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There is a lot of research to support that too much familiarity decreases desire. The anticipation and build up to sex is part of desire. I highly recommend Esther Perel’s “Mating in Captivity”. Our sex life has increased. Part of it is “What else ya gonna do with all of this downtime?” We have two kids with another on the way. Pillow talk is a priority for us and that increased during this lock down. The kids are in bed by a certain time. We lie in bed and talk, touch, cuddle, and it sometimes …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 09:39 PM
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Bingo. OP has nothing to worry about as 99% of women aren’t interested in a bi man. Go be with a dude and enjoy your life, dude!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:44 AM
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Just speculation, but from my experience, men only act more romantic to give women what they want. They do it not because they are or feel particularly romantic, but because they want to keep the woman happy. When a romantic gesture is completed for a guy, it is almost seems like a turn off for the guy or the guy doesn’t really care. Men certainly don’t treat women any differently if the woman has gone the extra romantic mile for them, whereas a man could benefit from romancing a woman for an ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:38 PM
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It seems you and others on this thread are defining class as money. Class is far more complicated that that, but I am guessing by your posts your new SO is middle class with a professional background or at the least he mingles in a professional crowd. If that is the case then the advice others have given is solid, be confident in yourself and trust that your SO chose you for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 06:32 PM
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I love giving gifts! It depresses me a bit that the art of giving a gift is being lost to gift cards. I am close with my family and my fiancé’s family. It is fun picking out gifts for the people you love. I only have a few friends I exchange fits with though. I’m from the south though, we take gift giving pretty seriously. I give my fiancé different kinds of his favorite alcohol, experiences, and quality gifts he will use (think wallet that has been engraved, watch, sporting event tickets, and e…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 12:53 AM
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I spend $80 a month on gel nails. I love choosing fun colors and the way they look. I feel pretty. Also, according to my fiancé, no back scratch feels as good as one done with natural nails.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:55 PM
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“All bisexuals (men or women) end up with men.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 02:28 PM
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I am engaged and we spoke of finances pretty early on in our relationship. One of the things that drew us together was our value and views on money. We save, live within our means, and are debt free. We will combine all finances once we are married and no pre nup for is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 03:36 PM
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You’ve been given some solid advice. Well kept hair. Stay on schedule for hair trims. Conditioner. For most women, wash your hair every other day or every two days. Dry shampoo on days you don’t wash to freshen your hair up, give your hair volume, and smells heavenly. Day 2 is always my best hair day. Love my hair masks and use them every couple of weeks and they are cheap. I was told not to brush wet hair, comb with a wide tooth comb starting from the ends working your way up. Helps prevent spl…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:25 PM
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I agree. This seems to be confusing SMV with RMV. Perhaps it is differences in class. In my circle, there isn’t a single person who does not have a minimum of a bachelor’s degree. The high value men I know did choose women based on their own values, which for most UMC men do value education. Don’t get me wrong. In my experience, plenty of these men had past sexual relations with a range of women and they definitely had plenty of ONS or temporary flings with uneducated women, but they did make th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:23 AM
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This is not cultural. There are plenty of warm, loving, and close families from conservative states. Your SO’s mother’s personality is different and she does seem to have issues. That said, I want to echo what others have said. Stop expecting your ideals from other people. Practice the art of meeting people where they are and setting boundaries. Being gracious and polite doesn’t mean being a doormat and search for ways to connect with the rest of his family. If family really is something you val…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 10:53 PM
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My parents divorced when I was young , so I don’t remember them being together. They were cordial to one another and I had access to both of them and never questioned their love. Big difference than the experience many others have. We also had secure and safe homes with both parents where we didn’t struggle with basic needs and a fair amount of our desires were met. We were never on any government assistance. That said, I believe it is absolutely better to stay together for your children despite…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:21 PM
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It is a generalization, so it works enough of the time with enough women. Dread game isn’t going to work on every woman. I think the younger and/or more insecure the woman and/or relationship is the more likely dread game would work. When I was single of a guy used dread game on me then I would have ended things quickly. As I like being my man’s one and only, if I thought a guy was investing his time in other women like that, I immediately was turned off. Some dread game is borderline mental/emo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 05:16 PM
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Girl, don’t sweat it. Honestly for most weddings, no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. To help alleviate a lot of the stress hire a wedding planner, at least part time. If not, remember every little detail does not matter. Your guests are there to celebrate the two of you by drinking (probably), eating, and just having a good time. The best wedding I have ever attended was less than $5K but they had an open bar, awesome food, and the atmosphere was very romantic yet fun (another fa…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 02:51 AM
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Honestly for NJ, I would be surprised if you could get a lavish wedding done for 40k. That is probably 20k below average for Jersey. If you could afford it and are not going to go into debt, do what you like. Don’t turn into a nightmare human being just because it is your wedding and remember to treat people, including your fiancé with kindness and respect and you will be fine.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:58 AM
