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HaywoodJablome69/r/askTRP13/09/17 01:30 PM
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Men can't generally get redpilled unless they have a crack in their societal programming that allows them to search for the real truth. It can be a hard breakup, a raw deal from a mother or father, something out there that gets past all the bullshit the media and society present about relationships. Otherwise, you're just leading a horse to water. You can't make him drink.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 02:24 AM
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Blackdragons blog has a lot of info about being in a small town vs a population center. ​ Basically youre pretty fucked if you wanna play the field there, because the field is so small. You're gonna run thru the women real quick and then get a rep. ​ Unless you are interested in a relationship small towns are awful for guys who want to establish multiple relationships.
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:12 AM
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Exclusive FWB is a girlfriend. Do you want a girlfriend? If you don't, then you better not fall into this trap
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:08 AM
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I'll slightly agree and slightly disagree. Usually making an exact plan with a location in her general area is a good close. Don't say "we'll meet at" Say "Ok, I'll be at x place at x time, I'll see you there unless you have something else that's easier" Not so commanding, but avoids all the back and forth bullshit of where and when..
/r/askTRP03/06/20 12:03 AM
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Mid 40s - Calling is the way to go especially if you do it the second there is a tiny bit of "where/what time/where" involved. Its just a fucking big waste of time with the texting. The most important thing is to be fucking decisive, never ever ask what they want to do, where they wanna go or what time is good for you. Just say I'll be here at X and let them figure it out.
/r/askTRP19/01/20 09:28 PM
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You dont flirt with them like a little boy You make yourself become desirable so that other women look at you, tend to you, get close to you and your girl notices. My current LTR had such an experience. We were at a museum, just paid for the tix and went in. She went to the restroom, and I was looking at some of the displays in the entrance. She came out and we were on our way. That night, she tells me when she comes out of the restroom some girl was staring at me from the side, I didnt even not…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 05:18 AM
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youve moved on but you posted here on how to get her back? ​ GTFO
/r/askTRP31/12/19 05:10 AM
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Horrible at texting equals "i am emotionally unavailable and I use this as an excuse to treat people like shit" You are the prize. You deserve the best. Ignore her and move on to a better woman.
/r/askTRP31/12/19 05:07 AM
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Dont do it on NYE.. you, and her will always remember it every NYE for the next 50 years. Do it Jan 4th, or whatever. Lots of breakups happen then. Its all over after the holidays. Block her everywhere after its over, remove you social media for three months minimum. Lift, eat well, meditate and after a month or two go out with a few new chicks and it'll slowly get better. DO NOT EVER CONTACT HER AGAIN, OR LOOK AT HER FACEBOOK AGAIN. Speaking from experience, this will help you get over it 1000x…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 05:04 AM
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Cold approaching? Thats not monk mode. Monk mode is about being a monk. That means no sex, no dating. Basically moving into a place where you find yourself at a very deep level and figure out exactly what you want in life. Sometimes you figure out you really dont want a woman in life. You are happier if you are on your own with a lay here and there. You have to be wiling to accept what almost all of society denies, that you are whole and complete on your own and you dont need the opposite sex wh…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 04:59 AM
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You're gonna have to cut them out and find better associates if you want to be a beast. Like you say, you've tried to help and if they don't want to help themselves then its all over. There are so many damn poisons out there now between drugs, media, social justice, all that garbage. Hard times are coming, and when they do all this bullshit will be swept away. It needs to happen for people to go back to their basic needs of food, water and shelter. For them to realize they really do have strengt…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 01:43 AM
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Sounds like the sane, rational person you should be hanging with.. go for it!
/r/askTRP16/12/19 11:16 PM
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Why are you having all of these discussions with her about her past partners? Thats just weird. And you've put her on an incredibly high pedestal in that story there, yep she's gonna walk all over you, or out on you if that continues.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 11:06 PM
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Remove yourself from her. Block. Never, ever consider meeting up with her again.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 01:25 AM
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Society is becoming weaker and appealing to the lowest common denominator to make everyone feel "included". Add to that the food industry, the clothing industry, and the healthcare (sickness) industry, all of which thrive when people are fatter, you've got a recipe for this nonsense. The only thing that cures easy times, are tough times. There will come a time when things aren't so easy. Only when the pendulum swings back will all of this garbage disappear.
/r/askTRP15/12/19 07:20 PM
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Sounds like a legit comfort test. Failed one badly a few years back with a lady I did indeed care about and she broke it off quick. Do you love her? If so, you can say it.. not every day or even every week. You say it when you really feel it and then they just melt. Do you reward her with little things here and there? Not big gifts, just little stuff she likes on occasion. Again, they melt. Its the thought that counts..
/r/askTRP15/12/19 01:26 AM
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Older guy here, 40s. ​ No number, I ghost. Shows lack of interest.
/r/askTRP15/12/19 01:20 AM
