Havel68 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
28	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women?		Havel68	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 08:56 PM
22	Harmful red pill video's pushed on YouTube, to pretty much everyone it seems.		Havel68	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/24 11:54 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
–	Saying the average man isn't struggling with dating is like saying the average woman doesn't get raped I'm glad to hear it, as long as you can keep calm and don't let it get to you then cool but do take a break if it does get to you! Take care!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 05:16 PM
–	Saying the average man isn't struggling with dating is like saying the average woman doesn't get raped Personally I think it would be better if this sub was just banned but I do see your point of view. I agree that it is good to challenge your own position on things but I just think this is a bad place to do it and those that most need to hear it never actually do. However it sounds like it isn't harming you in any way so that is reassuring. I think there are women who come here with good intentions and end up negatively affected by engaging with this kind of discourse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 11:15 AM
1	Saying the average man isn't struggling with dating is like saying the average woman doesn't get raped I just don't think the audience here is at all receptive to what women have to say. If women didn't respond this sub would be die a death, men on here post specifically to get attention from women and to a rise out of them not to debate or entertain different points of view.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 10:34 PM
1	Saying the average man isn't struggling with dating is like saying the average woman doesn't get raped You’re totally right but what else would you expect from this sub and the kind of man who frequents it? Do yourself a favour and stop responding to them and their ridiculous posts. I remember reading one comment about how a woman rejecting a man was “reverse rape” and worse than when a woman was actually raped because at least in that case the woman got to have sex, I mean seriously? That is the mentality we are dealing with here so please just save yourself and let them stew in their own juices…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 02:26 PM
34	Why are so many women in their 30s and 40s single, childless, and dissatisfied with their dating prospects? Yeah it’s a lie that women are attracted to older men and that they are more attractive as they age this is simply not true at all. I can’t think of any of my female friends or any women I know who are attracted to older men and I don’t know any who are married to men more than 3 years older than them. I do though know personally of 5 long term marriages where the woman is 12 -18 years older than her husband.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 12:13 PM
–	What is meant by "women live on easy mode"? "womens lives are easier because of a man" There is so much projection in that isn't there? Because in reality is the more often that the reverse is true and that women's lives are harder when they involve themselves with men. In an ideal situation both men and women would be better off in a relationship than apart, I mean that is the point of a relationship. Its interesting that so many women, given how easy it is for them to have so many men thirsting over them and doing anything for them are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 01:54 AM
–	What is meant by "women live on easy mode"? Its a myth some men like to tell themselves. Do young beautiful women get some benefit from that beauty, sure. So do young, attractive men. So do people born rich, who went to the right schools, have the right contacts, have social and cultural capital, have sporting prowess or some other talent. Just because men want to stick their dick in a woman's hole doesn't mean he'll do shit for her. Men on dating apps easily like a woman but will not lift a finger to actually meet or agree a date. Also a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 01:44 AM
2	Does money turn you on? You’ll have to define what you mean by comfortable and extravagant for this to mean anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 12:58 PM
4	Does money turn you on? Yeah money isn’t arousing or sexually attractive. Having enough money to survive comfortably is good But it isn’t a turn on. It just signals your a responsible person, same could be said for women. Life is tough and nobody wants to carry dead weight for no good reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 12:57 PM
–	CMV: I don't think women like men Well the statistics I see are for 40% end in divorce and 60% don't. Like I said you don't care about actual facts you just want to believe what you feel to be true because like a lot of men on here you refuse to accept any accountability and just want to protect your fragile little ego.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 09:36 PM
–	CMV: I don't think women like men That isn't even true for a start as around 60% of marriage do not end in divorce. People get divorced for lots of reasons, they may love a man but he's unfaithful or has addiction issues for example twice as many men as women have substance addiction issues, more than twice the number of women are abused by their partners as men are. Many women are blinded by love when they marry a man and only realise down the line that they and their children would be better off without him. Its also true that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 09:24 PM
–	Modern feminism and online dating have destroyed dating; absolutely nothing to do with TRP, which is simply an acknowledgment of reality. Sucks to be you I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 09:09 PM
–	Modern Women Are Incapable of Accountability Honestly save your breath (or fingers) this guy doesn't care about actual reality only in making it all the fault of the women, he can't get a girlfriend or a woman to like him, well god forbid its his fault its all because of those dammed uppity women and their lack of accountability, this is the clarion call of the manosphere and this guy is drunk on the proverbial Kool Aid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 09:03 PM
–	CMV: I don't think women like men "I don't think women have the capacity to truly have love and real feelings for your average guy" and yet look around you and you will see literally millions of marriages that disprove this. As for the rest of your post, I don't even know where to start, this sub and the many of the men who frequent it are quite seriously messed up, its the same shit over and over. OP its quite possible that women aren't interested in you for reasons that are fairly apparent but don't extrapolate that to everyon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 08:51 PM
–	A bunch of questions for women But it isn’t about what we choose to do rationally I am talking about it’s about what is baked into us biologically as a species. I am also a married, childfree woman but that doesn’t change the basic principle that in our desire to find a mate that women hold more cards than men do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 11:37 AM
–	A bunch of questions for women If you really boil it all down women are just more valuable in terms of reproduction and men are cheap so it’s a no brainier that men have to compete more fiercely and prove themselves in order to gain access to a mate, while women can pick and choose from a list of hopefu suitors. The sooner men here accept that and quit bitching about it the better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 11:11 AM
–	q4w: Are you hoping for the same outcome as your past relationships - with your future relationships? Yeah I love my husband and am very happily married but if anything happened to him it would one take me a long time to get over losing him if I ever did and two I don't think anyone would ever come close to how I felt for him. I'd just focus on my friends, family, work and hobbies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 08:21 PM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women lol don’t bother, it doesn’t matter what you say to them you will still somehow always be in the wrong to them so let them stew.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 11:04 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women It’s not the truth it’s the lie they tell themselves to protect their fragile egos from the truth because if the accepted that they might actually have to put some work in and change. Obviously many of them would rather die alone, untouched and unloved, angry and bitter that do that, sucks to be them I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 11:02 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women Yeah he’s finding out that all that talk about women loving older men was a lie men tell each other and not the truth at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 10:55 AM
8	The honeymoon phase is the only enjoyable part of a relationship Yeah, sounds more like the OP has some major character flaws which his partners are unable to look past once the rose tinted glasses of infatuation come off. Rather than take responsibility for himself and work on his own failings he makes it all the woman’s fault that she is only interested in chasing the high of a new relationship and then he applies his self serving, false logic to all women and all relationship in spite of massive evidence to the contrary. Talk about mental gymnastics, this …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 10:32 AM
–	Studies consistently show that women do not all perceive the same type of men as physically attractive, that a high majority of women prefer long term relationships and that a man’s social status/abilities and economic security are far more important than his looks I think its more likely that men with lots of options feel no imperative to be a decent partner while a man who is punching above his weight probably recognises his good fortune and makes an effort to be a decent partner. But nice try making it seem like women are somehow in the wrong and that their desires to be treated with decency and to have someone who is an actual partner to them as opposed to a liability is nothing but a foolish whim, as you put it. Most amusing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 07:39 PM