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Mating in Captivity:Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel! I recommend this to anyone in a long term relationship or who wants to be in one. Here are a couple of her TED Talks, but the book is so amazing. I learned so much. She discusses how to prevent affairs and how to maintain an erotic relationship despite stability and domesticity often being the antithesis of the erotic. Has several RP truths in it. https://youtu.be/sa0RUmGTCYY https://youtu.be/P2AUat93a8Q I also read a book called …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 11:52 AM
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I disagree about OP being meddling. A private conversation between a father and a son after seeing alarming behavior from a son’s future spouse is perfectly acceptable. It is none of the future wife’s business that such a conversation was had between them. They expressed their concern, the son assured them everything was fine, and they left it at that. OP is optimistic for their future. Great! My mom had a similar conversation after witnessing red flag behavior from my sister’s fiancé. My mom sa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 08:18 PM
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One study, especially a social science study isn’t going to give us the truth on anything. It is just one study and something to think about.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 04:26 PM
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As a person with strong family values, this has not been my experience. The best and longest marriages that I have come across had close and strong familial bonds. Part of why drew me to my fiancé was that he, like me, was very family oriented. Esther Perel who is a wonderful therapist and has years of experience under her belt says part of the reason modern love is so difficult is because we look to our spouses to provide what an entire village once gave. Highly think RPW should read her work a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 01:51 PM
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https://bigthink.com/ideafeed/expensive-weddings-result-in-shorter-marriages There are multiple other sites who covered this study.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 01:44 PM
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I am currently planning my own wedding and agree with the sentiment of your post. A lot of brides lose sight of the forest through the trees. I also have seen horrendous demands and permanently damaged relationship for the sake of “her”, not their day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 03:41 AM
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University, but we reconnected years later.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 05:23 PM
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Well, in my 30+years on this planet, I have yet to meet a man who has made me toss all of my values and morals to the side, so I would say not true for everyone. I have met plenty of men who I was very attracted to but if he and/or I were in a relationship with other people, the buck stopped at a passing thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 04:49 AM
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No.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 07:39 PM
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I agree with this.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 04:11 PM
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Yup!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 02:09 PM
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I agree. I don’t intermingle finances with even my fiancé at this point. He pays his bills and I pay mine and we split others. We decided that we would not combine all finances until we take our vows to become one. Not to mention, 7 months would be too soon for me to feel comfortable taking money from someone, even if they freely offered it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 02:36 PM
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I have to agree with this. The insane people who have a laundry list of “requirements” need a reality check, but marrying someone who you don’t actually feel romantic love for , at least in Western culture, seems cruel. Mr. Good On Paper could be out there finding someone who truly does love him and you should be finding someone who the woman can be in a real relationship. No pretending.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 02:06 PM
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I agree with some other posters. There is nothing wrong with your sexual preference and sexual compatibility is a deal breaker for me too. I am 100% turned off by the idea of pegging or anything that would require me to bend my man over and enter him. Not interested in the least and I feel no shame about it. Don’t care what anyone else says. If a guy wants to be pegged or bent over or be that submissive, our relationship would be over. I am not attracted to that man anymore. He would be free to …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:00 PM
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Perhaps this is a values difference. I come from a very close knit family and we value family highly, not just my own family unit, but that extends to my fiancé’s parents and extended family and my own. I specifically sought after a person whose viewed and valued family the way I do, by spending quality time together. I knew if I was with a man who wasn’t interested in spending a few days a week with our respective families in some way, we weren’t going to work. I found a man who comes from a “I…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 01:09 PM
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June Goals 1. Lose 5 pounds 2. Cook a new recipe for my family 3. Read 1 self improvement book
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 02:06 PM
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I’m guessing you don’t have experience road tripping or camping as a broke college kid. Haha the first time we slept in the same bed together three of us were rotating sleeping in a queen bed for a week while one person slept on the floor while on a young professionals trip. We were not sleeping at each other’s houses on random nights.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 07:13 PM
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This has not been my experience. You did say this could take 10+ years and we have been close friends for 9 years, so maybe we are still in Stage 2. We are both attractive, college educated, and heterosexual. When we were both single, there were times when we slept in the same bed together and nothing happened. Not even close. We have always been just friends and I have never picked up on a hint of chemistry or sexual tension. We aren’t one another’s type. Perhaps it makes a difference if we met…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:30 PM
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