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Any woman with an ounce of self respect is not on Tinder. So if you want low hanging easy lays, stay on tinder. If you want a quality woman, you're gonna have to meet her somewhere else.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 09:02 PM
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You attract what you are. Be great. Be incredible. Be amazing. Then you'll match up with the same.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 08:56 PM
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Tinder is for hoes.. If you wanna LTR you need to get out the the farmers market or the library and meet up with non-hoes.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 08:43 PM
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If he's over 40 and got his shit together its easy street. There is little to no competition if he's in great shape. As far as what he should go for that's up to him. Sure he can go young but those relationships are pretty mind numbing. He will have his pick of women but sometimes it just takes a few months of being alone to get the head right.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 08:41 PM
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That was my guess too
/r/askTRP06/12/19 03:41 PM
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These are the things you do if you're in an LTR. If you don't want to do them, don't be in a LTR
/r/askTRP05/12/19 05:53 PM
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I'd say monk mode is for a dude who has lost his way a bit but not for a virgin. If you're a virgin, you need to get out there and get laid. Preferable with at least three or four women. Then maybe you can go into monk mode without going fucking insane. Get out there, expect to bumble around and not know what the fuck your doing. Good news is, women want to fuck just as much as guys do. Find a few, don't fall in love, and then build on that.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 02:12 AM
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You are way into your own head here. Women love older men, no matter what. They simply trust an older man more than someone their own age or younger. There is an aura of dominance that you know what to do to her, in bed. Get this right and you'll score massive pussy.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:32 AM
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These things come up "occasionally" in a LTR. The key is to be honest and frank, and I think you handled that great. The red alarm is when its more than that. If its every damn week you have to reassure her, then she is damaged goods by Chad, can't trust anyone now. So keep an eye on that. Also if LTRs is how you wanna go, then just do it. Game has to be tight, but the rewards can be greater than just fucking a bunch of randoms.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:29 AM
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Meaning not even with a rubber? If that's the rule she's giving then you need to let that one go..
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:24 AM
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She always has interest in the best possible partner. If you arent the BEST, she will move on, maybe in a week, a month, or a year. YOU MUST BE YOUR BEST SELF at all times if you want to keep someone from moving on. The bad news is, chicks leave. Even if you are at your best. The good news is, if you are at your best, if a chick leaves you can have a new one within a week. ​ NOTHING IS FOREVER.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 01:10 AM
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Do what YOU want to do. You will never go wrong by following this
/r/askTRP22/07/19 01:07 AM
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Give yourself a little break, my man... ​ Im 46... the purpose is elusive, and it changes. I only woke up 6 years ago or so... and its still in the mist. You are way ahead of the game by simply being aware. ​ Check David Dieda's "Way of the Superior man" Basically a theme is that you will have several purposes...whatever is the greatest interest in your life right now, follow that. Then it will become boring. It will change. Evolve. ​ So many years ahead! I wish I were you!
/r/askTRP09/07/19 04:20 AM
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Looks like you took away the sale now the customer wants to buy. ​ Do you want to fuck her? If you do, you fucked up by not escalating when she isolated you. ​ Initiate, isolate and escalate are the keys to sex. She gifted you the initiate and isolate right there. ​ Honestly, your post sounds like you punked out. Don't overthink it, you arent marrying her. You aren't committing to be a boyfriend. You lay her a few times then go from there..
/r/askTRP09/07/19 03:34 AM
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Honestly your body is the most important thing. Make sure you are in the best shape possible. No beer gut, no turkey neck. Evaluate the best facial hair for yourself and go from there. ​ 35 is a tween age. If you look young you can get away with some of the bullshit styles an older guy like me cant pull off. Otherwise stick with classic looks.
/r/askTRP09/07/19 03:24 AM
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Just look at her and say "why are you being so controlling?" and then smile. Then just carry on like nothing. ​ It gets to them.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:24 AM
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At least you know what you have. Your options are 1) Cut out the cancer. That means ABSOLUTELY no contact, social media lurking, texting, all that shit. 2). Continuing to be a bitch and pine over someone who isn't right for you. ​ TRUST ME: Cutting off the bitch and going into monk mode for a month or two, then fucking other chicks will speed your recovery ten fold.
/r/askTRP09/05/19 01:04 AM
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Life isn't lonely. If you feel lonely, it means you aren't perfectly OK with yourself, no matter the circumstance. Now Im an introvert...so maybe you don't follow this. But I CRAVE the time alone. Need it like a drug. Time to sit. Time to meditate. Time to NOT have some girl in my ear needing to be entertained. Get there, even if you are an extrovert. Its well worth it.
/r/askTRP29/04/19 02:40 AM
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Youre retarded
/r/askTRP29/04/19 02:34 AM
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"What kind of phone do you have?" Her: BLAH BLAH Iphone, Pixel, Galaxy" "Yeah, I know. I dont care. I just wanted to find out your name actually"
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:02 AM
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"Super busy the next two weekends, hit me up after that!" Wait. Usually 80 percent DON'T hit you up. The ones that do, repeat. ​
