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Thanks for the solid advice
/r/askTRP23/05/19 03:22 PM
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Thanks for the follow-up, I'll keep that in mind.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:45 PM
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LTR prospect
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:44 PM
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I am actually 30yo. I don't understand why I threw a tantrum over this. I realize this, that's why I seek advice.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:30 PM
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As already stated in the post I am aware that my reaction was wrong, that's not a question. The advice I seek is how to regain my frame.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:29 PM
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Thank you for your advice. I will make sure this won't happen again. Now I just need to reestablish my frame.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:24 PM
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Thank you very much for your detailed answer and for your tips. I will spend some time thinking about your points and how to incorperate them. Edit: She does have low ncount and has no children. I'll see her only on the weekends for the next 3 weeks.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:19 PM
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Thank you very much for your answer. I don't know what my problem was and I honestly regret throwing a tantrum. Yes she is an LTR prospect and as such I don't have any trouble giving her non sexual time. I guess I just over analyzed it. Yes, I agree.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:46 PM
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I just read the blog you linked but I am not sure what you are saying. She's certainly a woman which would have been out of my league prior to my self improvement journey - but nowadays she's a good match, nothing more and nothing less. But I cannot relate to the "getting Oneities" with every woman I hook up with. Also I am very well aware of AWALT and that it's just my turn.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:40 PM
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Actually, I know it but wasn't able control my feelings at that moment. I didn't argue with her or anything but yeah I fucked up anyway. The question is how do I proceed.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:30 PM
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Thanks for your advice, I guess you're right about the self esteem. How can I go to monk mode while seeing her and meeting other girls though?
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:20 PM
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Thank for this helpful summary.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 07:12 AM
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Yeah I also wouldn't hook up with her anymore. Monk mode is a very good idea to get a fresh mind and take care of yourself.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 02:31 PM
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Thanks for your solid advice. It's been 24 hours sice I discovered it and now I have no bad feelings about it anymore. I was shocked first but it's the past. If she cheated back then so be it, it doesn't change anything. However, it opened my eyes about who this guy really is, I mean he acted like a friend but he sure isn't one. I will ghost him and get myself another agent. If the new one gets me a better deal I change my insurance otherwise I leave it as it is, end of the story. I don't care a…
/r/askTRP27/01/19 02:19 PM
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Correct. Halfway there, got like 2 more years to go.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 02:01 PM
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Also, lifting is the best thing to reduce bf. So always lift no matter if you want to bulk or loosing fat.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:56 PM
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Yeah, questioning everything is part of my job so I also do this to TRP stuff. Yes I remember the anger phase but I am passend that.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:41 PM
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I just followed common advice and bulked up (with a calorie plus) for 6 months. I gained some muscles (and also some fat) in that time. Then I did a cut for a couple of weeks to get down to 16% bf. Bulked again and now omw to 12% bf.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:39 PM
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I agree I would not benefit and that is why I don't confront him - check my edit. I would not take her back even if she would ask for it. I really enjoy my freedom and feel much more myself. I get complimented a lot about getting back my pre-LTR personality. I used to be a confident and funny guy but throughout the LTR I slowly became a BB with a stick in his ass, so no surprise there that she left me. Doesn't matter, learned the lesson. I am actually happy this happened since it made me discove…
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:25 PM
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Thanks this is exactly how I will proceed.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 08:37 AM
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Both
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:51 AM
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Sounds solid. Just stick to it and things will look better soon. Remeber there are many people which were not as fortunate as you to discover TRP your age. Make the best out of it. You are still far from your peak in SMV, take that as motivation.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:20 AM
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Thanks, will do!
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:14 AM
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Sounds like a good advice. Not making an emotional decision is exactly the reason why I created this post.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:10 AM
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Oh yes, dodged a bullet. She just texted me happy birthday and I returned the favor. That makes two texts since the breakup.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:04 AM
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Thanks for your advice. Confronting her wasn't even a possibility in the first place though.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:02 AM
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Why do you think I am hung up on her? I fully accept the possibility she fucked him, so be it. My question is if I should A: Confront that guy B: Cancel the insurance / change the company so he gets no money from selling it to me C: Complain to his boss that he is sending weird stuff to his clients. D: Any combination of A-C E: Do nothing
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:00 AM
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Stop thinking that way all the time and get more confident about your improvments. Your mindest isn't exactly helpful. Gain more confidence from further improving yourself. Consider monk mode for some time to get a fresh mind.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:50 AM
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Thank you for your opinion. I agree, after one year now it wouldn't be a huge sting. I mean after all it doesn't change anything. As you said if I ask him it's only for peace of mind. I also thought about the possibility that he might tell her about my discocery if I tell him. This is a con for me of confronting him.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:45 AM
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So you made progress in the gym and in social terms - be happy about what you accomplished within these two years. Don't compare your results of two years to others in this sub. Measure your results on yesterday and the day before and so on. As others said focus more on gym and nutrition and cut back on porn. Don't beat yourself up too much for the missed chances with one girl, its a learning process. There will be others girls - just learn from your experience. You will get there, step by step.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:35 AM
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You mean change the insurance company so he gets no monetary benefits out of the sell? But without complaining to his boss?
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:28 AM
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Sure but this story is not related to the plate.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:25 AM
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The plate is BPD not her, not saying she didn't fuck the other guy.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:22 AM
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Well I don't think too much about if she had something going with him or not but rather if I should confront him about it or not.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:13 AM
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