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| 16 | Advice on asking for exclusivity before sex? Trying to do this right, SO bad at having the conversation | SEEKING ADVICE | HELP_MANBABIESGOTME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:20 AM |
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| 12 | Presented without comment.Its only based on who your parents are. You are the same caste as your parents and its determined at birth. Idk the intimate details myself. Its not based on skin tone at all though there might be some correlation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:51 AM |
| 25 | Presented without comment.Too complex to explain in a reddit comment and there is no "intended purpose". Its just an aspect of old Indian society. Really even if you Google it you will get bad info. Essentially all people are born into 1 of a few castes. And in old times it was used to decide what jobs you could ever hold in your life and who you could marry. The lowest caste people are called untouchables. Thats as far as I'm willing to explain it here. Not everyone uses it anymore, its mainly enforced in rural areas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:30 PM |
| 3 | This subreddit is one of the only places I feel safe as a womanWait what happened to r/pcos? How on earth would that be considered controversial | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020Im watching the Umbrella Academy and I instantly knew this Leonard dude was BAD FUCKING NEWS because he started Love Bombing poor Vanya. Shes so vulnerable to this. He pretty much instantly starts talking about how flawless and wonderful and perfect she is after knowing her for like 24 hours. Piece of shit. She falls for it hook line and sinker and im sure he was trained specifically on her insecurities and how she is most likely to fall for the love bomb. So he can manipulate her and further is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Why am i obsessed with guys who ignore me?It wont be like that your whole life. I promise you 100%. I used to feel this way. The way to break that cycle IS to focus on yourself. You need to get validation from yourself and your accomplishments, not from attracting men. Men are shit and their affection isn't a prize to be won from a chase. They will fuck anything that moves. So internalize that and get a kick ass job or get really good at makeup or a hobby.. for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:33 PM |
| 18 | I have a problem with Indian men.The problem is white guys suck too. Idk if its a "grass is greener" situation or what. But white men are some of the whiniest assholes ever. And you might have to deal with their racism on top of that So be careful. Just because they arent brown they will still likely be terrible. It just won't be the same flavor of terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | "my boyfriend (35m) drugged me (26f) because we got into an argument before a long drive and he wanted me to sleep through it"S A M E | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 7 | Why am i obsessed with guys who ignore me?I think you should take a break from dating. You are only 17, you are going to be seriously attracting predators the day you turn 18, and they will know exactly how to manipulate your insecurity. They will drip feed you a little bit of affection to keep you on the hook. You said you like the chase, they will pick up on it instantly since they are older and know what to look for. You are in a lot of danger continuing to date with that insecurity. Some man is going to fuck you up. Hell, consider d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:53 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜If you havnt met yet, I think its a good sign. He doesnt know you and is treating you with respect. I am too used to love bombing and endless pointless compliments too so I feel you. But iv found men who don't turn that on instantly are more genuine. Waiting for an actual connection | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:09 PM |
| 37 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜Girls I'm just here to remind you that being nerdy and not being raised around tools isn't an excuse for a man not knowing how to do basic house maintenance. Youtube exists for literally every topic. Channels explicitly aimed at this type of person. If an excuse of why his house is fucked up or the sink is super leaky is "i dont know how to fix it" and "i dont have money to pay a plumber" hes probably just dumb AND cheap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:08 PM |
| 19 | Homosocial tendencies within heterosexual male relationships. It all makes sense now.Not only that. So many men are actively disgusted by female genitalia and bodies. They don't want to put their mouths on us or interact with female bodies beyond inserting their penis and fucking. Essentially masturbation. Iv encountered this way to many times. They then turn around and obsess over other mens dick sizes, other mens bodies, and watch videos of other men having sex with women.. Its very homoerotic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Vetting strategy: How to read between the lines, use power of deduction to read motivations/possibilities and how to make educated guesses.Do they still interact with the siblings and family and defend their behavior? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else here been banned from r/sex for no reason?Lmao i got banned for saying a man that is too insecure to "allow you" to use a vibrator on yourself isnt worth seeing and needs therapy. This poor girl was saying she bought one and even though it was same size or smaller his dick, he said she couldn't use it or she would get loose and not like his dick anymore. I didnt even say it rudely. What a joke. The mod comment on the ban is "this comment isn't productive and all insecure people don't need therapy" i shit you not. And it happened about 2… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020This is helpful. Im planning to have a big conversation about this next time we are alone at his house. Dont feel its appropriate in public or via text. He said he has some sexual desire but it comes and goes. Mainly that if hes not in the mood to begin with, he can't ever get into that headspace. Like even making out feels weird at that point to him. I was a little stunned/unsure what to say during this conversation or I would've hashed it out then. I think I'd need some sort of sexual interact… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:05 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Fuck my life yall 😂 In filtering for someone thats not an asshole, doesn't push me for sex, likes to cuddle, loves kids,, and is respectful and sweet... Iv ended up with an ASEXUAL man. I already started calling him my BF, we had exclusivity chat, etc before this reveal... He just