–	Studies consistently show that women do not all perceive the same type of men as physically attractive, that a high majority of women prefer long term relationships and that a man’s social status/abilities and economic security are far more important than his looks Well I agreed with you on that but more often attractive women are with less attractive men, in fact there are studies which back this up and even suggest women are happier in relationships with less attractive men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 07:28 PM
–	Do Red Pill men get desensitized to female beauty? I don't know but I've heard red pill men talk about how gross vaginas and women are in general which makes me think they are all in the closet or something, which is sad because there is nothing wrong with being gay man, if you love dick embrace it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 06:43 PM
–	Studies consistently show that women do not all perceive the same type of men as physically attractive, that a high majority of women prefer long term relationships and that a man’s social status/abilities and economic security are far more important than his looks I think you are right that people do pretty much go for others at their own level so to speak but it isn't as simple as that with women a conventionally attractive woman who was attractive to most men could still easily like or prefer a man who are is as conventionally attractive, I see it all the time. With my female friends I'm like why would she choose him when that other guy is into her and she could easily be with him, it doesn't compute but we all have our little idiosyncrasies. As for the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 06:41 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? Why would anyone be applauded for doing the bare minimum I.e. earning a living and doing a a decent job at wiping up your own shit but you better believe that men expect a pat on the back for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 06:05 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? I wasn’t angry, I was having a laugh but it’s even more amusing to see how much I’m winding you up. Also I can’t imagine anyone is as miserable or pathetic as you for getting angry at a wee married women just enjoying some laughs at you when your supposedly a big strong red pill man. See this is the thing, you all talk a lot but have zero to back it up, your all very sad little men who I am not surprised have no luck with women. It would be quite tragic if it wasn’t so funny.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:49 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? Suck it up loser, and stay mad, I’m just having a wee laugh at you all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:19 PM
–	Studies consistently show that women do not all perceive the same type of men as physically attractive, that a high majority of women prefer long term relationships and that a man’s social status/abilities and economic security are far more important than his looks I personally don’t think that status and money are super important in that I’d want a man to be high status and rich but more that a man who is hard working, reliable, uses his gifts, it trust worthy, doesn’t succum to addiction is more likely to attain a better income and perhaps some status in his field and community. The same would be true for a woman. We don’t all want the rich man with a garage full of flash cars we want someone who isn’t a bum, who contributes as we do, who is reliable and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:18 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? lol, I am married you idiot. Being married doesn’t mean I don’t get a laugh out of reading this Sub though, but keep at it you‘re only digging your own grave in my opinion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:01 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? lol, the only thing I ever learn from this sub is that a lot of guys here have a screw loose (which is putting it kindly) and that women are right to avoid any guy who is red pill or red pill adjacent or even right wing traditionalist like the plague. Thank goodness for the internet so we know who and what to avoid 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 04:47 PM
–	If both partners work, what are men's expectations for a wife/mother? Also in reality if you ask a man to do a job like cleaning a room, vacuuming or even washing dishes nine times out of ten they do an incomplete job. They run the vacuum over the floor but don’t actually look to see if they are picking stuff up or use the tools to get the edges. They will wipe visible surfaces but let dirt accumulate under appliances or rinse the tub but not actually scrub the tub first so it’s still dirty. They will wash dishes but not scrape the plates first and leave the sink …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 04:39 PM
–	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I think a lot of men expect a woman to look after him and to recapture that sense of being loved and taken care by mommy as a young child. I do think that we all both men and women are to some extent seeking to recapture that feeling of being safe and loved and looked after in a partner. You lose me on the men expe partnership and women don’t offer that. On the contrary women seek a partner and an equitable partnership but then feel left high and dry by the men they enter into relationships with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 04:25 PM
–	Why don't you approach men? I low agree with this, Ive never experienced or known women going after the guy to work out well. If a guy really wants you then he’ll move heaven and earth to make it happen and make the relationship work. That’s the guy to go for, the one who is totally and genuinely into you not some guy who thinks you’re better than nothing. The cost of relationships is much higher for women then it is for men so they need to know the guy is all in and he has to be the one to put his neck on the line, it’s t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 12:41 PM
–	Women in American society are poor prospects. True, as a European I grew up thinking the US was "the dream". Now I thank my lucky stars I wasn't born there and don't have to live there. Its not even that great to visit, sorry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/24 09:35 PM
–	The 4B movement won't work because most of us already don't get laid It is ultimately a personal choice by the women doing so, many are angry and lashing out at men but really it’s more about protecting themselves from unwanted situations with unwanted people. I agree that it won’t make too much difference like all those Mgtow guys whoever the fuck they are? I’ve never missed them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/24 03:56 PM
–	Opinion: Biggest benefit of dating men over women Yeah I kind of agree with my parents it was my mum who would actually apologise and my dad would do stuff like buy flowers and try to make it up to her without actually apologising. I saw the same thing with guys I was dating they just never said sorry and so many would have just ended up finished after the first argument if I wasn’t the one to make peace first. Are therecwomen who don’t say sorry sure but is this a gendered thing, I don’t think so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/24 03:53 PM
10	Do you think it aligns with liberal progressive beliefs to view men as inherently more dangerous or predatory? I also think most women (except those who have been traumatised know most men aren't trying to harm them it is just that you never know which one will so it ends up that you treat all men with caution and keep them at arms length and are not especially friendly. It sucks but it is genuinely something women learn from a young age from experience i.e smiling at that guy on the bus that time you were 14 got you assaulted or harassed. Its hard because men complain women are cold and unfriendly, acti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 08:57 PM
–	Would you rape a woman if it was guaranteed you’d get away with it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 11:28 AM
7	Has TRP affected your willingness to date? I’m glad to be aware of the red pill manosphere crap some men buy into. If a man displays even a whiff of that shit (and they always do) then he automatically disqualifies himself from my time and attention, a man like that just doesn’t exist to me, he’s nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 12:19 PM
4	The shy girl-next door will often come out on top in the dating game I met the man I’d marry quite young but I kind of agree. I was rejected by guys for being too quiet and not cool or edgy enough with some trying to shape me into dressing and acting like the kind of girl they wanted to be with. Some of this was just affectation on their part they wanted a certain kind of girl to enhance their own image of themselves, at that age they didn’t know who they were really and they thought they might be one of these cool party people with a huge gang of mates doing wil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/24 11:19 AM
4	The shy girl-next door will often come out on top in the dating game There is a lot of nuance here. You can be a quiet introvert who enjoys reading and being at home while still enjoying adventures like travelling to interesting places and hill climbing (I know I do). Also this kind of woman (or man) doesn’t have to be boring or clingy, in fact introverts are often pretty self sufficient and like to be left to their own devices on a regular basis. Having said all that it is important for people to consider compatibility. I don’t mind a bit of socialising and the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/24 11:10 AM
2	The reason women don’t value sex I feel like every post on here is just the same guy posting the same thing over and over in a slightly different way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 08:12 PM
