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Once again you're generalizing and projecting your jealousy by being ignorant. I don't get going out your way to shame men who go abroad? The guys who go abroad and then shame American women are also in the wrong. Not denying that there are plenty of creepy guys who go abroad but the numbers are greatly exaggerated
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:55 PM
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Yeah of course not, you're generalizing all of those women because you're jealous for some reason. Not every woman is waiting by an airport. There's a millions of women in these countries and not at all of them do that. Some are genuine and looking to date. Also, not every guy goes to poor countries, a lot of men go to Europe, South America, or elsewhere. I personally know a few guys who have happy relationships with women from other countries. Sorry to break the news, but these guys aren't bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:34 PM
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The options for women in the US are generally pretty good and they won't find anything better overseas since they'll be the ones footing the bill. No foreign guy who is wealthy is going to date an American woman. For men, it makes sense. Men are stuck being the providers in the US, so they might as well go abroad and find a hot woman and still be a provider. If women could gain something by going abroad, they absolutely would. The options women have in the US can't really be beat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:09 PM
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Interesting, I live in America. Are your friends attractive and what are their average age? Most women I meet with insane body counts are in their late 20s to 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:10 PM
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That's a stereotype. Not every woman in those countries are like that. Personally, I think going abroad is viable for some guys and I know a couple guys in happy relationships. Dating as an average guy is incredibly frustrating from what I've seen in America. Id say I'm a fair bit above average and have plenty of options and dating in America is still hit or miss. It sucks for those men who have to wait around and work extremely hard in life only to settle for some woman with a high N count
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:30 PM
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It also helps that I'm attractive and put together so most overlook it too. I imagine an average guy saying that might have a different result.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:11 PM
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That's fine. Fortunately I've met women who don't care. Seems only the high N count ones care in my experience. Interestingly enough women actually liked that I had certain views on it because I also don't have a high count. It's pretty important I don't get stuck with a high N count woman and waste my time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:08 PM
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I'm chill with them ghosting me as long as I'm not stuck with them. It's not misogynistic, women love to say this. Is it misandrist that a woman wants a rich man, tall man, etc.? Men and women value different things. Keep in mind I don't sleep around either but want a long term relationship. High N count women are out of the question. There's plenty of guys who love sleeping around too they can get with
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:07 PM
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They absolutely could lie. You're telling me a woman would lie and risk getting into a long term relationship with a guy who would be turned off by her N count? The real number would be revealed and I dumped an ex for that reason. It's not unhinged. Those women who don't sleep around don't care. Women like yourself are triggered because you feel entitled to date and do whatever you want. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:57 PM
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I literally ask them early on what their count is lol. I also tell them I wouldn't date a woman who has a certain amount. Never had any major issues. It's not bizarre. I just don't want to date a high N count woman. Plenty of other guys who don't care who also enjoy sleeping around
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:52 PM
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Lol, I knew this would trigger some people. Not an incel. I don't sleep around so not a hypocrite either. Just don't date high N count women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:46 PM
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I've seen that quoted but I am extremely skeptical. There must be a ton of women and men with counts of 0 bringing the average down or something. Most women I encounter have counts well above 20 or even 50+ and it's extremely discouraging. I've never encountered a woman with a count of less than 7. Where do I find those types?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:41 PM
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Bodycount for me is one of the biggest dealbreakers. I value sex differently and it makes 0 sense for me to settle for a woman with a N count who has slept around a ton. For me personally I'd rather date an average woman with a low count than an extremely attractive woman with a high count. Keep in mind I'm not some bitter incel. I have plenty of options but am waiting for a woman who hasn't slept around. Id honestly rather date abroad and be a passport bro than settle on this. As far as what's …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:24 PM
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False. You can have a smaller sample size and draw a conclusion, that's how research is done. For me, I've seen enough to where I don't need millions of data points. Once again, that's false. I've seen my friends' profiles and the publicly made profiles on the hinge sub. The comparable woman would have 100x the likes. I'm a different case, I only date for a long term relationship and don't like hooking up. I don't mind not having sex. My buddies are a little different but they certainly aren't i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:05 PM
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False. You can go to the hinge sub and you'll see profiles from attractive men with very little luck. I know friends who had no luck and they are attractive and successful. Also success on the apps isn't defined as getting a couple mediocre matches scraping the bottom of the barrel. Ideally success will mean having multiple options that you actually like. Your last statement is also false. At what frequency are they? What types of women (below their standards)? In a relationship or hooking up? M…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:45 PM
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What would you say the bad advice is? Id also like to add that this is where the passport bro stuff can come into play. These men can avoid those types of women I described and find someone they genuinely like and a past they can accept. I have no problems dating myself but I'd much rather go abroad than settle for a promiscuous American woman. My goal is to find an American woman with similar values and if not, I'm going abroad. Keep in mind I'm not a loser or an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:39 PM
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Most guys aren't delusional and they'd be happy with most average women. Let's take dating apps for example; those men on there even attractive men get very little attention and usually the likes they get are from unattractive women. These men actually have the opposite issue, they greatly underestimate their looks now. Let's take your average woman now or even unattractive woman. They have numerous options which includes many attractive men way out of their league. You're telling me in these 2 …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:34 PM
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Western Women are absolutely jealous and insecure. It's why they desperately portray passport bros as ugly and undesirable but that's 100% false. My buddy went abroad and he's a lawyer. He can get with most any woman when he goes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:21 PM
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I think many men are upset because they wait around and work to be successful in life only to have to settle for a woman who has slept with 100s of men who are far more attractive. It's tough on the confidence id imagine for many guys. Obviously most women are nowhere near the level of the guys they hookup with so they'll eventually have to settle for someone in their league for an actual relationship. Most guys don't want to be that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:20 PM
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That's what women say all the time. Why is it bad that men want to have sex with a woman they're actually attracted to? Why is it ok for women to have sex with guys way out of their league but men can't prefer someone within their league?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:13 PM
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That's false. Most guys have absurdly low standards for sex. My buddy who is extremely attractive would have sex with women I wouldn't touch. Women hate to admit, but average guys do struggle to have sex with anyone. It's really not a big deal, that's just how it is. It's a no brainer a woman would choose to have sex with a model over an average guy. Guys would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:12 PM
