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Roses, lillies ... whatever fits the bill. I was married 33 yrs myself and my late wife always said she didn't want anything for Valentines Day either ... but she was always visibly pleased to get a token spray of flowers on that particlar traditional day - and especially so if I had them delivered to her workplace during the year she worked. It's a little thing really. I honestly don't know why guys get wound up about this sort of thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:44 AM
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"cross to bear"? Picking up a dozen roses on the way home from work on Valentines Day is a "cross to bear"? Never seemed like it to me. Have you ever been married? Little romatic things make a huge difference in a relationship - and that goes both ways. How's your girl gonna feel when she sees other wome getting a bit of romantic treatment now & then and she gets none? (even if she claims she doesn't want it - don't believe that!)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:11 AM
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And if you can't be particularly attractive... at least don't be unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:27 PM
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Mine was the same about flowers on Valenties. So I did it anyway for 33 years. And she was always clearly happy to get them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:12 AM
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In my experience many women are not as hung up about a little extra body fat on a man as men are about women - so long as he is confident, competent, and the master of his life/world.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:11 PM
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Marriage is what the two persons make it. The only guarantees are those you provide to each other. As a couple you are a statistic of one. Your bond with each other is a unique thing in the world. All other statistics are irrelevant. (33 yrs married, now widowed)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:26 PM
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While some folks may have jumped on the RP bandwagon as meshing well with their religious belief ... I expect there are many other non-religious folk who have as jumped on as well and it has zero to do with religion for them. I'm not religious at all, though raised Christian. I was married 33 yrs and my wife was mostly what they call nowadays a "trad wife" - esp when our child was younger and she was a SAHM for a for a number of years *(although she did go back to college during that time for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:44 AM
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"how he can get it up at age 40- 50 without viagra" 40 - 50? There are guys who have trouble at that age? In their 40s?!? Seriously? And I ask that with all sincerity - none of my friends have ever mentioned it (but then I don't talk in-depth/detail about our repective sex lives with my friends.) Not to brag, but I'm 64 and never had a issue with that - and probably have still 75% of the libido I had at 25. On the topic though .... I had a vas in my late 30's after having a kid and deciding we d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:32 AM
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They claim it's not "misogyny" (hatred ofwomen), rather "reality" (biology and evolution)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:50 AM
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"How are many people surprised that women say no to this?" Not a few women are fine with it so long as they are protected, cared for, and not emotionally or physically abused. Not advocating for the so-called "patriarchy" personally ... I'm just saying. Just look at many mainstream Christian communities .. they actually teach this, some more overtly than others. And most people in this country are Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:34 AM
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Money and status are the same for some women. (All you have to do is look at our politicians' scandals to see that.) (I personally know of a particular case - and yes, she did wait for him when he went to (white collar) prison for 30 months. I can only guess the prospect of hanging on his arm as he takes her to fancy cocktail parties with "very important people" in attendance is more important than the fact of getting slapped and kicked around once in awhile.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:19 PM
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Well, all I know about this so-called "Red Pill" stuff is what I've read on the internet. From that and the way I was raised and have always lived my life I suppose some might say I am a "red pill"? I'm 64 y/o, 6'1 185, white, very fit, very healthy, quite sane, with a solid upper middle class retirement income. (a "666 guy", as some on the internet might say) Somewhat stoic and intellectual in my outlook on life. I'm also widowed after 33 years happily married and accompanied my late wife on he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:11 AM
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"Men can be, and often are, stupid AF." I know some quite wealthy men, intelligent and well-educated, with "trophy wives" They know exactly what the deal is and that's exactly what they want. So .... why are they "stupid"? It's kind of a win-win, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:16 PM
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"These people clearly exist" Well, clearly not AWALT, but more of them exist than people like to admit, and in many cases do not even admit to themselves they are one of "those" people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:12 PM
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I've heard money can be quite the aphrodisiac. Status and power as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:11 PM
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"generally gold diggers aren't the women you want." Depends on how much gold the guy has and how much of it the woman wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:10 PM
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? ... Schools often have internal investigators for such minor things.: IMO, no education organization has any business whatsoever "investigating" sexual assault allegations. They should be calling the police as they would for any other crime!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:58 AM
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Again, we're going to have to stop pretending like looking boobs and sex is the same thing as looking at the endless sea of utter depravity ever thought of by the human mind. Agreed upon that. Back in the day (1970's), we may have been sneaking peeks at Playboy magazines, but the messages we were getting from music, television, and movies about women, romance, and sex and whatnot was quite a bit different than what young people are getting today. (and of course there were no video games) In many…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:39 AM
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I was married 33 years, had some relationships before that from a few months to two years, and now dating again since becoming widowed. In my personal experience, I do not find the OP's premise valid at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:51 AM
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I do mostly online dating at present due to a particular life circumstance I'm in at the moment. Getting "matches" is not too much of a problem for me, but I do get soooooooooo tired of having to drag women through a messaging/texting conversation. I can understand a woman wanting a man to take the lead on things - and especially initially, but frankly I've unmatched with more than a few women without ever asking them out on that first meet/date exactly because of their seemingly poor communicat…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:46 AM
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Well, back in the day if ya wanted to get really down and dirty you'd have find an old stack of Penthouses and read the letters. And then Larry Flynt came out with Hustler and the gloves started coming off after that point. Still ... all very tame by comparison to what is available to any kid on the net today. And ya don't even have to worry about your aunt catchin' ya, because you can get it on your phone, laptop, pad, or whatever device anywhere you can get an internet, or even cell tower, con…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:26 PM
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Not oing to weigh in diretly on this topic (yet), but I did have a food-for-thought observation and a couple of questions Let's say there are fifty thousand women doing porn in the U.S and just estimate there are fifty million women in the U.S. whose age, level of attractiveness, etc. would allow them to do some sort of porn. That’s still only 0.1% of such women - or one out of every thousand-or-so women might be willing to do porn. That's a pretty small number Q. Would you marry or enter into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:31 PM
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What's this? You mean if I were 14 again, me and my buddies wouldn't have to sneak into my uncle's garage/workshop to take a look at some pictures of lady titties and bush in the collection of Playboys he kept under the workbench - with at least one of us keeping watch in case my Uncle came out to the garage? (or god forbid, my aunt!) There's an easier way for a fella to see some boobies now?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:12 PM
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Tell me about it. I'm 64 and was married 33 years. Being widowed is sometimes like being on a strange alien planet to me. "Suicide Incidence in Older Men In 2020, men aged 65-74 had a suicide rate of 24.7/100,000, and men aged 75 and older had a rate of 40.5/100,000 – both higher than the overall national rate of 13.5/100,000. Notably, older adult suicide is predominantly a male phenomenon; the suicide rate of women aged 65-74 in 2020 was 5.6/100,000, and the rate among women aged 75 and older w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:56 PM
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I expect there are very few men in this country "complaining about women's day." Most of us take no notice of it at all. (we tend to just remember the "days" we're supposed to get you guys flowers or something lol!) If I felt I needed or desire for more male camaraderie than just my biker and fishing buddies, there's plenty of men's organizations out there I could join. My first choice would likely be the Masons, I think. I suppose I could join a veterans or law enforcement oriented group given …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:51 AM
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In regard your phrase about "being a simp", I'm kind of fond of the biblical phrase "Don't cast your pearls before swine" Yes, some women are swine in their behaviors. Some men too. (unless it's just to give them a pearl necklace and be on one's way, of course 😄)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:43 AM
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The brotherhood of Masons has been around seems like forever. My Dad and most of my uncles were Masons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:39 AM
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I tried going to church a couple of times since becoming single. (Some pretty ladies there, for sure.) Church/bible discussion groups tend to pander to Christians though and other views are not welcome, so it wasn't working for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:37 AM
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Confidence with women? Be nice, be yourself, be the best you that you can be, and most importantly stop caring whether any particular woman likes you or not. (if you get together with one they're going to find out about you, who you are, what youi're about, anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:16 PM
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I'd be curious to know if the OP has been professionally diagnosed as on being on the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:00 PM
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I'm 64, widowed, been on the dating market about 18 months. I date from about late 40's to early 60's and it's not usually to difficult to find a date for the weekend. Can't tell you how many women in that time I've had a first date with who come to find out were just looking for a hookup. (That's just not me, though) With the online dates ... almost makes me wish they'd been a bit more clear about that on their profiles or when messaging and I could have saved us both some time and passed them …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:00 PM
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*"This subreddit is filled with ....' "this subreddit hates single moms ..." 'When guys here talk about ...." "the subreddit has created this false dichotomy where ..."* etc Hmmm? Well, I've been following/reading this sub for a few months now, and I don't get that at all. Maybe with a few guys, but not as a sweeping generalization. I've read also some things posted by a few women that raised my eyebrow a bit - but I don't see that as applying to all women who comment here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:40 PM
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Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal had a thing or two to say about this. (personally, I'm going to have to go with Billy Crystal on this one) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEV_pQIf3Og
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:28 PM
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Basic stuff for women: Do lots of yoga and pilates and you'll attract more men. (but not necessarily higher quality men - and the same goes for the standard RP advice to men. One has to sort that out for themselves) Me? I'm not gonna just jump in bed with a low-quality woman at the drop of a hat. (Though some women somehow seem expect that I'm just supposed to "service" them on demand or whatever?)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 10:14 PM
