GrowingUpAgain Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	How do feminists reconcile demands for male allies while stereotyping all men as prowling creeps? Never intended to imply that being a man is a bad thing, just the opposite. What is a bad thing is to be Peter Pan. Peter Pan was the boy who never grew up and unfortunately, there are males who don't grow up (there are girls who don't grow up either). They never come into their own as men. Because of my experiences, I recognize that becoming a man is not an automatic event. It is something that is grown into. It is recognized in the common nomenclature with phrases like "raising boys to become …	/r/MensRights	17/06/22 05:21 AM
1	How do feminists reconcile demands for male allies while stereotyping all men as prowling creeps? There is a difference between men and adult males and while most adolescent boys do successfully make the transition a seeming too-large minority refuses to grow up for whatever reason. It may be because of how they are raised, it may be because of trauma, it may be because they refuse. I don't know each and every situation, but being a man is something learned, something taught, and something chosen (through the choices we make and responsibilities we take). It is not something that occurs beca…	/r/MensRights	17/06/22 04:56 AM
-9	How do feminists reconcile demands for male allies while stereotyping all men as prowling creeps? Seems like you misrepresenting what I said since I never mentioned trans. My context refers to people who refuse to grow up.	/r/MensRights	17/06/22 04:47 AM
-14	How do feminists reconcile demands for male allies while stereotyping all men as prowling creeps? That is one reason why that is listed in the article I read.	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 06:33 PM
10	Uhhh.... The one thing severely lacking during COVID was leadership. There were plenty of bureaucrats and petty tyrants though. Leaders inspire people to follow them. Authoritarians demand or force people to follow them.	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 06:04 PM
-23	How do feminists reconcile demands for male allies while stereotyping all men as prowling creeps? Actually, I think the answer is right there in your title. They demonize men but are looking for male allies. Being male doesn't make you a man. There is a reason that the concept of the man-child or Peter Pan Syndrom exists.	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 06:01 PM
2	Bit of a theory (with personal experience) as to why some men in blue collar jobs don’t seek help. Can I call you doc? I've worked white-collar jobs and blue-collar jobs. The problem appears universal. Speaking for myself only, I don't open up because I find that many people, even those closest to me don't know what to do about what I'm feeling. Not really. They may humor me, but it makes them uncomfortable. Of course, when they want to open up g-d forbid I do not have unlimited attention and all the answers. I do find that elderly people tend to be best to talk to though. Maybe they are happ…	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 04:21 AM
44	Was called misogynist at work this week for keeping my door open when alone with girls and women. Exactly right. It is called self-protection. Never give them a reason to sully your name. They may rant and rave, but it is easier for a rumor/accusation to get traction if people perceive it could be true. My rule for work is to never be in a situation where it is 1:1 alone. Man or woman. I use conference rooms with the door open (which are also all glass-walled) or I meet in the lunch area (if the conversation is more casual).	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 04:00 AM
5	They say that women civilize men Then why do I almost always see women instigating their men to fight with each other indulging in violent measures thus creating unnecessary complications? “Every generation, civilization is invaded by barbarians - we call them 'children'.” ― Hannah Arendt A casual observation of history leads me to believe female children are civilized first, and they, later, as women, channel the energy of semi-civilized men into building a better world through the family's need for security and resources for the children. This observation isn't universal for every man or woman but think of the trope of the "playboy" who settles down for that one good woman and b…	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 03:50 AM
2	Where are the men of courage? They're gone thanks to 'toxic masculinity' Men build, protect, and honor their commitments, responsibilities, and those around them. They think before they act, are quick to listen in a situation (both what is said and not said), and measure their responses rather than simply acting on the first emotional impulse. They are fair, even-handed, and patient. Some may consider these idealistic qualities, but these are what I work toward. If I set a high goal, I'll go further than if I have no goal.	/r/MensRights	16/06/22 03:31 AM
1	Tried to tip a waitress where I work. Got called in for “flirting” with a female staff. I always keep in mind the axiom "No good dead goes unpunished."	/r/MensRights	15/06/22 04:46 AM
1	I’m sick and tired of Women blaming the men in power for the whole “illegal abortions situation”. Do they not realize the part other pro life women play? Raised in the church and still practicing (very poorly mostly). I can say that never in my entire life have I ever heard a denomination have the position that an aborted baby goes to Hell. Their positions have been the exact opposite regarding aborted children or even children who die young. Abortion is generally considered a "Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200. Go straight to heaven." type of death. It took me a bit to find what I would consider a comprehensive article, but if you want more …	/r/MensRights	13/06/22 04:12 AM
