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DebateHandsomeGenius2552/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:31 PM
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If one is actually interested in other people rather than only interested in their own interests it's not that hard to have good conversation with about anyone. Did I ever say I am interested in my own interests? I just said having hobbies and your own unique life is attractive. To become interested in the other person, the other person has to be interesting as well, and you're not going to become interesting by doing nothing in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:33 AM
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I don't think the majority of guys who struggle with dating get to the point where this all matters. It will always matter, else after all the struggles, you'll be disappointed with the woman you pick and regret later anyways. So it's better you pick right from the start, even if your options are limited. If you have "cringe" or weird hobbies, nobody cares you're super passionate about them. Define cringe. Anything that makes you active and interesting, which you enjoy with passion is a hobby. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 04:28 PM
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There is a difference between having a social circle versus literally planning out beforehand that if things don't work out with my current partner, I will be having these guys/girls lined up to fuck or get into relationship with. I seriously doubt the percentage of people who think like the latter are in the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:53 PM
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Its a debate forum not a crying incel circle jerk. It does feel like it sometimes. Yesterday I was arguing with a guy who was hell bent that women always have backup options ready so you need to do the same despite being in relationship or married. Some really weird takes here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:41 AM
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Both people need to grow in order for their relationship to grow. When one stops, so does the entire relationship. No hobbies mean stagnation, and that mentality reflects in every aspect of an individual's life. That’s worse than growing apart from someone else, if you grow apart from yourself! True, that's why having hobbies is important. It helps you maintain your own identity within the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:59 PM
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He's equally a misogynist too. With my conversations with him, I think he's in some deep red pill alpha type stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:35 PM
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Then get jaded and end up being even more lonelier than before. It is often said that choosing the right woman is one of the most important decisions a man has to make in life. I don't understand how guys can take that decision out of desperation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 09:02 AM
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I'm curious to know how long you plan to cast this net for? Let's say 3-6 months into dating, the woman asks you for commitment, then what? 1-2 years into the relationship, then what? If you are talking about casting a wide net during the initial stages of dating, then it's fine (even though the term is funny, it's like trying to catch pokemons). But if you plan to keep this long term, then I'm curious how you plan to make this work?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:29 AM
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No, the point of dating is to cast a wide net. This mentality will cost you a lot if your goal is to find one woman to settle down with. If you aim to find one woman who is most compatible with you and your life views, and that woman comes into your life (which she most probably will if you put yourself out there and correctly), someday she will seek a deeper connection and this wide net mentality of yours will hinder you from forming that. In the early dating stages, you should not settle down …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:57 AM
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women express way more excitement and joy from traveling with me than hearing me talk about playing piano. Women are not hearing me talk about playing piano like in your case (which I don't even know is true or not), they are actually hearing and watching me play it. There's a difference in narrating your experiences which is the best you can do for travelling hobby anyways, versus actually making them go through the experience which I can do with my piano and cooking hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:39 AM
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Anyone with passion is attractive. Passion breathes a new life into you and gives you something to live for other than mundane troubles of life. People around you can tell the difference in enthusiasm when you are passionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 05:58 AM
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and then choosing the wrong woman to put the ring on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:42 AM
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Then my rules don't belong to you. Most guys and girls who are arguing in favour of travelling won't be travelling for more than 4-5 weeks a year. That's no fucking hobby. Moreover, even with your work trip, you break my definition of hobby because your motive of travelling is different. This has come up on this sub before and plenty of guys are very anti-travel. Some women are too. This is interesting. Why so? I am not against travelling but I just don't consider it a hobby that you make your l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:29 AM
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First, everyone travels. How is your experience different so that one should care? Can you sustain your hobby of travelling? This is the most important question. How many days/weeks of the year do you travel? If you're just travelling for let's say a month of the year, you can't rely on travelling as a hobby alone else you're just boring like everyone else for the rest of 11 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:12 AM
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What kind of logic is that? Can't a disappointed man come here and share his opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:08 AM
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There are lots of nuances that come to play. If you are flirting or bantering, these kinds of teases are common. If however, you sense a comment like this out of nowhere or your gut tells you he meant to hurt you, then your hobbies are doing you a favour by weeding these guys out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:07 AM
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These kinds of people are not in the majority, at least here in India. People here are not going to learn other cultures, languages, dishes and collectibles etc. Most go to simply escape their boring routines. Travelling isn't doing anything much here considering my definition of hobby. You already learn languages and history. Same for sports, collectibles etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:51 AM
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First of all, I care about a particular woman's hobbies, her lifestyle and her entire life if I am considering dating her seriously. Second, how is this related to me getting 30 matches in 3 months?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:42 AM
