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Question For MenHappy-Diamond1063/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:18 AM
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Like some others have said, it can be a huge boost for him if he pays (depending on the vibe, sometimes I just get a vibe he's trying to get me to owe him) but that doesn't mean my interest goes down if he doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:05 AM
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Some reasons I didn't want a second or even third date: He was pushy for physical affection/something sexual, and terrible at it He looked much older and fatter than his photos (regrettably, I really tried to find him attractive and went on more dates) He lied about his age and let it slip in a conversation He continued to push me for a date that I would plan, after I planned and travelled for the first two, while I was dealing with a personal crisis (that I communicated to him, and told him I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:41 PM
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It doesn't say how much is paid off, but I'm just pointing out that "contributing" can be a pretty minimal amount. Technically even splitting bills could be considered making the financial load lighter on the owner and depending on jurisdiction, giving a partner a claim to some equity as a de-facto couple. I wish a prenup was worth the paper it was written on, but it sadly isn't in Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:53 PM
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Yes but that's why I would understand not wanting the partner to sign the mortgage you took out and have mostly paid for alone. I'd never have a partner co-own my house without marriage and his own asset, since by the time I have a partner I'll have paid for most, if not all of it... But I also wouldn't want them not contributing to any bills which is where it gets murky!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:35 PM
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Enough to take half in the event of a breakup? I don't think so personally, unless it's a decade+ long relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:20 PM
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It would definitely depend on how much of the mortgage was left as to how much the partner contributed to the equity of the home imo. Personally I have less than half my loan left, and paid the entire down payment myself. At most a potential partner could contribute maybe 25% to the homes equity by paying half my mortgage, beginning now, and assuming no major repairs or renovations happen (which per the OP's scenario, would be paid for by the owner).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:38 AM
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That last paragraph is perfect, I've been looking for a way to describe my own dating goals! I'm not saying "yes" to bad things for the money/lifestyle, but I'm going to say "no" to a good thing that a lack of money will probably destroy in the end (and possibly destroy me financially if it's at the point of de facto and he has any claim on my home)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:45 AM
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Yeah I had the same experience after I went blonde and had my lashes and brows done, and wore less "outdated" clothes - men I saw all the time in a certain shop were suddenly offering to carry things for me, and women actually chatted to me like I was one of them! (To clarify, I have always been a woman, but other women did not treat me like one in old baggy t shirts, a naked face, and hair tied back and not "done") I'm genuinely worried about what might happen if I get to a point I can no longe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:33 AM
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I mean, for me the offense would result from the pointlessness of a question. Weight is a number that looks different on everyone, men and women both... So it's a ridiculous question. You have eyes, use them. Unless you have a limit as to how much you can lift and need to ask before doing some crazy sex stuff, there's really no reason to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:43 AM
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Just definitely not at work, if you must, leave your number for her and let her initiate contact. Never bring it up if she doesn't text or call.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:32 AM
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Sadly I don't have a choice when it comes to public hair... My frequent ingrown hair, whether or not I did any hair removal, made that choice for me essentially. Constant ingrowns when I have trichotillomania, or laser? I chose laser.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:36 AM
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I mean there are legitimately people who believe that women's body fat percentage doesn't differ from men's, and this is the internet so I needed clarification on that one. I'd personally be more interested in people's perceptions of fat, and if they could then do scans and BMI to identify at which numerical point a person appears fat to both the same and opposite sex. BRB calling the closest university to get this shit studied.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:53 AM
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I mean, less fat as in have a lower body fat percentage? Or less fat as in "less likely to have an unhealthy body fat percentage for their sex and age"? The former tells us much less than the latter, because to put it crudely, and oversimplify things: Boobs. Despite being small chested, I will always have a higher body fat percentage than a man who appears to be of comparable build. That's just part of human sexual dimorphism, to have an incredibly low body fat percentage as a woman is much less…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:42 AM
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Also: Folliculitis. That shit is AWFUL. I'd prefer to cut myself with a razor than to have a single infected follicle! I also get actual laser hair removal and I prefer feeling that to folliculitis.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:37 PM
