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I think it's legit assault that needs to be taken seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:14 AM
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Idk I was always a friendly person and males thought it meant interest. And then there's flirting but still not "doing anything" and it's honestly just out of boredom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:08 AM
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Did they say it's because u didn't fuck them or because u just didn't follow up?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:02 AM
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They must be hiding at home then. I literally only met one and we weren't going to date just because of that. I have to actually like the person too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:04 AM
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Tell me where the virgins are. I was the only one in the city I lived in so stfu
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:05 PM
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It's if they're in their 30s or up then it's just wrong tbh. Trust me. Youll see
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:33 AM
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Definitely true. Wish I knew this at 22. I made it too easy. He didn't have to ask for commitment. I was already there. He didn't respect me. I let him go, he went with someone else, got her pregnant but was calling me for months on restricted,sobbing lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:09 AM
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Anything can happen. If she's already around u it may work out. But if u decide to come back out of the blue it might be harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:02 AM
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Idk a lot of women enjoy making friends and I think over time you will build that connection. I hate the timescale of modern dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:04 PM
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I love that!! Wish more men were like this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:11 AM
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Probably especially if women are attracted to status then what do u think a suit says? As a chick I wanna dress down and assume the right man will notice but when I reverse roles I realize I'd love to see a man dressed nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:38 PM
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Every girl has a different thjng they need to feel. Some need to feel excited. I want to feel special and safe. And of course be attracted mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:30 PM
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Even ugly men cheat. Even if they have to lower their standards. But some ugly men still get hot women. Lots of pretty women with low self esteem. So ladies, don't date down thinking he will be loyal. He will not. Trust me! He gets you and thinks "what else can I bag?!"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:35 PM
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For a woman, looks is what we notice first of course but how u make us feel is what makes us sleep with you. Mental attraction and emotional attraction will blend into physical attraction. I don't think men will ever work that way. They will never fall for someone and become physically attracted if they weren't before. Also men will watch porn with any type of woman because they have fetishes. The nastier, the quicker the nut. They would never date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:39 PM
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I only date blue pilled men. Fwiw Rp turns me off. So that's one less woman for them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:28 AM
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Because they don't want nuns so they don't feel like they need to humble them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:21 AM
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Sometimes it can come off as too pushy and attentive which scares us off. If you give us space and room to figure out our own feelings and take pressure off the result, we can relax and want to hang out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:15 AM
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Fresh and fit only invite OF girls and try to humble them. Swearing up and down that a chick at McDonald's gets invited on yachts. Yet they never invite real women on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:26 AM
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How so
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:39 PM
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I'm confused lol....do I owe a guy a relationship because it'll make him happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:42 AM
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Lmao why would anyone be with someone if they don't end up happier than before?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:03 PM
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No im very aware. Plenty of women go 50/50. But the inviter pays. And dude you don't even have to pay that much. I had dates where he took me to a drive thru. And he got creative and we had fun. Just because I don't want to pay doesn't mean I'm using him. I can actually like him but know where I'm at financially. Idk I've never run into this struggle really. But there are 50/50 ladies out there. And there are others like me who have my view. You don't have to date women like us. But dude...if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:09 AM
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I can pay for my own food. They pursue me bro. And yes I'm aware about the finances. I am not pursuing men until I am financially stable. But they ask me out. And I'm supposed to say "I have no money" and then they offer to pay anyway? I'm sorry I never run into a guy who can't buy me dinner. And if they can't then they friendzone/fuckboy zone themselves. U wanna fuck a woman but u can't take care of a kid that could possibly come out of her? Then wtf are you doing?? Wreckless and entitled. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:47 PM
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I'd love to hang out but I'd rather save my money if i need to pay. Because where I'm at financially, I'd rather get my life in line before going out with a guy. He invited. He pays. I invite? I pay. It's etiquette. And tradition doesn't make me a narcissist. Remember, for every guy who can't pay, there is one who can. If you need to go 50/50 then you aren't ready to date. We aren't asking you to pay our rent. Just pay for dinner. You want sex more than us. Get with the program.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:22 PM
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Giving them sex AND having them take their shortcomings out on you is way worse. Good on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:18 PM
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And tried every wand at ollivanders
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:11 PM
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It's not using if he invites. If he pursues casually like a friendship and wants to "hang out" and go somewhere then I expect to pay for myself. If he has romantic intentions then I assume he's paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:09 PM
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I've turned down a couple smoking hot men because they are red pilled. And they think that they are a prize because they would never cheat. There are many other things to be a deal breaker besides that. Like being a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:59 PM
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I agree to an extent. Some 19 yr Olds could have been thru way more in life that could keep up with a sheltered 30 yr old but the whole brain not being fully developed til 25 is a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:44 PM
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Yeah definitely avoid those women. I just get the message that the man just wants to see me drunk and get me loose to hook up. Usually after a bar date they try to get me over to their place. And I just stop engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:28 PM
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And they fixate on the woman who likes bad boys instead of the woman who just wants a nice guy. It's forever a chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:24 PM
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As a chick, if im asking out, I am prepared to pay. You just aren't used to the idea of not paying when this happenes. But I think it's courtesy. I wouldn't invite someone somewhere and expect them to pay for themselves unless it was a friend. However I never do the inviting much because of this. Not out of entitlement but because I usually didn't have much money. So men thought I wasn't interested because I didn't initiate. But it was because I didn't have money. And wasn't going to be like "ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:17 PM
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A way to a woman's heart is also thru her stomach. Not just men. We love to eat. I never look at a guy seriously if he's just trying to drink with me. I get where you're coming from. But I don't like the setting. I'd be into a hike or museum even. Tons of things to do. People need to stop limiting to sitting down with something to ingest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:10 PM
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If he asks me out, he can pay. I'm not trying to spend money all the time. I've gotta be super into him to pay my way when I can just stay home, save money, and miss out on a potentially bad time where im being sexually harrassed at the end of the night. And being super into him means that we have been friends for a while already so I already know him. But men hate being friends with women for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:05 PM
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Yes men just hang it over your head. Even when you end up doing way more
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:02 PM
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But aren't men always hounding the idea that women's value is dependant on their looks? And you wonder why women are trying to look good?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:00 PM
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And if someone turns into a nazi over a woman, once again women are blamed for how a man turned out like holy shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:50 PM
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But he was no longer that bully. She wasn't trying to jump his bones during that time. She was mad at him. They kept talking about how much he had changed. Wouldn't lily be with Snape if she wanted a bad boy since he joined the dark side?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:45 PM
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That's like if women say men like bad girls and all it means is that he keeps picking women who treat him like trash. And then women sulk and decide they gotta be awful humans to keep the man they want aka abuse him. And men will say "I don't want that" but he keeps picking her type and instead of us realizing "damn he's got issues to work out. Maybe an abusive childhood or self esteem issues" we lean in and say YES YOU DO!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:38 PM
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Hermione settled after she was ran through. Oh wait
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:34 PM
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And yet you are skimming over the other love stories like how Hermione and Ron were friends for yeeeears before they got together and how Harry was always kind to Ginny. And yeah, Snape blew his chance with Lily with the way he treated her when she tried having his back.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:32 PM
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I've been rejected for being a virgin. Then I've been rejected because I wasn't experienced enough. Then you try to get more experience and they wanna shit on you some more. There's no winning. I've seen men talk shit on how their younger gfs aren't good enough in bed. How sleeping with virgins is difficult and not fun. It's just annoying to be shamed at every stage of it. I saw a girl on a podcast say it perfectly. "You men don't want virgins. You complain to your boys that she can't arch her b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 10:01 PM
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Promiscuous women are probably better in bed too. I think a man will pick good sex over someone "pure". A man chasing a woman cuz shes a virgin over actual compatibility is just weird
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 09:56 PM
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Just because she is single in her 30s doesn't mean she was sleeping around either. Most women I know do not do that. I know a couple that do and they have issues and it's easy to see it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 09:50 PM
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Ok so try to look at her upbringing for this. Even parents who look totally loving, normal and wholesome can have dark secrets. Women or people in general go for awful partners because they feel like it's all they deserve or it's like a pattern from childhood and it's all they know. It's a subconscious way to try to get closure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:51 PM
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These have never given me the ick. I only get the ick if he masturbates too much (we can tell), if he's emotional but more like angry all the time...its scary, and of hes clingy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:48 PM
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Hot. Hottest of hot only. Or hes gonna barf and resent her very existence
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:19 PM
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Bro what is wrong with you. You understand supply and demand right. Everyone deserves a livable wage. And it's possible. But the way they got it set up, housing is way too much, there's a monopoly on a lot of things which is illegal, and greedy ceos. This isn't because there are more workers lmao. Why are you so angry that women want the right to work so they don't have to be forced to stay with an alcoholic, wife beater, child molester, or someone who is plain annoying af. Lol. You sound nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:51 PM
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You do understand those movements were contrived right? That has to do with the rockerfellers. Not women. We all had to go back to work when all the men ran off to war. Maybe if men didn't kill people in other countries for our lizard overlords then only men can work and women can stay captivated in your home. Sorry for ruining that for you master.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:17 PM
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Well for the right guy of course. I'd rather be single if he's not gonna make me happier than I already am.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:51 AM
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It is frustrating. I will tell a guy what I need and they don't hear what I say until someone else says it. Usually another guy. And it's like....how come you couldn't listen to the woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:50 AM
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I think its good advice. Men are especially most attractive when they aren't seeking love. They are too busy having fun and hobbies. That makes them sexy. Then when he's out in the real world, a woman who is around is likely to be in proximity because they have the same interests. You want to be a full person first.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:51 AM
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No. I'd prefer it. In a way. My ex cheated and i was willing to do an open relationship. But instead he kept cheating. Open is better than being lied to. But I tried dating someone poly and I was grossed out. Maybe because he showed me a sex video. Idk I don't wanna share too much of someone. Just becomes icky. But I think every once in a while then ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:39 AM
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Hes like 5'3 and not my type. But he treated me really well. Paid for everything and trips and was just...nice. also the most attracted I was to him was when he wasn't masturbating. Men really underestimate what a difference this makes and how much we can tell. It's a whole different vibe. When he started jerking again, I was so repulsed. He went from sexy and me wanting him to being just gross ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:36 AM
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I'm sure there's truth to this as people get married for all kinds of reasons. I also know a few men who married logically and regret it. Wish they married the one they loved but they over thought it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:26 AM
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If he's gonna talk like that where "clapping cheeks better happen" then yes...he can pay up too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:24 AM
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We knew each other for yrs before my bf. Just because he asked me out when I was taken doesn't mean I went for it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:23 AM
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Yes I saw a guy who has ltr turn into an incel because he overthought it and it became head games and weird
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 11:35 PM
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That's what I told him. We are incompatible and there was no shame in his approach. Just wasn't for me. He went on to insult me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 11:34 PM
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Every man I've dated has made my life worse. While I enhanced his. And it's not because men just suck. They were brought up differently. Conditioned differently. It's been draining. I'm finally waking up to the fact that a man will probably never make my life better, but worse. Thank God I have my own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:23 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:18 PM
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Aww I love you so much for this. So not all men luckily are into this. I think a lot of women don't orgasm because we are people pleasers so we dont speak up if something doesnt feel good. Luckily I'm not one of them. I will make sure I get mine. But unfortunately porn has made this image of sex expected. And it's awful. It's definitely a reason why I've been celibate for 3 yrs. I just feel like I'll never be good in bed at this point. I'm sick of feeling bad about it. Men enjoy making her feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:17 PM
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Uh what lol. You'll see. You'll see in your late 20s that u still don't know wtf ur doing in life. And if ur still single u will be GLAD that u are single (if u have any ounce of wisdom) because now u will realize u need to work on yourself (we all do) and heal from generational trauma before you settle down. I didn't believe the older ppl when they told me the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:10 PM
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Especially because in our younger years we went for who we were attracted to and it bit us in the ass. There's no point. My friend said it perfectly. "All men are stupid. May as well find a rich stupid one."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:06 PM
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A lot of women are taught to do nothing. And figure men don't want romance but just sex. And we think just being in their company is enough. We never courted. We don't know how to do any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:53 PM
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Yes we are addicted to excitement like men are addicted to sex. But I will say and forgive me, men are like this as well. They say they want a nice girl who stays at home but they secretly salivate over the baddie on IG or the free spirit girl and they wanna lock her in a cage. It would be awesome to have a bad boy who still treated me right and was there at the end of the day lol. But usually he's a cheater or the good guy just doesn't have a back bone or sense of self and is clingy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:41 PM
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Women are emotional and release hormones during sex. It's science. I'm not having sex with a guy because he thinks im going to enjoy it the same way as him. I'm not horny cuz a guy is hot. I'm horny when I feel safe. If it feels casual, it's a no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:30 PM
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I'd rather date someone I like
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 08:28 PM
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Idk I really love movies where the underdog just takes over. It's super inspiring. But idk maybe...there was a guy who was muscular but had loose skin and showed me pics of when he used to be super fat. Kind of messed with my head. Is he fit or just a fat guy who is now fit? But I don't think it would make me end a relationship. That's a bit silly. No woman is going to end a relationship over that if he's still top dog. Unless someone outshines him and she's shallow af
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 08:26 PM
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Women fought for the choice. That's all. Lots of women would love to be traditional. Women just want the choice to leave his ass if he sucks. I don't think that's a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 08:19 PM
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It's not fair to the woman. Women want to feel cared for first. Men just need sex to feel cared for. And then leave the chick hanging emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:54 PM
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Sometimes it takes some time for her to see "damn that's the man that is turning me girly". But u shouldn't have to wait and invest and see. It should happen organically. But personally I like getting to know someone before a date. It's too intimate with a stranger. U shouldn't have to convince her to be feminine if it's a good match
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:26 PM
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That's like saying men in the past spoke for u too and they're all rapists and cheaters
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:24 PM
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Good for you. Now bag u a baddie from overseas
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:18 PM
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What equality did we fight for? I wasn't there. I think it was something about abortion and being able to work Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:16 PM
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He asked me out. When I had a bf. Then when I was single he became red pilled. He kept inviting me over to his house. That's not exactly a date. I kept trying to get him to make it less casual. Even if it didn't require money. But the pua red pill community urged him to only make opportunities for sex. He didn't want to get to know me or see me anywhere else. He like a lot of men think that just because we hung out a year ago in public means he already put in his "effort" and now I must run to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:15 PM
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Men want sex in exchange for nothing. That sounds like stealing. It's called give and take.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:12 PM
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Ur right. She will be feminine immediately for the right man. It will be instant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:11 PM
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Women can charge up to 100k. It's out there. If a guy thinks he deserves me body after 300 then I'm good lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:10 PM
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Looks good and clean and is trafficked
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:09 PM
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So women are the leaders?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:09 PM
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Hard to be feminine when there is no protector and u have to be your own. Not hard to grasp. Is requires masculinity to fight off unwanted ppl
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:08 PM
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I was on board too. But yeah I just see they hate themselves and take it out on you. No point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:12 PM
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There was a man I was into and he seemed amazing. He then became red pilled and a total dick. I'm here to kind of understand wtf happened to him. This place is a cess pool but I'm into the drama I guess. And then more content with idiots like Andrew tate and pearl keep me in this shit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:08 PM
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Hookers charge 1k and above. Boinking ain't happening until that much is spent on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:05 PM
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Men get resentful when they can't take care of you. They act out by cheating or just being miserable to be around. They really don't like it even if they say they do. I've had Men constantly put me down because I had to pay for myself. They feel emasculated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:04 PM
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Men haven't been traditional lately which is why women in turn don't want to be. But I would be traditional in a heartbeat if the guy was. Hands down. He's gonna take care of me? Ok let me clean his house and have food ready. But I'm too busy working and fighting men off me in the work place, I'm too tired to do his laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:59 PM
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If he is pursuing ME, he should pay. If he wants to sleep with me, he should pay. If we are going Dutch, he is friend zoned until I decide when we will sleep together. I will feel no obligation for his time table and effort. Which is fine. Men seem to think sex is the same and just as enjoyable for the woman but I feel disrespected if im not getting something in return. I enjoy sex if I feel appreciated. And I feel appreciated and special if he pays for dinner. Now, if he's broke and I love him …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:52 PM
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The economy is totally different now. Having a provider sounds nice but inflation ruined it since wages aren't keeping up. It's just unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:37 PM
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I mean most of the men on this forum say most men cheat. Are you one who disagrees? If so, then I can't hate on this comment. But if ur likely to cheat then wtf lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:36 PM
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But femininity comes from a place of vulnerability. Women deal with a lot of shit from men so we need to have our defenses up so we don't get taken advantage of again and again. I think it's different than a man saying this. Like a lioness isn't gonna roll over on the field for just any lion. But the right one comes along and look at her go. It's nature. Literally every female in nature makes it difficult until she finds one she deems worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:32 PM
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They're not withholding for manipulation. They just don't feel safe with you yet numbnuts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:45 PM
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I had sex early and decided it wasn't for me. Felt like shit. I'm allowed to establish new boundaries and wait. Ffs it's not about "making a guy wait" and punishing him. It's about how long it takes til he makes me feel valued and safe and committed. Guys who think like this are a waste of space. And they weed themselves out when they bounce by date 3 or 4. I am not cool with sharing my body with a guy I've talked to and hung with for 10 hrs. People wait 5 yrs before they show what a pos they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:23 PM
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You can tell the truth but not mention the cheating. That shatters their whole perception of love and marriage and repeats cycles. Tell them you fell out of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:59 AM
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If a Chad magically doesn't stress her out by ONLY being alpha who can control his emotions then he should take note.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:58 AM
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Looked like an alpha, was secretly an abusive fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:40 PM
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I dated a Chad. He stressed me tf out. Because Chad's can still have mental issues, get angry, yes stress me out. He was 6'5, chiseled jaw, big dick. I still didn't want it at times. A jerk is a jerk and it dries me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:38 PM
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Yes I love friends with men! And women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:53 AM
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👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:30 AM
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Yeah some women or maybe a lot more than we think need to be compatible on other levels first before they have sex. The better they feel emotionally, the better the sex. They feel safe with the guy and yeah it can take a few tries to get it going good. And then it just gets better and better. I'm never gonna have mind blowing sex my first go around with a new guy. And then he's gonna ghost me for it? Byeeee
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:25 AM
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Yeah these same guys cheat on her while she's 8 months pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:18 AM
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I hope people who think it's exploiting don't watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:16 AM
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And here I was insecure about my sex game for just wanting to be on top
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:08 AM
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I agree. Don't touch their penis!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:06 AM
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Fuck those other women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:29 AM
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Mental connection, feeling safe meaning he's committed to me and if I get pregnant he will be supportive with either decision. Good size dick a plus. I like them straight but curves have also been pretty good. I just have a tilted uterus and sexual trauma from childhood so I like being on top the most. I feel in control. I don't really need anything said to me. I am the one doing all the talking. Once My ex started saying all this stuff and i was like wtf?? He's like "you talk like this so I'm t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:24 AM
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I dont want them wearing make up. Please don't wear make up yall.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:55 AM
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I'd rather have a virgin I was attracted to and can teach things to vs an ugly man whore. Skill is cool and all but I know guys with high body count that don't know jack. Their pacing sucks ass. Idk how they got by. Some virgins can actually be better because they are less selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:39 AM
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That's good. A lot of guys claim cheating is normal
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:07 AM
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Yes I fell for an old fat guy before. Lawd!!! He was so sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:18 AM
1

