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Field ReportGrapefruit-Smooth/r/seduction18/05/25 10:35 AM
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i used to do it all the time when i used to daygame frequently
/r/seduction07/04/26 06:13 AM
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show more intent with laser sexual eye contact, a playful smirk, statement of intent, and physicality (hand caressing, hand holding, etc.) this is flirtation, she has to know why you approached her, it’s not to be the friend, it’s to be the lover
/r/seduction07/04/26 06:12 AM
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for one, make sure both you vibe well together. Two, talk about future plans during the date. And finally, third, schedule the 2nd date in person at the end or text each other about later. one is the most important, if you guys don’t connect or have sexual chemistry, then there is no point in a 2nd date.
/r/seduction07/04/26 06:05 AM
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what you say is true but remember a lot of these people don’t go out and have never interacted with women in this environment, so they don’t really understand what works. they just tell us what they “think” will work.
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:19 PM
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i’ve even got dates sending the “hey, how was your day?” text. i’m really not extra with text messages
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:09 PM
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I agree with this comment I’ve been getting dates and lays using rapport building text and regular conversations for years. A lot of people keep telling me that my text game is “too boring,” but it works for me. I use texting as a tool to keep the connection that i have with a girl going longer until we both have time to meet. A lot of my game is done in person, so I hardly do much on the phone. it also helps that I have a decent lifestyle and usually add girls on IG.
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:07 PM
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What was pickup like for you then? compared to now? If you’re just talking about guys getting rejected, then wasn’t rejection always part of the game? I don’t know what you guys experienced 15 years ago because I was barely alive lol
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:30 AM
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What do you mean by “most women are not available?” Bars are the easiest venues for night game, but there’s no guarantee that the girls will be hot. Try to find bars where university students go, you might notice quality of girls go up. night clubs have the best looking girls but are the hardest venues and It takes some time to learn
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:28 AM
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Interesting perspective dude
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:17 AM
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Inner game also means having high self esteem 😉
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:12 AM
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Good job every now and then you’re always gonna meet girls like this who are dtf with the right logistics, but make sure you learn from the other 12 as well, rejections provide valuable lessons
/r/seduction26/10/25 07:15 PM
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Everyone’s progress is different, it took me about a year and half of cold approaching I knew some guys who it took a week or a month, it depends on a lot i guess. The only answer is to keep improving until you get it
/r/seduction23/10/25 07:49 PM
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California, Arizona, Texas, Florida any large city mentioned in the states i’ve just listed is good California and Florida cities will have the hottest Latinas
/r/seduction21/10/25 07:58 PM
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Walk around with smirk/smile on your face walk around with confidence be funny & tell jokes have a cool look and nice fashion sense dance & be the life of the party and people will start to approaching you 😉
/r/seduction30/09/25 06:15 PM
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maintaining eye contact is fine and it’s perfectly normal to look away every few seconds
/r/seduction29/09/25 09:32 AM
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beautiful women do approach men they’re attracted to sometimes but as a man, it’s not reliable to wait around to get approached because society still expects you to do the approaching and make the first move dating is almost like “first come first serve” the first decent guy she meets is usually the first guy she’ll get with if you just wait around, another guy who is at a similar attractiveness level (or higher) will approach her and she’ll go with because he said hi and you didn’t
/r/seduction29/09/25 06:41 AM
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what you’re saying is very true but sometimes it’s not subconscious because he might be getting approached by overweight women with acne instead of in-shape slim women with pretty faces so i guess it depends…
/r/seduction29/09/25 06:32 AM
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I love how everything is written in great detail but the actual interactions, how are we supposed to know what you’re doing wrong when you’re speaking to her? I don’t know what you’re saying or doing… to answer a couple of your questions tho, I tend to avoid girls with boyfriends & girls who’re underage because I do night game 😂. Most girls who go to bars and clubs need an ID and can’t be under 21 in the US. Also, there are just more single women out there open to meeting the right guy In daygam…
