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| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022You sneak in here each week. I also have some trauma history, which has made sex difficult for me. For years, I couldn’t cum from sex, and constantly found myself turning to pornography and fantasy. I think the running and weight training is helpful for you because it helps ground you to your physical body. FWIW I recently reread the sex portion of NMMNG and found it helpful, in particular, the mindful masterbation activity to connect me with my own body and present. I realize more and more how … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/22 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022<Not pushing hard enough. Took some advice autistically, rarely if ever lifted to failure. Also ego, afraid of looking weak or needing a spot. Trying something new: all working sets are 8-10reps until failure. Then drop ~10% weight, more 8-10rep sets until failure. Then that movement is complete. This may not be the best long-term strategy, but it will help me short-term to train myself to give 100%.> FWIW I prioritize this above all else. Beside lighter weight warmu-ups I’m taking each as close… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/01/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022Your past few OYS feel kind of vague and stagnant to me. I’m not sure if a lot is just not happening for you, or perhaps if you are minimizing interactions and details. you mentioned some heightened interaction with your wife that exposed her claws coming out to you, in a pst OYS but it wasn’t specific enough to elicit direct feedback. Also the 17% body fat what are you doing there? Are you still aiming for 10-12% Bf and bulk/cut cycles? What is your commitment to yourself as far as goals/timeli… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/01/22 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022The last fight (probably most the fights we have) over some of the dumbest shit imaginable so I’m not engaging in them. I will acknowledge her feelings, and to some extent I think offer lifelines; however, I don’t want to be the monkey banging my cymbals as loud as possible any longer. At this point, the pattern as I see it is that my wife withdraws and weaponizes sex expecting me to apologize. I don’t really want to play that game so I’m just trying to find things to occupy my time, figure me o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/01/22 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022I feel like I’ve been stuck on this as well. There were several weeks were I made comments similar to the above, and at the time and believed them to be true and things were trending better. However, I eventually got a comment to the effect “I only do this for you, I don’t need this at all.” I wasn’t sure at the time it wasn’t true so I went about separating myself to try and figure it out and make sure it wasn’t just needy behavior on my part. I feel like my wife misses me, but at the same time… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/22 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022OYS 1/11/2022 Age: 34 Body weight: 206 Body Fat percentage: ~15% Married 9 years together 14, children Mission: searching currently reading UM for more guidance here. Physical: Trapbar Deadlift 365x9 BP 240x8 OP 145x4 Squat 305x10 Read about 30 pages of UM and decided to go back and reread large sections of NMMNG. Realized that far more dissociated from myself more than I realized. Completed some exercises to address this and found them to be helpful. Still abstaining from pornography it has bee… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/22 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 04, 2022It still sounds like a large portion of this in your mind is about Fixing the people around you whether it be your wife or your family. As hard as it is, you need to work towards letting go and focusing more on yourself. People are just going to be people so let them. Sounds like you are working towards boundary setting which is good. However the comment “you emotionally bully everyone around you, I will no longer tolerate this” could just be the later half as the former part appears to be askin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/01/22 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 04, 2022OYS 1/4/2022 Age: 34 Body weight: 206 Body Fat percentage: ~15% Married 9 years together 14, children Mission: searching currently reading UM for more guidance here. Physical: Trapbar Deadlift 365x9 BP 245x6 OP 145x4 Squat 315x6 Been Bulking almost 5 months now. At the end of this month or mid-feb plan to start cutting weight. Pleased with results in this area. Will try to maintain strength while cutting. Feel like things have been going well in this area and have been pleased with the results. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/01/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021No, After some introspection I’m still just letting fear run me. I have it and WOTSM but haven’t touched either for some fear that either might take me one of two extremes. I keep pushing myself towards small goals and addressing fears that way with thought that if I just do enough that I can kind of bootstrap myself into what it is I want. I think all this action while better than years of my inaction might just be motivated by fear of going back to what I was before as well. I will put it at t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/12/21 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021Role model the behavior yourself that want to see. Additionally, someone had mentioned a system I like where instead of taking things away for a specific duration, you take away things for undesirable behavior, then allow them to earn it back for desirable behavior. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/12/21 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021Sounds like some ongoing progress since I’ve last spied your OYS a while ago. Not sure if you are following a particular diet, but I wouldn’t fear carbs if you are hitting protein/fat requirements particularly on training days. < I’ve reached a plateau in my motivation. I have ton of shit going on logistically this past week and into this week but the truth is that is not why I am spinning my wheels the last several days. I’ve determined that my mission work and my focus on my purpose is lacking… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/12/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021< u/ghostCanape recommended switching from SrongLifts to Starting Strength or GZCLP. I have looked at GZCLP and it looks convincing, but, given my lack of knowledge, so does StrongLifts. Does anyone else have any knowledge/experience re the relative merits of the 2 programs (or indeed other programs)?