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I've found that they have a lot of defensiveness with the infighting and haven't rlly listened to the criticism, The defensiveness is what bothers me. Maybe they were in a hurry and didn't notice when they chose the title, who knows? Totally understandable if that were the case. Lately I've been feeling a shift towards trying to prove outsiders' notions wrong. See? we actually date, FDS often gets misunderstood as X, outsiders gets x about FDS wrong... Who cares? Most those people are invested i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:30 PM
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The other podcast episode that I had some issues with was the early childhood one--though that's a whole different discussion, I'd like to see that dissent addressed. It wasn't very evidence-based and made a lot of sex-based generalizations that don't apply to young children, only perhaps to adults. Ah, I thought I was the only one who felt like that. There is a lot of denial and hopeful thinking in certain fields currently, that's why most couple therapists end up benefitting abusers, or just f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:03 PM
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Young women are the one's benefitting from the work we did. As a 30-something rad fem from South America, I wholeheartedly agree. I find it sad that many women in first world countries (Specially the US, and the Anglosphere) are so uncomfortable with a systemic approach and end up functional to liberal feminism. Those benefits they inherited from previous generations will last some more, but for how long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:17 PM
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the pound is high value when converted to their currency after making a certain amount they can live a more lavish lifestyle back in their home country. That's very true for money they can save and bring to their countries. Anyway, unless they work remote, immigrants are earning and spending with the same exchange rate while they are in the country. Also, big companies have been outsourcing jobs like crazy since the 90s. Immigrants involved or not, business owners have betrayed their fellow coun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:23 PM
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Working class people around the world have more in common than not. Yes! Also, that's one of the many reasons "THe FiRst WorRd doeSn't neEd femInIsm AnyMore" is absolute BS and irritates me to no end! As a third worlder, I often find myself having opportunities the most vulnerable women in the first world do not have. There are many different factors at play that make this possible. (I'd write a post about it if anyone is interested).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:38 PM
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A lot of working class people vote against their own interests, sadly. Many are unaware of how vulnerable their position really is - and has always been. Unions exist for a reason, to be in a better position to negotiate salaries, but I guess those are the same kind of people that look down on going on strike and such, because it is not "pRoPer". Blaming immigrants and considering poor people leeches is easier than admitting their bosses don't care about them at all. Edit: An extra sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:46 PM
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That's why mental health problems are so common. 100%. Another example: Children feel their mother's stress as fetuses, and it shows in newborn cortisol levels. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6034834/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:31 PM
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'They're going to have to get used to the fact that the world has changed, and they have to change along with it. ' 100% Men behind the times bitterly refuse to play in "games" that aren't rigged for them. Their mindset is, if I'm not 100% sure I will win, then why bother? It is a very unrealistic way to see life, not to mention the ethical implications... I mean, of course, it is easy to "win" if you boycott everyone else. Paraphrasing a quote I love: "Conquering rights brings joy, whereas losi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:14 PM
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"...other women to smugly think they have one over on me, because to their mind- I don’t know how to be popular" "...they were expecting a huge turnout of x people, about half that amount were actually there" Are you me!? I've received that same smugness from women that were good/average at initiating interactions with people, but terrible at maintaining them. Well-adjusted extroverts are able to maintain close and superficial connections -in that particular order- these women...are not. They ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:37 PM
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100% I'm not bringing new people to this planet to have a difficult life. It's sad I care more about my potential imaginary kids that many care about their real ones. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:44 PM
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just because someone doesn't want kids doesn't mean they have to justify it by serving kids in other ways. Or serving the elderly. Unfortunately, many people see the unmarried and childfree members of the family as free nanny/ free nurse/ free purse. In the end, we women are expected to give some sort of free care to justify our existence. Notice it has to involve some NurTuring role. No other form of generosity or contribution is seen. If a childfree woman dedicated her life to find the cure fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:37 PM
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In my country, selling blood, sperm and eggs as well as surrogacy is illegal based on the same arguments stated in this article. Lately, a few of our male gay celebrities went to the US to buy eggs and hire surrogates. Most people questioned the decision considering they could have easily adopted instead. After all, egalitarian marriage and adoption have been legal here for years. Other people adressed the problematic objectifying and colorist/racist undertones present in the whole process. (Int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:30 PM
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It’s as if we are robots who power down when they’re not around. This is such a great way to put it. Most men and to an extent pick-me women see women in this way. It is a chain of self-absorption and entitlement. Edit: a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:30 PM
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To sum up, nothing wrong with vanilla. Also, if you can't do vanilla passionate and interesting...you are just...not good in bed? If they don't master the so called "basics" - their opinion not mine - how can you be good at anything else? Most people I know who can't shup up about how "edgy" they are the most boring, predictable and passive people I know, specially the men. And the women, well...I'm convinced many already got the "ick" and they want to override it using as many external things a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:29 PM
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This question is genius! I don´t have any other per se but I pay a lot of attention to how people treat and speak about those that are having a hard time for reasons beyond their control. I find any person that believes empathy ¨would be nice to have¨ but impractical or inefficient are telling on themselves, they are either low on empathy themselves , overconfident/stupid "that would never happen to me" types, or cowardish. On a side note Empathy actually makes teams more efficient. Most stress …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:59 PM
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Either this guy has the reading comprehension skills of a 6-year-old ( quite likely) ... or he is being dishonest (far more likely) and deliberately misunderstanding us. No reason to care or explain either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:01 PM
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I've noticed the same. Isn't it funny how men who are not traditionally masculine obsess over "submission" the most? Also, when seeing pictures of such couples I have to be told they are partners otherwise I assume they are brother and sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:08 AM
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- Peterson knows what he is doing. He knows their vulnerabilities, and he is taking advantage of them. He is deliberately vague, so he can blame his audience later for "misunderstanding". His word salad is incredibly manipulative. - Of course some of his points might be reasonable. Even cults need to make sense once in a while, they need a hook. Same with the RP. - Nothing he explains in his talks is new or out of the ordinary. The 1st time I watched one of his videos I was like... was that supp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:56 AM
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So timely! I've recently commented on a previous post about how manipulative and controlling their tactics are. It is all about "trapping" a man. It is still RP theory, hence no different from sleazy and forceful sales tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:27 PM