11	Anal and blowjob only way man can be safe in abortion situations. I think the OP should really abstain from all sexual contact with women just to be on the safe side!	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 08:10 PM
1	"Preselection" is one of the dumbest things i've ever heard. I think it is more that a man who has a lot of attractive traits and appeal to the lowest demographic i.e. a rapper or a footballer for example will attract multiple women who have little going on internally and so they fall in line with what their peers are into and getting a particular man is a way of proving their value especially if it means beating another woman out for the attention of a man. However most women are not like this, but women who aren't are just less visible in general they a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 05:43 PM
1	escorts are the best option for a lot guys. relationships are risky and very likely to fail. better to fix some binds and tap on some shoulders. Men who use escorts are not part of my reality, I wouldn't touch them with somebody else's.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 12:31 PM
1	Question for the ladies I'm not a shag bag for some guy who is bored with his wife or can't get her affection to relieve himself into. I get that a lot of men would be into this set up but I can't think of any decent women who would be regardless of how much they may have once liked the guy. The whole thing is gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 12:28 PM
1	What about class? I think people can move up the class system in the UK but not in a single generation it takes at least two, maybe three and a ton of support from the parents. Still what else is there? If you're having kids and can't provide that chance for them you're pretty much damning them to a life of misery unless things drastically change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/24 07:55 PM
2	What about class? I think there was a bit more possibility of class mobility in the immediate post war era but that has been on the decline since the 70's although the myth of meritocracy still persists. From a middle class persons point of view I think it makes sense in that in the UK at this point it takes more than a good education and a good job to provide what would be considered a middle class lifestyle and upbringing for any children it also now requires intergenerational wealth, which always existed but i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/24 07:39 PM
16	What about class? I agree with this, I am from a working class background but I went to a good university, and dated boys from middle class backgrounds there. In the end they always ended up looking down on me and my family background. I'm in the UK where class is probably more of a sticking point than in other places.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/24 09:01 PM
3	Women who keep sentimental gifts of their exes - could we call this an Alpha Widow? I've been with my husband since I was 18 and only had one boyfriend prior to him. I still have a few things my ex gave me a couple of non fiction books which I still refer to, a carved box and some jewellery. Non of it is out of sentimentality for that guy its just because I liked the items or found them useful, its probably that I told him what I wanted if he asked anyway. The other things he gave me I just got rid of in due course as I was done with them. I don't have any photos of him althoug…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/24 04:11 PM
8	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. You should become a drug addled alcoholic then, live on the streets and get with a homeless junkie woman! Nobody is stopping you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/24 03:57 PM
10	Older men dating younger women: A youngish woman's perspective Actually I remember reading (it may have been that study or another one) that women prefer men their own age up until they hit about 40 and after that they start to prefer younger men and it stick at about mid 30's for the most part. I think many women are realistic and know younger men aren't the best match for them across the board so they weight finding men their own age after 40 against being a similar life stage, same cultural memories and so on. I think this is about right most young women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 09:15 PM
2	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Thanks!	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 05:01 PM
3	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Thanks, that is interesting to hear I think many guys who start believing the red pill stuff and trying to put the advice into practice probably do end up losing the woman they are trying to keep by controlling them. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that in reality that must have sucked but glad you are now free!	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 05:01 PM
2	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Thanks for those links I will look at them for sure.	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:58 PM
1	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Yeah I think that is true, I saw that a few of these guys have been exposed one way or another and for a lot of them its just about the money. I think there is this one guy called sandman who just gets paid by men to rip into women in which ever way he's been directed to by his paying customer. Its very creepy.	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:56 PM
2	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? I suppose it is possible that people have been affected by online dating in a way that isn't easy to understand if you aren't doing that.	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:55 PM
2	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? I think I know who that is, I saw his videos and yeah that advice to women to be as slutty as possible with men in order to audition for the role of girlfriend or wife is the worst advice I think I've seen. That man also was interviewed on Diary of a CEO where he spoke about how he didn't need a woman he was with to have anything to talk about or a connection because he had friends for that he just needed her to be hot and sexual. He's also a man who looks to be in his 50's and is unmarried and …	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:53 PM
5	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? I do logically know that but sometimes that kind of negative energy can have a pull. I can't imagine how much of an effect it must have on young men.	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:24 PM
3	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Thanks I have saved his channel and will watch some of these videos later!	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:23 PM
1	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Yes thank you this is helpful indeed.	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/24 04:22 PM
9	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Really I didn’t even know that, my Dad is Jewish so that’s just a big no non for me.	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 11:20 PM
4	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Yeah I think you are right!	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 09:19 PM
2	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Yeah I'm trying to do that!	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 09:12 PM
7	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? I know that but it does get under my skin at times like I read the crap on purple pill debate and it just really angers me at times. If I could just always ignore it 100% of the time I wouldn't be posting here.	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 09:09 PM
5	The negative impact of red pill ideas on women? Logically I know that but something in that content is definitely triggering me. I'm not in danger of becoming red pilled I just end up giving it too much head space.	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/24 09:04 PM
–	Q4W: How do you feel about a guy “expressing his feelings” to you? I told him I thought he was living in a fantasy world and never to say anything like that to me again. He didn’t make a physical pass at me and honestly the guy doesn’t have the best mental health and so I kept what he said quiet as my husband and his brother are this guys oldest friends and he needs them. Now we just stay out of each others roads and he seems to have a nice girlfriend now so it’s all in the past but yeah it must have been embarrassing for him and it was uncomfortable for me. Ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 10:01 AM
–	Q4W: How do you feel about a guy “expressing his feelings” to you? I really don’t know, it was just after one of the lockdowns and to be fair many people went a little crazy at that time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 09:51 AM
–	Q4W: How do you feel about a guy “expressing his feelings” to you? Yeah big declarations of love to someone you aren’t with are kind of a form of oneirism, strictly in the realm of fantasy and it can be quite disrespectful. Like my husband’s friend telling me he loved me while my husband is upstairs on a teams meeting, like dude what are you thinking??? Same could be said for women who do this, it actually smacks of narcissism that anyone would think that would be appropriate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 09:41 AM
–	I think women could possibly be socialized to be more willing to date shy guys. Thats why I prefered to meet me though friendship groups, university and so on. not on apps or online. That provides a kind of pre-vetting. Also a guy who has the balls to ask you out even if he is shy in a situation where people you both know will know about it, that’s also a green flag about the guy. It doesn’t matter if you buy it, this is advice for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 05:14 PM
–	I think women could possibly be socialized to be more willing to date shy guys. I think you are probably right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 03:53 PM