/r/seduction03/09/25 04:30 PM
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Where did all these incels come from? Yes, guys, you can meet girls who are DTF in nightclubs Thanks for sharing man. Ignore these losers
/r/seduction03/09/25 12:58 AM
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so many salty babies in the comments good post & thanks for sharing 👍
/r/seduction01/09/25 03:56 PM
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move on & avoid re approaching forget the concept of a soft no when you approach. she felt threatened the 2nd time you approached because you thought you knew difference between a no and a soft no and clearly you didn’t because you wouldn’t have gotten that reaction if you did. no more soft no’s in 2025, no means no, approach the next girl & move on
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:23 PM
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where are you from? I know tons of guys that gotten reactions like from time to time, at least out here in southern california it’s only a problem if it happens consistently, but if it’s 1/100 or 1/200 and you did nothing wrong then it’s an anomaly
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:16 PM
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Good stuff 👍
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:01 PM
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the feeling of approach anxiety never goes away you will feel it before you approach no matter how good you get get used to pushing yourself forward in spite of fear
/r/seduction25/08/25 10:53 PM
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Hookups usually happens when two people meet online or when two people meet at a party where everyone is drinking... daygame too, but daytime is a rare situation for everyday people. Physical escalation (from social touch to sexual touch) Hug Hand clasp Holding hands Kiss/make out Logistical escalation (From meet location to sex location) You meet on the street You both go to the bar You both walk around the venue You both go to your house
/r/seduction22/08/25 07:47 AM
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viewing sex casually and not slut shaming women are views that come from left wing politics tho you will rarely see or convince a religious right wing conservative on these views good post 👍
/r/seduction20/08/25 10:26 AM
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what do your interactions look like? how much have you improved in the past year? (please give specific examples like: “i’m able to hold longer conversations than i did a year before.”) ignore some of these guys in the chat, everyone’s journey/progress will be and look different, some guys get results fast and others get results at a slower pace. Avoid these toxic dwarfs that question your worth as human being or shame you for not getting laid fast enough. these people are shallow scum. if it ta…
/r/seduction14/08/25 12:48 PM
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as an american who visits canada yearly, i disagree. Montreal is one of the best cities in north america
/r/seduction14/08/25 12:18 PM
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it was developed for lounges, outdoor patios, and talk able bars. MM is all verbal game, in loud dance clubs physical game is supreme loud clubs require a different style from my experience
/r/seduction06/08/25 05:22 PM
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I’ve isolated girls by telling them let’s go get a drink at the bar. I usually don’t get them the drink, but I got them isolated from the friends. sometimes I tell them to tell their friends that she’s going to go get a drink with me and she’ll be right back
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:22 AM
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in a club it’s going to be loud and hectic get used to leaning in and talking really loud so she can hear you
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:17 AM
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this is called cold approach for a reason waiting for definitive, signs of interest is called a warm approach and the amount of signals you get will depend on how good looking you are get use to just going in cold, even if she never saw you
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:16 AM
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touching is acceptable in bars and nightclubs (it depends on how you touch of course) but people are bumping into each other all the time. you normally shouldn’t be getting people freaking out that you lightly tapped them on the shoulder. When you first open a girl try tapping her on the shoulder to get her attention first. i know when i’m on the dance floor, i will side tap a girl on the shoulder and then open with a compliment on her style or a observation based opener and if she seems friendl…
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:12 AM
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not true dance floors are as good as anywhere as long as you enjoy dancing. it makes easier to physically escalate too
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:00 AM
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depends on the venue mystery method is not so effective in loud dance clubs. there’s too much noise, distractions, and chaos.
/r/seduction06/08/25 06:57 AM
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move to a big city like NYC and approach a lot women, tweak your approaches make adjustments until you get good
/r/seduction27/07/25 11:33 AM
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dancing is also a great pre-approach if your solo whenever I’m dancing and having a good time on my own. I get approached by a lot of people guys and girls.