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:54 AM
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Why would you even mess with that kind of woman? I don't even give them a second of attention. Yes its a smaller pool. No its not like some dudes cry "There aren't any feminine women" There are millions of them. Yes even in America. Only date and spend time with quality women. If all dudes did this then the rest would be FORCED to go back to how nature designed us
/r/askTRP21/01/19 01:18 AM
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If you think you are addicted then you are. Give yourself credit for at least being aware. Most zombies don't even think its a problem. Now set a limit. "I get 30 minutes a day to watch etc" Hopefully its at least channels that are for you self improvement, if its shit then just quit. Usually the "information overload" cycle is an excuse to delay actual action in improving yourself. Once you quit and use that time for action the improvement is massive.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 01:15 AM
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Not eating meat is fucking weak. You know why? Because for several hundred thousand years, we've eaten meat, and maybe a little bit of fruit and veggies. Agriculture is only a few thousand years old. You know why everyone is so fucking fat? Because they constantly shove carbs down their throats. Evolution wins out. Vegans won't be a thing when all is said and done.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:23 AM
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you've had enough pain to last a lifetime. ​ In my humble opinion, its all in the past. If youve made it this far you've already won. Many would have offed themselves. Keep up the meditation, the gym, the self improvement. Dont force it, it will come. Tiny improvement every day,. A wonderful woman will walk into your life and recognize the strength it took for you to make it through all that. Good luck, brother. An amazing life is ahead.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:18 AM
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Older guy here (mid 40s_) but Tinder was absolute shit for me while Bumble was absolute gold. ​ The goal for me was 3-4 messages then it was give me your number. Once the number was given it was text for date and then silence. Letting them know you aren't there for chatting eliminates the attention whores.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:12 AM
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Amused mastery. ​ Instead of the block/unfriend...treat them like lesser, immature beings. You can only be an orbiter if you consent to it. Play along a little bit, then only ignore once you know for sure you arent getting into their pants.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:08 AM
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You're doing all the right things. Takes a bit to process a breakup. Just remember the bullet you dodged. Life could be hell if you tie yourself down (have kids) with that. Interest in women picks up the longer you get away from the ex
/r/askTRP11/01/19 11:20 PM
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Yep takes time. Don't think you are going to solve it in a week or a month or a year. Improve yourself everyday, consistently. Don't beat yourself up when you slip up, consider it the tuition you pay along the way. Ten years of work on yourself will put you in the top 5% of all men.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:59 AM
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Betas make up 80 percent of the world (80/20 rule). That still means they make a lot of cash, probably not 80 percent but maybe 65-70 percent. Its marketing. Gotta market to them. If advertisers blew up the Alpha and Betas realized they can't act that way, be that way, improve themselves to that level, they withdraw their dollars. Females also think they want nice guy betas. So their dollars would also lower if the world advertised Alphas. ​ ​ ​
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:57 AM
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She admits to you she has mental health issues and you still want to mess with that? Move on.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:49 AM
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Whoa you are way into her frame here from what I'm reading...also picking up on major oneitis.... ​ What do you want? If you want her back, then you absolutely must leave her alone and let her come back. I know it sounds counter intuitive but that is how it is. You mention the great sex. Get over that now. There are millions that you can have great sex with, you just cant see it right now because your brain is completely wired to think of the sex with her. ​ Bottom line, she said its over. Take …
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:42 AM
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"Im having fun with you, I don't like labels when things are new" A few dates is way too soon for anything serious. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. If you are agreeable to something more in time, then you will consider it. ​
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:36 AM
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Why would you talk about it? What would you gain? TRP is a mystery wrapped in an enigma. The reason it works it because its a hidden truth, in plain sight. ​
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:30 AM
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Read about half way through to realize you are making fucking excuses. NO EXCUSES. You want it, or you don't. Go ahead and decide and then go from there. ​
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:29 AM
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You're busy. You're a man on a mission. If she doesn't know you have a mission, besides her, then why not? ​ Men on missions are attractive. They "fit" the chicks, the going out, their other friends around in the cracks. ​ The surprising thing is that you become even more attractive when you give less attention. But it has to be less attention because of your mission, not just random ignoring.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:26 AM
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Start looking for a new job. Things won't change til either you or her leave the situation.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 04:35 PM
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Brainwash yourself. Read "Love yourself like your life depends on it" by Kamal Ravikant. Corny but it works.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 04:33 PM