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Look, when I trained daily, I legitimately didn't feel "off" when I would miss a day. And I'm autistic, so routine is also super important... I really must not have missed exercise of I felt ok with altering my daily routine to skip it 😂 (Trained 6 days a week for a year, and some additional months training 3-4 times a week so it isn't like I didn't give it a go. I've also never been overweight so I couldn't get addicted to any visible results I guess)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:13 PM
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I think you are discounting the number of us that have to rely on female friends, and family members of both sexes to help us out in times of emergency. OR we do it ourselves, or pay someone to do it with the money we earned at jobs we do ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:58 PM
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I think the women who have that amount of money spent on them are a very small percentage though, like, we aren't all TikTok hotties or appeal to a niche kink despite being overall average. Some of us are average all over, and do not in fact receive validation from men unless they genuinely think sex is on the table (whether or not that man is delusional is another issue entirely imo).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:50 PM
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FWB and hookups gets old really fast though when you want an actual commitment, even as someone who spent most of her life as invisible or only having negative male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:44 PM
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Idk I mostly see men complaining that they can't get laid around here 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:15 AM
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It's a well documented problem for women. Guess men's effort is their problem too so who cares what they have to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:12 AM
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Sadly, the results I get from my life vary depending on how much effort I put into my appearance. The way I am treated by both men and women is considerably better when I am wearing makeup/have fake tan on. Sad fact is we have to do a heap of ridiculous bullshit to initially attract a partner if we aren't genetically blessed, hell, to earn a living we have to put in so much effort to look the "right" way. Saying "women don't have to wear makeup to find a partner" is kind of the same as saying "m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:53 PM
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Also who tf told these dudes that slapping on makeup is easy? I used to apply it regularly and I was good at it... A 2-3+ year hiatus and I can't put on eyeliner or mascara without making a mess for a while! The only reason it only takes a few months to regain the skill is because I had it in the first place from 5-6 years of practice as a teenager. If you aren't artistic/don't have an art background, and have never worn makeup before... That shit is hard! We are not all blessed with steady hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:42 PM
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Thank you for this, I'm a woman who went to the gym 6 days a week, an hour a day, for over a year and still had to drag myself. It just wasn't worth it to be about the same weight (I'm already slim) and maybe a tiny bit stronger and have a little more endurance (that never got used outside of the gym anyway???). Counting calories had me stressed and crying in the supermarket about once a month too thanks to hormones... A girl I met in the same program I was in is still super into fitness and exe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:24 AM
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I'd say when it comes to online dating, I'll very rarely "settle"... Since I don't see the point in essentially signing myself up for something I know I don't want (eg a man with kids, or a man I'd have to be the breadwinner for) But if I meet a man organically and happen to form a romantic connection, then I'd not be "settling" even if he didn't meet my "swipe" standards. The only thing I'd be unlikely to budge on is the "has kids already" thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:44 AM
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They probably exist in much higher social classes than my own, and to those trying to move between classes... in which case it looks more like "handbag boyfriend" and "trophy girlfriend"... Symbiotic and seemingly a ton of effort for a pretty girl on your arm or the potential of more social clout.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:30 AM
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Yes, I was almost thinking I was weird! But of course I'll find men in neutral poses with neutral faces less attractive, which is what ends up shown in "studies" to remove bias. A man in a neutral pose with a neutral face is just pixels on a screen, the same man with some semblance of humanity might be attractive. THIS is what I mean... the man in yellow is the same man in both photos, but I only find him attractive in the photo in the right.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:59 AM
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My physical attraction to men tends to be entirely random. Skinny men, muscular men, tall men, short men, slightly chubby "dad bod" men, bearded men, clean shaven men, men with wonky teeth, men with perfect teeth... Basically it's possible for me to find most men physically attractive, but that doesn't mean I want to be in a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:44 AM
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To improve your situation, look at what the women you want to attract want. Also have a look at the traits you want in a woman, do any of those contradict themselves in reality? (For example, the woman on TikTok who can't find a liberal and masculine man willing to be the provider in the relationship). Like if you lead a sedentary lifestyle, and want to find a woman who is similar... Even if you're skinny (thanks to a ridiculous metabolism), chances are, most people leading that lifestyle are fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:31 AM