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1) That is RP, not Pinkpill. Please, change it if possible since the Pinkpill and FDS are similar. 2) I remeber reading that subreddit several years ago. I see it hasn't changed much. It was mostly either men pretending to be women or neocon women doubling down on the tricks they were familiar with. Sometimes some libfems reconsidering what they were told. (They were probably looking for something like FDS, like I was but it didn't exist yet). The first thing that put me off at the time is how m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:56 AM
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I'm in the opposite side of the spectrum so I'm totally aware there are LVM everywhere, but tradmen have the most "curated" reputations - that's why I find them the scariest among all LVM. I find they often treat me as an "honorary man". They openly hate me, but hate me as an adult hates another adult, at least. I'm an opponent. They hate "their" women the way a twisted cruel adult could hate a child: with disdain. So much effort in making women depend on them, and later they have the nerve to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:58 PM
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"I see women on this reddit often complaining about how dangerous the porn and prostitution industry is for women even if its "consensual" and I agree, so why would the standard be any different for this". This 100! Same with renting wombs, there are many concerns regarding human rights and the possible exploitation of rich people "transfering" pregnancy and childbirth to poorer and more vulnerable women, even when consensual. So...is it wrong when done privately but we are OK if done publicly? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:51 AM
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I'm all for helping single mums, my own queen mother is, and felt the effects of a very unstable economy growing up.(e.g Products at the supermarket had different prices within one day when I was a 1 year old baby, in the late 80s). Still, unfortunately, a plan like that could backfire in many ways and increase the numbers of pickmes having babies with lvm. I already see it here with criminals and their many baby mamas. Pickmes feel no remorse in making things difficult for everybody if that mea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:35 AM
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I'm sure many of these have been covered in other comments already, but this is my list of what a friendship with a woman can potentially give a LVM (or so they hope): 1) Potential sex in vulnerable emotional states. 2) An easier target for rape: most victims are attacked by sb they know. 3) "Crush" material: An untouchable object so he can fantasize away and thus, avoid taking action in the romantic arena in the real world. 4) A halo of "decency" aka make him look less "creepy". 5) Access to ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:41 PM
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"Is that an attempt of a neg?" I used that line several times, but I prefer the "dumb fox" approach. Anyway, the faces they make are priceless. These idiots act as if they belonged to some top elite secret society...PUA tactics have been online for ages. Also negs are supposed to be subtle, they are not even good at their shitty manipulative techniques.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:48 AM
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I have an idea that even our ideas of femininity are rooted in classism. Couldn't agree more! If you are in survival mode you can't be soft and gentle all the time. The Princess and the Pea is a great example! I remember reading it and thinking she was a liability, LOL!. On a side note "feminine" and "masculine" are used in so broad, vague ways that don't mean anything anymore. I've been tomgirlish all my life, and I've received contradictory unsolicited comments constantly. One day I was told I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:25 PM
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a bragging tool to increase his status with other men. 100% this! I remember SheraSeven saying something like "men cannot enter a room with their Ferrari but they can enter it with a woman".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:24 AM
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Yes, and p*rny looks too, since the p*rn industry is so powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:19 AM
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Yes! Great addition. Classism, colourism and racism overlap. I'm white in a majority white and white-passing population, and you can still see all of these at play. Even white supremacists have a hierarchy of "cool" white folk and "not so cool" white folk. Whatever group is the most vulnerable people in a society there is an invested interest in demonizing them and making them feel like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:18 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear that, the stories I've heard about the health system in the US -specially for WOC- are nightmare inducing. I am from a developing country that is far from perfect but despite all our problems we have socialized healthcare and education. Yes, they are not perfect systems, there is corruption and that doesn't mean there is no inequality, but those two make a big difference in social wellbeing. Witnessing the most powerful country in the world having the nerve to pretend health…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:07 AM
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This is only one of the many reasons ideal body types shouldn't be taken seriously. I am thinking about our youngest members here, since those who are over 25 have probably seen several body types being "in" and "out" over and over again. Whoever is into you is into you, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:43 PM
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Half of the time they don't really even believe all the mean shit they say This! A lot of men just say whatever, for stupid or manipulative reasons. Most likely: self-delusion, status seeking, fishing for insecurities or parroting borrowed opinions. Attractive men usually don't voice their preferences at all, if they have a type, they just date that type, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:25 PM
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Valentine’s Day is not a thing in my country, even after some industries tried to push it, unsuccessfully. We have similar celebrations already: one day for friends and a different one for romantic love. This last weekend I was invited to a barbecue and had to listen to a WoKe BoY and his cliché monologue on why Valentine's is imPeRiaLisTic, cOnsUmErist, etc. Luckily, he noticed people were getting awkward, and he was looking simple-minded and bitter, so he shut up after that. This guy has plent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:09 PM
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Yes, there is always the assumption you have to prioritize others, those being men or other women feeling entitled to our emotional work. Sometimes, intuition is a woman's only and last ally. I've been accused of being "nEgAtiVe" and "nOt nIce" by random people since I have a memory, basically. I got used to it, I even take it as a compliment now. There is no end to the list of the times I was proven right, and the bullets I've dodged because of intuition. I am so grateful I was lucky to be rais…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:56 PM
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Glad he is an ex! The older I get the more I worry about younger women because, even those surrounded by well-meaning people, are still very vulnerable. We make nobody any favours by being naive, specially to those that depend on us .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:28 PM
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Totally! I think part of the problem is the word "intuition" sounds very esoteric to some people. This is particularly true in cultures that praise "rationality" and "stoicism" and are neither emotion nor intuition "friendly". Think about STEM circles, for example. Intuition is framed and degraded as a hippy-dippy superstitious thing, when it is -I believe- our brain trying to protect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:21 PM
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Yes! When they relax they start outing themselves, and LV people in general can't stop giving their unsolicited opinions, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:08 PM
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Also, if a surname is personally difficult to carry for you e.g. is shameful e.g. a family of criminals or you abusive parents you can ask a judge to change it. It is a longer process, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:23 PM
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The first of each pair are chosen automatically but you can ask to rearrange the order if wanted. I carry my mother's surname. In legal documents, it appears twice. And in daily life people mention only one surname. It is similar with middle names. I have a first and middle name and I only use the latter. (Please, keep in mind I'm not talking about surnames that are already long by nature, like royal family names, or some high society "old money"surnames).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:19 PM