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Regardless of skill level, you have some new skills, experiences and stories to share with your dates or your partner if your partner hasn't camped before. Everyone has done travelling. At most, I would consider travelling as the lowest of the hanging fruit in terms of hobby. You can't sustain it without income, everyone does it so it's not at all unique, you only have to travel once alone to let go of your fears after that there is not much to learn. I am not against travelling, all I am saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:19 AM
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Even if one has income, an average person can only have travel trips for like 4-5 weeks of the year, and that's being generous. If you rely on travelling as your sole hobby, what about the rest of the 11 months? This means that you're just fun for 4-5 weeks of the year and for the rest, you're just that same boring person like almost everyone else with no hobbies, only difference being you're saving money for your next expedition which might happen 6 months or a year later.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:10 AM
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She reads a lot of trashy romance books. She knows these romance books are trashy Maybe it stimulates her fantasy, forces her to think or feel things she doesn't usually get to experience. Maybe it is expanding her horizons unconsciously and she herself can't tell. Regardless, she's investing time in it so it's effort regardless. Camping in a camp ground requires barely any skill. You still learn something new from it. Maybe socializing, some new tips and tricks to survive and create basic tools…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 12:51 AM
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I think this might be a location thing. Might be so. Maybe that's why people here are finding it weird when I say people I know and meet (I live in India) just go for fun and escape their boring routines, not for experiencing cultures, food and expanding their horizons. I also suppose it's probable that some people are not very good at talking about their travel experiences or what they meant to them. Then what's the point of travelling? I thought the entire point of these people arguing with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 12:44 AM
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Honestly, seems like a reflection of the people you surround yourself with. Maybe your algorithm only shows you travel influencers or something. I am talking about women who I just met from dating apps, not influencers or reflections of people I surround myself with, but great assumptions nonetheless queen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 12:27 AM
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The thing is no one (especially from my experience) travels uniquely, even if you consider the motive. So guess what, you travelled to Bali? My ex travelled to Bali too. My mama travelled to Bali too. Me and my friends travelled to Bali too. The next girls I will meet after you, chances are they have travelled to Bali too. Discussion hardly ever goes deeper than that. What new cultural things did you learn? what new food did you try? did you meet new people? None of those talks happen because pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 12:14 AM
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The exact same thing that millions of Chinese kids do. Lol where is this racism coming from? Why be butthurt just because I have a different definition of hobby. Matter of fact, just as many people are agreeing with me as much as disagreeing, so it's not as nuanced as you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 12:00 AM
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What is that supposed to mean? Enlightenment me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:54 PM
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Yes, but travelling is not unique because it doesn't require much skills, only money
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:37 PM
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I sort of get that seeing it on a dating profile is a bit of a nothingburger -- everybody puts it and it doesn't tell you much about how they like to travel, what sort of experiences they like, how often they do it, etc. My problem with travelling is this part. I don't hate travelling or people who travel, but it's a moot point at most and isn't anything uniquely related to you. Everyone with money can do it. It's not unique or associated to you in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:34 PM
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Something like playing piano only matters if others care about it. Someone will, and that's the point. You only need one person to form a deep bond in a monogamous relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:12 PM
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Was your reply meant for someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:04 PM
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Where I live (India), hardly anyone around me plays piano. Literally everyone and their grandma travels for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:03 PM
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First of all I am not rich. Second, considering how brutal the dating scene is, do you think any woman will care if he can't put food on the table or can't afford necessities? I understand your points are valid, but reality works differently. You can't be entirely a workaholic and say why no woman is attracted to me. Rich guys get cheated too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:00 PM
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The goal is to become polarising. Instead of everyone liking you, it's better that 7/10 don't like you but the remaining 3 absolutely love you. It's about quality, not quantity unless your goal is to hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:53 PM
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Make up definitely isn’t a necessity It is a necessity when cultural expectations are made up for women to look as pretty as they possibly can.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:45 PM
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The Self Expansion Theory Differentiation of Self Role of Autonomy I can guarantee you that my enjoyment of crocheting and houseplants will not be saving any relationships. It will, because during hard times when humans think from emotions and not logic, the memories of unique you, which strengthened the bond further will help save your relationship in tough times. A man can literally build rockets in his free time and if he's not able to communicate it in an interesting way, he'll be perceived …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:27 PM
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what are they supposed to do, get hobbies for the sake of having hobbies? No, but then you have to come to terms that this guy will not have an interesting and unique life. No one owes him attraction, affection or relationship. He can work hard as much as he wants to, but if he wants to attract and bond with a woman, he has to become what women actually get attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:12 PM
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Literally. A lot of rich people travel for their business meetings alone. They don't get interesting just by travelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:04 PM
