do I have control over? (Not as much at 17 as you will at 20 or 25 or 30, but more than you think.) Is your living space tidy? That's something simple that you have direct contro…
/r/askTRP18/01/19 11:28 PM
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I wouldn’t like to lose our friendship if that’s all we’re gonna be Let's be honest, you are only friends with this girl because you think there's some possible chance that at some point you might get to sleep with her. You are operating from a position of scarcity, which is only going to turn her off.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 10:31 PM
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Needs more MS Paint
/r/askTRP18/01/19 08:14 PM
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Classic LMR/ASD. Your answer would have been good if she had asked it while you guys were getting drinks or something. But when things are getting hot and heavy, cocky isn't good. (Dominant is good, but not cocky.) Remember the alpha fucks / beta bucks dynamic. Women want to know that you have options AND think that they can be the one to lock you down. Early in the date the first part is what's important. Once you're five minutes away from sex, the latter matters much more. Her lizard brain thi…
/r/askTRP18/01/19 06:26 PM
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feel like I achieved everything already Such as? My guess is that you haven't done shit. Sometimes I feel really old Stop comparing yourself to your past self and get out in the real world and start competing with other people. 20 is young for an adult. Tried magic tricks, embroidery, programming, gym, calisthenics How long did you try each of these things? Is there any good way to feel that youth joy again? You don't want youth joy; it's unseemly in adults, and your brain knows it. A three-year…
/r/askTRP18/01/19 06:12 PM
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You lack discipline and masculine role models. Have you considered the military ever? You'll find both there.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 05:54 PM
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"And you sound like somebody who wants to give it to me willingly"
/r/askTRP11/01/19 06:10 PM
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Less alcohol, more foreplay. Make out until your lizard brain kicks in and has you ripping her clothes off. Do things on your schedule, not hers. Give yourself time and space for your instincts to kick in. Those instincts have gotten 100 generations of your ancestors laid; they'll work for you too.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 09:52 PM
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OK I will spell it out for you. There are three things that you want to maximize in order to be as attractive as possible. Fundamentals. This includes things like race and height that you have zero control over, but it also includes physique and how well you dress, which you do have control over. How well-read you are. Your career. This is the stuff you work on while in Monk Mode. Game. These are the mannerisms that you can only pick up by approaching women and gaining experience. It's knowing w…
/r/askTRP10/01/19 09:48 PM
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Dress half a step up from your peers. Take your schoolwork seriously. Avoid porn. Have a hobby that has tangible output in the real world. Getting good at something like piano or woodworking is infinitely preferable to getting good at a particular video game. Lift weights. Don't drink soda.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 09:34 PM
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From the TRP rules: No examples from fiction or lyrics. Fiction, pop songs, daytime television freakshows, and reality tv do not present useful examples of typical human behaviour, and thus cannot be learned from. Discussion of overarching popular culture themes, however, is on-topic and makes for an interesting analysis of the shifts in cultural thinking. Use of fiction or other controlled narratives (reality tv, etc) should only be used as an example of the author's psychology, not the charact…
/r/askTRP09/01/19 04:54 PM
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There is a spectrum between sexy and creepy, and it has everything to do with how attractive a guy is and nothing to do with how a guy behaves. I have seen attractive guys come over and kiss a girl they've never met on the neck as a way of introducing themselves. It worked. If a bad-looking or even average-looking guy tried that, he gets a drink thrown in his face or maybe even sexual assault charges. Conversely, I have seen unattractive guys go over and shake a girl's hand and buy her a drink. …
/r/askTRP08/01/19 01:24 PM
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Yes, it’s called reading posts but not approaching women and thinking this is somehow making you “more red pulled”
/r/askTRP06/01/19 06:16 PM
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Here's the real answer to this question. What women really want is to take an alpha and twist him around their finger. When you ask what they want in a man, they focus on the finger-twisting stuff, because that's what's their energy is focused on. The man being someone they're already attracted to just goes without saying. Imagine if a woman said she wanted a car with lots of storage space and big cupholders. Then you give her a rusted-out minivan with leaky transmission fluid and six cupholders…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 06:14 PM
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Sexualize your response. "My life is awesome, and it will be even more awesome tonight when you come over and I rip your clothes off."
/r/askTRP03/01/19 05:09 PM
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The simplest argument is that trashy girls get tattoos. There's a high correlation there, for whatever reason. Girls with tattoos almost all come from a culture that thinks tattoos are cool, and most cultures that think tattoos are cool produce fewer winners in life than cultures that think tattoos are gross. If you want to get more philosophical about it, you could say that it's a sign of poor impulse control and/or inability to engage in long-term thinking. You could also argue that it represe…
/r/askTRP03/01/19 05:02 PM
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There are two types of books that are particularly helpful. One is books by successful people telling you how and why they were successful. The other is history, because it gives an insight on which elements of human nature are consistent across time and culture, and it lets you see how meaningful decisions people actually made play out.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:53 PM
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Don't watch porn Dress half a step better than your classmates
/r/askTRP22/12/18 02:07 PM
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Take notes kiddos Just not, you know, a spreadsheet
/r/TheRedPill18/12/18 06:42 PM
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The 3-4 times I've had sex, I've just been authentic In a parallel universe, there's a version of you that's just as authentic, but that version of you lifts and gives fewer fucks and gets laid twice as often