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Just ... yes. Best comment I've seen on this thread. And as I told someone in a recent reply - the opinions and experiences expressed here are a particular subset of the set of: "All Men And Women." That particular subset being: "Men and Women Who Opine About Relationships on Reddit" (and girls and boys)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 10:10 PM
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Consider though that you're drawing your conclusions from a certain subset of the set of All Men, that subset being: "Men who go on Reddit and opine about relationships" (and I use the term "men" loosely - there's not a few young boys/teens here, I think) Most men don't do that, actually. Opine about relationships on Reddit. It's a bit of a recent thing for me even and more of an intellectual curiousity and perhaps a bit of entertainmet than anything. I'm certainly not looking to find any answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:45 PM
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I will agree that many women have trouble handling honesty .. and just as many men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:46 PM
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Where did you get the idea all men lie to get sex? I can only speak for myself, but I strive to be a very honest person in all of my relationships. It's just how I'm built and how I choose to live my life. I have a "code" and it's not any kind of religious thing (I'm a-theist.) I know other men who are similar. I don't have low-integrity male friends. Life's too short to spend it hanging out with sh*tty people. ("Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres".) Consider perhaps you are projecting y…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:43 PM
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I'll refrain from the thoughts I have on this topic, except to say it seems to me many commenting here are relying on their own personal anecdotal experiences to forumulate some "theory" they think applies to everyone else as a general rule. I don't think it works that way. We are all individual persons, we all come from different life experiences and all have different ideas about sex and romance, .... and those ideas can change sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:29 PM
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Due to my life circumstances at the moment,I do mostly online dating. If the profile says casual or short term relationship (even when combined with ltr or life-partner) ... then you know she's down for hookups (with the "right" guy, of course, not just any guy)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:02 PM
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I'm a pretty traditional guy, grew up in a pretty traditional (nuclear family) unborken home, and had a long pretty traditional,egalitarian marriage with mutual respect and teamwork at it's core. "toxic masculinity"? "radical FemiNazis"? Well, I don't know about those terms? All I know is there are people in te worldI refer to as *"shtty people"** - and some who are not. Regardless of gender or social/relationship ideology. And that's all I got to say about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 11:53 PM
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"Why would a man want to deal with emotional baggage from an older less appealing woman?" Well, a lot of times I would imagine it has to do with the fact many men have their own bit of baggage and are not exactly a slice of prime rib themselves. Not every guy is a 666. The vast majority aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:42 PM
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I wouldn't go so far as to use one personal anecdote to indict an entire population of people, so good on you for prefacing with that. Personal anecdotes? Well, I grew up on a farm in a very red Southern State to non-college educated lower middle working class parents. Public schools. My brother became a Nuclear Engineer. My sister became a Psychiatrist (MD). I dropped out of college early, enlisted in the military for a few years, and later had much success as a Federal law enforcement professi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:14 PM
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In my experience many women don't care so much whether a man can fix the car himself or can afford to take it to be fixed posthaste. Either way he fixed the car - and they didn't have to deal with it. And they appreciate that. It's about a man that can and will "take care of business" and "solve the problem" In some circles a man appreciates a woman who can throw an awesome dinner party ... no matter that she had the food catered and can't fry an egg herself. Of course there is a certain sexy as…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:21 PM
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As to the OP ... well, hmmmm? I guess I wouldn't know. Sounds like a bit of a butt-hurt rant. But I don't hang out with any "boss bitches", so .... If you wanna give somebody a gift, give them a gift. If you don't want to, don't. This does not seem so complicated to me. And if I may go biblical for a moment (though I'm not a theist) - I don't cast my pearls before swine. There are a few truths in what I sometimes like to refer to as the Buy-Bull. A lot of men don't value themselves enough when i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:05 PM
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Ha! I grew up in rural Mississippi. Did you see the movie Mississippi Burning? Know that story? The pond dam they buried those three civil rights workers in? I've fished in that pond. The guy who used to measure my pulpwood at the wood yard when I was a teen was convicted of a civil rights violation for being part of that. My school was one of the last in the country to racially intergrate. In 1970. Under court order. I grew up right in the middle of all that sh*t - and lots I could tell you tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:22 PM
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"solidity with immigrant and refugee men ..."? No. Immigrant and refugee women, otoh? .... well, depends. Are they cute?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:06 PM
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What you call "trad" ... I call just being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:06 PM
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I - do - not - care - one - whit - about this I always offer to pick up the check on a date. I don't ask - I just pick it up. If she protests and wants to go 50/50, or even pick it up herself that's fine too. Because that's how I am. I don't view it as paying for sex or affection or anything like that. Any woman who views it that way or has some other problem with it, well, I'm not the guy for her and vice versa. So be it. Plenty of fish in the sea.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:04 PM
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I NEVER expected my wife to work. I told her when we got engaged (1988) I would always take care of us financially regardless, so long as I was physically and mentally able. By the same token I never told her I didn't want her to work either. I just consider all of that to have been my gift to her, like the many gifts she brought to my life. The homemaker life you mention is what she wanted for much of our time together. It suited us both, was good for our daughter (who is on the spectrum, high-…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:14 PM
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"Ain't it the truth? Ain't it the truth!?" --- The Cowardly Lion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:07 PM
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When you've been married 33 years as I was you learn there are a lot of kinds of equality in a relationship and things aren't always even-steven. It comes and it goes. It ebbs and it flows. You don't count it up at the end like an accounting ledger. A man offering to pay for the date is no big deal in the grand scheme of things. It's just a simple nod to romantic chivalry ... not "toxic masculinity." (and for those women who might choose to phrase it that way, well ... there won't be a second da…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:03 PM
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I live about half the time in E. TN and half near Pensacola FL. In E. TN most of the matches attractive to me I find up in the mountains ... particularly over in Western NC which is an hour or two drive for me depending. There are a lot of transplants in that area that from elsewhere - most predominantly Northern Cali and the PNW. (escapees?) Some are a bit too "crunchy" for me though. (my daughter's word lol!) In Pensacola area (aka: the Redneck Riviera) we have a lot of retirees and other asso…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 08:37 AM
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Well, that's "your" definition. And may I add that's not a malady exclusive to women ... not by a long shot. Not a few men who proclaim themselve red pill suffer the same infection - it the disability just presents a bit differently in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:23 PM
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Maybe I'm just too old school ... but in my view any man that has trouble with paying for dates probably shouldn't be dating. He needs to be focused on his career or business and the resource gathering portions of his life. Dating costs should be a minimal expense in the totality of his finances. If a woman is more comfortable with splitting-the-check, that's fine too, but a man should be able to cover it without a problem. But I come from a time and place that taught that a man should't marry u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:35 PM
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I've just turned 64. Been widowed a few years now and I do online dating because I'm just not involved in many things in my daily life that put me in proximity to eligible women who would be attractive to me. I've turned down a number of match requests this past year from women in their 30's and 40's. While some are physically attractive to me and seemingly nice enough, having interacted with a few, I've found our lives and worldview just tend to not be very compatible. (and I don't do "hookups"…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:28 PM
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OP uses the term "modern women" (3 times?) as though AWALT. I expect women have a lot of different views on the definition of the term "modern woman"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:02 PM
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Oh, good God! What a load of horse-sht. *(where's that eye-roll emoji when I need it) Abortion is a woman's prerogative and nobody else's. Period. Full stop. If one doesn't like the paternity/child support laws in this country for whatever reason, they can take it up with their elected representatives (or just don't have sex with women) But it's quite clear OP is living in some kind of fantasyland in their head with this. The vast majority of Americans disagree with this whole "paper abortion" n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:08 PM
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Women can tell when men are wannabe players and men can tell when women are gold diggers. Extensive field trials going back decades have proven that theory incorrect. Both men and women are often terrible judges of a person's character. Just look at the divorce rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:25 PM
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I grew up in that era. I knew lots of good solid men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:39 AM
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For the record ... I know my personal demographic is not very representative of most of the men posting on here. Some of the things I mentioned are representative of the influence of the time and place I grew up in in my younger years. We didn't have to study any kind of Red Pill psychology (or theology,lol!) to know these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:41 PM
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The purpose of casual dating isn't to perform a public service. For the LTR oriented man with a good head on his shoulders it's to find a life-partner and future mother for his children - and have a little fun along the way. For the non-LTR guy,it's just to have a little fun. "Isn't that counterproductive both for him and for other men?" One man could care less about another man's prospects in finding a life-partner and mother for their children. Why should he? It's not the job of men as a group…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:52 PM
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"red pill advises men to have a constant rotation of women to avoid commitment." That has more to do with dating and casual sex, I think. It's really more of a "PUA" thing. Red pill have a different veiw whe it comes to marriage, as I understand. Men are encouraged to "wife-up" a woman of good character who hasn't been riding the "carousel" What many women fail to understand, I think, is the high "SMV" guy is more than willing to "pump-and-dump" when in the singles dating world, but when he's lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:11 AM
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Nothing sarcastic in my post. I'd have put a /s if there was. (not sure by your post you even understand the definition of sarcasm) But .... okay. It's better though than being a judgy little bitch refusing to take responsibility for yourself and projecting your own failures on others. I'm a daily stoner. 64 y/o. Married 33 yrs. Have a wonderful succesful adult child who doesn't drink, smoke, or party, has two Masters degrees, and has been happily married for six years now. I retired at age 49 (…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:30 PM
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My daddy told me a long time ago Said there's two things son Two things you should know And in these two things you must take pride That's a horse and woman, yeah Well both of them you ride On The Hunt - Lynyrd Skynyrd - 1975
