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It sounds like you just want to vent on a months old post instead of actually reading what I wrote. I said that advice given on an anonymous forum like reddit has to be generic because we don’t know the OP. So it will always be ultra basic advice that can apply to anyone. Also, it sounds like a lot of people on this subreddit don’t want to ask their friends to set them up so they’re not even doing the basic stuff. Most couples I know were set up by their friends. Is this not a thing that people …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 04:02 PM
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women actually gave me BAD advice. How is getting out of the house and asking a friend to set you up bad advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:45 PM
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Is this AI? I wouldn’t date PUA men who are watching seduction videos. Those men would not have the same values I do. I have more traditional beliefs and would only date men who share those beliefs. I’m married to a wonderful man so it worked out for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:54 AM
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Kind of a weird thing to say. Obviously if I was a lesbian I would be attracted to different traits like tf?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:48 AM
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The amount of romantic gestures or the amount of money a man spent on his ex has nothing to do with me. If I don’t like the way he is treating me then I would break up with him. It has nothing to do with the previous woman if that makes sense. If he is not meeting my standards for courtship it’s my decision to leave instead of accepting what I view as subpar treatment. If a man doesn’t want to wait for sex from a woman then he is free to leave and find someone else. She is allowed to change her …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:34 PM
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I’m genuinely sorry you feel that way. I hope things get better for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:07 PM
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Why do women ask for things that they never seen anyone like them have? Most of them don’t. Some women want a man who makes more than them so they can take some time off after having a baby. The US doesn’t have maternity leave so it’s a practical consideration if you want to stay at home with a newborn. There is a drastic difference between that and holding out for a billionaire. It's like if I set my standards to date an Olympic gymnastic that makes $200,000+ a year. Go ahead. If you are happy …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:07 PM
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It absolutely flies. They are called bachelors.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:59 PM
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Right? Like if a woman that looked like Ana de Armas approached OP he would reject her just because? I don’t understand what gotcha he was trying to prove here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:58 PM
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If a woman is happy being single then she can have whatever standards she wants. You can think they are completely delusional and it doesn’t matter. If she can’t find anyone that fits her criteria she can either stay single or adjust her standards until she finds someone. Your personal standards only matter to you. Plenty of men don’t want a submissive woman and lots of women don’t expect a man to pay their bills. People should find someone who has values that align with theirs. This seems more …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:26 AM
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If I was single and a rich and famous person asked me out and our values aligned (traditional, waiting until marriage, wants lot of children) then why would I say no to a date? Again, what are you hoping to accomplish with this question?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:14 AM
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It’s different if it’s something that you decided to use yourself or if everyone uses the chart. I use a checklist in my phone so I remember what I have to do. It’s weird to impose a chart on another adult like OP suggested and treat them like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:55 AM
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which is why I don't trust them Why bother asking the question if you won’t believe any of the answers? What type of debate were you hoping to engage in? There’s obviously women that wouldn’t cheat and could resist being asked out by an athlete or musician just like there are men that wouldn’t cheat if they were propositioned by a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:52 AM
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personally I just find casual sex and the thought of people who used to have a lot of it gross. Personally I also don’t like the idea of casual sex and find it gross. I would never date a man that engaged in casual sex but I hold myself to the same standard. This doesn’t seem to mesh with your first comment where you said it was disrespectful for a woman to make one man wait longer than another. I don’t see how it’s disrespectful to make a man wait for sex. Women are not obligated to sleep with …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:40 AM
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I’m a stay at home mom so we need his income to live but if I was an heiress or something then I wouldn’t care if he worked. I would rather he didn’t have to work so we could hang out all day together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:39 AM
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Having similar cleanliness levels is really important in a relationship. Like way more important than people give it credit for. If you date/marry someone who shares your cleaning standards then you don’t need stuff like this. I would never insult a man by making him a chore chart. Incompetence gives me the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:28 AM
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The average child support payment is around $400 but I guess that’s relative if you consider that expensive or not. Either way, be picky about who you procreate with. It’s the biggest decision you will make in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:13 AM
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I've had my fun when I was young, now I want to lock in a committed relationship and vet for compliance with a man I'm less excited by/attracted to while I still have options. I’m not saying that never happens but that seems like a very sad, cynical way to view the women you want to date. People grow and change. Just because someone is ready to settle down doesn’t mean they aren’t attracted to their spouse. It seems like the men on this sub are constantly complaining that they want casual sex wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:10 AM
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Do you expect people to never change their behavior? This sub screeches constantly about how women need to take accountability. If a woman realizes that having sex too soon isn’t healthy for her then why wouldn’t she change her dating patterns? Thats like the definition of taking accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:33 PM
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Depends how old you are. Clubs are loud but if you are looking for women over 25 you could try wine bars. They tend to be quieter and at least near me the women outnumber the men. Or theme bars. Bridgerton is coming back for a new season soon. Find the Bridgerton pop up bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:40 PM
