HandDownManDown11 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Those who divorced with a baby, what is life going to look like?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	09/09/24 01:51 PM
14	What hobbies or projects have you taken up as a single dad?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/25 06:19 PM
13	How did social circles and communities change after divorce?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/25 12:16 AM
11	How can I prepare and strategize for the divorce to leverage the best outcome for me to start over?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/24 01:40 PM
8	Separated but living together until we can sell the house. Any advice managing heavy emotions and strained dynamic?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/25 07:07 PM
4	Is anyone in CA willing to share their divorce decree and child custody order?	HandDownManDown11	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/25 01:34 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Wife wants 4K a month. Half 401k and pension. I make 200k how fucked am I? Don’t move out. Spend us much quality time with your daughter. This will help with 50/50 custody which will then help with child support. Leverage sacrificing the house and the child tax break in exchange for lower alimony/support and to not touch your retirement. You have to give yourself a chance to start over clean without alimony and support holding you down even if that means giving a lot up front. I gave up our primary and don’t have to pay support or alimony nor share my retirement. But m…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/26 04:44 AM
3	I found out about the affair in one of the worst ways imaginable What made you suspect your ex was having an affair with this dude? And have you confronted your ex and/or the guy about what you know?	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/25 09:27 PM
1	Sharing nudes posted on OF in self defense Wild.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/25 12:54 AM
6	Sharing nudes posted on OF in self defense I’m a lawyer. You did not commit a crime.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/25 10:59 PM
2	I might get a divorce and I’m scared Do what you need to do to learn how to constructively regulate your emotions when you’re feeling overwhelmed or triggered. That could be individual therapy, grounding exercises and/or anti-anxiety medication. I recommend listening to two audiobooks together with your spouse. Secure Love by Julie Mennano and The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. They will help you learn about yourself and to communicate better with your partner and what steps need to be taken to create th…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/25 06:35 PM
13	To those broken by their divorce Dude, shuttup.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/03/25 10:14 PM
8	Why do men become the boiled frog so often? Love this analogy.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/25 04:48 PM
–	Has your view of women in relationships changed? Most women have no honor in their marital vows. There is no such thing as “for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, etc.” Women are emotionally fragile who prioritize their own convenience above all else.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/25 05:55 PM
2	Ugh. My story I never saw coming, living together for next 6 months You and me both, man. My STBXW and I are stuck in the holding pattern until we pay off our HELOC and tie up some loose ends with an out of state investment property. We also want to sell our home in late spring to maximize the purchase price. I’m heartbroken and devastated. She seems perfectly fine. I got on antidepressant and antianxiety meds to calm my nervous system and function as she no longer wants to discuss the marriage. We both want an amicable non-contested divorce and an equal split o…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/25 10:39 PM
3	For recently divorced men Thanks for sharing, man. It gives the rest of us hope.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/25 05:19 PM