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Let's be real here, if you could have sex with a bunch of super models, would you settle for some average woman? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:09 PM
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Here's my take on this. The majority of women are average when it comes to sex. For me it's not worth hooking up and sleeping around especially since I'm only truly attracted to a small amount of women. Id rather improve my life, do my hobbies, and enjoy life in general. As I do that, I won't have to settle for a woman who is way below my standards. Most guys don't think like this, but the quality of sex is much much more important than quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:06 PM
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That's just the vibe I get when dating especially on those apps where they flat out demand various resources from a guy in their profile. If a man is going to have to spend a bunch of money on an average American woman, why not go abroad and also spend a bunch of money on a far more attractive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:01 PM
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You know what, I can actually agree with you on that. It's a mixture of both. Its a vicious cycle. Men with no standards being simps which then inflate a woman's ego and the cycle repeats itself. I'm glad I've never stooped to the level of being a simp. It's something I pride myself on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:46 PM
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Yes especially if the guy is put together. Id say the woman can certainly sleep around easier but for an actual relationship the 28 year old guy has more options if both are equal in attractiveness. If we're going by the ability to hookup with random people a woman will almost always have options. This brings me to my second point. If in fact a 28 year old woman has more options dating wise than a guy at the same level, it makes sense why men go abroad to expand their options. Women aren't bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:41 PM
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Not every guy who goes overseas is overweight and ugly. Some are yes, but not all. For some men it's worth it to find an attractive woman who is primarily after his resources rather than settle for an average woman. Let's be real here though, many American women settle for rich guys just because of their money even though the guy is overweight. I see many doctors for example who fit into this category.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:31 PM
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So wouldn't it make sense for a guy to date abroad if they don't align with their culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:18 PM
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So you're saying your method is more efficient than swiping through 100s of profiles in a matter of minutes? It's definitely not more efficient. And yes, many guys are worried about having kids. There's nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:02 PM
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How else am I going to know what a woman in her 30s and is dating looks like. Dating apps provide a good sample. No way am I going to see 100s of women out in public, know their exact age, and intentions. Tell me a better method. Yes many guys are worried about having kids and they want to increase their chances of that. An older woman decreases that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:39 PM
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I'm not sure if you've been on a dating app but the options get a lot worse as you set the age filter to 30+. Don't get me wrong, there's still lots of attractive women in their 30s but it's not the norm. Same could be said of men. A lot of men don't date old women either if they want kids regardless of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:23 PM
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We don't know exactly how the numbers were derived or for what type of guy. Regardless the general idea is that men are more desirable than women as they get older. This has certainly been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:53 PM
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I wouldn't call them, 'outliers' as you stated. It's common enough that it warrants discussion but isn't the norm. There's a reason for all of these fantasies and classic storylines. They didn't just pop into someone's mind. They happen quite a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:41 PM
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For men, the woman hitting the wall at 30 and them having unlimited options is one extreme. The other extreme is women who slept around in their 20s dating drug addicts and is a waitress thinking she'll settle for some rich attractive man when she gets old
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:39 PM
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Based on my personal experience id say this graph is accurate. I'm fortunate enough that I worked hard and took care of myself. Now that I'm older I have tons of options, can date younger women, and have had good success. I'm just looking for a long term partner though so I'm taking my time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:36 PM
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So why aren't women going abroad or finding better guys? No one's forcing women to be with those undesirable guys you're describing. Let's be real here, those women don't bring anything to the table and are stuck with guys like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:33 PM
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Not necessarily. I know more than a few guys who peaked in HS and college. They could get with tons of women. Now for some odd reason they look like garbage and live a pretty mediocre life in comparison. Conversely there are some guys who worked hard in their 20s, were introverted, and now do well with dating. Generally I'd say you're correct though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:32 PM
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There is a certain element of truth to it though. It's not like it's some made up fantasy. Probably somewhere in the middle is the actual truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:29 PM
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If American men were so bad, why aren't women doing the passport bro thing. It's mainly men doing it. Women are perfectly content dating American men and there's plenty of good options for women in America. If not, they'd go abroad like men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:24 PM
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Ok then, keep your standards high and don't settle for a guy with a high N count either. My male friends who are promiscuous are constantly hooking up and their relationships never last. They'll cheat frequently and it's painful to see. Keep in mind these guys are in their 30s-40s still engaging in this behavior. I'm going to be harsh but these guys are permanently damaged and people rarely change.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:37 PM
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Yeah I'm not proud of a lot of the stuff I see in America. It's hard for you to understand, but the dating culture in the US is drastically different than a lot of places. The whole passport bro thing didn't just materialize out of thin air. There's a reason behind it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:34 PM
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If you're doing all of those things you'll be fine. Just keep your standards high and find a respectable guy. Keep in mind there's plenty of guys who love sleeping around too who don't care about a woman's N count. If you want to go that route that's always an option too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:31 PM
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Don't get me wrong, I love dating American women too and I personally wouldn't go abroad yet, but can definitely see the appeal in it. I'm just stating my opinion on American women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:29 PM
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I think so too, but regardless I've seen both scenarios work out just fine many times among friends I know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:05 PM
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Lots of young men are leaving the US for other reasons too. Dating is just the tip of the iceberg. It's just way too expensive here. Why would a guy date an expensive woman in the US when he can date a much hotter and less demanding abroad. A green card is far cheaper than what US women demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:57 PM
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If I'm being 100% blunt, those older women aren't as desirable and most guys would prefer to date younger. Having used the apps, I don't see many women in their 30s who are attractive enough for me to date. It's not that they aren't attractive solely due to their age but that they don't take care of themselves. Id much rather date a woman in her 30s who is attractive and takes care of herself than a woman in her 20s who is also attractive but is aging badly. Another issue I find among older wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:55 PM