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I'm gonna take a stab at this and say its a time issue. I have a similar muse. I'm with a hotter, smarter, and more physically attractive person than my last girlfriend. Yet the last girlfriend often pops up in the head. Like you, I'd say personality. Minds are a tricky fucker. We think we know what we want/need. The universe is a much smarter entity. It moves us away from a person to force us to grow. We don't want it, we fight it. We want that person back. But its not about US as a person. Its…
/r/askTRP12/11/18 04:37 AM
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Lots of one itis here for a girl you haven't even met. Geez dude. Even if you don't have a bunch of plates, you have to cultivate an abundance mindset. That means no girl gets this sort of mental attention until she's earned it. You're acting like your amazing LTR ghosted you. Get over yourself. By that I mean realize there are BILLIONS of women out there. If you are the PRIZE, then there is another bus coming along every 15 minutes. If you aren't the prize, figure out why and make yourself that…
/r/askTRP11/11/18 11:04 PM
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Stop comparing yourself to others and compare yourself to yourself. Are you better than you were a year ago? A month ago? A week ago? Yesterday? If not, then get to work. There will always be someone "better" out there if you look. Thats why you only use yourself as the measuring stick. If you must compare, you compare down. Go out to the mall and look at the sloppy fat fucks walking around. That'll make you feel better about yourself for a few minutes. But the real progress comes when improving…
/r/askTRP11/11/18 08:36 PM
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Was married a really long time as a blue pill. Found RP at the end when I was getting a divorce around the age of 40. Its not all about muscles. Its about frame. Confidence, a life outside of "women", interests, being interesting. I don't live by the "IDGAF" mantra, because I do in fact give a fuck about others. I'd say its more of a "take it or leave it" mindset that I live by. I do stay in shape, I can't tell you the advantages a 45 year old guy has over the competition with just not being fat…
/r/askTRP11/11/18 08:33 PM
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If they "ask" you just give the answer in Red Pill format without giving all the background on "why". You never push it on them first. Its a horse-water thing. They have to decide if to drink, and how much to drink.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 08:29 PM
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Is it you or her you are concerned about? If she's as you say, you are doing her a favor. She will have to look in the mirror and realize where she's lost SMV. As far as you go, do it "rip the band aid off" style. Do it, move on. No contact. It will affect you, just knowing that will help you, but a lot of that is emotional. Does sound like you have severed a lot of those ties already so just go for it
/r/askTRP11/11/18 08:27 PM
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Don't drink.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 08:23 PM
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Rewire the brain. If something reminds you of her, you've got to eliminate it. Or, as soon as you recognize it then you need to change your thought pattern. Minds are tricky things. The networks are wired and re-wired over and over based on experiences, the past. You MUST re-wire the brain. That's why some say go fuck ten other girls. Yes that works for some. Didn't for me, though I didn't actually get to 10... but I recognized it wasn't helping. Meditation helped me a lot. Have you tried? Prese…
/r/askTRP03/09/18 10:52 PM
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I dont know what the fuck this format is that you've put forth. try again..
/r/askTRP03/09/18 10:46 PM
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So you now want to triple text her as she ignored your last two?? She's gone. Texting again now and you are the biggest loser on earth. Some of the fish escape the hook. Move on.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 09:25 PM
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Always try to dress one notch above the rest of what is expected. So obviously you don't wear a suit in that job. The polo and khaki might work, but you'd only be matching the best dressed there. See what options you can find a notch above khaki, dress pants wise.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 10:15 PM
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So what? Get out there with dozens of women over the course of a couple of years and you'll be comfortable with them all. There's this thing called a learning curve and we all have to go through it instead of trying to bang our relatives.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 07:34 PM
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3.5 billion women in the world and you gonna mess with someone semi related to you? Jesus dude, move onto greener pastures.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 07:27 PM
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You have to have your logistics set before the date. The three factors are instigate, isolate and escalate. You can do them in any order. Meaning you can don't have to isolate first. But you must have a plan where you can isolate. Gotta have your shit planned if you wanna get some, man.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 07:24 PM
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Have you read any of Blackdragons stuff? He allows relationships, as long as they are open, which can be tricky of course but if your game is tight. The overriding theme being you never agree to monogamy.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 05:10 PM
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You don't even have to tell them if you're a puss, but don't just ghost. Ghost is reserved for chicks that drop you. Take a really long time to reply to texts, and then don't ask any questions. They get the hint, they aren't stupid. But, if you don't want to waste anyone's time I'd say learn the skill of being upfront. A "had fun but I'm going a different direction" is all you have to say. You don't own an explanation beyond that. And that's a huge fucking red flag anyway, no matter if she's bee…
/r/askTRP03/06/18 03:35 PM
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Well if you are approaching it as some sort of hippie, meditating for hours on end per day I wouldn't say thats gonna make you more of a man. If you have nice guy tendencies, then read No More Mr. Nice Guy, the sidebar, etc. Learning and becoming a centered and grounded man along with meditation is going to be a good combo.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 06:15 AM