/r/askTRP16/12/18 05:37 PM
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Cooking. You save money on food, will generally eat a healthier diet, get to avoid dreary fast-food places, and can flex your creativity in a way that provides instant feedback as to how successful you were. Bonus: telling a girl to "come over and we'll cook dinner" is a much classier form of Netflix and Chill
/r/askTRP10/12/18 10:34 PM
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Should I be ignoring girls and focusing on myself? When it comes to planning your day/week, yes. But there are plenty of opportunities to talk to girls in the course of your regular activities. Take advantage of them. Or should I try and improve my social skills but not get any further than that? You should always try to improve your social skills. When you talk about "get[ting] any further than that", sex shouldn't be your end goal at this point. Keep lifting, talk to people, learn when you sou…
/r/askTRP10/12/18 04:28 PM
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CS Forrester's Hornblower series
/r/askTRP08/12/18 11:59 PM
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I’m military There is definitely a culture around the military that encourages guys to get married way earlier than they ought to. As another poster said, there's also a large pattern of these earlier marriages not working out well. You should be aware of both of these facts. Also-- Double income in one household, this a big one This is a fucking stupid way to think. You'll also have two people spending the household's money instead of one, and you will not have direct control over that second p…
/r/askTRP02/12/18 08:36 PM
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To the point I would borderline consider myself asexual. If you are having sex four times a week, there's no way in hell you're asexual. Get more sleep.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 08:24 PM
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People who attend college are typically more motivated than the general high school population. The "basic" people in college are more likely to stay in their dorm rooms and not venture out as much. You will just naturally notice people who stand out from the ordinary; there are more of these people in college than in high school because they've had more time to figure things out and build a better version of themselves.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 08:20 PM
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Yep; Pareto distribution; you see it arising in lots of areas
/r/askTRP02/12/18 08:11 PM
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One of the best things I ever read on TRP was this: Changes in thinking don't lead to changes in behavior; changes in behavior lead to changes in thinking. In other words, you are never going to "get your mind right" in isolation. You have to start living out your better life first. Old mindsets don't go away on their own; they have to be replaced with new mindsets, and new mindsets are best developed by new experiences. ​
/r/askTRP05/11/18 08:27 PM
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If you really improve yourself to the point your value as a man has significantly gone up, you will realize that you no longer give a shit what these people think.
/r/askTRP07/10/18 07:24 PM
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This girl is a thot. Don't catch feelings. Otherwise, have fun
/r/askTRP05/10/18 11:13 AM
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Because the Left has collectively made itself the self-appointed arbiter of Things You Can't Say. They are the side that makes up pretend rules, and tearing down societal myths that are based in unreality goes back to the original definition of Red Pill.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 09:54 PM
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Lift. Seriously, it's the first item on the list for a reason. Pay attention to what women do and not what they say. Women might say that their ideal boyfriend should be kind and patient and a good listener and all that stuff, and they actually do want that, but they are imagining a man who already has a baseline level of attractiveness. They want to bend the mighty oak tree in their direction, but they have no idea how to grow the oak in the first place; they live in a forest surrounded by them…
/r/askTRP01/10/18 09:53 PM
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I have plates Really? And yet you don't know the answer to the question you've asked. After chatting on the bus, as one of you is leaving, you say, "Hey, let me get your number." Then you text her a day or two later to make plans. Then you go on a date. Then--well, do that first and we'll see.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 11:20 PM
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Added her on snap chat. She was eager at first and she responded really fast. I told her that she looked like my future ex-wife and it went downhill from there. In the moment momentum is everything, and you killed it with a terrible line. Do you not see how that line was disrespectful to yourself? Seriously, never use that line again. It would only work in the Deep South on trashy 45-year-olds. She looks at me with "please fuck me, daddy eyes" Cool story, bro. You sure are macho. I didn't talk t…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 11:14 PM
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I'm scared because what I want and what I am are seemingly different things. This applies to way more people than you think. Even these people: I see people at work or parties, interacting with one another, this whole social dynamic, in which I'm not part of, and it makes me very sad. I don't want to be like that It is within your power to fix it. I feel how I'm becoming bitter and unhappy and I'm only in my twenties. I don't want to be that insecure loser which had so much potential but wasted …
/r/askTRP26/09/18 11:04 PM
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I'm a senior in high school and there's this girl in my class. This is literally the first item in the FAQ on the sidebar. Side note, I gave her my mechanical pencil bc I thought hers was ugly and I made sure she knew that lol. Lol. There's no neg like a mechanical pencil neg. I'm also very humurous [sic] Maybe, but you aren't very funny, which is the non-autistic version. People often laugh at everything I say including guys True. I'm laughing at you right now. Anyways it should all be pretty e…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:37 PM
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If you do wrong, you will build up a mentality where you think it's OK to do wrong. You will eventually show that side of yourself to other people whether you intend to or not. Since 99% of success in life involves other people, doing bad things is leads to bad outcomes, not due to any supernatural force, but via human psychology and social interaction.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:26 PM
72