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:04 AM
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Hey! Mind your own business, maybe. That's a way-off topic attack based solely on someone's username. Someone you know near-zero about. Your just projecting your own life experience, mistakes and failings. Your problem wasn't cannabis ... it was YOU. That's why your marriage failed. Take a little responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:59 AM
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Just don't wife or knock her up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:40 AM
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He's never been through Army or Marine boot camp. This is how they teach one there. Through peer pressure also.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:56 AM
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Would you care to discuss the topic at hand or continue to whine about my posting style?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:01 PM
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So happens I have the ability to keyboard as fast as I can talk. Then I go back and edit. Nothing nefarious with that. Do you have a problem with editing posts? It's just my writing style. So ... "f*ck no"? Meaning men patronizing prosititutes is fine with you? Except in 3rd world countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:48 PM
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I have the ability to keyboard as fast as I can talk. Then I go back and edit. Nothing nefarious with that. Do you have a problem with editing posts as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:45 PM
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Painting so-called passport bro's with a broad brush. "leverage fiscal stability to get women with little other choices to sleep with you" Oh, I'm sorry ... were you discussing prostitution. Well that happens in the Western countries as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:36 PM
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Quick google check says: "1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted)."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:09 AM
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Is a very good looking woman who will not date men who make less than 100k not leveraging her looks to attain a man with resources? (and I think we see a lot ofthis in Western societies)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 10:50 AM
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No I don't know that. And I didn't say it was "Red Pill" Personally I think most of this RP/BP/PP/etc is a load of horse-hockey. Some of it is perhaps useful for young men who grew up without a good father and other men consistently in their life. But that part is just plain old common sense self-improvement for men. Go lift. Get in shape. Don't be a pushover or a patsy. Women will be more attracted to you. Well, duh! I knew that in high school. Not any kind of rocket science there. And some of …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:10 AM
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The comment I was responding to was: "men that actually put in the effort to become financially successful" But okay. Explain it to me then. What's your idea of "men who actually put in the effort to become financially succesful? How do you define "financially successful" What's an example of men who do not put in the effort to become financially succesful?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:56 AM
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Okay - the rules say you're not supposed to dox yourself, so I hope this isn't doing that. I don't know if this is enlightening to the conversation, but I'm 64 (widowed at 61 after 33 yrs) and retired from what some would call an RP career. 6'1 170, fit, great health, all my hair all my teeth, decent facial features I suppose, solid financial status, zero debt, no addictions, I rarely even drink. My age filter in OLD is mid-fifties to mid-sixties. I'm have no interest in "hookups" (or what we us…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 01:12 AM
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"where are these so called RedPill men that actually put in the effort to become financially successful" I can only speak for myself and some other men I know as to financial success. You tell me if any of it's "Red Pill" or not? Me: high school, 4 years active duty, Border Patrol then INS/ICE. Transferred & promoted several times. Retired as Senior Special Agent DHS. 26 yrs + bought my 4 yrs military into the pension system = 30 yrs retirement calculation. Retired at age 49 with full health ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:30 PM
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A lot of men just don't put in the effort to increase their financial succcess and success with women. At it's heart - RP is just pointing out that a man needs to put in the effort if a man wants improve their odds of being more successful in life (financial, romantic, family, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:18 PM
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I couldn't say I'm anything-pill personally. I'm 64 y/o for Chrissake. I am what i am by now. But I do read some of this stuff now and again (both sides) and both sometimes provide some good food for thought. That said - I see the difference in PUA and RP as PUA having it's foundation on "trickery" (pretending to be someone you're not) and RP having it's foundation on "self-improvement" *(becoming someone you are not currently) ---- with much intermingling of the two depending on the individual …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:08 PM
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I wonderif they're over there on that Red Pill Women sub discussing how to keep one's man from "branch-swinging' to a more attractive woman? I guess I'll have to check in over there and see - lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:00 PM
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Red Pill is a bit like Christianity and Islam ... they agree on a few basic principles but there are many denominations/sects and they do not necessrily not agree on many other things beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:43 AM
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I was surprised to learn that the hot blonde head blue eye cheerleader / tennis star from my high school days who dated the quarterback and entered the field of hospital management ended up marrying a dumpy balding Asian guy. (Who ended up becoming a neurosurgeon) I know a pretty hot teacher who left her fairly attractive vice principal husband of 20 years for a somewhat "ugly" and a bit overweight fellow. Of course he was the superintendent of the midsize city school district with a salary of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:27 PM
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I'm a single guy. (widowed) Household chores are not a big deal for me and don't really take up all that much time. I did most of them the last five years of my late wife's journey with cancer. (I keep a very clean house, btw - I find keeping up the house and whatnot to be a bit of a cathartic activity sometimes.) Raising kids, otoh. That IS a full time job. If you're doing it right. My wife was what they would nowadays call a "trad-wife" for many years when our child was young. We just did'nt l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:05 PM
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In a healthy relationship men give of themselves to women and women give of themselves to men. Doesn't mean anyone is necessarily being "used"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:58 AM
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I always assume I will be picking up the check - unless she protests, which is fine too. I haven't kept numbers on it because I've never really cared - but looking back I would estimate about 50% of my first dates, will insist we go dutch. This could be in part because I'm in an older age group than many on here. I don't mind and don't think it's a big deal. It's not because I am hoping to buy a woman's affections. It's just part of the mating dance. You see this behavior in some lower animal sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:48 AM
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Oh, man! What a freaking pity party this thread is. All I know is I wish the fat girls would quit hitting on me. But hey ... whacha gonna do?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:00 AM
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Oh, she acknowledges it plenty. Near genius level IQ - and she was doing very well as a Psychology Phd candidate before some issues having to do with being on the spectrum short circuited that. She is just resistant to allowing it to handicap her in life anymore than necessary. In other words - she doesn't let that particular aspect of herself define who she is. She is so much more than just "on the spectrum." But see, here's the thing many don't get. In my experience, people on the spectrum (an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:22 AM
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I am speaking of my own daughter, btw. She took it upon herself to get diagnosed during her Phd program - although she and we suspected it for many years. (health insurance covered most of the cost of the testing - which involved an extensive four hour interview with her mother and I as to her childhood development - in additon to the actual cognitive tests and interview she had to undergo herself) In grade school her teachers took it upon themselves to diagnose her ADD (more than once) and stro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:33 PM
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I don't think you're reading what I was saying correctly. Or perhaps I didn't say it correctly. Generally speaking (not AWALT or AMALT) .... Women can attract men who have money and social status based solely upon being good looking. Women who do not have good looks will not often attract men with money and social status. Generally. Men with money and a high social status can attract good-looking women even when not particularly good looking themselves. Generally. Men without two of the three fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:10 PM
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Wouldn’t guys like a hot girl with money that would make other guys jealous? Or two out of three? The two-out-of-three I mention does not apply to men's attraction to women. A girl who is hot and has money but no social status, you say? But of course. That IS two out of three. Most guys don't care too much about a woman's money (beyond being able to support her own self financially, and sometimes not even then.) Social status can be a factor for a particular subset of guys when looking for a mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:49 PM
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Thank you or piping in with that. When I get on the topic of self-diagnoses of autism on the internet I usually get a lot of hate about my views of that. (always from people who have diagnosed themselves) The woman I know can be very social in certain situations ... but only for short periods of time, then experiences a certain social exhaustion which can last for days. She's just learned to mask very well. (and she's very aware of this - she's pretty highly educated)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:31 PM
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Ok. I confess. I intentionally threw that in to be provoacative. 😁 "Non-consensual." "Involuntary." Six of one, half a dozen of the other. But ... all kidding or being provactive aside, I'm thinking not a few involuntarily celibate guys might agree with that term. They do NOT consent to being celibate. (although, as I said, the OP of this thread seems to be making an argument for it) I guess though "nonconcel" doesn't quite have the same ring as "incel" lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:28 PM
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Nope. Not that at all. I hae actually had this discussion with her about why she does not care to particupate in the activist autism community. It's more of a desire to not be labelled as disabled. She's also pretty pissed about all the faux Aspergirls which seems to have become a bit of a fad of late. There's a lot more to autism than just being socially awkward and not everyone who is socially awkward is autistic. That's why I tend to query of anyone who is saying they are autistic whether the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:10 PM
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Most guys still won't want her if she's fat. Period. I've known some pretty hefty guys who got together with some pretty hot women though - but in every case the guy had both money and status. Never seen the opposite though that I can recall. (note: I'm 64 and probably seen a bit more of people's relationships in the world than some younger folks My thoughts on this particular topic are not an AWALT and not to be interpreted as such. I don't believe in AWALT or AMALT)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:01 PM
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lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:53 PM
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Inoluntarily. A man who does not consent to his own state of celibacy. (the oP is trying to make a case for Voluntary Celibacy. A man who does consent to his state of celibacy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:49 PM
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I'm not an MD but I have several among my family and frieds. Some I have known for four decades (I'm 64) In my observational experience there are women who confuse having money and status with having good character. Also in my observational experience The first two are not related to the third in any way whatsoever - nor are looks. And that goes for both men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 09:58 AM
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I'm 64 (is that "old"?) and I still like naked ladies very much!😁😄 It's one of my favorite things, in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:17 PM