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Your metaphor is insane and embarrassing for you and it makes it hard to take you seriously as a person. I have sympathy for addicts but it doesn’t mean I feel bad if they can’t get fentanyl whenever they want. They might think it’s really important to get high but that doesn’t mean it’s good for them. Showing empathy would be helping them get into treatment not giving them what they want. Women don’t have to let men inside of their bodies. More men want casual sex than there are women to accomm…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:09 PM
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Id argue you wasn't that physically attracted to him if that was the case. You could argue that you would be less attracted but the idea that you wouldn't like a guy at all means that you wasn't attracted to him at all either way. So in your mind he's ugly It has nothing to do with looks. I could see a male model or a K-Pop idol and I’m still not going to ask him out first. I like traditional men. It’s a value judgement. Other women can choose to ask men out and good for them. Everyone should do…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:02 PM
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No one is forcing you to approach women if you don’t want to. This sub rails against feminism but it’s the feminist women that are more likely to make the first move and go 50-50 with a guy. Personally, I’m more traditional and wouldn’t be attracted to a man that didn’t ask me out first. Why would I put effort towards something I’m not interested in? Women take on all of the risks of pregnancy and should be really picky about which men they choose to procreate with. I almost guarantee you that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:06 AM
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You don't need to hype them up and encourage them to have empathy. But you can't say you have empathy for a group of people when you don't have empathy for the thing that troubles them most. Like, it's 1941 and I have empathy for Slavic/Jewish people dating struggles but not for them being in concentration camps. I’m sorry but did you just compare your inability to have casual sex on tap to the holocaust?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 09:26 PM
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This very much depends on your location and social circles because I’ve only heard the first piece of advice on Reddit. In the more traditional circles, the goal for men and women is to get married and get married young. If you can’t manage it on your own then you go to your family and friends and ask them to set you up or hire a match maker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:31 PM
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That sounds like an awesome date idea. I’m sorry she said that to you. That’s mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:06 PM
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I have a lot of empathy for people that are struggling to find a partner. I’ve helped set up people that I know in real life and give them concrete dating advice if I’m in a position to do so. I don’t believe that casual sex is good for society and people are not entitled to use another’s body. If people want to engage in a hookup and they both consent then I won’t judge them for it. It’s their decision and their lives to live but I’m not going to hype them up and encourage them to do it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:49 PM
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Having similar cleaning standards is incredibly important for a relationship. Some people’s acceptable results might be a sanitary hazard. It’s not an objective metric. As long as the couple agrees on what “clean enough” is then they can make it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 08:09 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:33 PM
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I would love to see the sources of those studies you talk about in the OP. There’s always going to be women who have rough or traumatic home lives that are going to have a harder time vetting men until they can fix their meter for what they consider normal. I don’t think there is a 100%, fool proof way to vet but I do think going back to a more traditional style of dating would help (for women who desire marriage and children). Waiting for sex until there is a committed relationship if not marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:14 PM
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I got a bunch of upvotes on a post from Peter explains the joke and ran to show my husband all of my fake internet points so he knows my username. He’s not so into reddit so I doubt he’s looked through my comment history but he could if he was interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:00 AM
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Right? I didn’t know men were just out here building houses to give away to women just for existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:32 PM
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Basically no normal men expects a woman to have sex with him on the first date People know this in the real world but on this subreddit there’s endless posts about how if a woman doesn’t give it up on the first date (or before) then she doesn’t feel “raw desire” and she’s using you as a beta bucks or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:55 PM
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Men on this sub: Take accountability and choose better Women: Okay I’ll learn from my mistakes and change my dating patterns Men: no, not like that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:38 PM
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I’m honestly asking. This empathy question is posted at least once a week sometimes more and I’ve never gotten a straight answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:54 PM
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I have plenty of empathy. Now, what specific actions would you like me to do with that empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:42 PM
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I wouldn’t travel to Columbia but hypothetically yes I would try to protect him and he’d probably be really upset that I did bc he’s trad af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:41 PM
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Bro asked AI for sources and ghosted when they were were nonsense. OP, what was that about taking responsibility an admitting fault again?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:46 AM
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I have empathy for men’s dating struggles but not for dry streaks and (at least on this subreddit) that’s what they really seem to care about. This question pops up regularly and I always ask what actions men would like women to take to show empathy. I either don’t get an actual answer or it comes down to them wanting it to be easier to get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:36 AM
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So if the father dies then the woman is supposed to do what? Give her children up for adoption to a two parent home? What about a wealthy, ivy league educated executive woman who conceives via sperm donor and has a big support network? Do you really believe that child will have an “abysmal outcome?” I also believe that women need to ruthlessly vet the guys they date so they don’t have children with useless men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:18 PM
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All of these handbag comments are driving me spare. Did we watch the same video? The guy charges at her with a knife and she’s encumbered with a big hiking backpack. She might have thought he would stab her while she was trying to unclip it and take it off. Or he could have been a crazy person on drugs. Columbia has a problem with express kidnappings also. A million things could have been going through her mind and her instinctual response was to fight. She wasn’t playing tug of war with a handb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:20 PM
