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LogisticsGrifos/r/seduction20/08/21 06:51 PM
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FundamentalsGrifos/r/seduction20/08/21 06:24 PM
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of course it's a yellow flag but just turn it green over time (with your actions)
/r/seduction20/08/21 06:54 PM
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Lol 100%
/r/seduction03/10/20 09:16 AM
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Change the frame, the narrative in your head, from I'm lucky she's talking to me -> she's lucky I'm talking to her. From am I good enough for her -> is she good enough for me. Ask questions from that frame, this is called "qualifying". A "soft" example of qualifying (not as obvious) is randomly bringing up, 'oh I really like girls into politics" or "I really like girls who are athletic I just think they're so much more well rounded". This gives her an opportunity to say "I do sports" or "I like …
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:55 PM
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if he was high enough value he wouldnt text back straight away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 01:58 AM
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it's from the context of a man being 5;7. being tall is an attractive trait for most people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 01:52 AM
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a lot of this is personal opinion not really field tested
/r/seduction11/10/19 10:29 PM
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Abundance mentality vital. Subtle form of social proof
/r/seduction12/09/19 09:15 AM
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your point, "1. Workout - it takes discipline but your insecurities die in the gym and you will become very attractive to all women." in my opinion it doesn't take discipline if you know what you're doing. So if you're in a position where you aren't starting the muscle building process because you don't know what you're doing feel free to msg me, not that I'm an expert, but i know more than 0% if that's where you feel you're at. If you trust a system so much because you know how effective it is,…
/r/seduction08/09/19 01:52 PM
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shout out to friendly jordies one of the funniest guys on the internet
/r/seduction08/09/19 01:40 PM
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If you want something to be a priority you need to make sacrifices. I've seen it enough times in reality to know it's not a fantasy. It's all about what you prioritise with your daily actions and habits
/r/seduction07/09/19 04:25 AM
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Socialising makes you better at dating. Maybe they introduce you to their friends or you just get more socially calibrated
/r/seduction07/09/19 03:23 AM
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I literally told you why it's terrible advice based on your word selection. The advice you think you're giving is different to how someone would read and interpret your message. Because: no means zero. "I’m not saying I showed ZERO interest" "Showing no sexual interest in them" See how these are mutually incongruent? You're advice now you've clarified is really good, but you're idea of "no sexual interest" and another person's idea of "no sexual interest" can widely vary. So when giving advice u…
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:32 AM
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This really reads like someone who's created a narrative without much proof
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:21 AM
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Lmfao
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:18 AM
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Not every girl is attracted to a guy with ambition. Some girls love the "earthy" koombocha drinking subsistence farmer who hates banks and corruption so much he left society
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:17 AM
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Not just to women but everyone you converse with tbh. Being present enough to notice vocal tonalities and learn to associate that with certain emotions blah blah, just an example. Gr8 advice Ty for sharing
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:16 AM
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The "show no sexual interest" is terrible advice. It's not about showing absolutely no sexual interest. It's about making it unclear whether you are or aren't interested so that she feels that she hasn't already "won" you, so that she feels she has to make an effort to impress you or escalate with you. You've won when she's chasing you. A lot of men just pull pull pull pull and basically throw themselves at the woman after barely any meaningful interaction. This is to be avoided cause it's super…
/r/seduction07/09/19 01:56 AM
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Have opinions and make conclusions
/r/seduction07/09/19 01:43 AM
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?? Stop questioning yourself
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:24 AM
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" And at the end of the day, if she finds you attractive, it less about saying the right thing and more about not saying the wrong thing." I disagree to the extent that I'm going to say this is objectively incorrect. Game is about doing so many things right in a set that if you do fuckup in that set it doesn't matter. You have to do the right things. "Do" in that sentence is an active word. A verb. Which means the passive mindset you promulgated in your above quote is not internally consistent w…