For the newbies: this is not going to be a shortcut to attracting your oneitis. This could be the top comment to nearly every post on this sub
/r/TheRedPill21/09/18 04:38 PM
1

Which of your classmates does the aspirational version of yourself want to hang out with? What clubs and groups are those people in? There's your answer.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 07:17 PM
1

It never occurs to inexperienced guys that the idiosyncratic details of their particular situation do not matter. So we get 6 giant paragraphs of extraneous details. I think a lot of them actually do read at least part of the sidebar because they try to drop red pill terminology in these walls of text, but it's clear that they don't understand what they've read.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 07:16 PM
2

In addition, should I also try to live my current life carefree , fuck around like a whore and take as many virginities as possible or should I rather invest the majority of my time into my future career but therefore miss out on opportunities in highschool? Why not both? Guys your age overestimate the time commitment involved in pulling girls. What does it take, five minutes to flirt and get a girl's number? Three texts to set up a date. At this point you've committed ten minutes of your day ma…
/r/askTRP19/09/18 07:03 PM
3

The big thing of course in my mind it's a lot easier to game girls if you have some resemblance of a professional job, rather than some chump working in a restaurant. You know what I mean? This is only true if you want to work the Beta Bucks strategy. Who do you think gets laid more, bartenders or accountants?
/r/askTRP19/09/18 06:54 PM
2

Look at it this way: you think you have a woman-shaped hole in your life that you need to fill to be happy. What you really have is a hole in your life that women don't want to jump down into. Your job isn't to fill the hole with someone else; your job is to eliminate the hole altogether.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 02:07 PM
13

Listen to your instincts Yeah, but OP's instinct is to keep wasting time on a girl who doesn't want to meet him. Develop abundance, then listen to your instincts.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 05:49 PM
2

“You seem like a fuck boy” Thanks “I’m waiting till marriage for sex” (Chuckle.) OK. You probably have a small dick Extremely small. “I’m really tired I don’t feel like doing anything” Let's just hang out and watch something then. “I just met you” And it's going well so far. “You probably use that line on every girl” Yeah. “I’ll only do that if I’m your girlfriend” You'll only be my girlfriend if you do that. "Your friend is really hot" I know. I keep trying to get him to go out with me. “You ar…
/r/askTRP24/08/18 03:04 AM
12

Yes, you can. All you have to do is learn one word: next
/r/askTRP12/08/18 11:38 PM
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Bro, there are lots of guys who don’t get laid until their 20s. The term incel is poison, but even accepting it as valid, you gotta be like 35 before the label is apt. What you are is a virgin. So was every other guy at some point. So you are getting started a little later than some people. Big fucking deal. Here’s my advice. TRP is not a magic potion. It’s not homework. It’s not Do X And Get Y. It’s a body of knowledge from men who have experienced the world as it actually is. That’s all. It wi…
/r/askTRP11/08/18 12:08 PM
1