told me he almost never feels sexual desire. Doesn't watch porn/jerk off. Doesnt check people out. Loves to cuddle but not a ton beyond that except rarely. Feels romantic attraction strongly it just doesn't translate t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020My best friend is probably now married to the lowest value man iv ever seen. He does jack shit for her. Is overweight. Doesnt have a steady job. Isnt even attractive. Dumb as a box of rocks. She cleans the house, cooks his meals, sucks his dick, works constantly, all for nothing. Idk what happened to her. She always sought too much validation from men. I think he somehow convinced her hes the only one who will ever love her. And she just buys into it and thinks she's lucky to have him, when she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Why I’m here.Don't go back. He deserves it. He threw away 12 years of your love and dedication for literally nothing. He did make a huge mistake and he will have to live with that. Don't take him back whatever you do. If he did it once he will absolutely do it again. The statistics on this are clear. And even if he didn't, the hurtful things he said means he's no longer fit to be in your presence. There is also every chance he brought up his mental health to play on your caring nature to try to manipulate yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:04 PM |
| 7 | WUT?!A man said this about my menstrual cup. I switched to a larger size because I was leaking occasionally and had heavy periods. He saw me boiling it one day and lost his shit when I explained what it is specifically. He was disturbed because the circumference was sorta similar to his dick. "This is why you feel loose, this is why you can't get off during sex, you have this massive dildo in your vagina all day desensitizing and stretching you". It was not a massive dildo.. it was a silicon cup... I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 01:50 PM |
| 4 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: What Have YOU Personally Done to Be Less Trash At Sex?I actually suggest something like OMGYES.com if you need better advice on what to actually do with a woman rather than medical articles | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:22 PM |
| 28 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Saw people elsewhere on reddit making fun of this sub. Its hilarious they havnt ever read it. They think we are thirsting for rich, flawless, fantasy men and seeing no success and will be old spinsters. And that we all sit home and cry we don't have rich men. Little do they know that high standard man (and rich isn't even a requirement) or bust is the whole point. Its better to be single forever than deal with a leech! I wouldnt mind being a happy spinster and I'm not crying about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:59 PM |
| 12 | breaking mom and TikToks are my birth control 😬I never wanted kids until I lived abroad. I lived in Madagascar for 2 years. The way people raise kids is totally different. In no way shape or form is it all on the mothers to raise the children. The kids are NOT home with mom all day. Or on any one person. It truly takes a village to raise a kid. People are so much happier too. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, fathers, mothers, and neighbors all share responsibility. Its also totally alright to take a week off and send the kid to your sister. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:18 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020When i was a teenager this happened to me. I never knew how to respond but it really made me sick. Today id probably tell the women (and lose my job when I cause a fight in the restaurant lol) So many women who had no idea their husband was instantly flirting with the clearly uncomfortable 17 year old waitress when she goes to the bathroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:24 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020I was talking to a male friend of mine about FDS, hes married and never seemed to be a total scrote. I won't speak on his value because I dont think of him that way anyway. He actually openly told me that until he met his wife he didn't see women as anything but a cock sleeve. And that im 100% right about all this. And that women need to be careful. He said it took meeting her and wanting to impress her and then kinda falling into it to realize women are people too. He said until then, any inter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:18 PM |
| 42 | Another man (aggressively) shocked that asking for an open relationship leads to his wife getting great sex.The hilarious thing is a lot of actual swinger couples (where neither is coerced, and have a happy marriage but enjoy swinging) are Gods at sex. This fat balding man probably knows how to please a woman 100x better than this scrote. Regardless of dick size. I bet it had little to do with that, big dicks dont magically give orgasms. The other man's wife probably left miffed and unsatisfied. This entire scenario is probably fanfiction but still. Too funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 21 | What are your thoughts on the "Eastern European women are submissive" stereotype?EXACTLY. the women in SE Asia and EE who are willing to touch american scrotes will leave their nasty ass the minute they stop paying. They are there for money and comfort and luxury and thats it. I kinda respect it and always hope they are at least getting their moneys worth/robbing them blind. They also expect to manage the finances and not let the men spend it on beer. PLUS they will expect the man to care for the inlaws 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:36 PM |
| 14 | What are your thoughts on the "Eastern European women are submissive" stereotype?I always hope in these cases, the woman is robbing him blind and waiting for him to die of alcohol poisoning. SE Asian women aren't pushovers. They know how to manipulate these shitty rich white men into getting tons of money for their families, even though it requires great self sacrifice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:32 PM |
| 99 | Solidarity is for men only. #RedditHatesWomenThey especially hate black women. Especially BPT. Its sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:23 PM |
| 7 | How do I vet effectively at 19?Don't date at your age. All men in your age range are trash. Focus on yourself. Trust me you won't like it. You'll come out with sexual trauma, insecurities, and possibly knocked up Wait till the few good men mature a bit. And don't try to date older, no respectable man would touch someone 19. You will literally only attract predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:30 AM |