> There looks to be a theme across your OYS where you are looking for hand holding and someone be your authority or tell you what to do. After all, you can’t fail if your just following someone else… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021Truth be told I have some idea of what I want, but I’m just scared and feel I lack the frame to be able to confidently stand in what I want or who I am, which segways into the 2nd part. I’ve cared/care for far too long what long how other people will receive me. I want to do it so who gives a fuck. If I try to measure being attractive by other peoples standards I’ll just be where I’ve always been. I didn’t want to include that in my OYS and felt the need to hide it, which meant I needed to own i… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/12/21 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021OYS 12/20/2021 33 year old, married with kids 6’2’’ 206 lbs 15% body fat Recent lifts: Bench Press 245 x 6 Trapbar deadlift 345 x 11 Squat 295 x 8 Overhead press 135 x 7 Since I have last posted I have been continuing to work. I have spent the past 4+ months bulking and have been hitting new PRs pretty consistently. I think I am going to continue to bulk a little bit longer, as long I can keep the weight/reps hitting new PRs. I have some worries about shifting to cutting after my first bulk, alo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/12/21 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021My wife walked back the ring thing, but I agree. Your tactic to just nuke shitty behavior, which I have taken to basically mean shut it down and GTFO have been most helpful. The bad behavior just seems to keep escalating and getting worse though with higher highs and lower lows. Tried to engage some assertive boundary setting conversation tonight and it just is a losing battle for me. Anything that can be twisted out of context is. It feels like I’m not going to get anywhere with that approach b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/21 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021Yeah, STFU has helped me to realize how little things that I used to make about myself are actually about me. However, it could just be that my wife is tired one day or stressed about something else, what she will remember for days was that she was upset at me and that it was my fault. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/21 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021Yeah, I feel lost with a lot of this stuff. I feel like the box having me move the box was just some sort of failed comfort test, because she was desperately trying to get me to move it for her, and not even being shitty about, but lost her mind after I declined, as if signaled some lost control over me. A few weeks ago she asked me do some small task for before we were intimate. I didn’t want to do it either. The old me would have jumped through hoops just to try and secure sex, but I really di… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/21 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021My wife has done it once before. My wife had them off today, and I asked her what her intent was and she totally walked it back that her “fingers hurt.” I’m not really sure if I like her. At times things are really good, then other times it days long shit shows like above. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/21 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021OYS #28 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 3 kids under 10. 6’2” 198 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified) Per some good feedback, taking a week off and will assess how my back feels next week. Hopefully, able to lift again at that time and continue with bulk through dec. Calories reduces to maintenance currently and walking 10,000 steps. Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/10/21 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021“ I kept having to remind myself to trust the process. I got there, and the scale seems to be moving in the right direction again, but this made me realize that I have a lot of my self-worth wrapped up in the success I've had with my weight loss goals. I've traded defining myself by my wife's attraction for a number on a scale and bf%.” Hey,I also used to be really fat and can relate to this. I would argue it is not a good thing because the validation that comes with it can’t last forever. You c… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/10/21 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021< I'm here to be a better man. Part of it is, I would like to know whether I'm at risk for STD's. I suppose you're right, another part is hamster/ego. It doesn't matter to my growth, but I really am against the idea of fucking her if she's had another dick lately.> Better man, is just a vague platitude. What does “better man” actually look like to you? Also, I doubt STDs are what are really motivating the wall of text hamstring above, perhaps own that if to nobody at least yourself. If you are r… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/21 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 12, 2021OYS #27 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 3 kids under 10. 6’2” 198.4 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified) AMRAPS from this week BP-220x7 Squat 285x7 Trapbar deadlift 330x11 Overhead Press 135x2 BW+20lb weighted pull-upsx12 Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adventure and take risks. Provide leadership to tho… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/10/21 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 05, 2021I struggle with this myself. Can you elaborate on what more proactive boundary enforcement looks like or is there an article you would recommend? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/10/21 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 05, 2021“ I have four projects that are at about 95% completion. One or two tasks needs to be completed with each one of these, and then I can pull the trigger and complete these projects. These are not difficult tasks, but these tasks have been ignored and pushed aside for the past two or three weeks. There is no simpler goal than to just finish these items.” So what is the plan here then? What steps are you taking to hold yourself accountable? What would setting a timeline for yourself in regards To t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 05, 2021OYS #27 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 3 kids under 10. 6’2” 197 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified) AMRAPS from this week BP-210x12 Squat 255x11 Trapbar deadlift 310x11 Overhead Press 125x5 BW+20lb weighted pull-upsx14 Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adventure and take risks. Provide leadership to tho… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/10/21 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 28, 2021Yeah, wendlars Big but boring is meant to help build strength and work towards hypertrophy. There is nothing wrong with machines in my mind, but compound movements will accomplish more for your given unit of time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/10/21 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 28, 2021With time being as precious to you as you describe it makes sense to Map out a plan to get the equipment you need for compound lifts, as they will serve you better overall given time constraints. The initial time investment will pay dividends in time conservation for you in the future. Once you have the equipment for the big lifts you could run some straight sets with intensity techniques like myoreps or drop sets to help conserve time as well. A good power rack, Olympic barbell, bench, and some… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/21 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 28, 2021Hold yourself accountable in OYS then? Make a commitment to yourself with an objective measurable timeline. Will go camping/hiking x times over the next x weeks? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/09/21 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 21, 2021Yeah, you are right when I get past the emotional response I was on target and just need to continue to affirm that for myself. Strength is what I want and I feel like I’m growing towards it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/09/21 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 21, 2021First and foremost. “ . I also feel like crying all the time, but glory be that I have not cried in front of her. I also cut the conversations short when she became hostile, or insulted me. However, I should not be fucking victim puking in the first place. The last week I have been wandering around in a haze of light depression, with thoughts of suicide and true defeat creeping in.” If you feel like you may be clinically depressed meet with your medical provider or mental health professional. Wi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/09/21 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 21, 2021“ I had to be a success at this, other guys did it so I should be able to as well. Why?” So you have been manipulating yourself. Perhaps a non-binary mental model with outcomes outside of success or failure would benefit you, as the truth is likely not that easy. You came here owned your shit, got in shape, worked on becoming a better leader, and whatever else you needed to do. It comes to a point based on what you want and what you’ve done hopefully where you can be at peace with the whatever o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 21, 2021OYS #27 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 3 kids under 10. 6’2” 195 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified) AMRAPS from this week BP-215x7 Squat 275-x8 Trapbar deadlift 325x11Overhead Press 130x5 BW+20lb weighted pull-upsx13 Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adventure and take risks. Provide leadership to those… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/09/21 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 07, 2021Reborn from the ashes. You might spell it out for him like you did for me as it has been helpful granted I still have a long way ahead of me. To me it has felt like a step beyond WISNIFG tools and setting hardcore boundaries around whatever behaviors you don’t want. I think you spelled it out as nuking shitty/disrespectful behavior and subsequent tertiary behaviors related to this. I don’t feel like there is a great guide for this and your and W&S feedback helped to nudge me in what might finall… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/21 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 14, 2021Yes, dunk a basketball on a 10 ft rim. What I’ve read is strength from deadlift/squats will help the most with this with this so it pairs nicely with currently goals to increase strength in general. In particular squat 1.5xBW and deadlift 2xBW is recommended. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/21 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 14, 2021OYS #26 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 3 kids under 10. 6’2” 194 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified) AMRAPS from this week BP-205x8 Squat 245x13 Trapbar deadlift 300x13 Overhead Press 120x8 BW+20lb weighted pull-upsx12 Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adventure and take risks. Provide leadership to thos… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/21 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 31, 2021It sounds like you have pretty good insight to what it is going on. My mom used me as her emotional tampon during childhood and it isn’t great and can foster some codependent behavior, but you can be there to continue to role model other behaviors and share other possible mental models to help him as he grows. Help him to have diverse skills and tools so that he can find out what works for him. I think this is a scenario were over time actions (your actions) speak volumes over words (her words).… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/08/21 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021Thanks, upper body lifts have stalled and I’m eking out small gains on lower body lifts. Overall, considering I’ve been dropping weight while doing this I’m pretty happy. I’m pushing myself to try to find how many sets taken to failure I can recover from between when I lift next now. I’m planning to start a maintenance period with diet soon and then go to a small surplus with the goal of enhancing the rate in which I can add muscle. I am a little hesitant at the thought of start long to put weig… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021Thank you. You have called me on my bullshit in the past and it has been helpful. A few months ago the idea of doing everything I’ve done so far and still having a long ways to go would have been defeating; however, now I realize there will always be challenges and things I need to do, which is a good thing. On to the harder part next. I do need to stop putting up with shit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/08/21 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021I have been running it with the same lift as the main lift so bench press>bench press, squat>squat, etc… No, I am not suggesting upping the weight on a percentage basis, but instead focus on time under tension and going to closer to failure on earlier sets with lighter weights. My understanding is that total sets taken closer to failure will drive hypertrophy. So if you are breezing through the lighter work and only feeling your approaching failure close to the last set you might only maybe gett… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021< A theme I'm noticing is that my workouts are always hard. By the last set, I'm struggling to hit my reps. But I never feel sore the next day. This makes me worry that I'm not working hard enough despite often failing on the last set. 5-3-1 doesn't give you a lot of reps at heavy weights. Do people not get sore from higher reps at lower weights?> Are you doing the 50% weights afterwards for 5 sets? I run these back to back with a rest period of 60 seconds between sets with slow eccentric moveme… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/08/21 02:43 PM |
| 10 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021OYS #25 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 185.6 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB (self-modified recently) AMRAPS from this week BP-230x3 Squat 255x6 Trapbar deadlift 300x12 Overhead Press 130x4 BW+20lb weighted pull-upsx12 Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% (June 23, 2021@193lbs). Navy method 9% waist-31.5 inches Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/08/21 02:19 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021< So to all those OYSing and on the path now, get out there and start fucking up. Report back. Give em hell boys.> I promise to keep fucking up. Thanks for your feedback and nudges in only my brief time here. I’m doing better with staying in the present. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/21 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021< Marriage/Frame: Annoyed with my wife, if anything. Sex is not really on my mind outside of initiating. Getting fed up with arranging dates, time alone, and kino, etc. just to have an enjoyable hour or two or intimacy here and there with no effort on her part. She is always “too tired” or “touched out.” Feeling like I am the only one bringing energy to the relationship in this way. Why does that matter? Because I don’t want to be with someone who is not intrinsically attracted to me to a degree… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021OYS #24 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 190 lbs Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% (June 23, 2021) Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adventure and take risks. Provide leadership to those whom I choose to share my gifts with … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021I can relate to a lot to personal feelings of guilt I have burdened myself with for many years. However, guilt is not absolution. For me it was just a tool for every women in my life to manipulate me because why not if it is effective. It helped to close the door by personal owning feelings and thoughts I had in regards to the experience instead trying to avoid it by playing Sisyphus pushing the boulder up the hill for all eternity in some circumstantial way to deal with my own feelings. In typi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021You have really knuckled down it looks like over the past 2 weeks dropping 10lbs in that time. Good work. < I try to praise that. Not sure if it comes across as bullshit.