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Girls like hot guys with money and status that are gonna make the other girls jealous. (2 out of 3 will often do, though)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:15 PM
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The second man you describe describes my situation a bit ... married 33 years, family man, widowed, retired from a failry "alpha" male dominated occupation, have moved around the country quite a bit with my career making it difficult to maintain a lot of lasting friends/connections, and most of my hobbies are solitary or with other guys. And I do not often meet women who are available and attractive to me at the few co-ed recreational things I do. I'm 64, quite finacially comfortable, tall, heal…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:14 PM
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So long as the celibacy is voluntary (and consensual lol!) ... I'm pro-choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:59 PM
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They had to be let out because those 'hospitals' weren't treating them. They were torturing them or locking them up without a die process They had to be let out because the legal standard for throwing someone in the looney bin changed to "a danger to self or others" and many people we used to involuntarily lock up in asylums did not meet that new standard. As long as one is not a danger to self or others, they're free to be as crazy as they want in this country. (as evidenced by the recent Presi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 01:48 AM
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"picky" isn't just about height. And "picky" does not mean a guy has to be 100% of each and every attribute that a woman says she is looking for in a man. Height is just one factor in "picky" Very few women (and men) end up with a partner who meets 100% of all the factors they might list as desirable. Everbody settles to some degree or other vis-a-vis their imagined perfect mate. Just some people (8's, 9's, 10's) have to settle less than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 11:19 PM
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I've read up on this Red Pill stuff a bit. There seem to be some different varieties but the mainstream thinking as I've been able to ascertain is that Red Pill is about self-improvement as a man - and the side benefit of that becoming more attractive to more women. I don't view that as necessarily a bad thing for some young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 11:06 PM
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It's not that rare, really. Go out in the world and look about. btw ... what do you mean when you say "beautiful women"? But of course many (not all) 8's, 9's, and 10's are gonna picky - and not just about height. Because they have options ... same as men who are 8's, 9',s and 10's. You would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:40 PM
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Well, I guess it gives a guy someone to dump all their emotional sh*t out on instead of family and friends where that can wear on relationships really quick. Nobody likes to be around the sad troubled guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:33 PM
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Yeah. I think that would be an astounding program for a young man with some life issues to enter into.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:32 PM
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"My problem is that most women want nothing to do with short men, and I am a short man. ..." No. Your problem is your perception that "most women want nothing to do with short men." How about rephrasing that more correctly as "most women prefer a taller man. But many of them will go for a shorter one if there are other physical and/or life qualities that attract them" I'm 64 years old and I've known plenty of shorter men that a very beautiful taller woman fell for. (my son-in-law for just one)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:29 PM
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Exactly. Especially people who know a diagnosed autistic person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:49 PM
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Getting disability for autism is not so easy as you might think. Self-diagnosis (of anything) is a tricky business. Perhaps you are on the spectrum, perhaps you are not. I do know there are plenty of people out there nowadays self-diagnosing themseles as "autistic" who would likely be found to be, well .... not-really. It's seems to have become a bit of a fad nowadays as an excuse for people's life/social-problems. Autism is much more than just being socially awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:49 PM
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Because everyone with social/life problems is not autistic. And everyone with some autistic personality traits is not necessarily "on the spectrum" either. In fact, I would go so far as say most people running around nowadays saying they are on the spectrum are, in fact, not. It's become a bit of a fad - something to hang one's hat on for an excuse not to deal with their particular personality issues. There's a whole lot more to autism than just just being socially awkward. There are whole nuero…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:58 AM
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Neuro-atypical people tend to be drawn to each other I'm not so sure about that. I know an Aspergirl 30 y/o. Professionally diagnosed. She is definitely not drawn to other Aspies. Does not even want to be part of the Autism community because she doesn't want to be defined by her nuerodivergent traits. The thinkig is that she is so much more than just "on the spectrum" ... it's just a part of what she is. (and that's a very healthy way of looking at it, I think)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:07 AM
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I've known an Aspergirl quite well all of her life (extensively and professionally diagnosed - not one of these fad self-diagnosed people). Genius level IQ and a very high level of academic achievement. Think Sheldon without being quite so annoying. Very physically attrractive, fit, works-out, follows a very healthy diet - and also fairly unemployable. Never had a date (too shy) till she was 20 and got on one of the apps. Had 3 dates in a month and found her guy on the third date. Quiet IT/gamer…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:51 AM
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I wil tell you this - sure, there are guys who are "leg men", "boob men" etc .... but most men's first and primary filter is weight. Not boob size or anything else. Don't believe me? Start a thread and find out. They won't admit it out loud in polite company because that's supposed to be socially unacceptable somehow to even take notice of a woman's weight. Almost all dating apps do NOT have a field to put in one's actual weight or weight range. Some have a field for body "type" (thin, average, …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:32 AM
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The OP offers zero evidence of their assertions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:02 PM
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They're not upper class in my book. It's low class and crude. Having wealth and/or popularity doesn't make one classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:47 AM
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I kinda think you really have to be a spy though .. or a damn good liar with a backstopped story. (aka: con man) Of course corpoate CEO ala Richard Gere in Pretty Woman or Christian Gray in Fifty Shades of Gray work too, I suppose.
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:40 AM
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"Bond. James Bond." (got any money to go with that persona?)
/r/seduction22/11/24 11:17 PM
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What "women's issues" do men who "believe in RP nonsense" not care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:33 PM
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I'm not a big fan of swearing - and not because I'm religious or anything, I'm not at all. I just think it's crude and low-class. (and that's what I taught my kid growing up who, now, as an adult, does not swear)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:19 PM
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"Labelling men who work on their "game" to come off as more attractive than they actually are/think they are as "lying to women for sex" is a pretty slippery slope." One can even extend that thought with the idea that men who work to improve their "game" actually become more attractive to women. Just as a woman who works out at the gym often becomes more attractive ... that's not lying. Self-improvement is self-improvement. There are many different ways in which one can improve one's self.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:16 PM
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" ... side hustle of robbing banks." A fella might want to keep mention of that one. Demonstrates his ability to obtain resources and provide ... not to mention it gives off a bit of that bad-boy panache! lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:32 AM
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Only some of us. The rest are just worker-bee drones we use to do the dirty work. 😁 (I kid, but kinda true actually. Me? I arranged my life to retire before age 50. I had no interest in being a debt-slave all of my life ---- although that doesn't seem to bother most Americans for some reason?)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:31 PM
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To keep the Social Security system afloat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:27 PM
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I use a mail brush but it doesn’t get all especially where the nail meats the cuticle where I also get these corners. Psssst .... try an electric sonic toothbrush and toothpaste on them.
/r/seduction21/11/24 01:45 AM
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It's peoples' perception of the economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:41 PM
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Now, now. Let's not drag Lauren Boebert into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:27 AM
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The Federal goverment doesn't levy property taxes. States do. If you look at property tax rates in the various State you'll find Red vs Blue State has nothing to do with it. Plenty of Red States have higher property taxes than some Blue States.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 04:44 AM
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Where does your 10% figure come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:58 AM
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I didnt say anyone should be prevented from doing anything. I'm saying I won't use people's emotionally vulnerability for financial gain and I wouldn't respect a woman who does. Especially when they are manipulative as many of these OF sites reportedly are. 10% of men on earth with an internet connection patronize OF girls? C'mon man, get real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:25 AM
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Video games and alcohol are fine ... in moderation. I admit I do very little of either myself. (I don't know what "ski" is? Is that a word for something where you live?) First off ... it's a spectrum. So "limits" don't really apply. Emotionally/Socially healthy: can approach women and talk to them and shrug off rejection; and actually has girlfriends. Maybe not all the time. But at a minimum can usually get a date at least once or twice a month if they try - if not seeing someone regularly. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:13 AM
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It's not about that. It's about manipulating emotionally vulnerable people for financial gain. I don't laugh at guys who pay for OF, I feel kinda sorry for them actually because I imagine a lot of them are probably pretty good guys who are just having problems with women in the real world in a mentally/emotionally healthy way. If you ask me there are many guys who engage in this sort of thing who need help, actually. Guidance, at a minimum. Not someone further enabling their failure to be able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:12 PM
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It's a put on. She's leading him on. Being emotionally open and accepting to him. There's no risk of rejection. He doesn't have to try hard to charm her and she fakes finding him likeable or charming. He knows he will never fail with her. The "experience" he is getting with an OF girl is not the same experience he will encounter with real women out in the real world. His newfound confidence will crumble quickly in the face of that. The only way to build real confidence in that respect is to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:03 PM
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I won't even pay much more than a cup of coffee and a pastry for a first date with a woman I met in online dating. Why would I pay for an Only Fans girl I'm never going to actually meet to tease me? And I can't imagine ever even wanting to date a woman whose been in that particular business.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:54 PM
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She may be great to have as a girlfriend, but as for me? .... not one I would wife-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:49 PM
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A guy can be "good for you" .... until the chips are down, and then he'll likely be a gone guy if he's not actually a good guy. Me? I'm not always a nice guy. But I am a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:15 PM
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Sorry. All your data crunching aside, I still have issues with the idea that people's "sexual career" ends at 30. "sexual career" ... really? Pro football players have an age limit on their career. Sex isn't pro football.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:17 AM
