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While some folks may have jumped on the RP bandwagon as meshing well with their religious belief ... I expect there are many other non-religious folk who have as jumped on as well and it has zero to do with religion for them. I'm not religious at all, though raised Christian. I was married 33 yrs and my wife was mostly what they call nowadays a "trad wife" - esp when our child was younger and she was a SAHM for a for a number of years *(although she did go back to college during that time for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:44 AM
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"how he can get it up at age 40- 50 without viagra" 40 - 50? There are guys who have trouble at that age? In their 40s?!? Seriously? And I ask that with all sincerity - none of my friends have ever mentioned it (but then I don't talk in-depth/detail about our repective sex lives with my friends.) Not to brag, but I'm 64 and never had a issue with that - and probably have still 75% of the libido I had at 25. On the topic though .... I had a vas in my late 30's after having a kid and deciding we d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:32 AM
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They claim it's not "misogyny" (hatred ofwomen), rather "reality" (biology and evolution)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:50 AM
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"How are many people surprised that women say no to this?" Not a few women are fine with it so long as they are protected, cared for, and not emotionally or physically abused. Not advocating for the so-called "patriarchy" personally ... I'm just saying. Just look at many mainstream Christian communities .. they actually teach this, some more overtly than others. And most people in this country are Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:34 AM
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Money and status are the same for some women. (All you have to do is look at our politicians' scandals to see that.) (I personally know of a particular case - and yes, she did wait for him when he went to (white collar) prison for 30 months. I can only guess the prospect of hanging on his arm as he takes her to fancy cocktail parties with "very important people" in attendance is more important than the fact of getting slapped and kicked around once in awhile.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:19 PM
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Well, all I know about this so-called "Red Pill" stuff is what I've read on the internet. From that and the way I was raised and have always lived my life I suppose some might say I am a "red pill"? I'm 64 y/o, 6'1 185, white, very fit, very healthy, quite sane, with a solid upper middle class retirement income. (a "666 guy", as some on the internet might say) Somewhat stoic and intellectual in my outlook on life. I'm also widowed after 33 years happily married and accompanied my late wife on he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:11 AM
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"Men can be, and often are, stupid AF." I know some quite wealthy men, intelligent and well-educated, with "trophy wives" They know exactly what the deal is and that's exactly what they want. So .... why are they "stupid"? It's kind of a win-win, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:16 PM
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I've heard money can be quite the aphrodisiac. Status and power as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:11 PM
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I was married 33 years, had some relationships before that from a few months to two years, and now dating again since becoming widowed. In my personal experience, I do not find the OP's premise valid at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:51 AM
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What's this? You mean if I were 14 again, me and my buddies wouldn't have to sneak into my uncle's garage/workshop to take a look at some pictures of lady titties and bush in the collection of Playboys he kept under the workbench - with at least one of us keeping watch in case my Uncle came out to the garage? (or god forbid, my aunt!) There's an easier way for a fella to see some boobies now?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:12 PM
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Tell me about it. I'm 64 and was married 33 years. Being widowed is sometimes like being on a strange alien planet to me. "Suicide Incidence in Older Men In 2020, men aged 65-74 had a suicide rate of 24.7/100,000, and men aged 75 and older had a rate of 40.5/100,000 – both higher than the overall national rate of 13.5/100,000. Notably, older adult suicide is predominantly a male phenomenon; the suicide rate of women aged 65-74 in 2020 was 5.6/100,000, and the rate among women aged 75 and older w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:56 PM
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I expect there are very few men in this country "complaining about women's day." Most of us take no notice of it at all. (we tend to just remember the "days" we're supposed to get you guys flowers or something lol!) If I felt I needed or desire for more male camaraderie than just my biker and fishing buddies, there's plenty of men's organizations out there I could join. My first choice would likely be the Masons, I think. I suppose I could join a veterans or law enforcement oriented group given …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:51 AM
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In regard your phrase about "being a simp", I'm kind of fond of the biblical phrase "Don't cast your pearls before swine" Yes, some women are swine in their behaviors. Some men too. (unless it's just to give them a pearl necklace and be on one's way, of course 😄)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:43 AM
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The brotherhood of Masons has been around seems like forever. My Dad and most of my uncles were Masons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:39 AM
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I tried going to church a couple of times since becoming single. (Some pretty ladies there, for sure.) Church/bible discussion groups tend to pander to Christians though and other views are not welcome, so it wasn't working for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:37 AM
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Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal had a thing or two to say about this. (personally, I'm going to have to go with Billy Crystal on this one) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEV_pQIf3Og
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:28 PM
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Basic stuff for women: Do lots of yoga and pilates and you'll attract more men. (but not necessarily higher quality men - and the same goes for the standard RP advice to men. One has to sort that out for themselves) Me? I'm not gonna just jump in bed with a low-quality woman at the drop of a hat. (Though some women somehow seem expect that I'm just supposed to "service" them on demand or whatever?)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 10:14 PM
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Just ... yes. Best comment I've seen on this thread. And as I told someone in a recent reply - the opinions and experiences expressed here are a particular subset of the set of: "All Men And Women." That particular subset being: "Men and Women Who Opine About Relationships on Reddit" (and girls and boys)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 10:10 PM
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Consider though that you're drawing your conclusions from a certain subset of the set of All Men, that subset being: "Men who go on Reddit and opine about relationships" (and I use the term "men" loosely - there's not a few young boys/teens here, I think) Most men don't do that, actually. Opine about relationships on Reddit. It's a bit of a recent thing for me even and more of an intellectual curiousity and perhaps a bit of entertainmet than anything. I'm certainly not looking to find any answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:45 PM
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Where did you get the idea all men lie to get sex? I can only speak for myself, but I strive to be a very honest person in all of my relationships. It's just how I'm built and how I choose to live my life. I have a "code" and it's not any kind of religious thing (I'm a-theist.) I know other men who are similar. I don't have low-integrity male friends. Life's too short to spend it hanging out with sh*tty people. ("Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres".) Consider perhaps you are projecting y…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:43 PM
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"Why would a man want to deal with emotional baggage from an older less appealing woman?" Well, a lot of times I would imagine it has to do with the fact many men have their own bit of baggage and are not exactly a slice of prime rib themselves. Not every guy is a 666. The vast majority aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:42 PM
