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I honestly think that's just because it's not relevant to attraction unless it reaches a certain ratio. The height/weight ratio is important for both genders but skewed towards height for men and weight for women. Personally I don't think anyone really pushes the being "rake thin" stuff on women anymore other than the media. No guy cares about the difference between 18bmi and 23bmi. Tbh 18bmi probably looks unnervingly famished. Back in the 2000s I'd agree but now I don't think it's remotely the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:30 PM
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This is not helping your case at all lol. I don't mean to be rude but this response cracked me up xD.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:16 PM
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The belly podge is because men store more fat in their bellies than women do. Obviously it's still an obesity thing, but it's just why their bellies go out faster like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:13 PM
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Maybe in the 2000s when heroin chic was at its absurdist and every female tv show character had to have a bmi of 18. But nowdays healthy bmi is better than average because most people are above that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:09 PM
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You can be an asshole all you like. Trying to justify your "I just wanna fuck everyone" fantasy by claiming every guy has it is still really immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:13 PM
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Well I can immediately think of several people I know in real life who would prefer to just partner up with one of those women. Plenty of guys are monogamous and care deeply about having an intimate emotional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:59 PM
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That isn't remotely true. There are loads of guys whos dream is to have a family. Not all guys enjoy it find casual sex appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 10:34 AM
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It's just how people talk about you. There is this always on implication that you are destructive and unruly, that your nature is violent and thuggish and not good like girls. As you grow up you realise no one desires you. Unlike girls your appearance doesn't matter, it's literally just your height. No makeup or clothes or working out can fix that. No one will ever call you pretty or good looking, you'll be er get compliments, be abuse everyone just thinks men are ugly. Their only physical worth…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 10:20 AM
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I think the problem there is that from a very young age it's all "boys will be boys" and "men!". From your parents, from your teachers, from girls in your class. You very quickly learn that you are someone who is to be put up with, not wanted. Girls have inherent value (however creepy that is) and boys are burdens. Boys are truly raised to think they are worthless because of their gender, and that they need it make up for being a parasite on society by giving back to it. They need to make money,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 02:25 PM
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It may not necessarily be bad intentions. I'm lucky enough to have a higher paying job than most my friends and I get genuine enjoyment from buying things for them so we can enjoy them together. It's a nice feeling to be able to provide for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:16 PM
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Yeah buts that because a lot of guys feel their money is all they are worth. Society generally tells men that unless they look like an Adonis then they are just fatso dadbod nobody who is only worth their paycheck. And it also says men are cruel and predatory and stupid and violent, and that women put up with that rather than liking mens personalities. If a woman makes more than him then he feels he contributes nothing to the relationship because he has been taught than men aren't loved for thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:08 PM
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In a world where a bunch of men have been cut off from any and all physical/emotional connection because of how they were born, whether it's height, autism or face etc, it's the one kindness we can allow them. It doesn't really matter what you think. You already decided they are cringe and pathetic, so your opinion on what they do with their lives is kind of a waste to listen to. You can do your own thing and other people will try and make sure they are ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:13 PM
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No they don't say it or actually think it, but it is the logical follow on from the terrible semi irritated advice they try to give people. It's exactly like op says it goes: "Where can I meet women" "At clubs like Dance or Art" "I'm not very good at Dance, should I still do it?" "Well actually you shoudln't go to clubs just to meet Women. You should only do it because you like the club." "Ok but I want advice on meeting women, that's what I asked for." "Why do you need to meet women so badly? C…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:57 PM
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Well, I didn't say you did. The quote I made was in regards to what I've seen over the last few months on this sub and other parts of reddit, where people act like anyone purseing dating is a monster and the only way to date should be by not trying to".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:42 PM
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Yeah I'm not a fan of a lot of the really gross generalisations on this subreddit. Some of it is really horrible. I'm sure some people will consider what I wrote above a generalisation. And all I can say is I'm not trying to be hateful or gross. I just want people to be more aware of how they are coming across when they write their replies. As for commiseration, I don't think that should be goal. It's more that after finding this subreddit and spending a little time on it, it all just feel ridic…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:37 PM
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I'm not sure what you are asking but not saying that wanting to be single is bad. That's literally me. I like being single, I've grown accustomed to it and I couldn't imagine the tedium of having to share stuff with someone else. But just because I like it doesn't mean it's good advice to tell people they have to become like me before they can consider a relationship. Some people need a relationship because it's just how they are, it's in their genes or how they were raised. It's not appropriate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:03 PM
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Well frankly cause in my opinion it isn't really failures or successful people. It's people who weren't born with it and people who werent. The people who are born with it can't give any useful advice because no advice you can give can change the genetics that creates someones face or the way they think. It's like being born into a rich family and given £250 million to start your own business trying to give advice to someone who was born into abject poverty and has been rejected from every job o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:01 PM
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Honestly I think this is what makes a lot of the advice on this subreddit so terrible. If you are well adjusted and have never been through what someone who is suffering has been through, how on earth can you just sit from on high saying "well have you tried X, have you tried Y". It just seems so demeaning and smug. Especially when it's like "I'm not being smug, I'm just trying to be nice", that just makes it even more smug. There's honestly no point most the guys and girls on this subreddit tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:33 PM