/r/seduction05/09/19 11:44 AM
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"how do I seduce her" read how that sounds lol. So cartoonish
/r/seduction22/05/19 12:17 PM
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How you set out, phrased and view the world is elite. Thank u
/r/seduction22/05/19 12:15 PM
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please do anything but this
/r/seduction22/05/19 10:45 AM
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https://youtu.be/L6kPtRTMtOc
/r/seduction22/05/19 10:44 AM
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Lmao is this a troll?
/r/seduction22/05/19 10:32 AM
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to make themselves feel good
/r/seduction22/05/19 10:31 AM
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please don't
/r/seduction22/05/19 10:31 AM
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Nope
/r/seduction17/05/19 12:23 AM
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You obviously didn't read his comment the world, and human emotions and behaviour are more nuanced than that retard
/r/seduction22/03/19 01:32 AM
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Too smart and considered for the "SHE CHEATS SHES OUT NO MATTER WHAT" crowd I think you're talking to.
/r/seduction21/03/19 11:18 PM
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Blow > Adderall is describing the effects shown in the movie
/r/seduction17/03/19 11:43 AM
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"games" are disingenuous and weird in a bad way. I fucking hate them. Just talk like a normal person
/r/seduction15/02/19 08:52 AM
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"i have a maths test tomorrow" if you're gonna use this one follow it up with "I thought we were listing things we're gonna cheat on tomorrow". Do not do this in a low frequency environment like day game lol. Low frequency game definitely prefers brushing it off and almost making her feel weird for bringing it up imo. "Ronaldo or Messi?" "IHAB" "okay...anyway as I was saying I reckon Ronaldo cause blah blah" https://youtu.be/uMytp0PIGwU this is really good advice. Basically have empathy for thei…
/r/seduction02/01/19 09:56 AM
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Saying you're gay is terrible advice
/r/seduction02/01/19 09:40 AM
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Great advice. The best exercise is the one you will actually do
/r/seduction02/01/19 09:39 AM
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Lovers and providers.
/r/seduction18/12/18 12:42 PM
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Sorry I assumed my articulation was bad not you not being able to understand. There definitely is a sweet zone it’s just different for every individual woman. On an aggregate surely women would rather self-assuredness over meekness.
/r/seduction18/12/18 12:41 PM
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<(nice guy) --------------------------(avg guy)----------(sweet zone)----------------(negging)> ​ the sweet zone does employ the elements of bringing women down. if you were to start off in the nice guy area it'd take you longer to adjust then from the negging area. so it's better to be a negger than a nice guy, if you could ONLY start from those two polars.
/r/seduction17/12/18 06:08 AM
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Common trend in young people is to be awkward IRL but make up for that on text because it’s low risk. When you make a mistake on text you can just close the app but IRL you have to deal with more consequences. Dw pretty sure it’s normal based on how many times I’ve read/seen this happen. Put yourself in her shoes and mentally picture yourself type some of the things she does. How does it make you feel when you (imaginarily) type them. This should give you an good indication on how she feels. Btw…
/r/seduction16/12/18 12:12 PM
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If “pickup” strategy was a spectrum from niceguyitis -> negging, the “right” zone is a lot closer to negging side than it is being a pushover. Yes I completely agree negging is ineffective as a universal, long term strategy. Rooted in that childish, insult the girl you like instinct; it’s super low frequency. But it’s more effective to teach beginners black and white before explaining the shades of grey that come with intermediate level. The shades of grey that are most effective are definitely …
/r/seduction16/12/18 11:56 AM
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Dw it’s hilarious
/r/seduction16/12/18 11:41 AM
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“Greatest fear” sharks? spiders? Heights?? Nope, fucking a beta male. Lol
/r/seduction16/12/18 09:12 AM
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Zombies’ map
/r/seduction25/11/18 01:20 AM
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Wrong.
/r/seduction21/11/18 01:07 AM
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If you don’t like people trying to find solutions to the misery caused by toxic relationships or calling upon men be the best version of themselves is a “overthinking” then why waste your time on this subreddit?
/r/seduction05/11/18 09:41 AM
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You could be taught to cook by the best chefs on Earth, but if you never apply their teachings when you cook you’re still a bad chef. Apply the strong, masculine mindset brutha and nothing life throws at you will stop you.
/r/seduction02/11/18 03:20 AM