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Coming from a different culture, if I wore a husband's surname I would feel like his sister, or daughter. No DNA in common = no surname in common. No woman under 80 uses her husband's surname here (Argentina). It is not even part of the conversation, not even LVM expect it, that how old fashioned it is. And children are automatically registered with both surnames. If I were American I'd vet immediately any guy that cares deeply about this, and if I had children I would get theirs (not mine) hyph…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:30 PM
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This reminded me of the telenovela "Ugly Betty" (the original Colombian one, the US version has an entirely different plot) Very hit or miss, and wouldn't say FDS label worthy but one of its best points was its honest approach to lookism. Every female character, from the most conventionally beautiful to the least were hurt by men, just in different ways, including gay men. "Ugly" women were laughable or invisible and "beautiful" women were objects to obssess with, control or resent. No wonder it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:40 PM
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It's all a performance, they say what they think you want to hear This! I have the same experience, inverted: the moment conservative men realize I'm on the other side of the spectrum they backpedal like crazy. 😑 And "woke" sad boys try to mainsplain my own orientation to me, based on wikipedia and memes. 🤦‍♀️ LVM only true ideology is ¨muh dick¨, laziness and control, that's why they are attracted to authoritarianism on either side. They follow whoever promises them control of resources, women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:13 PM
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google caters their search results to men Yeah! I've always been sort of FDS ish and I found this amazing sub after a lot of googling and getting the opposite of what I was looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:14 AM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:47 PM
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Apparently my ambition was something I would grow out of... Unfortunately not only LVM think like this, but many women too. Any lifestyle choices that are not "the norm" are framed by many as trying to "get attention" or "a rebellious phase". Imagine how self-absorbed and narrow-minded you have to be to believe other people live their own lives just to contradict you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:46 PM
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Yes, there are women in this group that have celebrated their HVM SOs without this overdefensive attitude or patronizing tone. She is invested in spreading the narrative that we are all ¨bitter¨ instead of being open to feedback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:03 PM
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"I’m sorry you’re in a headspace in which you feel the need" I'm sorry you are so JEalOUS / CanT bE HappY For oTHer WOMen / WHo Hurt You -TM? "to pick apart a green flag post." "yOU're TRYing to FinD PROblems to COpe wiTh Your OWn/ You'RE so NegaTIVe Best of luck on your continued growth and healing. "YOU're Not oK, BLEss Your HEArt" It is so tiring when you voice a genuine concern -out of a place of care- and all you receive instead is veiled hostility. Unfortunately, many women think hostility…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:10 PM
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If he attacked a living thing related to you he is attacking you. It is an indirect attack, but you are still the target. I don’t even think it was a act of malice i do just think he is stupid Nah. It is all malice. Either cold blooded /smart / planned malice or hot blooded / dumber / impulsive malice. It doesn't matter how sophisticated this evil act was, it is still cruel and that's all you need to know. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:46 PM
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he was jealous of a plant and this was a test to see if she loved him more than the plant. This! LVM get jelaous of any living thing you nurture. Good riddance, he's the kind of guy that would resent the attention his own newborn baby would need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:29 PM
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She never said "less developed", she said "Western", though. Only Americans and maybe some closely related countries use it mainly as an economic term. For them: Western ---> Free market capitalism + developed. For most of the world: "Western" ---> Connected in some way to Ancient Rome and Greece. (Same story with terms like "hispanic", "latino", "white", etc. Definitions don't match at all. It is like the imperial vs metric system dynamic all over again.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:36 PM
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These women are obviously gorgeous but I don't get LV hetero guy negging here -I could be wrong of course- but my radar is picking up some low-key jealous, closeted queer guy vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:07 PM
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Note aside, I suspect that when she says "Western" men she means probably the Anglosphere and maybe some extra countries. And I'm tired of that, but not gonna rant about it. The overweight, "dorky and dirty t-shirt" look is not that common in Southern Europe, neither in Scandinavia. I'm a city full of expats and I notice many American/Brit/Aussies definitely feel inadequate and dorkier in comparison to other men, including other white guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:03 PM
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Friendly advice of a daughter of a single mother here: Some traditionally minded people only care about reputation and reaching milestones, therefore, a traditional family has far more motives to: 1) hide secrets and 2) to cooperate with their LVM son to make him look decent. They are his "wingman" in a way. Also as a woman you will be expected to become the very fuel that makes things look like running smoothly. Non-traditional families are not necessarily better (can be super crazy too for sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:34 PM
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Absolutely, isn´t it crazy how that kind of fanboys ruin anything fun for anybody else? Their gatekeeping is crazy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:27 PM
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Matrix. Many male fans of this film are pretentious and love conspiracy theories. - I don't dislike the film actually, but I never say that because they will start an endless monologue focusing on irrelevant stuff. Star Wars. Specially those that talk about Jedi stuff so seriously...ugh it is the dorky male version of a Karen's corny self-help book. Both groups are not very well read or cultured, but believe they are. If they are "smart" is usually STEM guys with very poor education in Humanitie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:38 PM
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His reaction seems performative to me too. By performative I don't mean fake necessarily. Maybe he just wanted to be funny, or act cute, who knows? Anyway, little acts like these are no indicators this guy will be a good husband. I don't trust public romantic gestures in general. Even when the feelings behind them are real that extra layer of "performance¨ steals some of the magic of it to me. Let's not forget LVM resort to grand gestures, love bombing and praise as some of their many tools to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:40 PM
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No really advice, but things a few men admitted to me or noticed in other men: "My sister's boyfriend proposed to her, but they didn't decide a date for the wedding yet. I'm afraid he is leading her on, I wish I'm wrong...but I'm a guy and I know how guys think." "We men are far, far more gosippy than women are, and create more drama within companies". "Whenever I'm about to make a business deal with a man, and the guy is married I pay attention to his wife, if there is significant age differenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:32 PM
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Yes, taking your husband's surname is common in the anglosphere, specially the US not in other cultures. In hispanic culture women used to attach their husband's family name to theirs (still misogynistic since it translated as "María Perez of Rodriguez", so it was still connected to a sense of property. ) Luckily that is considered extremely old fashioned today. I'm Argentinian and I don't know any woman under 80 that uses her husband'd surname. Children usually have both parent's surnames. Edit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:24 PM
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Yes! I sent my request on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:17 AM