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The new evolution of this is: "Why do you (men) even want sex/a relationship. Women can be happy single, why can't you. If you can't be happy single then how can you be happy in a relationship?" And tbh this really just tells you everything you need to know about these kinds of people. They don't enjoy being in relationships and are giving people advice about how to better get one. It's a giant foghorn to not listen to any advice anyone gives you on this subreddit. Everyone here (including me) h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:26 PM
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It's about the deceit. If you fear one guy would no longer date you cause he found out you were sleeping with someone else, so you don't tell him and hide it, then that's an awful way to start a relationship. The whole point of dating is feeling out of a relationship could work. If you are lying (even by omission) then you aren't showing the guy the real you so he isn't able to judge the relationship correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:37 PM
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I don't know that suggesting "bigotry towards unopressed groups is okay" is strong position.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:20 PM
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It's less about needing to be offended and more humans needing to feel disadvantages to protect their self esteem. If you can feel disadvantaged or embattled then it's not your fault you can't do x or y, it's "whoever is disagreeing with you"s fault. Kids don't like finding out they are part of 250+ years of slavery and oppression or colonialism so they need to find a way to portray themselves as victims of it too. Making yourself an ally against it let's them feel like a political underdog.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:17 PM
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Oh please. Go look at any of the celebrity gossip subreddits and it's 100% women bullying men and women. Look at FauxMoi and how they talk about Selena Gomez. Get a grip. Your comparison was asinine and dumb. Your reaction to guys being forced to put themselves into a horrible situation was "uh yah but I can put myself into a bad situation if I wanted to and then it's bad for me too!". The entire point is that guys don't have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:50 PM
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People can but they won't because they are people. When it's something like being fat which is totally within your control, you are going to be doubly critisized for it, especially when it's optional for you to post in the first place. Like why even make this comparison? Guys have to approach or they will literally die virgins. Guys have literally no choice. It's completely optional for fat people to post vids of themselves on insta, both being fat, and posting the video. What made you think thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:25 PM
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The thing is I think it sounds kind of creepy and controlling to say this kind of thing on a first date. But I would expect it just out of etiquette. Like it should just be an unspoken thing people are able to all agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:44 PM
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Definitely not a valid excuse. I'm not dating, but if I was, I would never go out with someone if I knew they had other dates planned during the week. I'd only be interested in someone who shares the same interest in me. It just makes them seem narcissistic and lacking in self control if they are unable to date just one person at the same time. I cannot imagine such a person is capable of a healthy relationship if they can't even start off at a point of not needing multiple peoples attention at …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:40 PM
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Why would you post a video of yourself on instagram if you know you are unattractive? It literally has no benefit. I would never post a video or photo of myself online because I know I am ugly. I'm not expecting the universe to take pity on me and make it somehow not be a bad idea. Humans don't like ugly people, that's just life. That example is stupid anyway because they can just lose weight. It's so ridiculously easy and simple and it's literally just willpower. If you want to post videos on i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:32 PM
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Eastern countries do a lot of fucked up shit and are generally fucked up in a lot of ways. I don't think they are a good baseline. Just because they are less developed does not mean they are closer to being "natural". They are less developed because they have historically been fucked up by constant war, disease, religion and politics. They are examples of societies destroyed by mistakes, not natural purity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:24 PM
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They'd definitely be ostracized by the guys in their social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:30 PM
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Dating apps and then deciding all third places are off limits for approaching. But it's not like it was a group decision or a conscious one. It's just a natural result of dating apps existing. It's just unfortunate. Not anyones fault. People don't like cold approaches if they already have partners. Dating apps mean people can get partners more easily than at third spaces. Ergo, when they arrive at third spaces, they already have partners, and now are the type of person to not want to be cold app…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:09 PM
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Do you get called a spinster or old maid? What exactly do you think the incel insult is? Or older than that, virgin? I don't know if it's because women's virginity is seen as a thing to be taken (creepy as fuck) so they don't get the insults about it. But from like 14 onwards, guys get called virgins to insult and demean them and imply they aren't real men. It is literally non stop virgin shaming from the moment you hit puberty, from peers and authority figures, even parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:05 PM
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I honestly think you are projecting man. Like if you prefer virgins, that's cool, but I think you are projecting your preference onto other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:58 AM
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Why can't you deal with other people's feelings of inadequacy and how they choose to handle it, rather than wasting your time complaining about it, as if that will materially improve anything in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:56 AM
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Yeah I'm genuinely shocked by the responses in this thread. So much spiteful insanity in here. I normally find this subreddit pretty anti-woman and pro-man but jeez this thread seems to have rabidly attracted all the people who are the opposite way. So much shitting on men in here. Like the amount of people making "shoulda worn a condom" comments? Do you feel the same way about women who get pregnant and want an abortion? Extremely hypocritical to get snippy at men for casual sex but not women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:20 AM
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Being banned from books in Idaho? I'd wait a bit before making this statement personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:06 AM