But most hvm have many options they play with too, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:16 AM
1

I like being exclusive even in the talking phase BUT then I get tunnel vision and end up dating one guy for years who sucked. if I just broadened my net, I'd have played the field and realized there were other people better out there. I'm not gonna lie, it feels gross because I'm a hopeless romantic. But it's honestly a smarter thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:09 AM
1

Explains why it felt so good lol. A lot of women say size doesn't matter but idk if they're just lying or haven't had amazing sex or come across anyone big
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:59 AM
1

That's why u are friends first. But that's just my style. Not all girls are into it but oddly a lot of girls in my circle are
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:23 AM
2

Yes I assume it. I know ugly man whores. It can be done. All they gotta do is fuck anything in sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:03 AM
9

Yeah I've had a guy say "I was testing you. I like you more now". I liked him less
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:58 AM
4

Oh and a guy who won't buy me tampons or is grossed out by body hair. Byeee
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:48 AM
2

I totally relate. No one should like me so I find something wrong with them. Unless I find them kind of on a lower level then I will date them so I don't feel too rejected if it doesn't work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:45 AM
3

Baby talk, being drunk too much, trying to have sex by date 3, But one I remember is he was talking and bragging about donating to some cause, I said something and he dismissed it. It was a weird arrogant moment I caught of him. We were dating for 3 months and just like that, I turned off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:42 AM
2

Swear. U give losers a chance and the arrogance skyrockets. But I've also been into guys who were just humble
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:19 AM
1

You can say "let's be friends first" and then go Dutch and do activities that you are both interested in to see if there's anything in common. You can do things for very cheap or free. Go for a walk, hike, talk, hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:17 AM
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Yeah that's why I like being friends first. Sex and money off the table. You get to know the person over a period of time before being trapped into something that can end up sucking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:30 AM
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It helps them look better but I've definitely liked guys who were invisible to everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:26 AM
1

I think its when u get used to doing something like that it becomes normal. And they feel like "it won't happen to me" after a while
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:23 AM
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Luckily I haven't dealt with that but then again I'm afraid to turn on the heater in case he yells at me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:22 AM
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Only a red flag IF? It's usually definitely one of those two
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:20 AM
1

The ones who are in competition and resentful are narcissistic trash. I know a few. They are not good people. The rest have tried to warn me. What is a 20 yr old doing with a 30 yr old? I thought "im just mature and they're jealous." But they warned me something is wrong with a 30 yr old man dating a 20 yr old. Now im older I realize how right they were. That man, and many others approaching me were and are trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:08 AM
-1

Hmm I dated an Asian man who was much shorter than me. We were friends first though. But thats how I usually roll anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:29 AM
2

It worked when I was 17 with an ugly guy because no one had ever asked for my umber and told me I was really cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:27 AM
1

33f. Any day. Just go thru my phone or go anywhere. I don't think im hot although people say I am. I just think men are that horny and anything looks good when ur hungry. But I also know a lot of men and work with a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:35 AM
2

Depp is 5'7
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:04 AM
2

Leo dicaprio. He's a lil boy to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:00 AM
1

He can just chase girls in his league
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:09 PM
1

He started off a totally good guy but got sucked into redpill to be honest. Which I think is why I'm here. That experience was so odd. He was such a great guy. One I really liked. And idk what happened. We couldn't date cuz I was with someone else and he internalized it as women like assholes. But I was with my bf for many complicated reasons. That's why I kept trying to make it work. Kept thinking that original guy would come back. He's too far gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:34 AM
3

I can as well but I like having sex be special. I'm not doing it just because. I have my hand
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:31 AM
1

Nope. When you fuck up bad, time is of the essence and you should apologize right away. Not a month or 2 later. I gave him way too many chances and he decided to be a total dick for a long time thinking it would make him alpha. All I wanted was to not be treated like a booty call and to establish a better emotional connection. But telling him im done after that apology could make him angry again and tell everyone my business. Like he threatened last time. Silence was what he deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:27 AM
1

Yeah a lot of it is rude and cowardly and other times it could be for safety. I had a guy ghost me. Was pretty annoying. I can handle the rejection. But I've also experienced where communication just makes them make excuses and they make you come around again promising it'll be different and it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:24 AM
1

First guy told me to stop texting. He didn't like what I was saying. He said he would get a restraining order. All because I said he did something without my consent. I actually liked him and was trying to make it work. I didn't say we were done. He basically told me to fuck off forever. But then he comes back with an empty apology. I was done. I tried for months to communicate but it was constant deflection. And when someone threatens to release my personal business because I hurt his ego (not …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:21 AM
1

Yeah I believe in communication but I've also had so much experience with it not going well or them just making excuses and continuing their behavior or making you feel crazy. So I dont blame people for doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:17 AM
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I get pleasure when I know they love me. Or else it feels unsafe and violating. Women orgasm is mainly mental. Not physical like a penis just needing stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:11 AM
1

