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I don't know what you mean by "cheating over social media". Maybe you mean crossing boundaries for attention. Maybe you mean she was creating opportunity to become isolated with other men. AWALT but this description sounds so different from the typical hypergamy story of "her option at home was significantly sexually lacking compared to her options elsewhere". I think one of the biggest things a lot of married red pillers have going for them is that there wives are not really even getting opport…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 11:39 PM
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she ended up cheating on me multiple times Curious about this. Was it a matter of you not embracing control?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 09:41 PM
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I didn't read all this but a couple things; My main issue is the way I initiate. Have you read Bang? You don't have to build some kind of perfectly balanced tension. She freezes anticipating Are you outcome independent when you initiate? I had taught my wife for a while to be 'fearful' of my initiations because of the dark and gloomy butthurt clouds that would set upon our household when they didn't go as my imagination had planned. Assuming you haven't fucked another woman yet, have you made yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 09:31 PM
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guys tend to drop down to the next available thing; her touch. You still want to be close and keep your dick as close to her body as possible because attraction lingers. When rejected from validation through sex, men respond with deep self loathing and sulking anger. VERY interesting observation
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 09:14 PM
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When I read your oys I think you could benefit from relaxing (DNGAF) on what sounds like a goal of being a perfect daddy alpha all the time. If you're not significantly lacking in your own definition of "attractive man TM" and you're not being delusional about that definition then you should have nothing to worry about. Improving your ability to quickly move on, un-phased, when rejection happens would go a long way towards making this a tiny OYS post. For STFU, don't forget that you can stop tal…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 09:11 PM
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OYS #10 42yo / 5'10" 208lbs / 25%bf / Bench 245 / Squat 285 / DL 325 Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Lifting/Diet: It's been two weeks since my last oys. I have improved my intensity and regularity with the gym but I have not had a regular time with it just squeezing it in when it works. Did the biggest deadlift that I've done since may. Also did some light running and I haven't done any of that for over 2 years because of a surgery. Stop Activities: No porn, that's been going …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/26 06:32 PM
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Seems retarted. Ryan stone had a rating system that is so much better than the 10 points: Would not fuck Would fuck but wouldn't brag about Would fuck and would brag about it One more thing to note is that the only difference between the women you would brag about or wouldn't brag about is your desire for validation from other men (gaaaaay). Better to keep your focus on your own desires.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/26 04:58 PM
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I suspect that I am just somewhat successful at using certain MRP levers (dngaf, stfu, being flirtacious and being willing to cheat) and it's covering up shortcomings that are things I REALLY don't like about myself. I also suspect that I'm coping with the attitude of "things are just great" not realizing that they ("I") have potential to be much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/26 04:46 PM
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Why are you using your wife that you're about to be divorced from as a measuring stick for anything? Least of all to compare new women to?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 11:28 PM
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OYS #9 42yo / 5'10" 207lbs / 25%bf / Bench 245 / Squat 285 / DL 295 Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Lifting/Diet: Good but could be better. I'm tracking most of what I eat but not everything, so I don't always have a good idea of how well my protein is doing. I consistently drank over 100 oz of water every day and this keeps me feeling full in a way that's really effective. I worked out 5 days last week but nearly all of my workouts were phoned in and very lethargic. Makes me w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 07:25 PM
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Writing 'we...we...we' is not unlike 'she she she'. It's a trick you're unconsciously doing to shift responsibility for your circumstances onto someone else instead of owning it yourself. Changing how you write about it can have affects on how you think/act/behave about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/26 03:34 PM
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I realized that the "building desire" I thought I was doing was actually just me chasing around my wife/being neeedy. Great observation. There is no build up needed but it can still be fun for you if you want to do that sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 08:49 PM
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less release than I need........we lack the energy......she can get me off Your language betrays you. Neediness, plus all this "we" talk. https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/19/the-cardinal-rule-of-relationships/
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 08:41 PM
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OYS #8 42yo / 5'10" 206lbs / 25%bf / Bench 245 / Squat 285 / DL 335 Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Lifting/Diet: Good this past week. I made an agreement with myself that I could eat as much as I want of whatever I want after having at least 96 oz of water and 2 scoops of Metamucil. This worked great at filling me up enough that I barely had room for more eating beyond this. I had two days of travelling and was able to avoid eating like garbage and drinking completely. I worke…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 08:33 PM