–	I think women could possibly be socialized to be more willing to date shy guys. My husband is really shy by nature but he liked me so so much he knew he couldn't afford to let me slip away so he asked me out. That's all you need to do. That and don't be a dick if she says no. I don't generally advocate women asking men out because if a woman isn't interested in a relationship with a guy she will usually reject the man but men who aren't interested in a relationship with a specific woman are much more likely to accept the woman's advances even if he isn't interested in her a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 03:53 PM
–	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? You don’t get it do you? I’m not trying to debate him or you or even talk to you at all, your take on what I say or how I respond is irrelevant to me. I’m only talking to women who might make the mistake of listening to men here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 09:21 AM
1	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? I get that you want to be able to take me down a peg or to and two and hurt me but I have no respect for you or anything you might say or think so don't even bother. For any woman who might be reading, do you see what is happing here? Can you see how pathetic and inconsequential these men and their puny little ideas are? Do yourself a favour and block them all out of your life, just don't given them any of your time or energy, don't waste a moments worry about their opinions of you because they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 04:53 PM
1	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? Like I said above, I really don't care about what you think or say so you can save your breath, I'm only here to warm woman not to listen to what you say or to care about what you think and to stay away from men like you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 04:49 PM
-2	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? What you think about what I say is of no consequence to me, I'm only here to warn women away from men like yourself and to remind them to pay no heed to anything you say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 04:02 PM
-4	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? I don’t hate men I‘m very happily married and have good men in my life which means I’m good at avoiding losers and abusers, the kind of men who mainline red pill shit. It’s my advice to all women to wake up when they smell the red pill shit off any man and high tail it out of there. That man will never will never be any good to her or be able to have a healthy mutually satisfying relationship. I’m not surprised you don’t like me saying that when men like you want women weak so you can victimise …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 10:33 AM
-3	Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV? OP don’t worry about it, you don’t want the men who think like this anyway, it is dehumanising so if you are seeing a guy and get even a tiny whiff of red pill type shtick just dump him, block him and move on, only losers and abusers go for that crap.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 11:36 PM
4	Is male anger towards women just a result of men not getting laid enough? This is 100% my findings as well, there was even An attempt to find a biological urge to reproduce and they couldn’t find it because for millennia the urge for sex and to pair bond took care of that and babies were a reliable outcome of those drives. There is also mammalian urge to care for their offspring in females but this only occurs after conception and birth. What they found that when people spoke of an urge to have a child was that it was really more psychological i.e. Social pressures, c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 11:46 AM
–	I dont think the two genders will ever agree and here is why. lol, another self own from the OP 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/24 06:55 AM
–	I dont think the two genders will ever agree and here is why. Yeah, he’s really not interested he just wants to bitch and moan about women. His OP is the biggest self own I’ve seen on here in at least a couple of days 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/24 12:08 AM
–	How much do you think is your "negative" version of other side is made by "thought germs" mutating in your group? That's up to you of course perhaps look into negative attachments if you ever start to feel differently. But you really cannot change these men its all only stirring anger which perpetuates and feeds their hatred. The best way to annoy misogynists is to not give them the oxygen your your attention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:44 PM
–	How much do you think is your "negative" version of other side is made by "thought germs" mutating in your group? This sub is a very negative place and there is enough negativity in the world for women without engaging in it here. I would gently encourage any woman to stop coming here because it is pointless by coming in and trying to engage we are only encouraging them and its time to stop, Let them stew themselves and lets focus on our own joy and happiness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:38 PM
–	How much do you think is your "negative" version of other side is made by "thought germs" mutating in your group? I just think no woman should actually be here interacting if I am honest. These men are right in some ways we women all have better options and better things to be doing than allowing the negativity of the sub to taint us. Why would any woman give these men the gift of her time and attention is beyond me, I am only here to encourage women to walk away and disengage from this space.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:35 PM
–	How much do you think is your "negative" version of other side is made by "thought germs" mutating in your group? I think this can happen, for example this sub could be infuriating if you let it be but you have to just let it go. There is zero point in engaging in debate here or trying to change anyone's mind online. The fact is the kind of people who say stuff on here are irrelevant to me, my life and my goals. If some people are bitter, resentful and angry then let them be, let them stew in their own juices, it isn't my problem. That goes double for real life interaction with people who spread negativity.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:32 PM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Maybe if she is over 40, in which case many women are choosing to be single after being stuck with crap husbands for potentially decades but we are talking about young women who end up single in their late 20's to early thirties, those women can find new partners and husbands without much issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 08:45 PM
2	What are PPD’s thoughts on Richard Reeves’ comment that childless and wifeless men comparatively “do terribly”? I don't know most of the women I know are educated to Masters level or have doctorates so I don't know any who are looking to be housewives, I suppose it may depend on the circles you move in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 04:48 PM
4	What are PPD’s thoughts on Richard Reeves’ comment that childless and wifeless men comparatively “do terribly”? Your personal arrangement is between you and your spouse. Most women work and want to work and are often times the higher earner these days and are still expected to do the majority of the domestic labour and childcare, that is unfair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 04:35 PM
7	What are PPD’s thoughts on Richard Reeves’ comment that childless and wifeless men comparatively “do terribly”? I know quite a few childfree couples in their 30's, 40's and 50's who have been together since collage and they seem pretty happy to me. I know this is a hard fact to understand but not everyone wants the same things out of life. I wanted kids and I had them and I love being a mum but not everybody does, here is another shocker for you some people have kids and straight up regret it, like hate every minute of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 01:35 PM
6	What are PPD’s thoughts on Richard Reeves’ comment that childless and wifeless men comparatively “do terribly”? Well then men need to do 50% of the domestic labour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 01:31 PM
0	A guy has a reasonable chance to date a younger woman is he actively tries to, age gap relationships are nowhere near as unusual as the Blue Pillers here say I know quite a few age gap couples which have been really successful but they are all couples where the woman is significantly older than the man so between 8 and 18 years age difference, all long lasting, happy, many with kids and married. I don't know any where the man is significantly older, there was one where he was with a woman 7 years younger in his early 30's (he left his wife he had kids with for her) but she left him after a few years and married someone else he is on his own now as hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 01:27 PM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Well I met my husband when I was 18 and we married out of college but that was very rare, even then. I am in Europe and I would say that across the western world as a whole most young people going to their parents at 21 and saying they wanted to get married to their boyfriend / girlfriend of 3 or 4 years would be strongly advised to wait. So anomalous areas or individuals don't really change the conversation for the culture at large.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 12:58 PM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years lol, nice try!	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 12:40 PM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years What is different about that from a woman seeking a man with the wherewithal to provide for her and her kids. If your going to call women gold diggers then I can just as easily call men gold diggers which they are. Why is it only gold digging if a woman expects the man to offer something in return for all she does for him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 11:19 AM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Their beauty, their fertility, their domestic labour, their emotional labour, their childcare, their money, the social status they impart on men just by being with them, if the woman has any property or assets then they look to make use of that as well, the list is endless. These are all values and resources a woman has or may have that a man wants to use for his own benefit, men are the original gold diggers. Whatever a woman has a man will take it and use it to better his own life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 11:01 AM