I communicated with the first 2 as much as I could. First one actually told me to block him and never talk to him again. I obeyed his wishes. No point in me opening the door of communication to an abuser. Literally told the 2nd guy over and over again to leave me alone. I felt stalked and afraid. 3rd guy, I simply just didn't reply to his 3am text saying "call me!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:10 AM
4

Then I have low self esteem. But u hear the hottest girls never get asked out. If I get asked out a lot I assume I'm low hanging fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:51 AM
1

I wasn't trying to end it. I was actually trying to communicate my feelings and needs. And instead I got attacked and he threatened to tell people things I trusted him with. All because he saw me communicating as attacking. He didn't hear me at all. Then when he realized he was wrong he tried apologizing months later. But over and over I saw that he shuts down during communication. And I knew his apology was him trying to sweep it under the rug. I gave up trying to make him understand. And I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:50 AM
8

I haven't had sex in 2 yrs. I thought I was going to get dicked down from a guy who seemed interested and on the track to something serious. But he's being wishy washy now so the sex wouldn't be enjoyable at all. Some of us have emotions tied with our sexuality. I like sex when there is trust and romance. I've seen women get pregnant and left in the dust by a guy who gave 0 fucks. Sex is not casual and idk how it can ever be imo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:43 AM
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If they are trying to get laid but cant, then yes that's a red flag. But if he's a virgin because he's saving himself then it's different
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:40 AM
3

They swear! They're like "u like sex too!" Do i?? U have to make me feel loved for me to like it dammit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:39 AM
1

Not toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:20 AM
1

What makes it boring
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:10 AM
1

Yes I run from hot guys or guys I'm super into. I have issues
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:09 AM
1

Yess I feel so bad like I have to stick around or else they have NO ONE.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:07 AM
1

Why
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:06 AM
1

I ghost when communication has failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:03 AM
2

It's rude and humiliating!!! I'd cry too. In fact all my interactions probably bother me way more than I know. Even if I don't cry. I still think about some things
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:59 AM
2

I'm sorry. I can even wait 6 months or 6 years vetting a guy and they still pull weird moves like this. Just hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:54 AM
1

I want too much out of life. I want to travel. I want a rock but I wanna be free too. I think being a best friend is good enough but I don't know how to be thoughtful and do things for the other person. Very very few men have inspired me to want to do the little things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:51 AM
9

Yes I'm never flattered when I get hit on because men hit on everything
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:43 AM
2

The way men act these days, I'd rather only have sex for money. I don't get anything else out of it. No love or commitment. What am I having sex for
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:39 AM
1

Because we know they choose us because they want sex first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:38 AM
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I can get one any day of the week but not with someone I like. And I dont think im being picky. I dont think it's too much to ask that he respects my boundaries and body, isn't some sort of addict, and is aware of his trauma and actively working on healing it. Oh and then of course he has to be my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:36 AM
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I knew a 24 yr old virgin. Actually a couple of them. They were hot as shit!! They just wanted to wait
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:26 AM
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Yeah I don't complain about that. Now if they are selfish then that's one thing. A guy can google tricks. I knew a guy who was a total man whore and sucked at foreplay. I'd love if he had less experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:25 AM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:22 AM
2

Sometimes I can't believe it either but then you realize you have no idea who is behind the keyboard. Most healthy people aren't in this cess pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:21 AM
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It's the wrong environment. Join other groups
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:19 AM
1

I think men get away with being unattractive way easier than a woman does. You always see a hot chick with a less attractive guy. When I see a hot guy with a less attractive woman I'm actually shocked. Like "this guy LOVES her??" And not because she doesn't deserve love but because how we are always told how men are visual. So how did it happen?? Women are emotional and want stability so the less attractive guy makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:17 AM
1

Yeah I can see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:08 AM
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I dated actors and they were better than most to be honest. They were loyal and kind. Then I dated someone behind the camera and that was awful
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:51 AM
1

Yeah we just mean we don't like hearing weird remarks like "do you like doggy style?" On the first date or "wanna have a 3some? Hehe"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:49 AM
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The only men ive heard who have said stuff like this are honestly pure losers. Either broke and living with his parents, borrowing money from his parents and has serious self esteem issues, and narcissists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:44 AM
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I'm a chick and I fully empathize. I always think it's a joke or I misheard them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:38 AM
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Men always cry in front of me and I think im rather supportive. But after a while, strong emotions and depression is contagious. You can vent, but I've seen guys just spiral and go on for days. It's draining. As a woman, I grew up in a home where I wasn't allowed to have feelings actually. I just hope we all learn how to manage our emotions and get emotional support but also know when we are being too much
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:34 AM
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My friend told me "if someone ditches you for being a virgin THEY ARE A BAD PERSON". I lied anyway. 22 yr old female. But its true. They aren't worth your time. But I get it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:25 AM
1

We want the meet cute
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:03 AM
1

Bisexual men have a reputation of being more pleasurable for women. Because they know what it's like to be penetrated. Same with gays. That's why they are better. They get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:51 AM
3

I've been saying this!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:42 AM
2

Omg
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:13 AM
2

Almost 2 yrs now. It's getting hard!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:12 AM
1

I get what you mean and it can be confusing. But you can still have sexual energy and pursue her sexually without having to make jokes or remarks that we are referring to. I don't wanna say "go for it" because consent is important but I guess go for it, with consent. But start slowly. Like kissing the first few dates. Take it from there. My ex never made any weird remarks about it. He showed me he was serious, and each date kind of took its course. It didn't feel rushed to me. Idk, doing it, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:11 AM
1

And the right man isn't talking sex early like a 15 yr old. He knows self control. And she finds that hot. Or she's looking for casual sex too and not a relationship. Women looking for relationships are put off by sex comments. Vast majority are not having casual sex. I've had casual sex. I tried to "date like an adult" and have sex early and try to be detached. It's not for me and feels disgusting. Does that mean I should do it for the next guy because I've done it before? Even if I don't enjoy…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:58 AM
1

Does she know she's being pursued? Are you calling them dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:45 AM
2

But not awalt?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:43 AM
1

These men suck
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:43 AM
1

The 5% sticks out like a sore thumb. Don't do it. It's not needed and only dries us up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:41 AM
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Not sure which tone you are using but yes it's violating and like "damn is that what they're after?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:39 AM
1

YES YES YES. When I was 20 dating 30 yr Olds I thought I must be so mature and special even though people kept trying to sound the alarms for me. Now that I'm in my 30s I realize how true this is. I would never date a 20 yr old. Even a 28 yr old. It's just not right. It's not fair to them. There are stages of life and growing that will take place and im not going to rob them of that. Someone like me liked older men from TRAUMA ONLY and the mind games that ensued from men who cant take accountabi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:25 AM
1

Gemini anything
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:00 AM
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They just always do something that is off putting. Like bring up sex waaay too early. How would you feel if the majority of women bring up how excited they are to have access to your credit card on the 1st date? You'd probably avoid most of them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:52 AM
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Yeah if she sleeps around. Some of us don't and it has nothing to do with how hot or alpha u are. So try not to internalize it and get angry with her and assume she's a slut
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:46 AM
1

What
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:45 AM
1

Decent men have shot themselves in the foot because I haven't fucked them yet (I am a prude. Omg we exist) and then they turn into an asshole and lose me forever and get all mad that I STILL won't fuck them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:39 AM
2

Amalt
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:37 AM
1

This mentality is for damaged women because a lot of people just have shitty parents so they like being treated like dirt because it's familiar. The irony is the man likes the chick who is also an asshole to HIM. Plenty of nice homley women being ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:34 AM
3

Yeah last 3 guys I dated jumped into a relationship right after me. I'll be single for at least a yr
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:28 AM
1

Honestly I do that as an act. I cry about these dudes years later. It's my pride though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:24 AM
4

That women are fucking everyone on the 2nd date so if they don't fuck u it's because she thinks you are a beta bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:19 AM
1

It's basically most relationships especially back in the day. Guy provides and she gives sex. We just kind of say it out loud now which is very red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:56 AM
3

Honestly it makes me think I need to up my number so they don't think im an inexperienced freak. It's not a good cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:54 AM
5

It's because men with these values just don't exist anymore. We are settling for scraps
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:36 AM
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Are u a guy? I completely disagree. We care but we have to put up with it because all men try to be whores not because they're so horny but because they need to feel cool so bad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:35 AM
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Oh I love that. That is so hard to find!! I'm talking to a guy who let's anyone hit it and it's a turn off. Shows me he lacks self control and yeah its dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:33 AM
10

Means no sex talk. The rest is extra. Don't expect to make out
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:31 AM
2

Do you ever not victim blame? People are married to serial killer's and have no idea. Do you blame the fathers for being bad fathers? Or is it on the mom only. What do u mean they know the deal before men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:20 AM
1

You too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:15 AM
1

That's scary and we all need to do better. This shouldn't be a war on genders
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:12 AM
1

My dad had custody and didnt want it. All he did was cry about not seeing me but didn't try. And didn't pay child support either. I know tons of Dads that did this. Altho a lot of good hearted men have been screwed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:11 AM
1

Then they shouldn't be pursuing me until they can heal
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:07 AM
19

Maybe there's a specific red pill book and all the other material I've come across is like different branches of religion that went to far. Because it has definitely harmed me as a woman. The men are way too suspicious, paranoid, angry. It can be toxic. I've been hurt in the process because they see me, the individual with a vagina as an automatic gold digger, slut. It's tiring. I'm someone with feelings and pain and a good heart that wants to share that with someone. Can't do it when they keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:47 AM
5

My mom was your dad. My dad was the parasite
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:43 AM
16

A lot of time men are chasing hot women and get played. They want a woman to love him the same way women want to be loved. For who they are. Not for being the hottest most exciting person in the room. Being upset when she's banging Chad's yet you wanna marry a Becky. I don't get it. Plenty of women aren't screwing around and taking advantage of men. You guys are blinded by lust. Just admit it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:42 AM
1

Idk if its the size or the connection now that I'm thinking about it. My ex was big but I loved him and there was passion. I tried having sex with a few guys after that I wasn't into and it wasn't great. So i guess I can't say it's size for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:23 AM
1

Don't have a wife and kids if u don't wanna help lol whacko
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:21 AM
10

There's more to changing a body than weight. My weight is the same. Get pregnant and get back to me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:47 AM
2

You need sleep and a nanny. He needs to understand this
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 06:46 AM
3

Yeah fuck that u should be able to travel and TRUST ME putting yourself on hold for a guy who gets hall passes is NOT worth it in the end.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 06:42 AM
2

There are nice guys and then there are "Nice guys". Nice guys are attractive. Treat you well. Take you out. Do the roses. "Nice guys" are not attractive because they do all of that out of desperation and have no back bone and women don't like the lack of self respect he has for himself. He's with you because he wants any woman. The other Nice guy wants you because there is a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:24 AM
1

Holy crap what a religious medieval view lmao. Of course we can cum from penetration. But lots of women don't because they aren't in control of the act. Men are doing their God awful pacing and most women are too scared to say anything. I get on top and have to do my thing my way. And yes size matters now that I experienced what I did. Can't go back.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:17 AM
9

I've been pregnant twice and the pregnancies were very short before it self aborted. It changed my body completely. Not about lifestyle. Thanks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:12 AM
1

Love bombing can absolutely work when done right. My ex was masculine, and actually took the lead and knew what he wanted. Me. It was a whirlwind of romance and I felt we should slow down but before I knew it we were in deep. This is how narcissism works. I chose him because it was refreshing that a guy actually made decisions about what he wanted with me. Instead of that hot and cold shit. Too bad it didn't go well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:07 AM
1

Are they? They seem equal when we are young kids. Boys also wanna wait for that special someone. Really young boys don't wanna see porn. But circumcision has altered their brain, they are desensitized down there and now hooked on porn and hook up culture because of peer pressure. But I know who they are in the beginning. Then they become brain washed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:44 AM
1

Lmao wtf am I reading...its the women who are hoes now?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:41 AM
3

This is probably why it takes so long for men to get their act together and settle down. They haven't figured out what it takes to have a successful relationship because they weren't having any. The maturity is 10 years behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:32 AM
5

