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Lock your credit! Make sure no new debt can be added to your name.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 01:34 PM
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Make your main concern custody and protect your kids. Hire a lawyer and file a custody plan and get it approved which would require she secure court approval to remove the children from the state or give you primary custody since she has threatened to do it. If she is threatening self harm or anything else, take it seriously and notify authorities immediately. Don’t accept it’s a ploy and protect your children. Document, document, document.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 06:57 PM
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I started a new hobby and dove more into one I was doing before. I had a video server before so I added an antenna, a four tuner card and built a DVR to record first. Then I picked up 3D printing and print practical things to organize the house the way I want things. Started with silverware drawers, kitchen org, then to the garage and my M18 tools and yard stuff. I’m still finding things to print for small home projects more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 06:26 PM
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I went to eat at a restaurant I wanted to eat, ordered what I wanted to eat and ate it without anyone expecting me to share it or complaining about my choices or anything at all. I didn’t have to play 20 restaurants, menu games or anything at all. It was pure, unadulterated bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 05:30 PM
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Unfortunately you thought you were negotiating and she was at full blown war man. You have to consider this a business transaction and do your absolute best to separate emotion from the divorce because the court doesn’t care about the emotional ties and only cares about the money. Your friends and family need to know the truth as you see it but I’ll say I am and continue to be the “bigger man” and did not let my ex drag into into the pit even though she tried hard. My adult kids and friends saw …
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 02:02 PM
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I would start by telling you to take a deep breath and try as hard as you can to breathe. Just breathe in and out. The most important thing you can do right now is to know your rights and responsibilities. You should at a minimum consult an attorney or two even if it means paying a small fee for the hour or two. Have a list of questions they can answer and research the divorce laws for your state. Some states (like mine) if she hires an attorney then you can request she pay for yours too because…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 03:09 AM
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Take whatever time you need man, focus on yourself and learn to do for yourself. Give yourself grace, heal and grow, learn to share, to experience, to trust and most importantly to open up and experience life. Sleeping around, dating around and whatever won’t fill the hole you have to fill. That is only filled by yourself and on your own man. Only you can fill it and until you do every relationship attempt will fail.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 03:03 AM
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Not at all
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 10:54 PM
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I’m lol at this chain of responses. WTF cares? If she is a lying and cheating whatever then what does that say about her ability to make good decisions? Reality is that these guys are probably giving her something you couldn’t or wouldn’t. Stop focusing on what they lack and start focusing on what they’re doing right and you’re doing wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 04:47 PM
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It’s temporary and you know it. If she truly cared and valued your feelings all along she would have been doing all the things she is doing now. She is love bombing you and she will taper off and slowly end up back the way she was because that’s who she is.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 12:18 AM
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Keep your eyes on the road ahead, you can’t keep moving forward looking in the rear view mirror. Just be glad she is going to be your ex soon.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 10:55 PM
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Yes and no. Once I finally decided to stop being willfully ignorant her whole life fell apart. Her lies added up, she lied to the judge about several things and ended up owning $50k in debt she tried to hide even from the court trying to split 50/50…. The judge decided to go equitable and we each kept our own debt with mine really only being a personal loan for $5k and only half the back taxes she hid from me. She ended up with $65k in debt and I had $20k.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 04:41 AM
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Mine acted the same way man, lies, lies and more lies which just reinforced my belief that I made the right decision and should have done it a decade earlier. She lied to the judge on multiple occasions, once contradicting her own statement under oath. She screwed herself out of about $50k lying about her debt he knew about because I had handed over financial disclosures she didn’t know I had turned over.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 02:11 AM
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I feel your pain man. Rant away and best of luck!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:34 AM
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Find something to keep you busy and your mind occupied. After a while though, the silence and peace is actually peaceful once you’ve reconditioned to not live in a constant state of chaos. Having a gym at home helps a lot, hobbies you enjoy or just finding something you don’t like and doing something about it. A pair of headphones and some music you love while you’re doing it helps keep your mind clear and focused.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 04:20 PM
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Amen brother! Protect all the things money can’t buy! Mine destroyed a few things I personally treasured and basically kept and denies having a few others. For the most part I was able to protect nearly everything important to me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 01:47 AM
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IKR! Third? I don’t even want to know what 1 & 2 are. I know multiple men who became raging alcoholics after their divorce and became husks of the men they were.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 04:20 AM
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It’s because you don’t want to deal with the feelings it gives you. It’s incredibly hard to come to terms with your ex and their betrayals. It’s harder to accept that they did it, it’s done, they threw away the relationship and now you get to deal with the consequences too. All you can do is to face it head on or it will eat you alive man.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 05:36 PM