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Only authoritarian controlling freaks want submission from others. Can I relax and be comfortable around the right company, aka good people? Of course. Can I delegate tasks to people I trust? Sure! That is not a submission in a million years though. I'd advice these girls to get an effing dictionary if I weren't already aware they love to force words to mean something they don't (Same with the word "respect".) The joke is on them: No authoritarian is ever satiated with any amount of submission, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:36 PM
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Going to a restaurant with one person to have an actual conversation one-to-one is "too formal and almost staged" but having a perfect selfie with heavy make up and likely professional lighting for social media is not? Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:14 PM
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This! It sounds like they want the entire world be an extension of their messy living room, or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:10 PM
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"It was your words that led to my actions." still sounds like manipulation by praise to me. Of course, we don't know the guy so there are many scenarios possible. Since being a HVM is -among other traits- mainly about how he treats others, only people that are really close can see his true character. That's why my initial reaction with these kind of posts is always disbelief. But disbelief is not a sin, is not being "judgemental" is just...not buying it. We are not even allowed to doubt a guy's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:26 PM
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You are speaking as if there were only 2 options: a) living together without getting married or b) getting married and risking the suspicion that the citizenship is the motivation. There is a third alternative: not living together and wait until he gets his citizenship. There is no way we can know whether your boyfriend is a good person or not, but just because something makes sense and sounds logical it doesn't make it true. It's better to assume we are the rule, not the exception. FDS is not a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:16 PM
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I hate the journalist condescending and fake ¨confused¨ face, as if Cher were saying pigs can fly or something. You don´t have to agree with the interviewee, but that attitude is very unprofessional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:00 PM
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It really hurt me, to think "Is that how you view me?" This! I used to feel the same way whenever a pickme would try to set me up with some loser. At the time, I thought they had a very low opinion of me, many years later they confessed they were jelaous of me. Pickmes hyper-competitive mindset permeates everything they do, consciously or not, from the most malicious to the least. That´s why attempting any close connection to them is pointless. I'm glad you're surrounded with HV people now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:05 PM
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I heard that men don't leave women unless they have another woman lined up, but women leave men all the time just to be single. In podcast used to listen a psychologist stated the exact same. In her 30 years of experience men most likely had another woman lined up, and even if they did leave without a "replacement" -or were suddenly dumped- other men usually find him someone to date within 2 weeks. Also, she was surprised by the sense of emergency of their friends reactions, as if one of them be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:19 PM
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I saw this on Pinterest and I had to share with you gals. Disclaimer: I don't approve of teenagers exposing themselves to creepy adults, no matter the gender, but I highly appreciate the sentiment behind it. Summary: A Brazilian 15-year-old boy made a fake profile pretending to be a 14-year-old girl and baited a creepy guy. They agreed to meet at a nearby park during the night. When the paedo showed up the teen, in a Spider-Man costume, kicked his ass. The neighbors heard the fight and called th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:50 PM
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That sounds really frustrating. You reminded me of an interview where Michael Caine speaks about deliberately keeping his Cockney accent to make a point about classism. That background is part of the reason why you became who you did, and you clearly have wisdom to share from that. Absolutely, it's their loss. I notice that, unlike the British, Americans share their "rag-to-riches stories" with pride, and I totally get why. The US and my country (Argentina) have one thing in common: both receive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:18 PM
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Working class people and people of color don’t generally have all these luxuries which is why a lot of them reject this crap and become uber conservative. It is like "Nice guy" vs "Chad" dichotomy if you have been deeply hurt by one is tempting to believe the other alternative is better. Both sides most likely want to exploit you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:34 PM
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The whole lib fem thing was their opportunity for delayed teenage rebellion. It's interesting how the upper class acts similar everywhere. (I'm in S.America) I have a few truly rebellious richy friends. They all answered to their respective families with "fuck your money". Libfems? Nah, they never do that. ​ Most haven't read a damn thing on the suffragettes, nor do they respect the sacrifices those women made. Let me add they don't know a thing about what feminists are doing in the rest of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:23 PM
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Not at all, I'm thankful for the mods efforts ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:55 PM
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no-name YouTubers have decided she's cancelled. I'm also annoyed by cancel culture and the "woke" people who probably noticed she reached a considerable number of followers and - only then- decided to go after her. That being said, I had seen people on her channel coment section making very valid points several months ago. So, a significant portion of the criticisms is in good faith and is not new. Later, the youtubers jumped in and expanded that. Some people like me unfollowed her way before al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:11 PM
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This reminded an episode of "New Girl" when Jess said to Nick "I would be the worst goldigger in the world!" (She was a total pick-me anyway) I wouldn't take any "accusation" men make seriously. They know that -on average- women are morally superior than them. Also, men say a lot of things they don't really believe just to see how you handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:03 PM
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like a grown woman trying to act like a teenager. This. A lot of her advice is good actually, but I've been feeling a "teen" vibe along with a "Cosmo magazine" vibe that I don't resonate with (And honestly find a bit old-fashioned, very 90s). I remember an interview she did with a cam girl. Both of them acted as if it were an "empowering" and "cool" thing to do. Luckily, many people in the comments mentioned they were glamorizing a very dark and manipulative industry. I unfollowed after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:47 PM
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"Yeah, I've been thinking about it and you're totally right! I don't think this would work out!" Love this. It's their own "agree and amplify" but tacful and elegantly done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:39 PM
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The maddona-whore complex always hurts women. (Also men because is a toxic irrational mindset to begin with). Pressuring us to be madonna ➜ desexualizing and objectifing us a uteruses. Pressuring us to be a whore➜ oversexualazing and objectifing us for mens' pleasure. None of these are healthy and both are exploitative. Lib Fems and Trad Cons exploit women and benefit men giving them supply of submissive "whores" and/or submissive wives. Also, the system is rigged so nobody wins. No matter what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:09 AM
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Now that you said it I can´t unsee it. Another Trekkie here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:13 PM
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I don’t think it’s think it’s very feminist to assume that because a woman reads a book she becomes immediately indoctrinated by its ideas. This. I read a lot out of curiosity, that doesn´t mean I have to agree, believe or support the content I´m exploring. btw, Most terrorists are men, they are far more inclined to be easily indoctrinated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 06:22 PM
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That's great, it is a relief has zero chance now! He showed too much of his true colors and your friendships sound rock solid, good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:31 PM