Only if he's also waking up in the middle of the night having the baby suck his titty and ruin his body too while the wife goes and cheats on him because she hasn't been laid since he's fat and pregnant. She's working the house and kids all day while he's working. Yes he still needs to pitch in with chores and child rearing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:23 AM
1

Some women want dick because it feels good just like a dick getting wet. They double standards need to stop
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:17 AM
1

Then they shouldn't bitch that I don't wanna fck early either. It's gross to feel entitled to women's bodies and then think she doesn't deserve to be wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:15 AM
14

Men would whip their dicks out because I smiled at them. Now they wonder why we all walk around looking bitter. "You should smile more" oh God no you'll whip it out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:59 AM
6

Awalt is also very toxic. A guy I liked when he was "blue pilled" became the biggest jerk on earth after red pill and started disrespecting me because everything I said was a lie apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:58 AM
23

Dude they want casual sex and also shame women who parttake in it. Makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:56 AM
1

And they feel pressured to get them a phone because everyone else has one and they don't want their kid left out. Probably more of a cop out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:23 AM
1

I didnt even read the post yet but lmao at this mind set
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:43 AM
0

But being content with that instead of being in the wrong relationship doesn't make them mentally unwell, but actually wise I would think?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:34 AM
1

I'd rather be alone than be annoyed
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:10 AM
1

I used to wanna wait til marriage but it wasn't gonna happen. But best sex for me is when I feel he's got my back and loves me and is there if I get pregnant. Not saying I'd keep it. But guys who just assume it's easy to get an abortion don't really do it for me. Opening my body up to those risks mean something to me. I don't play. Anyway that's my side note lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:05 AM
2

We don't and yall get mad and somehow still call us a whore
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:56 AM
1

"She better give me her body and risk std and pregnancy if she wants a shot with me! I know my worth!" Lmaooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:49 AM
-1

I mean leading women on for sex, being pumped and dumped is a bit rapey. Ur tricking. May as well drug them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:36 AM
1

It's sad people think this. This is how a once good guy treated me once he got red pilled and I cut off communication. I'm talking to another guy and I needed time to warm up and after all my opening up he still thinks im lying about not being a hoe. I'm not going near that man now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:30 AM
1

"Yep it's all your fault. You keep picking them. You know better. You need to figure out why u keep attracting them."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:24 AM
0

Hahahah it is
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:16 AM
1

I'm ambiguous as long as they are. Sure, pay for my meal. But if you never directly said it's a date then I won't tell you I have a bf lol. Thanks for the steak!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:13 AM
2

I didnt grow up with cell phones and my own computer like a lot of people do these days. This generation concerns me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:09 AM
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It does. Lots of guys talk about how once they quit porn they actually go for women they usually never look at because they know how to connect on a real level
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:08 AM
2

Yeah idk if I was clear but my ex roommate said all the guys there said the same thing. Sex wasn't even top 5. I forgot the 5th was actually weed. He chased me but sex dwindled and his ex left him over it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:06 AM
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Seems like lots of people here are against the idea that porn actually effects anything. Almost sounds like an addict in denial. My ex roommate told me that he heard a convo with my bf at the time and his friends about their top 5 priorities. This man was 50 while my bf and friends were like 23. He was so concerned that he heard their top 5 important things were 1) food 2) sleep 3) porn 4) video games 5) friends or something. He was like "sex wasn't even on the list!!" I was very sexually depriv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:36 AM
1

Social media, comparing self to others, and let's be honest we are probably fooling ourselves. All I ever wanted was a husband and a bunch of kids. As i got older, and more distracted by shiny ball syndrome, I want different things. But do I really? Or have I been brainwashed? It's just, the risk is too high. Men and their values have changed as well. We are all hurt and isolated or putting everyone on rotation. All we care about is looks. We are over stimulated and everything is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:22 AM
1

Actually the context is much different. One guy ended up being taken and I didn't know, another I was too young like barely turned 18 but hmm idk maybe he would have if he wanted. And another I actually dated before
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:34 AM
1

I know. Just common in the states :(
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:31 AM
4

And bigger because I only did it when I really had strong feelings after connection was established. Everyone else is friend zoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:29 AM
1

"Through no fault of my own" lol So I got pregnant twice while using condoms and they didn't even break. I checked. I was paranoid. And rightfully so. I care about this a lot. I rarely have casual sex because of this. It's risky. And I don't like the idea of just skipping over to the abortion clinic. Because of this, I need to know the guy is WITH me in case anything happens. I can't enjoy sex with that hanging over me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:10 AM
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Being a man, no period pain, no painful aggressive sex from some emotionally disconnected guy, no pregnancy. But idk I think it would be hard being the one constantly rejected, getting circumcised and being expected to make a bunch of money. I'm a lazy woman. I don't think I'd make it. I'd be one of those dirty bachelors that sleeps on a mattress with no sheet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:05 AM
3

I would try to initiate conversation thru text or something. One time I sent a letter to a guy in school. We went out a couple yrs prior but I still had feelings. Next yr he tried asking me out but i was with someone else. Then I asked him out the next yr. Got ignored. Then at a dance I asked if he wanted to dance. He said no. But he was already in a bad mood. But in my adult life I hit a guy up on social media after an amazing few weeks with him. Business setting. This was 8 months later and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:01 AM
5

Lol honestly as friends I'm way more assertive. I invite them to a movie or some sort of activity and we hang out and it grows. My "shooting my shot" with guys i like is just initiating contact. But I get left on read. And I KNOW they like me too. It's the biggest mind fuck. One guy ended up being taken so whatever. Maybe I was just imagining our amazing connections when we talked for hours out in real life with total intense stares from across the room? Total buzz kill when it doesn't go anywhe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:55 AM
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When I approach a man as a friend, we hang out, we get to know each other. Feelings develop. Etc. Wasn't expected. Every time I have shot my shot I been straight up ignored. It's so weird. "Well maybe you're ugly." No it's SUPER weird. (I'm not) also, I know these guys like me to a degree but it never works. Idk if this is because they feel this is unnatural. If they feel "intimidated". Or if it's like sex where they think "she hitting on everyone? Is she desperate?" Idk it's never worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:43 AM
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"Choose better" as if men tell you up front what an abusive pos they are. "Then leave at the first sign of abuse". Oh yes easy for someone to say who hasn't grown up with gaslighting and narcissist abuse. "Then go to therapy". Well actually now I am working on healing but it's not something you can always identify when you have awful parents who molded your mind into believing you are always wrong, crazy, the bad one etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:38 AM
1

And increasing chances of having a kid with someone u don't even love, or something toxic and creating a horrible cycle for the child. If only my mom wasn't dickmatized, I would have been safe from so much trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:52 AM
1

And this can get you stuck in toxic relationships too because you are too pussy whipped or dickmatized
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:50 AM
1

If anyone agrees with this they should also not care about n count because this philosophy will make their count waaay higher
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:49 AM
1

Money, looks, height, best friend, good sex. You know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:44 AM
1

Trust me! Even a guy who was like 5'3 became a turn on for me because he didn't jerk it for a week. Once he did I was so grossed out by his touch
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:42 AM
3

Give me the fantasy all day. Just be good at hiding the bad shit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:27 AM
2

What about the comment above me? How about some more. I know 2 church men who raped their own daughters. How about that one influencer who was a God fearing man and cheated on his woman and made a whole spectacle of it? Think his name was Jaxon. How about all those pastors who cheat and then say "we are all sinners hehe oh well"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:26 AM
2

Then why would I want to take myself off the shelf, have kids and be faithful when I know it won't be returned
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:24 AM
1

Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:22 AM
2

If u relate, yes try to get that sorted
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:12 AM
1

Men do become hotter when they hold it in tho
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:11 AM
2

U gotta masturbate to your crush. Once I did I was over him! Good to know asap
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:59 AM
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I remember not masturbating to this one guy because I respected him too much lol. But that's because of the relationship I have with sex. Trauma, unhealthy sexual fantasies etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:58 AM
5

Oh no
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:49 AM
3

Yeah it is an odd little tradition isn't it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:31 AM
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Depends if I like the ring and if her marriage was successful, how I like his family, and if I think hes just being lazy or super cool and old fashioned. My sister can insult me and I crack up. My other sister can't get away with it because I dont like her much. So I think her reaction is a reflection on her feelings towards him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:29 AM
5

One time a guy invited me over for dinner. I dressed up. He wore rags and fed me leftovers. The home dates are kind of confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:18 AM
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Self esteem. If you have a shit father or even mom who bread crumbed you, treated you like shit, this is all u know. Women don't like it. It's what they think they deserve. It's sad. Which is why when guys think playing mind games work, well, they're playing on trauma. And that's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:15 AM
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I think my sister does it because of our father and her self esteem as well. Also she is used to the dynamic of being a parent. She was the oldest
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:06 AM
3

Oh look, a man who hates women 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:04 AM
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My dad is telling me how all men cheat. That's not a good father tbh. I don't need that kind of warning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:03 AM
3

Yes this is why I'm here too. Some sort of closure but it just poisons my mind lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:53 AM
2

A man taking the lead is hot to me but my friend called me today and actually told me she likes less masculine men so she feels she can run the relationship. She thinks hot masculine men cheat. So it's an insecurity thing. My sister dates these guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:39 AM
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I agree with working on yourself and having a purpose. I dont agree with awalt and manipulating women and thinking we don't know anything about what we really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:22 AM
1

Yeah the nagging might keep me from entering a relationship because no matter how bad I want someone, I will try to change him. There will always be some habit I don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:15 AM
1

This makes no sense as both parties need to fuck each other which means a man also has no self control. He is not top notch when he lowers his standards. He is seeking validation which is why guys are obsessed with getting notches on their belts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:11 AM
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Frankenstein had a great jaw tho
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:58 AM
3

Or they cheat more because they need constant validation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:55 AM
5

I'm struggling with this. I have no idea as a woman what to bring to the table. Especially if they insist on paying for everything. Which I love but what am I supposed to do? Sit there? I'm so bad at gifts and thinking creatively. I guess I could cook and give head? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:48 AM
1

My cousin loved virgins lol. I'd date one but feel like I'm too dirty for him now
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:44 AM
1

Yeah but what's attractive about (especially a hot) guy lowering his standards because he is that thirsty and she is the only one he can get? Only message I'm getting is the guy has no self control or value in himself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:41 AM
2

I went out with a guy who had no idea what he was doing and had a high count. He relied on his good looks and big dick. He didn't think learning skills was important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:39 AM
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But if he finds all the easy chicks then it wasn't hard
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:29 AM
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No trust me. We don't like their high count. It's not neutral. Wasn't neutral when I was a virgin. I was grossed out that this guy had been with 11 girls. But then I got with the program and dealt with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:22 AM
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I'm told I'm a hot chick but I have ugly duckling syndrome and run from hot guys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:07 AM
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Probably because the womanizer is himself so they react accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:02 AM
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A lot of men are not self aware which is why our feelings change constantly. We just wanna find a guy who doesn't send dick pics, make sex jokes, is consistent. We are consistently wondering if this guy is gonna hurt us. Chances are we have been thru so much that any little thing can tell us to abort. And then yes sometimes after we leave the club we realize he wasn't all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:01 AM
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My ex was "christian". Abusive af
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:53 AM
1

Stop calling it game lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:34 AM
1

Idk I guess they go to strip clubs because they don't get lap dances and get teased. All the strippers are fucking em!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:33 AM
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But at the end of the day what is the worry? I have met people way better in relationships who have fucked 20 plus ppl in the past vs someone who was a virgin, got married, then cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:46 AM
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Because sometimes libido is just tied to how attractive her husband has been to her. Attraction is an art. And if the guy let's himself go, gets lazy, gets annoying and gross, the answer isn't to cheat. The answer is to work on yourself and become attractive. And yes I'm aware this also applies to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:40 AM
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So you could have 3 partners but ltr so you had way more sex than her overall. She could have had one serious bf that lasted a yr and then a few she was casually dating that lasted a month and they ghosted her and then a couple hook ups just trying to get experience in. Or like 10 one night stands that were just ok. That's kinda like my experience. I want to be good in bed and am very insecure about it. I was abused as a child so I try to overcome ptsd and tried hooking up with a few guys to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:33 AM
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It's just aggravating because I was a virgin and shamed. Then I tried to have sex and was shamed for being bad at it. And then I tried having sex with men that I could so I can get better at it. And now my n count is higher because men have made me feel worthless and insecure. And then men want to have sex early or else they are mad like "why should we wait" when we can easily go on a third date with anyone so yeah we aren't gonna sleep with all of them. So ur mad we wait and then mad we don't. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:15 AM
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So the body count thing can be tough. A bunch of failed relationships can make the count higher than 2 or 3. It is weird though that someone can do a ho phase and then make someone wait so long for dating. But whatever. I dont wanna date a fat guy but i have been attracted to them. I just mainly dont wanna see them die decades before me. And yeah if there was a filter for women to have a certain breast size that shit would be sooo fkced up. I do think a 30 yr old man with a 20 yr old girl is pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:03 AM
1