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Lol Asian and black women are different. It's a lot of white women who age like milk. I work with some Asian women in their 50s and even 60s who are very attractive still. A white woman at that age looks awful mainly because they don't take care of themselves. Just a Karen
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:49 PM
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Many men wait until they're older to have kids to enjoy their life a bit longer. Most of my male friends had kids around 38. If you're a guy you'd ideally want to date a woman for a few years and get married before having kids. There's a certain age where dating a woman doesn't make any sense anymore. But I agree, those traits are heavily valued. I much much rather a date an older woman with a low body count than a much more attractive younger woman with a high N count.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:46 PM
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I personally don't see the big deal going abroad to find a partner. Most women in the US are looking for resources from a man just like those women abroad. Why would a guy settle for an overweight woman in the US who is demanding and wants his resources, when he can find a much more attractive woman in another country who also expects something in return like a green card. It's just a smart dating decision. I get why women shame these men because they're jealous but it's a no brainer for these g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:44 PM
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That's definitely false. There comes an age when it doesn't make sense dating a woman if you want kids for example. Id say 33 is a good cutoff. Any older is tricky. If you date a woman older than that and want kids, she'll be fairly old once you're ready to have kids. Most of the women I know who are older who wanted kids struggled immensely. A guy with options would be smart not to risk that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:32 PM
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It's an easy solution, don't tolerate that behavior and don't date those types of women. Let them know too that you're not into it. There's no shame in not wanting to date someone who have behaviors you don't align with. Women will complain and say otherwise to guilt trip you. Don't let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:50 AM
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I had a decent glow up and I'm pretty attractive now. I can act like a total autist and women still are into me. I don't have to initiate things as much, I don't have to put in as much effort as an average guy, and there's just a lot more wiggle room. It's rare that women make me wait a long time for sex and they almost always initiate everything pretty fast although I personally would rather wait and I don't date promiscuous women. If a woman wanted to sleep or hookup with me on first date, I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:04 AM
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Very few older women are 'milfs' though. It's not that women aren't necessarily a lot more unattractive when they get older, it's just that in the US most women let themselves go quite badly. Same goes for men. You don't need money to look good either. A lot of people who shop at whole foods look like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:59 AM
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Im a guy who has dated many women and that's my experience and that's even with filtering out obvious gold diggers or entitled ones. Even the most independent feminist women don't offer to pay. I guess I don't mind paying for the first date or 2 but I absolutely despise it. It's not even the issue about money since I make good money. Just the principle of the thing. I'm enough of a catch too that I don't believe I should be stuck paying. I feel obligated to pay though and even when a woman offer…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:13 PM
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Yeah a lot of guys don't want to wait. I'm personally the opposite and would like to wait but certainly not waiting for a woman who's slept around with a high N count or has a FWB. Those guys who value waiting want a woman who does the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:48 PM
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Im trying my best to avoid those types but it's incredibly common. It's not even your stereotypical promiscuous women either. Even normal women do this. I usually just ask on date 1
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 06:10 PM
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It helps me get through the day at work. I know it bothers you knowing a Chad is in here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:01 PM
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Show me proof of many interactions of women using this term appropriately. Usually I get called an incel when I say I don't date promiscuous women, criticize their behaviors, rude women, hypocrisy, double standards, etc. incel is the go to insult. I'm genuinely not even being misogynistic although I have been somewhat critical of high N count women sometimes I'll admit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:00 PM
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I am a 666 Chad though believe it or not, just slight autism and work from home so I use reddit to troll and vent. My buddy who's also pretty well off in life also uses reddit to troll and vent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:56 PM
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Show me proof that most women are using incel in an appropriate manner. It's all anecdotes and obviously there are no research studies where there's proof of any of this stuff. Women mostly use the term incel whenever they get criticized and there is no way to refute it. Screaming incel is there last ditch effort. Why are men hated for being sexually inactive then? They're not doing anything wrong. Some may be frustrated, some by choice. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:37 PM
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Ok, so you would definitely would take advantage if you knew you didn't have to give anything back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:33 PM
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Interesting, why do you have those standards? The vast majority of women take advantage and have a guy pay for everything. Why are you willingly throwing away your privilege to take advantage of a guy? I find that admirable and there aren't many women like yourself out there. You sound like a catch personality wise
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:25 PM
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There's another insult that's thrown around, 'misogynistic'. In my opinion that one is often overused especially when any type of criticism is directed at a woman even if it's 100% valid. You go to a female sub and they say tons of the same stuff but no one calls them misandrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:23 PM
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You'd still prefer a rich guy over a poor guy all things considered equal. The provider thing is kinda niche in the 21st century. As a side note, I absolutely cringe at the whole provider thing. There's a reason why only a few guys actually get attention on dating apps. The few men women are competing for are considered a catch pretty universally. The guys in the middle have some niche things that a woman will be attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:21 PM
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Usually it's when you make any criticism of a woman even if it's 100% valid. I feel like the incel insult is losing its bite when they call every single guy one even if they aren't. It does highlight how shaming men for not having sex is their go to insult though. There are some guys who absolutely are frustrated so it probably stings a little more just like how high count women get angry when you call them out on it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:15 PM
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Id have to agree. Personally though I'd never date a woman who works in those stressful fields though. I don't date most doctors, lawyers, or finance types. They are just too busy and it defeats the point of a relationship. Usually end up cheating too at some point. I have a good work life balance so that's what I'm looking for. I don't need a luxurious life either. Absolutely wouldn't date a bartender, waitress, nurse, teacher, or barista. Somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:13 PM
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I don't really see women shaming men for being a virgin apart from the overused, 'incel' insult they throw around in any type of argument. I've been called an incel numerous times despite not even being close to one. Usually women shame men for being broke, bald, short, or having a small wang. Most of those things are a negative just like how women with a high N count, single moms, old, unattractive are etc... Men and women value different things at the end of the day so their tactics to shame t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:10 PM