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"when looking specifically at the sexual history of women and men near the end of their sexual career between the ages of 28 and 30 " Wait. What? I'm 64 and can assure you I'm far from the end of my "sexual career" nor are the women in my age range in online dating that I match with and date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:32 PM
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Anecdotal, but - my match rate actually improved quite a bit when I pared it down to just three photos and shortened my about-me narrative up quite a bit to "just-the-facts, ma'am". I went from one match a month to about one per week. And just as before, whether the match actually turns into a date or not depends on how the initial messaging and phone call goes. That particular "conversion rate" didn't really change (I only use Facebook dating nowadays, btw. Less of a shit-show than Match - and …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:06 PM
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When you have kids, life is not always "easier" with both people working. My late wife was a SAHM for many years. Life was definitely easier for us with her not working. My income was always sufficient to provide a middle class lifestyle. We could have had much more $ though had she worked all those years. We chose the benefits to both us of her being a SAHM over the additional money. It's a tradeoff. (btw - I'm kind of a traditional guy. I don't think a man should marry or have kids unless and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:23 AM
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It's called the "halo effect." Men do it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:09 AM
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Lyle Lovett is one ugly dude if you ask me .... and women seem to love him!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:30 PM
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I already reproduced, don't want anymore, and I do fine getting matches and dates via FB Dating. Most are my looks-match. If I had to estimate - my "SMV" (as the terminology goes) is probably somewhere around a 7 to 8. The women I end up dating are generally in that range as well. I don't date overweight women, btw. Could I have more dates and get laid more if I lowered my standards to 4's and 5's? Well, sure I suppose so. But I'm just not all that attracted physically, so I don't online match w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:25 PM
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On Facebook dating you can make a comment on one of the photos when sending a "like" which gives you the opportunity for a short message. I didn't know that for awhile, but found out about it somewhere along the way. My match percentages improved greatly when I started doing that. I have found it best though to actually make a comment or question about the photo itself and not try to use that method for a long intro.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:23 AM
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*A man will lower his standards until he gets matches." No I won't. And my standards are not unrealistic in terms of looks and bio. But I do have standards. Do I swipe on women above my looks-match? Sometimes - but depends on the bio also.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:19 AM
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Yeah. Ya gotta look closely at the pics. Women can be quite artful in a photo at hiding that belly underneath certain types of loose clothing. lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:10 AM
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Well, there's also the illegal aspect to it. At least in most of the USA. "Johns" do get busted sometimes. And some prostitutes are IV drug users, which means not only are there the usual STD risks, but risks of hepatitis also. (btw - just because a woman is presenting herself as an independent escort doesn't mean she is and is not being trafficked in some way behind the scenes. How do I know? I'm a retired ICE Special Agent who has worked human trafficking cases)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:58 AM
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"We know damn well men like that won’t give us the time of day." Maybe you do, ....... but from what I've been reading here on reddit and some other places on the net many (most?) women don't know that. And so they all get "pumped and dumped" by the same local Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:43 AM
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Modern women, especially white feminist women, are addicted to abortion. They abort as if it were nothing. I think that: A. What you assert (above) is not true. & B. The vast majority of women will disagree with you. Abortions are not fun. Not even the kind one just takes a pill for. I don't believe any woman takes the issue of having an abortion lightly (like getting one's teeth cleaned or nails done or something) And I don't believe any women plan on abortion as a method of birth control. It s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:22 AM
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I see. I'm not sure if your objection is financial, moral,or both? In light of your response, I have a few questions then: Would you then deny poor women on Medicaid the costs of prenatal and birthing care? Would you then also deny medicaid coverage for any children born to a woman on Medicaid? (you do understand an abortion is far,far, cheaper for the taxpayer than those things, right?) Rape/incest exceptions: Does a fetus conceived of rape or incest somehow have a less of a right to life (or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:14 PM
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*"The only thing good going for red pill is that it encourages men to better themselves. It is good to chase and perfect careers and hobbies. It is good to obtain status, and as much resources as you possibly can. It is good to develop social skills so you know how to talk to and persuade both women and men."* First OP says the "only" good thing ... and then goes on to list four good things 😄 I don't identify as "red pill" personally, but having heard so much about it I have read up on it and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:49 PM
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You do understand that the prenatal care and birthing costs for a poor woman on Medicaid are paid by Medicaid, right? And you do understand the health care costs of a child of a poor woman on Medicaid is also likely to be paid by Medicaid. What do you suggest? Abolish Medicaid? Deny Medicaid coverage for prenatal care and birthing expenses? Deny Medicaid coverage for any child born to a woman on Medicaid? On a related note: If a female US soldier is captured, impregnated via rape by her captors,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 08:12 AM
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The only taxpayer paid-for abortions would be for poor women on Medicaid. An abortion costs somewhere between $500 and $1000 typically. How much do you think prenatal care, birthing costs, post-natal care, early childhood care, etc etc is going to cost Medic-Aid? And being born to a mother poor enough to be on Medic-Aid, but of course the child the mother never wanted to have in the first place is certainly going to also be on Medicaid for the next 18 years. (the mother's eligibility for assista…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:48 PM
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I have known men who feel zero responsibility for any children they have fathered and you won't change their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:43 PM
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" ... so we as a society can develop a clear point at which when we decide a fetus is deserving human rights" You will never get religious folk to agree upon that. Me? I'm 64 y/o and a pretty traditional guy in many respects including gender roles to some degree. So far as I'm concerned abortion is a decision to be made by the woman and her health care provider. It's none of the goverment's (or anyone else's) business.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:33 PM
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I suspect there are a lot more women like you than most men realize. (and vice-versa to some degree or other) One doesn't hear so much about them in a subreddit like this though because most of them are in happy committed relationships and not whining about imagined AWALT/AMALT issues on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:42 PM
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I look at FB dating almost every day for a few minutes and swipe right on maybe 10% of profiles I scroll through. Perhaps less? I include a message on maybe half of those - which, btw, doesn't seem to make a difference in my response rate. It gets tedious writing intro messages personalized to what a woman said in her profile, esp when you know you won't hear back from most of those. I stopped swiping right on profiles that don't spur a lot of attraction for me after a few instances of feeling b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:41 AM
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Sorry, but going to have to agree with 'throwaway164_3' on that In the real world to attract male attention all a woman has to do really is not be fat and signal availablity. (barring any kind of terrible disfigurements or disabilities,of course) (I'm 64 and date from 45 to 70, btw)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:51 AM
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I just stumbled across this thread and I don't really know who this guy is being talked about here, but .... I actually was a Sr Special Agent for DHS. 1811 series (btw - there are quite a few enforcement positions or "agents" in DHS, but if the job isn't an 1811 series, it's not actually a "Special Agent" position) In any case, for the record here, my income when I retired (including overtime and a small bonus) was 128k. Mind you ... that's 2009.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:16 PM
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Can you give some examples of "thinks that his shit doesn't stink"? We all have shit ... but we're not going to put it on display for the whole world to see. You put on your best face when meeting someone new. That's not lying or thinking you have no shit that might stink a little. It's just putting our best foot forward. But you're much younger than I. I don't know what kind of 20 something year old guys you're meeting in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 10:00 PM
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That's kind of POS behavior. On a date!??? Be glad he's showing you his true colors, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:55 PM
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I like your flair. Need to start using that myself. (I'm kinda new to "flairs" lol!)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:50 PM
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I don't know if this might shed any light on your question - and I might be just a bit of an outlier so far as some men my age, but for the perspective of a older guy here's my 2 cents. I've read some of the "manosphere" stuff and it's mostly a lot of crap so far as I'm concerned. And I don't know anything about any "older women hate" I'm 63 almost 64. In very good physical condition, all my hair, all my teeth, no conditions, disabilities, or regular meds I have to take. Fully retired (without e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:46 PM
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I'm a man ... and I agree with your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 07:24 PM
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Oh, good grief! No wonder I don't look at this sub much anymore. Some of these comments with all their paradigms, theories, statistics, and whatnot. No wonder people run around nowadays saying they can't find satisfying relationships and the divorce rate is so high. Believe it or not ... it's just not all that complicated. Just let it flow, be the best person you can be, get out there and try to find someone who is a good person and trying to find someone like you, and it happens or it don't. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:19 AM
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No time to respond to all of that ... but the Nag Hammadi scrolls are derived from earlier estimated 2nd to 4th century. And even those are likely as not derived from even earlier texts. There were many forms of Christianity being practiced in the first and second century and many quite different from what has come down to us today.I have zero reason to believe Paul knew anything about Jesus except stories he had heard in his local area and accepted ... and his own "vision" I don't place much cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:56 AM
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Ok .. post them (or whatever definitions you would like to apply for purposes of this discussion.) It's your thread. I shouldn't have to do it. These are both pretty "charged" terms and people have diferent ideas about what they mean. Not agreeing or disagreeing with you on anything ... just trying to make sure we communiate effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:39 PM
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Paul promotes a lot of things in his writings that were never said anywhere in the Gospels by Jesus ... nor even in the Nag Hammadi scrolls. Paul never met Jesus ... except in some kind of vision, so how would he even know? People have "visions"about all sorts of crazy things. It's not even certain any of Paul's theology came from any pre-existing writings he theoretically might hae read about Jesus. The Apostles certainly didn't agree with him on many points. I put Paul in a similar category as…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:00 PM
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Could not even begin to comment upon that question without a definition of "misogyny" and "sexism" .