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Because rich and powerful men (and women) have a "Just World" complex and see poor a d troubled men as weak and worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:57 AM
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Yeah I think this is unfortunately the reality. I try to defend both men and women on this sub from what I think are unfair assertions, and sometimes a guy will reply random shit to me like "hehe women are dumb, they just don't get it" when I defend men. Its like some bandwagon thing they do to try convince themselves that everyone is like them and that they are intellectually superior for dropping their morals and being sex pests. But really they just make themselves look like trash. Tbh it jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 11:46 AM
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People often claim to speak for everyone when they had shitty views.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:27 PM
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Actually he gives Sam the book and tells Sam that the remaining pages are for him, to recount his own life and adventures. It's a way of telling Sam goodbye, of letting Sam feel like he can still talk to Frodo when he is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:21 PM
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Well now you are talking about the writers motivation for writing at all, rather than the heroes journey itself. That's an entirely different thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:00 PM
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No, men who find teenagers attractive say that shit over and over to try and normalise their creepy behaviour. None of the guys in my friendship group think that shit is normal and they all think that most 18 year olds still look like school kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:52 PM
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Some guys are sex fiends but so are some women. It's not an all guys thing. There's a guy I know at work who says the creepiest sex shit but there's also plenty of other guys I know at work who'd go pale hearing the stuff he says and probably thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:50 PM
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But that's not the point of the heros journey. It's set off on quest, get power, think they are ready to face villain, be humbled, realise they were wrong, try again with humble wisdom, succeed. The initial impetus is glory, but victory comes from the wisdom of failure. It's about becoming a deeper individual than you were and conquering your faults instead of the enemy / the world. Look at Luke refusing to kill Vader or the Emperor. Or the Fellowship sacrificing themselves at various points to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:14 PM
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I mean, at least to me, "lusting after someone" is an active thing, where you are just daydreaming about them or letting your thoughts be clouded by thinking about them constantly. You can think someone is sexually attractive without lusting after someone. Having self control is pretty easy. But if you’d rather just be offended than understand, whatever. "Women's sexual tastes are disturbing and gross out normal people. Don't feel offended by that. It's just true. But I understand if you get off…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:46 PM
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That's not really the way it is. It's not than every man finds anything female looking attractive, it's that men have a wider variety in the types of women they like, so when you add all men together, it ends up covering most women. There are guys out there who are disgusted by fat women, and guys who think thin women look malnourished. There are "tits or ass" guys, or guys who like both or don't really think about either. There are blonde guys, brunette guys and redhead guys and bald guys. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:26 PM
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I mean, first off, some men. A lot of guys think 18 year olds look / talk / act like children and find it very off-putting / annoying. But secondly, many 18yr boys find 40-50 year old "milfs" (as they say) attractive. Do you think that should be disgusting? It doesn't seem incoherent to me that people find people within the ages of 18-50 attractive, even if they grow beyond that age themselves. Just because they are off the market doesn't mean they can't recognise people who are on it. An aged a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:49 PM
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I think you are confusing attraction and "lusting". Its literally impossible for humans to turn attraction off. Its very possible to not lust after someone even if you think they are physically attractive. Just because a guy is attracted to someone on a glance doesn't mean they are lusting after them. Its entirely possible "damn they are pretty" and then just treat them like coworker because that's what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:44 PM
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I just feel it's a weird thing to bring up. Especially when the "girl desired by multiple guys" love triangle is probably the most popular romance book genre.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:37 PM
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You don't make a monogamous commitment to a restaurant or book either. Porn is a masturbation service, not a romantic fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:31 PM
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Most women in relationships are looking at other men too. Its not like the rest of the human race starts looking like horses when you get a boyfriend. Tbh I know a lot of gamer guys and none of them play visual novels, especially not anime harem ones. I expect that's a bit of a unique audience. I wouldn't rely on it to generalise most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:59 PM
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This is such wacky shit to read. That's not really how guys think. They aren't going around looking at women thinking about their private parts. Yeah they'll be attracted to them, but its not walking around thinking about their genitals. Its more just a vague sense of attraction and crushing. And that's only people they are attracted to. Guys are not attracted to everyone they meet. Guys have types too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:47 PM
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Like 80% of people oppose that though. Its just republicans shitting up the supreme court that made it an issue now. 80% of people won't oppose a male only draft, as we see from Ukraine etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:42 PM
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I'm not sure how men finding women attractive is disturbing? That's literally how attraction works. How else would it work? Do you think men should have the ability to turn attraction off once they get a partner? Can you do that? It seems very uncalled for to call it "disturbing".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:38 PM
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It's deception to claim one man is the father when she's knows there a chance he isn't. A lie of omission is still a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:00 PM
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If she had sex with another man within 9 months then she knows there is a chance he is the father, however slim. She is at fault, whether she verifies who the father is or not, because she knows there is a chance it's not her husband / boyfriend. Pretending she isn't at fault because she "might" be right about it being the boyfriend, is just like pretending it's okay to drink drive because the chance of crashing is only small. She knows it could be one or the other. Simply knowing it's not a cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 01:55 PM
