HarryDeBruyne Archive

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2	A question about compliments Great question. It seems like you want to reward her, so let's help you do that. -Background: Why many dudes kill their chances wth compliments: Relationships and plates stay spinning when there's a healthy tension between 1) Comfort and 2) Tension/Fear/Dread. Too much of either, and the situation will crumble. Compliments have a tendency to make a woman feel too comfortable in a situation. Similarly, never complimenting her will make her feel unappreciated/unloved. As awful as it may sound to n…	/r/askTRP	29/03/21 02:45 PM
4	Self conscious woman in bed, what gives? You didn't do anything wrong, it was a Hard Mode™ type of situation. You got a comfort test right before sex, tried to play it off (which would work 99/100) and she then projected/dumped all of her body shame onto you and completely killed the mood in doing so. She probably feels like shit most of the time and feels even worse now that's she lashed out. You're not her therapist, you don't owe her understanding and compassion. 👍 Paradoxically, if you give it to her and it isn't earned - she'll ha…	/r/askTRP	26/03/21 09:01 PM
8	“I don’t want to be a rebound” test/LMR? ASD + LMR = "I don't want to be a rebound" comfort test. The answer, as always, is Amused Mastery + Master-Daddy/Student-Girl energy. Agree and amplify is your friend here and will make her look ridiculous. The only way you can well and truly fail these tests is by taking them seriously. Practice these in front of the mirror until they are 2nd nature. Imagine your favorite actor/alpha-paragon delivering these lines and emulate their energy. Agree & Amplify Technique + With feigned indignation + …	/r/askTRP	25/03/21 02:12 PM
1	Do you think cohabitation would be permissible in this specific circumstance? I'll tell you what I'd want someone to tell me if I asked this: When you say: "one-sided open LTR" I'm guessing she's not a plate, she's your Long-distance LTR and you have no plates in your new city. Why else would you be considering this? This is a bad idea for lots of reasons. Having someone move to a new place with you, especially where they have no resources, sews the seeds for resentment and unhealthy dependence. Also, if you have been seeing for 7 months but moved 2 months ago - that mean…	/r/askTRP	23/03/21 11:05 PM
7	What do we say to plates who say they’ve become exclusive with someone else? giving you head in drive thrus "Sir, this is a Wendy's"	/r/askTRP	23/03/21 10:49 PM
2	Potential LTR but weird situation Yeah man, good attitude. That's how I'd approach it too. 🔥 Hit me up if you ever need a red-pill homie to talk about this stuff with.	/r/askTRP	21/03/21 03:14 AM
2	Potential LTR but weird situation Word. 🔥 Let me know if you can't find the links. Paul is exactly what TRP needed. He stands counter to the norm on jealousy, retro-active jealousy re: her notch count and his frame material is off the charts. Only negative is that his delivery is a bit raw and unpolished, but it's all part of his charm. I only mention it because it turns some people off. Once you watch Paul's vision for what an LTR can be (ie. delivering such an incredible experience that thirsty dudes on Insta won't even be a c…	/r/askTRP	21/03/21 02:59 AM
4	Potential LTR but weird situation I'm a big advocate in favor of men listening to their jealousy. It's there to protect you against raising someone else's children. Don't worry about being jealous of male attention. "Insecurity" and "trust" are concepts invented and used by manipulators to convince you to look the other way re: their brazen infidelity. Paul Benjamin (Apex Mindset on YT) did a great talk with Rich Cooper re: Jealousy. It's posted on Rich Cooper's YT channel. Paul also has an excellent series re: Frame/Programming…	/r/askTRP	21/03/21 02:41 AM
1	Plate got cancer and is going to struggle financially. I want to help but keep having trp inner-voice say bro wtf no way don't do it. Afrikaans — Nee (nee-yuh) Arabic — لا (la) Armenian — ոչ (votsh) Basque — Ez Bengali — না (Na) Bosnian — Ne Bulgarian — не (ney) Burmese — မဟုတ်ဘူး (mahotebhuu) Cantonese — 唔啱 (mh’āam) Note: Cantonese, like Mandarin Chinese, doesn’t have a word for “no.” You can study a few different Cantonese phrases or try the word above which translates to “wrong.” Catalan — No Croatian — Ne Czech — Ne Danish — Nej Dutch — Nee French — Non Note: The French love English speakers with good pronunciation skills.…	/r/askTRP	21/03/21 02:27 AM
59	High value guy - thought I had vetted LTR well - she cheated with a fat loser. I appreciated your story homie. Especially your delivery and your humor, considering it's shitty situation. 😂 I also like how straight up and honest you were to people in the comments, even when they were throwing shade. In terms of what happened, I'd refer you to the Iron Rule of Tomassi #6: Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved. Trying to figure out why it happened or why they did XYZ can lead to madness. More often than not, from our vantage poi…	/r/askTRP	20/03/21 09:15 PM