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He may have felt that she would not have risked her life for him either Sure, we don’t know anything about these people. Maybe they weren’t even a couple and met 5 minutes before the incident. That was the point I was trying to make. I personally would expect my husband to defend me. People should date/marry people with similar values. If you don’t want to risk your life for your girlfriend then that’s fine just date someone who agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:12 PM
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All of the Reddit keyboard warriors are so certain they would remain calm and be able to read the mind of the guy running at them with a knife.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:07 AM
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They were in Columbia, she could have thought the knife wielding maniac was trying to kidnap her. Her instinct was fight. It did not at all seem like she was risking her life for a phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:25 AM
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If someone is rushing towards you wielding a knife in the middle of the day it’s unreasonable to think they would just leave peacefully. He could have been on drugs or she could have thought he was trying to kidnap her. Kidnappings happen to tourists in Columbia. In my other comment I said we don’t know the circumstances surrounding the people. We don’t know if they were a couple or even if she told him to run. I am not talking about the man at all. I was responding to you minimizing the attack …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:21 AM
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Why do you keep saying she prioritized a handbag when that’s not what happened in the video? The robber came at her with a knife and she’s wearing a big hiking backpack. It might not have been clear to her if he was straight up trying to stab her or “just” rob her. Who’s to say he wouldn’t have stabbed her while she was trying to take off the backpack and hand it to the mugger?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:39 AM
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If you watch the video it’s not clear that the robber was only trying to take her phone. I think that’s what he told the police after he was caught. He came at her with a knife and she was encumbered with a big hiking backpack. She might have thought he was trying to stab her and her instinct was to fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:31 AM
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The robber came at her with a knife. She might have thought he was trying to stab her and didn’t think to take the time to take off the hiking backpack and hand it to him. Her instinct in the moment was fight and his was flight. The article you posted says the relationship between the couple is unknown. We don’t know if they were dating, friends, or if he was her mentally impaired brother and she told him to run away. Personally, I think a man should protect his girlfriend/wife but that’s just m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 01:29 AM
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Have you met boomers? The people that I know in the most miserable marriages are all boomers. They are known for “wife bad” style memes. They also have the highest divorce rates while millennials have the lowest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:16 PM
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I just turned 29 so I’m on the edge of Gen Z and millennials. I didn’t know who Bonnie Blue was until someone wrote about her on this subreddit. Not being into porn doesn’t mean you can’t give dating advice. Honestly, someone who goes outside and meets people might give better advice than someone staying online all day watching porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 09:34 PM
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Money matters in life. I’m not sure where you got the idea that money doesn’t matter (up to a certain point). The amount it matters depends on what type of lifestyle you want to live. I like being able to stay home with my babies so it’s important to me that my husband makes enough to provide for us financially. This is what we both want for our family. The key is to be in alignment with your partner about what you want your relationship and lives to be like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:59 PM
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What a lovely attitude. Can’t imagine why you’re having trouble with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:04 PM
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Empathy that’s not backed up by actions doesn’t mean anything. What specific actions should women take?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 04:14 AM
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Our body our rules. You just answered your own post. Women’s bodies = women’s rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:01 AM
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But why would women put effort into something they don’t want?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:58 AM
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But what would having empathy solve exactly? Posts like these always comes down to men wanting more casual sex from women. Wanting to be in someone’s body with no effort has nothing to do with empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:55 AM
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Genuinely, what kind of responses were you expecting from this bait question? Of course I want my husband to be the father of my children unless we were adopting and then we would still be that child’s parents but neither of us would be genetically related. Also, why does this sub love pretending that men can’t be good looking and good people? They are not mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:39 PM
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I can understand your “plight” and still not care. Why should women put in effort towards something they don’t want?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:02 PM
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There’s billions of people in the world. Of course someone like this could exist. That’s not the point. The point is that it’s weird for OP to make multiple posts asking us to discuss a thread that he won’t post a link to and then getting defensive when people think he made it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:00 AM
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Are you OPs alt? I wouldn’t save random reddit threads either but if you are going to make 2 separate posts about a thread and ask for a discussion about it then you should provide the link. Otherwise you can’t be surprised if people think it’s made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:59 AM
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It’s weird that he made 2 separate posts about this woman and won’t post the link to the original thread. It makes it seem like he made up the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:58 AM
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Then why bother making another post? It seems like this woman doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:41 PM
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Why are you making a second post about this woman and still refusing to post the link? It’s weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:33 PM