Yeah it can be about intimacy too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:15 AM
1

Yeah :/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:13 AM
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How he responds to women with body hair or periods. I also don't like sex jokes before we ever had sex. Rude and doesn't make me feel safe and valued. I get it, you want sex. But you wouldn't like it if I "joke" about you giving me access to your bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:55 AM
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The porn addiction os strange though if it never translated to fucking women in rl. Maybe you have some sort or trauma to work thru.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:52 AM
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I think the man prefers this too. A lot of women play small so they don't narrow their options. If im more of a beast in the business world than my man, that would turn me off because I would feel more masculine and alpha. I know my terms are toxic and whatever but it's how I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:43 AM
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You'll be one of the guys that are with women because u genuinely like them. And they will appreciate that. But ones with a higher sex drive will be bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:26 AM
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But you won't be blind to it either and it'll be easier to walk away
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:22 AM
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Eat more red meat. But also, maybe you're one of those people that really needs to be into someone. I'd prefer someone like you but the honeymoon phase to fuck a lot can be important
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:21 AM
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Yes and I never give it up unless I feel safe and connected to the guy which ensures more safety during a pregnancy scare and a higher chance he will respect My body during, which means better sex. Come on guys. Not rocket science. And yes this means it takes time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:10 AM
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This is why I like being friends first. We can find out if we like each other without all that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:05 AM
2

That number is so common where I'm from I don't even bother asking. 100 would bum me out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:01 AM
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Or all that experience made them great in bed so they wanna wife them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:56 AM
2

As a chick, I wanted a fellow virgin when I was a virgin. That was my value. It has changed since I am no longer a virgin. But most chicks just put up with the male high body count. And I wonder what the main reason these guys don't want a chick with a high count. It's usually because they don't wanna be compared or cheated on. If they knew they were gonna be her best, they probably wouldn't mind. Why wouldn't they wanna be married to someone who loves to fuck? Kind of a sure way to know ur gonn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:55 AM
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Shamed by your virgin gf? Wtf!!! Sounds like a loser! Screw her. I (f) was a virgin til almost 22. That shit hung over my head. I get it. I was so awkward and afraid of rejection that I would reject them first. I support prostitution etc. As long as it doesn't become a lifelong habit that I've seen with some men. And I mean the ones who are married etc but still do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:41 AM
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Yeah something about them paying feels sexy. But if im into them. I don't hang around for free meals with someone im not. But I like knowing he wants to take care of me. And then I take care of him 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:29 AM
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This is why I never pursue guys and they think im not interested. But I just can't be paying for dates right now with my budget. If I ask, I'll pay. So I never ask
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:24 AM
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Hmm I don't relate to this. I don't keep letting him pay because "why not?" If anything I feel like I owe him so I will stop dating him if I don't feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:16 AM
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I've learned in each failed relationship, it came down to communication. It's something I try to get better at each time I date. Because I've lost out on men because I couldn't communicate. I've had failed relationships because we were too scared to communicate. I unashamedly said everything I wanted to my ex because I didn't have time for pride anymore. I wanted us to work. I told a guy I was talking to exactly what I needed from him, because I thought he was worth the effort. Although he was R…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:09 AM
2

I was talking to a super cute guy. Then he got weirdly sexually aggressive. I stopped talking to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:03 AM
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Yes I hate the 3 date timeline.. puke!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:30 AM
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Ew lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:49 AM
1

This could apply for women being insecure too. And not only Chad's have high body counts. Unless I'm that picky and shallow that the guys I consider not Chad's are actually Chad's. But anyway I'm not into the idea they have a high body count either. The other women are probably way better in bed than me. And if he's promiscuous then how can I trust he doesn't wish he was banging someone else, and remain faithful?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:40 AM
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I have a tilted uterus so I can't even sit up right. I have to lay right on top of him. And other positions hurt so I feel bad about myself. And yeah their pacing is so bad. But that's just me I guess. Of course they wanna go as fast as possible. They're selfish and don't fucking get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:29 AM
1

What's OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:19 AM
4

Hmmm this makes me feel a lot better. He really damaged my self esteem and belittled me to the point I lost myself. Walked on eggshells and started to feel "lucky he tolerates me". Turns out I was too good for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:57 AM
1

Id share in certain scenarios, hell yeah. I don't have to be the only one pleasing him, I get a break and in turn it makes me more turned on because I know he's desirable by others. Immature? Whatever, sue me. I get to bang him because I WANT to now. Not because he's pressuring me. I'd love to have a sister wife. Help raise the kids. Cook. As long as I feel valued and loved and that he's my rock, I think I could do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:52 AM
0

Whoa
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:36 AM
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I end up with these relationships out of people pleasing. Not really because I don't want to be alone. I feel bad for having boundaries and these people won't let me go. They cry and cry and play victim and u feel guilty. That's why I end up hating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:35 AM
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Because women kissing women is still feminine. Men kissing men becomes feminine. And cis women don't want a fem man. We gotta worry about the guy having female friends because apparently women and men can't be just friends Now we gotta worry about their male friends too? We gotta lock them in a cage?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:36 AM
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Yeah time...not fucking someone who doesn't give me the time of day like he used to. He used to text me all the time. Get close mentally and emotionally that way. We used to talk and laugh and have deep conversations. Then he got sucked into red pill and became distant and made sure he only set up times "for sex". And yeah he would never communicate what I did that bothered him. He would just kind of dance around everything I said and make it about how I stayed with my cheating ex and anything e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:16 AM
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Women are effected in other ways. My dad kept crying about how my mom stole us from him. While he never bothered to see us on the weekends and didnt pay child support. She had to work 2 full time jobs. Never slept. He cried and played victim. He never really cared or else he would have been there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:08 AM
1

I didnt know I was being a Dom and them a sub. I was expressing a whole other kink i had.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:05 AM
1

Usually when a guy turns a girl down it's some weird comment like "her thighs are too thick". But to be picky over connection would make more sense. For women to reject a guy over looks, he has to be an absolute troll. Men seem to usually criticize the smallest thing. Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:48 AM
1

Yes casual sex is just so damn risky!! Hellooo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:43 AM
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Lol. I've had what you speak of but it hurts when it doesn't last
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:41 AM
0

Nope. Just wanna dominate the ones that seem dominatable. I can still stimulate their prostate in less degrading positions
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:40 AM
1

It's definitely a plus. Just like big boobs are a plus to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:39 AM
1

Do you just call your guy friends to bang? No. You probably have a friend you talk to all the time, hang out with often, laugh with, do things. This concept shouldn't be so complicated. Oh and also, I wanna have sex when a guy makes me feel safe. So many angry ones these days. That don't know how to mentally connect with a woman, and she feels cornered into fucking him or else he's gonna blow up and tell her she just wants money and Chad. Like come on. All you gotta do is listen to us but you go…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:38 AM
2

You are drinking the kool-aid. I literally had a guy I was so interested in until he got brainwashed, believing my every attempt to tell him I needed him to give me more emotional connection meant "money". I literally asked for more quality time. To not ignore me for a month and invite me over randomly. Me asking for him to hang out with me more sounded like "take me on expensive dates" to him. It was falling on deaf ears. Because you guys are projecting this insecurity on us. All I wanted was f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:33 AM
2

Think it would do well that both genders recognize what the other suffers. Because yes access to kids and not putting a bullet in their head is very valid. But there are dads that warn their daughters about boys too. Those dads are projecting pigs in my opinion. Same as those mothers you spoke of.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:26 AM
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We are all hurt and bitter on this subreddit. Lol. Hope things turn around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 06:20 AM
4

Majority of people suck. And I was dumb enough to turn down sweet rich guys because I was hoping for a "deep connection" and love that never came. Now I'm just riding the dick carousel with my 212th Chad. Because they're rare but I've found all of them apparently. And when I'm ready to settle down with my blown out vag with that 5'4 man who makes money, I'll cheat on him after he raises the son that was never his. And then collect alimony once I find someone to upgrade with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:59 AM
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I swear your whole original comment changed from above. Or I'm super tired. Anyway I wasn't really arguing or hating on u. I was adding to the conversation. But somehow u assumed I was combative. I thought your last line was hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:53 AM
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Not sure how u got all that from what I said. I said a guy who isn't trying. Different than trying to rape him. If he's not shoving it in my face, he isn't desperate. He isn't making me uncomfortable. I can relax. I want it but don't shove it down their throats. Because I'm not rapey. You decide to picture me as some connoisseur, and that's on you. Anticipation is why men want it so bad. Also women would want sex more if they didn't have so many bad experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:50 AM
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Hahahah ur funny. I'd fuck with u
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:37 AM
1

I used to listen to Ryan's roses on the radio and this women who gave this man 3 kids was being cheated on. When he got caught he said "well u haven't been putting effort into yourself." She was like "im...raising 3 kids and working??" Like wow. Men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:32 AM
3

And the men expect Megan Fox. Don't deny it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:26 AM
2

Couldn't find them pre wall either
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:25 AM
3

I can only do it if I'm on top and controlling the pace
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:20 AM
4

Or sometimes we are allergic to the condoms but then their dick can do it too. I noticed an uncut dick was the only one that didn't give me problems. Sad it's hard to find round here
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:18 AM
1

I wanna do it to men I view as lil bitches. Not the ones I see as truly masculine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:14 AM
5