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If I had a significant other who cheated, I'd be single the minute I found out. Whether I eventually forgive or not is irrelevant, because he (or possibly she) is dead to me and not getting another chance. And assuming there are no kids involved, I'll be honest as hell if anyone (including his/her family) asks me why the relationship ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:58 PM
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This isn't taking a submissive role in a relationship... This is abuse. Either endured due to existing psychological damage or necessity (eg, avoiding poverty that one came from, not wanting to leave the other wives behind, children, familial abuse that's worse, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:43 AM
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Makeup doesn't change a man's relationship with sex the way porn does, it does warp perceptions of what women exist as. Same with excessive filtering of photos and videos, which I've seen affect both men and women in terms of self esteem and body dysmorphia. But when it comes to sex, an inability to see any alternative to porn or repression is nobody's fault but the person who cannot see any alternative (in this case we are discussing men).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:36 AM
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Ah yes that's the alternative to porn, misery. Men are incapable of joy without porn, I forgot! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:37 AM
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That's what I mean, just because the healthy alternative doesn't give the same dopamine hit... Doesn't mean it isn't an alternative that exists and is mentally healthier than both repression and porn. I have ADHD and can definitely understand the dopamine struggle, sadly there's not many ways around it I can see other than manufacturing it, or never getting started on those unhealthy behaviours that result in dopamine hits (sugars, salty fats, porn, alcohol, drugs) in the first place. Barring th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:17 AM
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Well if there's scientific evidence that x is bad for mental health, like there is about porn and repression then call out that behaviour! I think both men and women should avoid porn and repression, and that they're capable of doing better for themselves than that. Do you really think men can't do any better than one of two unhealthy options when they're single? You must have a low opinion of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:32 AM
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Then they should. There are options, men are to blame for their unhealthy views of women and their sexuality if they refuse to utilise them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:25 AM
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There's a huge variety of things that aren't porn or repression for single men, eg imagination, wanking without thought or visual stimuli. It's very concerning that you think without the unhealthy influence of porn, single men must be repressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:22 AM
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Children also experience this 6th sense though, can't tell you the number of times we thought an adult was creepy, despite doing nothing overtly wrong... And that adult turned out to be a paedophile. All the adults told us "You're just making things up, you don't like x teacher because they're strict!" but turns out this man was an actual child molester. Sure, some women are just picky, but plenty of men are ignorant to being creepy as hell. I'm sure if you ask the guy I said "yes" to a date wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:36 PM
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I feel you there, man. If you're in the US, the average woman is larger than "healthy weight" so statistically you're gonna struggle. I don't even want to look at Aussie stats because I'd rather not know my chances in real numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:44 PM
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Thank you, but yes it most definitely escalated quickly. Those were actually my exact thoughts when it happened!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:41 PM
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Yeah, showing kindness openly and with a degree of trust got me very nearly sexually assaulted by a stranger at my own door, so I've learned that one the hard way! Next time someone in my neighbourhood wants some sugar/coffee/whatever, I'm throwing it over the fence and staying behind locked doors. Kindness but a little more protected?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:29 AM
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I think it works on the right one, so far haven't been able to use food to get a husband 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:15 AM
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I'm a great cook, but currently choose not to. Too many dishes to wash for just little old me to be eating! I think this exact question is some of the reason I asked about observing certain traits outside relationships! I cook for guests, partners, family, etc just not when it's only me so I wonder what other things I maybe only show within a relationship, but not outside of one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:09 PM
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Yes I'd consider it a red flag tooz just sometimes I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable so it's nice to hear opinions from others. Man I wish work gave me a phone, but they don't, just a shitty app that runs through god knows how many servers and runs slow af! I can afford a second one, but I'd have to hotspot from my regular phone anyway so I can't be bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:42 AM
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I said "generally", so if those "less important" traits are important for you... Good for you! (Also I naively assumed not being a cheater was the bare minimum so that's why I didn't include that) Curious about squirrelly with phone: I have a job that requires confidentially and for me to use my phone for work purposes, while not a current concern, would a well adjusted person count that as being squirrelly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:31 AM
