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Thanks and well said. I think something has stuck with me was that after starting this because I could I look and do something because it was solely what I wanted I could actually maybe for the first time ever give a gift from or through myself and have it actually be a gift, which was a powerful feeling. Overall I don’t feel quite as empty. Thanks for all your feedback and posts. You have given a lot to think about and process.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 08:54 PM
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Maybe I am burgeoning on my own existential crisis but is there no road where these can be resolved. Maybe the rules/social order sucks because they were created by men and women. I guess I’ll explore this more my next OYS and it is probably steeped in my own blue pill (pussy faggy shit of my own) for some greater need for order, but I even think with all of this that I’m dealing with that maybe there is something here why I was placed with my own challenges with my wife, trauma, or what the fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 07:30 PM
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< That is why (to my surprise) I am now on Day 8 of no porn/masturbation (versus my normal habit of multiple times daily), although I have hardly received any attention from my wife over the last couple of weeks.> < My progress has been in being able to have my wife not provide it and yet this no longer leaves me wishing I wasn't alive.> Good job man that is a weighty fucking thing. As, I am finding out for myself nobody else can ever shovel enough dirt in that hole to to fill it. It has to come…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 02:45 PM
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You are welcome. I’d also recommend adding pull-ups to your routine, as it will help you build your lats and give you a nice v-taper. Some other stuff that was told to me that was helpful was to spend about a second on the concentric phase of a lift and 2 seconds of the eccentric phase of the lift (probably not needed with squats/deadlifts)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 02:28 PM
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Yeah, I was open about it and trying to implement maybe something akin to cocky confidence with a helping of STFU. I did not want to come across as a Whiney bitch like I normally am and figure if I had to debate it I would steer into DEER territory, and lose like I always have. So I took my shot by and punched above my weight. While I did not succeed I was (was going to say not at all but It isn’t true. I did think I would have OI but got undone by my ego and confidence) minimally butthurt by th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 07:07 AM
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Yeah, well at least you have some insight here. If you just give up masterbation/porn and do not make any others changes you are at risk of becoming like a dry drunk. You know that a deficiency of too much time and not enough positive activities to fill it with is not good (which is baffling with 7 fucking kids). It might be a good time to take inventory of what pornography/masterbation was doing for you and tackling those issues, as it just likely a symptom of bigger underlying issue. For me it…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 06:09 AM
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< Last night I tried to push OHP to 100. Got through 2x5 before I failed. Moved back down to 95 and could only get one or two reps at a time. Quit OHP, moved into DL then came back to OHP after. Was able to push 95 for the remaining 9 reps. Feels similar in my other lifts, especially bench. I try the next weight, fail, and then can't finish the weight I've cleared before. Then, after moving on and coming back, I can push the cleared weight easily for well over 5 reps> How much time are giving yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 12:57 AM
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This is really good thanks for the feedback. Given me some good suggestions to empower myself in this part of the process for my next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 08:32 PM
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QFT. Worst case he joins the AA equivalent for dudes because he can’t get his wife to fuck him and maybe meets some guys who help mentor and get his life back on track then (how is that for projection). Just fight for him and be there and he will know. That strength comes through and you are modeling it for him now whether you know it or not. <I am willing to nuke it all at anytime just to be congruent to who I am. I am his father. Sometimes nuking it all can test your congruency as you hover ov…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 08:23 PM
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Kids are smart man, they can eventually see the through the bullshit. There is only so much a mom can say, before they realize that the image she paints is not congruent with the man they know. If anything it backfires on them eventually (not that that is even your concern). At some point regardless of what she does he will turn 18 and be able to decide who wants in his life and it is hard to turn away positive energy. Growing up around just women I’d like to say it is fine, but after reading my…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 08:11 PM
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Thanks, I can see how this problematic in the same way that making myself responsible for my wife’s emotions has been in the past. I have no control over this and If I base actions based on results that I can’t control well that isn’t good. I would be lying if I said that I don’t want this area of my life to improve though, and am struggling to identify goals in lieu of this that are measurable. Any thoughts or feedback to help or guide me here?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 05:02 PM
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I don’t think so. Here is a link to a compiling of all his previous posts. Most are pretty good https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/88mbvb/quick_links_for_all_of_jacktenofhearts_posts/
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 02:41 AM
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Sure I can see that as a small win. During my wife’s second pregnancy I hardly ever made a move on her because I thought that was she wanted (nice guy, king of the pussbois). She later disclosed to me that for a month she was finger banging herself everyday. I was super butthurt about it and like a huge big pussboi faggot threw a fit. I look back now how huge of mistake this was. Had I initiated not like a pussy I could have been having sex. Had I embraced what was disclosed to me later it could…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 12:37 AM
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Edit-I have been banned for a long time. More evidence that I need to learn just to STFU and stop my validation seeking ways and focus on my own issues. OYS # 4 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 200 lbs body fat percentage ~17% Lifts OHP 90 lbs x8 Pull-up bodyweight x11-12 Squat 190x8 Bench press 170x8 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 125x8 Sidebar: reading WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 10:27 PM
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< But then something happened that I, at the time, thought was really fucked up. In January I tried lining sex up for later in the evening with a text. I said, believing she wants to get asked instead of told, “on a scale of 1-10 how would you like to have out of the box sex tonight?” “0-1 lol” was the response. Okay, really shitty but that’s what I get for 1-texting and 2-asking her what she wants instead of telling her what I want. That night when I get home I see that she got her vibrator out…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 07:56 PM
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Do you know what type of testing was done for your free T? More than likely the testing used uses an algorithm to get an estimate for free T similar to how egfr is an estimate of kidney function based an creatinine equation. This means it might not be all that accurate. Equilibrium Dialysis will give you the most accurate results for free testosterone. On the positive side, most testing of free testosterone using an algorithm comes in lower than the more accurate testing, I believe.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 03:26 PM
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Sounds like humor as ego protection, but you owned the underlying that motivated it now. I’m sure a mix a denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are all in conflux just own those; as there is strength in that. Also, maybe switch to NIN and get jacked like Reznor did.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 05:36 PM
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I’m Not sure of This is a joke, but This is why I don’t cap the ends of my barbells so if shit goes south you can just let the weights slide off one side and then drop it on the other. You were lucky this on the bench press and not the squat.