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Say hi. Then establish the frame. That’s the base process. Don’t over complicate things. If they like you, you will literally “know”. The complexity doesn’t come with the process, but sculpting a mindset that’s attractive to women (teen girls in your case) that makes them super easy from “hi”. You, as a masculine gentlemen in this chaotic, crazy life, establish the frame of every conversation you partake in (or at least that’s what you want her to think). When you initiate, you must make sure th…
/r/seduction02/11/18 03:03 AM
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Bro get properly drunk and you’ll have 0 problems. At 3 shots over 20 minutes after you are feeling tipsy should get you going real good. I guarantee you 10000% this is the best way to go you’ll have a great night.
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:53 AM
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Talk to hot girls on the street while your going about your business.
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:52 AM
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This should be stickied. Great post bra
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:50 AM
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She’s bored. Or she’s horny. Or she’s lonely. Or she’s hungry. Or she’s feeling fat. Or she likes you. Or she loves you. Point is who cares why she’s doing it, you need to work on creating a mindset where you second guess why a girl is talking to you. This mindset seeps into how you project yourself to the world, and women can smell the lack of confidence and any girl with an ounce of self respect run far, far away from that disgusting smell.
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:48 AM
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The worst thing is for you to be patient with these girls. If they’re teenage girls and they like you they’ll make it really, really easy for you, but only after you initiate. If you have to work for a teen-girl then she’s not worth your time tbh. If they’re making it super easy for you feel permission to escalate as much as you want, because most likely they really, really want you to be the first to escalate (within reason don’t do a trump and go straight for the pussy). But kissing should lit…
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:36 AM
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You’re honestly too young to be seeking advice here. Just practise and it’ll come naturally after a while like riding a bike. You seem to be doing well. It’s just one girl, and a teenage girl at that. Teenagers, especially T-girls are neurotic asf no big loss. Point is, it’s most likely something she’s thinking rather than something you did or didn’t do bro. Seriously don’t worry about it. Bonus tip just cuz: focus on yourself by getting hobbies and build muscle and you’ll have 0 problems gettin…
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:31 AM
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Showed his intended frame for the conversation (sexual) from the instant he began speaking to her. I assume.
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:22 AM
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The best advice I got from this subreddit, and it definitely applies to you, was when /u/WIA20XX told me, “No, stop getting numbers, and focus on pulling. If you can get a number, you can get an instadate. If you can get an instadate, you can take her someplace cool afterwards. If you can do that, you can take her home. Sweep the chick off of her feet. I'm dead serious. Go out. Meet girls at clubs, bookstores, bar mitzvahs, etc. Don't go for numbers. Go for spending more time with the chick. Whe…
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:21 AM
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Women are attracted to indicators of testosterone. Muscles are big indicators of testosterone and healthy eating. You get muscles by working out.
/r/seduction31/10/18 08:30 PM
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Completely agree this is great advice. Listen to this dude
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:33 AM
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There’s no perfect moment. If the girl is into you every second you talk to her could be “the moment” you could kiss her. Don’t obsess over the perfect moment, just take action. That is what being a man is.
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:32 AM
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Your flirting doesn’t suck if you have a roughly 33% make out rate with your approaches. Your escalation sucks. Your ability to look them in the eye, create sexual tension, then tell them let’s get outta here sucks. Your flirting must be good. Focus on just asking every girls you make out with from now on to “get outta here” and see what happens.
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:30 AM
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If you want something as a man you need to build it.
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:27 AM
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Lol. Clearly don’t understand. Tending to your garden equates to manufacturing that quiet confidence in you that allows you to take the initiative with any woman and still control the frame.
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:25 AM
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It’s not your true self, imo, it’s your extreme self. Your true lays in the middle of the two polarising personalities on the spectrum of “you”.
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:19 AM
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Polarising to me means being your extreme self. How it relates when talking to women is being hard line stance/very confident in all your interactions with them. This will easily sort out the girls who like or dislike you. If you’re polarising from the beginning, the girls who aren’t attracted to you aren’t going to stay around to be “polite”, they’ll just leave. The women who are attracted to you will thus be even more attracted to you when you’re in this “extreme personality” state. The girls …