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Looking forward to quality time without kids around. I will keep the same approach I have on dates (sex is the goal for me but not the only goal), we have SPA, nice dinner etc. included, so gonna use all of it. Pick your favorite quote about "undefined expectations = planned resentment" or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/26 07:50 PM
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Genuine praise works wonders on the feminine. Being fun prior to initiating and also being fun in the moment helps. A small amount of kino when the time is right does not come across as needy and helps the process. I'm learning that timing here is critical - for kino, fun and initiation. sorry, no. You're not pressing buttons on a video game. Your praise should be happening for what she did, not for setting up sex later. Your fun attitude should be because you like having fun, not because you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/26 07:41 PM
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OYS #7 42yo / 5'10" 209lbs / 25%bf / Bench 245 / Squat 285 / DL 335 Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Mission: Improve my life. Lifting/Diet: This is the biggest problem I've got in my opinion. I'm working out 2-4 times a week. My intensity is lousy at least half of the time and I justify it because it's better than if I were sleeping in or watching tv. My diet has been a major thing holding me back and even if I'm disciplined for a while (like a couple weeks) I will slide back i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/26 07:27 PM
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you might be overthinking this. If she finds you attractive she will will play along with whatever texting you want to do with her. My own guidelines for tinder/am/etc; -no dick pics, even if they ask -NEVER reconfirm date/time/place after it's established -only agree to meet at her front door or in your immediate neighborhood 10 commandments of poon applies. mallardcoves tinder posts. redsfps had a great post on using bumble. Remember spinning plates means ~no~ effort
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/25 11:45 PM
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I cheat very regularly and what you described in the original post doesn’t sound like cheating behavior. What you describe in this reply sounds like horrible wife behavior whether there is cheating or not. Ppl suggesting you investigate further are out of their fucking minds. Why are you tolerating that? Why are you allowing your kids to be exposed to that?
/r/askMRP10/04/25 02:22 AM
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I disagree with everything you said. If she was telling you all about him and complaining about his attempts at hitting on her, then she is enjoying the validation and using it to qualify you. You made it sound like it is different than this. You say it is a slippery slope to be avoided, by who? and why? You say it is a problem for her to seek out the contact info for another man? Why is that a problem? That information tells you loads about that particular option. You probably want to be with a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 08:34 PM
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popping in to tell you I have fucked women like your wife and she already has or will make fun of you and how you think the sex is good to other men Your post is like a tornado just pulled your entire home off the lot and you are wondering about weather to mow the lawn or check the mail
/r/askMRP03/09/24 08:15 PM
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Imagine your worst fears about this guy are true. Then ask yourself if your wife's treatment of you is or isn't up to your standards? Best place for you to get to would be where you're thinking of this guy as having potential to uncover a truth you don't yet know and take a cheating bitch off your hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 07:12 PM
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Flirting with your friends' wives screams "optionless"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:57 PM
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oys6: 41yr, 5'10" 187lbs 18%bf, SQ: 185x5, BP: 205x5, DL: 225x5, OP: 120x9, married +10 w/kids Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Mission Improve my sex life. Lifting Knee problem set me back Diet Excellent week Game/validation I had one interaction where I got myself isolated with a woman in a way that satisfied my goal for this. Not sure what I'll do other than to do that again. No porn since the end of July Relationship/sex Last week I redirected my focus onto eliminating some t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:55 PM
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oys5: 41yr, 5'10" 185lbs 18%bf, SQ: 255x6, BP: 205x5, DL: 335x10, OP: 125x7, married +10 w/kids Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang, Juggler Mission Improve my sex life. Lifting Excellent. I've added in calisthenics on my off days. Diet Had a near perfect week. Game/validation Almost none. I chatted with a new girl at my gym was all. Seems negative because I made it a goal to do something new every week. Based on feedback I've received, I've been toning down my validation seeking be…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 05:26 PM
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Ok, I will admit it makes me feel 'afraid' to do that, which is a pretty good indicator of what I ought to do next. I appreciate you pointing out my hamster too. While I've been spinning my wheels a lot, I'm also certain that this has to be some stupid simple mrp thing that I'm ignoring and overcomplicating. thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 03:05 PM
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Is it that you want your wife to like you? I want to stomp on this accusation, which probably means it's true. I think there's something I want to change about my behavior when I interact with my wife. I'm not sure if it's more indifference or more control/nose rubbing. Maybe it's supposed to be both
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 06:42 PM
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I agree she likes it. She's usually the one to initiate. We don't really have "games" anymore about having sex, so sometimes I wonder if it's just that this is the only way for her to feel some push/pull. It even occurs to me that part of why I'm here is that I'm experiencing boredom in my bedroom and I'm looking ways to make it more exciting for me. Maybe I'm missing out on enjoying the 'resistance' as something that has the potential to be exciting/unknown. But I also don't want to make that a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 05:29 PM
