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| 1 | Rejected at Concert/Need approach adviceIf you approach every girl you're interested in without any signs of interest, most are going to be rejections. The only ones that are not going to be rejections are the ones who didn't look at you because they're so below you in terms of looks (like an obese girl if you're skinny) that they didn't think they had a chance or they're walking in a direction where they just didn't see you. If you want to avoid awkward situations, just remember this: Women reject you or accept you before you even ta… | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Why you should be SPEAKING to as many girls as possible, and not just to game them.Meetups are a myth. What works for me is simply approaching women who check me out. I get stared at in many different places but mainly shopping malls, public transport, on the street in the big city near me, and sometimes even when I ride my bicycle. If you make an effort to be clean and you look good, many women will stare at you, then it's simply a matter of going out more and finding the places in your neighborhood where the young women congregate and developing a habit of approaching those … | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 12:07 AM |
| 9 | Why you should be SPEAKING to as many girls as possible, and not just to game them.I don't agree with the statement that you should just talk to women and practice. Unless you're severely autistic or socially stunted, you don't need practice to date, you just need a right place right time encounter with a woman you're attracted to where she stares at you, you reciprocate then go introduce yourself. The problem I have a lot of the time is the women who are interested just aren't extremely attractive, they just have kind of that "cute" look to them and don't look particularly se… | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Im freshly 18 and I didn't text or pull any girl for good 5 years.How do i start texting/pulling them.I'm 26 and just recently managed to make socializing into a habit. Everywhere I go, whether it's a movie theater, a concert, a music festival, or even more recently, the comic con, I always make it a habit to go talk to people and find a common interest to start a real conversation with someone. When I was 18, I would ask people how to get a girlfriend or how to get laid and the answer was in my face all along. The key is not to go out to bars and clubs and get rejected by over 100 women who are… | /r/seduction | 06/07/24 05:19 AM |
| 1 | anyone ever use that site fetlife or BDSM sites?Forget about meeting women online for the most part. I have been into femdom since the age of around 12 years old, even though I started watching porn at 18, basically there was no limit to how much I could fantasize when I hit puberty, but the thing is the vast majority of kinky people meet in person, not online. But you can identify kinky people based on how they dress, oftentimes the punk attire of wearing a collar is a good tell. Although there are definitely those who don't show it out in t… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:19 PM |
| 2 | anyone ever use that site fetlife or BDSM sites?Those tend to be legit but you have to pay money to have sex, so it's like hiring a prostitute but with no guarantee that she is going to be attractive or that she is going to be clean and you have to wait your turn and watch as other men fuck her. Usually, women who sign up to those kinds of events are in their 30s or even older, so if you're like 18, it's going to be really weird. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:17 PM |
| 0 | How to be more fun when we approach a girlPlease don't use the show Friends as a role model. Joey was low IQ, Chandler and Ross were insecure, so it's not exactly the picture of success. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:14 PM |
| 1 | How to be more fun when we approach a girlSituational opener (at a concert, I ask what her favorite songs by that artist are. At a festival, what artists she is excited to see) Conversation based around that opener with follow-up questions related to it Close by asking if she wants to grab a drink sometime, then get her number if she says yes. All you have to do is repeat this over and over again, preferably in places where you don't appear creepy. I found that the worst places tend to be at night out in the open like on the street or i… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:13 PM |
| 1 | How often do your dating app matches actually lead anywhere?Risk is too high for them to actually meet even if they like your pics, hence why most won't match and they won't meet either. Meeting online is the worst way of meeting women. Dating apps only work for gay men and even then, that lack of trust and high risk thing still applies, just to a lesser extent. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Old pua stuff for trade if anyone is interestedTo be honest, I used to be obsessed with getting muscular until I eventually achieved it and nothing changed so then I realized it was my personality that was the issue. You see I was extremely narcissistic and obsessed with my looks to the point where I couldn't love anyone else other than myself. But then I ended up quitting the gym and doing some introspection and I realized that going out to events allows me to socialize and make friends and also meet women which gets me dates, and although … | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Why do women attracted to me act so bossy?You're just close-minded, and probably religious, your loss anyways. But I've seen plenty of happy couples on Reddit partaking in some pretty extreme bdsm lifestyles who wouldn't trade it for anything else and it is beautiful. But a lot of people would worry too much what their friends or family would think and so they would spend decades following society's perfect plans for them, instead of doing what they want without fear of being judged. That sounds like a very sad life. Only weirdos want w… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Where do I go from here with this woman?her ideal date scenario is just hanging out in sweats and watching TV That literally means "netflix and chill", she basically invited you to her place to watch TV, have sex and cuddle, but sounds like you can't catch the hint. The thing with dating women is that a lot of it has to do with subtlety and reading between the lines. Men are often too direct and so when they have to read between the lines, they struggle, unless they have top tier social skills. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Old pua stuff for trade if anyone is interestedThat is sad. If you can't rely on your personality and have to rely on that stuff to get women to like you, you have a lot of work to do. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Started really well, now it's not going so wellBar, Coffee Shop > Any other date idea (cinema, restaurant, and so on) That's the one thing many guys don't know. Only go to the movies with your friends or with your girlfriend (she is only your girlfriend if you've had sex and entered a serious relationship with her). Only go to the restaurant with your girlfriend also, because it's expensive and romantic. You don't want romantic with a girl you haven't even had sex with, you want excitement. So I take them to bars. If you can't go to bars, g… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:38 AM |
| 1 | On a good and a bad month, how many lays you get at apps?I don't use dating apps, they tend to have a lot of fake profiles and trashy women. The women I'm into don't use the apps, they just meet in real life through social circles or at big events. It's less convenient, more random but it doesn't waste your time or lower your self worth. When I go out, I get stared at and some women will smile, but when I go on the apps, I just get little to no swipes right. The app tells me nobody wants me but the real world tells me many women would want to date me … | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone ever read a romance novel as research?That doesn't work. What did work for me is going on subreddits related to fetishes I am into that I was ashamed of to see many other people expressing the same feelings and even some couples incorporating those things into their relationship, and then I realized I was not only normal but also that what I wanted was achievable all along and I also knew exactly how I would get it. What has been more difficult for me is finding places where I can meet women and getting dates, but I've been getting … | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:30 AM |
| 2 | help with defining what a true casual relationship isThe vast majority of women want a romantic relationship, especially in your age group, and they expect you to be mature and have your life together. 35 is not the time for friends with benefits, if you want that, then go for women who are in their early 20s who party a lot, they won't care if you don't want to date them long term. But don't expect to meet many women who are in their 30s who just want to have sex because they are already worried that they are not going to be able to have kids, or… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:27 AM |
| 1 | I’m 41 - is it too late?Use dating apps, show you have a successful career and that you take good care of your appearance, and you'll get plenty of matches. And you can also follow the typical stuff of joining hobbies and interests that you're into, preferably stuff that women are into also, then you can meet women through that. But at your age, dating apps will probably be the best way, especially since most men in their 40s are out of shape and look pretty bad, so you won't have much competition to worry about there. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:19 AM |
| – | asking a girl her true intensions of why she wants to dateGenerally it's the woman's job to secure commitment from the man, so you're not supposed to worry about that stuff on the first date, your goal should just be to get to know each other, have sex a bunch of times, until she wants to get serious, then if you do want to get in a serious relationship with her then do so, otherwise do not. Do not feel an obligation to define a relationship when you haven't even had sex with her even once, and ideally just wait for her to ask you something along the l… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:16 AM |
| 1 | I can’t get an instant date, any suggestions?It's because you have to give them time to think about it. Asking for a number means they have to expect a call from you in the future, they don't know when and it makes them anxious, whereas if you just ask to meet right away, you haven't built up any anticipation, and also they might not be available anyways. I don't even expect to get laid on the first date either. Dating is a process that takes time, just don't be the sucker who pays 100$ per date only to not make it past the first. Always b… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:11 AM |
| 1 | is it better to be honest you only want sex or lie that you want romanceI don't lie but I know not every one of them will be a match even if we have sex. Just don't go into it with no intention of having a relationship with anyone if you don't want to seem manipulative. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:06 AM |
| – | Why do women attracted to me act so bossy?My point is you can't teach a sub to be a dom, or vice versa. It's a waste of time. But PUAs need customers so they need subs to believe there is something wrong with them that needs fixing. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:03 AM |
| 1 | How is nightgame possible if one has no friends that want to go out regularly?Sometimes I go with a family member but the times where I go alone are the ones where I socialize the most. It's more fun with someone but it's easier to talk to people if you're alone. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:00 AM |