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I wouldn't go so far as to use one personal anecdote to indict an entire population of people, so good on you for prefacing with that. Personal anecdotes? Well, I grew up on a farm in a very red Southern State to non-college educated lower middle working class parents. Public schools. My brother became a Nuclear Engineer. My sister became a Psychiatrist (MD). I dropped out of college early, enlisted in the military for a few years, and later had much success as a Federal law enforcement professi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:14 PM
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In my experience many women don't care so much whether a man can fix the car himself or can afford to take it to be fixed posthaste. Either way he fixed the car - and they didn't have to deal with it. And they appreciate that. It's about a man that can and will "take care of business" and "solve the problem" In some circles a man appreciates a woman who can throw an awesome dinner party ... no matter that she had the food catered and can't fry an egg herself. Of course there is a certain sexy as…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:21 PM
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As to the OP ... well, hmmmm? I guess I wouldn't know. Sounds like a bit of a butt-hurt rant. But I don't hang out with any "boss bitches", so .... If you wanna give somebody a gift, give them a gift. If you don't want to, don't. This does not seem so complicated to me. And if I may go biblical for a moment (though I'm not a theist) - I don't cast my pearls before swine. There are a few truths in what I sometimes like to refer to as the Buy-Bull. A lot of men don't value themselves enough when i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:05 PM
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What you call "trad" ... I call just being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:06 PM
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I NEVER expected my wife to work. I told her when we got engaged (1988) I would always take care of us financially regardless, so long as I was physically and mentally able. By the same token I never told her I didn't want her to work either. I just consider all of that to have been my gift to her, like the many gifts she brought to my life. The homemaker life you mention is what she wanted for much of our time together. It suited us both, was good for our daughter (who is on the spectrum, high-…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:14 PM
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"Ain't it the truth? Ain't it the truth!?" --- The Cowardly Lion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:07 PM
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When you've been married 33 years as I was you learn there are a lot of kinds of equality in a relationship and things aren't always even-steven. It comes and it goes. It ebbs and it flows. You don't count it up at the end like an accounting ledger. A man offering to pay for the date is no big deal in the grand scheme of things. It's just a simple nod to romantic chivalry ... not "toxic masculinity." (and for those women who might choose to phrase it that way, well ... there won't be a second da…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:03 PM
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I've just turned 64. Been widowed a few years now and I do online dating because I'm just not involved in many things in my daily life that put me in proximity to eligible women who would be attractive to me. I've turned down a number of match requests this past year from women in their 30's and 40's. While some are physically attractive to me and seemingly nice enough, having interacted with a few, I've found our lives and worldview just tend to not be very compatible. (and I don't do "hookups"…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:28 PM
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OP uses the term "modern women" (3 times?) as though AWALT. I expect women have a lot of different views on the definition of the term "modern woman"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:02 PM
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Oh, good God! What a load of horse-sht. *(where's that eye-roll emoji when I need it) Abortion is a woman's prerogative and nobody else's. Period. Full stop. If one doesn't like the paternity/child support laws in this country for whatever reason, they can take it up with their elected representatives (or just don't have sex with women) But it's quite clear OP is living in some kind of fantasyland in their head with this. The vast majority of Americans disagree with this whole "paper abortion" n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:08 PM
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The purpose of casual dating isn't to perform a public service. For the LTR oriented man with a good head on his shoulders it's to find a life-partner and future mother for his children - and have a little fun along the way. For the non-LTR guy,it's just to have a little fun. "Isn't that counterproductive both for him and for other men?" One man could care less about another man's prospects in finding a life-partner and mother for their children. Why should he? It's not the job of men as a group…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:52 PM
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"red pill advises men to have a constant rotation of women to avoid commitment." That has more to do with dating and casual sex, I think. It's really more of a "PUA" thing. Red pill have a different veiw whe it comes to marriage, as I understand. Men are encouraged to "wife-up" a woman of good character who hasn't been riding the "carousel" What many women fail to understand, I think, is the high "SMV" guy is more than willing to "pump-and-dump" when in the singles dating world, but when he's lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:11 AM
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Hey! Mind your own business, maybe. That's a way-off topic attack based solely on someone's username. Someone you know near-zero about. Your just projecting your own life experience, mistakes and failings. Your problem wasn't cannabis ... it was YOU. That's why your marriage failed. Take a little responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:59 AM
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Is a very good looking woman who will not date men who make less than 100k not leveraging her looks to attain a man with resources? (and I think we see a lot ofthis in Western societies)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 10:50 AM
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"where are these so called RedPill men that actually put in the effort to become financially successful" I can only speak for myself and some other men I know as to financial success. You tell me if any of it's "Red Pill" or not? Me: high school, 4 years active duty, Border Patrol then INS/ICE. Transferred & promoted several times. Retired as Senior Special Agent DHS. 26 yrs + bought my 4 yrs military into the pension system = 30 yrs retirement calculation. Retired at age 49 with full health ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:30 PM
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A lot of men just don't put in the effort to increase their financial succcess and success with women. At it's heart - RP is just pointing out that a man needs to put in the effort if a man wants improve their odds of being more successful in life (financial, romantic, family, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:18 PM
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I wonderif they're over there on that Red Pill Women sub discussing how to keep one's man from "branch-swinging' to a more attractive woman? I guess I'll have to check in over there and see - lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:00 PM
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In a healthy relationship men give of themselves to women and women give of themselves to men. Doesn't mean anyone is necessarily being "used"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:58 AM
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I always assume I will be picking up the check - unless she protests, which is fine too. I haven't kept numbers on it because I've never really cared - but looking back I would estimate about 50% of my first dates, will insist we go dutch. This could be in part because I'm in an older age group than many on here. I don't mind and don't think it's a big deal. It's not because I am hoping to buy a woman's affections. It's just part of the mating dance. You see this behavior in some lower animal sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:48 AM
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I am speaking of my own daughter, btw. She took it upon herself to get diagnosed during her Phd program - although she and we suspected it for many years. (health insurance covered most of the cost of the testing - which involved an extensive four hour interview with her mother and I as to her childhood development - in additon to the actual cognitive tests and interview she had to undergo herself) In grade school her teachers took it upon themselves to diagnose her ADD (more than once) and stro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:33 PM
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I don't think you're reading what I was saying correctly. Or perhaps I didn't say it correctly. Generally speaking (not AWALT or AMALT) .... Women can attract men who have money and social status based solely upon being good looking. Women who do not have good looks will not often attract men with money and social status. Generally. Men with money and a high social status can attract good-looking women even when not particularly good looking themselves. Generally. Men without two of the three fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:10 PM