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:52 PM
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"incurious and unaware"??? Well, you certainly read a lot into that and painted me the way you wanted me to seem. Kind of AH-ish, actually. Have you considered those "selfish desires" you spoke of have more to do with YOU! than anyone else? Not everyone is controlled by their "selfish desires", you know. Some people are actually mature. (Oh, wait ... never mind. Just looked at your post history and negging on others is something you're quite active at)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 07:22 PM
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All I know is what I've lived. That's my reality. You have yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:17 PM
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I don't know what it is with people today vis a vis relationships? (or have many always been as some describe in this thread and I've just been living in a bubble?) All I know is I was married 33 years, twelve of those living with cancer and lots of other trials and tribulations along the way .... both individual and collective. After a certain point it get's like socialist slogan "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs" - or "All for one and one for all" to quote the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 10:24 PM
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Well, I wouldn't use the term "not in their right mind" ... and I wasn't talking about blotto drunk here. Let's just say more open, less guarded. Couple of glasses of wine gives one a little "glow"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 07:02 PM
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Agreed ... but with bartending close to one hundred percent of the women a male bartender interacts with for more than 30 seconds will have at least a little alcohol in her system. It's a bar! That's what you do there. Drink alcohol. And even a little alcohol causes slight bareley noticeable changes in behavior. (mood, amiability, geniality, emotionality) Look at the statistics of the studies that have been done of women sleeping with men they just met that day. I forget the exact number (you co…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:19 PM
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I think the "Dad Bod" attraction is mostly a popular myth. Dad Bod = Bad Bod, in my book. It's a sign of probable health problems down the road. And yes ... I am a Dad. 63 y/o, in great shape and health, and my BMI is 18.5 per the CDC's calculator. That's due mostly healthy diet and physically active lifestyle ... with a regular light exercise routine. And minimizing refined sugars and abstaining from alcohol. (yes, I know those online calculators are not entirely correct) Guys .... don't buy in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:58 PM
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Well, that kind of smacks of AWALT. (correction ... not "kinda"!) I've heard it more than once before ... decades ago, even. It's not a new thought. I file it away as food for thought, but don't buy into that entirely. It's pretty misogynistic and dehumanizing, if you ask me. Plenty of women I've met do have words ... and they use and mean them! One could as easily say: "Men are simple, much like children" ... and that's kinda true for some, I've known. But not AMALT. Everyone communicates non-v…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:51 AM
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Don't forget the folks who were married for decades and now divorced or widowed and are a bit like a fish out of water, esp older folks, and are here trying to figure out this new landscape with the advent of online dating and the changes in the culture. I've seen quite a bit of that on various "relationship" subs also. That would be me. I'm 63 and things sure seem different in some ways than when I was 25. I am mostly focused on meeting women va OLD right now because my lifestyle and geography …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:16 AM
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ummmm, ok dude - whatever.🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:49 PM
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Good for you she's not your girlfriend anymore. If she was really into you she'd have had a different take on those gestures.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:29 PM
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How many of those "shitty drinks" did she have? Both men and women sometimes behave in ways they might not otherwise when under the influence of a drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:05 PM
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Bartending? As I'm sure you well know ... most of those women are under the influence of alcohol to some degree or other. The bartender is often seen as "safe" because he has a reason to be there other than sleazily "cruising for chicks"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:04 PM
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Oh, get off your high horse trying to paint me as some kind of mysogynist. You sound like one of those people the right-wingers like to call FemiNazis and Man-Haters. (although I don't use those terms or necessarily think that way myself) You don't know me. You should check yourself on making assumptions about others without knowing much at all about them (just as I check myself on assuming Diana was a nice person) No .... I don't know that Diana was a nice person. I didn't say she wasn't, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:08 AM
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How do we Princess Diana was such a nice person? ... behind closed doors. Most of what we got to see of her was her public persona - which is something the Royals are paid to put on for reason of British nostalgia and a tourist attraction. I'm not saying she wasn't a nice person, just that we really don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:00 PM
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I don't think anyone is "disposable." Your words, not mine. What is your "inherent value"?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:08 PM
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Colllege degree does not = quality man These two things have nothing to do with each other. Ted Bundy had a law degree, you know. In OLD, I swipe left immediately on women who list college degree as a requirement (and I do see that sometimes) because A. I don't have one, and B. It leads me think they're quite shallow and so we would not be a good match anyway. I would swipe left on them even if I did have a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:44 PM
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You've had two less-than-ideal experiences with men who didn't have a college degree. I can't help but wonder how many men with college degrees have you have had less-than-ideal experiences with? Is it really about whether the man has a college degree or about the men you are choosing to date? Some of the worst human beings in the world have college degrees, you know. Don't get me wrong ... I'm fully supportive of people pursuing higher academic education, it's a good thing. I admire their accom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:32 PM
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For some folks college is just High School Part II.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:28 PM
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I know college educated people with near zero level of intellectual curiosity. Many! And I know non-college educated people who are far more well read and informed than many with a Bachelors degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:25 PM
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Unique experience, huh? I don't think college is such a unique experience. Like high school ....it's kind of an artifical environment/bubble in comparison to the real world. (caveat: I'm not posting the below wall-of-words to blow my own horn. I don't do that a lot and I recognize I have plenty of faults and have plenty of failings in my life, both personal and professional. But I think my personal anecdotal experience is somewhat relevant to this converstation, so here goes ...) I'm 63 y/o, Ame…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:47 PM
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define "good job"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:54 PM
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Try roofing. If you can swing a hammer, haul a bundle of shingles up a ladder, and hack it in the hot sun all day on a steep roof .... you can get a job anywhere any day of the week. Oh, can't do that? Don't want to? Most women can't/won't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:54 PM
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The sex drive of almost every man alive is what gives them inherent value. (also .. they can bear children. But that's just a bonus)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:42 PM
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Thank you so much for that. My adult daughter is HFA (Aspergers, they used to call it) ... tested, confirmed, diagnosed. She's beautiful, high IQ, educated to Masters degree level, very verbal, artistic, and autistic. (sorry, all you young fellas out there ... she's married already) It kind of annoys me how many people are running around nowadays self-diagnosing themselves as "on the spectrum" because they have social problems or failings. It's like the flavor of the month. The trendy way to exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:41 AM
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Spot on. lol! I think you just won Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:15 AM
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I didn't say thousands. But a dozen or more per week. Yeah. So she parses through them and only picks the top quality (in her eyes) men who have sent her a march request (of course all the other women are picking those same guys, so there's that 20% the "pill" guys like to harp about incessantly) One told me she rarely even looks for men's profiles ... just waits to see who she gets "likes" from. And she only checks in on that once a week or so. I've been told (because I asked in the context of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:26 PM
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That's not what I hear from the more attractive women I've discussed OLD with. They get multiple "likes" they can choose to match or not match with every single day. Many of the more attractive women I see online (the real profiles, not the fake ones) I have surmised have probably zero problem attracting male attention in real life. Many are on there for one or all of three reasons I think .... in case a very good upgrade to their current boyfriend comes along; if a Chad happens to message them …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:07 PM
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"Most men couldnt cheat even if they wanted to" And when they do there is often quite a bit of alcohol involved with both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:55 PM
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Sure. But I think for some women fkbois are just a fun to have/do until Mr Right comes along. And if she's just looking for a fling ... she's not going to be looking so much at personality, provider ability, Social status, etc Just looks (muscles, often) and a fun roll in the hay. Prob the same for a lot of guys with their FWB's, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:42 PM
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Or in the words of ZZ Top: "Every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:15 PM
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Junior high school
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:52 PM
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Seeing a pretty woman wearing men's overalls and a tank top is kinda hot, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:39 AM
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Often when men snap over what we are discussing in this topic, they just off themselves. Take a look at the suicide rates for men in the USA.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:30 AM
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I too would have a massive multi-billion dollar business empire and been married three times to supermodels had I been born with a silver spoon in my mouth as one of our former Presidents was. And it wouldn't matter what I looked like or how boorish my pesonality was.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:23 AM
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It's kinda like I say sometimes during discussions with religious or "spiritual" folk when they challenge me with the question of whether I think it's "possible" that some god or gods or afterlife or etc exist. (because that's the first thing Christian apologists try to do ... get you to admit the existence of their God is "possible") "Sure, anything is possible .... but not everything is probable." (and sometimes it amazes me when people seem unable to even comprehend that statment)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:10 PM
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" why the hell would you wait until marriage to know if you are sexually compatible?" I think many years ago in the West (*before the sexual revolution, the pill, ewual rights, the social safety net, etc) it was considered a man's job to teach his chaste or mostly chaste bride how to be sexually compatible with and find pleasure with him - so finding out if each are sexually compatible beforehand was irrelevant. Probably in some other cultures as well, but I'll let anyone else with knowlege spea…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 01:08 PM
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It's only true for some men. Not others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:39 PM
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It's about being disciplined in one's habits. (with occassional exceptions, of course because .... Life!)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:50 PM
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It takes just a little bit of discipline and a big desire to live a healthy lifestyle. Too many easy, bad, cheap,quick, tasty food choices available in our have-it-all-now culture ... reinforced by advertisers and overweight peers who assure us it's A-ok to carry around 20, 50, 100 or more extra pounds of fat tissue. I'm not fat-shaming. (I've been 40 pounds overweight myself at one point in my life.) Just saying the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:27 AM
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All of those are already overweight and the only thing that will keep them from being land-whales is periodic fad dieting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:25 AM
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to Mod Team. That's not what that was. It's just truth. Chubby women are looking for Chads and chubby guys are looking for Stacys. Thus all the angst.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:22 AM
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Chubby avereage women are looking for Chads only too. I blame the culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:30 AM
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"chubby" is "normal"? Perhaps for others in the USA, but not in my world. One doesn't have to be a gym rat, but a regular bodily fitness schedule of course. But the truth is it's mostly about diet. It's not hard to not be "chubby" if one keeps a "clean" diet and doesn't gorge on too many calories daily (and if one isn't already on their way to obesity ... then it does get difficult) "
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:29 AM
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I raised a kid. Not the same thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:37 PM
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It's called being polite and cognizant of another's feelings. Just common decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:37 PM
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My siblings-in-law thought I was the greatest guy in the world during the five years I cared for my late wife with Stage 4 cancer .... then ghosted me not long after she passed. My utility to them was done, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 10:09 PM