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"Im going to take pics at X location at Y time, You should come!" Then silence.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 05:44 AM
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I use bumble almost exclusively, Im 45 so who knows based on your age. That convo sounds flaky to me. Girls who are into me will meet quick if I pressure a bit. Im not talking chicks with kids generally as I do my best to avoid those. Also just say "Im going to be here" on X date (usually 24 hours or less) and you'll be surprised how many just will show up. Chicks aren't as fucking busy as they pretend to be.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 05:42 AM
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I've been pretty good for about 11 months now. Actually slipped up a bit over the last two weeks, this is a reminder to get back into it every damn day. Basically, its helps me to simply allow others to be as they are, and I can be as I am. No expectations of them "doing stuff" based on my expectations. I am an extension of God, and I am God, in physical form. I am me. Its also helped me release so called slip ups in the past. I have released past relationships and no longer feel wronged by the …
/r/askTRP03/06/18 05:24 AM
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Find a mission, then work it like a crazed lunatic. Go lift/workout. Literally this will solve 95 percent of it right away. Oh, and move the fuck out. Even if its with a few roommates, then its sink or swim. You will swim if you have to
/r/askTRP03/06/18 05:17 AM
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Some reason you can't read it?
/r/askTRP31/03/18 09:05 PM
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I choose to ignore the end. Story behind is that they thought of themselves like that early on, but got blue pilled. At least that's what I took from some article about it.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 06:23 PM
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Watch 'The Man' by the killers on Youtube 100 times in a row
/r/askTRP14/03/18 02:21 AM
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You're not applying "all relationships are temporary" People die. People have to move for reasons. People change. People think they want one thing, then when they get it, they don't. There are a million reasons why things don't last. Accepting this beforehand will save you a lot of hurt on the back-end.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 02:19 AM
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Better to just focus on yourself as much as possible when you are swallowing the pill. If you are on social and they are there, they will see it and reach out. Maybe you'll get lucky, but don't count on it. Its very difficult people to change their opinion of you if they've already classified you into a certain box Have fun and good luck.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 12:48 AM
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Personally I'm big on dividend growth stocks. They're overpriced right now, but look for stocks that have a PE below 20, yield 2.5-3% and have increased their dividend a minimum of 10 years straight. More like 25 if you want stocks that really have good management at the helm. Spread among 25-30 stocks in different industries. Dividendgrowthinvestor.com is good if you like the idea. You won't absolutely kill it here, but these stocks will grow their dividend over time (and the stock price apprec…
/r/askTRP12/03/18 09:30 PM
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Sorta off topic here, but may help OP as well...How are you meeting women? Cold approach? Im in my mid 40s, would love to start dating much younger but honesty haven't given it a real shot.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:39 PM
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There's a saying...if you don't know what your mission is, then your mission is to find your mission. No other way around it.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 04:28 AM
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Like attracts like. That's why its best to have as many areas of your life as high as possible, then you attract like women.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 02:51 AM
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Hey man, same age..similar story here. Long marriage. Rebound LTR. Ended last summer not by my choice and its been a struggle. Had some RP knowledge entering it but really just did not apply the part of being the best damn man possible. That's what I've been doing lately. Improve myself. Day by day a tiny bit. Attention on my youngest who is leaving soon. Chicks, well, they come and go but I'm so damn protective of my time and sanity I think I just don't want to let them in. Are you on any sort …
/r/askTRP11/03/18 07:52 PM
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Read it five years or so ago, was at the end of a blue pill marriage. Was good for me at the time, but for younger guys who are just getting started with RP I really don't see the need. All the good stuff is already online and if you build and maintain frame before you get involved with girls you will be fine.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 07:42 PM
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Its actually not the easy route, its the hard route because most havent internalized it, they are hoping the ex gets in touch, because they have the Oneitis thing nagging at them. Getting off an ex is like getting off drugs, chemical reactions in the brain. http://redpillbreakup.com/red-pill-no-contact-proper-execution-to-help-you-recover/
/r/askTRP11/03/18 05:48 PM
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Quit your bad habits first. If you aren't playing video games or watching TV, suddenly there is a void in your life, its called time. Once you have time, then you will want to fill it. Some reading is good, but you can go overboard (paralysis by analysis). At least go walk around your city, explore to start. Finding a mission though is the easiest channel. Once you do that, everything else falls into place.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 05:28 PM
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Don't tell her you suck at it, just don't do it. Train her now, text for meets only. She'll either play along or go away.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 04:10 AM
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All over the map here. What's your mission? Figure that out. Then proceed. Sounds like you want to program. So then don't go be a cop or an electrician, unless you are using it as a means to an end. Meaning if they have tuition assist you do it for that alone. Women come after your mission and your health. Remember that and it'll all fall into place.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 04:12 PM
3