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When you get into the driving seat drunk, you know that x y or z could happen. You are accountable for what happens, regardless of it only being a chance of happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 01:46 PM
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Energy for me is diet realted. When I'm eating lots of ready meals / junky food then it just traps me in a funk where I don't have the energy to go out or do any chores. When I go back to homecooking my own food I just don't feel bothered by things like keeping on top of my flat or going out to see my friends. Carby bready foods like pizza and ready meal pasta really mess with me I think. Some kind of gut flora thing I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:39 PM
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I think part of it is they just didn't know how to handle it. My parents weren't tired or anything but they just had no idea what to do and neither did any of the other parents of my friends. It ended up getting me a well paid comp sci career so maybe it was worth it but it definitely destroyed me socially. I think for them the path of least resistance was the one that was outgoing and sociable. So they didn't know how to parent in an era where the path of least resistance was sitting at home. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:56 AM
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Probably not off the top of their heads but if you asked if they related to those chars many would say yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:11 PM
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I don't live in America, I live in the UK, so probably makes a big differance. Drake is not really a big thing here. Like he's known, like any other muscician, but nobody talks about him, not like Taylor Swift or Lady Gaga etc. Likewise never heard of this green bubble dumbassery other than on reddit. Seems like an america only thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:59 PM
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I think here people just go for whatever the best deal is. I've only ever heard of the whole green bubble thing on reddit. Never heard such nonsense irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:51 PM
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Plenty of guys see themselves as a character like Katniss or Buffy. Beating up bad guys with your skills or superpowers. Sacrificing yourself for other people. Having to be the strong one or the provider for your family. Etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:52 PM
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Tbh this is such an extremely specific description that I'm finding it hard to believe it's not just someones type. I don't know anyone who listens to Drake. And most people I know don't have iphones either. Most are on samsungs. This sounds like OP just likes a certain type of women and only goes after them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:46 PM
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It's simply "Just World" fallacy. If something bad is happening to you, such as me insulting you, it's because you deserve it, because bad things happen to bad people. People who haven't experienced a lot of hardship tend to fall into this mindset and you see it a lot on this subreddit from people who have no issues dating. Which is mostly women here but a lot of the successful guys on here are like that too. It's hard for a human being to swallow finding out that they've had a leg up on life an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:50 PM
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Combine that with a strain of third wave feminism that categorizes all men as entitled psychopaths, 2nd wave feminism surely? That's the one that thinks men and women are basically different species. Hence why they are so rabidly anti transgender. Third wave feminism is about living up to your own expectations instead of being told what you are by other people such as 2nd wave feminists. 2nd wave feminism is genx and early millenials. Late millenials and genz are more likely to be third wave. 2n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 05:36 PM
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Labour, even with Kier will still be much better. He's not Corbyn but at least it's the right side of the fence and gives younger party members with a more left wing attitude more of a chance. People are way too down on Kier. Blair was the same and the UK made massive left wing strides in the early 2000s. Besides someone like Corbyn won't win for a long time. The UK just simply does not have a majority left wing population. It's mostly centre on either side. It's either Tories stripping rights f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 04:06 PM
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What does Pick Me even mean here? I thought it was like mocking someone going "pick me pick me" but how does "did he pick you?" make sense? Are they just insulting any women who is trying to be successful or something? So weird. Why would people do that? High school behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:18 PM
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I actually don't think that's true, mainly just because reddit is mostly mid 20s - late thirties, so not a lot of talking about the 40+ age bracket going on. But 20s - 40s I think is fairly accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:13 PM
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It could just be the "left hand" effect. I can't remember the percentages, but after they stopped punishing kids for being left handed, it shot up from like 5% of people to 40% of people. Whatever the numbers, the point is, it was always the higher number, but people were just hiding it to avoid punishment / ostracization.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:13 PM
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I know Dans who answers yes to all the questions you've put there (ignoring entitled) and they are all struggling with dating. Kind, honest, compassionate book reading, non-narcissistic men are exactly the kind of men who are struggling with dating. They are considered boring and uninteresting and generally just ignored. Most adults don't even read books anymore tbh. From my experience of watching my friends try to date, your entire list is just all red flags that say "this guy will never get a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:05 PM
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That guy you mentioned sounds extreme but it's because guys so rarely get a chance at a romantic connection that it completely consumes them when they do. If you are getting 1 date every 3-4 years then yeah you too are going to obsessing about doing something wrong and sending too many messages because you are panicking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:01 PM
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100% real. It's all about confidence and charm. Those two things stretch your economic value to be worth more. Charm and Confidence are a multiplier and when you multiply something by 0 you get 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:57 PM
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You never heard of Taylor Swift? You only need to look at the FauxMoi subreddit to know this opinion is wrong. There are hero worshipping women, you just don't move in those kinds of circles so you don't see them / hear about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:15 PM