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Not if, when.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 03:54 AM
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She is emotionally abusing you, what she is doing is manipulating you. It’s not really about the money and more about tearing down your self esteem and controlling you. If you feel unworthy of her and you’re not doing or earning enough she has the upper hand because she feels like you need her more than she needs you. It’s abusive and unacceptable for her to treat you like this, don’t accept it and either push back or plan your exit strategy. She will use these same tactics with your child as th…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 06:29 AM
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Take video and photos of the homes condition along with all your missing belongings. She can be held accountable for missing items in some cases. If you have a lawyer, talk to them about your options here and you might consider taking out a short term loan to cover repair costs. Document your time, labor and if friends can help, theirs too and present all of this to the judge during the divorce hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/26 01:42 PM
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Equitable almost always means equal unless you can prove she has been using the money recklessly. It’s difficult and expensive to prove unless she will openly admit it which is unlikely. Plan on 50/50 and hope for better, your savings would count into that but so will legal fees so it’s a wash I believe. You’ll need cash and the judge I had didn’t even consider having $5k in my checking account worth considering an asset to my ex’s dismay. Doesn’t mean yours will but you should be allowed a slus…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 09:03 PM
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Start by being mad at yourself and look inside yourself and figure out how to be better in the future. If you’re looking in the rear view mirror you can’t see what’s ahead of you. Focus on the future you want as much things are now and try your best to stop thinking about all the what could have beens because they’re not real or possible anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 01:49 AM
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Plan things to do that you enjoy and focus on them. Go places and explore new things. Having my dog with me helped a lot. I met someone in similar situation and we talked a lot for months. Think private group therapy. In the end, what helped most is that I literally fell into a relationship I wasn’t even looking for. Wasn’t planning on dating, wasn’t even trying but when we met and talked she is truly amazing and after a few months of friendship things just sort of started happening for both of …
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 09:37 PM
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If you’re on the mortgage or lease and she doesn’t have a RO against you call the sheriff to escort and guarantee your safe access. It may not be fast but she cannot prohibit you from your home and cannot bar you by changing the locks. Most, not all, sheriffs dept will escort you to your home and guarantee safe entry and If she refuses a lawful order she is putting her freedom at risk which would definitely cause her serious custody issues. Don’t let this go too long, she can claim abandonment i…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 08:07 PM
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Pack him up and go visit your parents without her and without any notice. You should seek legal council about custody and parenting access. Once you know your rights and limitations use them and make sure your parents do get to spend time with him.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 02:36 PM
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Everyone’s experience with divorce and/or separation is different and everyone has their feelings about both. What I needed and have been extremely lucky at receiving was unwavering support and compassion from friends and family during the divorce. Nobody just gave me unsolicited advice and only did so if I asked and if I did reach out they were there to listen. I am in a much, much better place now than I was and I owe my family and friends a deep and heartfelt thank you and debt I hope I can s…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:17 AM
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There is always a choice and you need to stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about your kids (assuming here since you said family.). Talk to an attorney even if you have to pay a retainer and find out your legal rights and responsibilities. Knowledge is power and use that knowledge to make informed decisions for yourself (and kids if you have any)
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:04 AM
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Don’t do the session, you’re wasting everyone’s time and most importantly the therapists time that could be spent on a couple who has a chance to work through it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 02:55 AM
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He needs to address the trauma causing it and u til he does it will not change. He has to want to fix it, put in the effort and get the help he needs first, before he can properly commit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:08 PM
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Talk to your kids as their father and be clear, it’s his and your ex’s house and as long as they live under their roof it’s their house rules. They can choose other arrangements and you’ll support that choice but until then they need to follow whatever rules they make even the ones they don’t like.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 03:06 AM
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Call the police man, men can and do have physically abusive wives and you don’t have to put up with it. Protect your child and press charges ASAP, give them the video and let the authorities do their jobs. Once you pressed charges file for an order of protection for you and your child, site the case number. Stay safe!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 03:02 AM
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Honesty and transparency using age appropriate phrasing is critical here. Whoever triggers the divorce needs to be the one to accept responsibility for their choice and if the divorce was mutual then he kids deserve to know it was a choice you agreed on or with.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 03:45 PM
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If it’s financial 80/20 then STOP. Don’t give her a dime more than the court mandated. If it’s childcare time then enjoy the extra time and document every single extra minute you get. If and when it becomes necessary you have that to use against her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 01:31 AM
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