"Changes in thinking don't lead to changes in behavior; changes in behavior lead to changes in thinking"
/r/askTRP01/08/18 02:15 AM
5

Read. Get in the habit of reading books before bed. And not trashy YA or fluffy murder mysteries, either. History, economics, self-help, classic modern literature, personal finance, etc. You'll sleep better, you'll think better, and you'll write better.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 10:30 PM
1

There should be an auto-mod that blocks every post on here with more than 7 or 8 sentences. Every question we get that's multiple paragraphs long can be answered the same way: There's this one girl You're doing it wrong
/r/askTRP09/07/18 11:26 AM
45

I underutilized years and years of my life by not lifting.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 04:28 PM
2

That said, I realized afterwards (shortly before this post actually) that I was doing all the asking. All of the asking except asking her out. You are new to this, but it shouldn't take more than 4-6 messages to get her number and set up a date. She did not once ask me any reciprocal questions. She's getting bored. You are not so fascinating that you can hold a stranger's attention with words that she can read at her leisure and interpret any way she wants. Women look for reasons to think you ar…
/r/askTRP06/07/18 12:06 PM
2

Imagine there are two people trying to frame a door. One guy sits there on the couch and talks about the nature of doors and the history of carpentry and the optimal tools and materials. The other guy gets out his tools and frames the fucking door. Apply TRP principles, don't recite them. There's no test, other than whether you can pick up girls or not. And from actual experience, the more you talk about Red Pill theory, the less successful you will be with women.
/r/askTRP05/07/18 08:40 PM
1

Read A Random Walk Down Wall Street. Then read The Millionaire Next Door.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 11:48 AM
6

Women hate you because you hate yourself. You rationalize your own sloth and slovenliness by asking what happens if you improve and they still hate you. You seem to like the easy path. OK. Which do you think is easier: learning not to hate yourself, or changing hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary instinct of every woman on the planet? There's a reason they don't like you, and it's not because they are all bitches, whores, and sluts. Change your fucking behavior. Everyone is telling yo…
/r/askTRP15/06/18 08:43 PM
1

This is why I think doing a PhD and working on research is a way for me to achieve this https://100rsns.blogspot.com
/r/askTRP03/06/18 11:53 PM
4

You know what to do, you just don't know how to do it. We can't tell you how to do it. One of the best pieces of advice I ever saw on TRP said that changes in mentality don't lead to changes in behavior, it's the other way around. Changes in behavior lead to changes in mentality. In other words, just go do it. Maybe badly at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. Actually, it gets easier a lot faster than you'd think.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 11:40 PM
5

You asked for advice on this forum probably hoping somebody will call you out about something you hadn't thought of. So I'll do that. Others on here have given good advice, but it's advice you can get anywhere. Here's the truth: You are in the decade of your life (15-ish to 25-ish) where the following thought pattern is super common: [Learn about Topic X that you had heretofore been unexposed to]. Holy shit, this is how the world works! Wow, this is interesting and meaningful! My life is not int…
/r/askTRP03/06/18 11:18 PM
3

The trick isn't to be someone you're not, the trick is to be a better version of yourself
/r/askTRP24/05/18 04:01 PM
1

Yes. Theory can be helpful when you get hung up on something, but so many people--particularly those who are already inclined towards a blue pill mentality--feel as if they need to understand *everything* about the theory before they go put it into practice. Nope. Go approach women. Imagine if someone had no idea how to drive and was super anxious about it. Rather than reading an hour a day to try to understand how a carburetor works, it would be way more helpful to go get in a car and take it a…
/r/askTRP24/05/18 03:23 PM
1

Don't call a girl you've just met beautiful
/r/askTRP22/04/18 09:29 PM
2

Someone that you enjoy hanging out with Someone who will make you better in some way They say you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Hang out with people who will raise your average, or at least not lower it.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 01:51 AM
1

Impotent rage definitely makes you less attractive, but it's the impotent part much more than the rage part that does it. If you can use anger to motivate you towards a productive result, use it. If not, it can't help you, and you should let it go.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 01:49 AM
1

Nobody lives by himself the first semester of college, though. You get assigned a dorm room and a roommate. Sophomore year, sure.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 01:47 AM
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I was a neurotic-as-fuck person from age 10 until my mid-20s. You would be amazed how easy it is to follow your instincts once you get into a sexual situation and stop over-analyzing every little thing. After a certain point your inner monologue stops wondering if you should grab her ass and your inner caveman takes over and you just grab her ass. And your inner caveman is attractive to women more often than not. Dude passed his genes on through 250+ generations; he knows what the fuck he's doin…
/r/askTRP07/04/18 01:40 AM
9