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I just don't think I've ever met a woman who wouldn't be able to get a date on tinder. Maybe I just walk in different social circles or something. I could see someone with a disability like being blind or paraplegic, or being overweight (like truly overweight) having difficulty getting dates, but's kind of beyond the general conversation here. Or maybe I'm just not very lookist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:43 PM
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It's still about having the option, even if the option is a disaster. Even if the option is literally ordering an Axe Murderer to your house, you can still do it. These guys have nothing and they feel it in every part of their bodies. The feeling of your stomach dropping with dread is all that's left of them. They are so deep into despair they've gone from feeling hollow to feeling like dense rotting corpses just dragging themselves around a society that exists separate to them. A poisoned chali…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:29 PM
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I think in this scenario though, you still have the option of ordering the pizza, though you might have to ring round a few places, and it's a 90% chance of being terrible or giving you food poisoining. A lot of guys feel like beggars in the street, they can't even get a coffee. The difference between being unsatisfied / bad options vs starving / no options. Both situations are shit, but from the pit these guys are sitting in, the shit women deal with looks like sunlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:18 PM
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This is unfortunately something that happens. People can be terrible and sick in the head. I guess a similar thing for women is doing something "manly" or "strong" and having their partner say they aren't attractive anymore because they acted like a man. People suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:17 AM
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Why some are brave enough to have enough emotions to even cry in front of me? Because most times guys cry in front of someone, especially their romantic partners, the person who sees uses it as a weapon to hurt the guy. "Why did you cry, you looked weak, now I think you are pathetic and gross" or "I will tell your friends and coworkers you cried" etc etc. And others don’t have enough emotions to keep a conversation going for longer than 20 minutes? Some people are just boring but most likely you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:47 AM
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I think you simply can't see them because you don't know what you are looking for. In my personal experience, quiet guys are extremely emotional. It's why they are quiet and shy and not confident. Their quietness is a defence mechanism to keep their hearts from the rest of the world. You only ever have to watch a guy when you think no one is looking at him to see they have emotions and a voice in their head. They have to keep their guard up and pretend to be confident and easygoing in front of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:30 AM
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But in the book you linked, it's Androids who can't detect consciousness because they don't have any themselves. So if you don't think men have any because you can't detect it, doesn't that mean you don't have one? But outside of that it seems like you have decided emotions and empathy are female. There's no one who can help you understand men if you think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:14 AM
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I would not use the test. I have been with him for almost 10 years. If he was going to cheat or hit me, it would have happened by now. This feels like a reckless mentality to have. My friends parents marriage blew up a few years ago because it turned out his dad had been cheating for almost the entire time. They were together 25 years and he was cheating for all of it. His mum would of said what you said until she found out. Like how can you know until you know? I dont know why so many men who d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 12:07 AM
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Red Pill as a term comes from The Matrix movie in which Neo is offered a Blue pill to forget the truth or take the Red Pill to let go and accept its all fake. Its not about women being promiscuous. Its just about what you were taught by Romcom movies and your parents growing up being wrong. It is simply saying that you will not just meet Mrs. Right by being yourself and that your Dad didn't meet your mum that way either. You can call that pretending to be something you are not. I'd simply say it…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:20 PM
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I don't think it's a feminist women thing, it's just a narcissist thing, and a lot of narcicists cling to left wing values as a socially acceptable way to feel superior to others, including feminism. The amount of left wingers who revoke pronouns from a trans person who disagrees with them, or goes on anti Semitic rants one day but is anti Nazi the next, is alarmingly high. These people just want attention and anytime a minority threatens their free ride they will try to punch down to prevent it…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:08 PM
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I was imagining an opt out system so the answer to a lot of that would be "fine". All of that so that the relatively small number of men don’t have to have a potentially uncomfortable conversation with their partner? I feel like the number of men being tricked into raising someone elses child are the more victimised ones here. I feel like it shouldn't need to be asked, but do you actually support women making men raise a child that isn't theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:06 PM
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Tbh I don't have any skin in the game but I'm struggling to see the issue with getting them done. The only similar argument is "nothing to hide, nothing to fear" regarding privacy laws, but in this case literally the only reason to hide it would be infidelity. I literally cannot think of an argument against it other than "I want to hide infidelity".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 03:42 PM
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A lot of the people complaining enjoy seeing men struggle because they see it as a deserved punishment for some reason and when they see guys finding a way around it that pisses them off. Its no different to some men complaining about a women about a single mom being able to find a guy. They see her singleness as punishment for her "fun years" and it annoys them when she escapes that punishment. Its literally the same thing and why both situations the defense is "err X is preying on Y" and why t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 11:33 AM
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I think they mean that what they say about how to get women is right, but the way they treat and talk about women is gross. You can understand the ideas about building tension and womens needs without turning into an "all women are *****" red piller like Tate. Understanding how not to be a nice guy is a good lesson to learn. Becoming a misogynist is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 11:13 AM
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Well they did say opt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:58 AM
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I'd be interested in what you think of a guy it's literally happened to. Like of a guy's wife cheats and later on he find out and leaves her. Do you still see him the same way for asking it of his new wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:56 AM