| 3 | What were some cases where you guys had a feeling a woman were receptive to an approach, and you ended up being either right or wrong?Sometimes it's not that you misinterpreted social cues but it's the fact she liked your looks but not your personality. Back in 2020, right before the pandemic, I had a really hot short girl staring at me during a skiing class for school and I am 6'4" so I think she was impressed and really interested but when I came up to her and introduced myself, she completely lost interest, and I wasn't shy but my guess is she expected me to seduce her or act like a douchebag, which I didn't do. At the time… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Can you be “perfect” and still get cheated on?If you care so much about being cheated on, that insecurity will show every time you're with her, you will act possessive and abusive also, so it's best to just let that go. Every time I take my car, I risk an accident but I just don't think about it because usually I am fine, and nothing happens, so just stop imagining the worst things and just live in the moment. To answer the question directly, cheating happens when the other person doesn't love you anymore but is afraid to breakup because of… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 09:54 PM |
| 4 | Stuck in a texting situation with a girl, what to do?Keep in contact with a minimal investment of a few texts per day, then when she's in your city, organize a date. Do not just wait for her to forget about you while hoping she will agree to a date when she's in the area, it's not going to go well if you do. | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 09:50 PM |
| 3 | How is nightgame possible if one has no friends that want to go out regularly?Depends on your city, but in my experience, bars are mostly sausage fests, and nightclubs have women who go in large groups just for attention and to mass reject guys, and the cover charge is expensive, the lines are very long, getting there is not easy and it's too loud to have a conversation, and few women will want to hookup that same night, even when they do, it's going to be awkward. The best place I have found to meet women is at pop concerts and parties, especially with a female artist th… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 09:45 PM |
| – | Why do women attracted to me act so bossy?No, the truth is, some men are more masculine than average and some are more feminine than average, but most women will adapt no matter what, they will take charge of a submissive man or submit to a dominant man. The solution is not to teach a submissive man how to be dominant but simply to learn that it's okay to go with the flow and let things happen as they're meant to happen. A submissive man who is taught he has to take charge will create a lot of trouble by trying to fit into a role he is … | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do women attracted to me act so bossy?The bossiness continues because you don't try to take charge. In most relationships, there is a sort of power struggle in the beginning as each person fights for more say in the relationship so that their needs are met and prioritized. What I learned with every couple I've looked at is that the person who is not dominant is generally the submissive one. Even if you don't view yourself as a submissive, if you don't lead, you are going to be led, which is not a huge deal as long as you enjoy it. A… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 09:18 PM |
| 1 | How To Go Out Alone (And Why It’s Better Anyway)I developed an ability to make friends when I go out to places like movie theaters and concerts, just last week, and it has been very useful. The problem is just that as an adult, staying in contact with those people is a struggle because people have careers and busy schedules so you never know when you could meet and that's why relying on that as your main source of opportunities is a recipe for disaster. Obviously, having the habit of making friends wherever you go is useful but it's not as us… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 08:47 PM |
| 2 | How To Go Out Alone (And Why It’s Better Anyway)In my experience, dating is generally required before you have sex anyways, but if you don't ask any women out the moment you first meet them, then nothing will happen and you'll have wasted a good opportunity. I mean of course she can say no but if you don't ask if she wants to grab a drink with you, then you'll never know if she would have said yes or rejected you. Of course, the goal when going out is to pick events you're interested in and having fun but if you notice women checking you out … | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How To Go Out Alone (And Why It’s Better Anyway)Meetup.com is made for people in your age group, most of the meetups I see on that site have people who are 35 or older and you meet in person, and it's good for making friends. You basically make friends that have a common interest or hobby that you do as a group, then you meet outside of those events, and eventually you might meet a woman that they know who is single. My personal favorite is to approach women at concerts, festivals, and it can also work in cinemas. The key is to approach women… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 08:38 PM |
| 1 | How To Go Out Alone (And Why It’s Better Anyway)I started going out alone last year after turning 25 and realizing that my only 2 friends were loser loners who never went out, and that I had never gotten a girlfriend because I had spent too much time inside at home watching TV, and the worst thing is I am actually 6'4" and good looking so it was just wasted potential, this whole time. So I started by going out to bars, that helped me loosen up but there weren't many women, and it was mostly a sausage fest at every bar, so then I went to conce… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 08:29 PM |
| 2 | How to tell if it’s your looks, your personality or both?Speaking from personal experience as a guy who just started approaching people at the age of 26, a lot of men are just afraid you will reject them or that you don't want to be approached. You have to make it very clear to them that you're interested by smiling at them or even going as far as staring at them, then they will make a move if they are available and not too insecure. But if you're really desperate, you can even go as far as making the first move by approaching the guy or starting a co… | /r/seduction | 04/07/24 08:15 PM |
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