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I see where you're coming from, but that's a small part. People can universally agree on who is a catch and who isnt. A guy who is kind, respectful, listens, attractive, tall , rich, etc. is a catch. Almost any woman would love to be with a guy like that. It goes along a spectrum but what people consider a catch vs not a catch is pretty standard. The compatibility part also comes into play but in my opinion that stuff that almost always be worked out
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:37 PM
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Yeah it's disgusting. Most women get furious if you call them out on it because they know it's gross too. They wouldn't tolerate a guy doing that. They claim there's nothing wrong with doing that but the main issue is that they try to hide it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:36 PM
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Exactly, I also see this on dating apps. I overheard my female friends complaining they can't find anyone on the apps despite having 1000s of likes. Meanwhile my buddy who is a successful lawyer and very charismatic gave up and deleted the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:35 PM
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It depends on which thread you see, there's one that rates every woman at the exact same number which is weird. All of the others though greatly inflate a woman's ego. No one calls an attractive celebrity mid other than some random bitter guys in an echo chamber. But guess what, looks are subjective! I might think a woman is attractive and another guy may think she's ugly. I'm usually attracted to a type of woman who isn't necessarily the conventional type
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:23 PM
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How is me having preferences for what I want to date warped? I don't have harsh ratings. It's subjective and it's just my view. I do have attractive women wanting to date me. It seems whenever a man has a preference, he has, 'warped views' and there's something wrong with them. Absolutely no issues with a woman wanting a tall attractive rich man with a massive wang though. Sorry, I don't date average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:16 PM
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I'm dating serious and I've encountered women who actively have a FWB while dating seriously. It's absolutely comical that these women go home and have sex with some guy while supposedly trying to date you intentionally. As a guy you have to put in the effort, get to know her, plan dates, pay for them only for her to go home to her FWB right after a date?? It's gross. For this reason I only date women who don't do this or sleep around. They'll try to be deceptive about it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:06 PM
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Exactly in the same boat. I don't mind waiting for months as long as she doesn't have a FWB and isn't sleeping around. Most women get so mad about this but it's just a respect thing. Most guys just want someone who has consistent standards and shows they respect and are interested in them especially when finding a LTR... For hookups I could see how a guy would be mad if he had to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:03 PM
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Men absolutely do have standards but most are willing to settle. For casual sex, they'll absolutely drop those standards to the ground for example On those threads it's quite the opposite. Many women who are average have thirsty men inflating their egos. Even with OF I see a lot of unattractive women making tons of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:00 PM
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Why is a dead bedroom the guy's fault on reddit? If a guy has trouble getting an erection, he's got medical issues or a porn addict. Has anyone ever thought that maybe the woman he's with is ugly and obese? I myself have extremely high standards and I absolutely cannot have sex with a woman who isn't very attractive, it just doesn't work. If they don't meet a certain standard I cannot get an erection and I have 0 sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:58 PM
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No one truly settles in the dating market. Its only in their minds that they think they are. For some reason everyone who claims they are settling are actually far far worse than their partner. It's just an issue of a lack of self awareness. If you can't attract the people you truly want, you're not good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:52 PM
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Here's the most interesting part though. Those women who are complaining about their men, aren't the best catch either (most of the times they're the problem). It seems people have 0 self awareness of what they could actually get dating wise. I'm sorry to say, but if you had to settle, you're not a catch yourself and you're stuck with what you could get on the dating market. All these women and men are walking around like they're Hollywood celebrities thinking they're entitled to someone out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:49 PM
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It's not necessarily about having sex on the first date. It's just a respect thing that people aren't getting around here. It's just gross and it's truly bizarre people in here are intentionally trying to act like it isn't when they know it is. As a guy I have plenty of options for dating and I don't date women who do that. If a guy like yourself wants to date a woman while she goes to her FWB after each date, more power to you. Some men don't have options, so they have to tolerate it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:44 PM
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Most guys end up settling for women they don't like. Welcome to the real world. Same goes for many women. Never said that sex is the only goal. This is for a relationship. If a guy just wanted sex he wouldn't care if a woman was doing that. A guy isn't going to wait multiple dates just to have sex unless he's extremely desperate. It is disrespectful to date someone intentionally while also sleeping with someone else. You refused to answer my question on it which is telling and most people would …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:37 PM
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Maybe dilemma isn't the most accurate wording depending on the situation.The obvious choice would be to not date those types of women. For many guys without options though, they would face a dilemma. Do you they risk losing a potential option or do they stick it out with a woman who is having sex with some other guy while they pay and plan all the dates. Keep in mind it's not even guaranteed they'll get into a relationship For you, it's not a big deal if a guy is sleeping with another woman whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:19 PM
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I know what a FWB is. It is a dilemma because it's disrespectful especially when you find out too late. I know you'd be ok with that type of scenario but I wouldn't. I also find it interesting you'd plan and pay for dates and then be ok with the guy going to have sex with his FWB after.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:03 PM
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Ok, so if you were dating a guy seriously would you be ok if he went to his FWB after each date to have sex? You were also paying for the date too and planned it I get you'd be ok with that scenario but I definitely wouldn't. I don't have to date those types of women. There's plenty who don't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:00 PM
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I'm sorry to burst your bubble but those guys are equally bad. Why do guys throw each other under the bus. Knowingly ruining someone's marriage? Most guys are pathetic and hypocrites. Men complain about women, but men shoot each other in the foot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:43 PM
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You don't have to settle for a woman in your 30s. Take your time and date around. You have time to figure things out. If you don't like what a woman has done with her past, don't date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:40 PM
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I'm glad you're consistent with your reasoning. Some people are hypocritical when it comes to dating but then they complain the loudest when they're judged.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:35 PM
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I personally disagree. Would you date a guy seriously, while he went home after each date and had sex with his FWB? Personally I think it's gross and disrespectful. Other people like yourself may be ok with that scenario and that's totally valid but I'm personally not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:34 PM
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I agree and I usually don't consider them as options but the real issue is that they usually keep it vague and do t disclose that information. Is it hypocritical when a woman wants a guy who makes more money than her?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:27 PM
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I think it's a bit hypocritical and kinda gross. I actually prefer when women want to wait before getting intimate, but a lot of these women have FWBs and are sleeping with multiple other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:05 PM