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An average man can’t satisfy all of a woman’s needs. Men have no idea what it’s like being with an average male (unless you’re gay) so you can’t tell women that the relationship would be fulfilling. Considering most guys friends are guys, I don't think this is right. Guys enjoy each others company a lot. I think it's more likely that women have needs guys struggle to fufill and that guys have needs that women struggle to fufill. There's a bonding/comradere you have over a shared growing up exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:13 PM
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Yeah maybe. I just can't really see how it goes down. So the guy buys a ticket to a play and sits through the entire thing just to try mingle with whoever doesn't immediately leave afterwards? It just doesn't sound like the kind of thing that's going to work out in practise. But tbh I haven't been to many so maybe I just don't know the venues very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:40 PM
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I can't imagine Dances or Plays being appropriate places for approaching someone. Almost everyone attending those kinds of things will be either a couple, family or part of a friendship group. It'd be pure cold approaches only and almost certain rejection because someone won't want to look like they just give their number away in front of the friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:32 PM
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Yeah I agree with that. The way I see it, it's helpful for people to pass through, see they aren't completely crazy, and be able to emotionally release a bit about how painful the situation is, and then move on knowing it's not all just them. The people that get stuck here and use it to continuously stoke outrage in themselves are not helped though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:38 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with people discussing this without fixing it. It may well be far beyond the power of anyone browsing this subreddit to fix or overcome it. At least here people affected can share their feelings on it with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:48 PM
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Oh yeah definately tbh I think you are right, some guys are just like that to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:40 PM
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I guess the point I was trying to get at is why are you judging yourself from missing out on millions of things that you couldn't possibly do. It seems like a miserable standard to hold yourself to. You are just one person but judging yourself for not being all of the different versions of you that you could of been. At the end of the day, you can only be one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:44 AM
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I'm just happy and content that I get to live a life where I can do things that bring me joy and comfort. I get a KFC after work each Friday and savour it while watching reruns of Scrubs and Buffy the Vampire Slayer. There's a million new experiences I could be doing instead, but also a billion worse ones. I consider myself lucky that I have what I have and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:37 AM
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I think a big fear is being accused of harassing someone in public. It only takes like 5/100 people to be batshit crazy to make approaching the other 95 too much risk to have your life ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:34 AM
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Depends how much you trust an asmongold video lol but in a recent clip he read a stat from an article that was like 2-5/100 doing only fans iirc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:20 AM
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I think it can probably stretched to being "Assuming a woman doesn't know anything about a subject because she is a woman and talking like you are giving a lecture to a new student" which more often how I see it going down IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:18 AM
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These are also the only options for long term relationships too. There's plenty of guys who want an LTR and aren't interested in casual sex, but they have no choice but to use Tinder and Bars either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:14 AM
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So my coworkers wife died a few years back and he got back into dating after two years. He's 40s, got a young kid, and did killer on dating apps, always able to get dates. This scenario was a constant problem for him. The ex's don't give a shit about the kids, and just use them as a weapon against him. As soon as the Ex finds out the woman is dating again, he starts demanding time etc, complaining about another man being the in the house, making unannounced visits claiming the kid asked him to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:08 AM
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You can try pay for your meal with 3000 pennies but the restaurant may not accept it, even if you think it's equivalent to 30 pounds. There's equal and then there's equal. Single people with kids may be equal to unattractive people statistically, but unattractive people are still going to avoid them because it's too much trouble in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:03 AM
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WHY ARE PEOPLE MAD/SAD BECAUSE OTHERS THAT DON'T WANT TO BE AROUND THEM ARE NOT AROUND THEM?? Because they can't find people who supposedly want to be around them that others keep saying definately exist but theyve never seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:57 AM
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If you like it because you genuinely enjoy it, then that's you I would say. Yeah you could of been someone different if you grew up somewhere else. But that's only the potential to be different, and you don't have that potential anymore, presumably, unless you are living a false life or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:56 AM
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I am seeing it because it was literally in Doctor Who last week where the Doctor was mocked for not being able to solve a problem because he was "male presenting" which apparently meant he wasn't mentally equipped to solve it. Clearly written by someone who doesn't know what they are talking about but thinks that shitting on men with some random gender terminology makes them a good person. And the whole thing is especially bizarre when the Doctor was literally a women less than a week ago and is…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:45 AM
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The way you talk about your astrology is like a religious belief. And like, that's fine, but understand you are like a trad-catholic basically. You are massively limiting your dating pool if you want someone who will take your belief seriously because so few people believe in it or even consider it a real belief.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:01 PM
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I don't think there's any point continuing this conversation. We just have very very different views on what humans need / how they act. There's no common ground here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:05 AM
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The manosphere isn't writing Marvel movies or Doctor Who. Id also say it's worse from a quantity perspective. A lot of media is slightly or fairly "men are the worst". Whereas much less media goes after women like that, it's usually not mainstream or popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:18 AM