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Out of curiosity, what hobbies would indicate desirable traits to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:08 AM
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In this economy? Sir, do you only date millionaires? (Obligatory disclaimer that in kidding and unsure if /s would work here)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:56 AM
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Would agreeing to be sexually exclusive is a happy medium, that way you also know she's not sleeping with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:54 AM
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Well as long as communicating interest is acceptable hopefully I'll be all good! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:50 AM
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I mean, can always break off an exclusive relationship if you're incompatible sexually, it just assures your sex partner that you aren't fucking multiple people. It's a gamble for women too, last time two times I waited a few dates I was sexually incompatible with both men in a physical way, they didn't have the uh... "correct tools" to please, in a variety of areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:43 AM
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Personally I think I'd wait until exclusivity, so if a man is willing to offer that after 4-6 dates I'm all in tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:35 AM
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It's odd because as much as I love sex and am enthusiastic about it, I'd still prefer not to do it within a few dates. Can men actually tell the difference between "making sure you're actually interested before sex" and "frigid and hesitant"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:10 AM
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How would you gauge a woman's enthusiasm for sex outside of a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 08:54 AM
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Is it now so rare to have any humanity that treating others politely or with kindness isn't standard across the board? I genuinely just thought this was the baseline, to treat people who give you no reason to be unkind with politeness at least? Maybe I just think people are nicer than they are, when I worked checkout my co-workers talked about what shitty customer they had that day, and I only got the lovely ones... Looking back maybe I didn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 07:27 AM
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... somehow the explanation makes it sound much more of a problem? Who would date someone still sleeping with their BM and staying at their house, in their bed, knowing it leads to sex? Get an air mattress, and a psychologist, maybe a couple's counsellor if she wants to try too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 07:19 AM
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Yes. I want my own kids, but not someone else's (since they also come with a mother). Also I think being a single parent is the least of your problems dude, the whole "in love with BM and still sleep with her sometimes" is something you need professional help to sort out imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:40 AM
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But you see short men constantly complain that they can't get dates, and that women are just too shallow... Just because it's life, doesn't mean it isn't fucked up 🤷🏻‍♀️ There's a gap in perceived competence based on so many screwed up things, like whether or not you've got an "ethnic" name, a speech impediment, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 07:57 PM
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Also if we don't wear makeup, we statistically suffer in our careers as well. I've honestly gotten treated so much better by everyone after investing money and time into my appearance. My hair cost me almost $400, my eyebrows and lashes are almost $200, fake tan takes a million fucking years, and my contacts are $60/month vs the $400/2 years for glasses. As much as I enjoy being treated more nicely, it's absolutely, unequivocally, fucked up that the way I was born will never be enough for societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:30 AM
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Yes, it's one less thing to consider in daily life, and would make it much less overwhelming. I love to be striving for things, but I prefer to strive for things where you have measurable steps to get to what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:18 AM
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And it means autistic women are either in a heap of dangerous or unwanted situations, or are more vigilant than the average woman because they can't trust they are interpreting the signals a man gives them in the correct manner. (I have been both, currently more the second one)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:22 AM
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No, it isn't a deal-breaker, but if he shows my animals no care or consideration then he's out. I don't care if he doesn't love animals as a whole, but if he cannot treat mine with respect and step up if needed (eg if I'm unwell) then that's a deal-breaker. He should love them because they make me happy if we are in a relationship, anything else is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:33 AM
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I have a few numbers, but they'll all go out the window if I feel really connected with someone and attracted to them irl. My non-negotiables are more lifestyle based eg: No smokers, no kids, have a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:03 AM
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I also don't read social cues well either and this is why I personally try and stay wary so along with other comments from women here, that's mostly it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:23 AM
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