>. For me I’m exploring this area as well, so I just kind of see what personally feels authentic vs LARPing type behavior to myself and continue with the stuff I like. This whole experience has sort of been an exploration of self. I try to mindful of the fact that the outcome or how something is received does not mean something … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021All of this is good. Meeting with a dermatologist will hopefully help uncover what is going on. Very possible an irritant recently added over the past several months. I don’t know if he recently started a pre workout supplement that includes beta-alanine but it can cause a lot the symptoms he is describing, but as you pointed out a lot of things can. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/21 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021OYS #23 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 189 lbs AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 205x7 Squat- 230x14 Trapbar Deadlift 285x14 OHP 115x5 Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% (June 23, 2021) Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my authentic self. Adv… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/21 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021I could do better with sleep and limiting caffeine intake. Did so over the past few days and have felt/slept better. I have been dieting a long while now and past maintenance periods I have seen my energy really boost. Looking forward to it hopefully helping with greater gains as well in lifts. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/07/21 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021FWIW, I’ve dealt with this issue myself recently. After taking rightfully deserved shit on these forums about putting up with bad behaviors and lack of boundaries this is one area where I decided to place one. I had concerns interactions like you described were teaching my daughter to split me and my wife against one another. The bigger issue though for me was one of respect. I spoke with my wife and my resolution was if she had issues with my disciplinary actions to address them with me private… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021OYS #22 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 192 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 215x6 Squat- 235x10 Trapbar Deadlift 290x11 OHP 115x8 Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% (June 23, 2021) Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 06, 2021<Ah. We misunderstood each other. What I meant was: Do you think SHE ALSO has some level of fear and issues with vulnerability holding HER back?> Yes, There had been comments over the past several months, but it blew up 2 weeks ago where my wife was very overt. Talking about my change and some number of her friends talking about my physical changes, wanting to check my phone, asking why I don’t say I love you enough. I think fear and vulnerability our issues we both have. I’m hoping that I can r… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/07/21 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 06, 2021<Tell me your thoughts on the prize mentality. What is it. Why work toward it. And what's it do for you.> For me the prize mentality is strength and being at peace with myself. I know it is typically nice guy stuff, but I have spent so long handicapping and score boarding myself in the negatives that I almost feel like I have to prove my worth to everyone else just to exist. I want to be my authentic self and peace at with it. It means freedom from my own self-imposed cage and just naturally kno… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/21 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 06, 2021OYS #21 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 193 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 205x5 Squat- 220x15 Trapbar Deadlift 260x13 OHP 110x9 Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover my … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/07/21 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021OYS #20 Me: 34 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 193 lbs (+2 lbs recently) (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 225x4 Squat- 240x10 Trapbar Deadlift 270x10 OHP 120x5 Body Fat percentage picture method 12.5% Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explor… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/07/21 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 22, 2021< I’m somewhat unhappy with my waist now. I’m sure this is at least partially lifter’s body dysmorphia, but I want to lose an inch or two off my waist to get a more pronounced v-taper. Will start reducing calories on non-lifting days to lose a few pounds and get myself closer to 175. Shitty genetics has assured me a very slim frame and fat that gets deposited only around my lower stomach, thighs and neck. Even a few pounds makes a difference given this concentration.> Do you do lat pull downs or… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/06/21 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Good job with weight loss, we have some similarities between weight loss and wendlars. I wanted to point out the following though: “Missed a run and drank too much, but got my lifts in.” There is a theme running between your OYSs over the past few weeks where similar verbage keeps coming up. Alcohol impairs MTOR (anabolic pathways) and has 7 calories/gram, which are both working against your goals, but Based on the language you are using in your OYS it sounds like you know that there possibly so… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/06/21 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Yeah, While not looking for it will just appreciate the praise then. Since I have started gaming the wife again I’ve dipped back into playful condescension, which I’m getting a feel for again. Can actually be pretty fun sometimes. I think it is along the lines of what your describing. It is weird of how it clicks but I can absolutely not pull off A&A. Had to shift away from unattractive “dad jokes.” Didn’t realize how much people expect congruence with things like that until you’ve been really f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/06/21 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Yes I really do. I’ve accepted too much crap from other people most of my life. But I guess the “why” is less important than what I do about it now. I have always had some boundary markers they were just 1,000s of meters out for things like cheating, physical abuse, drug use, child abuse. I few months ago I started drawing them in some where I was no longer going to accept emasculating comments and being spoken down to, or my wife contradicting me in front of the kids allowing our daughter to sp… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021OYS #19 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 191 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 205x9 Squat- 215x9 Trapbar Deadlift 250x13 OHP 105x10 Body Fat percentage Navy 12% Strongur 13.1% Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life. Continual growth. Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to. To gather wisdom. To explore and discover … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 12:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021<I think I can now start to shape myself anew but I’m finding it’s tricky because without all my usual Mental models for dealing with stuff I’m not actually sure what boundaries and behaviours are acceptable for particular situations at home. Am I acting reasonable was her behaviour acceptable? I had a situation this weekend where I wasn’t sure if I was acting reasonably or overreacting…I asked myself if I would tolerate this behaviour from a work colleague. I decided I wouldn’t so I shouldn’t a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/06/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021Yeah, I have viewed failure in the binary sense. Reframing failure as an opportunity for growth would be a good thing for me. Along viewing it as a process instead of an outcome. This is evident in my taking challenges and setting goals that I feel like are easily achievable for me instead of taking the risk of not meeting said goals and coming up short. Throughout my childhood and into my marriage I have been left feeling like my none of my successes were good enough, while failure was met with… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/21 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021<Or, you subconsciously know that lessons and growth abound in those situations and even though your subconscious is screaming for you to see that pattern, you ignore it for the easier mental road.> change is always more difficult than embracing the status quo even when it doesn’t make you happy. Perhaps there still some allure to be drawn back into her frame and the same cycles over and over again. Is that the implication? < This is more mental contextualization but I found this the other day a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/21 02:44 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021< And this is the issue. Making 50k a year is "normal". Having starfish sex once a week is "normal". Being overweight is "normal". I don't hold myself to a standard of normal in other aspects of my life anymore, so I am having a bit of an internal struggle on this topic. The guy in his late 50s I talked to keeps his levels at 1000. I've never felt what that's like.> I can understand this. TRT would be more consistent. If you cycle on steroids you might feel better when on them, which might only … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/06/21 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021< I spoke to a guy who is in great shape and in his late 50s. He said he got on TRT 7 years ago and never looked back. He has a guy and gets T cheap and could hook me up. I told him I was interested but have not really committed. He tells me I could do a 12 week cycle without any long-term issues just to see how it feels. Told me he has friends that do one cycle a year, 12 or 18 weeks, just to maintain good muscle mass and some leanness. I had previously read that once you go on gear, you have t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/06/21 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021OYS #18 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 191 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 220x4 Squat- 230x8 Trapbar Deadlift 270x10 OHP 115x7 Body Fat percentage Navy 12% Strongur 13.1% Vision: Unfuck myself Strength on all areas of my life Continual growth Inner peace and peace to those I chose to provide it to To gather wisdom To explore and discover my au… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/06/21 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 01, 2021All the beta shit I was doing doubling down on a failed strategy was related to lack of strength or mentality of me being the prize. It is essentially too much push as well then. Why accept my wife’s gifts which requires vulnerability when I can just plowhorse and try to do everything myself, further devaluing myself as the prize. Despite not wanting scorekeeping it totally follows the scorekeeping approach, whereby not accepting others gifts I’m acknowledging some concerns related to point syst… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/21 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 01, 2021OYS #17 Bit briefer this week as I am away from home on vacation. Not tracking nutrition for the first time in over a year, but diet has remained pretty tight. Mostly eggs for breakfast, lean meats/fruit for lunch and allowing myself more flexibility at dinner to eat what I like. Will be interesting to see the results when I get home. It also has been helped to see the work I’ve put in with my nutrition/lifting. I’m while not spectacular I stand out in the sea of dad bods and catch stray/prolong… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/21 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 01, 2021What are the better/best options? I have been having some success recently with the withdrawing time and attention method since I can finally sit with the anxiety and be all right. Was pondering this last week quite a bit if there isn’t a better way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/06/21 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 25, 2021It’s amazing that the even using fewer words the few I still manage suck. Curious as to your thoughts but the MMSLP with the prisoner’s dilemma or rewarding behaviors. The book recommends against freezing out your partner I feel like that is all that has been effective. Even to the point without verbalizing but I almost have to do autistically to have success. I have also heard the withhold affection, time, and attention piece as well. It is hard to want to game my wife or any that if she is bei… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 25, 2021I’m trying to imagine what job would have SSRIs be an issue for employment. Even sedating medications (benzodiazepines, antipsychotics, sedatives) and stimulants can usually be okay if you have your provider write a letter for you. Also depending on how your cycling Testosterone that can sometimes lead to downswings, depression, and other issues when people go off cycle. Antidepressants can really be helpful for some individuals you might just meet with someone and see what your options are. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/05/21 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 25, 2021what are things you are doing or want to do? Rock climbing, kayaking, scenic railway ride, visit historic landmarks/national parks, start sports activities, start a poker club night with friends, go shooting, do an escape room, try new restaurants/dive bars? The list is only as short as your imagination. Maybe 90% of them suck, but the other 10% are great and you learn more about yourself and what it is you want or need that makes you feel alive. The more risks you take outside the bedroom perha… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/05/21 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 25, 2021OYS #16 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 193.3 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 205x8 Squat- 215x9 Trapbar Deadlift 255x11 OHP 110x8 These past few weeks I have gotten some really good feedback that I think have helped to me to move forward. I have been thinking about some of my own values and what it is I personally want and it is things like str… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/05/21 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Accidentally