/r/seduction08/07/25 08:33 AM
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This
/r/seduction08/07/25 08:22 AM
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to avoid the friend zone, you have to let her know you’re attracted to her in the beginning before too much time passes. The frame of the relationship is usually set at the beginning. you want to let her know that you are attracted to her as soon as possible. and the way you do this is through flirting. A simple flirtatious line is letting her know you think she’s cute. there are different styles to flirting some guys are more direct, some guys will use push pull, Some guys will pretend not to b…
/r/seduction08/07/25 08:19 AM
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if she’s giving you indicators of interest, then it should be easy for you to just go over and say hello and introduce yourself how often do you go out practicing cold approach? The whole point of going out is to practice for these situations. if you’ve been practicing this whole time, it shouldn’t be that hard for you to open and get the interaction going.
/r/seduction27/06/25 03:35 AM
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You: “hey, guys i’m going out to get some girls today” Friends: “where at?” You: “The Airport…” Friends: 🤦
/r/seduction19/06/25 04:56 PM
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I wouldn’t. there are other reliable locations to meet women why are you looking for them at the train station? 😂
/r/seduction16/06/25 04:50 PM
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I like MM, but in loud dance clubs, it doesn't seem to work. MM is all verbal game, and when it's too loud to talk, it's difficult to open the whole group indirectly. If you open her individually, the friends will automatically think you're hitting on her, so you might as well open direct. MM also neglects the dance floor game MM is probably great for lounges and quiet bars, but nightclubs? definitely not lol. Great post btw! Good to see you back in the game ;)
/r/seduction15/06/25 03:07 AM
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It’s the day game guys they avoid groups like the plague 😂
/r/seduction10/06/25 05:15 PM
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I actually just learned this recently I spent a long time overthinking the opener, I used to think whether or not it was appropriate to open direct or indirect, depending on the situation, trying to predict the future and calibrate, but then I realized that the opener doesn’t matter. opening could be simple as “hey, how’s your guys night going?” what matters is your eye contact, your voice, your humor, and your positive state.
/r/seduction07/06/25 04:27 PM
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teachers are paid more in blue states than they are in red states there is a reason why blue states tend to have better educational outcomes… but in order to pay teachers more nationally, we need federal government funding, but we can’t get that because MAGA republicans will always block this effort and corporations don’t wanna pay their taxes.
/r/seduction07/06/25 05:54 AM
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not sure why you were downvoted, but you are absolutely right! corporations are not playing a living wage to most people
/r/seduction06/06/25 10:33 PM
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https://www.cnbc.com/2021/10/05/heres-how-much-teachers-around-the-world-are-paid.html after 15 years of experience german primary school teachers can make up to 80k while in the us, after 15 years they make up to 62k
/r/seduction06/06/25 10:24 PM
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not true, in Switzerland teachers can make over 100 K and in Germany, they make like 80 K
/r/seduction06/06/25 07:04 PM
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Good post 👍 Do you dance at the club?
/r/seduction02/06/25 04:12 AM
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Another good comment
/r/seduction30/05/25 07:24 PM
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^this^
/r/seduction30/05/25 07:24 PM
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It's kinda hard to know what is going on without you describing it Can you give us 1-2 field reports? What did she say? What did you say? What venue were you at? Loud night club? Or quiet bar?
/r/seduction30/05/25 07:21 PM
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no doubt, he was the main big dude doing this i was just reporting new news
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:39 PM
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you did good 👍
/r/seduction30/05/25 04:35 AM
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he used to be fat… he lost a lot weight & now he’s lean
/r/seduction30/05/25 04:23 AM
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Depends, I don't like drinking coffee at night, I need my sleep lol. But an intimate bar could also be good (if you drink...)
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:53 AM
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😂
/r/seduction29/05/25 06:05 AM
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work on yourself: cold approach (tons of guides on that here) work on yourself (consider both therapy & reading books on self esteem ) get hobbies (rock climbing, mma, surfing, etc.) make friends from those hobbies live a healthy life (nutrition & gym) do all of this at the same time
/r/seduction27/05/25 04:42 PM
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Wtf? a 22 year old with 17 year old? that’s nasty 🤢 she is nasty asf for that… someone needs to call the FBI
/r/seduction27/05/25 04:20 PM
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where do you approach? daygame or nightgame? back when I used to do daygame I would only approach single sets with no friends. In daygame, you can get away with this because there are more single sets available in the day than there are at night when I started doing a night game, there was no way I could avoid group sets. even if she alone she’s probably waiting for her friends or looking for them
/r/seduction25/05/25 10:31 PM
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Great comment! Approaching groups demonstrates greater confidence because it requires more confidence
/r/seduction25/05/25 10:25 PM
2

Way to take rejection like a champ!