3	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Except this isn't true at all is it? Women come out of one long term relationship and then get married to the next guy all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:43 AM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I know they just change with the wind on here, I actually think women should just stop engaging with the men here because it doesn't matter what the situation is the woman is always in the wrong and undeserving of any sympathy, they will do a 180 on what they just said so that they can hate on the woman under any circumstances, they just hate women so why do we even bother with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:40 AM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I don't think you know what consummate means and if the sex is a no go the annulment is on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:36 AM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I am not sure I agree, I know loads of couple who were together through Uni then their 20's and finally after a bit of wrangling get married in their early to mid 30's and go on to have kids, it is pretty normal actually. The issue is that the women who wait it out and the guy then leaves after 10 - 12 years together loses in a big way. Not only is she now single in her early 30's with her fertility counting down but she is also burdened with a huge amount of emotional baggage. That woman is in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:32 AM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years There is always annulment, if you can't consummate the marriage then you were never really married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:27 AM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years People have always been having premarital sex, anyone with an education who has read fairly widely will know this. The difference is that a pregnancy would usually result in marriage. Was it better back then? Probably not, although we have different difficulties now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:26 AM
3	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Perhaps she loved the guy? We're always hearing how ruthless women are and how they don't truly love men and only care about men for what they can give them but if she actually loves someone even though she is getting shitty deal then she is stupid dope who doesn't deserve any sympathy. Women cannot win with men here. In reality many women are like Emily and get strung along for 10 years and eventually the guy does marry them, and they get the family and the life long relationship but its a big …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:22 AM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years In my observations it is much easier to get a man to commit and marry within the first 2 years of dating i.e. the honeymoon or infatuation stage that may not be the wisest move but it is one of the best ways to ensure marriage. If people could actually be rational then they would be able to see reality as it is and then make a rational choice for themselves but unfortunately people are driven by fear, or what feels good in the moment or are just plain lazy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:16 AM
7	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I think this is true, many men complain about women's standards being to high when they themselves are delusional about the kind of women they could get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:12 AM
2	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Like men aren't also gold diggers looking to mine a woman for every resource she has to offer him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:11 AM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years In the specific case of couples that meet when very young so late teens and early 20's culturally in the west it isn't really acceptable to get married very young anymore especially for degree level educated people. Men are much more amenable to marriage in the earlier stages of a relationship i.e. the honeymoon stage which lasts around 18 months to 2 years. If you look at the past it was pretty common for couples to start courting then be married with a baby on the way within about 2 years. Now…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 09:59 AM
7	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years True but a lot of men are delusional about what they can get, there is a good chance that the cute girlfriend who can make nice muffins is the best he will ever get but he still this fantasy of himself scoring with Instagram baddies if only he get jacked enough, had a different car or a better paid job. By the time he realises that is never going to happen his cute girlfriend is long gone and hopefully married to someone else or as can happen is now messed up and bitter over how he used and disc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 09:40 AM
9	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I've certainly seen a good deal of this in my peers i.e. the college couple who are to all extent and purposes loved up, committed and compatible but the guy has to be pushed pretty hard to finally pop the question. I'd say that most of the time the guy in question does finally propose especially if the long term girlfriend actually breaks it off with him and he realises he's about to lose the woman he loves unless he acts to make her his wife. I'd say that it could be in a woman's interests to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 09:28 AM
8	Divorce is Contagious I suppose a woman might be in an abusive marriage with a husband who treats her like crap and doesn't lift a finger around the house but she feels like she couldn't cope alone then her cousin or workmate gets a divorce and is ok, struggles a bit but is no longer being treated like crap or left to do everything around the house for her kids and another adult. So that woman sees that it is possible to leave and be ok, I can see that happening. What isn't happening and what the OP implies is that w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 03:13 PM
5	Women who spent your 20s discovering yourself, what did you discover? I think its when someone only sees a woman though that lens i.e. her sexuality, to them so that is all that counts in their mind perhaps or that is what they would do if they felt they had the option but for most women it is just a part of life not the whole of it, we have lots of other things we want to do with our lives!	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 09:28 PM
8	Women who spent your 20s discovering yourself, what did you discover? Yeah yours too! I don't know what some people image we get up to, we have more in our brains than just getting male attention!	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 08:49 PM
10	Women who spent your 20s discovering yourself, what did you discover? I also got my BA and MA degrees, I moved to Prague, lived in Dublin and London, travelled everywhere. Trained and worked as a cinematographer. Met many people, got fit and strong, I was in a band, I built a telescope, learned how to cook, read many books, retrained as an illustrator which which is what I do now. I wasn't "slutting it up" I have been in a relationship with the same guy since I was 18, not that it would be any bodies business if I had.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 08:45 PM
2	Korean men are turning to AI to get dates for them This is the dumbest shit I ever heard and I've seen a ton of dumb shit on here. Now only will women cop on to this immediately but they will hate it and it will instantly negate any change a guy would ever have had with them, its like these guys just doubled down on being everything women were rejecting them for in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 08:55 PM
–	Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic man Also social class, in the UK where I am it is quite unusual for people to marry outside the social class they come from regardless of where life takes them, performers and artists are the main exception to this I'd say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/24 08:59 PM
1	Men who are decidedly not attracted to overweight women, how do you feel about women of healthy weight but large frames? There is no point in worrying about what random men think of you, their opinions on you and your appearance are totally irrelevant. You are fit and healthy and have a partner who finds you attractive so what randoms on the internet or irl think of you or your body type is unimportant. Even if you were single it is still irrelevant, you can't change your frame size even if you wanted to so all you can do is be yourself and find someone who likes you as you are. The men who reject you or think you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/24 10:27 AM
4	At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore? Well my background is Catholic so that may be a factor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/24 07:23 PM
7	At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore? I think about 90% of adults I know over the age of 25 are coupled up and most have kids. Even at younger ages most still have long term boyfriends or girlfriends and will probably get married at some point. So I think that most people are still getting married and having kids where I am.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/24 07:20 PM