Tripping on the Nuke: Next Steps?Why wouldn’t you just say you went out and tried to meet people? Also is your showering that suspicious? | /r/askMRP | 20/05/21 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021When you say strength do you mean not emotional reactive? Do you mean frame? My daughter fell down the other day pretty hard . She was crying my wife was freaking out. I pick her up and hold her calmly and say something like “it’s never fun getting hurt.” I feel like that is empathetic from a place of strength and the situation was fine, afterwards. As a construct how would define strength? What does it look like to you? Been thinking about you wrote above. Is empathy only a problem when not con… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021< Correct. Unplugging her into a world where you have no idea what you're doing is a recipe for disaster. Now...you could take the rest of your life to master yourself. But then remember there's always the 1000ft rope buffer between what you've done and where you're taking her too. So at some point in between forever and now, knowing everything and knowing nothing, you'll have to choose to make that leap.> Haha I can attest to this, because after multiple weeks of failing at it. I think this is … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021< Finally, I see a lot of people on here that mistake shit tests for comfort tests. I used to do it too. The reason I made this mistake is ego. You want your wife to seek comfort from you, and you want to provide it. It’s the only thing you know how to do when you are a beta bux. Rub her feet, do dishes, run after her like a lapdog. Comforting, right? And you’re so good at that. Now that I’m actually getting comfort tests, I want to tell myself and the rookies on here that comfort tests are usua… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021OYS #15 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 194.2 lbs (starting weight 260+ in May 2020) AMRAPs this week with Wendler's 5-3-1 BBB Bench press 195x10 Squat- 205x10 Trapbar Deadlift 240x15 OHP 100x7 I'll start by owning the fact that I have some ego invested in my posting on here. It struck me after seeing in multiple comments in ASKMRP "don't be like spark" as if my life is some cautionary tale. The reality h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/21 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021I don’t wonder if I had been doing this: < At least I spent a long time mistaking shitty, disrespectful, manipulative behaviour for shit tests and comfort tests. > I’m trying more boundaries for bad behavior you highlighted, because I finally think mentally I might be able to hold off from the feelings of guilt/abandonment I had before to remove attention and affection. I also am going to start removing affection, attention, and time with sexual rejections as well. I’m just going to go elsewhere… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021I have put more of an emphasis on lifting and dieting, in part because from what everyone says they are weighted to yield the best results, and also because they are personally easier to me than the mental stuff. I can look at a scale and see my weight go down and see the numbers on my lifts go up over time, versus the mental piece where I just determine what it is a want and deal with the consequences good or bad. I also noticed I get treated a lot different from women since losing weight and a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/05/21 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021<Galvanize frame (0%) Produce abundance (30%?) The Game 70%> Just curious but what are the measurable data for galvanize frame or produce abundance? Also I like the game, run the 5 lies game on your wife. Be sure to make it a bet. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/21 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021That makes sense overshoot until you find the natural zero. Swinging back in forth each time more true to your authentic self and congruent | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/05/21 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021Thanks this is helpful and appreciate the feedback. I am trying to avoid this along with my ramboness. I trying to slow down and calibrate. My ongoing goal at this point is STFU, lift, read, and OYS | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/21 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021Hopefully, I mean the plan is just to be authentic to myself and do what is I want or feel is right. Am I looking at something about this wrong here? I don’t want scorekeeping either, but I also don’t want to placate emotions. I am no longer trying to tear her frame down, but just work on my own. I felt that situation went well. The alternative is I go the other way requested for no other reason than my wife requested it and possible build/harbor resentment, as a betrayal to myself. Again there … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/21 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021Traffic did not end up being bad. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/21 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021Edit- I came home the same way I went to the business. I was asked to come home a different way. Ego is a problem for me so I might have blinders here, but I feel like this right. As far as the “I took care of it” thought it would be better to let her hamster about what I did instead of ruining the magic behind the trick by talking about it. So I did provide vague details but I didn’t want to come across as validation seeking I just took care of something, which is what I wanted to do. I am tryi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/21 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021OYS #14 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 194.4 lbs Bench press 215x4 Squat 220x8 OHP 110x5 Trapbar deadlift 260x10 Continuing Wendlar’s 5-3-1 BBB. Completing first 3 weeks with top AMRAP from this period from above. Playing with the idea of rolling with faster 5-3-1 cycles in which every other period I skip the deload week. Will look at trying the BBB 3 month challenge, but want to wait until I start a lea… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/21 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021So I took some time to try and look at this. The only study I found with finasteride doesn’t indicate that it would negatively impact testosterone in any way. I can’t find any evidence that inhibition of DHT and effected free t, either (doesn’t mean it couldn’t just literally could not find anything). The biggest effects on free t are being fat (which you are not) and just age. Free t decreases more quickly with age than serum testosterone levels. Also, unless you your free t was measured with e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021Because you are both socially conditioned and biologically wired to believe the Disney fantasy. It's hard for everyone. Why do you think some dudes come on here/TRP and post about it for years on end? You probably have a few anger phases left to go through. Yeah, I thought I was past all the anger stuff, but it is still there. I can be thankful for that it helped to spur positive change within me, instead of stagnating. Thanks for all of your feedback. Picked up Unchained man and WOTSM will try … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/05/21 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021Holy flying fuck what a cluster. I think if I just gave you the advice to do the opposite of what you think is a good idea at the time, you would make more progress than you are. No seriously. There are times were I have literally thought this And the solution to this problem is...........? Look everyone thinks making a vision and a mission is so hard. But that's because they're couching their very ideas in terms of how other people would interpret them and altering them in order to best relay w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/05/21 06:36 AM |