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This worked for three of my friends and one of them now has two sugar daddies in a poly amorous relationship. Respectfully, it's not working for my friend. He tried going to social clubs and making friends and stuff but ultimately everyone was already partnered up and the one girl he tried talking to apparently acted disgusted with him when he tried to start a conversation with her. They need to go to night clubs and bars and stuff. The amount of women looking for dates at their drawing class is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:50 AM
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I can only very generally speak to these as an outside observer to dating but: Then there’s self improvement... ...How is that different from fat activists that keep insisting their morbid obesity isnt a problem? The advice they get isn't good. The advice they need is that they need to find other guys who go to bars and hang out with them at bars to get social skills. Instead they get told to go the gym or "learn to enjoy being themselves" which is totally useless and irrelevant advice. Speaking…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:20 PM
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Yeah and he's somewhat wrong about the subject of choice, but he is right about how it's being done right now. Lecturing aloofly and then turning our nose up and sneering at people who disagree. That just makes us look insufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:04 PM
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That guys bent way out of shape, but the general gist about lecturing people is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 06:44 PM
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Oh yeah don't get me wrong. Having women superheroes is not problematic. Its more than if you look at phase 4/5 of Marvel it's been an onslaught of it. And look further across Disney, it's Star Wars and Indiana Jones too. I think a lot of it is caused by diversity initiatives which individually are good things but when applied across the entire education and entertainment industries, it becomes suffocating. Every company wants to get in on it. And every team in those companies wants to get in on…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 05:32 PM
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I'm trans and they aren't wrong. A little over the top with "woke" etc, but not wrong. This stuff is dangerous for trans people like me. Do you think Doctor Who making fun of The Doctor for being a man last week, in front of 5 million British viewers, won trans people any favours? No. It turns people against us. There is nothing wrong with media that is trying to portray trans people as normal citizens. But all the stuff that's anti-men is straight up damaging because it makes it "us Vs them" in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 05:02 PM
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It sounds like you need to do a full Costanza reversal on who you date.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:32 PM
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I tried to write this comment multiple times but it's really hard to explain. This is the best i've managed. It's just a vibe that men don't matter. Every piece of media is about lgbt people and women. Even gay men and black men are less revolutionary than gay women or black women. Most video games it's a girl as a protagonist, or a guy and his daughter. Men still dominate superhero stuff but even that's moving towards passing the mantle to a younger woman. Scholarships, diversity hirings, schoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:19 PM
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I think what they mean is that they grow to hate each other after 10 years because they got married to early and arent compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:55 AM
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Yeah but what I mean is none of them followed the trial at all and just read all the memes about it, which is what shifted their opinion. They were against Johnny before it started, and they still think he's a drunken dickhead. They just fell for all the "pooped the bed" memes because frankly a lot of the internet did. I can say for certain they all think Chris Brown is a massive piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:18 PM
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I literally can’t imagine a man being like “that Johnny depp always struck me as being abusive…. I’m sure he deserves to be in jail” I think you have a very narrow view of men then, or when you think of men you only think of a certain type. Most my guy friends fall firmly into "they both abused each other" and before that stupid media trial most of them thought he was the sole abuser. There are a lot of sensitive introspective guys out there with a lot of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:13 PM
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Because the men like that don't show that side of themselves to other men unless they know they are like that too. I had a 40yr old coworker who I worked with for 4 years. Genuinely seemed nice and shy as a mouse the whole time. We invited him to a work christmas dinner where he sat next to another coworker of mine who I was giving a lift to and on the way home she told me that the guy just sat there making creepy and very inappropriate comments to her the entire time. It was so hard to reconcil…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:05 PM
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They arent butbthey still teach guys that all he has to do is be good to get a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 09:26 AM
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Not going out of their way but they definately watched them. They grew up on Disney / Pixar movies, watched romcoms like Love Actually with their family and even most guy movies like Transformers have "guy wins over girl" stuff. Besides that, plenty of guys do genuinely like them. And I'd actually argue romcoms like Hitch and Failure to Launch are "guy romcoms".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:45 AM
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Lots of guys, especially sensitive and/or introverted, watch and enjoy romcoms. They won't say they do because they think it emasculates them but loads of them enjoy it and plenty of them are watching shows like Scrubs and Friends rooting for certain couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:52 PM
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I think "entitled to romance and or intimacy" is just what "thinking you will grow up and just find someone" looks like from the outside. The OP is confusing entitlement for naivete.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:39 PM
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In a circular kind of logic, I think it's only important to people who feel it's important to them. Some people just need it. Others are happy without any.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:16 PM
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There's literally a million reasons why someone who loves someone else would stay away. Trying to make it that black and white just makes it sound like you can't understand any remotely complex character.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:13 PM
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Because that's what they were taught their entire lives growing up by their parents, teachers and entertainment. Everything guys are taught growing up is "you will go out into the world and be yourself and find someone just like you and get married". Guys were watching romcoms and being told the tale of Mr./Mrs. Right too. I truly honestly think the only difference between the majority of men and women is that men have to make the first step. They don't have different attitudes or beliefs about …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:48 PM