0	The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest. As a woman if you do say to a guy I like you a lot and I'd like to go out with you get to know you better then 9 times out of 10 that man will use that opportunity to get what he can from you whether he likes you or not. Even if he isn't all that into you, if he doesn't think you are especially attractive or cool, even if he hates you he'll still be interested in having sex with you and getting what he can from you, using you as a place holder or whatever until he can get a girl he really likes.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/24 08:51 PM
1	Dating would be a lot easier if men would NOT settle for women they aren't attracted too I think most people can be attracted to a variety of types and aren't restricted to one exact body type, skin tone or look.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 07:44 PM
–	Here are two perfect examples of how women will brush off even top tier men out of their league You do understand that these are both fictional don't you OP? You do understand what fiction is? I hope the OP is just trying to wind us up here otherwise, yikes!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 07:07 PM
–	Would you date a broke man? My Husband and I were both broke students when we met, then he worked a warehouse job for a couple of years after graduation before he went to Dublin to get work in his field. It meant that we had to be long distance for a year but we saw each other every 3 weeks and made it work. It was years before either of us had any money, we are both from working class backgrounds and first in our families to go to university. People here will tell you different I think but many women don't need or want a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/24 09:33 PM
8	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? I dislike the whole alpha male schtick myself, it never feels genuine it always comes across like a performance and reeks of insecurity rather than just being upfront that you may not know what to do in a particular situation. I like someone who is an equitable partner, someone who has the initiative to make a decision on his own if he needs to and as I can but who will also discuss and talk things though with me most of the time. If someone just assumed they were boss, well I wouldn't be in a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 04:11 PM
9	RPers who refuse to simply Go Their Own Way, why? I think red pill gives some men who have had bad experiences lets say a sense of control and a way to externalise blame, that is why it is seductive to so many men and that is why so many predatory men make monetised red pill content because they know confused, angry men with give such content their time and attention. There is some good advice in there to be fit and healthy as you can to develop skills and grow as a person without being bounced about by what you think others want you to be is g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 06:51 PM
–	Most relationships end because men take advantage of their partner and stop putting in effort. Lots of women also like peaceful lives but they need a partner who will at least be a grown up and not treat her like an unpaid skivvy and will show her some love and tenderness. I agree its unreasonable of women to expect the princess treatment and if they need that to feel into a relationship then its kind of a bust anyway but quite a lot of men do put on an act of to get a woman then just switch off and expect her to take care or him his home the kids to contribute financially and be availabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 06:43 PM
–	Most relationships end because men take advantage of their partner and stop putting in effort. Not every woman does its nice to know you are liked but that works both ways and what really counts is what happens after that point. Women who expect to be wooed in a big way with loads of extravagant romantic dates, gifts and so an are unreasonable to expect that. It isn't a natural way to be and if you need that to feel invested then you probably don't like the guy all that much. Sure its nice to push the boat out once in a while but when you really love and enjoy each others company an eveni…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 06:37 PM
3	A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that. When a woman gets into a serious relationship and especially if she has kids she is basically signing up to a life of servitude and in many ways she is putting her dreams and desires on the back burner for potentially decades, not to mention the potential for serious harm to her body and health. For many women this is worth it, motherhood may be their dream, but parenthood is hard and can unfulfilling drudgery in the day to day. Single women side step all this and have more autonomy to live as t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 09:39 PM
10	Do you need to have seen a man's flirty/sexual side before you can want him? I agree and even when I did like a guy it wasn't ever like "oh I want him" sexually it was more that I thought he was nice, cute and sweet and wanted to get to know him better it wasn't overtly sexual, it was more romantic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 10:59 PM
1	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? I think most women's concerns about this kind of thing are more based on them looking back and remembering times when they felt they were taken advantage or or manipulated when they were young and put in positions where they felt things were out of their control. Its do do with how women are socialised as well, so making excuses for people and to be obliging, women know that many younger women will end up going along with things that aren't what they really want or are not in their best interest…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 08:48 PM
8	Do older men 35+ have trouble dating woman in their mid 20’s? Personally at 25 I would have found men that age way too old for me and so would my friends, I certainly remember we would share horror stories of men that age trying to hit us up and cringe about it. Even if they are attractive men most women just prefer men around their age so if you are 35 and want to date a 25 year old you need to try and find the very rare young woman who would be prepared to date a man approaching middle age as this is what 35 is to a 20 something. To be honest I can not t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 08:19 PM
3	Can you prove women's alleged "mental load"? Isn't this one of the reasons married men live longer because their wives basically pester them to go to the doctor when something isn't right? Left to their own devices many men, not all but many just don't see a doctor when they need to. I know a few (single) men who actually died because they didn't see a doctor in good time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:39 PM
1	Why are women very uninterested in dating/sleeping with younger men Bingo!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:22 PM
3	Why are women very uninterested in dating/sleeping with younger men So assuming that he isn't too much younger my expectation would be that it isn't going to go anywhere, that if I got involved with someone younger and got attached, fell in love I'd probably only get hurt when they left due to being at a different stage of life and not wanting to settle down at the same point as me or I might think that while I would be happy cosying up at home much of the time they would want to be out partying which is fair enough but I would anticipate that as a source of pot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:22 PM
–	"Everybody dies alone" No shit, but a lot of men are spending their prime years alone I don't think its hustle and grind or women's standards to just be out in the world, that used to be normal for everyone. If you wanted to study you went to college, in person, evening classes in person, you hung out with friends in person, hobby groups were in person even if you were a geek you'd be at your battle re-enactment group or astronomy group. If you worked you'd be there in the flesh. Now its easier for people to be in their own little bubble and yes it is a comfortable place to be bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 04:29 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? I do agree with you in many ways although I'd say that promiscuous people can be successful male and female and they may be stable in other parts of their lives. I do think though that people will be happier in relationships where they are on the same page about this and across the board, that is what compatibility is. I also think you can say "not for me" without condemning how others live their life but equally they shouldn't get bend out of shape for getting knocked back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 03:14 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Well I think that the "insecure" aspect is that a lot of men are worried how they will measure up to the woman's previous partner or at least that is the perception and it is something I've seen echoed online spaces it is also often issued as a judgement, that a woman is trash because she is promiscuous. For me it isn't about worrying how I'd compare and more a concern for my health and common sense about where someone is at mentally and emotionally at that time of their lives. It may not bother…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 03:04 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Yep, I've been actively put off dating guys I know are promiscuous, it isn't a moral thing but more that I suspect they are more likely to have STD's and that they are less likely to be a good partner at least in that "phase" of their life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 02:12 PM
1	Do you feel like you actually have an advantage over men in terms of relationships? Yeah I think we all need to cut each other some slack over stuff that happens when we are young as relationships at that age are a way to learn, to begin to understand what we want or don't want. Most of us will experience getting dumped, rejected and so on and at that age it seems so intense but really its just cause its all new and we're all learning. When you get older you can see how those experiences were useful but not all that important in terms of the actual relationship. Its not always …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 01:37 PM