Who says the OP is looking for something long term? Maybe he just wants to have fun.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 03:09 AM
1

Quit letting others define you. Define yourself. Who cares what that bitch says? Mindset. Develop one. Start thinking and acting like you are a badass, until its fully internalized. Stop making excuses. If you want to meet girls you will find a way no matter what. Pick the biggest alpha among your friends and go out together
/r/askTRP04/03/18 12:25 AM
1

Take action. That's the way out. Read the 10x Rule by Grant Cardone. Apply it to TRP. Win.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 12:22 AM
1

Bring a hotter chick with you..
/r/askTRP03/02/18 06:11 PM
1

Law of attraction.. something in his vibration needs to be fixed.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 05:54 AM
2

Just use bumble and tinder. Regular online sites have hundreds of thirsty dudes bombarding chicks day in and day out. Match. Text and escalate to a meet within three or four messages. Don't fuck around with dozens of messages.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 11:16 PM
4

First just leave the ex alone. You're fucking yourself up and her. Be done with it. Cant armchair psychology you here about your past, but simply sounds like you are more of a relationship guy. Nothing wrong with being a LTR guy, some of us just aren't into lays for the sake of lays. But you'll have to be patient. You'll have to screen hard. You'll have to forsake the club lays to find quality. Also happiness is an inside job. Not based upon amount of pussy/girls/money/anything externally. Maybe…
/r/askTRP15/11/17 04:18 AM
3

Correct. Meetup is an invite to your place, never out. Escalate to sex. Kick her out if she refuses. Corey advocates she must come to you three times in a row. I'd say you would only be FWB for quite some time before ever even CONSIDERING a relationship with her again.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 04:12 AM
2

General RP advice is you never, ever go back to an EX that dumped you. Takes time, bro. But if you really do want her back then you fucked up last night by messaging her. NO Contact forever, until she contacts first. Watch some of Corey Waynes videos on youtube about the subject.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 11:54 PM
3

Unless he doesn't like certain things about his relationship then you cant really do much. Watch him for clues. You'll have to drip feed him the options as they come up
/r/askTRP05/11/17 07:16 PM
3

I got married back in 1992 based on religious upbringing and blue pill conditioning. Red flags galore. Married 22 years, divorced almost three now. Got two great kids out of it but now in my mid-40s and still choking down the red pill. I know all the theory but practice is tough. I'd only advise dudes who want a family, are hard core red pill mother fuckers, and have an extremely cooperative and submissive woman (unicorn?) get married in this day and age..
/r/askTRP04/11/17 02:53 PM
2

Truer words never been spoken..
/r/askTRP04/11/17 02:24 PM
1

Sounds medical. But Im not a doctor.
/r/askTRP28/10/17 09:03 PM
7

I have five, but have room for one more..
/r/askTRP28/10/17 03:16 PM
3

Just pick anything but dont tell her what it is. Its the mystery. Just say we're going out, here's what to wear, and here's what time. Gets their tingles goin all the time.
/r/askTRP25/10/17 12:04 AM
1

If there's not any attraction from her side there's nothing wrong with walking away. You just need to know she really isn't attracted. Half assed replies either mean she's retarded or wasn't interested. Nothing wrong with simply walking away from that. At this point, just leave here alone and game other girls. If she is really interested she'll get in touch.
/r/askTRP24/10/17 02:53 AM
1

All depends on your media intake. I stay away from news in general, all run by crazy ass liberals. The internet is leveling the playing field, ideas can be tested. Even that's at risk though with the libs at Google, FB, etc trying to control information.
/r/askTRP21/10/17 04:32 PM
1

Was on there a bit ago then they put up some fucking ridiculous paywall to keep accessing their site. No thanks.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 10:27 PM
2

Staying in the friendzone and trying to work from there is absolutely stupid. You stop being friends, ignore her in that way. If she contacts you invite on a date, nothing else. Only way out.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 10:24 PM
3

Buy blackdragons book for $9. Has a chapter on developing a code and one on a mission. Plus it'll help in lots of other ways.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 09:09 PM
1

Im guessing this is an EX cause you said re-attract. Though the advice generally from red pill is move on with your fucking life, I'll indulge you. You go absolutely fucking no contact until she contacts you. Thats it. Nothing else. Oh, and go fuck other girls too.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 09:06 PM
7

Anger and hate are not the opposite of love. Indifference is. You are still hooked on her. Until you reach indifference you are still her bitch.
/r/askTRP13/10/17 12:35 AM
24

Make sure you bring a hotter chick with you..
/r/askTRP12/10/17 04:13 PM
6

I cant believe I just wasted 75 seconds reading this... Christ
/r/askTRP08/10/17 09:32 PM
2

I like most of Blackdragons stuff, his blog is free an his $9 book was well worth the money.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 04:51 PM
9

Ignore from now on. Chicks who want to be with you WILL FIND A WAY to be with you.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 04:46 PM
11

Why are you being a dick? Put her shit in a box and give it to a friend to give to her. Move on with life.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 04:45 PM
3

Your revenge is living well. They see this and realize they aren't ever part of your world again. You don't invest a single thought or effort on them. In fact you've already invested that by posting here.
/r/askTRP03/10/17 12:57 AM
8