| 17 | I am new here, I’m not proud of the things I’ve done. Does anyone have any advice to help me get into the FDS mindset?Its honestly so sad. Black women bear a lot more of the bullshit that all women already deal with. Because on top of the depravity men are known for yall have to deal with racism and people targeting you based on insecurities around skin color. I think you will find this community is very diverse and sensitive to the specific needs of black women. Take a break from men entirely. You will get fucked over again if you try right now. Like at least 6 months of not even LOOKING at a man. They are dea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else trying to decide if they want kids? How common is regretful motherhood?It depends on the man. Most women who hate motherhood do so because their baby daddy is a worthless piece of shit and they have to do it alone, with no support, in a society that hates women. Women who have wide, robust support networks are extremely unlikely to regret it. Like we did for thousands of years. The part that sucks is never getting a break and your kids being hellions. Vetting men is literally the most important thing if you even think you will have kids. He needs to do 50% or even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 02:28 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020Biggest hint of a narcissist is they make you feel like one. Just thought I'd add that. They will ALWAYS flip it around on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 07:03 PM |
| 21 | Not like other black girlsJesus christ this is legitimately something men think is OK to say. "Your calm nature" oh my god. The SECOND you would voice any concern ever or had a single emotion, you can bet your ass he would attribute it to you being black and "crazy" Glad you got out of there quick Idk what to even say to this. Its more (white flavored) male depravity. Id tell him essentially this if i weren't ghosting. "I can see that you have existing bias against black women due to x" and then block before he can reply… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020Somebody predicted this, dunno if it was you! Wild. Yall really know men 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 9 | First time poster long time lurker. This question is intended for women who have dated white men.Yep. I'm a white woman and most white men in America are literally not worth the time of day. If i was black like you, I wouldn't touch ANY white man with a ten foot pole. Even if they arent actively racist and have educated themselves, I doubt they will be able to empathize with you or understand you fully, sister. I think its the consequence of them being "at the top" of the privilege index or whatever you call it. Male PoC living in America can at least have empathy on some front. They have e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Some insight from a former redpiller about why it ultimately leads to failure for most men. Thoughts?This is fascinating because its like hes very close to the truth but missing it. Like he sees red pill is bullshit but not the real reason why. And acknowledges past trauma and emotional stunting but not how that makes you a shit partner even for 1 night stand. And how sleeping with multiple beautiful women constantly on rotation is literally not possible. All the "field reports" on there are fanfiction. He still thinks its obtainable. Just weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:24 PM |
| 2 | A Simple Exercise for Objectively Evaluating MenThank you so much. This actually really helped me. I'm going through recent dates in my head with this and its super enlightening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:58 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020Yall are goddamn geniuses. Iv been on 5 dates with a guy over about 6 weeks, all great. I was feeling very positive about it, hes not once tried to take me back to his place or made any weird degrading comments. Texts properly without games or being clingy. Wants kids, been saying things like "if I had a young kid right now in covid, I would...." and thinks deeply about it. Talks openly about his emotions so I dont think hes too stunted. Just been like night and day compared to the utter trash m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:42 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Really shocked by the good behavior of a man im dating right now. He in the last few days messaged me his honest thoughts, talked about how he's struggling to find good date locations with covid and asked me to be a little patient, but is still working on it and had found a good date the next day. Not shitty hang out dates, actual activities and dinner type stuff. Its like fucking night and day when compared to the other people iv been subjected to. Im not calling him HVM yet but he hasn't once … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 10:14 PM |
| 8 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.I had a nasty coworker who asked out this chick half his age and for some unknown reason she accepted I shit you not, he took her to Red Lobster and then came in the next day FURIOUS that she hadn't fucked him after paying for her dinner. RED LOBSTER yall! If he was trying to sugar daddy someone, that WASNT THE PLAY 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:19 PM |
| 29 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020I accepted a 2nd date for the first time in like 2 months. This is the first guy in a while that wasn't instantly trying to get in my pants and actually texts without playing games. I fucking hate the texting games where they don't reply for 24 hours every time or try to only send 1 short message at a time. This guy actually replies, has things to say, AND isn't being needy himself. Hoping he doesnt disappoint me tomorrow. Also hoping I can manage my emotions and not sleep with him too early eit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 30 | A former pickmeisha in the wild! Found this comment on a trash tv show subreddit (that I love). Your WHOLE BEING was boiled down to... caretaker. That's not love. She recognized it. 👑Yep. Usually they blame the woman for not sucking the man's dick often often enough and not "satisfying his needs". Then frame it as "you need to suck his dick more to keep him happy and maybe he will help around the house" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020Found this place recently. Lurked for a while. Id like some advice.. How do you test for the characteristics you desire? A trait I value in a partner is whether they trust research or not. And whether they change their opinion when presented with new relevant information or double down. It could take months to sus this out honestly. Not to mention stuff like "would they be a good father". I dunno. Its just daunting looking at my recent dates trying to figure this out. I have 1 that I suspect is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 01:51 AM |
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