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Well, Geez! What do you want her to say? The idea is to let the guy down with as little drama and blow to his self-esteem as possible. She already knows his feelings are likely to be hurt. If a guy can't pick up on that and takes offense .. he should get a clue. Does a man ever tell a woman he's not interested in her because she's obese? That'd have to be one sorry bstrd. I've been in that position and I don't. I just say something polite like "compatibility" or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:14 PM
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"Just like some dudes go for a slim woman with dark features and another may go for the bombshell blonde. Both women are HOT, but they're not both every man's favorite type." Except while those men who likes slim/dark features will sleep with that curvy bombshell blonde anyway if they can, sometimes even going waaaay below their own SMV in a pinch. Women, otoh, have the luxury (natural advantage?) of being more able to select for that guy who is her "type"... or at least one of her "types". I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:08 PM
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Better than leading him on telling him he's a "nice guy" and giving him hope you'll come his way eventually because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:45 PM
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Tell me the percentage of drug-addict criminals in the population, then double that and you have your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:39 PM
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" .... kindness is one of the most highly ranked characteristics in a romantic partner for men and women." "romantic" is not necessarily on the table when someone just wants to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:38 PM
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Power,status,and money are SMV (for a man) every bit as much as looks and probably more so. Each of them in and of itself is, in fact. It's a turn-on for not a few women and addictive for not a few men. Loyalty, reliability, peer approval, being a good person, good father material,knowing how to fix things, acts of service, etc ... those are RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:31 PM
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I've not seen that mentality among the men on here. I've seen more of men claiming the opposite rather.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:22 PM
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It never occurs to them in their arrogance that an "a-theist" might actually be quite a bit more "moral" in how they live their life than many Christians are. I had a job for a few years that required me to be inside Leavenworth penitentiary three days a week. Know what I found out? The prisons are chock full of Christians! And then there's "patriotism." Apparently a-theists are not "patriotic." Never mind my 30 years of service to my country in the military and as an LEO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:50 AM
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"More work" "less opportunities" ?? When one is a wealthy single anesthesiolgist who works around nurses and other female medical staff every day there's plenty of "opportunity" - and it's not a lot of "work", apparently. His profession, wealth, and status are his SMV. (and there's not a little bit of "power" involved in being a well established MD) As I said he's pretty average in the looks department.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:23 AM
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I think he goes for any attractive women within his work environment - hospitals. (which is where he spends most of his time.) From our conversation we had once on the subject, I don't think he's so much interested in what their "goal" is. (relationship, FWB, hookup)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:21 AM
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Not necessarily. They want to make a choice in a man who will be acceptable to and admired by their peer group ... Whatever that peer group might be, As just one example, if a woman is into the biker subculture she will be lookin for a club member who is at least in high-standing within the club, if not one of the officers. She's not necessarily going to be attracted a non-biker or even a new "prospect" to the club because they have little to no social standing/approval within her peer group. A …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:14 AM
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They desire to make a choice in a man who would be socially acceptable to their peer group. Be that friends, family, workmates, or all of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:20 PM
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I' 63. The only men I really give a F' about are my brother,my nephews, and my best friend & fishing buddy since I was six years old. (my Dad passed some years ago)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:17 PM
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My former bro-in-law is an anesthesiologist in his late-50's who makes 600k+ per year. Widowed, fairly average looking face with, some acne scarring, hwp & in decent physical shape, quite a bit of hair loss, not quite 6' tall - maybe 5'9 or 5'10, no real hobbies outside of golf. Fairly arrogant a-hole personality. He crushes it regularly with 20 & 30 something y/o nurses. Yes, he does lead them on with "relationship" hopes ... then pumps & dumps. We talked about it one time ... he has zero remor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:22 PM
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Ain't it funny all the man different sorts of other "life" things people in their holier-than-though arrogance like to project on someone else because of the one simple fact that they happen to not have a belief in any gods. Like just because one doesn't have a god-belief they must be a promiscuous hedonist with no respect for their own body or life. (among all sorts of other "sinful" things.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:15 PM
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" ... guys who insist on paying just so they can get leverage ..." That's a pretty juvenile mindset if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:32 PM
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Why does a ceremony in front of friends and family (but not the government) have to be "meaningless"? In some States a shared living arrangement becomes a common-law-marriage at some point anyway .... if anybody wants to later push the issue in a civil action. Many years ago in my 20's a much older man told me that if I was going to shack up with a girl to never let her move into my place, ... rather move into hers. That way you never have to go through the drama of kicking her out ... you can j…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 05:24 PM
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Well, that's a cop-out reply if I ever read one. We're reading and writing here. It's supposed to be "literal" .... literally! Where do you think the word comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:19 PM
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Could be your money would be better spent on a personal trainer, hair stylist, clothing, and an interesting hobby that doesn't involve a screen? Or in a mutual fund. I don't know ... I'm an old man at 63. I'm just thinking out loud here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:09 PM
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That would not be a "trusted male friend." Do you secretly think all of your male friends have a thing for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:56 PM
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also, very important, pay attention to one's grooming and how they dress. Nice classic clothes that fit well, (forget the trendy clothes and don't go around wearing t-shirts wth messages on them) good haircut that's not weird, clean and good hygeine, don't smell bad (don't douse yourself in cologne either.) Those things are easily do-able and just the act of doing those things helps with one's confidence and self-image. Also, even if one is overweight they can still maintain a certain level of f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:36 PM
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I'm not a red-piller,misogynistic, or anything like that ... but I am 63 and kinda old-school and I was happily married 33 years. I think women's intuition about men is no better than men's intuition about women. Not saying either sex doesn't have some intuition, but it's far from perfect in most folks. I think a woman seeking to validate a potential partner should at least seek out and pay a bit more attention to the views of their trusted male friends and family members views of that guy. Not …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:28 PM
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Exactly. I entered a law enforcement career fairly young that was fairly lucrative over time with very good retirement benefits. I retired one month before my 49th birthday and only had a few gig jobs since. No more selling my soul to "the man" (societal expectations) I do what I want from day to day. Doesn't mean I don't have a "work ethic" ... I've just found most regular jobs to be not worth the exchange of my time anymore for the $ offered. I have enough $.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:26 PM
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Most women wants to be with one of the "top dudes" ... just like most guys want to be with one of the "hot girls." And they'll climb as far up that mountaintop as they can,although they might not reach all the way to the peak where Chad and Stacy live, but they'll get as high as they are able given their abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:16 PM
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I know people with a dozen friends who aren't "properly socialized"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:07 PM
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She was to me - but I also recognize that many (perhaps even most?) people are amazing in some way or other if you take the time to get to know them. (I bet you are too) She was my true friend and life-partner for 33 years. I read once that "soulmates" are made, not found. I think that can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:06 PM
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Whining about anything rarely gets one anywhere in my experience. (and especially so with women! lol!) If I want to whine about something I do it to my fishing buddy when we're 20 miles out in the Gulf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:55 AM
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I pay for the meal on a date the same way I hold a door open or pull a chair out for a woman. Because I'm 63 y/o and old-school. There's no hidden agenda or expectation behind that. It's how I am. It's how I was raised. No apologies. Usually I will couch that when the ticket comes by saying "Let me get this" or "do you mind if I pick up the tab?" If she wants to say "no, let's split it" that's fine too & my feelings aren't hurt. I don't make too much of it either way. If a woman chooses to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:42 AM
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"How would we measure the scale of how real or fake someone’s attraction or love is to you? If they love you unconditionally and they’d give their life away for you, does that make their attraction to you “real”? No, it doesn’t, it just means they would trade their life for whatever they perceive you have or are giving them." I would have gladly taken my late wife's 10 years of cancer upon myself if I could have instead of her. Had nothing to do with attraction or transactionality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:33 PM
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And many women seem quite incapable of being able to discern between the two. (or perhaps they are and just sometimes they don't care because BDE)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:45 PM
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Turned to a female relative for support when my wife of 33 years passed away. Big mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:30 PM
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Call me old-school, but I would never have married and had a family in the first place if I could not support them of my own accord. There was a time this was expected of a man before he took a bride. My wife was a SAHM during our child's early years (before middle school) primarily because we didn't want her to be raised by perfect strangers. It was valuable beting able to focus on my career while neer having to coordinate vacation time or worry about the shopping, yard, house, cars,kid, pets,s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:10 PM
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No, I'm not a woman. I'll let women individually decide what it means to be a woman and how to be a woman in this world - and make my personal assessments of that accordingly on an individual basis. I don't make blanket judgments about people because of what particular demographic group they might be in. There are as many sh*tty women out there as sh*tty men. That's good knowledge to have but that's not my business to do anything about or even respond to .... my only business is to be able to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:28 AM
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Stop whining and trying to evade responsibility and man-up. You knocked her up. You could have used a condom. Whether to get an abortion or not is entirely her prerogative. You're not the one who has to be pregnant for nine months and give birth. (much less raise the kid probably)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:58 AM
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D&D is about the most woman repellent hobby one can have. Get another. You can still do D&D ... but keep it kinda on the down-low. I wouldn't advertise that as a regular feature of my life to prospective dating partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:16 PM
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Why didn't she just ask you what day and then make the other guy pick another day? How about that .... you're already her second choice. No worries though .... maybe she'll "settle" for ya!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:15 PM
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Every guy should have at least one best friend. That guy they've known practically forever. That guy who you would bail each other out of the jail in the middle of the night ... or help bury a body!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:12 PM
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Get a hobby that involves some kind of physical activity or performance. A new(old) hobby I've taken up in recent years is roller skating. I'm 63 and I go at least once a week. Bowling, tennis, pickleball, billiards, kayaking, hiking, community theater, play an instrument, church activities, anything (except video games). Karaoke even.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:10 PM
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"nuerodivergent" ..... have you actually been diagnosed? A lot of people seem to like to say they are nowadays (kind of the self-diagnostic flavor of the month) as an excuse for whatever personality and life deficiencies they may have - but were they to go for professional testing they would not necessarily be diagnosed as on the spectrum. There is far far more to autism than social issues. It's a neurological condition and does present with true neurological issues. My HFA daughter (quite smart…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:02 PM
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The PUA and Red Pill people (I'm neither, but I've read some of their stuff) say women tend to date up and men tend to date down. That's mostly true in my experience. But most people end up settling down with someone fairly equal to themselves in most respects in the end..