Just post cool shit to your own Snap story instead
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:05 AM
1

She will ask for your opinion on things
/r/askTRP20/03/18 07:36 PM
2

You posted MMM before I could. This shit is the best, OP
/r/askTRP15/03/18 09:58 PM
2

Nobody here yet has mentioned sleep hygiene. It's important to get your mind/body right, but it's just as important to get the physical objects that are going to be on, over, and around you for eight hours right. You should almost certainly be washing your pillow more often. When's the last time you changed your sheets, including your fitted sheet and your mattress pad? Make sure the clothing you're wearing for pajamas are actually helping you rather than hurting you. Some people wear nice long-…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 04:19 AM
1

Fapping is not heroin (i.e. "not even once"), but most people masturbate too often. Unrelieved horniness can be channeled into motivation. If you're talking about porn, that's a different story.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 01:20 AM
3

Tell her you are going out for celebratory drinks after your exam and invite her to come. Then physically escalate.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 10:55 PM
2

Patton, The Dirty Dozen, The Great Escape, Red River, The Man Who Shot Liberty Valence, Braveheart, anything with Bogart, anything with Clint Eastwood
/r/askTRP28/01/18 01:53 AM
3

11 is still pretty young. I say watch old war movies or westerns with him. Make sure he gets exposed to classical masculinity.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 08:28 PM
4

You don't miss her as much as the way you felt when you were with her. You haven't internalized "it was just your turn" yet. Those feelings you had were in large part a fantasy. Think of it this way: Wasn't it a great feeling when you were little and you came downstairs on Christmas morning and there were presents everywhere? Of course that was great. But I bet you don't have any trouble getting Santa Claus out of your head. Santa Claus isn't real. Neither was that idealized relationship you tho…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:50 AM
1

Having the thoughts you are having means you're most of the way there. You just need to fill that gap with something productive. Like /u/TooHoly999 says, jerk it every once in awhile, but replace it in your daily routine with lifting.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:40 AM
2

I think I read too much and had a brainfart Reading can only take you so far. Go out into the wild and see for yourself. Pay attention to how women behave, not what they say. We can tell you exactly how teasing and playful we think you should be, but you won't really understand it unless you experience it.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:37 AM
2

Lift. Dress better. Get good at something (a sport would be best). Get good grades. Talk to everyone. Don't take anything too seriously. Don't set out with a goal of making people like you. Build yourself into a good man, relax, and enjoy yourself and people will naturally like you.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:34 AM
1

Being outgoing and talking shit do not go hand-in-hand. You say school, so I'm going to assume you're pretty young. Cringing at the dumb things you say doesn't mean you should shut up; it means you should find more mature things to say. The world is not as all-or-nothing as young people think it is. It took me until my mid-20s to realize the secret of life wasn't learning the rules and then applying them to all situations. The secret of life is balance. If you're an introvert, take some time eve…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:25 AM
2

You aren't addicted to junk food. Stop making it sound like you're a victim of a disease. Your body is not chemically dependent on potato chips. You've developed a bad habit, that's all. Work at improving it. Though to be honest, at age 16, you could eat mostly crap and you'll still be fine if you're active. Why the fuck can't you start running? You're afraid to go outside? What bullshit is that?
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:19 AM
8

Read the sidebar. You need to go into Monk Mode. Start lifting and/or running. But more importantly, cut out the porn now. You say you're old fashioned and don't want to pump-and-dump, but you're doing the lazy man's equivalent every day.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:14 AM
1

You need to develop self-discipline, and schoolwork isn't always the best place to start. I don't know anything about you specifically, so some of the advice below might not fit, but it applies to lots of men your age who are in a similar spot. If you don't lift or run, start doing so regularly. "Regularly" meaning every Monday/Wednesday/Friday at a particular time, not "sporadically whenever I feel like it". You talk about killing yourself. You need something to live for besides school. And no,…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 12:59 AM
21

My red pill financial epiphany came when I read this
/r/askTRP06/01/18 03:55 PM
8

Cooking. You'll save money and eat healthier. And it can make for great foreplay.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 11:06 PM
6