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People can choose to live how they want but personally I don’t believe in casual sex so I don’t have much empathy for someone going through a dry streak. I do have a lot empathy for someone earnestly looking for a serious relationship and having trouble dating. I would try to help that person if I was in a position to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:34 AM
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Dan Bilzerian pays the models he hangs out with. Idk a lot of the details but there a lawsuit against him that he used company funds to pay the women. Anyway, you can’t compare yourself to celebrities. They live in an entirely different world. The average woman is not getting DMs from basketball players. TikTok is not real life. Average people generally get into relationships with other average people. Walk around a Walmart and you’ll see so many average couples. The RP definition of hypergamy c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:25 AM
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It depends what you mean by skeptical. The is a difference between general risk assessment like asking questions about their values, watching for red flags, etc. That’s learning from past experiences. Skepticism shouldn’t mean treating a new person like they are already guilty of something they didn’t do. If you project what your ex did into your new date and act like a combative jerk then that’s not risk assessment, that’s baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:04 PM
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Jesus if you don’t want to kneel then don’t kneel. If you don’t want to propose to someone then don’t. Not everything is some grand feminist conspiracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:52 PM
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Other women can do whatever they want. If the men they like aren’t approaching them then they can choose to make the first move if that’s something they are interested in. I’m just saying that I personally couldn’t be attracted to a man that didn’t ask me out first. We wouldn’t be compatible. I would rather be single than ask out a man I wasn’t into and I think a good amount of women feel this way or else they would approach more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:02 PM
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This is what you are not understanding. If I had to approach a man, he wouldn’t be the man I truly wanted. I want a man who is a leader. I’m married so it worked out for me. I got the man I truly wanted. He asked me out first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:40 PM
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Like other people have said, no one cares what your attraction trigger is unless you make it their problem. Don’t make sexual comments towards strangers you find attractive and don’t be shitty to people you aren’t attracted to. It’s fine to only be attracted to thin women but don’t call heavier women cows etc. Basically, keep inside thoughts inside your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:21 PM
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What are they gonna do, destroy your house? There is no destructive force stronger than that of a young toddler. Give them an ipad or something to play with. Sure I’ll tell the newborn that he doesn’t need to nurse he can just play with an iPad. Babies and toddlers can’t use iPads. Bigger children shouldn’t use them often either. What people are you talking about? I was being sarcastic because there have been so many men giving the obvious advice of “just meal prep and workout” in this thread li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:26 PM
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How many little kids do you have because meal prepping on weekends is harder since they are all home. Babies won’t sit quietly while you spend hours meals prepping. I have time to cook healthy meals and go to the gym because I don’t work and have a supportive husband. It’s not easy for women who work and don’t have that level of support. The way people make it sound on this subreddit, they must only eat perfectly balanced meals and have the bodies of an adonis since it’s so easy. I’m surprised s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:34 PM
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I wouldn’t get into a relationship with a man who didn’t participate in the courting rituals. Also you should continue to date each other forever. My husband and I still go on dates and we’re married with children. The dating dynamic is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:27 PM
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It’s not about fear. I’m not scared to ask a man out. I just like traditional men and wouldn’t want to date any man that didn’t make the first move. I wouldn’t be attracted to a guy that I had to chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:06 AM
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Vibes are not deep. You can “vibe” with a stranger and it means nothing. Going off of vibes is how people get attached to someone that ends up being completely incompatible as a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:51 AM
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A single newborn is completely different from a toddler, let alone multiple toddlers and little kids. There have been times where we spend an hour outside and walk somewhere between a quarter of a mile to half a mile at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:48 AM
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Then save money and chill. It’s your life. Live it however you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:18 AM
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Of course, but if marriage and kids is a life goal of yours then you won’t get there without the cost of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:00 AM
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You don’t have to date until you feel ready. If you have a busy, full life it’s okay to stay single or take time to focus on your career. You shouldn’t feel pressured to date until you decide it’s time. People generally don’t date or marry because it’s a good financial move, although sometimes it can be, that shouldn’t be your primary reason. You do it because you love the person and want to build a life together. Having kids costs a fuck ton of money so while it costs a lot financially, my life…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:44 AM
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How is this transactional? It sounds like they are asking you questions and then ghosting before the first date. Isn’t that the opposite of transactional? You are not spending any money on them. When is the transaction occurring? It’s better to judge basic compatibility before the first date anyway so you don’t waste time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:24 AM
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Those are the men who come to reddit saying, “the divorce came out of nowhere!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 10:00 PM
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Did you find the link?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:06 PM
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Sounds like she should have picked a better husband, then. I agree 100% that women shouldn’t reproduce with useless men but if she already had a baby it’s not easy to up and leave and her immediate focus isn’t going to be getting into shape. Oh, so maternity leave doesn't exist now? Not really. It very much depends on your job and where you live. This is also why it’s so important for women to be picky about who they marry and have children with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:05 PM