19	Her boyfriend reportedly told her to take their child to the hospital, but she refused. Now mom and grandma arrested with murder after 9-Year-Old Died From 'Enormous' Hair Lice Infestation Good grief. At a human level, somebody should have taken the kid to the ER or at least told the mother that mouth wash was not going to cut it. Till I got to the bottom of the article, I was hoping the BF lived close enough to do so, but given the state of things, he probably would have been arrested for abuse if he did take the kid to the ER to try to help her.	/r/MensRights	12/06/22 04:21 AM
27	Awkward moment when the women got flowers while Jamie Dornan didn’t. Men deserve flowers too I know that I would not want flowers. A bouquet of beef jerky though....hmmm.	/r/MensRights	12/06/22 04:12 AM
16	The audacity of these “Instagram Models” I would hope the comment was said jokingly, but by parking, in a no-parking zone, I doubt it was. There have always been people like this though. Previously, this type of woman was simply a "kept woman." She was a trophy on some guy's arm, but social media made this behavior profitable for the masses. If you want to see a funny movie about it watch Priceless. It is a French movie (queue the subtitles) but really shows what a person determined to live off others can theoretically achieve.	/r/MensRights	11/06/22 04:48 AM
1	I have always made this a comment but I feel I need to state it in its own post regarding abortion rights. You are calling me to task for a comment (not even a post) essentially calling on men to consider their responsibility? While we are in a men's rights group, responsibility and rights go hand-in-hand; you can't have one without the other. Society isn't sustainable unless both are honored. Your argument that we should not discuss anything other than rights under the law flies in the face of all the posts in this group. It is a men's rights group, but the group deals with men's issues. There isn't…	/r/MensRights	11/06/22 04:33 AM
2	I have always made this a comment but I feel I need to state it in its own post regarding abortion rights. Absolutely the same thing goes for women. Since they are the ones carrying the child and incur more of the risks/costs of pregnancy, it is in their best interest to be more vigilant about these things. Your "what-about-ism" and supposition on what I think is wasted, though. What I've said is neither sexist nor paternalistic. We're in a men's rights group. Addressing the other side would have added unnecessary length to my original post, been off-topic for the context, and been irrelevant. It doe…	/r/MensRights	10/06/22 02:47 PM
3	It's ridiculous millions of young men let feminists win. Where is real leadership? It seems like, for the most part, leadership has been bred/beaten/destroyed as a skill for a large part of the population. Kids are taught from the moment that they enter school to turn to the authority figure closest to them (teacher/adult) rather than solving their own problems. The way that leadership is learned is first to see it modeled and then to have it put into practice in situations where they can fail. In my experience, the only kids that get to learn/show leadership are those that su…	/r/MensRights	10/06/22 04:23 AM
1	I have always made this a comment but I feel I need to state it in its own post regarding abortion rights. Sure I do. That is why I stated, "You can use protection, but there is always, however vanishingly slight, always a chance she will get pregnant." I have no general moral qualms about birth control. Not wanting (or not being able to afford) a kid(s), though, has nothing to do with getting pregnant. Simple biology doesn't care about wants or economic status. It only cares about matching 23 chromosomes and 23 other chromosomes to create a new life. You can decrease the chance of pregnancy by using…	/r/MensRights	10/06/22 04:05 AM
0	I have always made this a comment but I feel I need to state it in its own post regarding abortion rights. I figure I'm going to be stating the unpopular opinion here, but why not... At the root of it all, sex exists primarily to facilitate the conception of a new human being. If you don't want to do time (18y, 9mo), then don't do the crime (shoplifting the pooty). Bustin a nut, feeling closer to her, or whatever other gratification is nice, but secondary. Nature doesn't care about your feelings. It wants a bun in that oven. You can use protection, but there is always, however vanishingly slight, alw…	/r/MensRights	09/06/22 08:28 PM
3	saying all feminists are radical misandrists is the same as saying all mens rights activists are like incels. It's an only partially tongue-in-cheek response, but most husbands and fathers I know are celibate - though usually not voluntarily.	/r/MensRights	09/06/22 04:42 AM
4	Do you have experiences of being penalized at work or ostracized by friends, family or the community for supporting men's rights? I don't talk about it, even to my own wife. If you want stories about being denied jobs/promotions because I'm white, I got you covered? I've even heard the "We don't want your kind here." line when I tried to apply for a job.	/r/MensRights	09/06/22 03:41 AM
2	Why is it normalized for men to be in fear of their wives or submissive and at their beck and call? I think it was Benjamin Franklin who said something along the lines of "Go into marriage with your eyes wide open; stay in a marriage with your eyes half-closed." There is so much that can be fought over that just doesn't matter. I don't fight every little battle. I save my capital for the big things that do.	/r/MensRights	09/06/22 03:32 AM