| 2 | was it a test?<Like the guy whose wife asked for a separation and called a lawyer two weeks ago because he misjudged a shit test and acted on it before he was ready.> That would be me. Yeah, Feel free to read my post history to see the stupid shit opening your mouth does. I’ve been given the same advice STFU, read, lift, and OYS with an emphasis on STFU. | /r/askMRP | 04/05/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?Man the parallels between this is my life are fucking scary. I think we are even on the same OYS #. My wife is masterbating frequently now as Well, but my own sex drive has plummeted. Plus I have some other issues of my own. Last year I freaked the fuck about my wife doing it as well. My thoughts are now I don’t really give a shit. I’m happy she is meeting her own desires. I just want to pursue my own desires and sexual wants as well. I’ve taken the path to trying to embrace it and see if she mi… | /r/askMRP | 04/05/21 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021OYS #13 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 years Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 195 lbs Lots of good feedback last week. Blarg had presented me with a way I could provide leadership in my marriage, after botching an opening presented to my wife. The problem is I still don’t have a clear vision/mission and am LARPing/dancing monkeying my way forward at this point. I feel most comfortable with the weightlifting part of MRP because it allows me to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/21 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021< I fell into a spiritual hole where I realized that many of the things I had been obsessed with were a combination of escapism and other people's narratives and I began to feel I didn't even know what I authentically wanted anymore and what was just habit. Hence the recognition of a spiritual fellow traveller.> What helped you to answer this question? How did you escape the categorical imperatives of others or more importantly yourself? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021<I never let myself go as much as you did, so I don't have a point of reference, but I've always been impressed with dudes who crawl out of a hole as deep as that. Losing 25% of your BW is no fucking joke.> Thanks, the most interesting part to me is how different people treat you. I will be interested to see how that continues to change if I can get more muscular and leaner. I’m doing well with the physical stuff, but can continue to do better. My mental stuff and ego continues to be a glaring w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/04/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021<Sources disagreee on how much protein is ideal, anywhere from 0.8g/lb - 2.0g/lb lean mass. thefitness.wiki says to go with 1g/lb lean mass or 160g, whichever is greater. So in my case, 160g. does anyone have sources that explain the benefit of more than this? should I eat a 500kcal surplus every day, or only on lift days?> What I’ve read or seen it seems to be 1 gram/lb of lean body mass seems to pretty a safe estimate. People may be different and their are different view points from 0.7 all th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/21 05:34 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021OYS #12 Me: 33 years Wife: 33 Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 kids under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd. 6’2” 195lbs body fat percentage ~14%. I got a lot of very helpful feedback last week. My initial ego reaction was to get defensive and point of what was inaccurate instead of focusing of overall greater amount of advice I needed to hear. So to address some of those things and this goes along with DoD instead of just randomly lifting shit, which was better than not lifting at a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021So I called a lawyer just to set up a consult to try and get info see what if anything I need to do, and they are taking my info. Her assistant tells me she is running a conflict of interest takes my wife’s name and then returns to tell me they can’t help me. Can’t give me any reason why. So looks like I am completely fucked. Guess should keep reaching out to other laywers. Know I should probably just STFU about but will be hard to do. I went home at lunch and was going confront her realizing th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/04/21 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021< After considering u/grounded_spark feedback from last week, I selected keto as my diet plan for now. Went shopping with a strict keto list and picked up a food scale to watch my portions. Picked up a high-end scale for which to plop my ass on every few days and monitor my weight progress.> Focus on the process and not the weight. Ultimately CICO (calories in/calories out) Don’t ignore your weight, I would take it daily the same time each day and log it, but you are looking at the 10 day averag… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/04/21 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021OYS # 11 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 197lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 115 lbs x7 Pull-up bodyweight x12 Squat 235x5x2 215x8x4 Bench press 205x5 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 150x10. Trap bar deadlift 250x10 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG, NMMNG, and watching PFP. Mission: Unfuck myself Become the oak for my… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021< PHYSICAL: I feel like shit. Most clothes don’t fit anymore (I wear the same 2 pairs of pants that still fit, every day.) I know I’m a fat piece of shit, but up until this point I have had no motivation to do anything about it. Gyms have re-opened in my area, but my ego prevents me from going (these people are going to laugh at me). I can tell that my health is deteriorating and I know it is reaching that point of either now-or-never. I smoke…my wife quit years ago and hounds me constantly abou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021< Edit: you are early enough that lift, stfu, read still will do you well.> Thanks will commit more to this. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/04/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021Thanks that was succinct response that I needed to hear. To provide comfort I should wait for actually vulnerability on her part. This might have not been a great example of it, but I do think generally I am doing better in exiting her frame and all this stuff keeps getting notched in some attempt to put me back in place like I’ve gone out of line. Literally, every other single person sees how much I have changed outside of my wife, which I guess is unfortunately to be expected. I still give too… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/04/21 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021Tried to shower with her yesterday morning and was met with “what is it you think I want?” Based on recent past interactions I think she is looking for me ask or say please here but I said “me” almost instantly because outside the score keeping that is what I think. I was almost surprised with the quickness and authenticity of my response. She smiled I went on with my day. Later yesterday night when I got home I tried to initiate and got shot down. I was told I only care about her for sex, grant… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/04/21 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021OYS # 10 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 198lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 105 lbs x8 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 225x5 Bench press 200x5 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 150x10. Trap bar deadlift 250x10 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG, NMMNG, and watching PFP. Mission: Unfuck myself Become the oak for myself an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/04/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021< Do you think those two things were your responsibility?