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People can’t do everything. It’s really hard to raise children and work full time. Where do you find the time to workout and cook healthy meals from scratch? Packaged food is filled with sugar. Even the bread is filled with sugar. Chasing around babies and toddlers is exhausting. If you combine that with having to work and taking older kids to activities, it’s no wonder families are going to eat packaged food at the end of the day. I’m not working right now so I have time to cook and go to the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:24 PM
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OP won’t post the original link so we can’t see why she didn’t find anyone at the events. Maybe she has delusional standards, maybe she has a strict value system she doesn’t want to compromise on. If she’s okay being single instead of adjusting her standards then why should anyone have a problem with that? Why would a man want a woman to date him if she didn’t find him attractive or like him? Wouldn’t that be insulting?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:23 PM
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I think you would get better responses if we could see what she actually wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:52 PM
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I have told a friend in real life when I felt like she was being overly picky. Because I knew here really well and she wasn’t happy being single. It’s hard to do that online because again, it’s a stranger and I don’t know her. Do you have a link to the post? It’s hard to debate something without the most pertinent information.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:42 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/niceguys/comments/3a7u33/the_most_accurate_nice_guy_analogy_ive_ever_seen/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:01 PM
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Because we don’t know her and don’t know what the dating events were like. If she wants a partner more than she wants to be single then she can adjust her standards when she is ready. If the guys at those events weren’t her type and she gave them a chance anyway, guys on this subreddit would say she’s trying to find a beta that she doesn’t feel “raw desire” for or whatever red pill is calling it now. RP focuses too much on what they arbitrarily decided is someone’s “looks match” instead of someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:56 PM
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Everything is a grass is greener situation. We bonded over not wanting to live such an ultra religious lifestyle. It was pretty crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:33 AM
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I’ve known him since we were kids. We started dating before I started college. We both grew up extremely religious but we are not anymore. Like we are probably more religious than the average person but it’s sooo much less than our parents do so it’s hard to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:12 AM
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That’s the Konami code not the this will work on every single woman ever code. They are totally different.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:51 PM
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I’m 29, he’s 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 09:28 PM
2

Exactly this. I also dated for marriage and my now husband paid for all of our dates. I showed effort in other ways like planning and cooking a romantic picnic. If a man wants to go 50-50 then he should find a like minded woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:54 PM
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Don’t listen to the other guy, women are a hive mind. Here’s the code you need to say to women (yes, ALL women): Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, B, A Now the secret is you need to say it in the Christian Bale Batman voice. If it’s not said in the Batman voice it won’t work. You are totally correct when you say that dating isn’t efficient. All you need is the secret code. And the Batman voice. This will work on every single woman ever bc we are a monolith. If it doesn’t work then yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:31 PM
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Not at all. Plenty of women don’t engage in casual sex but they don’t want to date a guy who does either. If it’s a goal of yours to have one night stands then you can’t be surprised if the women you date do the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:55 PM
1

Yeah the audacity for a stranger on the internet to confidently tell me what the nurse did or did not say at my appointment 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 07:29 PM
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Yes they literally took me into a separate room from my husband and when I said I didn’t need the additional std panel, the nurse spoke about cheating husbands during pregnancy. This happened to me with all 4 of my pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:53 PM
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But that is the real explanation though. During every single one of my pregnancies a nurse pulled me away from my husband to ask if I was safe or if I wanted an STD panel because husband’s are more likely to cheat on their pregnant wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:11 PM
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But what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:01 PM
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Life isn’t a dating sim game. There is no way to tell a stranger how to flirt that will work with every woman every time. Also, any advice you get on an anonymous forum is going to be generalized because we don’t know you. That’s why people say things like “improve your social skills” and “expand your horizons - join a hobby group” What you should do is ask someone you trust in real life to be honest with you. Maybe you have bad breath, maybe you are trying to flirt by speaking in a British acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:00 PM
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Thinking about a problem doesn’t do much if it’s not backed up by actions. How would you specifically like women to alleviate the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:46 PM
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OP, what does compassion mean in practice? Like actual concrete examples. I can say I have “compassion” for men but that’s nebulous and vague. It doesn’t mean anything without action to back it up. What specific actions are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:54 PM
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Scenario 3: A man wants more with his female friend. He asks her out or confesses. She doesn't want more and rejects him. They mutually slow fade out of the friendship because it’s not the same and you can’t be friends with someone who wants to be more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:19 AM
2

My example for reading the room was don’t approach a woman running errands with her children. How is that avoiding accountability for her own choices? Redpillers always say that but what does that even mean in this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:26 PM
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I haven’t seen any posts in this subreddit from women saying they would be offended if a man approached them in a bar and was respectful if they turned him down. If I missed any recent ones let me know and I’ll tell them to chill out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:20 PM
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Women are different so sure some don’t want to be approached at all but it’s generally accepted that men can shoot their shot in a bar. Just don’t make it weird or scary if she turns you down and most people are going to be understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:21 PM