For women, sexual attraction is tied to how the man makes us feel emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:02 AM
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♡♡♡ I can't even watch romantic movies anymore. Hurts too much lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:00 AM
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Or...now hear me out...men...could start being picky too instead of gross horn dogs willing to fuck anything? Who cares if she gets 100 messages. It's not like she wants them all. I get hit on all the time. How many of these guys do I actually want to date? None. They're all disappointing. I don't have a buffet of men. Men have no standards which is why they hit on eveverything. Which is why I have so many "options". Stop being jealous that women get so many "amazing options" when it's all of yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:59 AM
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The other 80% are hiding in the basement because they are too ashamed. Duh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:50 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:44 AM
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I want sex from a man who isn't trying to give it to me. Like don't shove it down my throat. Be sexy. Women have mastered the art of being sexy. Creating the anticipation etc. Men just whip it out with no personality attached. And they treat our bodies like some glory hole. Not many men out there willing to make us feel appreciated and respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:44 AM
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Lmao wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:41 AM
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The women I know who have kinky casual sex have a lot of problems. And I don't mean to shame and we are all fucked up but they are the extra mile. It's from trauma so no judgement. But yeah the majority of women I know are into ltr sex. I tried the casual fwb thing to get sexual practice in. To be good and amazing for a guy I really like. But I can't do it. It doesn't feel good or safe. I'd much rather do it with someone I'm dating seriously. Having this misconception of women is like assuming a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:39 AM
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Yes everything u just said was money. They really feel entitled for just existing. If you had sex with them before, u owe it to them again. Especially in a relationship. They exist. U exist. Now u have to have sex. Forget making the women feel loved and safe. We have to deal with their crazy emotions, their aggression, their harassment. So funny how we are branded the emotional ones. Just because they ain't crying, doesn't mean yelling and screaming makes you a tough resilient individual 🤣. No n…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:21 AM
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Can't handle the truth. Just know that's what ur gonna go down as in all their minds. Congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:13 AM
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I dont think so actually. There was a study on rats. Where the population got too big, the males became docile and reclusive, weren't having sex, and the females became aggressive and dominant. But when the population was smaller, males were masculine and female rats were submissive, they were reproducing. They didn't deal with finances and sexual liberation. Not sure if it's nature's way of keeping the population in check or if with too many rats or people, things become overwhelming. This is w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:57 AM
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Yes. Either provide or like...be likeable lol. It's like when a chick just relies on her looks and has no personality. Men grew up feeling entitled to sex without adding anything else. They are brainwashed thru porn. It's probably porn killing any effort to be a decent love interest. They bitch about it being tied to money. But I'd gladly go 50/50 with a guy who shows up emotionally and mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:46 AM
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Also the area...Bigger cities have older people who are single. Smaller areas, most people paired up already
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:19 AM
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Honestly a big incentive is if they pay my bills but the economy isnt built like that anymore 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:54 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:50 AM
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You must live in the middle of no where. Bigger cities, women care about their looks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:39 AM
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When you have to be deliberately unclear about your intentions, it is not consensual afterall. And there's a name for non consensual sex. This is rapey. Sure, maybe it's not violent. But this is just as sleazy as a guy sleeping with a drunk girl. She didn't get to make her informed decision. And she will feel violated and used. Only one setting the trap is the sleaze ball careful not to say the wrong thing. And it's not because he's not hot enough. I wouldn't have casual sex with a hot guy eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:30 AM
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Incel with a rapist mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:06 AM
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But if you play mind games then she will want to...because you misled her. And that's rapey
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:03 AM
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Sounds rapey tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:57 AM
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Wow...what the fck
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:29 AM
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Men can "do hypergamy" (I've never used it in a sentence) but we call them narcissists when they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:19 AM
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Men will also do this. I knew a paraplegic and he ended up cheating when his chick was there by his side all those years!!! Damn waste
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:59 AM
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I've been told I date guys way beneath me I usually see women with less attractive men than men with less attractive women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:56 AM
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Wow im glad he cried too. What a horrible person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:38 AM
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Idk my parents did it because it was "the thing to do". I say make sure u want it. Because resentment will be felt by the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:34 AM
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In my experience they don't commit because you give it up too soon. Not because of being below him. At first they see me as an equal but having sex too soon can make them see u as desperate and it lowers your value. And I personally, and also a couple other women I know, need to be friends with the guy first. Doesn't mean friend zone. Means we need time. Not a few dates or so because u don't know someone well yet. And there's a whole timeline we feel during dating and we don't like it. It's not …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:40 AM
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Lol just saying If he gonna do it then may as well continue shopping around myself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 06:35 AM
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Men can do this all they want if the girl can too. We don't wanna sleep around but I wouldn't mind continuing to shop for a bigger richer and stronger man lol. Idk if I'll ever have a successful relationship lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 06:25 AM
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We think we want the guy in the last sentence until he is an abusive cheater. Finding your best friend is what's important to me as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 06:01 AM
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They're mad that we are picky and then give us shit if we aren't and give every guy a ride. Idk man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:48 AM
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But btw my friend is not a looker but he said once he changed his tinder photo to something funny, he had way more matches. He showed personality and it worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:31 AM
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I wouldn't know. I'm not shallow enough to be on tinder. And you said mating and mating means sex. And if u aren't interested in sex then u can be her friend. But I know men hate being in the friend zone. Even tho I love being friends first. Some people out there like making sure they know the person before they date and have sex on the third date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:29 AM
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The most attracted I've ever been to men was when they were busy and had multiple hobbies and passions. And men are most attracted to me when I do the same. I inspire them. They are attracted to me because I'm attracted to living. But when I wasn't having sex I was obsessed with it too. And now that I've had my heart broken a few times, I just gotta do me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 05:35 AM
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Huh? We can't just have sex with a guy because he has a penis. If he's not making us laugh, and stimulating us mentally then idk man. I don't see that as shallow. We need something mental. Orgasms for women are mental. And sure there are some women out there into the hook up culture but the majority of us have to be more choosey because we are the ones who get pregnant and slut shamed while the guy gets a high 5 and has way less expectation to show up for their kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 05:31 AM
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Success is attractive to me because it makes me a peaceful woman. I get to focus on making the house into a home and making the man happy. They say work is making the woman masculine. And they could be right. Having to pay bills stresses me out. And I have to take care of myself. If a man takes care of me, I'm happier and Hornier. That may just be me. I'm into being taken care of. And not in a gold digging way but into a traditional way. So that could be why women want a successful man. Just lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:59 AM
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OP and the likes just want an easy hole to please them. And luckily they can get surgery for him too! He just said if they are ugly they all magically afford surgery. Because he has no intentions of finding the chick who can't get a date. All of these men won't go in their own league. They have an inflated sense of importance and value. These guys need a reality check and find a shorter uglier girl. Trust me guys, they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:46 AM
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Well dang if women are so evil then why do u want them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:07 AM
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It's nice but you can find that anywhere. Most women are looking for their best friend. Sure we want something on paper but look around. Not every married or taken man is tall, fit, rich and famous. Men and women can be our own worst enemy. Running from good people because we are insecure. I've actually liked fat, old, ugly etc types but they run off because they are afraid of rejection. And I've been attracted to men who I assumed saw themselves as great. Once they keep talking down on themselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:06 AM
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That's all you took from that? Still. Men have no requirements for a woman. Hot and peaceful, quiet etc. What just 3 things. Seems shallow. Like they are desperate for sex. And women smell that. And want to be chosen because they are special to him. Not because he needs validation with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 05:52 AM
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Posts like these leave me with the moral of the story being: "women care about a man's character. Men only care if you're hot and quiet." Which makes me think men only want sex, they place too much of their value on whether they are having sex, because they aren't trying to find purpose in life and see women as people. They just see women as someone to fck. And they are upset hot women want hot men. But these average men aren't interested in average women. And not everyone can get surgery wtf. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 05:47 AM
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Oh well. I support it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:19 AM
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Seriously!!! "Well you had cancer and wasn't making love to me anymore" or "you had a miscarriage so u neglected me for 5 months". TRAAAAASH. My ex did drugs from time to time. I put up with it. I GET drugged against my will and he acts like I'm the biggest pos and cheats again. Obviously not all men are like THAT...but lots cheat. Even the ones you think would NEVER. How can they walk around claiming to be the stronger sex physically AND mentally and then claim how weak they are to temptation w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:11 AM
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Omg my bf cheated because I guess we didn't have sex for 3 weeks? I don't even remember it being that long but damn. And men will objectify any woman. Even their own daughters (in my experience) so like...why do I even wanna be around them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:11 AM
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So disgusting. Or when they cheat when she's pregnant. Or not in the mood for a few weeks...because he stresses her out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:39 AM
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Wow what a jerk
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:08 AM
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I forgot to also add that women legitimately want to be "caught" by the right "fisherman". Fish in general just do not. It's just not always as simple as "I catch fish. U fish. U have pea fish brain". It's like me assuming that every guy on earth is only looking for a busty blonde and likes that I'm an airhead. Wouldn't u agree plenty of men prefer brunettes, more of an ass guy, and likes intelligence? Some men like drama, others do not. Some like a girl who waits, others do not. So why can't wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:10 PM
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This analogy isn't good because fish don't want to be killed and eaten. And neither do women. But if you wanna go with this...They are baited with good food. So when a fisherman is saying "why won't these fish take my bait" and the fish go "you know I really like eating worms instead of bread" and the fisherman goes "well what do u know", well he sounds like a fool. But the king fisherman taking all the starving fisherman's money keeps brainwashing them telling them that these fish are lying. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:53 PM
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What if a woman wrote a book on how men think and men read it and say it's not accurate...because the woman author doesn't know. She's making blanket statements based on her experience. Believes what she wants to believe. Or do you think she knows more than you? I tell these guy friends. They don't listen. And they keep going in circles wondering why they can't get the woman he wants. So he blames her when she was trying to tell him the entire time. A fisherman can't catch every fish he wants. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:21 PM
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I wanted sex with my "beta" ex way more than my alpha one because he didn't stress me tf out. I didn't feel under attack. I had to chase my beta. He wasn't screaming or bitching. I was relaxed. "Safe" can actually be sexy. Most men can't parent either. They think showing up for a soccer game is going above and beyond. Dead weight and stress dries me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:16 AM
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I get turned on almost instantly when he starts taking me out on dates. But not when I know it's only because he wants head later
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:08 AM
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Yes and I wish i knew what all these deleted comments said lol. The pain. Unfortunately it's so common and im just gonna say it but circumcision can be a big reason for me. My ex was huge and uncut and for some reason I never felt that friction, pain and dryness. Also lots of men in general give 0 fks on if she's ready and turned on. It hurts. And they don't care. We don't feel safe. So we don't want sex. Pretty simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:04 AM
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Women let themselves go when they get married but so do men. Men get complacent, needy etc and can get unattractive. Women have to feel good around the man. Once he starts farting too much, just being gross, stressing out and bitching which stresses HER out, or he gives up on romance and thinks "we are married" or "we are together" (whatever it is) so "we should have sex whenever I want it." But no. Just because she had sex with you yesterday, you can give a whole new vibe the next day and she's…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:01 AM
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Whats old
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:50 AM
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My male friend is reading books on how to get women...written by men. The books are trash and he won't listen to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:34 AM
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Man idk I picked ugly dudes on purpose and getting cheated on by THEM is a whole other level of fucking up my self esteem lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:31 AM
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Yes. Why u ask
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:52 AM
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Yeah I don't know any women like that but those sound like women not worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 05:04 AM
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I agree with a few things except making a guy wait. And it's not just about waiting but the principle behind it. If she decides she needs to take longer getting to know someone and trusting him, isn't a bad thing. And someone who feels entitled to immediate access to her on multiple levels is just a walking red flag. I had a guy upset with me because I stayed with my ex when he cheated, but didn't like this new guys bs with other things. We are allowed to grow and have standards and self respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:58 AM
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Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:12 AM
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Hmm women still fight over men and will sleep with their best friends bf when options get scarce. Have you heard of that study they did with rats. When population was smaller, the females mated and reproduced. Then male mice were stronger and more aggressive. As the population got larger, the females became more masculine and the males became weak and antisocial. If there's a population where there are less men, women will need that validation and want it 10x more. They won't get hit on nearly a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:17 AM
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But then women lose out if the ratio switches. Men will always have shiny ball syndrome and go for the more accessible woman. Honestly we already have both problems now with the ratio being equal. May as well remain level for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:08 AM
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I mean women are already devalued, at least in my experience so we don't even need more women for that. If anything, it will leave a lot of women alone in peace to live their life stress free. Less sexual harassment. Hmm maybe it's not a bad idea. Because the more women are out there, men don't become a rare commodity, they become more entitled than they already are which may actually blow the whole thing up where most women just decide to switch teams, go asexual or have women run businesses...…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:41 AM
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Hmm if there were more men than women then that would be good for women because sex is less accessible so they are forced to work out, make money and be romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:33 AM
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Yes men would rather have multiple girls and I think women should have multiple men. Men want sexual variety and I know I want romantic variety
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:30 AM
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3 things I can't deal with, fat, short, and bald. But then I met a guy who was fat and I loved him. And remembered that I actually dated guys who were shorter than me. Haven't fallen for a bald guy yet but I'd prefer that over fat and short. I've learned as long as the connection is there, you bend the rules. Sure it's not what I'm looking for but I want love over a head of hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:21 AM
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Yes spontaneity etc is exciting but that doesn't have to mean bad boy. I'm saying the ones who think they need to play the hot and cold mind games are the ones exploiting their trauma. not cool. Respecting boundaries and giving space doesn't have to be hot and cold in a bad way either. Hot and cold are extremes. But that best friend I had was not respecting boundaries. He was pulling me close and then freaking out and going cold. Well he claimed it was cuz he was scared. Who really knows. But I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:49 AM
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Nah I wish it didn't go that way. There's gotta be a healthier way to create attraction but this stuff works in people who had narcissistic parents and we are still unhealed and trying to fix our bf instead of ourselves. It doesn't still work for me...that guy put me thru a lot. I haven't seriously dated in 3 yrs now. Very very very picky now. Tired of the games and I realized it was something I needed to heal from which was why I kept going for men like that. It's not always "I gotta be a bad b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:15 AM
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It works because u have to get us attached first. Once u pull back, we keep hoping that u will return. Then when we start to break away then the guy returns as prince charming once again and its a mind fuck. Just depends how good he is. My ex was great at being an awful person but keeping me around because he was also the best I ever had in ways. Like if ur hot and steady for several months and have a weird episode...we are more forgiving. Just depends on the balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:15 AM
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It works if you give me enough to get attached too. Guess he wasn't "hot" enough. A guy was doing that to me recently and I was upset because I thought I got past all those mind games. I changed his name in my phone for psychological effect and it helped lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 05:07 AM
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No he actually said "women tell me they are afraid of getting attached to me...but then they get a bf after." He wasn't himself. He was who he thought he needed to be based on books and youtube videos. He definitely was not the same guy I met years ago. He changed sadly. He kept thinking I wanted a bad boy because I stayed with my ex when he cheated. But it was more complicated than that. I needed to leave my moms place no matter what. She was extremely abusive and I needed a man as an out so sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:16 AM
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I dont feel monogamy is reasonable anyway. Sounds nice but too many cheaters out there. Idk. I didnt know hysterical bonding is for borderline. Never read that info. Maybe I have that. The guy never commits because why would he? Because I don't give constant sex? The idea is to have full lives. And some people want sex more than the other. Some people have high sex drive. Others don't. A shame we didn't work out. Lots of people think im nuts saying this but he was also the best guy I've ever dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 06:05 AM
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Hmm. So I slept with my ex within a month. Because he courted me, took me on dates, gave me a lot of attention. He seemed serious about me so I felt safe. Plus attraction. Then I had this friend I liked since the day I met him but we were involved with other people. He was cool but then kinda fell down the red pill rabbit hole. Once we were both single, I felt very unsafe with him. He was in and out, very distant, didn't create romance, kinda gave me a booty call vibe. I find him hotter than my …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 06:00 AM
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Can you clarify the last part. I dont see it as objectication but more something called "hysterical bonding". Look up the term if you aren't familiar. My reasoning is coping and not much more if you get psychological. Sex was part of the relationship...and keeping the relationship stimulating takes work. I don't believe in having sex with someone constantly just because we are together. It sounds nice and I get it. But mentally things can turn us off...or even hormones. Lots of factors. Which is…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:16 AM
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And women will sleep with someone as soon as they are comfortable with the guy. It's not always about time but comfortability. And some men get upset with that but don't see there can be certain behaviors that keep a woman on her guard
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:06 AM
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Idk where you come up with these conclusions that I didn't communicate that it hurt. I...objectified him?? We both saw sex as part of the relationship but listen...a partner can't get turned on all day if age, hormones, stress, and pressure etc play a factor. You know some men just don't care if the woman is in pain or not. I told him. But he kept crying about it. Kept getting mad. It hurt because I didn't want it. I would force myself just to find out he was cheating. Yeah me getting turned on …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:11 AM
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So its not that I wanna be with a guy who thinks like that. We usually don't know til it's too late. A lot of guys put on a good front to get what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:06 AM
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Thing is a guy won't tell u what he thinks until you actually do it and u see it in his actions
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:05 AM
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I dont understand your last 2 sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:32 AM
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Monogamy can be hard. But...I was the monogamous one. My sister is a crap role model? I was explaining how men lose interest when you give it up too fast. I have many examples of that happening to women. He was pursuing her and then once she slept with him, and he still wasn't as committed as she wanted, she got clingy so he pulled back. Men do this all the time and it's not because the sex is bad. It's been 15 yrs now. That doesn't make her a crap role model. It proves my point. This theory of …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:26 AM
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Same thing happened with my sister. She was being pursued by a guy who then started treating her like a booty call. She was like hell naw...and now they've been together for 15 yrs with 2 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:10 AM
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Eh...I'd think it was cuz im bad in bed but they still wanted to hook up without strings after. I just think for some men the idea of the girl wears off when she sleeps with them too soon kinda like "oh does she do that with everybody?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:08 AM
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I actually really valued it but not when he's playing video games and bugging me for sex so much that I would do it and it would hurt. Sometimes this is on the man. Not the woman because of her body count. My sister has been with more men than she can count and so is the friend I mentioned. They pair bond just fine. I have trauma they don't have. Which gave me low self esteem. Which made me be with guys that rarely wanted commitment so I was used to "open" even if I wasn't sleeping with anyone b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:40 AM
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What's low to u
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:37 AM
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Both female friend and man friend have no job. They complain all day. They have nothing going for them. I was into him when he had a job. Subconscious thing. He would come home and I'd jump his bones twice a day. The guy lost interest in her because he got tired of her doing absolutely nothing with her life. Sits in her room and scrolls IG and yells at him for not wanting to sleep with her. He was interested in the beginning because well he was also working more at the time so there was distance…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:22 AM
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Trust me I've seen men take me super seriously and court me and look at me like I'm some sort of princess only to lose interest after I give it up before the talk. And that friend of mine wanted to be with me but then kept going back and forth on it. I just wish I didn't get physical so I could have known he was going to do that beforehand. I felt so cheap. If I knew he was wishy washy in the beginning, that would have been great. I believe in mutual pursuing but I don't believe in guys that bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:48 PM
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How many dates is a few? 3 or 4. When a guy wants to have sex then...ugh not into it. Also, of men want their women to have low body count, we can't sleep with every guy that takes us out 3x. That's way too easy. Anyone can take me out 3x. Yes there was a guy waiting for me to make plans and I never did lol. We went no where. Liked him a lot too. Oh well it's for the best. He did coke and i can't go down that road again. I've been taken advantage of a friend once...not at first but after we star…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:52 PM
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They are. It's about maintaining attraction. My female friend is having this issue with her man. He lost interest, because she is not interesting. I say this to a guy I'm with now. "Just because ur around doesn't mean I owe u sex". U can't just keep expecting it because we used to do it. I'm losing interest because he has nothing going on. It's more taking away from me vs adding to the experience. He "needs" me. I don't want that. Add something to my life. Don't take. Don't drain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:30 PM
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It would be nice if end goal wasn't sex because he can get that anywhere. I get men trying to bang me 24/7 so most women are looking for a real connection and you don't really know someone in a few dates. Not at all. I only wait for guys to initiate plans if i have no money because it would be weird for me to make plans and expect him to pay. In the past, it has been me subconsciously pursuing a guy friend and I pay for myself. Of course it's nice to be paid for. Old fashioned and more romantic.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:25 PM
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Yes now only if we focused on both genders able to pair bond instead of just women. We should hold men to the same standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:49 AM
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I know a few promiscuous women that pair bond just fine as long as the dick is good and they like him emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:32 AM
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Hmmm it's not about the bodies but the number of heartbreaks. My sister has been with more men than she can count by the time she was 20. She's been faithful to the same guy since she was 23 for 15 yrs now. I have been with a few guys and have a hard time pair bonding due to trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:26 AM
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Literally. We have 10 other guys willing to put in effort. Good luck indeed. I had a hot guy I was into go red pill, he repelled me away. I ended up being with the guy who was there for me for a whole year. Oh well. Guess who is getting their dick sucked all the time now?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:16 AM
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I was agreeing with u and then adding on another opinion haha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:37 AM
1