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:10 AM
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Or as Crosby Stills and Nash sang ... "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:07 AM
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whose life goals align This.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:05 AM
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Don't shoot anyone in the head ... except maybe metaphorically.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:30 PM
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when they act like a Yank, which most of them do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:24 PM
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I bought my first house around 1992 in Missouri at age 32 for $89k with 5k down and a VA loan. I had been in civil service career about 8 years at that point. 4 years old, Three bed/two bath, 1800 sq ft. I was making about 50k at the time. My interest rate was a bit over 8% as I recall. We didn't think that was particularly high having lived the inflationary period of late-Carter, early-Reagan years. (I had a 12% car loan once) Don't know what you might take away from that, but just for some per…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:18 PM
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I made GS-13 at about the 15 year mark of my carer. Total 26 years. Bought my 4 years military time into the civil service retirement system so my pension calculation is based on 30 years. Yeah ... it was pretty good sometimes for impressing some girls in the "dating" aspect of things for the first few years. But not so much as you might think because I wasn't the only single rank & file BP Agent in town, ... and I did and still do have pretty high standards when it comes to the opposite sex. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:50 PM
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I made 127k my last year (2009) of work as an 1811 Sr Special Agent. No .. it's not about status. If you think it is you've never done the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:59 PM
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"I'm going to be 30-something before I can even afford a deposit," I was 30 something in the early 1990's before I could buy a house .... and I had a good career going as a young Federal Agent here in the USA at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:38 PM
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As a 63 y/o guy (meaning I grew up in the 60's/70's ) I can attest to the truth of your last paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:36 PM
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Why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:08 PM
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How about a intellectual interest? One is no longer allowed to have an intellectual interest in the dynamics of human relationships just because they are in one? What's your problem? Who made you the Judge and Jury of why people are here participating in the discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:46 PM
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My question about your question is what difference does it make whether one is married for them to be interested in a purple pill debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:44 PM
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Trying to influence Americans is like trying to herd cats. You might have some limited temporary success with a few ... but it's doomed to failure in the end. We're just that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:41 PM
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But honestly, some dudes who post here are so socially isolated that they need therapy before they worry about dating. No .. they just need to get out of the house and around new people more. Lots of new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:38 PM
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Vis-a-vis meeting women I like to think of my life as the (I'll just call myself "Gary" here) .... "The Gary Show" I meet women, they check out my life, all the things I've got going on, what I do, how I am, who I associate with ... and they decide if they want to be a part of "The Gary Show" and all the wonderful, fun, and feel-good things that might come their way with being a part of that. Or perhaps they prefer to be part of a different kind of show than mine? That's okay. I'm not going to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:31 PM
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The first statement of yours on here that I've read that I actually agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:09 PM
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So ... you're throwing shade on a whole bunch of people there. But fail to say just who/what you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:08 PM
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What's with the broad brush you are painting "Yankees" with? Who is a "Yankee"? Who in the USA really even uses that word anymore? What/where are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:06 PM
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{ ... go volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen and help out the collective." What a waste of time. The "collective" cares little for 80% or more of single, unattached, men. At least an employer will give you money for your time, effort, and skills ... and often just as much or more social activity, depending on the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:05 PM
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"Men usually only see women as sex toys, maids and incubators for THEIR kids anyway not as people with their own wants and needs." I never thought of my late wife of 33 years in that way. Neither does my brother, brothers-in-law, or my guy friends of many years. Perhaps you are just projecting your own individual personal experiences with one or a few men upon all?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:02 PM
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My religious Dad taught me that a man was meant by God to toil all his days. I never really bought into that. Needless to say ... I'm not a religious person. At all. Society says I should be "productive." Well, who are they to tell me that? Where will "society" be in the moments I draw my last breaths? I'm 63 and made a plan long ago to modestly and sustainably retire by age 50. I accomplished that goal one month short of my 49th birthday and haven't had a J. O. B. to speak of (excepting a few s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:27 PM
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Well, most of that is kind of "duh!" My daddy, granddaddy, uncles, coaches, and assorted other adult men in my life told me all that when I was growing up - just in different and less words (I'm 63) And what I wasn't told about flat-out I quickly learned on my own as a teen and in my early 20's. And so what? Most of this stuff you mention is just kind of obvious, if you ask me and most of the guys I know. (we just don't talk about it) You're a dude ... there's good and bad that comes with that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:06 PM
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Translation: Can't get a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:56 PM
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You're missing my point. I had probably only a couple weeks total of face time with my late wife of 33 years before she moved in. (we met in-person through friends, but there were a few months of letter writing and visits before that) We were just both looking for the same thing at the same time (an ltr) and found each other an "acceptable" choice. She was always my Stacey and I was always her Chad. I'd say we were both equally average looking. Treat her like a princess, I say .... but if you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:03 PM
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When an average woman and an average dude find each other and he thinks of and treats her like she's a Stacey (which is how she wants to be thought of and treated) and she thinks of and treats him like he's a Chad (which is how he wants to be though of and treated) , ..... ah! there you have a match made in heaven! (worked for me and my late wife for 33 years anyway - your mileage may vary)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:05 PM
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I don't swipe on every attractive woman. The reason is because I've matched with some before, whom upon matching I had second thoughts after reviewing their pics and profile again, and came to realize I shouldn't have swiped right on them in the first place. Then the choice is either to message a bit and somehow let them down or ghosting - neither an option I care for because it gives me a sucky feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:50 PM
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Relationships with women are like playing Russian roulette sometimes too ... except she's the one holding the gun.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:11 AM
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marriage to a lazy man who stonewalls in arguments .... and then to project that on men they meet in the future who had nothing to do with that particular experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:05 AM
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"Then even further, men go out of their way to avoid these women by saying we don't want damaged women, we don't want women with past traumas and etc etc, which you throw a hissy fit about." I think it's not so much that as men don't want women projecting on them the traumas other men may have inflicted in the past. Broken wings are a dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:03 AM
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You don't "hit" on women at the gym. You acquaintance yourself with them just like you would a guy gym-buddy. And just like you might with some guy gym-buddy you've known for a little while - if during conversation at the gym there's some fun or interesting something you are going to go do outside the gym they might be interested in you ask them if they want to come along & do whatever that thing is you're going to be doing this weekend or whenever (bowling, hiking, concert, whatever) wth you. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:56 PM
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For perspective on what is considered to be "poor" in America .... I live in middle/east TN currently. A lot of po' folks around these parts. And a lot of them have boats! Might be an older kinda raggedy boat ... but they have 'em. I traveled in Honduras for a few weeks some years ago. Saw a lot of po' folks there too ... but none of them had boats?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:49 PM
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Finally! Somebody who understands how philosophically deep the Simpsons show really is. (to say nothing of Sponge Bob .. now that's just next level!)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:45 PM
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Women like shopping. I think I may start going shopping more. :) Doubtless I'd do better at any mall, Target, etc than a night-club or through OLD. (or even Walmart ... I'm a 9 at Walmart, I think. Maybe even a 9.5 :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:40 PM
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When I was in my teens and twenties there was little opportunity to make it for a young person in my area so I moved. (I don't mock anyone for living at home with their parents after age 18, btw.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:03 PM
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women ... don not want men hittiong them, approaching them, talking to them, being near them, etc etc ​ Well, I don't thank that's true. In my experience it all depends on .... who the man is!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 12:02 AM
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Being widowed for the past 18 months after 33 years married .... No. I am not "fine" with it. ​ (and that's all I got to say 'bout that! 😁)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:40 AM
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It’s dehumanizing because it suggests that to those available women who just want to be friends and don’t want to be romantic with an available man that the man's sole value is the other things they do for them. Most men appreciate being valued for that besides "everything else" as well - and it hurts not to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:42 PM
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I wouldn't know. I haven't looked for a woman "for an evening" only since my I was in my mid 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:18 AM
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I have a high paying job and her support has enabled me to be a high performer and put in extra hours whereas the single men and men with working wives have less time/energy to compete. This. ​ I had a moderate paying job with good benefits and my late wife's support over the years enabled me to parlay that over the years into a somewhat high paying job ... and to retire at age 50, in fact. I do not discount her contribution one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:15 AM
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lol! Ain't gonna touch that one with a ten foot pole!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:11 AM
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And that's what real "alpha" is. Personally, I don't view many "Chads" as "alpha" because many have no "honor" Geez! Where do they get this stuff? Chads? Alphas? Can't believe even I'm using those terms. I was taught to be a man of honor by my father, uncles, and other men in my life growing up. It's not about subjugating women. It's about taking care of one's own business, life, and family. Just as my wife's was about taking care of our family, life, and "business" For example ... my wife as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:58 PM
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"I was completely clueless on what masculinity meant ..." I think there's a whole lot of women out there who are clueless on what true masculinity is. I can tell you one thing .... it ain't a Lexus or six-pack abs. Many seem to think so though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:02 PM
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Hmmmm? Can't say I'm as wealthy as you claim you are ... but I've done pretty well. Maybe I should flaunt some of my pricier toys, lifestyle, and travel a bit more? (I don't ... because "flaunting" things has never been my way. But perhaps I need to change that?)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:57 AM
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You say that in terms of a relationship. But not when you're looking for just a 'f'boy' for the evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:46 PM
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As a 62 y/o widower (coming off a 33 year marriage, tall, fit, optimal weight, all my hair & teeth, very healthy, financially comfortable, reasonably attractive facial features I think,) I have the same problem. Not interested in women who were divorced ten years ago and boinked fifty or a hundred guys since while on their post divorce merry-go-round. While I'm nearly as physically and sexually fit as I was when I was 25 (perhaps needing a bit more refractory time nowadays) and have plenty of li…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:40 PM
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I'll take a hot woman who is NOT a headache. Why is that not an option in your post? Two please! 😄 For the record, I, for one, do care about a woman's financial status as well as physical attractiveness, health, personality, etc I (and my late wife) spent a lifetime building what small "empire of dirt" I have. Not interested in dating anyone who will need to be financially dependent on me to keep up with my lifestyle. (no, I'm not a billionaire, but I've done okay. And that's not saying I wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:22 PM
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Why should I 'settle" ? Attractive women don't. If not in terms of physical attractiveness then often in terms of financial/career/social-status/stability/personality,etc attractiveness. Sorry, but I want someone who can keep up with me in terms of health and fitness. Then there's the physical attraction factor .... not to be lightly discounted. I don't see it as any different than any other "filter" one might have in seeking a relationship. And ... THERE"S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! (not yelling …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:09 PM
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And some women are prone to "branch swinging" Let's not paint all men & women with a broad brush though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:12 AM
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Mmmmmm. Gonna have to disagree with you a bit there. My late wife stayed home for many years raising our child and making a nice home for us - relieving me of many after-work and weekend responsibilities so our family could enjoy. She did go through college as an adult and get a teaching degree and did teach a few years when our child got older. So it's not like she didn't have something to "fall back on" should something happen to me. In fact I supported, paid for, and encouraged her getting he…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:09 AM
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