1	Does she sound like she's down? Cougar An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity -- particularly the true hotties -- as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together. That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn't know existed, I'm goin back for more. 👍	/r/askTRP	16/03/21 08:15 PM
2	how important is her virginity for LTR victim puke Bars	/r/askTRP	16/03/21 08:13 PM
3	Asking her? Yes/No? A couple of notes for you: I understand why you did, but next time don't ask how her meeting was. I'm not saying don't care about her / treat her like shit. But she has to earn that type of attention from you and your job is to foster genuine burning (sexual) desire. Also, asking her how she's doing is just a thinly veiled attempt to eventually fuck her. So just be direct but playful. An alternative text could be: "I'm still hard from last night." or "Do you think anyone in your meeting knew wha…	/r/askTRP	15/03/21 06:42 PM
3	How to earn more respect and be a leader This question is fantastic. This is an absolutely essential skill for men to learn. And yes. You can learn it. Like anything else, you might be absolutely fucking terrible at it, but you can still get your skills close to, or above average. Better yet: Don't accept a ceiling for how good you can become. Building on u/RedEyeBlackEye1's energy ⚡️ : The aura of Leadership is a skill and can be learned. Life is a stage. If you are ready to become a leader, then accept that mantle and: step into the …	/r/askTRP	15/03/21 01:50 PM
1	elevation An effective push makes a girl believe (if only superficially) that something she wants is getting farther away, and she must give chase if she ever hopes to have it. You're creating tension by "pushing" her away. She has to fight for your approval. u/mrsmiley831 has already given you great examples. Here's one that applies in almost all situations, regardless of what a girl looks like or is wearing. I usually go for good girls, but you look like trouble. Said with a smirk, Amused Master and dee…	/r/askTRP	15/03/21 12:45 AM
24	Are you supposed to not care about plates fucking other dudes? Every guy is different. All the abundance in the world might not ever get your jealousy to disappear. Paul Benjamin points out that our jealousy instinct is our “anti-cuck” instinct to protect us from raising someone else’s kids. There’s no shame in listening to it. It’s not uncommon in TRP for men to only promote a woman to a plate if she’s willing to be exclusive on her side. Of course it’s more difficult and requires GBD on her part, but if you’re really turned off by the idea of sharing your…	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 11:47 PM
10	[25] Lost my job, restarting my life any advice? Nice work going Monk Mode. This is the way. The most reliable way to make money quickly is to learn to sell. Start reading books on sales ASAP. Use libgen to get books for free. Find YouTube channels, join FB groups. Get a LinkedIn profile if you don't have one and start hitting people up asking for opportunities. Find a contract position or a commission role that offers you remote/hour flexibility while you dial back the Doordash (which requires physical presence and your output is tied directl…	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 11:19 PM
2	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? Jealousy is one of your most useful instincts. Listen to it. I've already told you it's not insecure to confront her. Also, is it insecure to sign a pre-nup? Is it insecure to do a background check on a potential employee? Insecure = staying with a woman who is texting other men because you're afraid you won't find someone better. You know what your gut is telling you.Confronting her after the fact means she's just going to do it covertly next time. We've told you what you need to do. Take some …	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 01:24 AM
5	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? Your post was fire: So I turned to her and said "Oh, is this what we're doin' now?" She was like "what do you mean?" I didn't dignify her ignorance. I just nodded my head and said "Nah it's aight." Then she started panicking and said "It's about my Facebook status?" So....she guessed right on the first try. Damn I wonder why? So fucking good. I'm gonna pocket that. Thanks bro.	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 01:12 AM