/r/askMRP25/02/21 08:01 PM
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This is really good I want this level authenticity in the entirety of my relationship. Being man enough that someone can relax their own ego enough to just be comfortable being themselves around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:12 PM
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<My wife has a hobby that bores the shit out of me; for the last fifteen years I've grudgingly participated, but this week I told her I'm not doing it anymore. She started complaining about quality time so I pointed out that if she wants quality time, find something we both like to do. She came up empty. Honestly I did too. It doesn't seem like we have much in common.> I have been thinking about things like this as well. Perhaps this is an opportunity for us to be men and lead. Seek out new adve…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 07:59 PM
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Thanks, I think I am about there and it sounds promising because it sounds like freedom. freedom from my own self-imposed guilt and the ability to be just be myself. I won’t be able to be manipulated by my partner taking off her rings or sleeping in another room (threat of abandonment) because in the end I was always alone and will be okay. I made the comment in my OYS about saying I wanted her lips around my cock and in that moment I was owning/taking back a part of myself I had buried/hidden. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:01 PM
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OYS # 3 Me: 33 years. Wife 33. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 198 lbs body fat percentage ~17% Lifts OHP 80 lbs x8 Pull-up bodyweight Squat 150x8 > 180x8 Bench press 140x8 > 165x8 Barbell row- chest support with upright bench- 115x8 Sidebar: reading WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP Listened to various Rian Stone videos including those on WISNIFG and NMMNG. Have been reviewing posts archive from Jack10ofhearts. Mission: Unfu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 02:12 PM
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Yeah this is a good question. bipolar d/o can be overly diagnosed. He mentions some history of trauma which with females has high comorbidity of complex PTSD symptoms (ie. traits of, or full blown borderline personailty d/o). Extreme mood swings tend be more indicative of personality d/o than bipolar d/o. However, it is possible to have both then you are really stepping in it. Regardless both will likely require psychotherapy and medications for her which he can’t control. All you can do is set …
/r/askMRP12/02/21 02:19 PM
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Yes, true enough. I am working on this. I am going through the day to day with more of conscious effort of looking at my decision making from a perspective of is this what I actually want to do or not. I wanted to put a boundary in place when she was outright manipulative with the “I don’t get what I want you don’t get what you want” comment but was not really sure what would have been appropriate, perhaps just withdrawing attention from that moment on. I Struggle with the boundary setting becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 05:55 PM
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You are right I was a big bitch. I keep moving forward and backsliding. I think I might have chewed off more than I was ready for with no fap and no porn, after a few weeks I started to feel like I was coming out of my skin. The plus side is I’m starting to feel some genuine desire; however, with it has come these Intense desires to be sexual dominating that are kind of dark for me and I have not fully assimilated for myself. Given my history of trauma it is like I don’t trust myself to have pow…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 12:54 AM
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OYS # 2 Me: 33 years. Wife 32. Married 8 years, together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd child. 6’2” 197 lbs body fat percentage ~17% Lifts OHP 80 lbs x8 Pull-up bodyweight (was experimenting with trying to lean back more on movement) Squat 150x8 Bench press 140x8 Barbell row- now chest chest-supported using upright bench in a goal to work on better form 85lbsx8 Sidebar: reading WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP Listened to various Rian Stone videos including tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 12:04 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I need to kill my ego and all my validation seeking behaviors. I also need to build a solid frame. I want to become the oak and have my dad’s strength in that sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/21 03:53 PM
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Thanks, however I was a mess last year going what was probably some equivalent of Rambo. I think I flipped from passive beta to paper alpha male with the bad ego investment in it. so I don’t wonder if I have not squandered the weight loss or passive dread I earned from this period, if that is even possible. Things came to a head in Oct with with an explosive fight where I said I felt like I was done and then things got better afterwards for November and Dec before totally tanking again in Jan at…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/21 03:34 PM
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Thanks for the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 10:01 PM
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OYS#1 Me: 33 years. Wife 32 years. Married 8 years together 13 years. 2 children under 10. Wife currently pregnant with our 3rd 6’2” 196 lbs body fat percentage 17% Lifts OHP 85 – 8 reps Pull-up bodyweight + 8 lbs- 8 reps Squat- 145- 10 reps Bench press- 135x10 reps Barbell row 85x8 reps (might need to go down on weight to better form) Sidebar: Reading WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, and MAP Listening to riant Stone videos on some of the above sources Been reading a lot of jack10hearts archived posts I p…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 11:34 PM
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