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Wouldn’t guys like a hot girl with money that would make other guys jealous? Or two out of three? The two-out-of-three I mention does not apply to men's attraction to women. A girl who is hot and has money but no social status, you say? But of course. That IS two out of three. Most guys don't care too much about a woman's money (beyond being able to support her own self financially, and sometimes not even then.) Social status can be a factor for a particular subset of guys when looking for a mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:49 PM
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Thank you or piping in with that. When I get on the topic of self-diagnoses of autism on the internet I usually get a lot of hate about my views of that. (always from people who have diagnosed themselves) The woman I know can be very social in certain situations ... but only for short periods of time, then experiences a certain social exhaustion which can last for days. She's just learned to mask very well. (and she's very aware of this - she's pretty highly educated)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:31 PM
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Ok. I confess. I intentionally threw that in to be provoacative. 😁 "Non-consensual." "Involuntary." Six of one, half a dozen of the other. But ... all kidding or being provactive aside, I'm thinking not a few involuntarily celibate guys might agree with that term. They do NOT consent to being celibate. (although, as I said, the OP of this thread seems to be making an argument for it) I guess though "nonconcel" doesn't quite have the same ring as "incel" lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:28 PM
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Nope. Not that at all. I hae actually had this discussion with her about why she does not care to particupate in the activist autism community. It's more of a desire to not be labelled as disabled. She's also pretty pissed about all the faux Aspergirls which seems to have become a bit of a fad of late. There's a lot more to autism than just being socially awkward and not everyone who is socially awkward is autistic. That's why I tend to query of anyone who is saying they are autistic whether the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:10 PM
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Most guys still won't want her if she's fat. Period. I've known some pretty hefty guys who got together with some pretty hot women though - but in every case the guy had both money and status. Never seen the opposite though that I can recall. (note: I'm 64 and probably seen a bit more of people's relationships in the world than some younger folks My thoughts on this particular topic are not an AWALT and not to be interpreted as such. I don't believe in AWALT or AMALT)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:01 PM
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Inoluntarily. A man who does not consent to his own state of celibacy. (the oP is trying to make a case for Voluntary Celibacy. A man who does consent to his state of celibacy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:49 PM
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I'm 64 (is that "old"?) and I still like naked ladies very much!😁😄 It's one of my favorite things, in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:17 PM
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Girls like hot guys with money and status that are gonna make the other girls jealous. (2 out of 3 will often do, though)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:15 PM
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So long as the celibacy is voluntary (and consensual lol!) ... I'm pro-choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:59 PM
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They had to be let out because those 'hospitals' weren't treating them. They were torturing them or locking them up without a die process They had to be let out because the legal standard for throwing someone in the looney bin changed to "a danger to self or others" and many people we used to involuntarily lock up in asylums did not meet that new standard. As long as one is not a danger to self or others, they're free to be as crazy as they want in this country. (as evidenced by the recent Presi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 01:48 AM
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I've read up on this Red Pill stuff a bit. There seem to be some different varieties but the mainstream thinking as I've been able to ascertain is that Red Pill is about self-improvement as a man - and the side benefit of that becoming more attractive to more women. I don't view that as necessarily a bad thing for some young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 11:06 PM
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It's not that rare, really. Go out in the world and look about. btw ... what do you mean when you say "beautiful women"? But of course many (not all) 8's, 9's, and 10's are gonna picky - and not just about height. Because they have options ... same as men who are 8's, 9',s and 10's. You would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:40 PM
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Well, I guess it gives a guy someone to dump all their emotional sh*t out on instead of family and friends where that can wear on relationships really quick. Nobody likes to be around the sad troubled guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:33 PM
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"My problem is that most women want nothing to do with short men, and I am a short man. ..." No. Your problem is your perception that "most women want nothing to do with short men." How about rephrasing that more correctly as "most women prefer a taller man. But many of them will go for a shorter one if there are other physical and/or life qualities that attract them" I'm 64 years old and I've known plenty of shorter men that a very beautiful taller woman fell for. (my son-in-law for just one)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:29 PM
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Because everyone with social/life problems is not autistic. And everyone with some autistic personality traits is not necessarily "on the spectrum" either. In fact, I would go so far as say most people running around nowadays saying they are on the spectrum are, in fact, not. It's become a bit of a fad - something to hang one's hat on for an excuse not to deal with their particular personality issues. There's a whole lot more to autism than just just being socially awkward. There are whole nuero…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:58 AM
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Neuro-atypical people tend to be drawn to each other I'm not so sure about that. I know an Aspergirl 30 y/o. Professionally diagnosed. She is definitely not drawn to other Aspies. Does not even want to be part of the Autism community because she doesn't want to be defined by her nuerodivergent traits. The thinkig is that she is so much more than just "on the spectrum" ... it's just a part of what she is. (and that's a very healthy way of looking at it, I think)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:07 AM
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I've known an Aspergirl quite well all of her life (extensively and professionally diagnosed - not one of these fad self-diagnosed people). Genius level IQ and a very high level of academic achievement. Think Sheldon without being quite so annoying. Very physically attrractive, fit, works-out, follows a very healthy diet - and also fairly unemployable. Never had a date (too shy) till she was 20 and got on one of the apps. Had 3 dates in a month and found her guy on the third date. Quiet IT/gamer…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:51 AM
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I wil tell you this - sure, there are guys who are "leg men", "boob men" etc .... but most men's first and primary filter is weight. Not boob size or anything else. Don't believe me? Start a thread and find out. They won't admit it out loud in polite company because that's supposed to be socially unacceptable somehow to even take notice of a woman's weight. Almost all dating apps do NOT have a field to put in one's actual weight or weight range. Some have a field for body "type" (thin, average, …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:32 AM
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The OP offers zero evidence of their assertions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:02 PM
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They're not upper class in my book. It's low class and crude. Having wealth and/or popularity doesn't make one classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:47 AM
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I kinda think you really have to be a spy though .. or a damn good liar with a backstopped story. (aka: con man) Of course corpoate CEO ala Richard Gere in Pretty Woman or Christian Gray in Fifty Shades of Gray work too, I suppose.
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:40 AM
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"Bond. James Bond." (got any money to go with that persona?)
