HavingTrouble892016 Archive

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55	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this?	DISCUSSION	HavingTrouble892016	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 06:18 PM

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1	What is your 'goal' life like? This is something I've been evaluating a lot lately, and the more I think about it the more I think that I do in fact want to get married young and be a stay at home mom with a few kids. Maybe three kids? The really tough part about this I'm not sure to what extent I should be changing my life plan. I had been thinking law as a career, but honestly I don't really even want that and even if I did it's not my top priority. I feel like you can't have it all and have it work out perfectly. I'm not e…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/16 06:13 AM
1	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? I was thinking I would just kind of let them drift away since I'm leaving them behind for college. I definitely want to find more traditional friends in college, because I think it's dangerous to surround myself with people who have bad habits.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/16 11:27 PM
2	Dressing femininely in the winter (or spring/fall too depending on where you live!) Like others are pointing out, there are a lot of great options. There are so many cute, feminine clothing options for winter that feel almost like pajamas despite looking great. Leggings are your friend for sure, and also there are some fantastic coats out there. I'm actually really excited to be moving to a cold climate for school so that I can shop for winter clothes.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/16 05:23 PM
2	Why We Must Discriminate Thank you so much. I'll definitely start by reading the material. I've been lurking for a bit, but I haven't read all of it plus I'm still wrapping my head around the stuff I have read. I'll have to check out the chat room too and may post for advice after reading some more.	/r/RedPillWives	17/08/16 03:18 AM
5	Why We Must Discriminate I'm new here, and I've mostly been on the other sub (still confused about the split). I'm a bit surprised to find myself agreeing so readily with this. I'd been having trouble because I'm new to the red pill, but I think that she makes her points really well. It makes sense that companies should get to consider things like maternity leave and such when hiring. It's fair. I also agree that divorce needs to change. It definitely encourages women to jump ship. I also like the idea of single income …	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 10:01 PM
3	New, very lost, and a bit scared. I'm probably too young to give you good advice here. I would like to address the last part though. Your life is definitely still worth living. And if the wall is the thing that has you so distraught, I've been lurking in this sub for ages, and I've read stories from older users who got married older than you are now, and are very happy. I'm sure someone more qualified to give advice will come along, the users on this sub are fantastic people and very helpful, but I just want to make sure you kno…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/08/16 03:47 PM
5	When is the best time to aim to get married? This is something I've been wondering, if not almost obsessing over lately. Obviously, I think that the wall is a consideration to keep in mind in terms of then man I end up with and the timeframe I plan for. That said, the bigger concern I've been thinking about is fertility and children. I've been looking into exactly when you should start trying, which is something you definitely want to married for, if you want to have a sure chance at a certain number of kids. It all seems to be fairly earl…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/16 06:43 AM
2	Weekly Challenge for RPW I'm new to active participation, so I didn't participate last week. I do want to say, I think these are such a great idea and am eager to start. As for how I plan to go about completing this week's challenge... I'm actually shifting my sleep schedule right now since I'm moving across the country soon, and have been trying to stay up until 1:00. Unfortunately, I've developed the bad habit of staying up much later and binging Netflix on my phone. I'm going to try leaving my phone charger outside m…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/16 04:08 AM
3	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? See, I actually really like that mindset because in a way there's less pressure involved, you care about her happiness, and it makes sense. It's also consistent with some of the sidebar reading I've been doing where it says to be careful not to talk too much about your job or education on dates, and that those things aren't a major part of what men are attracted to. Now to just work on accepting and adapting to that last part...	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 08:08 PM
11	Why Feminism Destroys Nations I'll be honest, I was definitely one of those. I wanted men to protect women, pay for dates, hold doors, and also wanted to be treated the same as a man. Reading this sub sort of slapped me in the face with my own hypocrisy.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 08:02 PM
3	Why Feminism Destroys Nations That's a really good way of putting it. I feel like all of us want to be protected and benefitting from chivalry, and it feels pretty deeply ingrained, but that doesn't make sense if we're supposed to be the same as men. If we can't have it both ways...	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 07:52 PM
6	Why Feminism Destroys Nations I agree with you about not wanting to be in the army, but I'm not sure that military service for both genders necessarily means no gender roles. During WWII women were in the military, but they served in support roles which I think worked well and freed up men to serve in more active roles that were needed. It's just complimentary roles in a different context. That said, I think that's more a measure for drastic times.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 07:48 PM
1	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? This is one of the harder parts for me to accept, and is also confusing because there seems to be a wide range of opinions on the matter of careers in this sub. The idea that my career doesn't necessarily increase my value in a relationship feels unfair sometimes. I am trying focus on the fact that I can still go to college and start a career, but that it makes sense that if getting married and having a family are my top priority (which I'm realizing more and more is the case) that I should then…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 05:35 PM
2	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? Yes, I used to hang out with her just when things were tough with my mom, but lately I've been hanging out with her more. Sometimes it's just fun stuff like shopping, but I've also started helping her with things around their house. She's teaching me to cook too. So, there's definitely the opportunity to bring it up before I go off to college, though that's pretty soon.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 01:43 AM
1	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? This makes a lot of sense, but I don't think I have any idea how to actually do it. I mean it's simple in principle, but I tend to let anxiety kind of consume me and get in the way. I know that's me letting it do that, but I really can't seem to figure out how to not let it... Typing that out makes me feel a bit ridiculous actually, but I'm not sure how else I can put it.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 12:51 AM
2	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? That seems easy enough. The idea still makes me nervous, but I suppose I'll just have to give it a shot anyway.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/16 12:35 AM
8	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? It does help, thank you. I mean it's really hard not to think of them as unequal roles, especially since I was definitely somebody who what "be on the same pillar and do the same things as men," and tried "approaching problems/situations in an aggressive way." When I do act more feminine and patient, and in the moments where I don't make myself feel guilty over it, it does feel easier and I am happier. I just want that to last. Setting aside the mindset that if men and women's roles are differen…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 11:46 PM
4	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? Yeah, I have apologized to them, twice actually. The first time I spent most of the conversation qualifying my apology with excuses, which I didn't even catch until after the conversation and felt really bad about that so I ended up apologizing again and having to consciously focus on being genuinely apologetic. My relationship with them really has improved a lot lately, and it is looking like they're the two to talk to.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 11:14 PM
2	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? I'm going to school across the country, and I'm pretty excited about it but also a little worried. I'm going to be living in a dorm setting, and after reading a post earlier from a girl asking how to not feel pressured to "ride the cc," I'm a little worried I'm entering a situation where I'll be tempted to do things that are detrimental long-term without having fully accepted the reasons they're detrimental.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 11:10 PM
5	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? This is so common! I kind of figured that this had to be the case, and even reading through past posts and some of the material it's stated as something that happens, but it's really nice to just hear. Thank you. As for speaking with friends about it, unfortunately we are a bit of a secret society. This was one of the things I picked up on while reading, and it's pretty disappointing because I don't do well handling problems on my own. Honestly though, I don't know that I need to discuss all the…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 07:52 PM
3	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? You're right, she really does. I actually had that realization just writing this out, and it kind of hit me that it was right in front of me. I still don't really know how I'd go about broaching the topic, but I think that even if she doesn't get I can still tell her without fearing the result. I'll probably not use phrasing and terminology from here, but I'm definitely going to give it a try now.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 07:47 PM
2	I came here to poke fun, found myself agreeing, and now it's a serious source of stress for me. How do I deal with this? Oh no, it's definitely related to my post. One of the hardest parts about this is not having anybody to talk to without being judged, so it would actually be really helpful to just talk with somebody who's been through this.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/16 06:47 PM