> Rationally no, most of my childhood my mom was a alcoholic so I made things not about me, about me. I felt I needed to do those things or have those feeling because if I didn’t who else was going to. <Did you commend them for holding their ground?> Yes, I told them I was proud of them and how they handled it. Part my identity is tied into my white knighting and I wasn’t needed. I fail in protecting or am not needed, which lead to feeling… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/04/21 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021The guy was gone by the time I came out. She had a picture of him she showed me and I was really hoping to run into him but we never saw him. I’m actually worried I would have been more reactive/confrontational and started a fight or something, which is not something to be proud of. I should be able to assert myself and use words, and wonder if this is in part why my wife did not let me know it was happening, when it was. I don’t have frame and my wife handled the situation potentially more asse… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/04/21 12:38 PM |
| 7 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021I wasn’t sure if it was just blue pill of me and for me it actually probably still is, but I like the feminine gift being something that helps us to evolve and become stronger versions of ourselves. I had been pondering this and trying to make some sense of it. I picked my wife over other women knowing that she was more challenging, but maybe ultimately what I needed to evolve and ultimately rise or fall to the challenge. I really like this mental model, but need to put in the continued work tha… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/04/21 03:04 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021OYS # 9 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 199lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 105 lbs x7 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 215x8x3 220x7 and 225x5 Bench press 190x8 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 150x10. Trap bar deadlift 250x8 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG, NMMNG, and PFP. Have been reviewing posts archive from Jack1… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/04/21 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 30, 2021Thanks for the thoughtful response. Yeah the promise keeper/light myself on fire for others holds weight for sure for most my life even my current employment is to do for others. Some of it fueled to correct my own shitty past which is absolute bullshit and selfish by me, some in a lack of ownership of myself and placing onto others, some out of concern that me taking my own wants leads everyone else to be trampled underfoot (as if others are passive), and finally some covert contract related to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/21 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 30, 2021I feel called to lead I have felt that way since last year just not completely sure what that means yet. I get a lot of shit about marriage being equal partnership from my wife because I was dumb enough to vocalize that I wanted to lead our family last year. That being said what is happening is I am being allowed to lead our family and being looked to do this, as long as I don’t vocalize it. so I do need to pay more attention to what is actually happens vs what is said, as you pointed out. Thing… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/21 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 30, 2021OYS # 8 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 200lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 105 lbs x7 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 215x8x3 220x7 and 225x5 Bench press 190x8 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 145x10. Trap bar deadlift 250x8x7 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG, NMMNG, and PFP. Have been reviewing posts archive from Jac… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/04/21 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 23, 2021<Isn’t this all your fault> Probable rhetorical, but Yes easily 100%. I think I have internalized this for the most part. I had been simultaneously not attractive (fat and lazy) and unattractive (emotional, needy, validation seeking, unsupportive) for many years. I know there is no such things as unicorns, but I do feel like I got about as close as one can to one and for several years things were great, until I fucked everything up over several years. I am trying to do right now by myself now, b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/03/21 01:16 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 23, 2021OYS # 7 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 198.6 lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 100 lbs x7 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 215x7 Bench press 190x7 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 145x10 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG, NMMNG, and PFP. Have been reviewing posts archive from Jack10ofhearts. Mission: Unfuck myself Become… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/21 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 16, 2021Insightful feedback as always. At first for me it was the shackles of guilt/shame that I would be manipulated with, then when those were less effective it was abandonment, when that was less effective or most recently it is playing wounded. I’m really working to cement what I want, but I find that this is easier to do on macro than micro level. I can sit and hamster for too long about whether I should do simple shit that makes me seem even more like an autistic fuck. I have been saying “no” more… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 16, 2021Yeah, I feel like I have been a plow horse for a good while now as well. One of my recent realizations is wanting to be a plowhorse for for myself instead of others, which has been more difficult then I imagined. Other than spending conscious energy asking yourself “is this what I want to do?” with everything, any insights/tips you have that helped you escape this trap? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/21 05:39 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 16, 2021OYS # 6 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 198.3 lbs body fat percentage ~15% Lifts OHP 90 lbs x8 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 205x7 Bench press 180x8 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 135x8 Sidebar: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP. Completed Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG and NMMNG. Have been reviewing posts archive from Jack10ofhearts. Mission: Unfuck myself Become the oak… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/21 01:20 PM |
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