/r/seduction22/11/24 11:17 PM
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What "women's issues" do men who "believe in RP nonsense" not care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:33 PM
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I'm not a big fan of swearing - and not because I'm religious or anything, I'm not at all. I just think it's crude and low-class. (and that's what I taught my kid growing up who, now, as an adult, does not swear)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:19 PM
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"Labelling men who work on their "game" to come off as more attractive than they actually are/think they are as "lying to women for sex" is a pretty slippery slope." One can even extend that thought with the idea that men who work to improve their "game" actually become more attractive to women. Just as a woman who works out at the gym often becomes more attractive ... that's not lying. Self-improvement is self-improvement. There are many different ways in which one can improve one's self.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:16 PM
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" ... side hustle of robbing banks." A fella might want to keep mention of that one. Demonstrates his ability to obtain resources and provide ... not to mention it gives off a bit of that bad-boy panache! lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:32 AM
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Only some of us. The rest are just worker-bee drones we use to do the dirty work. 😁 (I kid, but kinda true actually. Me? I arranged my life to retire before age 50. I had no interest in being a debt-slave all of my life ---- although that doesn't seem to bother most Americans for some reason?)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:31 PM
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To keep the Social Security system afloat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:27 PM
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I use a mail brush but it doesn’t get all especially where the nail meats the cuticle where I also get these corners. Psssst .... try an electric sonic toothbrush and toothpaste on them.
/r/seduction21/11/24 01:45 AM
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Where does your 10% figure come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:58 AM
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I didnt say anyone should be prevented from doing anything. I'm saying I won't use people's emotionally vulnerability for financial gain and I wouldn't respect a woman who does. Especially when they are manipulative as many of these OF sites reportedly are. 10% of men on earth with an internet connection patronize OF girls? C'mon man, get real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:25 AM
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Video games and alcohol are fine ... in moderation. I admit I do very little of either myself. (I don't know what "ski" is? Is that a word for something where you live?) First off ... it's a spectrum. So "limits" don't really apply. Emotionally/Socially healthy: can approach women and talk to them and shrug off rejection; and actually has girlfriends. Maybe not all the time. But at a minimum can usually get a date at least once or twice a month if they try - if not seeing someone regularly. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:13 AM
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It's not about that. It's about manipulating emotionally vulnerable people for financial gain. I don't laugh at guys who pay for OF, I feel kinda sorry for them actually because I imagine a lot of them are probably pretty good guys who are just having problems with women in the real world in a mentally/emotionally healthy way. If you ask me there are many guys who engage in this sort of thing who need help, actually. Guidance, at a minimum. Not someone further enabling their failure to be able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:12 PM
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It's a put on. She's leading him on. Being emotionally open and accepting to him. There's no risk of rejection. He doesn't have to try hard to charm her and she fakes finding him likeable or charming. He knows he will never fail with her. The "experience" he is getting with an OF girl is not the same experience he will encounter with real women out in the real world. His newfound confidence will crumble quickly in the face of that. The only way to build real confidence in that respect is to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:03 PM
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She may be great to have as a girlfriend, but as for me? .... not one I would wife-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:49 PM
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A guy can be "good for you" .... until the chips are down, and then he'll likely be a gone guy if he's not actually a good guy. Me? I'm not always a nice guy. But I am a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:15 PM
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"when looking specifically at the sexual history of women and men near the end of their sexual career between the ages of 28 and 30 " Wait. What? I'm 64 and can assure you I'm far from the end of my "sexual career" nor are the women in my age range in online dating that I match with and date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:32 PM
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When you have kids, life is not always "easier" with both people working. My late wife was a SAHM for many years. Life was definitely easier for us with her not working. My income was always sufficient to provide a middle class lifestyle. We could have had much more $ though had she worked all those years. We chose the benefits to both us of her being a SAHM over the additional money. It's a tradeoff. (btw - I'm kind of a traditional guy. I don't think a man should marry or have kids unless and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:23 AM
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It's called the "halo effect." Men do it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:09 AM
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I see. I'm not sure if your objection is financial, moral,or both? In light of your response, I have a few questions then: Would you then deny poor women on Medicaid the costs of prenatal and birthing care? Would you then also deny medicaid coverage for any children born to a woman on Medicaid? (you do understand an abortion is far,far, cheaper for the taxpayer than those things, right?) Rape/incest exceptions: Does a fetus conceived of rape or incest somehow have a less of a right to life (or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:14 PM
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You do understand that the prenatal care and birthing costs for a poor woman on Medicaid are paid by Medicaid, right? And you do understand the health care costs of a child of a poor woman on Medicaid is also likely to be paid by Medicaid. What do you suggest? Abolish Medicaid? Deny Medicaid coverage for prenatal care and birthing expenses? Deny Medicaid coverage for any child born to a woman on Medicaid? On a related note: If a female US soldier is captured, impregnated via rape by her captors,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 08:12 AM
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The only taxpayer paid-for abortions would be for poor women on Medicaid. An abortion costs somewhere between $500 and $1000 typically. How much do you think prenatal care, birthing costs, post-natal care, early childhood care, etc etc is going to cost Medic-Aid? And being born to a mother poor enough to be on Medic-Aid, but of course the child the mother never wanted to have in the first place is certainly going to also be on Medicaid for the next 18 years. (the mother's eligibility for assista…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:48 PM
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" ... so we as a society can develop a clear point at which when we decide a fetus is deserving human rights" You will never get religious folk to agree upon that. Me? I'm 64 y/o and a pretty traditional guy in many respects including gender roles to some degree. So far as I'm concerned abortion is a decision to be made by the woman and her health care provider. It's none of the goverment's (or anyone else's) business.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:33 PM
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I suspect there are a lot more women like you than most men realize. (and vice-versa to some degree or other) One doesn't hear so much about them in a subreddit like this though because most of them are in happy committed relationships and not whining about imagined AWALT/AMALT issues on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:42 PM
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Sorry, but going to have to agree with 'throwaway164_3' on that In the real world to attract male attention all a woman has to do really is not be fat and signal availablity. (barring any kind of terrible disfigurements or disabilities,of course) (I'm 64 and date from 45 to 70, btw)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:51 AM
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No time to respond to all of that ... but the Nag Hammadi scrolls are derived from earlier estimated 2nd to 4th century. And even those are likely as not derived from even earlier texts. There were many forms of Christianity being practiced in the first and second century and many quite different from what has come down to us today.I have zero reason to believe Paul knew anything about Jesus except stories he had heard in his local area and accepted ... and his own "vision" I don't place much cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:56 AM
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Ok .. post them (or whatever definitions you would like to apply for purposes of this discussion.) It's your thread. I shouldn't have to do it. These are both pretty "charged" terms and people have diferent ideas about what they mean. Not agreeing or disagreeing with you on anything ... just trying to make sure we communiate effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:39 PM
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Paul promotes a lot of things in his writings that were never said anywhere in the Gospels by Jesus ... nor even in the Nag Hammadi scrolls. Paul never met Jesus ... except in some kind of vision, so how would he even know? People have "visions"about all sorts of crazy things. It's not even certain any of Paul's theology came from any pre-existing writings he theoretically might hae read about Jesus. The Apostles certainly didn't agree with him on many points. I put Paul in a similar category as…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:00 PM
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Could not even begin to comment upon that question without a definition of "misogyny" and "sexism" .