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I can’t give a clear yes or no when it’s okay to approach a woman because there are infinite possibilities and women are different. I gave 2 examples that generally apply to most people. There are always going to be unstable people that act weirdly in situations as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:19 PM
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The messaging in real life is we shouldnt approach strangers nor should we confess to friends. The messaging is usually to read the room. Approaching a woman at a bar is different from approaching a woman doing errands with her children. As for the rest, it’s mostly internet rage bait. We know that most women like and are attracted to men because they keep dating men. The pill subreddits make it seem like you need to be a man in finance, 6’5, with a trust fund and blue eyes to get a date but wal…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:41 AM
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​When you frame sex as something that only happens after a "formal connection" (like a committed relationship), it often signifies that you view sex as a transactional reward or something you "give up" in exchange for security. OP, this is just your personal view, others feel the exact opposite. I don’t see waiting for commitment before becoming intimate as something transactional. Sex is a massive deal for me. Waiting is about mutual respect and finding someone who shares my values. I would onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:38 AM
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Normal is relative. My normal is waiting for marriage and yours is clearly not. Neither of us is wrong it’s just that different people have different views surrounding intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:23 AM
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If burning desire overrides your personal values then you either don’t really believe in them or you are a weak willed person. I don’t believe in sex before marriage. Chaddicus Maximus wouldn’t be able to get me to change my mind. You can continue to downvote me all you want but just date people with similar beliefs to you. There are plenty of men that aren’t put off by having to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:51 AM
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We were kids so it was stuff like always trying to sit next to each other, finding reasons to walk off alone together, I would hug him tightly but other guys would get a high five or one armed half hug at best. Basic teenager flirting when you have a crush on someone but aren’t ready to admit feelings yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:41 AM
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I’m not entirely convinced there is a gender war. I’ve never met anyone who has these views irl. I think gender warmongering is something people do on the internet when they are bored. I think a lot of dating conflicts could be stopped if people were more willing to communicate about their values upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:07 AM
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What do you mean by “transparency?” Do you expect a specific timeline on the first date of when sex will happen? How is someone telling you they want to wait for commitment not being transparent? That seems very transparent and honest to me. Mutual attraction does not equal sex. If you are looking for a fling on the first date then you need to communicate that upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:52 AM
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There are stay at home dads. If that’s the lifestyle you want then you need to find a like minded woman. It won’t happen en masse simply because women give birth and breastfeed. That’s why more women stay home with young children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:43 AM
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Waiting for commitment or marriage is not commodifying. That’s crazy work dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:47 PM
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Translation: You just have different values and it has nothing to do with attraction. Some people wait for a committed relationship before having sex. Some people even wait for marriage. It has nothing to do with you personally. If your values around intimacy aren’t compatible then you shouldn’t date but you don’t have to be so hostile about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:40 PM
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I don’t believe in sex outside of marriage. My values have nothing to do with “gigachad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:36 PM
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I really wish red pillers would say how old they are because this is something either a 15 year old or a socially stunted 45 year old would believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:34 PM
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The issue tends to be how they go about it and why they are trying to turn the friendship into more. I was friends with my now husband since we were preteens but there was always a flirtation there. We were never just friends, we were just too young to begin a serious relationship. When he asked me out before I started college it felt natural and we got married a couple years later. When I was in college a guy I thought of as an acquaintance at best, professed his undying love for me. He knew I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:34 PM
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I really hate Funko pops. I think they are incredibly ugly. I’m not against collectibles in general. At least Pokemon cards and warhammer are activities you do with other people irl. A man being super into Funko collecting wouldn’t necessarily be a dealbreaker but it would give me pause. I really don’t want a wall of ugly dolls taking up a wall in my home.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:17 PM
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The vast majority of people that have sex before marriage don’t have trouble getting married. This is a revenge fantasy for pill subreddits. There’s no objective standard for what makes someone promiscuous. Women en masse don’t need to do anything because it’s up to the individual about what they are looking for in a potential spouse. I personally wouldn’t date a man who slept around before marriage but those are my individual values. I wouldn’t shame anyone who chooses to live a different lifes…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:16 AM
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This isn’t a thing all women do. It’s something that your friends do. I don’t have these types of conversations with my friends but to each their own. If that is a typical type of conversation in your friend group then they are treating you the same as they would their other friends regardless of gender. If it bothers you then communicate that it makes you uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 06:07 PM
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“The average woman wants a man with experience” You just made that up and put it in quotes like it means something lmao. I specifically wrote trad women. If you don’t agree with someone’s lifestyle than don’t partake in it. It’s really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 12:04 PM
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It’s not necessarily overused it’s that different women are creeped out by different things. If a guy tries to approach me when I’m doing errands with my kids, that’s creepy. Don’t talk to me when I’m with my kids. If he approaches elsewhere and is respectful (this part is key) when I say no then he’s just shooting his shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:44 AM