1	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? You can't just talk the talk, you have to walk the walk. Fuckin' right. Took me 31 years to get that in my head.	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 01:07 AM
2	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? I agree with what u/DerekMorganBAU (Black Jesus) is saying. Our approaches are congruent. Some boundaries are so obvious that they're implied and you just need to walk away. (ex. Having sex with other people.) Ideally you would have qualified her much, much earlier - pre-relationship. A girl who's texting other guys and posting to Insta all day shouldn't have become your LTR. You would have conditioned her as a plate and if she stopped those behaviors you would have promoted her. Her texting oth…	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 01:06 AM
3	Does a mans prime end after age 36? Your energy is infectious, thanks brother. 🔥	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 12:41 AM
3	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? That's right, I'm glad you can see that. A lot of men new to TRP will tell you that coming out and telling a woman exactly what you want is breaking frame. The opposite is true. Telling a woman exactly what you expect from her is the gold standard. It's then up to you to level up sufficiently and hold frame such that you generate sufficient burning desire to have her decide modifying her behavior is in her best interest. I think the reason men spread the lie that boundaries should be unspoken is…	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 12:35 AM
26	How do you guys set the boundaries you have for your LTRs? The 'statement of fact' technique (which I learned from Paul Benjamin @ Apex Mindset in his 5 part series on frame in LTRs) is a great way to communicate boundaries. If you mention them during moments without confrontation you seed the idea in your LTR's head and if they sufficiently desire you, they'll adjust their behavior to fit your frame. Here are some examples: "I could never remain in a relationship with a girl who does X" "I don't want a relationship with a girl who insists on going club…	/r/askTRP	14/03/21 12:09 AM
5	How do I 'checkout' to create dread? "Drop. Your weapons. And prepare. To be Judged."	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 11:28 PM
5	Why is not having social media looked down upon as if you're weird? Fucking ⚡️ ENERGYYYYYYYY ⚡️ bro. 🥇 The fact that these bird brained hoes can't even comprehend the idea that someone has a life outside of social media is wild in it's own right. Nuclear launch detected.	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 08:44 PM
-3	Plate made a 20 slide PowerPoint show on why I should promote her to LTR She's definitely not okay with the current arrangement. Don't indulge this behavior from her anymore. Not calling it out is what's allowed things to get to this point. It's manipulation and your instinctual response to her behavior implies you're aware of a covert-contract on her end that she thinks you'll become what she wants you to be. Soft next her at her place or in public or on the phone so you can exit. You: "All of this needs to the stop. The presentations. The I love you's. The manipula…	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 06:01 PM
5	Do you date your plates? No hard and fast rules here. We often say in TRP that a women is (ideally) a complement to your life. That can mean different things to different men. Do you want a woman you can sleep with but that you can also do activities with? If so - that's your personal definition of a plate. Your prospects/low-level plates might only be good for sex / staying in but your higher quality plates might be worth spending time with and doing things with. That's fine. Every woman is different. It's about what y…	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 05:35 PM
1	What are books that are a must read to develop as a man (aside from the obvious red - pilling ones such as TRM) Jack Donovan has a trilogy of books that are extremely powerful and give you a mindset most men can only dream of. At one point Chuck Palahniuk, the author of Fight Club, called him (more or less) the most important author on masculinity we have. The Way of Men. (Mostly theory) Becoming a Barbarian. (My favorite, More Practical) A More Complete Beast. -- Aside from that I recommend reading The Fountainhead or Atlas Shrugged then all of Ayn Rand's books on her philosophy: Objectivism.. I'm not an…	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 05:07 PM
1	What are books that are a must read to develop as a man (aside from the obvious red - pilling ones such as TRM) Great book.	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 05:01 PM