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:52 PM
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"incurious and unaware"??? Well, you certainly read a lot into that and painted me the way you wanted me to seem. Kind of AH-ish, actually. Have you considered those "selfish desires" you spoke of have more to do with YOU! than anyone else? Not everyone is controlled by their "selfish desires", you know. Some people are actually mature. (Oh, wait ... never mind. Just looked at your post history and negging on others is something you're quite active at)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 07:22 PM
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All I know is what I've lived. That's my reality. You have yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:17 PM
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I don't know what it is with people today vis a vis relationships? (or have many always been as some describe in this thread and I've just been living in a bubble?) All I know is I was married 33 years, twelve of those living with cancer and lots of other trials and tribulations along the way .... both individual and collective. After a certain point it get's like socialist slogan "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs" - or "All for one and one for all" to quote the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 10:24 PM
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Well, I wouldn't use the term "not in their right mind" ... and I wasn't talking about blotto drunk here. Let's just say more open, less guarded. Couple of glasses of wine gives one a little "glow"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 07:02 PM
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Agreed ... but with bartending close to one hundred percent of the women a male bartender interacts with for more than 30 seconds will have at least a little alcohol in her system. It's a bar! That's what you do there. Drink alcohol. And even a little alcohol causes slight bareley noticeable changes in behavior. (mood, amiability, geniality, emotionality) Look at the statistics of the studies that have been done of women sleeping with men they just met that day. I forget the exact number (you co…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:19 PM
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I think the "Dad Bod" attraction is mostly a popular myth. Dad Bod = Bad Bod, in my book. It's a sign of probable health problems down the road. And yes ... I am a Dad. 63 y/o, in great shape and health, and my BMI is 18.5 per the CDC's calculator. That's due mostly healthy diet and physically active lifestyle ... with a regular light exercise routine. And minimizing refined sugars and abstaining from alcohol. (yes, I know those online calculators are not entirely correct) Guys .... don't buy in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:58 PM
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Well, that kind of smacks of AWALT. (correction ... not "kinda"!) I've heard it more than once before ... decades ago, even. It's not a new thought. I file it away as food for thought, but don't buy into that entirely. It's pretty misogynistic and dehumanizing, if you ask me. Plenty of women I've met do have words ... and they use and mean them! One could as easily say: "Men are simple, much like children" ... and that's kinda true for some, I've known. But not AMALT. Everyone communicates non-v…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:51 AM
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Don't forget the folks who were married for decades and now divorced or widowed and are a bit like a fish out of water, esp older folks, and are here trying to figure out this new landscape with the advent of online dating and the changes in the culture. I've seen quite a bit of that on various "relationship" subs also. That would be me. I'm 63 and things sure seem different in some ways than when I was 25. I am mostly focused on meeting women va OLD right now because my lifestyle and geography …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:16 AM
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ummmm, ok dude - whatever.🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:49 PM
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Good for you she's not your girlfriend anymore. If she was really into you she'd have had a different take on those gestures.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:29 PM
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How many of those "shitty drinks" did she have? Both men and women sometimes behave in ways they might not otherwise when under the influence of a drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:05 PM
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Bartending? As I'm sure you well know ... most of those women are under the influence of alcohol to some degree or other. The bartender is often seen as "safe" because he has a reason to be there other than sleazily "cruising for chicks"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:04 PM
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Oh, get off your high horse trying to paint me as some kind of mysogynist. You sound like one of those people the right-wingers like to call FemiNazis and Man-Haters. (although I don't use those terms or necessarily think that way myself) You don't know me. You should check yourself on making assumptions about others without knowing much at all about them (just as I check myself on assuming Diana was a nice person) No .... I don't know that Diana was a nice person. I didn't say she wasn't, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:08 AM
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How do we Princess Diana was such a nice person? ... behind closed doors. Most of what we got to see of her was her public persona - which is something the Royals are paid to put on for reason of British nostalgia and a tourist attraction. I'm not saying she wasn't a nice person, just that we really don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:00 PM
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I don't think anyone is "disposable." Your words, not mine. What is your "inherent value"?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:08 PM
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Colllege degree does not = quality man These two things have nothing to do with each other. Ted Bundy had a law degree, you know. In OLD, I swipe left immediately on women who list college degree as a requirement (and I do see that sometimes) because A. I don't have one, and B. It leads me think they're quite shallow and so we would not be a good match anyway. I would swipe left on them even if I did have a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:44 PM
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You've had two less-than-ideal experiences with men who didn't have a college degree. I can't help but wonder how many men with college degrees have you have had less-than-ideal experiences with? Is it really about whether the man has a college degree or about the men you are choosing to date? Some of the worst human beings in the world have college degrees, you know. Don't get me wrong ... I'm fully supportive of people pursuing higher academic education, it's a good thing. I admire their accom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:32 PM
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For some folks college is just High School Part II.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:28 PM
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I know college educated people with near zero level of intellectual curiosity. Many! And I know non-college educated people who are far more well read and informed than many with a Bachelors degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:25 PM
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Unique experience, huh? I don't think college is such a unique experience. Like high school ....it's kind of an artifical environment/bubble in comparison to the real world. (caveat: I'm not posting the below wall-of-words to blow my own horn. I don't do that a lot and I recognize I have plenty of faults and have plenty of failings in my life, both personal and professional. But I think my personal anecdotal experience is somewhat relevant to this converstation, so here goes ...) I'm 63 y/o, Ame…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:47 PM
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define "good job"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:54 PM
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The sex drive of almost every man alive is what gives them inherent value. (also .. they can bear children. But that's just a bonus)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:42 PM