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So here's an interesting dilemma that I've encountered. Women who make the guy wait for sex but then they have a FWB. What's your take on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:47 PM
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Even the most delusional entitled women aren't this bad lol. You must be a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:48 AM
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Lol 100% false. The average ones are the ones who get pumped and dumped most of the time. Men have low standards for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:20 PM
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Once the honeymoon phase of the relationship starts to wear off he'll definitely start to resent her once he realizes there are better women out there. Any mistake she makes will further reinforce that. There's no room for error with that single mom. I think long term and wonder if id be happy with a woman. The vast majority of the time it's a no. Id be happy at the start but definitely not long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:09 AM
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People need to be honest about what they bring to the table. I see so many saying they're raising their standards but they're actually a wreck and don't bring anything to the table. I wouldn't feel good with myself if I got with a woman way out of my league so I improve myself to get to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:26 AM
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Would you feel comfortable knowing you're with someone way out of your league or would you rather be with someone who is also compatible that is within your league?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:15 AM
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Women would survive but as you stated most of the infrastructure and jobs you take for granted would quickly fall apart. I'm a guy and even I wouldn't want to deal with half that stuff. Even among men, only a certain type are capable of dealing with that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:08 AM
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People say they don't want to settle despite them not bringing anything to the table. If you're shooting for a partner way out of your league, that other person would be chained to a millstone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:58 PM
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If you raise your standards too much the other partner is going to feel like they're settling. That single mom may bag a guy way out of her league but over time that guy is going to get hit on by far more attractive and desirable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:56 PM
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We're talking about 2 completely different scenarios and you're not seeing where I'm coming from. I get what you're trying to say and agree but for some reason you're misinterpreting what I'm saying. I don't know if I can make it more clear for you...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 08:57 PM
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Unfortunately we need people in the rat race to keep society running. There's no way to live a comfortable life without grinding especially if you're a man. If you live a comfortable life you're doing better than a lot of the people in the US. Those people at the bottom in the US are way way above those in other countries. As you stated we could improve the quality of life of people here in the US but it's complicated with many variables at play. I guess I was used to many setbacks in life so ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:34 PM
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That's good and I'm the same way. There's a difference though in what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:06 PM
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If you need money to win over a women, they'll probably leave you anyways and don't truly love you. Rather than try to get with a really attractive woman with money, why not get with an average woman who is more loyal and actually loves you??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:33 PM
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If you think working 40hrs per week in an office is a rat race, I've got news for you. Imagine being in a 3rd world country starving and having no water lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:31 PM
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You'd be surprised how delusional and oblivious these old men are lol. They sometimes have no idea they're an ATM. I personally would rather get with a woman who is with me not for money but many rich guys would rather just purchase a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:25 PM
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I am a guy who gets approached by women and I'd say a very specific type of confident woman approaches which I love. The more bland attractive women who are entitled aren't what I'm attracted to personally
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:21 PM
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I actually don't think this is the case necessarily. Average women aren't going to approach extremely attractive guys. Most women can't handle rejection well psychologically. Men usually are more open to dating down and lowering their standards a lot so there is a chance though that an average woman would get a number from an attractive guy if he just wanted sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:19 PM
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Yeah you're not getting the point and are thinking of a completely different scenario. Completely misunderstanding where I'm coming from but I see your mistake These guys aren't couples, they'll bail and ditch their friends even at the prospect of dating a woman. Cancelling plans, being flakey, etc. I get its different when they're already a couple or dating and they focus on their partner. That's perfectly reasonable and that's not what I'm arguing against. For me personally if I've made plans …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 08:24 PM
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What happens if that you'll have plans for example and they'll ditch or bail last minute. They may throw you under the bus in other ways because they are desperate. They'll start to become flakey, ignore you, and just let the friendship fall apart. Don't even get me started on the guys who cockblock or sabotage someone's relationship. Id never do anything like that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:54 PM
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No woman would ever admit to this, just have to observe their actions. A woman obviously wouldn't want to share a guy with other women but if he's attractive enough, they definitely will begrudgingly. A lot of women sleep around with numerous guys anyways so it's not too big of a deal. For me personally I'd rather be with an average woman who is faithful than a supermodel who is sleeping around. Id rather be with an average woman with a low bodycount than a supermodel with a high count. Most guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 04:02 PM
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As a guy with plenty of options, the vast majority of women aren't compatible partners for me. As a guy though time is on my side so I can be as picky as possible. I think men need to understand this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:40 PM
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That's not what I've seen. Most women would gladly share a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:38 PM
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Id never date or take a woman seriously who has slept with any of her friends. I'm not saying she should get rid of her friends, I just wouldn't date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:34 PM
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Most men think they aren't simps until they are presented with a test. I have had a couple friends throw me under the bus or ditch me because they wanted to get with some woman. Wasn't even their partner and they weren't even dating. Just the thought of potentially getting with a woman... I'm going to be 100% blunt here. The guys complaining about simps would 100% become a simp if an average woman came up and flirted with them briefly. I'm kinda rare because I've never bailed on or ditched any f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:31 PM
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This is painfully accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:29 PM
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It's genetic, men evolved for those types of roles. Can't force a square peg through a circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:32 AM
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Needs to put that autism into making millions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:19 PM
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I like this flavor of autism
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:15 PM
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That's just sex though. Mens' standards for sex are literally on the ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:53 PM
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It is natural. Men are just built different and are better equipped for those high level stressful jobs. They also handle those tough situations a little better. People also respect them a little more in those hard situations