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:18 AM
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Your original statement was not specific enough, but after explaining your POV about this specific situation I completely agree. HS is a COMPLETELY different game.
/r/seduction27/09/18 05:09 AM
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Authentic vulnerability
/r/seduction16/09/18 03:37 AM
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Ecstasy
/r/seduction16/09/18 03:37 AM
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If you looked through the vast majority of women’s tinder you’d see that it’s being realistic not putting them on a pedestal.
/r/seduction12/09/18 12:13 AM
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Winner
/r/seduction12/09/18 12:12 AM
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sternum up. ROLL shoulders back where they are comfortable. Try make your neck vertical Remember to do steps 1-3 all the time “Shoulders back” is a bad way of describing it to someone. Focusing on the position of the sternum will make it more intuitive. “Chest out” is different to “sternum up”. Chest out shoulders back makes you look like a chicken lol
/r/seduction17/08/18 12:21 AM
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Yeah bro tried to make it simple for you in the bold. If you think you’re a “poor responder” the answer is to increase the volume (weight * reps). The website was just if you were interested.
/r/seduction16/08/18 04:57 PM
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Hey one more thing. This article discusses something you may be interested in. https://3dmusclejourney.com/muscle-group-specalization-cycles-part-1/ "Higher volumes may also be useful for those who are poor responders to resistance training. In a recent article by Brad Schoenfeld in the Strength and Conditioning Journal, Brad speculates that much like is the case with endurance training and the effect on VO2 Max, higher volumes of resistance training can help poor responders get a “normal” hyper…
/r/seduction16/08/18 04:45 AM
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"Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power."
/r/seduction16/08/18 02:42 AM
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Yeah bro that’s cause 5x5 is about gaining strength. Muscle building (hypertrophy) is from the 8-20 rep range. If you want your body to show muscle change your current strength program to a brogram (one that focuses on building muscle). You’re doing very well though. Deadlifts are good for posterior chain but squats are the best overall muscle builders for lower body btw. But at the end of the day do exercises that make you happy
/r/seduction16/08/18 12:46 AM
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The only way to build muscle is to increase volume (weight x reps) progressively each training session. If you aren’t adhering to this principle that is the cause of your snails pace progress
/r/seduction15/08/18 05:58 AM
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Progressive overload
/r/seduction15/08/18 12:27 AM
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You probably don't have bad genes (even if you do it's a nonfactor)you have bad education about how to gain muscle. Read this, he's got a PHD in gym. https://renaissanceperiodization.com/hypertrophy-training-guide-central-hub/ http://vonblancofitness.com/how-to-calculate-calories-needed-for-fat-loss-muscle-gain-or-maintenance/ then work out how many calories you need to gain weight. you can reach the amount of volume (weekly sets) you need to grow muscle with only 3 workouts a week. gaining musc…
/r/seduction14/08/18 05:01 AM
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I think good things are coming your way soon. Well done man. 5'5 is just a number. Women look for signs of alpha for their mates, and signs of alpha are most noteable when they're VISUAL (muscle, jawline, height). But, you can definitely still be a player (alpha) if your mental game on point. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll get there.
/r/seduction14/08/18 01:08 AM
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You may be 5’5 but your posture might make you look 5’3. Alternatively if you had good posture it can make you seem 5’8. There’s always ways to improve from your baseline. Also, I can 99.99% guarantee you as a fellow ectomorph that you’ve just been going about building the muscle the wrong way. 1. Remain consistent 2. Eat at a caloric surplus 3. Progressively overload. IN THAT ORDER. Yeah you can blame genetics for why you don’t have muscle but that’s the wrong mindset to have. Accept what YOU’v…
/r/seduction13/08/18 02:40 PM
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Fix your posture. You’d be surprised how many perceived inches you gain just by standing up properly. Personally, I lose 1.5 “real” inches from rounded shoulders and “nerd neck”, but when I have proper posture my perceived height is more like 3inches taller (illusion of confidence adds to perceived height) https://youtu.be/TQqgf8kB6R8 for a video on how to temporarily fix posture. Also, his point was that if you’re an average/slightly below average man, you can make it up to an 8 by focusing on …
/r/seduction13/08/18 03:07 AM