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I didn't say thousands. But a dozen or more per week. Yeah. So she parses through them and only picks the top quality (in her eyes) men who have sent her a march request (of course all the other women are picking those same guys, so there's that 20% the "pill" guys like to harp about incessantly) One told me she rarely even looks for men's profiles ... just waits to see who she gets "likes" from. And she only checks in on that once a week or so. I've been told (because I asked in the context of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:26 PM
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That's not what I hear from the more attractive women I've discussed OLD with. They get multiple "likes" they can choose to match or not match with every single day. Many of the more attractive women I see online (the real profiles, not the fake ones) I have surmised have probably zero problem attracting male attention in real life. Many are on there for one or all of three reasons I think .... in case a very good upgrade to their current boyfriend comes along; if a Chad happens to message them …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:07 PM
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"Most men couldnt cheat even if they wanted to" And when they do there is often quite a bit of alcohol involved with both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:55 PM
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Sure. But I think for some women fkbois are just a fun to have/do until Mr Right comes along. And if she's just looking for a fling ... she's not going to be looking so much at personality, provider ability, Social status, etc Just looks (muscles, often) and a fun roll in the hay. Prob the same for a lot of guys with their FWB's, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:42 PM
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Or in the words of ZZ Top: "Every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:15 PM
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It's only true for some men. Not others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:39 PM
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It takes just a little bit of discipline and a big desire to live a healthy lifestyle. Too many easy, bad, cheap,quick, tasty food choices available in our have-it-all-now culture ... reinforced by advertisers and overweight peers who assure us it's A-ok to carry around 20, 50, 100 or more extra pounds of fat tissue. I'm not fat-shaming. (I've been 40 pounds overweight myself at one point in my life.) Just saying the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:27 AM
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All of those are already overweight and the only thing that will keep them from being land-whales is periodic fad dieting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:25 AM
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Chubby avereage women are looking for Chads only too. I blame the culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:30 AM
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"chubby" is "normal"? Perhaps for others in the USA, but not in my world. One doesn't have to be a gym rat, but a regular bodily fitness schedule of course. But the truth is it's mostly about diet. It's not hard to not be "chubby" if one keeps a "clean" diet and doesn't gorge on too many calories daily (and if one isn't already on their way to obesity ... then it does get difficult) "
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:29 AM
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Well, Geez! What do you want her to say? The idea is to let the guy down with as little drama and blow to his self-esteem as possible. She already knows his feelings are likely to be hurt. If a guy can't pick up on that and takes offense .. he should get a clue. Does a man ever tell a woman he's not interested in her because she's obese? That'd have to be one sorry bstrd. I've been in that position and I don't. I just say something polite like "compatibility" or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:14 PM
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"Just like some dudes go for a slim woman with dark features and another may go for the bombshell blonde. Both women are HOT, but they're not both every man's favorite type." Except while those men who likes slim/dark features will sleep with that curvy bombshell blonde anyway if they can, sometimes even going waaaay below their own SMV in a pinch. Women, otoh, have the luxury (natural advantage?) of being more able to select for that guy who is her "type"... or at least one of her "types". I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:08 PM
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Better than leading him on telling him he's a "nice guy" and giving him hope you'll come his way eventually because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:45 PM
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Power,status,and money are SMV (for a man) every bit as much as looks and probably more so. Each of them in and of itself is, in fact. It's a turn-on for not a few women and addictive for not a few men. Loyalty, reliability, peer approval, being a good person, good father material,knowing how to fix things, acts of service, etc ... those are RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:31 PM
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It never occurs to them in their arrogance that an "a-theist" might actually be quite a bit more "moral" in how they live their life than many Christians are. I had a job for a few years that required me to be inside Leavenworth penitentiary three days a week. Know what I found out? The prisons are chock full of Christians! And then there's "patriotism." Apparently a-theists are not "patriotic." Never mind my 30 years of service to my country in the military and as an LEO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:50 AM
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"More work" "less opportunities" ?? When one is a wealthy single anesthesiolgist who works around nurses and other female medical staff every day there's plenty of "opportunity" - and it's not a lot of "work", apparently. His profession, wealth, and status are his SMV. (and there's not a little bit of "power" involved in being a well established MD) As I said he's pretty average in the looks department.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:23 AM
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I think he goes for any attractive women within his work environment - hospitals. (which is where he spends most of his time.) From our conversation we had once on the subject, I don't think he's so much interested in what their "goal" is. (relationship, FWB, hookup)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:21 AM
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Not necessarily. They want to make a choice in a man who will be acceptable to and admired by their peer group ... Whatever that peer group might be, As just one example, if a woman is into the biker subculture she will be lookin for a club member who is at least in high-standing within the club, if not one of the officers. She's not necessarily going to be attracted a non-biker or even a new "prospect" to the club because they have little to no social standing/approval within her peer group. A …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:14 AM
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They desire to make a choice in a man who would be socially acceptable to their peer group. Be that friends, family, workmates, or all of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:20 PM
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I' 63. The only men I really give a F' about are my brother,my nephews, and my best friend & fishing buddy since I was six years old. (my Dad passed some years ago)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:17 PM
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My former bro-in-law is an anesthesiologist in his late-50's who makes 600k+ per year. Widowed, fairly average looking face with, some acne scarring, hwp & in decent physical shape, quite a bit of hair loss, not quite 6' tall - maybe 5'9 or 5'10, no real hobbies outside of golf. Fairly arrogant a-hole personality. He crushes it regularly with 20 & 30 something y/o nurses. Yes, he does lead them on with "relationship" hopes ... then pumps & dumps. We talked about it one time ... he has zero remor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:22 PM
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Ain't it funny all the man different sorts of other "life" things people in their holier-than-though arrogance like to project on someone else because of the one simple fact that they happen to not have a belief in any gods. Like just because one doesn't have a god-belief they must be a promiscuous hedonist with no respect for their own body or life. (among all sorts of other "sinful" things.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:15 PM