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:45 PM
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I had the same issue. I kept meeting women who were sleeping around a ton. You just have to be strict and not tolerate those types. Find more respectable women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:49 PM
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Why not date an average looking woman who is successful and worked on herself? That to me is better than an attractive woman with a high bodycount with nothing to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:11 PM
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I know a couple of these women. I see them constantly whining they can't find a quality guy. They go on dates with men who would be average but still far far above their league. These women come up with a laundry list of complaints or icks. I see their dating apps and they have numerous likes. They want the perfect guy despite being extremely undesirable. They're lucky to get anything. My dating life is good personally I'm just talking about guys in general. They're shitty people for cheating bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:03 PM
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On average people tend to respect male leaders more than female leaders. Where I work no one really respects the female managers and they're kinda just there for novelty and everyone knows that. No one really listens to them or brings any serious problems to them. The males tend to work significantly harder, complain less, and can be grinding. The females tend to be a little more lazy and value work life balance. A lot of them would rather stay at home and live off of their husband and sit aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:58 PM
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They can though. I do pretty well with dating and I refuse to date an average woman. Id rather be single. More guys should have that same thought process, don't give those women any attention who are below your standards and continue to work towards the goal of finding a woman that you actually like. The problem is that many guys will throw their friends under the bus and sometimes their family to get a chance with some average woman. Men need more of a purpose beyond dating. Find a hobby and bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:52 PM
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I think that what OP is trying to say is that men have to work significantly harder to find a partner and actually build up their lives. A woman who is a single mother who brings nothing to the table, overweight, and average looking can still find a quality guy. It also makes sense why men cheat more often because many of these women really don't bring anything to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:50 PM
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That's because men have no standards. You don't need to settle for a woman who brings nothing to the table. Women don't bring anything to the table because there are guys who will still get with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:46 PM
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Those women have nothing to offer, are undesirable, have awful personalities, and have been treated that way for a reason which is many times somewhat justified Whining about men won't solve their issues because they're broken. They need therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:44 PM
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It's a complicated subject. The women who are more low-key on there do have their self esteem impacted because they do see others who apparently have a successful life. A lot of the more narcissistic women who constantly post have their egos pushed into the stratosphere. I know because I've met them. Even women who don't post much have guys sliding into their DMs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 04:04 PM
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Not necessarily. Most women go on numerous dates with a select few guys and then they complain guys pump and dump them. Yeah lots of relationships are formed from the apps but they aren't good. Most women end up feel like they're settling after this and most men are settling because of minimal options. They scrape the bottom of the barrel for what they can get. In my opinion the apps attract mostly undesirable options and the people on there are flakey/jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:53 PM
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You must be extremely attractive or have one the top profiles. The women I get with off the app (in person) are extremely attractive and would easily be in the top 1% of profiles. I do get matches from attractive women but there's more than just sleeping around and hooking up. If I were into sleeping around I'd obviously do much better on the app. I'm personally looking for a long term partner and the women on those apps aren't good for that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:32 PM
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As a guy I had numerous matches but the majority of those matches are mediocre. This doesn't even include the fact that most women look worse in person. Most guys are lucky to even get one match. An attractive guy like yourself or myself getting matches isn't surprising but I still found them to be way below my standards. Just because people meet on apps doesn't negate the fact that most men are settling quite a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:23 PM
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Those average women aren't getting attention from models on social media but they do get plenty of guys validating and messaging them. On the apps those average women get attention from guys way above their League. It kinda warps their expectations and blows up their ego. The analogy would be a man who could consistently get with very attractive women, he wouldn't be satisfied with your average woman
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:21 PM
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But then if you criticize a woman for sleeping around they absolutely blow a fuse lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:16 PM
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Those women don't know that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:13 PM
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Women are affected differently because they get plenty of validation from extremely attractive guys way out of their league or just random thirsty guys inflating their egos, same goes for apps. Social media is basically just porn for men. Most men understand they aren't getting with a model but most women don't understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:03 PM
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Apps don't even work for very attractive guys. The apps work very well for women though. The dating pool for men is actually a lot worse than what women see. I know because I've compared likes with my female friends. They always complain about their dating pool but then have 1000 likes and matches from attractive successful guys. Keep in mind these women are extremely average looking, no career, single mom, etc. they bring nothing to the table
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:01 PM
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Gaslighting and deflection are other tactics they use. He's not wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:58 PM
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As a guy I only date women who meet a certain attractiveness threshold, preferably a 7+ if you want to quantify it with a certain body type. I refuse to date women otherwise. It's not a big deal though, because my preferences aren't harming anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:55 PM
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It's not though, he 100% has a point. When women complain about men leading them on they are just projecting because they do it more often than men but are better at hiding it. Ive gotten good and dealing with these women though and I call them out on it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:53 PM
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Id have to agree, lots of these women on BC are dead inside for some reason. I still don't understand how they get the motivation to sleep around so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:51 PM
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Women love to use the word, 'incel' or 'insecure' when they have no other rebuttal and refuse to accept any accountability. Anyone who makes any criticism about a woman even if it's 100% valid is automatically an, 'incel.' I always cringe when I hear women call guys incels. Usually these women lack any capacity to critically think or engage in a conversation past a 3rd grade level. Don't get me wrong there are bitter incels out there, but they aren't nearly as common as woman make them seem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:50 PM
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The transactional relationships are quite easy to spot. A perfect example is the rich guy i.e. a doctor who is of average looks getting with a significantly more attractive younger woman. Obviously the woman is only there for $$$ and the woman brings nothing to the table except beauty. I'm not sure why I see the appeal in getting with a woman who has no interest in you other than for your money but to each their own. These guys are supposedly smart and are baffled when these women cheat