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Almost every average person (top 65%) who struggles with game just has a consistency problem. The people disagreeing with you are delusional. It really is easy for them. BUT. If you want enough game to pull the top 0.1% of women you gotta put in the time to be good at sexual social interaction. OR. If you are at the bottom of the male hierarchy, you have to improve. What’s hard to teach, and why this sub exists is because it’s hard to teach “how to be a man”, because fundamentally, the more esta…
/r/seduction21/07/18 09:50 AM
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Bruh...I hate to break it TO YOU but most men are thirsty enough to put up with a 1:10000 risk to reward ratio when it comes to getting pussy. Closing 1 in 50 opens is on the upper spectrum for the average male closing rate I reckon. You’re clearly wrong
/r/seduction21/07/18 09:39 AM
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Your problem: you think there’s a scarcity of gorgeous women you’ll have access to. Solution: You need to have more women on rotation so when 1 girl gives you the cold shoulder it doesn’t matter to you.
/r/seduction20/07/18 03:23 AM
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Learn to screen for higher quality women who won’t take advantage of you. Basically shittest and qualify the women you talk to. If they give you the vibes of someone who’ll take advantage don’t waste your time.
/r/seduction20/07/18 03:13 AM
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Try rereading your self entitled diatribe from the perspective the type of woman you want (I assume a high quality one). Now do you get why they aren’t giving you a chance? When you internalise these negative, self entitled thoughts they set in your subconscious and manifest in every interaction you have. It’s likely the type of women you want can “sense” that there’s something bad brewing under the surface and give you the swerve. No woman owes you anything. To answer your tldr, the vast majori…
/r/seduction20/07/18 02:56 AM
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Cringe
/r/seduction13/07/18 01:58 AM
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Shut up
/r/seduction07/07/18 08:06 AM
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Wow no way women play shit tests, double speak, and are fluent in subtext who would’ve guessed?!? Nah nice post 👍
/r/seduction07/07/18 05:13 AM
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Switch the mindset. It isn’t about approaching them to prove yourself to them. It’s about approaching them to see if they're good enough for you. If they reject you in a bitchy way they clearly aren’t someone who meets your criteria, so you move on without care.
/r/seduction05/07/18 08:03 AM
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http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-use-indirect-game-get-girls This guy explains how there are 2 types of indirect pickup. True indirect (bad, manipulative and beta). Direct indirect (good, flirty and alpha). If you can do direct indirect well, it’s definitely more complex than doing direct well. But any form of direct PU is more advanced and less successful than true indirect. These conversations get messy because of the there are no homogenous words to describe things. O well
/r/seduction14/06/18 03:51 AM
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Exactly bro. Put yourself in their shoes, there really is something off about “true indirect” approach. Women can smell when a guys saying one thing then thinking another in his head. It’s very obvious and women hate it. Authenticity is key. If your going to use indirect game, read this article Indirect direct. Basically, it needs to feel like a flirty game for both of you. Obviously there are times where you can’t be truely direct, maybe you want to hook up with someone at your mum’s funeral. B…
/r/seduction14/06/18 03:43 AM
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Yeah, it obviously depends on the situation. Indirect openers might be better at dinner parties and functions. But most of the time we're talking about approaching women on the street (short time spam) and at bars (short time span) where direct openers are FAR AND AWAY the better option if you can pull it off correctly. So, I don't think it's person-dependent. I think direct has been proven to be the most effective way of showcasing alpha traits in the shortest period of time.
/r/seduction13/06/18 08:51 AM
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Interesting take for beginners. Indirect game is for beginners. However, it's the wrong take for when you want to get high level women. Indirect openers are for beginners who don't yet have their words matched up with their body language and tonality. Women can sense if you are using scaffolded conversation (indirect openers) or really are comfortable in approaching (alpha).
/r/seduction13/06/18 08:47 AM
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"[With direct game]...you will only get girls that you could have easily gotten with an indirect opener". This is bullshit. Firstly, all girls are susceptible to direct openers. Secondly, you're not going to 'lull' a woman into a false sense of security by indirectly opening them, asking where the bus stop is, to all of a sudden have her panties drop as you showcase your quick wit for 40 seconds. Or worse, ask her opinion on something then 5 minutes later suddenly spring the trap and reveal you …
/r/seduction13/06/18 08:46 AM
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There’s certain dynamics where it’s appropriate. Obviously that definition of “down talk” works well when teasing is a big part of the convo. I don’t see why you’re immediately being so negative
/r/seduction24/05/18 11:35 AM