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" ... guys who insist on paying just so they can get leverage ..." That's a pretty juvenile mindset if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:32 PM
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Well, that's a cop-out reply if I ever read one. We're reading and writing here. It's supposed to be "literal" .... literally! Where do you think the word comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:19 PM
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That would not be a "trusted male friend." Do you secretly think all of your male friends have a thing for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:56 PM
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also, very important, pay attention to one's grooming and how they dress. Nice classic clothes that fit well, (forget the trendy clothes and don't go around wearing t-shirts wth messages on them) good haircut that's not weird, clean and good hygeine, don't smell bad (don't douse yourself in cologne either.) Those things are easily do-able and just the act of doing those things helps with one's confidence and self-image. Also, even if one is overweight they can still maintain a certain level of f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:36 PM
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I'm not a red-piller,misogynistic, or anything like that ... but I am 63 and kinda old-school and I was happily married 33 years. I think women's intuition about men is no better than men's intuition about women. Not saying either sex doesn't have some intuition, but it's far from perfect in most folks. I think a woman seeking to validate a potential partner should at least seek out and pay a bit more attention to the views of their trusted male friends and family members views of that guy. Not …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:28 PM
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Exactly. I entered a law enforcement career fairly young that was fairly lucrative over time with very good retirement benefits. I retired one month before my 49th birthday and only had a few gig jobs since. No more selling my soul to "the man" (societal expectations) I do what I want from day to day. Doesn't mean I don't have a "work ethic" ... I've just found most regular jobs to be not worth the exchange of my time anymore for the $ offered. I have enough $.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:26 PM
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Most women wants to be with one of the "top dudes" ... just like most guys want to be with one of the "hot girls." And they'll climb as far up that mountaintop as they can,although they might not reach all the way to the peak where Chad and Stacy live, but they'll get as high as they are able given their abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:16 PM
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I know people with a dozen friends who aren't "properly socialized"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:07 PM
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She was to me - but I also recognize that many (perhaps even most?) people are amazing in some way or other if you take the time to get to know them. (I bet you are too) She was my true friend and life-partner for 33 years. I read once that "soulmates" are made, not found. I think that can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:06 PM
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Whining about anything rarely gets one anywhere in my experience. (and especially so with women! lol!) If I want to whine about something I do it to my fishing buddy when we're 20 miles out in the Gulf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:55 AM
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I pay for the meal on a date the same way I hold a door open or pull a chair out for a woman. Because I'm 63 y/o and old-school. There's no hidden agenda or expectation behind that. It's how I am. It's how I was raised. No apologies. Usually I will couch that when the ticket comes by saying "Let me get this" or "do you mind if I pick up the tab?" If she wants to say "no, let's split it" that's fine too & my feelings aren't hurt. I don't make too much of it either way. If a woman chooses to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:42 AM
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"How would we measure the scale of how real or fake someone’s attraction or love is to you? If they love you unconditionally and they’d give their life away for you, does that make their attraction to you “real”? No, it doesn’t, it just means they would trade their life for whatever they perceive you have or are giving them." I would have gladly taken my late wife's 10 years of cancer upon myself if I could have instead of her. Had nothing to do with attraction or transactionality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:33 PM
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And many women seem quite incapable of being able to discern between the two. (or perhaps they are and just sometimes they don't care because BDE)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:45 PM
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Turned to a female relative for support when my wife of 33 years passed away. Big mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:30 PM
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Call me old-school, but I would never have married and had a family in the first place if I could not support them of my own accord. There was a time this was expected of a man before he took a bride. My wife was a SAHM during our child's early years (before middle school) primarily because we didn't want her to be raised by perfect strangers. It was valuable beting able to focus on my career while neer having to coordinate vacation time or worry about the shopping, yard, house, cars,kid, pets,s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:10 PM
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No, I'm not a woman. I'll let women individually decide what it means to be a woman and how to be a woman in this world - and make my personal assessments of that accordingly on an individual basis. I don't make blanket judgments about people because of what particular demographic group they might be in. There are as many sh*tty women out there as sh*tty men. That's good knowledge to have but that's not my business to do anything about or even respond to .... my only business is to be able to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:28 AM
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Stop whining and trying to evade responsibility and man-up. You knocked her up. You could have used a condom. Whether to get an abortion or not is entirely her prerogative. You're not the one who has to be pregnant for nine months and give birth. (much less raise the kid probably)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:58 AM
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D&D is about the most woman repellent hobby one can have. Get another. You can still do D&D ... but keep it kinda on the down-low. I wouldn't advertise that as a regular feature of my life to prospective dating partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:16 PM
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Why didn't she just ask you what day and then make the other guy pick another day? How about that .... you're already her second choice. No worries though .... maybe she'll "settle" for ya!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:15 PM
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Every guy should have at least one best friend. That guy they've known practically forever. That guy who you would bail each other out of the jail in the middle of the night ... or help bury a body!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:12 PM
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Get a hobby that involves some kind of physical activity or performance. A new(old) hobby I've taken up in recent years is roller skating. I'm 63 and I go at least once a week. Bowling, tennis, pickleball, billiards, kayaking, hiking, community theater, play an instrument, church activities, anything (except video games). Karaoke even.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:10 PM
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The PUA and Red Pill people (I'm neither, but I've read some of their stuff) say women tend to date up and men tend to date down. That's mostly true in my experience. But most people end up settling down with someone fairly equal to themselves in most respects in the end..