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The double standard exists for men and women for a reason. Well this just reeks of jealousy and insecurity. Trad women don’t want to date men who sleep around. I wouldn’t spend time shaming people who choose a different lifestyle than I do, I just wouldn’t choose to date them. It doesn’t affect me. It’s just a difference in values like religion or politics etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:27 AM
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This isn’t a gendered thing. A lot of this could be prevented with honest communication. People do and should grow and change as they get older. You shouldn’t act the same at 45 as you do at 20. A couple should be upfront with each other as to their relationship and life goals. If those goals are not aligned then don’t waste each other’s time and break up. If you want to move on to a different life stage (marriage, kids etc) and your partner doesn’t then there is nothing wrong with breaking up a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:06 PM
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Most people (men and women) can’t fix a leaky roof and will never be in a position where they have to. This is so far removed from something that happens 10 times a day like changing a baby’s diaper. Roofing is an extremely dangerous job which is why most people hire a professional. Anecdotal but I can change a tire. That’s not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:48 PM
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Nope, women need to handle their feelings like grown ups as well. This is the most basic part of being an adult. If you feel like “nothing” because a stranger turns you down then that is a you problem. I would say the same thing to a woman. This isn’t a gender issue. Strangers shouldn’t affect your self worth to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:58 PM
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I think that’s a very cynical way of looking at the world and also, no one checks your ego more than a 4 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:27 PM
3

Relying on kids for retirement is a horrible idea. Again, this is insane logic if you think about it for like 5 seconds. Kids cost a fuck ton of money. Daycare is expensive. Everything about rearing children is expensive. You would be better off financially dumping all of that money into the S&P 500. There is a reason why DINK couples have more disposable income.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:25 PM
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Sure if that’s what someone truly wants then go for it but if he’s describing himself as lonely then he doesn’t sound happy with his situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:22 PM
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If a man feels like he’s nothing because a woman turns him down then it’s an internal feeling he needs to work on. I’m married. I’m in love with my husband. I have kids. I’m going to turn down any man that approaches me regardless of what he looks like. It has nothing to do with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:04 PM
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This is sad. I low key feel bad for this guy. He’s in his 30’s and it doesn’t seem like he has any friends his own age. He hooks up with younger women and says they are only doing it for favors, not because they actually like him. He spends his free time playing video games with the interns he hires. He describes himself as lonely. This might not be the guy you want to emulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:52 PM
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After some consideration she did not and dropped the match maker. She met someone on her own and is now married. They seem happy but I don’t know them super well. Being patient is good as in don’t as desperate but if it’s a goal to get married then you can’t wait around and do nothing. I meant like take an active approach if it’s something you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:23 PM
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Redpill and not taking accountability. Name a more iconic duo.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:54 PM
4

I was replying to someone else’s personal anecdote with my own. Dating advice in person is cultural and more specific because people know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:20 PM
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Those are your circles maybe. Dating advice in other cultures could be the exact opposite. I know a girl who went to a match maker and was told to get a nose job. "The one will come, just be patient." This one especially. I’ve never heard a person say this irl. It’s always suggestions of who they could get set up with or places to go to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:47 PM
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Anyone who says women have children to extract resources from men hasn’t seen the prices of daycare or anything else related to kids. Our kids extract resources from both my husband and myself. All of our resources lol. If it was just about money I’d be way richer (financially not emotionally) not having kids and dumping all that money into the S&P 500.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:26 PM
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Obviously the majority of women don’t because they meet men who also want to have children. But the fact that some women (and numbers have been steadily increasing) do have children on their own, negates your argument that it’s only for resources. They unfortunately are. They are just a means to an end. No, they do it because it fulfills their egos. I’m assuming you are a troll but just in case anyone following along feels this way, this is actually a heartbreaking worldview for someone to have.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:22 PM
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I never said to go to a therapist for dating advice. I’m not sure how you got that from my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:06 PM
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Yeah basically. I think a lot of blue pill advice comes down to get off the internet and interact with people irl. Red pill seems really angry ends up trying to sell you supplements or an e-book. It’s also just as generic as blue pill advice. Ultimately the best thing to do is probably to take it over with a close friend or mentor. Someone who you trust to be honest. Or hire a match maker. They don’t hold back on dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:04 PM
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I noticed you didn’t respond to the part about women having kids on their own without men. What about women who take the sperm bank route to motherhood? You have it backwards. Women want children and seek out like minded men. They are not hostages to “justify being provided for.” Kids cost a LOT of money. They are a drain on resources but you do it because you love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:48 PM
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On an anonymous web forum like Reddit the advice is always going to be somewhat generic because we don’t know the OP personally. Saying join activities, ask a friend to set you up etc is generally good advice but might not work for a specific individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:45 PM
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Do you genuinely believe that women have children just to get resources from men? Thats crazy work. There are women who go to sperm banks to have kids on their own without a man. Also, do you think that men don’t want to have children as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:39 PM