1	“It is a red flag to date a woman who accepts you as you are, because it means you won’t reach your full potential” do you agree or disagree ? I do think some men do like women who will take them in hand and boss them around and push them. I remember Dustin Hoffman saying that a man has to be afraid of his wife. Personally I disagree, I think a "different strokes for different folks" situation. Some men like that others prefer someone more easy going or someone who will be an equal partner. I do think that in a healthy relationship couples should be able to talk and that its not unreasonable for either party to being attention to harmf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 01:21 PM
2	Do you feel like you actually have an advantage over men in terms of relationships? I think it can be easier for a woman to get a date but as far as getting a relationship not so much. I think sometimes as men will cast quite a wide net when it comes to women and they will get involved with girls they might not actually like all that much and so they seem really keen until you actually start dating them and then they are like you should dress like this, wear your hair like that, be into this stuff, I wish you were more like so and so, you're too fat, you're too skinny, you aren…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 01:15 PM
7	Can you prove women's alleged "mental load"? Very well said for domestic and family stuff the buck always stops with the woman, when my partner had joint pain I tried to make an appointment with his doctor but the receptionist told me sorry the patient needs to call himself (UK NHS) so I told him to call himself but you need to call at 8am to get an appointment (UK NHS) and would he do it? No he wouldn't. So weeks go by of me reminding him to make an appointment and we are at his families for his Mother's birthday so everyone is there, he …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 10:51 AM
5	How quickly do women know they want to pursue a relationship/sex with a man? Yeah I'm the same, I need to get to know someone in a kind of neutral context to know if I am attracted to them which is why app's don't work. I don't know if all women are the same mind you but I typically only get attracted to and want to date men I have gotten to know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 09:35 PM
2	Women, How Often Do You Run Into An Attractive Man In Real Life? Yep same here I was out today in town for about 4 hours running errands and I can't say I remember any male I saw but I didn't really remember any women either, I was just focused on what I had to do. I think in every shop I was in I used the self service till as nobody was on the serviced till. I also work from home so I don't see people day to day and like another poster on here said I am not really attracted to guys just by looking at them. When I've been attracted to men in the past its usua…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 08:22 PM
–	Men are still expected to be the breadwinners in an age where young women out-earn young men [Resubmitted for wrong flare] I think women just want a guy who isn't a bum, who has some wherewithal and is able to contribute to a basic standard of living as she is doing as well, it doesn't matter who earns more its just about making an effort and a fair contribution to the domestic set up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 07:02 PM
2	Harmful red pill video's pushed on YouTube, to pretty much everyone it seems. I think you are right that it is obviously appealing to some on a very emotional level, even when you disagree and even find it pathetic its hard to stop watching. I'm not so aware of the history of the red pill and how it evolved but yes there does seem to be a victim mentality and perhaps that is something that is prevalent in society in general at the moment. Not that I am opposed to anyone having a voice or being able to talk about injustice in a productive way but I do see what you mean abo…	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/24 03:11 PM
2	Would you rather have a high value person of the opposite sex tell you that they like you but don’t want physical intimacy with you, or would you rather have sex with a high value person of the opposite sex who obviously doesn’t like you? Well I don't really know what you mean by "high value" as we all value different things and I wouldn't just be randomly having sex with anyone but if it was someone I liked and they told me they liked me but not in a romantic, sexual way then I'd respect and appreciate that. If someone I liked and they said they wanted to sleep with me but didn't actually like me I'd have zero interest in that situation, although I suppose I'd still appreciate their honesty in telling me so that I didn't make so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/24 06:31 PM
3	If the game itself is not fair, does it justify not playing fair to get what you want? You are cynical if you really believe that, still people reap what they sow so enjoy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 09:48 PM
–	Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stop That's fine, women who don't want a man who doesn't find them being their authentic butch self attractive are happy to repel you. We all just need to be who we are and not pander to what we imagine this or that person might find attractive. Its only by being authentic and true to ourselves will be find the best match.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 09:04 PM
2	If the game itself is not fair, does it justify not playing fair to get what you want? No but you are being disingenuous by claiming everyone is as cynical as you claim to be, it is simply not the case and is literally a choice you are making.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 08:34 PM
6	If the game itself is not fair, does it justify not playing fair to get what you want? No you don't care about that and you don't care about other peoples integrity but that's up to you. Like I said my life works out for the better when I live with integrity and associate with others who do the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 07:55 PM
7	If the game itself is not fair, does it justify not playing fair to get what you want? You're wrong, it works for people who value living with integrity over gaining superficial outward displays of success that they hope will impress others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 05:59 PM
–	Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stop People, including traits you consider as "feminine" are largely shaped by culture, the culture changes and people change, its as simple as that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 05:45 PM
-1	Women tell men to look for subtle signs to approach, then say those are just women being nice I met my husband when we were both students and working for the summer in a factory to make some money. All the students would sit together at lunch and we got to know each other over weeks of eating lunch together. We were both really shy but it was obvious there was some kind of mutual attraction between us. When I was leaving he got my number from a girl I was friendly with there and he called me up and asked me out. It was respectful, direct and sincere and was built on a relationship built …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 05:29 PM
5	FEMINISM WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD You do know that woman do tons of heavy labour jobs like cleaning in factories and institutions, kitchen work, housekeeping in hotels, silver service waitressing is in many instances heavy work and somewhat dangerous, serious burns are not uncommon, working in factories, in laundries, in farming in nursing, and as carers (work done primarily by women) which can mean trying to lift grown men to help them toilet and wash. Lots of men also have office jobs or jobs that require little physical exert…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 05:12 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread It makes me chuckle, I can't take this kind of thing seriously at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 05:02 PM
1	Why is it so bad to fall for your friends? There is nothing wrong with feeling how you feel its how you act that matters, if you fall for a friend but they are already taken or not interested in you in that way then don't make them feel bad for your feelings or pressure them into anything more. Also just being friends with someone because you are attracted to them and hanging around them hoping for your chance is a shitty play.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 04:22 PM
1	On the value of women with good personalities " In my experience" This is what you base your post on, your own personal (limited) experience which is in turn influenced by you, your personality and choices and circumstances. Personality, integrity and relationship skills on both sides are vital to keeping a relationship going and staying healthy. Sometimes one person slips up or struggles and the other has to pick up the slack, other times its the other. Lots of people end up with someone perhaps not as hot or more hot than them due to bein…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 04:20 PM
4	Doesn't being "on guard" with all men just drive away good men and leave only predators? I think it all depends on context. Many people meet partners through situations like school, work or other friends. In those situations its more relaxed as you get to know the person over a period of time and to some extent they are pre-vetted by the company they keep. Anyone male or female is wise to keep their guard up meeting a stranger online or in a bar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 12:46 PM
16	If the game itself is not fair, does it justify not playing fair to get what you want? I've always found life works out better for me when I live and act with integrity but then life and love isn't a game for me and I'm not trying to "win" or beat anyone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 10:22 AM