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Elbow -> shoulder -> hand -> knee -> thighs -> inside of thigh -> kiss -> etc - is a good natural progression to start off with. As you get better at identifying how much she likes you, you’ll be able skip some steps to escalate faster. This should feel natural. I cannot stress enough, this won’t work if you don’t present well. You have to look the part before you can play the part.
/r/seduction22/05/18 03:17 AM
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If you can only read two sentences, read this. If you don’t want to get friend zoned, don’t treat her like a friend. Treat her like a woman you’re sexually attracted to. There’s a difference between having sex and finding a meaningful connection with someone. I’m talking about the former. There is no “secret” to women. There are fundamental steps that have been known to us since the dawn of mankind. Look and smell good. Approach women you’re interested in. Physically escalate. Step 1 First and f…
/r/seduction21/05/18 05:31 PM
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Get good at talking to girls your age at parties then it’s a natural progression to see opportunities everywhere (daygame)
/r/seduction21/05/18 09:17 AM
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Great response. There’s not “special moment” that happens you have to make it yourself.
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:08 AM
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Slowing down your speech while switching between maintaining heavy eye contact and checking her out. Additionally, if feel comfortable talking about sexually charged topics, do this as well. This is how to escalate without physicality. Not recommended to do this without physical touch.
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:03 AM
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Reduce the space between you and slow down your speech while maintaining heavy eye contact.
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:03 AM
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“You’re a player!” “Why are you so attracted to players?”
/r/seduction15/04/18 12:04 AM
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How much they “like” and trust being around you
/r/seduction15/04/18 12:01 AM
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Lold at your tinder line
/r/seduction14/04/18 10:58 PM
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Dude you come across as a pussy if you think he’s acting like a dick.
/r/seduction14/04/18 10:44 PM
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He’s being assertive not rude imo
/r/seduction14/04/18 10:39 PM
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This should be pinned at the top of this subreddit
/r/seduction11/04/18 11:03 AM
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“Normal” in relation to what? A conversation with your grandparents? Your boss? No. Guys need to learn that a conversation with a girl you’re interested in isn’t the same as your other daily social interactions. There are subtle conversational and body language techniques you need to change if you want the most success. I think you’re trying to get across that you don’t need to overthink things and just have a “normal” conversation but that’s not the best advice for guys stuck in a non seductive…
/r/seduction03/04/18 12:38 AM
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Great post
/r/seduction03/04/18 12:35 AM
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Don’t make excuses if you see someone who looks interesting talk to them.
/r/seduction03/04/18 12:34 AM
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Is this legit??
/r/seduction26/03/18 11:21 AM
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First para is great advice because it highlights the importance of being proactive, acting first, rather than reacting to what the woman does. Woman WANT men who lead. Men who lead are proactive. To OP, your whinging and self pity attitude 100% comes across when talking to women. Desperation is super unattractive. Create an abundance mindset, despite being in a drought and this mindset will manifest itself in you worrying less about what the girl thinks, more likely to tease her without worry th…
/r/seduction25/03/18 11:17 PM
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Exactly why I liked the advice from a previous poster who said, exchange numbers then get her to text when she’s home (if you can’t isolate her from her friend). As a man you need to be proactive, making decisions for the woman, and following her and the friend around is reactionary behaviour which imo lowers you status as a masculine figure. By exchanging numbers with the intention of meeting back up, you show that you are there to have a good time; not just to validate yourself by getting sex.…
/r/seduction25/03/18 10:59 PM
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practise more and you'll get good
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:22 PM
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Of course the anti-Mark Zuckerberg guy would tell you not to post on Facebook. Obvious bias against my idea. It's a solid tactic that works, girls love confidence and nothing screams confidence and security more than pleading to go out with them on a public forum.
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:20 PM
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Key mindset approach as a teenage boy looking to pull. Be outcome independent. Whether this one girl agrees to like you or dislike you is not a statement of your character, it's a statement of what SHE THINKS your character is. Therefore, do not be discouraged if SHE THINKS you're not good enough, because her opinion has nothing to do with if you're actually good enough or not. Don't get bogged down because one girl doesn't want to go out with you. This is how you become a failure. If worse come…
/r/seduction18/03/18 04:45 PM
3