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I'm not in environment where matchmaking is common so I don't know the dynamics... but anyway, if they were so interested in their son dating you, shouldn't they mention that to their sons instead of you? Like: "Hey son, isn't this girl lovely? I think you could make a good couple. If you're interested I know she's at church at (insert time) if you want to say hello. They are only pushy because their sons are a pain in the ass and they know it. They want to transfer the problem to you to become …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:27 PM
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I think he half ass maintains them so he still has chances to run into me. That worried me, I hope he doesn't have any influence in your group of friends, narcissists really go for character assassination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:09 PM
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you should never vet a man based on how he treats other m\n.* I'd never vet m*n only based on this, I just consider it an extra thing to pay attention to. I actually mentioned this in my post: " Don't get me wrong: men who are nice to their friends can still be shitty boyfriends." Most of these types tend to save their oh-so-nice demeanour for 'the boys' but take all their frustration out on the women in their life. Again, I mentioned something similar to what you said: " you're going to be trea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:00 PM
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Thanks por pointing that out! I´m very independent myself, but if I´m part of any group I know I will have to compromise and consider other needs and pov. I find people who take pride on being a ¨lone wolf¨ are very inflexible and lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:34 PM
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This! It is another form of emotional labour. Many men I know barely remember birthdays, special occasions, etc. I´m so frustrated that they get to have a good social reputation because of somebody else´s efforts. Men complain about loneliness but they don´t give a f about creating and maintaining relationships with people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:29 PM
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Yes, I love cooking for myself! Also I have some food sensitivities and is better for my health as well. About the lightbulb, I honestly think she was being too ¨princessy¨and stubborn more than ignorant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 09:12 PM
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Sometimes the people we love really love us back but their belief-system doesn't serve them or us. Also, I think this is a "damn if you do and damn if you don't" situation. I imagine your mum could actually get a bit annoyed if you ever became a better cook than her. Luckily where I am such comments are considered old-fashioned. Most men don't expect women to cook but...a few would still be nostalgic about "the good old days" you know, the 50s they know nothing about. Just in case, I never say I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:30 AM
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I thought the same too. Men are actually very particular about who they kiss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 04:27 AM
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Just because you had access to someone a long time ago doesn’t mean it’s the same now. This! I never understood people that think they can get way with that. I don't even consider myself the same person after such a long time. I've always been merciless blocking exes or ex friends and yet this 2020 I received the weirdest DMs ever. Men and women I barely know wanting to "reconnect" (!?). Most were LVM and their "dry spells" obviously, but also a few pick-mes with "friendship dry spells". Witness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:26 PM
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I've been watching some KPOP reality shows lately. My mum went full pickachu face when I casually mentioned one of my favourite idols on the screen is 37. Well, I'm 31 and usually mistaken for early 20s. Yes, genetics play a role, also stress but if we can take care of ourselves so can men. (And most of us aren't celebrities or rich, so that excuse doesn't work either.) In my city there are attractive men but they only care about going to the gym. They think exercise is a magic spell that can co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:14 AM
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Is there any way they can "open the market"? I know very succesful couples with the same faith but different nationalities, or inter-religion ones specially Jewish-Catholic. (Something to be considered is my country is quite secular and there aren't significant religion-related frictions.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:41 PM
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They want to connect through hate, and manipulate by praise. I love when Eastern European/Asian/etc women serve their asses. In my case I'm a white latina in South America. Some years ago, when using language exchange websites, I received a ton of discusting flirty DMs from white supremacist incels, all of them from developed nations. I blocked those idiotic nazis immediately. They know they have nothing to offer so they find (or make up) one tiny thing in common with you and exploit it, hoping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 06:32 PM
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I barely use social media, but I love learning languages and I used several language exchange websites several years ago. You would be surprised by the amount of hate or negging DMs I received (and some lame scam attemps). Consider those men as mentally ill. Ignore them as you would ignore the random crazy drunk on the subway. Edit: one missing word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:53 PM
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christian men are no different than secular men when it comes to lust, physical attraction and women. Just a side note: As an outsider (non-religious person myself) I consider most religious men worse than the average secular, with honourable exceptions. Same with men from "old fashioned" cultures. You see, I get to see their dark side since they don't care to hide it from me. Secular men rarely have an institution that promotes couples within itself so openly. These men operate within a more re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:27 PM
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I'm a 90s kid, and I vaguely remember some of the news about it, it was for sure horrible. (Not from the US, but S. America) You can totally see the pressure placed on women during or after war to give birth to more soldiers, or to "rebuild" their nations, masked as something patriotic. I feel incredibly lucky to be in a region that is not prone to armed conflicts and where mainstream culture is not pro war either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:24 PM
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When I was 2 or 3 years old my mother had a lot more men chasing after her. (Apparently it started after I was able to speak, go figure) She was a young mum, and I was a healthy, confident and happy toddler. I'm sure some were LVM and assumed she was desesperate (she wasn't) but other men were genuinely impressed and admitted her mothering skills added extra points. HVM are very concerned whether a woman will be a good mother. Not wanting to date someone with children is perfectly valid, but the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:04 PM
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because the corporate entities and politicians with vested interests in companies WANT cheap labor. They’ll import desperate workers from other counties, pay them shit wages, lay off the higher paid citizens, then turn around and demonize the immigrants to the native public. So much this! They make sure the poor hate on other poor people. Also, those who attack women for ¨not reproducing for their country¨ (Crazy concept to begin with) don´t hesitate for a second in outsourcing every possible jo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:38 PM
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My country is very touchy and I have no problem with that but at work?...nope! Most women and men here understand a kiss on the cheek means nothing, is just a a greeting and they are supposed to be brief. Even if it is the most normal thing for us that doesn't mean everyone is confortable with it, and in that case people will read your body language and will act accordingly. Companies are full of creepy middle age men either from my country or from non touchy cultures - and they manage to be 10 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:53 AM
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I remember there was a post about it some months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:34 AM
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If a guy knows how to behave at work and with friends, he knows what he is "supposed to do". If a guy has the balls to ask for a raise, or ask for a discount in a shop, he's perfectly capable to ask you out. Of course we all get extra nervous with people we're attracted to, but I can't stand this narrative that pretends dating and romantic relationships are in an entirely different dimension from any other social area. Unless there is an actual issue of mental health (social anxiety or some form…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:31 AM