Which is why I dont like dates with someone I don't know. I would rather be friends for a while so that he doesn't feel like he is being used and I don't feel rushed. Just personally...dating someone u don't know, and they are putting their best foot forward...its just a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:36 AM
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Period!!! Which begs the question...why am I in these forums wasting my time when I can just go outside and meet normal people?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:19 AM
3

Those men are literally the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:13 AM
1

5th date for kissing is one thing. Sex on 3rd is another imo. I spent 6 hours total with this guy and need to give my body because he spent maybe 150 bucks on me? Idk. May as well hook. That money can go towards my rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:12 AM
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Shouldn't she...bring you joy like your friends do even without sex? Do you have sex with your friends? Or are girlfriends just someone to have sex with? Would be cool do date my best friend but I'm weird
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:05 AM
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And if it isn't, you can drop her like a hot potato THEN. Yeah she won't feel used or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:02 AM
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Idk if I'd wanna be with a guy who can't go celibate for 2 months. Personally that makes me feel he doesn't value the intimacy and would have wandering eyes if he's not getting laid enough by his girl
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:37 AM
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Someone I see once or twice a week for 2 months isn't enough for me to have sex. That's like 2 weeks total. This guy couldn't understand why I didn't sleep with him by month 3...I only saw him every couple weeks (long distance) so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:34 AM
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Men really don't know what it's like to be the one allowing someone into their body. The trust and vulnerability that goes with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:32 AM
2

"I want to wait for a relationship" is kind of self explanatory. Then needing to explain further when men make us feel stupid for wanting love 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:30 AM
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Yesss our time!! Then men wonder why we are still single in our 30s "she was riding the dick carousel!" Uh no...we had men waste our damn time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:28 AM
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Yeah I wonder if he's said he wants to wait 6 months...which to be honest so do I. As friends. You really don't know someone sometimes. My ex had his mask slip at 7 months. If he wants to wait 6 months he should tell her. She'd probably be ok with it. But if she's "doing other things" and doesn't know about his side pieces, that's gross. Ffs u need honesty if ur gonna have true intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:21 AM
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As a chick I wanna wait because it sucks when they pull back after you sleep with them. You feel used and cheap. Having sex when you feel safe and secure with a guy creates better sex. I highly doubt sex with her will be bad or you'd be feeling off when you make out with her already. Unless she has some trauma she hasn't talked about and would be awkward for a bit. It's just weird because a lot of men who say "don't commit before sex" are the same guys mad that she's riding the "dick carousel" b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:47 PM
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This has always been the way, but now we call it for what it is. No fluff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:20 PM
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Hmmm which women are you interested in? 10/10 when you view yourself as a 5? Do you go for 5s? I just feel a lot of men here are hoping for Angelina Jolie or Anna Kendrick but wouldn't go for America Ferrera.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:27 PM
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Yeah idk how old u are but the dating experience is getting worse with time. My sister said "im so glad I missed the generation of dick pics". BTW I currently have a crush on a guy who is your height and about 290. It's not my thing but I'm more of a mental attraction person vs physical. Physical is great in the first 2 days before u know the person. I turned down a guy I was super into, he was so hot, got red pilled, is a total dick now so BLOCKED. Getting thru to women is hard. I was talking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:42 PM
1

Wives are permanent prostitutes for one john. Fight me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:35 PM
1

I'll pursue guy friends on a subconscious level because i feel safe with them. Eventually it becomes a thing. But I knew a guy who decided to red pill himself, showed little attention, would text me to just "come over" and it turned me off completely. I liked him before he did that. A guy laying on the bed waiting for me to come to him shows he has no drive or will. Lazy. Not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:16 PM
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Being pursued and courted isn't chasing...is it? Thats a man taking the lead and showing interest. Chasing is when she doesn't give the same energy back. But I don't make the first move. And a lot of guys think im playing hard to get but they don't see their own actions towards me. I'll even tell them how they are in and out, hot and cold, distant, and i need more to feel safe to sleep with them and they will just deny any odd behavior and get mad at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:10 PM
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It's true. I didn't find my roommate attractive when he was dating this one chick but then he leveled up and all of a sudden I noticed he had biceps lol. It goes both ways im sure. If im with an ugly loser, I lower my value by being with him but if I'm with a stud then I get respect
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:52 PM
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I'm considered hard to get because I like to make sure someone is consistent before I open up, sleep with them, show my feelings, even kiss them. I force myself to kiss on first dates now because I usually don't get a 2nd date if I reject because they take that as a sign I don't like them. But physical contact is special to me and I don't like the whole schedule of "well it's the 3rd date, better have sex now" thing. I have my reasons of being hard to get and it's not out of games but...maybe tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:49 PM
2