You screwed up by asking her schedule. You text her: "We should do X at Y" If she's interested she will either agree or propose a different time if she's actually busy. If she's disinterested she will give a generic response about being busy.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 11:05 PM
2

There is a difference between BP fags who are trying to improve and BP fags who want success with no effort, or who shit on RP principles. The latter two are the ones who get roasted.
/r/askTRP26/12/17 04:06 PM
6

Practical application comes first, though. I have a notebook with the best RP stuff I have gleaned from various sources, and in there I have this nugget: Changes in thinking don’t lead to changes in behavior; changes in behavior lead to changes in thinking. Understanding is not the same thing as implementing. Understanding is not even necessary! You can drive a car without knowing how a carburetor works. If you were to say OP is not fully Red Pill yet, I'd agree. But he's taking the right path t…
/r/askTRP22/12/17 06:16 PM
3

Some girls, I don't like them but they're hot Yep and I feel chemistry with them You are a kissless virgin, so just be warned that you are going to confuse hormones with feelings. Everybody does; this can really only be learned through experience. Just because you and a girl are sexually attracted to each other doesn't mean anything more than your animal instincts are telling you to bang. should I just be straight up that hey, I find you sexy and want to get with you What do you mean by straight…
/r/askTRP15/12/17 01:06 AM
5

Hey, listen, you're purposely taking time to reply back You are indeed a RP noob. That's OK. You have to start somewhere. This is a trap many noobs fall into. You read all this stuff and want to demonstrate knowledge. You don't demonstrate it by reciting it, but by acting on it. In other words, don't talk about sexual dynamics with women; talk sexual to women. and that's not something I am willing to put up with Don't say this; demonstrate this. Why should you care how long she takes to reply? Y…
/r/askTRP15/12/17 12:53 AM
1

Mr. Money Mustache
/r/askTRP14/12/17 09:42 PM
1

"Pay attention to what women do, not what they say." Also phrased as "You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish." Lift more, dress better, approach more are all good pieces of advice, but they generally synced up with what I already knew I needed to do. "Pay attention to what women do, not what they say" actually shifted the way I thought about women, so it was probably the most important thing I learned.
/r/askTRP08/12/17 12:31 PM
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It's not normal, but it's very common. Think of it this way: a man decides he wants to draw a nice drawing. Up until now, he hasn't done much more than doodle in his notebook, but he enjoys the idea of doing more. He has ambition. That's good. He knows what a good drawing looks like, but he can't make his hand do it on the first attempt. Or the second. Or the third. It takes lots of practice, and lots of crumpling up and throwing away what didn't work. Does that make him a bad artist? He's certa…
/r/askTRP08/12/17 12:17 PM
3

"You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish"
/r/askTRP21/11/17 09:41 PM
1

What you say about being able to use movies to gauge what works and doesn't work is kind of true. But there are some problems. Many movies are unrealistic BS. How do you know which are good and which are bad? You need real life experience to be able to judge. And once you have that real life experience, that will trump anything you can learn from the movies. If we allowed movie examples, so many threads would degenerate into discussions of whether that example was actually Red Pill or not. There…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 09:07 PM
1

This is a good answer. There is a difference between expressing your feelings and being emotional. The former is probably fine; the latter makes you look weak.
/r/askTRP06/11/17 11:21 PM
2

In that answer, the guy is not successful because he compliments women; the compliment is just a vehicle for him to let them know that he's sexually interested. The higher your SMV, the more forward you can be out of the gate. Don't think complimenting women is the answer to getting into their pants. The sequence doesn't go from "Oh, he's so nice!" to "I think I want to sleep with him." He's so nice is a dead-end road. The sequence goes from "This guy wants to sleep with me" to (instant assessme…
/r/askTRP05/11/17 08:15 PM
1

Don't quit cold turkey. Taper the gaming and start doing other things. If you aren't already, at the top of that list of other things is to fucking LIFT. If you don't have easy access to a gym, then start running instead. Visceral, masculine physical experiences will give you a feeling of accomplishment in a way that gaming will not. Your brain knows your virtual accomplishments aren't real, which is why gaming is starting to depress you.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 10:02 PM
1

Yes to this. People always try to get motivated by changing their attitudes. They don't realize that a change in attitude only happens after a change in behavior, not before.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 10:56 PM
1

This is an unhelpful way of thinking that you've picked up from your career. You can't just throw money at problems; you have to throw effort at them.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 10:54 PM
1