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Agreed! A HVM should protect their woman from his family if they happen to be disrespectful. I've observed many traditional men tend to put their family of origin before the family they want to create. I'm not traditionally minded at all, maybe that's why I'm biased but as an outsider I was never very into "he is a sweet decent guy who wears v necks and is innofensive". Some of my friends married those men with no spine at all. I find it utterly immature never rebelling to your parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:56 PM
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1) There are some hobbies you can do on your own. Even the most extroverted people need alone time to recharge at times, just less than introverts. 2) Nothing wrong with socializing, but that is not a hobby in itself. You can make your hobbies social, though. I honestly find it hard to believe this story is true. You seem to find an issue with every suggestion given, either you're falling prey of self-pity or you're a man trying to make FDS women look as incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:58 AM
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The example given I remembered wasn´t about complaining but sharing dreams, aspirations, feeling misunderstood by society, etc. It was supposed to be warm and positive to create excitement so you fell ¨me too¨, ¨this guy gets me¨.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:39 AM
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Probably the same one. I read this years ago, and read many different red pill websites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:36 AM
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I don´t remember the exact name, I think it was ¨deep dive¨. They share something incredibly personal to make you feel connected to them emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:35 AM
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Exactly. Unfortunately the justice system in my country is crap and restraining orders are not effective. Femicides are on the public eye, since they grew these last years. The only positive aspect of that is that current mainstream culture is more aware of this toxic behaviours and most people I know would find it as creepy as I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:22 PM
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Some cultural background: Banners like this are not very common where I live, but if you find one is usually for an important event. e.g. A family and friends congratulating a person for getting their degree, 15 "Quinces" birthdays, etc. Also, for institutions e.g. an anniversary of the creation of a school, etc I never find it cute when it is done by a guy for a woman. I find it corny and creepy. Even some men admitted to me "The bigger the bouquet the bigger the fuck-up". The few HMV I know ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:16 PM
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This! I've always loved them. The Addams family has no "wife bad" jokes and both parents are involved with their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:44 PM
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You´re welcome! Yes, the internet is amazing and I love this sub so much. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:51 PM
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No problem. And to be honest, many third world countries can be really fucked up, specially in terms of violence towards women. I am just lucky to be in one that is poor but quite progressive socially speaking. I just wanted to point it out because Americans are manipulated to believe the rest of the world is scary so they feel "grateful" of what they have. Same tactic is used here comparing us with countries in worse conditions than ours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:18 PM
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I´m in a third world country and tying your tubes is free and quick here. The minimum age allowed to do it is 16 years old. The US (I assume the post was done in the US since most users on this website are from there) is a really odd first world country. I'm not offended at your comment, neither I want to offend anyone here, but comparing yourselves to third world countries doesn't work anymore. Maternity leave is another case: most countries have some amount of paid maternity leave except the U…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:59 PM
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it's up to you which strategies you're personally comfortable using This! Nobody here is forcing anybody to follow these ideas or apply them 100%. I meet a similar reaction whenever I want to talk about "darker" issues (I'm very interested in criminology). Many people tip toe about certain topics but when you reach a certain level of analysis they resort to anything to stop exploring the issue. Their discomfort is more important to them than respecting you or finding truth. Personally I haven't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:08 PM
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They love to pretend being rational is the same as being emotionally repressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:27 PM
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The sad thing: It doesn´t even have to be the boyfriend not liking her friends. I know a couple of pickmes that very much look forward to get rid of their friends because they consider friendships uninportant in general. They consider family the "real" loved ones and friends "people you hang out with". They sometimes end friendships just in case he happens not to like them or because they don´t match the current image they want to portray to their boyfriends and his circle. Of course it always b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:48 AM
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That's why I can't stand adult men pretending women are "difficult to read" or "the dating market is hard for men". If a teen is doing a better job than you reconsider your life, dude. Plus, I love the way he hugs her, very respecful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:08 PM
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I avoid complimenting them on things that are: a) a by-product of nature eg "You're so good looking", and b) things that are basic decent behaviour eg "You remembered by birthday" etc. I focus on skills and performance on things they work hard on, also in this way is always genuine. I used to have those very thoughts without verbalizing them and now I make a conscious effort to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:01 PM
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It is only an excuse not to wear one, at least for a period of time. Depending on skin color it leaves a tan line, so they cannot pretend being single. If he loses his ring and genuinely cares he will replace it immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:19 PM
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Delusional indeed. They want to replace a system with another because they hope they'll get to be on top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:51 PM
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I´ve always thought the worst is Ross. Joey was of course very traditionally ¨macho¨ and therefore problematic but not entirely self-absorbed and easier to figure out for women since he is the typical fuckboy. I'm sure a percentage of the women he was dealing with were looking for casual sex as well but he also chose to manipulate women who were obviously interested in something else (and that's my problem with him). Anyway...Ross has that kind of built up resentment that sooner or later will dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:33 AM
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They want to pretend indignation is the same as hatred to deflect responsability. Nothing new under the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:00 AM
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I watched an interview with FBI expert (Jim Clemente) he was molested by a priest. He said "Nice Guy" pedos seduce society first, either through religion or non profits or adopting kids,etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:39 PM
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Is not really a thing or a new thing at all. In the past, many women begged to be proposed until the man caved in or pressured the guy socially so it would be awkward not to. This extra step is just a new detail added by current liberal feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:38 AM
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This would really creep me out. Super big public gestures always seem LVM to me, like when they propose in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:30 AM
