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Yeah I guess I ain’t think of it like that parties are social so everyone is open to that. Cool that hey is a solid way. I’ve been caught up like OP looking for openers but I overlooked women are just like guys in the perspective of them being human who are down to earth . I think I thought of all these canned openers because I put them on a pedestal and neglected being normal. Do you think complements are good too or should I stick to simple greetings
/r/seduction27/02/24 04:40 AM
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“Hey” “hey wassup”….. if they’re receptive to that then say your name and ask them theirs if they don’t alr volunteer it. By then you’ll be rolling. I got caught up in that too and by no means am I an expert but I had a realization due to a large party I went to this weekend where I talked to random girls and guys I never met and it all started with a hey wassup, or the girl asking my name and what school I go to.
/r/seduction27/02/24 03:57 AM
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That’s what I’m trying to do man. I realized that I fear rejection but deeper than that I find myself subconsciously rejecting myself before I even take a shot. It protects my ego but it shows my low self esteem and confidence. I’m trying to figure this out
/r/seduction25/02/24 05:55 AM
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Thanks man. That’s exactly been my problem predicting what she may say or how people around will act. Humans are too complex to try to place them in a box of canned responses etc. I’ve been coming to terms with that
/r/seduction24/02/24 07:18 PM
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I feel that. As someone who has had a little success with women you’d think I’d just think positively but I end up nowadays making up scenarios on what could happen so I reject myself before they even have the chance to. Mentally it’s fucked
/r/seduction24/02/24 05:59 PM
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I’ve posted about fear of rejection in this forum and have been told by people to go indirect to avoid it . While I appreciate the advice as it’s a forum I don’t wanna be grouped in with her friends… I’m not worried about platonic convos that’s kinda easy
/r/seduction24/02/24 06:24 AM
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I’m actually seeing one tomorrow so good thinking!
/r/seduction22/02/24 02:36 AM
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This is a fear that has been there since I was a child, and what held me back from joining sports, fear of failure and rejection. I’m trying to get out of that headspace but that’s what it is. If I had a 100 percent chance of being accepted no doubt I’d approach or do anything that’s uncomfortable so it’s obvious what my problem is. Honestly I just have to do it like I’ve done with all my other previous fears that now seem like nothing.
/r/seduction21/02/24 03:47 AM
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I shared the idea of porn making me feel like I don’t need women because I already orgasm thus making me complacent with my psychiatrist and he kinda dismissed it. Solid to see I’m not the only one who had that thought
/r/seduction18/02/24 10:07 PM
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If you’re anything like me on the first time you might not even bust due to the nerves😭 just enjoy yourself and don’t put to much pressure on yourself
/r/seduction17/02/24 08:53 AM
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I talk to women every day that’s not the hard part. I’m trying to get better at talking to women I’m attracted to. I prob gave the impression I don’t talk to women/scared of them. That isn’t the case at all. I’m more than capable to ask for directions, ask for an opinion, etc. I’m trying to learn how to approach women I find attractive to advance not just say something and leave
/r/seduction16/02/24 06:09 PM
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Where I’m at which a college campus I wouldn’t use a line about new place opening. I was gonna ask this cute girl waiting for a drink at our college coffee shop what she ordered and compliment her jacket too. But what you described is indirect, what if I want to be direct, because I don’t want to waste my time on some BS about directions, etc
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:38 PM
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I have a fear of rejection, judgement from those surrounding and overall failure. I think I envision myself failing beforehand and it just makes me not even try. That’s been an issue with my life as a child too. I wouldn’t join sports because of it, etc
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:12 PM
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“Hey what’s your name” or “hi I’m ____”
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:10 PM
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It’s when I see them: I want to say something but I just pause and walk away or tense up and not even say anything to them
/r/seduction16/02/24 03:55 PM
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I don’t believe so. I haven’t approached a woman romantically
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:26 AM
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Fear of rejection has been the biggest thing. I’ve recently dug through my past and dating back to childhood I’ve not done things due to fear of rejection/failure and not knowing the outcome. In my elementary- sophomore year I never tried sports/theater due to fear of failing and being rejected in that sense. I’ve recently become better with joining things and not quitting but when it comes to women I still don’t approach due to the fear of rejection. It sucks I know the root of my issue now but…
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:06 AM
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I feel that I’m definitely stuck in analysis paralysis. Reading all these posts is my comfort zone and I’m not actually taking action
/r/seduction16/02/24 01:08 AM
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U use the 3 second rule? I find it hard to just throw myself into something like approaching when people are around
/r/seduction15/02/24 09:29 AM
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Can’t even spell that right… geez
/r/seduction15/02/24 09:05 AM
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Exposure therapy is the only way. I’ve been reading all these posts and overanalyzing things but like Tony said the only way through it is to do it. I somehow forgot that which is weird because I had anxiety walking in the mall by myself or the store and got over that by doing it and now it’s like nothing.