/r/seduction25/05/25 02:43 PM
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Yes!
/r/seduction19/05/25 03:08 AM
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In environments where the music is too loud to talk, sometimes dancing is the only form of communication. Being the guy who dances with everyone is really good social proof at a loud dance club
/r/seduction19/05/25 02:07 AM
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I've pulled women who approached me first on the dance floor, it works! I'm usually solo at a loud dance club, so lots of people join me, and I get invited to different groups all the time. Don't take my word for it, go out and dance for several nights on your own, look like you're having fun, and people will approach you bro Guys will high-five you, and women will want to join the fun too
/r/seduction19/05/25 02:04 AM
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Most guys and even Most "PUAs" who studies this don't dance lol. It's the easiest way to stand out
/r/seduction19/05/25 01:58 AM
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"How to dance - for men" YouTube channel helped me a lot I recommend learning 1-2 universal dance moves so you can vibe it out to any music (Edm, hip-hop, country, etc.) All I do is a basic step touch from side to side, and for whatever reason women seem to like it lol. You don't need to be a pro dancer, if you're too good of a dancer, it could intimidate some women because people don't want to ruin the show with their average moves.
/r/seduction19/05/25 01:56 AM
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Thank you
/r/seduction18/05/25 10:49 AM
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Good post!
/r/seduction15/05/25 05:22 AM
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if she’s older, her friends won’t cock block and she will pull you. if she’s in her early 20s, her friends will cock block or she will curve you just to look good in front of her friends older women seem to be less picky as well most important thing is to talk to both and to see what happens. The best experience is your own experience.
/r/seduction14/05/25 04:43 PM
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if she’s older, her friends won’t cock block and she will pull you. if she’s in her early 20s, her friends will cock block or she will curve you just to look good in front of her friends older women seem to be less picky as well most important thing is to talk to both and to see what happens. The best experience is your own experience.
/r/seduction14/05/25 04:43 PM
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But that's Vegas, in most "normal cities" lol, Clubs are not always going to be overwhelmingly packed unless it's a special event, you gotta pick a venue with enough space to move around at least I see many groups of girls with no guys all the time at clubs, One little thing I noticed too is the girls friends don't cock block a guy she's dancing with I usually get cock blocked talking to her by the bar in a club, but I haven't seen it happen to me yet on the dance floor, it's interesting.
/r/seduction14/05/25 01:39 AM
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Are they crowded? If the club is at max capacity, it's still doable, but it makes it tougher to move around. Also, I think women are less approachable at a nightclub because they're screening you for sex. They already know why you are approaching them, you can't hide intent at a club and it's too loud to talk anyway. Direct game and Dance floor seem to work better at a nightclub. At a regular bar, it's more talkable, so I think it's easier to approach more indirectly because people are more open…
/r/seduction14/05/25 01:23 AM
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Society is weird about it because we associate club culture with 20-year-olds But what is a club? A club is just a social gathering where people listen to music and dance. Most cultures in the world do this, maybe not in the form of a club, but family/friend barbecues or meets, where there is usually music and dancing In my opinion, you're never too old to go out, listen to music, and dance. And also to meet women ;)
/r/seduction14/05/25 01:06 AM
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I like both wherever the girls are, I go lol. Some bars have a dance floor tho, try it there sometime, it's super fun!
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:58 AM
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Basically... It's still a bit of a numbers game tho because you only have a few seconds to convey your personality on a dance floor. But you will already break the physical barrier and the interaction by nature is already more sexual because of dancing close together and her grinding on you, makes it sexual and the interaction more on with little to no words exchanged. Verbal game isn't the only way to convey a fun confident personality. But you can still open girls verbally in quieter locations…
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:53 AM
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why don't you take advantage of Europe daygame? Europe has way better daygame than the US because their cities are more walkable than ours.