11	First time BDSM, wants me to tie her up tomorrow night. how do u bdsm lol Good recipe/routine for a beginner: Disclaimer: Err on the side of not being dominant/aggressive enough. Don't try to be James Deen. I'll say it throughout, just the "act" of dominance, like a stage-play or an opera, is enough to satisfy most women. Consent / Safety: When you're making out, when things are escalating stop at some point and say: "The safe word is Green. Say that and I'll stop, do you understand?" If she says "Yes" say: "What is the safe-word? Say it." Then have her say it. Then…	/r/askTRP	12/03/21 04:48 PM
5	Update: Girlfriend had seeking arrangement(sugar daddy) profiles up longer than I thought. The rabbit hole gets deeper. DARVO in action. DARVO refers to a reaction perpetrators of wrong doing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. DARVO stands for "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender." The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the true victim -- or the whistle blower -- into an alleged…	/r/askTRP	11/03/21 11:30 PM
6	Analysis paralysis over focusing on career or trying to start a business Yet, deep down I'm put off by the amount of time and effort required in order to have a shot at being successful I appreciate your honesty, but this is a limiting belief. Hustleporn has convinced people that entrepreneurship = long hard hours. It doesn't have to be that way at all. Books like The Four Hour Workweek have been disproving that myth since the 2000s. I started my own business because I was allergic to a 40+ hour work week. I'm the "laziest" person I know if productivity is represente…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 10:25 PM
1	How to respond? Hahaha absolute brattttttttt. You're right, she's jockeying hard. Rich Cooper always says a bomber only takes flak when it's above the target. She's basically yours at this point and she's struggling to accept it. If I were you I would want to test my skills and tame this bronco for the sport of it / for the culture. As I said, I'd do Option 3 and call. Your Dread game will be waaay more effective when she can hear your voice. The idea of you hanging up will be 100x more powerful and painful to …	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 09:44 PM
1	How to respond? Right now I run a referral-only career coaching service but yes, my long-term ambition is to coach men. I haven't levelled up to a point where I'm comfortable taking a man's money to teach him RP just yet. In many ways I feel like my RP journal is just getting started. That being said, there's a lot of overlap between RP principles and interviewing, so I still get to flex that RP muscle on the regular. In the meantime, AskTRP and other subreddits are my anonymous way of practicing between client…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 09:09 PM
1	How to respond? I'm assuming your desired outcome is to keep spinning her as a plate. Without knowing your "text voice" I'd suggest any of these that resonate. In terms of tone, you're basically addressing her like she's your daughter that you bang. I wish there was a less creepy way of writing that. 😂 "Adorable. Brave. Apology accepted." (This will disorient her and give her little work with. Pings the ball back to her and she'll be forced to express what she wants.) "Awww she's learning. Apology accepted." "A…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 07:33 PM
-4	Plate of 1yr recently got told she has cancer and is starting treatment soon. I'm experiencing feeling I haven't had before. Possibly not TRP related. Just after some advice or something. Pity/compassion is a beautiful, but dangerous emotion. When extended to people inside the boundaries of your tribe, it's beautiful. When extended to people outside your tribe, it's dangerous. You developed a very specific understanding of a woman (ex. she's "irritating") over the course of a year. She was a plate, but she was very much outside your tribe. You had no plans to LTR her and actually had small amounts of contempt for her. You felt that way for a reason. Now that she's sick you're all…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 01:27 PM
3	How to respond? They’re so adorable when they’re learning lessons. Seriously tho bro you have absolutely nailed it. Your story is such a great example of RP principles in action.	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 11:32 AM
3	How to respond? Love it. You're an inspiration homie. 🔥	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 02:34 AM
14	How to respond? Def should not have shit where you eat bro hahah - but I feel you. - If you want to remain cordial and keep the friend group healthy and functioning I suggest amused mastery. She's being a child. Treat her like one. Send a GIF like this and say something like: "You." She'll respond in anger. "If you're trying to get me to spank you, it's working." If she reciprocates sexual energy, good, if she persists just say the following and stop responding. "If you change your mind hit me up." Fin. - If sh…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 01:52 AM