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This has been proven to be false. A lot of studies show how individuals need their own life, social circle and hobbies to maintain healthy and functional relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:03 PM
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You're assumptions that traveling is only going to a beach resort is limiting. It's not my assumption it's what most people do. You are being obtuse if you think the majority of the population likes travelling because they want to learn other cultures or improve their social skills, or improve anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:01 PM
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Did you ever date someone with no hobbies? What was the experience like? Maybe you can help some folks here to understand better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:59 PM
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when its some shit that literally eveyone knows Not everyone knows else we won't be having a crisis where the majority of people don't have hobbies anymore other than doomscrolling, basic fitness and travelling. My personal experience of talking with over 100 women and my own friends back this up, provided it's a small data set
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:58 PM
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how interesting that makes you is also heavily dependent on the tastes and interests of the person on the other side of the table. A lot of the people are boring and can bond with other people over the most mundane things. People with deep interests and curiosity may be interested in my unique interests, or they may find them mind-numbingly boring. What it will do is make you polarising. The people who will find the life you have created boring will weed themselves out, and those who enjoy it wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:54 PM
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Then, that 50% is completely at the mercy of the more interesting person. You can check reddit alone. Countless situations where one person who doesn't have his/her own life gets overly dependent on their other half. Yes, the relationship you mentioned is working for now, but that's because the husband who loves to talk doesn't care about his wife's life being interesting, at least yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:52 PM
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It's not even comparable. Dante travelled for a treasure hunt on the Isle and in the process learnt so much about law, chemistry etc. An average I know just books a hotel/resort, enjoys beautiful destinations, clicks pics, posts on instagram and comes back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:46 PM
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Again, travelling provides growth if you are travelling with the intent of a hobby, like learning a new culture or actually staying in hostels so that you can learn to stay with strangers. Most people I know travel just to escape their routine. They will book a resort or hotel, stay there, visit beaches and locations, click pictures and post them on instagram and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:42 PM
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And for whatever reason you think this does not apply to traveling? It does, but if you are doing it with the purpose of interest like learning about new cultures etc. Most of the people I know travel just to escape their life and because they have disposable income. They book a resort or hotel, enjoy the views, click some pics, post on social media and come back lol. Additionally, the hobbies are not what makes people want to stay with someone lol. That's not what makes them bored. People get b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:36 PM
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Moreover I am getting two different types of disagreements here haha. Men generally are arguing that hobbies are not worth it for attraction anyways, whereas women generally are taking my words like hard work and expertise too literally and arguing about that. Very interesting observations
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:31 PM
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The women you have met have shown you that they were not a good match for you. Your hobbies helped you here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:28 PM
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Count of Monte Cristo. Around 4 years ago it was too long for me to finish at first when I was in my early reading days. Since then, I have read novels, built enough patience and persistence over time to finish it. Was it hard work in a literal sense? No, it was fun and chill, like hobbies are meant to be, but it did challenge me and required me to grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:26 PM
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Don't take hard work and expertise too literally. It can also mean persistence and sticking with it when it doesn't work. Some people just like reading books or they just like fishing or whatever. There's no need to make something hard or be good or at something Take both of these examples. In reading, anyone will agree that finishing Count of Monte Cristo requires patience to finish, and it's usually not the first book a reader ever picks up. That is not hard work in a competitive sense, but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:22 PM
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I think the more essential factor at the core of what you're getting at here is the ability to have conversations together ranging from good to at the very least not downright painful. and how does one plan to have that without having a hobby? Sure you can share life experiences, but those conversations will end soon. Also, notice the example you took. Hunting is a hobby and it's unique. Not everyone hunts, that's why those conversations become interesting to listen too. People like hearing and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:16 PM
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My definition of unique is something which is actually unique, and it will become unique on its own when that hobby will require investment of time and hard work over disposable income. Travelling is not one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:14 PM
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that's speculation. these outcomes are weighted sum of a million contributing variables. if you're point to lack of hobbies as most significant one, you'll have to provide some evidence of this other than vibes. I don't have any evidence and I agree with you again. It's not the only or might not be the most significant reason, but it is a reason regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:12 PM
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It has to be one of the reasons. I can't think of one good reason why anyone would appreciate their partner not having any hobby at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:09 PM
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My fiance's interests do not require him to fail at all, I am not even sure why that's a requirement lollll. You are taking my term of failure literally I think. I am talking of failure as something which you are unable to do currently and you need to get better at it. It's a personal achievement sort of thing, not competitive. Why do hobbies require any expertise at all? Not expertise, but they should require you to become better and grow and become better. There is a reason why most people don…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:06 PM
