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What do you do about the in-between? It’s difficult to live in the mindset of complete confidence that she wouldn’t without evidence in your face proving otherwise while knowing full well that she is capable of it. How do you conduct yourself when your gut hints that it could have happened but you have no solid proof?
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 08:50 PM
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Does the desire to change the world ever diminish for us guys? I am constantly seeing things around me that need to be reworked to get better, knowing that I can’t see it all to fruition. I keep hoping that my T will lower with age and I’ll get more chill and less angsty about it all.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/18 12:00 AM
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Does this mean in CA that you can live with someone permanently without the risk of common law marriage as long as you keep your finances separate? What if you have kids with them?
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 07:21 PM
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How do you handle a LTR that has some aggressive tendencies that her mother exhibits? There have been 3 times where she has physically hit my face/head - one playful slap for saying something "gross" around other girls that made them all giggle, two hits to the head - one time I was fucking with her and throwing rice at her or something, another was tickling her when we were climbing a tree. The first time I played it off, the second time I addressed it sternly, she has shown genuine regret ever…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 09:46 PM
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Just wanted to check instead of assuming you would be okay with it. I am sure you get a ton of pm's from guys on here. I messaged you.
/r/RPChristians13/10/17 06:51 AM
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Hey BPP, I appreciate you taking time to comb through this thread and give some responses. I was hoping you would chime in when I posted this. Do you mind if I message you and get some honest advice from you on my current situation with a woman?
/r/RPChristians11/10/17 06:30 PM
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So if you had a spiritual marriage in any of the other 45 states, wore rings, lived together, had children, called yourself married in front of others, etc. but didn't sign a legal contract, it would stay just a spiritual marriage with no implications?
/r/TheRedPill05/10/17 04:16 PM
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Yikes. The amount of things that you would never even consider when walking into such a serious commitment and the lack of education on them for the normal population is saddening. Thank you for the tips.
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 04:01 AM
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Wouldn't common law marriage come into effect in due time and you would be susceptible to the legal bounds anyways?
/r/TheRedPill05/10/17 01:53 AM
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Yeah, reflecting on the way I formulated the post, that was pretty idiotic. I wish there was a way for child support to be monitored to ensure it was actually going towards the children.
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 12:00 AM
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Reading everything. It's all helpful in getting me to process through things. Can you point me to other blogs/books to help me walk forward in my stance on modern marriage as a Christian?
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 11:58 PM
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What is spiritual marriage? Can you link me to resources on reading about that, what states it is valid in, and what the differences are from legal marriage? If that is a real option I want to look into it more and be more well-grounded in my understanding of it. Sidenote: thank you for explaining things through the eyes of a real attorney - it is providing me more hope for the future and I know that it isn't wise to live in fear of a hypothetical boogeyman that may never come.
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 10:12 PM
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Thank you for opening my eyes to that caveat. I'll definitely do that.
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 08:52 PM
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This is incredibly helpful to me. I'll look back through those sources when I get a chance. I feel stuck; I love the idea of marriage (lifelong commitment in order to build a strong family unit and better society) but I hate seeing how dangerous and flimsy it is in our current society, legally. It makes me want to find a way to make that commitment without being subject to the current unfair laws. If I could find a way to be married through the church, in the eyes of God with a church community …
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 08:50 PM
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This expressed a ton of the concerns I feel against marriage very succinctly, thank you.
/r/RPChristians04/10/17 02:39 PM
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I think the church being involved in the congregation's marriages falls under general expectations of the fellowship of the church body. I do believe there is a specific privacy to details of married couples and that they should guard those and only process through that with people they fully trust, but regardless I believe that fellowship is essential to a healthy Christian life nowadays.
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 09:09 PM
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That was helpful, thank you. Can you share more about the historical bounds of what marriage was viewed as and how it is approached now? What is a good way for me to approach the father's of the girls that I pursue with that knowledge but in the current cultural climate of my church where that "asking" requirement prevails?
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 09:02 PM
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As inclined as I am to love this thought process because it simplifies it so much, I know it's not that simple. I do believe that the families are involved, especially in giving their blessing, and I do believe the local church should be involved as witnesses in the moment and afterwards to encourage the two of you, support the two of you, and help hold the two of you accountable. What are your thoughts on those things?
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 02:34 PM
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What are the main things about him that make you respect him and want to serve him? How did you convert so wholeheartedly to Catholicism so quickly?
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 02:31 PM
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I've talked with her about my desire for what my future marriage will look like including roles, etc. I have also shared my disdain for the current state of it and my aversion to legal marriage nowadays. She wants to get married and is waiting with me as I work through these thoughts but I don't want to keep her waiting if I decide to never marry because she is in her prime and I would love for her to find someone and be happy with them. Not leading very well currently due to my caretaking for a…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 01:27 AM
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I am in a complicated situation with a girl I have been on-and-off exclusive with for a year. The first year, I was so wrapped up in my fear of modern marriage that I just avoided the thought of it almost altogether. I don't want to waste either of our time in limbo, so I am attempting to look for ways to make a modern marriage palatable so I can see if that will encourage me to walk toward that with her or to end things with her and know my cemented stance on that while moving forward with othe…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 10:57 PM
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I really admire that. I think it is good to practice self control and to trust God with the timing of the birth of your children. It sounds like it makes your intimate time more intentional and appreciated as well.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 10:49 PM
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When I spoke of the pitfalls of marriage, I was speaking to the pitfalls of divorce upon the dissolution of a marriage. It is incredibly difficult to find someone with your dedicated views that actually lives them out. I am talking 1/1000. I am not a perfect male specimen and in this day and age that woman would have many more valuable suitors if she was pure and attractive. I am guessing that you are not in your 20s. The younger women now are very different than they were 20 years ago. Open you…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 10:46 PM
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I don't understand how she would be taking 100% financial risk under the following conditions: - assets acquired previous to marriage are retained by each individual. I would want these written into a prenup as a net worth total for each individual. (Hypothetical: My net worth walks in at +$20k, hers is -$20k accounting for school debt) -assets acquired during marriage together are split evenly upon divorce. I would have her stay at home when the kids are young and work flexibly if possible, tra…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 10:25 PM
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What is NFP?
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 09:51 PM
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Yeah, I am realizing this as well. Trying to weigh the options and come to grips with it. If any profound thoughts come your way, let me know.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 09:47 PM
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If the state had my interests in mind whatsoever, then maybe I would take the risk. As of right now the deck is heavily stacked against men in legal marriage. I'd rather go without the current "benefits" in order to avoid the current laundry list of pitfalls. At this point in time, I'd prefer to keep the state out of it entirely. I do well at finding women that aren't as affected by the current state of society, but I don't think finding the "right" one is going to stop the culture from being ab…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 12:51 PM
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