Can you explain your last sentence please?
/r/seduction13/03/18 01:35 AM
2

lol ur fucking with me right? Hell yeah
/r/seduction08/03/18 11:42 AM
3

Slow down speech + long pauses with strong eye contact
/r/seduction08/03/18 12:34 AM
1

The whole thing is supposed to be a natural thing. But if PUA tips give some guys the confidence to be greater than their current selves than it’s worth it. Btw the PUA tips do the opposite of coming across as needy. The whole philosophy is around being income independent and being so self assured that no one woman will make or break you.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:34 PM
2

Completely agree, he’s 100% right.
/r/seduction07/03/18 12:05 PM
3

@Tettei Write them down the major actions you want to do (eg. lessen social anxiety) then write sub actions. Then tick off sub actions as you complete them. Example Lose social anxiety High five 5 people Compliment 2 people Make small talk with 1 person
/r/seduction23/02/18 09:33 AM
1

Yeah very well articulated dude. Most people with social/conversational problems don't realise that they aren't special and almost EVERY person went through that stage of anxiety. With experience however, those subconscious patterns are built which allow you to act naturally with people. It's just about experience nothing complicated
/r/seduction23/02/18 09:30 AM
1

idk dude sorry to hear that
/r/seduction23/02/18 06:24 AM
2

it's just the voice in your head bro
/r/seduction23/02/18 04:34 AM
2

Yeah lol. "Rightfully his" wtf?..This really isn't a big deal just laugh and move on and forget about this supposed AMOG (who by the sounds of things is definitely not an alpha). No need to waste your time 'going to war'.
/r/seduction23/02/18 04:22 AM
1

Do something so many times and you eventually become numb to it. Soon after doing some of the techniques Lapancakes said you couldn't care less if you're perceived as weird because it literally doesn't matter whatsoever what strangers think of you.
/r/seduction23/02/18 04:14 AM
6

Number 3 is honestly one of the best tips I've ever heard on getting better at social skills. Accurate cold reads/astute observational awareness about a person is THE best way to begin a conversation with strangers. Number 3 will help you get really good at this. Great comment.
/r/seduction23/02/18 04:12 AM
3

When people are having a conversation does your inner monologue comment? Conversation is literally just turning your inner-monologue into spoken words. If you can speak in your head you can speak outloud. Obviously you say things in your head that you would never say outloud, this is called restraint, but for the most part just start talking without thinking exactly what you're going to say, just let your spoken words flow like your inner monologue does. idk if this is helpful given your positio…
/r/seduction23/02/18 04:09 AM
2

Gr8 mindset bro
/r/seduction17/02/18 01:43 AM
1

Read through the subreddit
/r/seduction17/02/18 01:41 AM
1

Basic EV calculation
/r/seduction14/02/18 09:08 AM
1

LOL
/r/seduction14/02/18 06:09 AM
1

Don’t judge yourself based on people around you. Judge yourself based on what you know is right.
/r/seduction13/02/18 06:52 PM
1

The 2nd paragraph in particular makes me feel like you’ve got some major confidence issues man. The bartenders are just doing their job, don’t overthink things. People aren’t judging you as a bad person immediately, their snide remarks are more jokey than malicious. The sooner you get out of your head you should be G. The trick is to assume everyone likes you.
/r/seduction13/02/18 09:02 AM
3

The fact you’re doing any of this puts you so far above the competition that it doesn’t even matter if you aren’t seeing immediate results. Keep doing what you’re doing man
/r/seduction13/02/18 08:58 AM
1

Nice dude
/r/seduction13/02/18 08:24 AM
1

Firstly, As a boy at an all boys school don’t let it worry you that you haven’t got much experience with girls. You’re in the vast majority. Secondly, to talk to girls in your position you need to understand how social groups work. Be friends with one girl, you then have access to ALL the girls in her friends group. In high school one friend groups of boys hang out with one other friend groups of girls. Make friends with guys who are friends with these girl groups. Then you get invited to their …
/r/seduction13/02/18 04:14 AM
1

Simple as this: if you want to ask her out do it.
/r/seduction13/02/18 03:11 AM
2

This should be in the sidebar
/r/seduction13/02/18 03:08 AM
1

You should’ve asked when you met the girl. Now you’re in limbo wondering what to do, when you wouldn’t even be in this predicament if you had have stepped up to begin with. Btw asking immediately shows way more confidence which goes to your character as a “confident, independent man”
/r/seduction13/02/18 01:39 AM
2

the words that go through your head as you think
/r/seduction13/02/18 01:32 AM
1

Can you please share some initial openers that are effective in "breaking the ice". Ones that are effective at getting to the "heart" of what a person is about.
/r/seduction20/10/17 06:59 AM
3

It's not hard to make up something to invite people to. Yo let's hang out at a X bar/get lunch on X day.
/r/seduction20/10/17 06:56 AM
3

If you don't have time for hobbies because of the wife and kids I suggest getting knowledge and opinions on current affairs to seem "interesting". Pretty much just reading the news and then reading analysts views on the flow on effects. All the people I've come into contact with that have struck me as interesting have the same basic social charisma techniques in common: they have an opinion and they have the confidence to voice it and stand by it when scrutinised. People like others who have opi…
/r/seduction20/10/17 06:53 AM
1

Wow what a revolutionary opinion you have. Thanks for sharing Marx.
/r/PussyPassDenied13/04/17 12:38 PM
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Don't think about it as 'I'm going to talk to this girl to make her like me' think about it as 'I'm going to talk to this person just cause why not?'
/r/seduction05/02/17 04:14 AM
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