–	Do you think the average straight woman feels this way about guys? Not everyone is highly sexual and that is ok, its over hyped in society that people want sex all the time but lots of people both men and women have moderate or low sexual drives. Lots of people with higher sex drives also don't want to just have sex all the time with just anyone who takes their fancy, they also want a deeper emotional connection and trust with a sexual and romantic partner and lots don't want to pack on the PDA and prefer to keep that side of their relationship private. I think…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 10:18 AM
1	do you feel as a man that you struggle with communication more in general due to being raised to talk less about your feelings? I read this also, a woman (afab) who started transition and taking male hormones reported that she felt less nuance in her emotions and felt more irritability and anger and felt unable to articulate her feelings as she had before. She gave up transition and went back to being a woman and she regained her previous sensitivity to what she was feeling. I don't think this means all men feel this way but that it does show how hormone balance or lack of it can affect how we deal with emotions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 11:54 PM
–	Do you think people that can’t be alone are weak? People are just different its not right or wrong, I'm more introvert and a bit of a loner in many ways, its just how I am built. Sometimes I wish I was more motivated to socialise as it would probably be helpful in many ways but I am far more motivated to seek time alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 10:25 PM
2	It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated. Yeah to me having sex doesn't make you a good person it could easily mean your just a sociopath or something. I suppose to some men having tons of sex might mean you're perceived as successful but take some pro-footballer, having lots of sex with different women, its almost guaranteed that he's a total asshole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 10:23 PM
1	do you feel as a man that you struggle with communication more in general due to being raised to talk less about your feelings? I think the very popular idea that women get lots of emotional support is kind of false. In general when I have tried to open up to people including friends and family who I have previously been very supportive to I've been silenced, told I am burdening them, rejected, had people say I am lucky compared to this or that person, essentially they shut me down and its fair that they do, 99.9% of the time its unfair and inappropriate to dump your trauma on people. The main difference I find is that i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 10:18 PM
2	Why are we glorifying doing normal adult things I suppose for some people they might meet people who can't do those things, I agree being able to keep a clean home, cook healthy food, look after yourself, hold down a job or raise your kids is like the bare minimum anyone should be doing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 09:38 PM
1	How do you think you guys will handle it once it's over and you're settled down? Too bad for your wife you didn't stay single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 09:36 PM
9	How is it not better to be toxic? " She'll give you 101% of her heart " You do realise that the situation you describe isn't love don't you? Nobody will ever love you that way, they won't even really see you. All you will be doing in the very few who actually respond to such a crude manipulation is tapping into some childhood trauma which will set them off chasing shadows, at best all you will be is an object, and I mean that literally for them to project their own personal psychodrama on to. There are no pros to such a situatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/24 02:00 AM
–	Women want to split housework and childrearing but don't want to compromise anywhere else But your personal experience is just that, it doesn't really mean very much in the context of national or global behaviour patterns. It doesn't extrapolate a larger cohort. There is actually research that suggests growing up poor does affect a persons spending patterns potentially for life. Growing up without ample resources means that a person is less likely to consider things like money, education, networks and so on as a resource that can be utilised in the service of a long term goal and mor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 12:59 AM
–	Women want to split housework and childrearing but don't want to compromise anywhere else The thing is that a man's kids and his house is just as much his responsibility as his wife's. If a man's wife died he would have sole responsibility for both his home and his children, that's just how life works. Sex in a relationship is not quid pro quo for housework and childrearing, that is a homeowners and Fathers responsibility anyway even if his wife never had sex with him again. Paternity fraud is rare, and men also father children to other women while married and married men have more a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 12:52 AM
–	What is a the bitter truth for men about dating over 30 Yeah its pretty grim how he speaks like that I typed up a heart felt response to his post as he sounds unhappy but he doesn't seem like a very nice person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 07:17 PM
1	What is a the bitter truth for men about dating over 30 I wouldn't put off dating until you think you are ready for it because to me that sounds like an evasion tactic. I saw it a lot with both male and female friends when younger they fixate on a person who isn't available to them for example thinking only they will do when in reality they are just using that as a way to hide. The same goes for those who think they need to fix themselves. Nobody is ever perfect and putting off dating for sex improvement is just another form of deflection. Sometimes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 07:15 PM
1	simple solution This isn't the case at all for many or even most women perhaps she was just lucky or had the kind of bubbly personality that people felt would fit easily into their usual group. For most women its hard to find a new group of friends when they move, and on forums for women there are many posts about how hard it is to make new friends when you move to a new area and how people already have established social groups that they don't have time for you. I had to move to London for work for 9 months an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 03:07 PM
1	Better to lie to Women than be honest Keep telling yourself that, its clear you already lack integrity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 02:50 PM
2	Better to lie to Women than be honest I guess that is fine if you want to live without any integrity and become a low value person who preys on others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 02:29 PM
1	Being Social does NOT Help Lonely Men in Dating (CMV) People give that advice because it is something potentially productive to say same as any advice given to people for anything. The reality is that online nobody knows what that persons actual problem is in attracting a woman who wants to date them. They could be ugly, unkempt, smell, stand too close, stare, be rude or unpleasant to be around or perhaps they just haven't been lucky yet to meet someone they like who likes them back. That is really the situation for everyone, there is a lot of luck…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 02:19 PM
1	Men pursue “fake” women the most I think men often go after women who they find sexually desirable, beauty can be a part of that but it isn't essential and not all genuinely beautiful women are sexually desirable to the extent that a man would notice her. The biggest part of being sexually desirable is to appear sexually available and women who want to be noticed and approved of in that way will signal their sexual availability (real or merely projected) though various methods including things like plastic surgery, fillers, hai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 09:01 PM
–	You don’t choose to be in the competition. It’s easier to say “I’m not even trying” than admit you gave up Well I agree not everyone has good relationship skills but that isn't really "competition" as the OP claims it is people with impulse control issues, poor communication skills, unrealistic expectations, a lack of empathy, trauma, substance abuse issues. They are looking for excitement and an easy fix because it feels easier in the moment to sleep with someone else or get high on the emotional surge of a new infatuation than face up to your problems but if you never learn to deal with the issues …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 08:41 PM
–	You don’t choose to be in the competition. It’s easier to say “I’m not even trying” than admit you gave up I'm a woman and yes men make their interest in me known on a regular basis, even very attractive ones but its irrelevant I'm taken, I love someone else and wouldn't throw a good relationship I am happy in away on a whim. I trust my DH to do the same. Is it a possibility, sure, I could also fall down a sink hole or be hit by lightning doesn't mean its going to happen and that I should let it control my life or thinking, that would be very unhealthy. If you have a good relationship, and good relat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 10:58 AM
3	Why are some people unwilling to admit that they are in competition when dating? Once you are in a good relationship it really doesn't feel like you are competing at all. Perhaps in the very early stages it might feel a bit like that especially if you know other people like them but to be honest that doesn't happen much. You are more likely to come up against what kind of girlfriend or boyfriend the other person hopes / imagines they could get or deserve regardless of how realistic that is either by their own potential to draw such a partner in or the existence or accessibil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 11:04 PM