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Thats why I never trust men that claim any political orientation and I remain in a political closet until I figure out their real opinions. Abortion is the best topic because it divides the entire political spectrum. I'm moderately left inclined and most fellow men lefties I know are "soft fuckboys" and resent not being part of the powerful, not the system itself. Also often extreme in their views, impractical and lazy af. These noodle-armed comrades can be just as machist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:19 AM
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This! I know a guy that has "killed" his granma like 50 times, but for work. I don't think someone so trashy would have any reservations to use that in other areas of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:00 AM
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I've always hated it when people use the word "naive" as positive, also when "inocent" is used in a similar way. Naiveté is a form of ignorance that is natural and tolerated for the inexperienced aka children. First of all, I don't think any form of ignorance is positive, but also shows how deep society is invested in keeping us confused, gaslighted and gullible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:53 AM
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One day I saw an acquaintance of mine with her then boyfriend walking, he was holding her hand but in front of her and in a hurry. She looked like a child behind him, barely able to keep the pace. I always trust my gut and I had a really bad controlling vibe from that. She dumped him a year after and he went nuts calling his family and her like 50 times a day and threatening to beat her new boyfriend. Small things are very telling because people forget to control them so eventually they show tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:45 AM
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I've never hated JP himself, but the way he speaks is unsettling to me. His speech is full of long sentences with imprecise words and feels deliverately obscure. His audience also seems to mistake his low energy with humility, and his calm demeanor as rationality. Honestly, I think is just the youngest of the conservatism-inclined falling to the fantasy of the "good old times". An honest conversation with any honest old person -specially if belonged to the most vulnerable- would be enough to sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:23 PM
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I probably didn't explain myself well, I never disagreed with your main statement. I wanted to point out that most problems in nuclear families tend to be overlooked or glossed over unless they get very serious whereas non traditional families are put under the microscope. Anyway the conclusion is the same: avoid reproducing with LVM as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:30 PM
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There's tons of statistics surrounding kids who grow up in single parent households and none of them are good- those same statistics can be applied to two parent households where one of them is abusive, or simply uninvolved. I am usually very suspicious of studies that claim that any non-conventional families (single, gay couples, etc) do far worse than the average nuclear. Some are accurate, but most claim causation when there is only indication of correlation ignoring many other factors involv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:07 AM
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True! I've always been kind of FDS-ish and ended many friendships in my 20s. I've never regretted it, but as you might expect I was accused of being "too harsh, too drastic, blah, blah". Now that I'm 31 some of those ex friends attempt to crawl back. No way, LV women don't really value friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:35 PM
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This! There a lot of codependent friendships specially among teenagers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:21 PM
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I don't understand why people told you blocking him is "weak". That means you just don't want to talk to him again. That's perfectly reasonable specially if he was a bad boyfriend. About waiting an apology...if it ever happens is not going to be sincere. Abusive people don't wake up one day and magically become better people. Hope is not your friend in this case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:15 PM
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I think some people use LAT or "poly" or anything "alternative" hoping it will rekindle a relationship that is already sinking. I don't think it can work that way, if she finds him annoying there's no point in being in a relationship to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:56 PM
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I don't think listening to your needs is ever selfish, imposing things on other people is. It feels like that because we've been conditioned to prioritise everybody before ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:52 PM
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during arguments, he kept on telling me to get out of HIS place What a jerk, really. I hate when people want to make others vulnerable, specially with basic stuff, like housing, food, etc. Good to know you live in a cool place now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:38 PM
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I've heard many older women are choosing LATs or similar. It makes sense. They probably cohabitated before and don't want to do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:31 PM
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I love Gillian Anderson, I didn't know she was in a LAT relationship. I'll watch that interview. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:29 PM
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That's so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:28 PM
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That is a very smart solution. I often suggest sleeping in different beds or bedrooms when my friends complain about different sleep patterns, different sensitivity to weather etc and they act like I'm crazy. Sleeping in the same bed is just a tradition, sleeping in different beds doesn't mean you love each other any less!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:25 PM
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Cuddling, having breakfast or any kind of quality time together is something you could totally do in LAT. I don't think it could fix relationships with LVM. Honestly, nothing can fix that. Relationships with LVM should be ended, period. It seems to me that, even when HVM and HVW are involved and the relationship is solid cohabitation still can be a source of stress for some people. That being said I can totally see why it wouldn't work for others. I am a massive introvert and I'm confortable and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:18 PM
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This reminded me of ¨Passive reciprocation¨. It is a term I heard Shallon Lester use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:07 PM
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I liked ¨Isn´t it romantic¨. That´s the only rom com that I can think of now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:57 PM
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I could see the broken hearts of my friends and classmates specially when the dads showed intermitent interest. I'm sorry to hear your dad wasn't worthy of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:56 PM
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I've just recently finished a KDrama called "Search WWW". The protagonists are 3 competent and fierce professional women. Total queens. The romance is there but not everything revolves around it. It was refreshing to watch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:54 PM
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My favourite quote by Cher was "I'm not a prude, I'm highly selective". Virgin shaming became more and more common since the 90s so it is still relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:05 PM
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Thanks! Single mums are in constant pressure to second-guess their decisions and not appreciated enough. You all rock, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:58 PM
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I heard a psychologist mention it is commonly related to an unresolved Electra's syndrome. And yes, the guy is just a temporary trophy, they want to hurt the other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:44 PM
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Because their ego loves being picked (or so they believe) over other women. Their ego blinds them and they care about ticking boxes more than actual happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:49 PM
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I remember finding RPW years ago, it lasted briefly. First, because it was too neocon for my taste but also because it was painfully obvious most of their men weren't "Captain" material at all. You know who could make the perfect "Captain"? a HVM, but no HVM is interested in controlling people to begin with. It is like asking a decent person to become a benevolent dictator. No good person wants to be a dictator to begin with. Wanting romantic relationships to be asymettric and static is problema…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:24 PM