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I agree, I've fucked several other girls and I think this has pushed my dngaf into the stratosphere. I will tell you, I've never gotten past your 101 on affairs. As of now, she seems to go out of her way to not see it or ask about it. I don't consider my wife fridgid. She fits perfectly in the container I've created for her. She's not an open buffet, the way I've witnessed with other women. I'm here trying to make myself gaf about what it is I'm doing or not doing inside of my home that's so dif…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 05:03 PM
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I want improvement in my sex life. Maybe a better way to say that is "be more attractive, be less unattractive" I appreciate you pointing out that's stupid. It makes me think of something from pook where he says "you can lower your standards or raise your standards on yourself" I have this nagging suspicion that there is some "thing" I'm failing to bring into the bedroom and I'm not sure what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 08:25 PM
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Initiate when you feel like it, dont initiate when you dont feel like it. If you're enjoying sex, continue. Push boundaries if you feel like it. Thanks for saying this so plainly. I think I don't really know what pushing boundaries is supposed to look like without using words... Writing and responding on here has me confused about weather or not everything is going fine and I'm simply failing to see it that way OR everything is going poorly and I'm delusional to think I'm maxed out on what's pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 08:16 PM
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oys4: 40yr, 5'10" 187lbs 19%bf, SQ: 235x10, BP: 185x9, DL: 315x10, OP: 120x8, married +10 w/kids Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang, Juggler Mission Improve my sex life. Lifting Going great. My mood at the gym has been incredible lately. Diet Doing well, staying consistent. My weight hasn't dropped but I look less bloated in the mirrow. Game/validation I have not done a spontaneous venue change like I had as a goal. i've been social with new people at the gym but not so much that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 05:29 PM
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This is illuminating/painful to read. For real, thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 07:43 PM
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occams razor strikes again
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 06:35 PM
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yes
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 09:04 PM
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way out of my league Why the f*ck would you ever say that about yourself!?!?!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 09:46 PM
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oys3: 40yr, 5'10" 187lbs 19%bf, SQ: 225x10, BP: 177.5x8, DL: 300x10, OP: 127.5x6, married +10 w/kids Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang, Juggler Mission Improve my sex life. Lifting 2 skipped days. Diet doing well. Best part of my last couple of weeks. Game I had a goal of getting past small talk and prolonging discussions with strangers, I did this at least 3x last week with people who were not at their place of work. I'd like to keep going with that and move onto completing a ven…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 06:05 PM
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okay, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/24 05:02 PM
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Okay, thank you. I've seen you say this before and I agree wholeheartedly. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. Both my sex life and relationship are objectively good, but I feel like somethings really off around my lack of being the one in charge of either one of these things.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 03:44 PM
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oys2: 40yr, 5'10" 192lbs 22%bf, SQ: 205x12, BP: 175x6, DL: 290x10, OP: 125x5, married +10 w/kids Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang, Juggler Mission(as it applies here): Improve my sex life. Lifting Greyskull, every other day. I've had trouble with working out in the evenings, which was my routing for quite a while. Now, I'm doing it mid day or afternoon. Diet one poor week + one good week = two not very good weeks. Beer and vacation (not being at home?) seem to easily derail me. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 06:33 PM
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dump their thoughts without thinking about them, and hope that someone else will come along and make sense of them This seems very accurate. writing IS the process. Not the comments you get I have doubt about that but I'll try to put that aside for a the next two weeks. You're not happy with how things are and you want things to change. I agree, I just doubt you understand what that will actually mean. I might be confused about what you mean here. Cheating? Divorce? Pursuing big advances in SMV?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 10:51 PM
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I feel this way, 'things are so great', often but I also have some sneaking suspicion that they're not as good as I saw or like you pointed out, it will hurt my ego to admit that I'm not where I want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 10:31 PM
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put the responsibility of achieving this on someone else. I'm glad you pointed this out. I think I can admit that posting yesterday came from me believing that I'm not going to make any changes without some kind of 'help'.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 03:31 PM
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Good point, do you know of a better way of attacking this than just trying to remind myself that things aren't as great as I tell myself?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 03:24 PM
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oys1: 40yr, 5'10" 190lbs 22%bf, SQ: 175x10, BP: 160x10, DL: 275x8, OP: 120x5, married +10 w/kids Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, SGM, MAP, Bang Reading: Juggler Method Mission: Improve my sex life. Physical: I have been in good shape before but fell off the wagon hard last year. This is my chief complaint with myself. I will go to the gym today. Social: Killing it here with most people but I struggle when I speak with attractive women. I can chat with strangers and even attractive women, 'fak…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:31 PM
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