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Makes me wonder how you've experienced traveling. I almost always have disposable income, so my travelling is all about wanting to, not can I. Sure there are advantages of travelling too like thinking on the spot when things don't go according to plan, but that's just about it. Provided I am not a frequent traveler and have some bias towards hobbies which I enjoy, but still I think travelling is more about your income status than growing from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:00 PM
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That is a hobby and an art form that takes many, many hours to perfect This is a grey area imo. it's more of a necessity than a hobby. It's like cooking, depending if you are cooking just to eat your food or because you genuinely enjoy cooking and try new recipes for fun, it can be considered a skill for survival or a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:54 PM
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Something which requires you to hone your craft. If I am earning well, I can travel it's just as simple as that and that's why so many people do it. It does not require high levels of investment. Whereas ask yourself how many people dedicate themselves to a musical instrument just because it's fun. Or singing, dancing, poetry, painting, woodwork, gardening etc. These hobbies require expanding your knowledge, testing your skills, failure and growing from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:48 PM
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I was the one who broke up because I had some other things to focus on. But my piano hobby created a lot of memorable moments in my long term relationship. Playing for her when she was sad, playing for her when she was happy. Also some kinky fantasies but I won't share them here :) Same with my cooking hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:43 PM
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for me for example there are some hobbies that i don't really care about in men. I just don't. Like fishing for example. What having hobbies does is it polarises the person. You don't like a guy who's into fishing, so you might move on but the one woman who will like it will appreciate and click with him much more. The same will be true for you when you meet a guy who will have hobbies which you might appreciate. it's all good and all but i'm here for tits, so when will she shut up". So boring p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:40 PM
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Travelling makes you more interesting, matter of fact it is infinitely better than doomscrolling social media. But it doesn't make you unique when everyone wants to do it. The only constraint to someone travelling is their income, not expertise. Me playing Chopin on piano or baking an awesome chocolate brownie with ganache is not something everyone can do, which makes me unique and more personal to any woman I will bond with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:26 PM
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Most people would find travel way more interesting to talk about than listening to someone talk about practicing the piano. Although this is my personal experience so my dataset is not huge for this, but women have reacted to hearing my piano with far more excitement and joy than hearing about my travel stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:23 PM
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The goal is not to make compatibility with every partner. Having uniqueness will make you polarising. Women who I don't have compatibility with will turn me down, but women who already liked me are much more willing to bond with me deeper because I have become more unique and interesting. what matters is finding a match, compatibility. better to have a single interest A and finding someone with same interest A, rather than have interests in ABCDEFGH... and trying to date someone with no overalp.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:20 PM
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We’re tired of women being social media automatons. I mean my guy friends are no better, they also only talk about jobs, money investing and at most fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:14 PM
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Sure you won't be everyone's cup of tea, but you will become polarising. Women who will get "ick" from my hobbies might weed themselves out, but women who will love my hobbies will eventually bond deeper with me. The goal is about quality, not quantity unless you are looking for hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:13 PM
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My main hobby is collecting postcards and writing/sending postcards. At the very least, it requires you to expand your knowledge related to this subject that most people would not have. So does vinyl painting. That alone makes it unique to you which can lead to fun conversations on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:11 PM
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I don’t need my man to care about my hobbies. We need to be able to have fun together, and he should be charismatic enough to tell me about what he does and what his interests are even if he doesn’t really have “hobbies” in the way you’ve defined it. Yet you still need hobbies more than doomscrolling to be somewhat interesting, so you are kind of agreeing with me here. Also traveling is NOT something everyone does. It’s expensive (relatively), especially international travel. At most, I consider…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:07 PM
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I would argue playing Dungeons and Dragons will make you more unique. So sure, you might connect with fewer girls who like you for your hobby, but that one girl who you might click with, your bond might form deeper with her. The goal is about quality, not quantity unless you are looking for hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:04 PM
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I count hobbies which require you to fail, learn and grow from it. Me learning piano, or to cook, or failing to read a novel out of interest is my hobby. It requires me to grow my horizons. Travelling and night outs don't do that. Matter of fact everyone wants to and can do that provided they have money for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:03 PM
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Hobbies don’t need to be challenging, they just need to be outside the realm of basic life experiences like going out and traveling sometimes. Every other guy/girl likes travelling provided money is not the constraint. What expertise is required in that? You cannot craft a unique persona with a hobby like travelling where there is no risk of failure and learning from it. I wouldn’t read too much into how much women like your stories if you describe yourself as that handsome. The halo effect is p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:57 PM
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Most people who are more basic actually prefer their partners be the same. Agreed, but then you have to accept that their bond won't be much deeper because they have no uniqueness to themselves. If I live my life as "basic" like you mentioned and my neighbour for example, also lives the same "basic" life but is more attractive, I now am at the risk of being easily replaceable. This is what happens in real life too, that's why so many couples get bored with one another, then break up, divorce, ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:52 PM
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