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:10 AM
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Or as Crosby Stills and Nash sang ... "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:07 AM
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whose life goals align This.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:05 AM
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"I'm going to be 30-something before I can even afford a deposit," I was 30 something in the early 1990's before I could buy a house .... and I had a good career going as a young Federal Agent here in the USA at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:38 PM
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As a 63 y/o guy (meaning I grew up in the 60's/70's ) I can attest to the truth of your last paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:36 PM
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Why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:08 PM
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How about a intellectual interest? One is no longer allowed to have an intellectual interest in the dynamics of human relationships just because they are in one? What's your problem? Who made you the Judge and Jury of why people are here participating in the discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:46 PM
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My question about your question is what difference does it make whether one is married for them to be interested in a purple pill debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:44 PM
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Trying to influence Americans is like trying to herd cats. You might have some limited temporary success with a few ... but it's doomed to failure in the end. We're just that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:41 PM
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But honestly, some dudes who post here are so socially isolated that they need therapy before they worry about dating. No .. they just need to get out of the house and around new people more. Lots of new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:38 PM
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Vis-a-vis meeting women I like to think of my life as the (I'll just call myself "Gary" here) .... "The Gary Show" I meet women, they check out my life, all the things I've got going on, what I do, how I am, who I associate with ... and they decide if they want to be a part of "The Gary Show" and all the wonderful, fun, and feel-good things that might come their way with being a part of that. Or perhaps they prefer to be part of a different kind of show than mine? That's okay. I'm not going to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:31 PM
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The first statement of yours on here that I've read that I actually agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:09 PM
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So ... you're throwing shade on a whole bunch of people there. But fail to say just who/what you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:08 PM
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What's with the broad brush you are painting "Yankees" with? Who is a "Yankee"? Who in the USA really even uses that word anymore? What/where are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:06 PM
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{ ... go volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen and help out the collective." What a waste of time. The "collective" cares little for 80% or more of single, unattached, men. At least an employer will give you money for your time, effort, and skills ... and often just as much or more social activity, depending on the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:05 PM
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"Men usually only see women as sex toys, maids and incubators for THEIR kids anyway not as people with their own wants and needs." I never thought of my late wife of 33 years in that way. Neither does my brother, brothers-in-law, or my guy friends of many years. Perhaps you are just projecting your own individual personal experiences with one or a few men upon all?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:02 PM
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My religious Dad taught me that a man was meant by God to toil all his days. I never really bought into that. Needless to say ... I'm not a religious person. At all. Society says I should be "productive." Well, who are they to tell me that? Where will "society" be in the moments I draw my last breaths? I'm 63 and made a plan long ago to modestly and sustainably retire by age 50. I accomplished that goal one month short of my 49th birthday and haven't had a J. O. B. to speak of (excepting a few s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:27 PM
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Well, most of that is kind of "duh!" My daddy, granddaddy, uncles, coaches, and assorted other adult men in my life told me all that when I was growing up - just in different and less words (I'm 63) And what I wasn't told about flat-out I quickly learned on my own as a teen and in my early 20's. And so what? Most of this stuff you mention is just kind of obvious, if you ask me and most of the guys I know. (we just don't talk about it) You're a dude ... there's good and bad that comes with that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:06 PM
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Translation: Can't get a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:56 PM
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You're missing my point. I had probably only a couple weeks total of face time with my late wife of 33 years before she moved in. (we met in-person through friends, but there were a few months of letter writing and visits before that) We were just both looking for the same thing at the same time (an ltr) and found each other an "acceptable" choice. She was always my Stacey and I was always her Chad. I'd say we were both equally average looking. Treat her like a princess, I say .... but if you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:03 PM
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When an average woman and an average dude find each other and he thinks of and treats her like she's a Stacey (which is how she wants to be thought of and treated) and she thinks of and treats him like he's a Chad (which is how he wants to be though of and treated) , ..... ah! there you have a match made in heaven! (worked for me and my late wife for 33 years anyway - your mileage may vary)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:05 PM
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I don't swipe on every attractive woman. The reason is because I've matched with some before, whom upon matching I had second thoughts after reviewing their pics and profile again, and came to realize I shouldn't have swiped right on them in the first place. Then the choice is either to message a bit and somehow let them down or ghosting - neither an option I care for because it gives me a sucky feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:50 PM
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Relationships with women are like playing Russian roulette sometimes too ... except she's the one holding the gun.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:11 AM
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marriage to a lazy man who stonewalls in arguments .... and then to project that on men they meet in the future who had nothing to do with that particular experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:05 AM
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"Then even further, men go out of their way to avoid these women by saying we don't want damaged women, we don't want women with past traumas and etc etc, which you throw a hissy fit about." I think it's not so much that as men don't want women projecting on them the traumas other men may have inflicted in the past. Broken wings are a dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:03 AM
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You don't "hit" on women at the gym. You acquaintance yourself with them just like you would a guy gym-buddy. And just like you might with some guy gym-buddy you've known for a little while - if during conversation at the gym there's some fun or interesting something you are going to go do outside the gym they might be interested in you ask them if they want to come along & do whatever that thing is you're going to be doing this weekend or whenever (bowling, hiking, concert, whatever) wth you. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:56 PM
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For perspective on what is considered to be "poor" in America .... I live in middle/east TN currently. A lot of po' folks around these parts. And a lot of them have boats! Might be an older kinda raggedy boat ... but they have 'em. I traveled in Honduras for a few weeks some years ago. Saw a lot of po' folks there too ... but none of them had boats?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:49 PM
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Finally! Somebody who understands how philosophically deep the Simpsons show really is. (to say nothing of Sponge Bob .. now that's just next level!)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:45 PM
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Women like shopping. I think I may start going shopping more. :) Doubtless I'd do better at any mall, Target, etc than a night-club or through OLD. (or even Walmart ... I'm a 9 at Walmart, I think. Maybe even a 9.5 :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:40 PM
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women ... don not want men hittiong them, approaching them, talking to them, being near them, etc etc ​ Well, I don't thank that's true. In my experience it all depends on .... who the man is!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 12:02 AM
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Being widowed for the past 18 months after 33 years married .... No. I am not "fine" with it. ​ (and that's all I got to say 'bout that! 😁)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:40 AM
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It’s dehumanizing because it suggests that to those available women who just want to be friends and don’t want to be romantic with an available man that the man's sole value is the other things they do for them. Most men appreciate being valued for that besides "everything else" as well - and it hurts not to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:42 PM
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I wouldn't know. I haven't looked for a woman "for an evening" only since my I was in my mid 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:18 AM
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lol! Ain't gonna touch that one with a ten foot pole!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:11 AM
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And that's what real "alpha" is. Personally, I don't view many "Chads" as "alpha" because many have no "honor" Geez! Where do they get this stuff? Chads? Alphas? Can't believe even I'm using those terms. I was taught to be a man of honor by my father, uncles, and other men in my life growing up. It's not about subjugating women. It's about taking care of one's own business, life, and family. Just as my wife's was about taking care of our family, life, and "business" For example ... my wife as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:58 PM
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"I was completely clueless on what masculinity meant ..." I think there's a whole lot of women out there who are clueless on what true masculinity is. I can tell you one thing .... it ain't a Lexus or six-pack abs. Many seem to think so though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:02 PM
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Hmmmm? Can't say I'm as wealthy as you claim you are ... but I've done pretty well. Maybe I should flaunt some of my pricier toys, lifestyle, and travel a bit more? (I don't ... because "flaunting" things has never been my way. But perhaps I need to change that?)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:57 AM
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You say that in terms of a relationship. But not when you're looking for just a 'f'boy' for the evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:46 PM
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And some women are prone to "branch swinging" Let's not paint all men & women with a broad brush though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:12 AM
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Mmmmmm. Gonna have to disagree with you a bit there. My late wife stayed home for many years raising our child and making a nice home for us - relieving me of many after-work and weekend responsibilities so our family could enjoy. She did go through college as an adult and get a teaching degree and did teach a few years when our child got older. So it's not like she didn't have something to "fall back on" should something happen to me. In fact I supported, paid for, and encouraged her getting he…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:09 AM
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