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I find this place to be refreshing precisely because we can rant and be "tough love" freely. As women we are always policing ourselves to be soft and avoid hurting sensitivities - and that expectation comes from other women too. Some women feel entitled to other women's emotional labour. You have only one choice: contribute to their mental gymnastics otherwise you're being "unfriendly". And they even low-key disrespect the community by not following the rules. I also think the problem stems from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:14 PM
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Can confirm. I was on a language exchange website years ago and I received messages from: Indian or Arab men: Scammers or pervs obssesed with paleness. Others just after a greencard. They didn't read my profile, so they assumed I was American or European (I'm Argentinian). White supremacists: Looking for a white girl from a poorer nation because "feminism hasn't gone too far there". LOL, as if white women in Eastern Europe and LatAm are gonna be interested in an uneducated redneck (US) or pseudo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:39 PM
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I thought the same. This is an oasis of like minded women and I´m not going advertise it carelessly. I don´t think any of us would. They love living in a fantasy land where they punish women for whatever silly reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:14 PM
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Thanks! I´ve started this 2020 so I´m still finding ways to implement it. I got inspired by this image. --> https://images.app.goo.gl/hx4CbWKf1WWJoMmj7 I'm an introvert so a lot of meetings make me feel tired, but since I schedule them in the 3rd fase I've been noticing a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:36 AM
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Nothing ensures two good looking people will create good looking children. The same with intelligence. I think that, instead of beauty you should think in terms of attraction. Feromones, etc are very efficient in finding out who is genetically a good match for us. Sometimes you are attracted to people that are not conventionally beautiful but our bodies don´t lie. There must be a good coctail of DNA there if combined. I personally know an unattractive couple that has 4 children, all beautiful, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:23 AM
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I'm not religious myself either. Also I strongly dislike organized religions in particular. That being said, the religions that are more focused on nature and its cycles tend to be more female friendly. It is not casual so many young girls are now interested in Paganism or Wicca, etc. I think there is a wave of rediscovery of older traditions because they resemble -at least a little- of a matriarchal mindset. Without taking the religion part, it makes so much more sense to me to organize my time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:41 AM
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That sucks! I´m childfree and self-employed myself but my mother is a single mother and she received similar treatment, specially when I was a toddler and she was very young in her industry (she got pregnant at 22) For many rich or upper middle class women, getting a degree and a career is just a new expectation. Not very different from "my daughter plays the piano and speaks French so marry her" mentality. Unfortunately that makes things harder for people that really need or care about the jobs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:50 PM
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I noticed I've become more aware of where my money goes and try to best to support female owned business and female professionals. Same with compliments. Here's a warning though: If you are dealing with a stubborn pickme it backfires everytime. e.g. I have hired women that are very smart and talented, but didn't behave very profesionally because they prioritised the smallest family issue over important meetings. A couple of them replied to my enthusiasm for their products with "lower priority cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:18 PM
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There was a study about this a couple of years ago that I unfortunately can´t remember. The less attractive a guy is the more he will delude himself into thinking women are flirting with him. Attractive men read situations in a similar way to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:08 PM
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I second this! It was better than I expected too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:03 PM
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LVM men don't fall in love, so it's never the woman. It is conveniency, timing and especulation. HVM do fall in love, so it is the woman mainly but they consider every other thing as well. All of the few HVM I know have a strong sense of urgency and opportunity. They take decisions quickly in their professional and private lives. They also end things quickly if they see it is not working out. Here is the thing: They weren't actively looking for a wife. Marriage was some cloudy idea floating arou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:56 PM
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That's why I get low key offended when someone says I'm "marriage material". Only fuckboys use that as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:39 PM
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Just to add, nothing against interracial couples, just that I suspect the men's motives. Some probably prefer a local Bob the Builder to help then social climb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:29 PM
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Thanks! I'm going to add him to my reading list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:24 PM
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My friend with a pear shaped body left her religion and now that she dresses the way everyone else does she is treated as "slutty". I'm very thin and I'm infantilized by other women commenting on my small boobs. All these comments from pick-mes, not men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:22 PM
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Same, I was always told I was pretty and didn't believe them. Also I've always been very skinny and specially so in puberty and people were very afraid of anorexia at the time. I asumed they were concerned. I suspect some of those boys did like you and mocked you as a distracting tactique. I was mercilessly mocked by a boy in primary school and years later admitted he had a massive crush on me. Well, he made me hate him, so they start to cock-block themselves early, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:12 PM
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That's so interesting. Maybe older women perceive you as an ideal daugher/ daughter in-law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:01 PM
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Do most women in your area have a different style from yours? A friend of mine is very into fashion and gets those comments at uni because here in my country most college students are "bohemian/hippy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:57 PM
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I love your analogy. It makes perfect sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:43 PM
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Yes! Now that you mention that I remember a male coworker that had a hippy look (and therefore long hair) saying he was sometimes catcalled. I was shocked! He was a skinny dude but didn't look feminine at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:38 PM
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I'm not sure if they are really more attracted to it or it just gives them more "status" points and that's why they are more attracted to it, or convince themselves of that. I'm white myself in a country with mostly white people, I've seen a few black immigrant men married to average local white women while some female foreign students from their same countries look like top models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:36 PM
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Something they conveniently forget is that traditional Japanese housewives are supposed to have total control of the family money. The husband hands her all the salary and then she gives him some allowance. I´m not sure if this is still common practice or not but any person interested in Japanese culture enough has heard of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:21 PM
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I love this! Your wisdom reminded me of two comments: One Dita Von Teese made about lingerie. Not the exact words, but the general idea was:¨Wear it for you everyday and for you, and then if a man gets to witness that, lucky him. And you won´t feel awkward wearing it". Another made by a therapist from my country. When married women tell him "my husband never takes me out" He replies: You don't need to be taken out ma'am, you are not a dog to be walked. If doing fun things on your own becomes sec…
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