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:41 AM
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Dance with a big smile on your face, and look like you're having fun, and people will come. This past weekend, I went out solo doing this, and I became the center of the party. People were coming up to me, girls and guys. Yesterday, I had a girl grinding on me, and we made out. Dance floor game is a bit of a numbers game because you only have a few seconds for her to make a decision But what I look for on the dance floor when opening are: Girls who are having fun Girls looking at me At least a c…
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:37 AM
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I'm 25 and love them!! Clubs are way better for single guys who just want one-night stands More people get laid meeting at a club than anywhere else, but online dating
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:25 AM
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I disagree, Clubs are actually pretty good once you get used to them. There are larger volumes of women in a nightclub than in a bar or lounge There are hotter women in the hottest night club in the city It's really about dancing, and after you hook the girl and or make out with her, you take her to a quiet location so you can talk Clubs are harder to open, but easier to pull
/r/seduction14/05/25 12:20 AM
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travel to the city vibe it out
/r/seduction12/05/25 03:21 AM
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I went to Dallas TX and loved it for night game but I still hear many good things about Austin TX (6th street). I haven’t been there yet though. Miami is definitely the spot for Florida
/r/seduction12/05/25 03:20 AM
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sometimes if you’re just dancing on your own and having fun with a big fat smile on your face, you’ll get a few girls who approach you in the nightclub
/r/seduction10/05/25 09:12 PM
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there are 3 places you’ll approach while doing night game: streets, bars, and nightclubs. nightclubs consist of loud music, a dance floor packed with people, and thumping music with flashing lights. in this environment it’s gonna be harder to open because she’s screening you for sex not a conversation. it’s easier to pull because when you do find that girl she’s usually on. any form of indirect style game like the mystery method doesn’t work well here because it’s too loud to talk. Club game is …
/r/seduction10/05/25 09:11 PM
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why not? Lol. two consenting adults having fun isn’t gonna hurt nobody 😂
/r/seduction10/05/25 08:56 PM
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cold approach is the best way to learn how to meet women and the best for one night stands (with the exception of online dating) social circle is good for long term relationships, not so good for one night stands unless you’re throwing parties regularly
/r/seduction10/05/25 08:52 PM
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5 dates out of 100 approaches is 1 date a week, wayyyy better than most guys
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:25 PM
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speak for yourself
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:23 PM
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Having fun dancing & socializing is not “grinding” it’s called living life and meeting girls along the way
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:22 PM
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talking to 100 girls a month is not that hard… that’s only 25 girls a week & 12.5 each day if you only go out 2 times a week. if you do night game every weekend, the session might be 4 hours, you could literally do 10 approaches within the first hour
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:20 PM
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Julien from RSD is married too
/r/seduction05/05/25 09:55 AM
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Yeah, i read it. good post!
/r/seduction01/05/25 10:48 PM
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In quieter venues like bars and lounges where you can talk. talk to everyone, guys, girls, and ugly friends. laughing and making jokes with people is a great way to have fun too.
/r/seduction01/05/25 10:44 PM
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Learning to dance is a great way to enjoy yourself in the club. solo dancing by yourself is fun dancing with the group that you came in with is fun dancing with strangers is fun dancing with the girl you’re attracted to is Hella fun! (a couple weeks ago I pulled a girl I met on the dance floor) in loud nightclubs, it’s hard to have conversations when the music is thumping. so sometimes you’re better off dancing which allows you to get physical and after a while, you can isolate her to a quieter …
/r/seduction01/05/25 10:42 PM
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dude… the whole point of learning this is that you could change and expand your comfort zone. just because somebody’s not comfortable in the nightlife environment initially doesn’t mean that overtime they cannot get comfortable with it. The first time I went to a club I lasted about two minutes before I walked out because I was that uncomfortable. but after the first year or two I felt at ease in the environment
/r/seduction01/05/25 10:36 PM
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depends on the guy i prefer if she’s quiet or soft moans
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:57 PM
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Good post 👍
/r/seduction05/02/25 12:18 AM
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