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:47 PM
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Disagree. If a woman brings nothing to the table except average sex, there's literally no incentive for the guy to stay. Men actually provide financial benefits and numerous other things so women don't cheat as much
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:13 PM
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So it's no surprise many men cheat because they place such a high emphasis on sex which will inevitably get stale as the relationship goes on because they don't actually like the woman and are settling. Men need to raise their standards quite a bit beyond mediocre sex. In my experience many guys settle for the first woman who throws themselves at them and are unhappy shortly after. Seems most women only bring sex to the table and wonder why a guy cheats later on...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:42 AM
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I love how all of these posts and topics on here act like women are the catch and most men aren't and that men need to improve. That's false. Most women are very average and plain. Many don't bring much to the table either other than makeup many times. If women were such a catch, men wouldn't be cheating on women at a higher rate. Men need to raise their standards quite a bit in my opinion and be more picky/stop settling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:27 AM
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This is an extreme example, but that Pete Davidson guy is notorious for sleeping with the hottest women in Hollywood all of who know each other, yet they keep lining up. He isn't exactly the most attractive, and yes he does have money and charisma going for him. The main reason women get with him is because he's gotten with all of those other women. They have the sheep mentality. There's plenty of other significantly more attractive guys they could get with or successful but they choose him I se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:10 PM
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Truth is, most men would like a very attractive woman and same goes for women with men. Unfortunately there's only so many attractive people out there. An average man or woman can become attractive if they take care of themselves and have other things going on in their lives. Men view women the same way women view men. If women were such a catch as you stated, men wouldn't be cheating on them all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 06:37 PM
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Not necessarily, I am restricting myself by choice so I'm not a hypocrite when I get with those more desirable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:03 PM
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I agree but also disagree. Women love those guys simply for the fact that other women have slept with him. It's the same reason why men get far more attention when they are married vs single. A man may be objectively undesirable but if he's sleeping around, it gives the illusion he is desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:00 PM
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Id have to agree. I personally don't sleep around as a guy but I'd never get in a long term relationship with a promiscuous woman. Id also never pursue a woman who's slept around with numerous guys who put in 0 effort. I only pursue women who have values similar to mine and hold everyone to the same standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:59 PM
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That's definitely not what I see. If a guy sleeps around he's automatically seen as desirable. He must be desirable by default if he can do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:54 PM
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Do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:53 PM
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Most women like those guys who sleep around. They just don't like getting pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:45 PM
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Most women are average looking too, not exactly a catch. Many Men just get with those more average women for sex or hookups. It's not like men are undesirable and all women walking around are models lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:42 PM
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Id say this is false. Women love those guys who sleep around and fit the, 'bad boy' stereotype. There's a guy I know who is below average in looks and has an unpleasant personality but he sleeps with many women. The only reason women get with this guy is because he sleeps around. Most women have a sheep mentality and they want what other women want. The attractive successful loner guy who keeps to himself and lives a quiet life doesn't get nearly as much interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:33 PM
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Not always true. I find those promiscuous women disgusting and I have numerous options/women approaching me. I could easily have a high N count but choose to stick to my values and only date low N women. I think it's not as common though and many guys do get jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:29 PM
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What's the alternative? Tell them straight up they are unattractive and look worse in person? Id never want to ruin anyone's confidence. I come up with a reason that basically excludes attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:59 PM
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I've rejected numerous women solely because they were unattractive (worse in person from dating app). I usually just say we are not compatible long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:18 PM
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This scale just reinforces the fact that I shouldn't get with a woman who has a high bodycount. I'm looking for someone with a bit more self control too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:48 PM
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I do enjoy having sex, but there's far more important things that I could be doing. I also find waiting until I'm with someone I love to be far more gratifying. I'm not restricted, I just have good self control. Sounds like you lack that unfortunately. There's nothing wrong with going out and putting sex at the forefront of your life, but that's not me. Doesn't mean I'm restricted in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:14 PM
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There's plenty of 18 year olds who don't repeatedly make bad decisions. There's a difference between a couple bad decisions and purposely choosing to be with certain types of men over and over. It's only when they get older and realize they can't sustain it that they change. I'm not going to be the guy that's going to save them. They can be someone else's project. I don't give anyone any second chances. I don't date any women who have ever cheated either, even just once. My standards are general…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:44 PM
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I get a lot of women are offended or confused by this. I'm currently dating to find a long term partner and I'm being extremely careful. It very well could be a non issue but having options I try my best to sort out the best possible partner. If I found out her exes were some sleezy guys who are the polar opposite of me, that would indicate a lack of judgement. Who knows though, maybe she changed??? Regardless I'm not going to risk that, because there's a chance deep down she's into those guys. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:29 PM
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I'm the opposite interestingly enough. If a woman offered sex I probably wouldn't take her up on it unless I saw long term potential. Im currently dating to find a long term partner But yes, some guys feel the need and enjoy sex so they obviously won't turn it down. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it, but have more important things to do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:45 PM
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It gives good insight into their thought processes. If I see a woman has dated lots of sleezy men, that's a huge red flag and shows a lack of judgement. Sure, people can change but only to a certain extent. There's also the thought that they are settling but deep down they like those sleezy guys so they end up cheating later on. If a woman has dated successful, respectable guys, then that's a green flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:07 PM
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I know a fair amount of women who are attracted to unkempt drug addicts. Not sure what the allure is, but there's something for everyone. You can really tell a lot about a woman about who they have dated in the past. I've dumped a couple after seeing what their exes looked like. Edit: sorry to be offensive but I have my reasoning for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:43 PM