Professional success, or the goal of professional success with an actionable plan to get there. Stoicism, or grace under fire Physical fitness Independent and varied interests; being well-read and well-informed. The ability to elicit positive emotions in others
/r/askTRP22/06/17 10:22 PM
5

This is the right answer. You only want to remind her that you exist and that you'd be cool to meet again in August. Over-texting can kill the attraction, and you will fall into the trap of over-texting.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:31 AM
2

She doesn't want to give you oral. Just verbal, as in talk about other guys. I am stealing this
/r/askTRP16/06/17 02:00 AM
2

Not sure that films can/should be classified as Red Pill. It's a rule here not to use fictional examples. But if you aren't going to "study" the films and just want to be entertained, there are some good masculine but kid-friendly choices. James Bond, particularly the older films. Westerns, particularly John Wayne films. If you want to ease the kid into the genre you can try starting with Rango, which is animated.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 01:45 AM
2

This is weasely and will just lead to OP having to explain himself. You never want to be explaining, unless you're explaining what she needs to put on the sandwich.
/r/askTRP15/06/17 09:47 PM
1

Type #3, fat girls
/r/askTRP14/06/17 12:39 AM
1

You answered your own question. Cut out porn and stop masturbating. Also, there's no reason you have to stick it in the minute you are both naked. Take 20 minutes to have naked foreplay. You don't have to be hard at the start, but as long as you are having fun and the girl isn't a whale, you should be able to get hard at some point if you aren't stressing about it.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 05:49 PM
1

Check out Good Looking Loser. That site has exercises you can do to get over approach anxiety.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:35 AM
5

You want to be calm, but you still want to be assertive. The worst thing is being angry while being passive. Passive-aggressiveness kills attraction like nothing else.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:33 AM
1

This was true of a buddy of mine who was depressed. The meds didn't do shit for his depression, but they melted his social anxiety away. He was engaging women in conversation all the time when he never had before. Now he's off meds but still has no problem approaching.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:20 AM
1

Yes, but OP should keep in mind that when he's are starting off, "quality approaches" doesn't necessarily mean asking girls on a date. It just means walking up and engaging them in conversation in any way where they are focusing all their attention on him. Then later once he knows he can start talking to them he can focus on applying more and more aspects of game.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:18 AM
7

There is. It's called the sidebar.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:14 AM
1

You don't have to be able to talk about something for hours. Just minutes. It can be about anything. And actually, the more in depth you know the subject, the worse off you are. You want to keep it light, flirty, and fun.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 12:09 AM
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Are you having success picking up girls? If not, there's your problem. Figure out what you're doing wrong and get better. If so, then you can step away from the game for awhile and find validation somewhere else. Being able to get girls is not the meaning of life. Do something else for awhile. Learn how to play sitar. Write a novel. Fly to Borneo. Start a business. You can come back to the pussy well whenever you feel like that's what you want to do; girls will always be there.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 11:57 PM
2

Game this girl like you would game any other girl. But you don't know how to game other girls, which is why you're here asking advice. People here are telling you to focus on other girls. And you are insulting them. TL;DR: GTFO, OP
/r/askTRP10/06/17 06:40 PM
2

Don't be the orbiter. If you are orbiting, walk away irrespective of whether Chad comes over to talk.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:39 PM
1

Dr. No
/r/askTRP05/06/17 09:54 PM
1

"The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt." It's probably the best book I've ever read, and it's RP as fuck, because it's subject, TR, was manly as fuck. He didn't start out that way, though. He was a sickly, frail, asthmatic mama's boy. Then, at his father's urging, he decided to remake his body and his mind, and he turned himself into the most fascinating American of all time. TR was equally at home at Harvard--where he wrote the definitive work on the Naval War of 1812, for fun, in his spare time--in t…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 12:31 AM
1

If you need to vent to get out the anger, physical stuff, as other posters have said. If you need to vent to be able to understand what you're feeling and put your thoughts into context: Type them out. Type them, read them, edit them until you have something coherent, then delete.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 04:13 PM
2

When I was first introduced to TRP, I used to disagree with lifting being rule #1, too. I have been reading here for about 6 months, and I've noticed major improvements in myself and the attention I get from girls. I don't disagree about lifting anymore. It's key. Lifting improves your body, it improves your mentality, it's hard, but it's worthwhile and you feel great afterwards. It gets you off your ass and doing something to make yourself better. And it's fucking visceral. Lifting heavy shit u…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 03:36 PM
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