Grigthefirst Archive

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2	Almost never close the same night. What am I missing? I now think about it as just limiting belief, that actually holded me back. When you have some idea about minimum time, you will subconsciously aim to that. And reality is different and it needs to be proven. IMO as a person with still limited experience, to me it's better to ping and escalate early and always to to close (aways invite). If situation is not yet developed, it's still better to make a move and have some record of being bold in upfront with particular girl, she will respect it. Als…	/r/seduction	20/06/26 08:00 AM
1	ED problems with a new girl. I mean go slow during sex:)	/r/seduction	11/06/26 10:44 AM
1	ED problems with a new girl. It can be fear, disgust or fantasy that disconnect you from the moment. Maybe try to investigate what is that happens in your head thapulls you from reality Also, you can just drop the idea that you necessary need an orgasm at all, so you can just enjoy the process without thinking about the goal And also, maybe you should just go slower and avoid fast movements completely. Maybe wrong here, but hope this helps	/r/seduction	10/06/26 07:35 PM
1	has anyone figured out how to reduce flakes during daygame ? One option is actually to reduce initial approach time/excitement if you can't go for pull/instadate As it will be easier to connect with experience later (avoid buyer remorse)	/r/seduction	06/05/26 10:50 AM
2	Need RSD old videos from YouTube Try rutracker.org	/r/seduction	16/04/26 09:23 PM
7	I really want 8s and 9s but I only can attract 5s and 6s Just go with ones you have boner for, man, and forget about numbers! Also, try cold approach instead of apps, if not already, it will eventually bump level of girls you meet a lot	/r/seduction	31/03/26 10:48 AM
1	When a woman quietly ghosts you never press harder. Recognize it and follow suit. It's ego protection, so I'm kinda trying to switch it to the opposite. There is nothing wrong in burning the opportunity to the ground, especially if you do it smart and respectfully. Switch from text to call, cool down but pursue etc. Otherwise it's the same play to not lose logic that we try to avoid during approach. It's easy to reach out, it's only hard for ego, but ego should be defined by my actions (I did play to win, I did a call when I had high rejection chances). So no reason to play i…	/r/seduction	23/03/26 10:12 AM
0	Anyone else thinks how being honest with women tends to backfire? Here's my take on this: You don't expect a girl to tell you at any moment of the date that she will fuck you tonight. And the actual reason is that she has the full right to change her heart at any moment, even at the last minute. The same goes for your plans for your relationship. You never ever know. You can plan ltr but be disappointed with sex or her after sex behavior,or you can deny yourself any future plans but actually fall in love and commit after a while. So it's always a gamble for yo…	/r/seduction	04/03/26 03:10 PM
3	Role Reversal Exercise - Seeing it from their point of view Ok, do women want sex or not? If they do, let's circle back to the initial comment about false assumption. My point was it's not fair to compare onlyfans behavior over money transaction (where you subscribed to free models and they try to upsell you with product you don't want, so it makes you feel like they're manipulative) and actual dating behavior, where both parties want sex and expect it to be good (despite previous experience, as you stated multiple times above). But even then, if the mar…	/r/seduction	28/02/26 06:33 PM
0	Role Reversal Exercise - Seeing it from their point of view I think it's just not useful to project such polls to personal experience and frame, it will just make your game worse to assume that women expect you to let them down in bed. And again, there is 7b people on the planet to prove that women do sex, and it doesn't make sense to assume that all of them are so dissatisfied that they just gave up on it. I too had bad sex, but I still want it IMO it all sounds like debate about cost of the thing that will anyway happen. People have sex, both genders, …	/r/seduction	28/02/26 04:57 PM
3	Role Reversal Exercise - Seeing it from their point of view Long post based on the wrong initial assumption. Money is zero-game. During a transaction one gains it and one loses it (though there is another part of the deal, the product, and if it's good, all parties are actually happy). Sex and enjoyment from dating is different. It's a win-win activity. You don't just want sex, you also offer it for girls enjoyment. If your sex is good and you are aware of it, obviously.	/r/seduction	28/02/26 09:24 AM
1	Cracking the code on the Logistics Wall after getting the number What frame are you holding exactly?	/r/seduction	26/02/26 11:43 AM
2	She asked me out but already had plans after, would you still go? I'd reschedule, but without giving her the real reason why, so it doesn't look butthurt If you don't like the proposal, why do it? Just because she asked? No big deal, and if she is really interested, more chances that she will agree on your terms if you do it politely. The thing is imo you need to lead, otherwise it's her tempo from the start, and it will probably be too slow	/r/seduction	13/01/26 10:17 AM
5	Has anyone ever ended a good relationship to pursue an unlived single chapter? Don't ask, just do, we're all on our own paths and there is no one who can give you directions. You'll be fine either way, and so she will. Own your life. The more you ask, the more complicated it gets, and more reasons to have a victim mentality later. Do it your way man!	/r/seduction	07/01/26 09:07 AM
2	How to actually bring em home You can call it faking, or you call being nice faking, it's just an interpretation. You have your intentions with a girl clear to you, right? Then you can try to show it with different rhythm and style. Be implicit or explicit, be forward or laid back, it's your dance! But just for learning it's good to try to move differently, so you know how it feels. You did your implicit nice moves. Try bold ones just to see how it feels, not for results. Then you'll have freedom to choose from spectrum	/r/seduction	21/12/25 02:44 PM
5	How to actually bring em home Not sure that I'm experienced enough to give any advice, but as with everything we learn, it's worth trying extremes to know how to dial back, so maybe try to be almost explicit with your intentions, be as fuckboy as you can imagine. Probably won't work out, but you will have two extreme points to calibrate between instead of one	/r/seduction	21/12/25 12:50 PM
5	I hit on the same girl twice in same area You can try to just own it. You have good intentions (sex is great thing, girls love sex, you love it to, be positive!), not trying to scam or ask for value. If your sexuality makes you attracted to a lot of girls - great, you have high libido! You are direct with your intentions, so don't treat yourself as creep. You can even flip it by visiting this area with different female friends or dates. So you look like a guy who is not only hitting on girls, but also successful with it. And then this r…	/r/seduction	17/11/25 09:14 AM
1	There was tension. I didn’t kiss her. Did I mess it up or play it right? Sex is wild and it's exactly why humans are still there.It doesn't follow any rules and that is by design. Morals on the other hand is a control tool. So don't worry about it and go by heart. If you didn't kiss her, that's just the way it worked for both of you on a subconscious level. It's just beautiful part of your life, keep positive attitude man	/r/seduction	13/06/25 03:27 PM
1	20 min interaction but no text back! It happens, just enjoy your actions (as it's actions that contribute to your self esteem, not reactions) and continue. Don't spend your time and emotions on thinking why or pushing through initial text ignore, instead spend it on approach (or your life)	/r/seduction	01/05/25 07:09 AM
1	20 min interaction but no text back! Hey! They're probably a lot of things you can improve and I don't know much, but here's a small suggestion : try discussing future meeting in person during approach. The more concrete - the better, just suggest coffee together and decide on time, then ask for the number. Less numbers closes probably, but also less futile expectations, and some solid numbers as result	/r/seduction	30/04/25 07:26 PM