Do u want to sex her or not? Sounds like she still wants it.. invite to your place, nowhere else.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 07:14 PM
16

4 years man. I was married for 22.. I have ZERO physical attraction now to my ex wife, because she just wont keep her body in good shape. Yet I still care for her as a human being. I want her to be happy and OK with her life. TRP will teach you many things, yet we still have emotions. Emotions are OK, you just can't let them control you.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 03:36 AM
2

You waited around 2 hours to see her? You don't see your problem there? Its not about no emotion, its about having some shit going on in your life besides women. You MUST have other interests, to the point that even if you have NO WOMEN in your life in the moment then you are completely content with everything else going on in your life. Dating multiple women at once helps a lot too.
/r/askTRP30/09/17 05:37 PM
5

Can't reason with crazy. Ignore. In time she'll find some dude who will put up with crazy.
/r/askTRP30/09/17 05:34 PM
7

If a girl isnt a FUCK YES then you need other girls
/r/askTRP30/09/17 02:44 AM
2

Do you have any of her shit? Give it to a neutral party and have them take it over. The implication is then she'll give back yours. Really though, if it aint worth much then forget it. And make sure you go scorched earth no contact with her.
/r/askTRP29/09/17 03:34 AM
2

The past is over. Thinking about it or giving it one mental thought does absolutely nothing for you. There are plenty of books around this concept. Pick a few up if you need to. The second you LET GO of that, it really does not matter. You get to write a brand new damn script from this second forward. You don't ever have to put up with anyone like that again. All you have to do is DEMAND better from every relationship from now on
/r/askTRP28/09/17 11:40 PM
2

Utah
/r/askTRP28/09/17 11:37 PM
37

Why do you want her as a friend? That's what dudes are for. The only girls you should have as friends are the ones you don't want to fuck (fatties, way older)
/r/askTRP28/09/17 02:46 AM
1

Here's an even longer series https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1tjcbg/ltr_game_maintaining_frame/
/r/askTRP28/09/17 02:41 AM
7

Had a chick like this break it off with me a few months back, though much older. I'm 44 and she was 40. Basically you just be a good dude, set an example. She will probably just break it off randomly and suddenly for some emotional and irrational reason like mine did. Be very careful you don't catch that ONEitis bug as I had a bit of it as her breaking it off was just so random and had really nothing to do with the overall structure of the relationship , which can be hard on a man's rational min…
/r/askTRP27/09/17 02:53 AM
4

If your stuck in a ONEitis phase its best to just leave chicks alone and work the hell on yourself as hard as you can for a couple months. Once you get your frame back and build your confidence back up, you can get back out there
/r/askTRP27/09/17 02:36 AM
17

How many other girls are you gaming? I'm guessing zero. Get other numbers, keep approaching, never put your eggs in one basket. Once you start doing this you won't GAF about any of this..
/r/askTRP26/09/17 12:30 AM
3

I didn't see where you escalated even once in that wall of text. Until you do that, you'll never know.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 12:43 AM
3

Absolutely forget about this, a total waste of your time. Go to the gym to workout as hard as possible. Ignore her. Look forward to all the chicks you will lay in the future.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 12:41 AM
13

What has happened is she's crazy. If you can't get in her head, none of us can either. Move along, she craycray
/r/askTRP24/09/17 10:42 PM
1

Just quit that shit.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 12:38 AM
1

Of course you're supposed to make the decision. Lead, man. Of course you're failing when you cater to her. You do you. Sounds like you are seeing her a shit ton. Once a week, twice at most. You've already got her on a damn pedestal. You live your life, you have a mission and goals. Women come and go, the second she's bitchy with you its a soft next.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 12:36 AM
6

You don't. You never-ever sleep with a co-worker. Until one of you moves to another company. Then you can.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 12:23 AM
3

If she is making you feel bad, then block. Nothing wrong with that, its for YOU to recover, fuck her feelings at this point. Otherwise ignoring/"yep i'm fine" with NO OTHER REPLIES works too. Get out there and get laid. It'll pass quick.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 12:20 AM
2

You are headed for a heartbreak, my man. Its doesn't matter if you have a higher SMV if you have ONeitis. You will always pedestalize her in your actions. If you want the relationship that bad, you need to take some time to get over the idea that she is the ONLY one. You have to get to the point mentally that YOU are the prize, not her. Going back in now when she holds the power is a bad idea.
/r/askTRP24/09/17 12:16 AM
1

Feminism.
/r/askTRP23/09/17 10:42 PM
1

To have sex, duh..
/r/askTRP23/09/17 10:40 PM
2

Who dumped who? Are you Oneitis for her? Need more deets.. As general advice, have some sex with her with ZERO commitment for a while. Make sure you really want to do this. Oh and if you are Oneitis you need to stay away for now.
/r/askTRP23/09/17 10:39 PM
9