/r/seduction11/02/24 10:06 PM
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As a beginner using a direct approach after you get to know each others name is it deemed ok to compliment their appearance, I’ve seen people say that isn’t a good idea but if that’s the case wouldn’t that take away from the directness.
/r/seduction10/02/24 03:59 AM
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If I see a girl in target as I’m walking by or on campus standing waiting for her coffee order what do I do if I’m not supposed to compliment her looks? Like for example if I see her waiting for a coffee I can ask her what she ordered but that wouldn’t be a direct way of telling her I find her attractive and it would potentially drag. Hopefully you can provide some insight because I’m confused on whether to compliment looks as a means of being direct or not complimenting looks
/r/seduction10/02/24 01:41 AM
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This was great. Definitely have so many limiting belief about myself. Physically I have what some people desire but what good is that if I don’t have the health mindset to go along with it. 🙌🏽
/r/seduction07/02/24 05:42 AM
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Bet. Do you think it’s inefficient to approach walking college girls? I’m in college and there’s an abundance of em walking to and from class daily. If so I can settle for target/trader joes and girls standing in a place
/r/seduction07/02/24 03:25 AM
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If you consciously make an effort to not let others people view on you effect you so much how do you make it more subconscious? I know it takes time but what are ways to become less outcome dependent and just more secure in your own validation so you don’t rely on others
/r/seduction07/02/24 02:29 AM
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What would feeling your feelings fully be? Noticing the anxiety and approaching regardless?
/r/seduction06/02/24 08:23 AM
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I don’t really go out much although I’m in college a lot of my game would be at target or Trader Joe’s or on campus. Any tweaks for daytime? Or should I be solid
/r/seduction05/02/24 07:37 AM
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I would probably see them have a slight smile and say “what’s up” see how they take that and then ask their name. Maybe I should provide my name first then ask for theirs.
/r/seduction05/02/24 07:34 AM
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You think a simple, “hey..what’s your name?” Is too simple? I’m thinking I wanna keep it like that as I’m pretty inexperienced. I feel like once I’m in a convo I’m straight as I’m very good at communicating it’s just the first step that gets in the way
/r/seduction05/02/24 07:18 AM
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I feel like if you ask her and she declines she needs to offer up a different time or something along those lines. When u ask something like that it’s apparent you like her in some way so now its her turn to show she likes you in some capacity too
/r/seduction04/02/24 02:07 AM
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I don’t necessarily agree then. I saw a girl in target who looked great and I could have approached and started up a convo even if she wasn’t peeping me. I think it definitely matters what you say tho. And I’m not even good at approaching women due to lack of experience but logically I dont think it would be wrong if you look good enough and aren’t a total creep
/r/seduction03/02/24 09:20 PM
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So are you agreeing that unless they look at you, you shouldn’t cold approach?
/r/seduction03/02/24 06:24 PM
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So it’s wrong to see a girl who’s cute and just walk up to her unless she looks at you. Damn I thought that’s what made a cold approach what it is
/r/seduction03/02/24 05:08 PM
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