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If you don’t want to date conservative men then don’t date them. You shouldn’t date or sleep with anyone you don’t want to date or sleep with. This post is marked as a debate but what is the debate supposed to be about exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:56 AM
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My guess: On average, women receive more things for free, and men give more than they receive. Not saying that’s good or bad just how I suspect the incentives shake out. Why do you suspect this is the case? Most volunteers that I’ve seen are women. Especially once people start having children. I’ll help watch my friend’s kids or bring over food if someone just had a baby, is sick etc. I’ve never seen a man organize a community food train when one of their friends had a new baby for example. My h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:48 AM
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It means don’t join a book club if you hate reading. Don’t join a knitting club if you don’t want to learn to knit. If a man genuinely likes board games and hits it off with a woman at a board game meetup then that’s fantastic! But if they don’t, they still got to participate in an activity they enjoy and maybe met a potential friend or two. And who knows, maybe that friend will even set them up with a mutual friend in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:07 AM
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I don’t like the narrative that stay at home moms are being financially abused. I’m home right now because I had our third baby and it’s been so much better for our family. I’m not working crazy hours and trying to juggle child care, I’ve been able to cook actual meals instead of relying on frozen food and it’s been nice to bond with my baby without the stress of going back to work postpartum. That being said, my husband is an active parent and we share a bank account whether I’m working or at h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:28 PM
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That’s not what I wrote. I said people shouldn’t be blamed for their clothing if they get assaulted. I said her outfit was distasteful for a children’s movie and couldn’t even find a subreddit where the majority of people were saying it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:05 PM
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I don’t understand how a guy who believes that “women have it easier nowadays” and “men are really the victims now and the ones that are truly discriminated against” could be described as level headed and wanting to have a genuine discussion. If he wants other points of view the best thing to do is to get off of internet echo chambers, do a social media detox, and go outside. Join a club or community activity, volunteer, find Jesus, have a nice picnic whatever. Anything that gets you out of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:10 PM
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The “arguments” you listed are context dependent. I think Ice Spice’s outfit was inappropriate for a children’s movie. The vast majority of the comment on Fauxmoi and the other subreddits I looked at are saying it’s an inappropriate outfit for a children’s movie. However, you are equating multiple issues. I constantly hear arguments like: “Women should be able to wear whatever they want.” “Women don’t sexualize themselves, men sexualize women.” “Women should never have to listen to man tell her …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:58 PM
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Or maybe it’s not “genes” but values. I wrote this in another comment but I could be friends with someone who is child free but I want a big family so they would not be a match for me romantically. It has nothing to do with their genes. Same with religious beliefs, political views, the type of relationship they are looking for etc. It doesn’t matter how good someone’s genes are if he doesn’t want the same type of lifestyle as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:06 PM
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I have plenty of friends that have radically different interests and values than mine. It makes for interesting friendships when you seek out people with different beliefs than yours. I wouldn’t start a family with someone with different values and beliefs but you don’t need to agree on politics or religion to go chill at a ren faire together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:03 AM
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I agree with everything you wrote here. Aside from watching my now husband interact with his nieces and nephews it’s also his general competence. He’s really good at figuring things out and being handy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:32 AM
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Not necessarily. They could just be incompatible for a romantic relationship but not a friendship. For example I could be friends with someone that is childfree but I want a large family so they wouldn’t be an option for a relationship. Same thing with religious beliefs, political views etc. There is so much more that goes into a relationship than just attraction. Incompatibility doesn’t necessarily equal not being good enough. He could be a good person and just not right for me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:16 AM
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Incompatibility does not necessarily mean not good enough. If a man asks me out and he is child free and I want a large family then we are not compatible. Same with other things like religious beliefs. He can be a really good person and it won’t matter because there are certain standards I would never compromise on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:05 AM
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The divorce rate is going down and the 50% statistic that keeps getting spoken about on this subreddit is skewed by the same people (usually boomers) getting divorced multiple times. Can you explain in detail what you want to change? What specifically would you consider a healthier alternative? Is this a veiled complaint about dating apps? If you don’t want to “chase” women you could find a match maker or ask a friend/family member if they know anyone to set you up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:56 PM
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He won’t read your sources because it goes against the “cash and prizes” narrative they keep repeating. I’m surprised he didn’t lump child support in there as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:34 PM
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I know this is bait but if she is genuinely happy being single then why should she settle for a guy she doesn’t really like just because she has children? A single mom should be extra discerning about who she dates and brings around her kids. Maybe she will meet a single dad with 5 kids and they’ll be very happy in a Brady bunch type of situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 07:10 PM
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Genuine question, do you think the men in this subreddit spend more time scrolling social media and gaming or do you think they spend more time outdoors building things?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:30 AM
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It sounds like all 3 of those women you described have a social circle so you are contradicting yourself. Meeting people and maintaining relationships can be exhausting for extreme introverts but that’s what it takes to meet new people. Read threads of women asking advice on how to meet new people to date. They get the same responses of joining an activity or socializing more with friends of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:52 PM
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