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Guru_of_Glaze/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 08:03 PM
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You probably already recognize this, but her documenting messages to you about "not feeling safe" and your being "hostile" is definitely laying the groundwork for a silver bullet divorce--even if she denies claiming abuse at this moment. It's coming. Prepare.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 08:13 PM
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Time. It's the only salve. The best you can do in the interim is build a foundation for your next chapter. Then one day, you'll look around and recognize that the life you've built is way better than the one you had.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:46 AM
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I'm on the other side of the equation--I moved out of the big house and into a cottage. My new place is VERY full during my weeks with the kiddo. It can be challenging, but I never take it for granted. He's a preteen and this is such a fun stage in his life and development. Glad I get half of his time, completely focused.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 09:03 PM
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Sorry you're going through this. For me, it was easy. When my wife of 16 years gave up on our relationship and monekybranched to a new lover, I severed that link. With intention. I recognized that I deserved someone who would love me and treat me with respect. Mentally, I set that old ship on fire. She's not the person I once loved--that person is gone. No use pining for someone who doesn't exist.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 11:23 AM
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This is the truth. Something that I also learned the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 01:27 PM
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I did this. By agreeing to stay on the mortgage for a couple of years until our kid finishes school, I received her agreement to waive all spousal support. It's a much better financial arrangement for me and keeps her in the house with our kid. All drafted by our attorneys and formalized in the PSA. Don't listen to people who tell you it's not possible, or not a good idea. You know your situation best. It can be done if you both agree to it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:18 PM
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Glad you found peace man, but oof. This is painful to read. Seems like you really bought into her narrative and took too much blame on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 06:17 PM
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Prenup
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 05:37 PM
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Hopefully you have an attorney who is willing to have a transparent, straightforward conversation with you about finances. The good ones will let you know when it's a "pay me, or pay her" breakeven situation, or one in which you'll be paying wayyyy more to keep fighting. My own POV is that you've gotta look out for yourself, your financial future, and what you're looking to build next. Don't jeopardize your future for the fight.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 01:16 PM
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Readiness is intensely personal and varies a lot by individual! For me, when it became clear that my marriage was over with no chance of reconciliation, I became very focused/intentional about investing in my own future outside of the marriage. Divorce wasn't my choice and it's not what I wanted. But it only takes one person to divorce, and two to maintain a relationship. When she made that choice, the best thing for me was to make a clean break; to recognize my own value outside of that relatio…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 03:01 PM
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For me, I started dating about 2 months after the separation. My ex made it clear she did not love me and there was no path to reconciliation. I'm a good person who deserves affection and connection, so I didn't see much point in delaying it once I felt ready to date. It worked out well--after being on the apps for a few months, I met my current partner. Couldn't be happier with where things are now.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 02:11 PM
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Especially if you are experiencing physical symptoms - sleeplessness, loss of appetite, inability to focus - please prioritize making an appointment with your PCP. They can help you regulate. Medium-term, therapy is essential. My best advice is to accept that she's tapped out even though it's not what you want. It's over. No amount of pleading, compromising or negotiation will restore the relationship you had. It's a hard pill to swallow but the best thing you can do is fix your eyes forward and…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 06:09 PM
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Think about how sad and pathetic you'll look when she inevitably finds out.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 11:13 AM
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Please make an appointment with your PCP if you can. They can help you physically regulate and avoid spiraling into alcohol or bad decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 02:07 PM
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Attachment style is horseshit. It sure pays the bills for a lot of very online YouTube psychologist-adjacent influencers, though! And provides a convenient excuse for spouses seeking a way to justify walking away from their relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/26 08:46 PM
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Man, you're buying into her narrative. I can empathize because I did too, initially. The person closest to you in the world tells you that she's leaving and that it's all because of your behavior. Of course you believe her and promise to do anything to save the relationship. But it's a false narrative. Don't buy into it. Get therapy. Connect with friends who see you for the man you are. There's a difficult road ahead but you've got this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 09:31 PM
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Lawyers definitely know the other firms and attorneys where they practice, and they certainly have opinions/preferences. Your attorney will likely give you their perspective on opposing counsel if you ask. It's unlikely OC will be a "friend," but best case scenario, your attorney will have worked with them in the past and found them to be reasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 06:47 PM
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About 9 months in from the bombshell. Spent the first 2 months spiraling and trying everything I could think of to save our family. Then, I accepted that she had moved on a long time ago. Been dating for the past few months and honestly it's been great. I hadn't realized how much I missed just being appreciated for who I am. I've got a lot to offer. Ladies recognize that. It's nice.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 08:35 PM
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Man, if you dig Lord Huron just put "Watch Me Go" on heavy rotation for awhile.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 05:55 PM
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I suppose that depends on whether you'd prefer to trim or shave.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 05:16 PM
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Get you a trimmer specifically made for genital grooming -- one with a ceramic blade. It's a game changer. If you're using a multipurpose hair trimmer down there, you're gonna have a bad time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 07:56 PM
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Dating. Connecting with friends for game nights, movies. Getting out of the house for any reason whatsoever.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 01:04 PM
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Everything is abuse these days. Disagree with your spouse? Express a different point of view? Say something that makes them feel guilt? That's emotional abuse, buck-o. I think this is a real problem because it degrades the meaning of the word and minimizes REAL abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 10:37 PM
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This is something that can be worked out during meditation if you are able to go that route. Otherwise, the vehicle loans will likely be considered marriage debts at trial and the court will attempt to balance them along with marriage assets in an equitable way for both of you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 01:21 PM
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100% My STBX has been throwing this around because she's traumatized by how I sometimes disagree with her. Having a different point of view is now "gaslighting" and manipulation. Ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 02:15 PM
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This spoke to me. Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 01:13 PM
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It do be like that tho.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 09:13 PM
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