2	Went thought my girlfriends phone this morning. Found text messages about her having multiple sugar daddy profiles. I live with her and I'm gutted. I know you mentioned you avoided a lot of red flags up front, but good job finally listening to your gut. Your jealousy instinct is there to protect you. Don't let blue-pill zombies convince you otherwise. Being jealous, possessive and needy isn't the same as having a healthy intuition about when your woman is being unfaithful. I'm not sure if someone else wrote this already but just in case this type of thing ever happens again with an LTR - it's usually best to escape quietly. Confrontation wo…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 01:15 AM
2	LTRs testing disgusts me Like Paul from Apex Mindset says, jealousy is your friend. It's literally your anti-cuck defence. She's telling you what she's thinking about doing (or has done) and your stomach has responded the way it should. If she's this far gone I'd say it's too late. Demote or detach and move on. Sorry brother. Also, next time you're vetting a girl for an LTR, consider planting the seed of "no girls nights" early on as part of the vetting process. Use the 'statement of fact' technique: "I would never be i…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 12:36 AM
3	Getting nudes? Nudes are usually sent for one of three reasons: To convince someone to come over. To tease / play prior to sex. To satiate the desire for sex when you can't have it. (ex. You're both at work, you're on a business trip, if you're having an affair etc.) The first two lead to sex, the last one is a substitute for sex. In my experience it's usually the BPD chicks / attention whores / tinder sluts who'll send nudes without any coaxing. I'd (probably) never LTR a chick who sent nudes early on in with…	/r/askTRP	10/03/21 12:18 AM
16	Has anyone had to tell a plate to not make it obvious they’re fucking other people? My read on the situation is that she sees you as her best option and is trying to make you jealous so you'll convert to an LTR. -- I'd say this: You: "I'll say this once: I'm enjoying our current arrangement, but I don't want to hear about the other men you're with. Do you understand?" (This implicitly lays out the boundary.) Her: She will likely say something to deflect or put it back on you. You: "I've said my piece. I'm sorry you feel that way. I'll give you some time to think about it - but …	/r/askTRP	01/03/21 09:19 PM
2	How Important is Height? Iron Rule of Tomassi #8 Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her. Wage all out war on your inner critic brother. 🔥 -- More practically: your lizard brain is deluding you with a cognitive distortion: Try the 3-Column Technique to replace Black Pill thoughts with Red Pill ones. For example. Column 1 (automatic thought): I'm not tall enough because it didn't work out with a couple of chicks. --- Column 2 (list cognitive distortions behind this thought): Mental Filter…	/r/askTRP	23/02/21 07:33 PM
2	you guys notice that groups of 3-4 "besties" will have a 4th or 5th girl in their group that's not as close with the others that is ALWAYS more unattractive than the next least attractive in their group grenade The solitary ugly girl always found with a group of hotties. If the grenade doesn't get any action, then neither does anyone else. "Come on man, take one for the team and jump the grenade" by Amaris August 29, 2003 Source	/r/askTRP	21/02/21 02:27 AM
8	Why do I care even after witnessing a thousand red flags? As you mentioned, it's all about ditching the scarcity mindset. Remind yourself that rejection is an obsolete instinct in the global sexual marketplace. There are almost 8 billion people on the planet. We struggle to make sense of that because: 1) humans are terrible at really comprehending the scale of large numbers and 2) we're hardwired to view rejection as a form of death/exile - from a time when we might have only had access to half a dozen women. If you're still getting sucked in by NPD/BP…	/r/askTRP	17/02/21 03:22 AM
1	25 Simple Principles of Game to keep in mind A girl will almost always reject you the first time you try and kiss her. Best move is to make nothing of it and talk like nothing happened, find a topic quickly, anything works honestly. If its at your place and she doesn't make distance after that, she's still comfortable and she will want you to try again in 5-20 minutes. Same energy.	/r/TheRedPill	12/02/21 01:26 AM
3	If you take women seriously, they will begin to despise you. Here are some tricks for your plates, O-LTR’s, and LTR’s. Enjoy. They had us in the first half I'm not gonna lie.	/r/TheRedPill	12/02/21 12:01 AM