There's definitely an overload. I think of it as take the best 80% and apply it. That means lift/exercise, dress well, clean up your looks as best you can, don't take shit, make your own decisions, man up, approach, and don't ever put her above yourself. Follow these basics for a year and your already above probably 80% of the males. Do it for five and you're easily in the top 10%. At that point you can pretty much craft your woman life how you want.
/r/askTRP20/09/17 02:47 AM
1

Options. Options. Options. If you have a few plates, no potential source of sex will impress you all that much. Its just a bonus if she's into you, if not, you know there are a few that are ready and willing to get naked with you.
/r/askTRP18/09/17 02:51 AM
1

Never. Falls under the same idea as this https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/22/youve-been-with-how-many-girls/
/r/askTRP16/09/17 01:56 PM
6

Hard to say without knowing exactly the situation. Chicks always run late, chicks always lie. Worst case, you taught her a lesson and saved a fellow bro down the line some trouble. Maybe she puts forth a little more effort to have her shit together for him
/r/askTRP16/09/17 04:31 AM
2

The issue is I am and probably always will be addicted to thrill of chasing new pussy. This is the part that told me you werent totally happy. If this is "who you are" in time your LTR will end no matter what.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 09:56 PM
1

Biology all has its hold on us in different ways. You have to sort it out and make the right choice for YOU long term. Don't just stay in the LTR because you think you owe her something. If it isn't making you happy, eventually she'll see right through it and be unhappy too. Break it off well before that to be fair to both of you.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 06:49 PM
5

If you don't spend excessive time with them then how are they getting attached? Soft next if they "get upset" or possessive. Your vibe must be wrong somehow. You're busy, right? Are you texting them back too soon? Seeing them too much? Are you not letting them know as soon as THEY bring it up that you aren't looking for a relationship?
/r/askTRP15/09/17 06:46 PM
0

You get bold once you isolate her. Inviting her to your place is bold. Sitting her next to you on the couch and holding her hand is bold. Moving in to make out is bold. You just keep going til you sex her. Compliments are for later on.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 06:42 PM
1

Talking to her is interest. Complimenting her is not. That is beta behavior if you havent been with her yet. Asking her out is interest and implies your intention. Do that. Maintain frame.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 05:29 PM
1

How many other plates do you currently have?
/r/askTRP15/09/17 01:50 AM
7

Last week? A little time, my man. Work on lifting. Work on your frame. Approaching is how it really gets done, throwing yourself into the fire time after time.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 01:49 AM
1

"Well, I'm hilarious"
/r/askTRP15/09/17 01:48 AM
1

Disappear from her life. Fix yourself in all areas for one year, including getting other women. Then hit her up (hint: in a year you won't care about her anymore, you have Oneitis)
/r/askTRP14/09/17 01:11 PM
3

Agree and amplify, especially if you have something witty to add that makes her look like a fool
/r/askTRP14/09/17 01:05 PM
3

Watch what your media intake is. What triggers this thinking? Music is horrible. Heard some shitty Beiber song the other day about being "friends" with his ex. Movies, TV, internet, gotta watch out for all the lies people are shoving down your throat.
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:43 PM
1

Gotta decide what you want. I'd rather screen for quality and find an LTR, I'm not a numbers guy. I get fulfillment from making my body feel as good as possible with exercise, reading, learning, building my side business. Others get excitement from the chase, its always on for them. Either way, put you first. What do you like more?
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:33 PM
1

So you'd say she's an exception to Ed's 80/20 rule? How is her respect for men in general. I got lost with mine because though she had a close family, there was nothing with Dad, and the step dad was treated as a semi-nuisance. Something else I noticed was that she ended all of the relationships that were longer than 3-6 months in her life. Realizing now it was just my turn...
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:10 PM
1

Sorry, my man..
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:05 PM
2

I had a 1 year relationship that was awesome after the divorce, that ended a few months ago. Problem was I slipped up into her social circle and family instead of forging my path after the divorce. Its easy to slip into a routine if you're getting on demand sex with a fairly hot chick. I live in suburbia, which sucks. All families. Have a daughter every other week so just getting her to college next year is my focus along with gym, work and an online side hustle im working. Def going to aim for …
/r/askTRP12/09/17 02:24 AM
2

22 years of marriage. Got married super young for religious reasons..feel like I'm living a reverse life compared to most men. Didn't get raped too bad in the divorce, but its def weird being 44 and out there as a single dude.
/r/askTRP12/09/17 01:54 AM
9

Simply communication is good. I came from a really fucked up religious background that shunned people who got out of line. It really messed me up even when I left, made me think people are disposable and replaceable. Reality is, if you have a good friend in your life, you gotta do some work to keep it going. A quick hello, and invite over to chill and watch a game, meet up for a beer, all those things do help things along..
/r/askTRP12/09/17 01:47 AM
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