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Everyone cares about looks to a certain extent. There's a certain baseline level of attractiveness that'll make a relationship work. For me personally I'd much rather get with a somewhat attractive woman who takes care of herself with a great personality over a model with a bad personality. Is the model more attractive objectively speaking? Yes. Is she more attractive when you factor in all of the other stuff? Absolutely not. An average woman who is confident and takes care of herself can be rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:30 PM
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Everyone's definition of what is attractive is a little different. You may think they're gross but they probably like those types of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:28 PM
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You really don't need it if you have other things going on in your life. Sex outside of a committed relationship is extremely overrated and awful anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:54 PM
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Everyone has their priorities. I'm looking for an equal partnership and a woman who can inspire others and that I can help support to make her successful Guys with plenty of options have lots of attractive women who put in the effort and have their lives out together. I've never met a woman who's wanted a guy to pay her bills, but as I said before, I attract successful women so I guess they don't feel the need to want that. You should consider yourself lucky you have, 'many' random Chads men wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:50 PM
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Never said Chads were assholes. They know their worth on the dating market and have self respect. Many women tend to confuse confidence, self respect, and being an asshole. I've never paid any woman's bills and have never went above and beyond like the guy you're supposedly describing. I date plenty of attractive women who are successful in life who have their own careers usually high paying. They don't feel the need to have a guy pay for anything and I personally prefer those women. I'm current…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:12 PM
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So you're insinuating im ugly because I go for cheap dates in the initial stages? I do have a fair amount of women approaching me and I've never had a woman complain that the dates were too cheap. I do tend to date successful independent low maintenance women though. And it's actually quite the opposite. Ugly guys suggest expensive dates because they need to use their money to impress a woman. I don't feel the need to do that. Why on earth would an ugly man who rarely gets any dates offer to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:58 PM
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I get the fedora thing but to your last point, you don't 'need' sex. I'm sorry but most guys throw their entire friend circle under the bus for a chance at having sex with some average looking woman. Most guys make getting laid their entire identity. A middle ground is probably the best but those guys who constantly talk or seek it out are insufferable
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:53 PM
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I mean that's your choice. For me, I have plenty of women who are interested in me or approach me. It's pretty rare that any of them expect dinners and we usually start off doing low key stuff. If I do, do dinner it's less than $100 which isn't that bad anyways but that's only when I know they are serious and aren't dating other guys. Chads don't go for dinners, and there's really no point when they have multiple women who are showing even more interest with less demands. Most women I've dated h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:50 PM
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I think it's them putting in a lot of effort into their profile and not having any other options except using a dating app because they're always busy with a kid. Really attractive women don't really need to use a dating app, same for guys
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:03 AM
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As a guy with lots of options, I wouldn't date a woman who expects me to court her or jump through a bunch of hoops. Many of the women I've dated have offered to split 50:50 and it's worked out well as they are independent and successful. Why is it ok for women to go on numerous dates to get free meals with different guys, but a guy doing coffee dates is frowned upon while dating multiple women? I think the days of men paying for everything is coming to a close hopefully. It's the 21st century
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:55 AM
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Not always. I'm not looking for a virgin, I'm looking for a woman who doesn't have a sky high bodycount. Id rather just be single than settle for that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:48 AM
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15 is high but many women get around these days. Lowering to 3 would essentially eliminate the entire dating pool. 15 at around 30 is what I've come to terms with after much thought. Id rather just become a passport bro than settle for a woman with a 15+ count.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:12 AM
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Yes absolutely. I tell women I don't date around and I tell them straight up I won't date them if they do. I personally don't care if I offend any women, they can go date men with high body counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:51 AM
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I'm not stuck on anyone but it did take a long time to get over breakups. I heavily disagree and think those types of people who sleep around can't form deeper bonds. It doesn't matter though because that's just my view and won't date those women. Doesn't affect anyone else. Some research supports it and some might not. Up to the individual to decide what they believe. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to sleep around with many people but you can't expect everyone to accept that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:31 PM
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I find a fair amount of women <15 but I do encounter a lot who have way more than that which is discouraging. 15 is supposedly double the average so a pretty decent amount as you stated. I've encountered women with 30+ or even 50+ partners. That's just absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 09:28 PM
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When someone's intimate they have a stronger connection with someone. If you're sleeping around with numerous people I don't think you have the capability to do that as much. I view sex more seriously and it would make no sense to get with a woman who views it as a fun activity or a hobby. They can go find those guys who also see it like that. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy having sex but I save it for someone I'm investing in a future with. Hooking up is good for a bit but brings me very little sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:30 PM
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I'm saying in general. A lot of women sleep around and suddenly expect every man to accept their past. They then call them insecure or an incel if they don't. There's plenty of guys who also like sleep around so they'll probably be more accepting
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:39 PM
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That's good to know there's other women with the same vies. On average though women tend to sleep around a little more so it's understandable that they'd be defensive when a guy has these preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:32 PM
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I personally believe in the pair bonding stuff and is part of the reason for my preferences. I hold men and women to the same standards. Anecdotally the guys and girls who sleep around that I know have the most trouble being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:20 PM
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I personally agree with this and it's really not a big deal if you do or a bad thing. Those women with high body counts can get with men who also like to sleep around but they can't expect a guy who has a different view to accept them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:13 PM
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That's your opinion but some like myself have different views on this hence why I don't date certain types of women. In the end, why not find someone who accepts your past?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:08 PM
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I don't date women with a certain body count and I don't think anything less of them. It's ok to have preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:07 PM
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I get a ton of flack for this but I personally don't date women who have been with more than 15 partners and even that's pushing it. I flat out tell women I'm dating this lol. Some would say it's offensive but I've been with multiple women who didn't mind and found it refreshing. Those with high counts obviously get angry but that's not surprising Its not like I'm some incel or don't hold myself to those standards either. I'm fairly attractive and could easily sleep with lots of women but I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:05 PM
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