Again, wrong. Yes the push pull can drive us crazy but eventually we move on after we realize he's not at work, he's just a dick. If he's fucking other chicks, we'd like to know so we can move on. There is a balance between smothering and blowing up our phones and taking your time so we can feel safe with you and figure out our feelings. I just dealt with this. A guy was blowing me up in the first month, I needed space...realized I liked him...came forward and now he's playing games and complete…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:31 PM
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Hold your seed in. Maybe you're jerking off too much and lost the "scent" or whatever. ? Just an idea. I know guys who have no sexy aura anymore because they have no self control over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:49 PM
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I never thought I'd be into an older fat dude until a couple years ago because he was so driven, funny and seemed secure. That was so sexy to me. Turns out he's very insecure about his looks but I had no idea. You'd be surprised on how little it has to do with your body but how secure you are in it. I know it's hard. I have my insecurities too and I think I push people away because of it and not because of what I believe about men. Idk how big you are but if you can get in a car and walk around …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:03 PM
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Lol no. Earliest was a few weeks because I was trying to get my virginity out of the way for a guy I really liked...hoping he wouldn't be weirded out I was a virgin. He was my best friend for 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:56 PM
1

I swear the hottest men are the ones that focus on themselves regardless of how they look. I know it's hard to switch off the desire to have a woman, but as a woman, I get hit on so much that it's an actual turn off. The guy who wants to be my friend and doesn't bring up sex?? Guess what, I feel comfortable and safe around him and see him as different and eventually, sometimes it takes 6 months because that's just my speed, but I fall for the guy who became my good friend. But you can't just be …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:26 PM
1

They paid for it. That's why u can't get a straight answer
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:21 PM
1

She could be having fun, or could be filling a void. I've had 10 partners. Only wanted to sleep with 2 of them. Societal pressure is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:12 PM
1

Hmm sometimes I wish I had more sex but as a woman it's no use if I'm not feeling a close emotional connection. And then when it doesn't work out I regret it. I'm not one for casual sex personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:07 PM
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I had a long convo with my friend about this the other day. We get to the sex a lot faster if he isn't focused on it. Sure it may take months depending on the type of woman she is but it's better than 100 women running away when we sense it's his goal
/r/ExRedPill27/06/22 02:27 AM
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Secretly abusive aren't good guys. But I know what you mean. It's hard to have boundaries and believe they are valid.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/21 10:00 PM
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I have the same trauma responses you do. I hope to heal as well. I get really jaded but if I think about it, there are good guys out there and i know them personally. But focusing on the trash can magnify.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/21 09:51 PM
5

It's weird that we are labeled cheaters because I feel the same way about men! Divide and conquer lol
/r/ExRedPill15/11/21 10:20 PM
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There's a lot of factors that come to wanting sex especially for a woman because it takes more vulnerability and sometimes our hormones and diet arent cutting it. Plus it can be psychological as well depending on how the guy is behaving. Sooo many factors
/r/ExRedPill12/11/21 05:46 PM
1

Ya it messes with some guys and then they go rage out on u and cheat
/r/ExRedPill12/11/21 03:33 PM
1

My friend wanted help and fell down the rabbit hole and came out bitter, talking AT women and looking at them like someone you had to play mind games with. All because his ex said "sex with you feels like an obligation". It gave him a complex so he wanted to find out how to remain desirable and the internet told him he had to act a certain way (basically distant to keep the attraction) and then he didn't understand why that didn't work on me, it made him more bitter and angry and fragile so he l…
/r/ExRedPill10/11/21 04:00 PM
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It's not about looks it's about character!! If someone makes me feel amazing and the chemistry is there, I'd date them regardless of looks because that attraction is there anyway. I said I'd never date someone older and fat who has been married with kids etc etc I had a whole list of no's but now I'm so into a guy who has all of that because it just clicks.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/21 03:56 PM
1

No!!! I had a bf who treated me like gold and eventually I started thinking "thank God he tolerates me". That's when it clicked
/r/ExRedPill09/11/21 04:20 PM
2

How u gonna be on a date with a man and trash his gender lol
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 01:50 AM
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Ugh I knew a great guy who went down this rabbithole. They dont change. He's brainwashed. And he's gonna tear u down more. Advice (and I know its easier said than done) id take a break and tell him he needs to figure this out. Calling u masculine is gaslighting. He literally wants u to do what he says because for some reason he became extremely insecure lately
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 12:48 AM
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The fit feminine thing is bs if he has been with her for years already. I wouldn't date a guy for years and all of a sudden tell him I need him buff and more masculine. U don't accept someone for yrs and all of a sudden try controlling them. That's abuse. That's the issue.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 12:44 AM
1

That's probably where his insecurity is coming from then. Usually happens when people start getting a complex then he needs u to be submissive and see him as the alpha. Ooof
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 12:41 AM
2

A lot of them suck. I found a good one by calling a famous therapist after reading his book and he found a good one for me. Good luck
/r/ExRedPill03/11/21 07:50 PM
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I hope u get a good counselor. One blamed me for being cheated on because of what I do for a living. As if only strippers get cheated on.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/21 07:36 PM
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I'm sorry. This is horrible. Hes now trying to change you and if he doesn't cut the crap he will turn into an abusive narc. Idk why he decided he needed to do this. I'd leave him but I know it's easy to say that
/r/ExRedPill03/11/21 06:58 PM
1

Forced myself to have sex with a couple dudes I didn't even like just to get over the stigma of being a virgin. Didn't even make me good in bed. I was still terrible and tense but I was more confident to date men. Wish it didn't have to be that way. Looking back I shouldn't have been ashamed. But it helped.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/21 02:58 PM
3

I was a virgin til almost 22 and it was a big hurdle for me to get over. I was so insecure about it. And it created a wall for me to put myself out there.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/21 12:17 AM
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There's a balance. Dont be smothering. Have your own life. This is basic advice. But some men who don't need this advice take it too extreme. I had a guy I was totally interested in but he fell for this advice. I couldn't connect with him at all. A woman who clings to an unavailable man has issues anyway. I'm working on myself and just because a distant man worked before, doesn't mean it works on me now. I love myself now and don't need to recreate my childhood. It only works on women who are tr…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 08:10 PM
5

Man of value...and younger women...I mean its all so gross. They don't see how they're becoming the opposite of who they want to be. They will end up even more lonely. I used to obsess over sex and men as having some sort of worth. I got a perfect relationship that ended up being abusive out of my system and now im totally good never being with anyone ever again. There's so much more to me and life than some other person who may end up hurting you later anyway. I gotta do me to the fullest and s…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/21 07:16 PM
2

Geez this reminds me of a religion where they think there will be 70 virgins for them in heaven
/r/ExRedPill22/10/21 07:07 PM
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Thank goodness you are seeing it now. My friend was 27 when he got sucked into the cult. He can't see that now at 33 he can't get a gf let alone a woman to date him who isn't toxic as well. He had 2 long lasting relationships before that and got into red pill and turned into a huge jerk. Idk when he will wake up. Glad you did
/r/ExRedPill22/10/21 12:35 AM
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No but society tells us that's the norm so im wondering do you not feel that way at all?
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 06:18 PM
10

Do men secretly want to sleep with other women? I heard they're "wired that way" so it's ok
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 06:14 PM
4

Hes brainwashed and won't get it. She should just leave but perhaps she didn't see this behavior until she was already wrapped up in him. It's a shame. She doesn't deserve this but idk if u can even do an intervention because red pilled guys are too defensive and angry. The only thing I was able to do was just leave. He looked and talked at me like I was something to manipulate. It fell on deaf ears
/r/ExRedPill13/10/21 11:59 PM
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I sympathize with insecurities but it's also annoying when men use it as an excuse of why they aren't "desirable". A man is sexy when he is confident in himself. And not fake confidence that turns into narcissism and pua tactics. I know a fat bald guy who is now sexy to me because he's growing into himself with confidence.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/21 06:27 PM
1

They're lost. Cut them off. Lots of normal men out there im sure...lol
/r/ExRedPill16/09/21 09:36 PM
3

My favorite is when they say women don't know what they want. So when I try to explain that I do, and these things are what I respond to, they still think I dont know better. Yeah that's not sexist at all.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/21 09:30 PM
1

Red pill is for people that think the problem lies on women or people in general and that we need to have our guard up and use tactics. What really needs to happen is for people to heal from their life long wounds usually rooted in childhood trauma. Trp is narcissistic and no way to go thru life. Your children won't make make genuine connection with anyone. Some people are bad. Some people are amazing. Heal yourself and love yourself enough that you can create healthy boundaries and not need to …
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 08:36 PM
1

They project. Like the time my mom accused me of things that she was indeed doing. These people need help. Best we can do is ghost them all
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 01:56 AM
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It's like they had a few bad experiences and think they're all narcissistic. It's called shitty parents. Heal from your abusive parents and you won't fall for abusers. Genius.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 01:49 AM
1

I never understood asexual ppl who still had romance but after my trauma and never wanting sex again I totally get it. I still want to cuddle lol
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 10:57 PM
1

At the end of the day I was left by myself anyway lol
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 10:10 PM
1

Omg call me! Lol
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 09:12 PM
1

That and aromantic. I'd be a millionaire by now if I wasnt distracted with love lol
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 09:09 PM
1

What...r u saying women are only interested in sex and men are more interested in love?? Cuz this is the opposite of what I'm taught
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:43 AM
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I mean women call men dogs and pigs so I can't be mad. But Corey Wayne said women are like cats and I find that the most accurate. "U gotta let them come to u". Idk what context this guy was saying women are like dogs tho
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 12:37 AM
1

My stance is we should take sex more seriously. U don't have to be a man to feel that way. The people i know who have had abortions got pregnant because they were flat out irresponsible and hooking up with some rando. Obviously that's not 100% cases but it's a LOT and needs to stop. Women are not the victim. There's a baby in there. But whatever.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/21 08:39 PM
1

I am a woman who has been pregnant twice but ok
/r/ExRedPill04/09/21 08:14 PM
1

No because that's different and actually a very small fraction of why abortions happen. People always use that excuse and I agree that's when a termination should be allowed but everyone wants to use that example to feel better about all the other 97% of abortions.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/21 06:06 PM
1

I have a crazy thought that will get me trashed but here goes...maybe people need to have more morals and take creating life more seriously
/r/ExRedPill03/09/21 09:43 PM
1

Yes the lack of texting turns me off because I don't get to know them and I'm supposed to be in an intimate and physical scenario with them later? There was a guy I was really into until he was red pilled. He stopped texting me unless it was to hang out. Felt very disconnected and gross like a booty call. Naturally I cut him off because he wouldn't listen to what I needed. Probably thought the PUA knows more than women since they always seem to say things like "women dont know what they want". T…
/r/ExRedPill02/09/21 09:09 AM
1

Overthinking it is where they go wrong. I'm one of the chicks that responds to the complete opposite of what RP teaches
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 02:23 AM
2

Definitely easier for women since men literally hit up every single chick trying to get their dick wet. As a woman I have to be prepared that the guy is gonna try to make out on date one, and get laid by date 3. So I can't go out with every dude and get assaulted over and over. Most women dont which is why we don't go out with just anyone. But a guy will because I swear they just need sex to feel loved when women need love to have sex
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 02:19 AM
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What's weird is usually the same amount of people from both genders have to be part of the relationship so I'd say...equal?
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 02:11 AM
1

Honesty, respect and fidelity.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/21 05:32 AM
1

And when u mention the addiction they get super defensive and in denial. They can't part with it
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 04:14 AM
1

What sucks is myself and multiple female friends feel like our dads did something with us when we were young and forgot about it. But it's probably because our dad's are sexist pigs and we sense it early on. We sense they are attracted to us because they are so addicted to lust that they even objectify their own daughters. I wanna scream and shout to fathers that do and say weird things around them how much they are actually effecting their daughters. Their daughters will wonder if they were abu…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 04:13 AM
1

Or "men are weak". We give them so much slack
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 04:01 AM
1

And they are honestly the most emotional men I know. Or at least emotionally unstable
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 03:56 AM
2

There was a guy I knew for 7 yrs. We had a great connection but we were both in relationships. When we were single I noticed he became red pilled. I didn't like these tactics because it seemed very manipulative and I wanted the old guy back but he thought that wasn't good enough. I called him out on the disrespect and he became horrible to me. He apologized months later but I know he hasn't changed so I refuse to speak to him again. I don't know if he will wake up.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 03:53 AM
1

U sound so mad about it tho...red pill has derailed and ur gonna...be mad at us for it? Calmly talk about what it's actually about and don't get ur panties in a bunch
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 03:29 AM
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