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Yeah I don't get the impression it's common, it just seemed quite extreme which is probably why it popped into my head when I read this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:41 PM
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I'm not defending her I'm telling you the plot of the movie, of which half seems to have completely gone over your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:33 PM
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She comes back to him because her entire life is broken and she is at her lowest point and she is thinking "if everything is this bad then maybe I should go back to the only place I felt love" and then she sleeps with him. And guess what? She wakes up thinking she just raped him and yeah no shit she runs away again and then when she finds out she is pregnant she decides not to trap the person she thinks she raped in a relationship with his rapist and his rape baby. This is quite literally the tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:07 PM
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Just an interesting note, a long long time ago I saw a woman comment on Reddit that ever since she had children, she saw her husband's interest in her breasts as disgusting and infantile. Like she perceived him as having a fetish. She said she so associated them with breastfeeding now that it creeped her out and disgusted her that he liked them. She didn't feel that way before childbirth / breastfeeding but did after. I wonder how common that is or if she is a one off. I never really heard about…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 12:55 PM
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Well yeah because she was afraid to love him. Her experience of love from a very young age was being raped and abused by her father. In her mind, love and abuse were the same thing. There's a scene that I think is cut for TV syndication sometimes, where Jenny is at college and gets Forrest to touch her breast. A moment where she experiments moving past her trauma. Its a tender moment between them and Forrest prematurely goes off and gets freaked out. Jenny sees him scared and thinks she had mole…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 12:50 PM
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Yeah I think a lot of guys in thread are missing 2 things about the movie: Jenny deeply loves Forrest, and given the choice she would of chosen to be with him since she was young. Her father raping her traumatised her and made her think she would be doing the same to Forrest, and she spends the rest of her life unpacking that trauma. She is not fucking around till she needs a steady guy. She wants to be with Forrest the whole time but is convinced it would make her a rapist so she stays away. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:36 AM
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She slept with him because her love for him finally won out over her thinking it would be rape and then she ran away after because she woke up once again thinking it was rape and that she was a rapist. It took years of raising a kid like him for her to realise that he was capable of making choices and consenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:27 AM
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She wasn't selfish, she was just mistaken. She loved Forrest but thought it would be abuse to sleep with him. She ran away so it couldn't happen and so hopefully he'd forget about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:00 AM
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She wasn't saving Forrest for sloppy seconds. She loved Forrest since she was a kid but she thought it would be rape to sleep with him. She left so he would forget about her and then started abusing herself due to her feelings for him and comparing herself to her father because of them. At her lowest most self destryctive point she returns and sleeps with him and is so horrified at what she's done that she takes off with intention of returning. She is forced to when she finds out she is dying an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:17 AM
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Technically she did want him but because her father raped her she didn't want to take advantage of Forest in the same way. She was unpacking a lot of trauma her whole life and was only able to return to Forrest once she has a kid like him and better understood that he was making his own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:12 AM
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She cares enough to run away and abuse herself out if guilt. After like 30 years of that she gives in to him and sleeps with him and is so guilt ridden that she runs away again. Like her entire character arc is about understanding that what her father did to her is not the same as her relationship with Forrest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:08 AM
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You know that's like the entire driving force of the story right? She was raped and then falls in love with him and then fears raping him so she runs away and abuses herself out of guilt. That just repeats the entire movie. The whole point of her character arc is her learning to move past her trauma and live a happy life with a man who loves her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:03 AM
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She married him because she loved him and always did. Her entire conflict in the movie is that she was raped as a child and doesn't want to repeat the cycle with Forrest who maybe can't consent properly. She loves Forrest and has this constant battle with herself that he can/can't consent. She eventually sleeps with him and becomes so guiltridden that she runs away. Then she has a kid and doesn't want to force him on Forrest. When she gets sick she has no choice but to ask for his help, a d I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:00 AM
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sounds of men screaming fear
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:53 PM
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Sure women react differently, but just in terms of how guys react, I think it would go that way. If you are talking about strangers helping strangers, guys tend not to do that because it's dangerous / you could be accused of something.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:59 PM
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Not saying it's right or wrong, but if you asked a guy whether he'd help his male friend change a tyre at 2am, or a female friends tyre at 2am, I know who he'd say "tmmr" too and who he'd get up and go help. Tbh I don't think it's 100% sexual. I think there an element of wanting to protect someone too. Less worry about a male friend being out at night with a bad tyre.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:46 PM
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That mega comes off as white saviour complex to me. If the women in other countries want it, who are women here to say no? The reality is, the genders in some other countries have these situations switched. Lots of women in different cultures are trying to marry up because their society is more patriarchal so their society doesn't value them like a western one does. A lot of them are probably happy to meet a guy with money to travel and is less patriarchal. Men in your country don't belong to yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 08:54 PM
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I think it's more like men and women are at two different stages of the dating game and it creates immeasurable frustration and misunderstanding. Men are frustrated at women, because a woman can just walk into a pub or restaurant, announce she'll date whoever approaches her first, and walk out with a date. Women are frustrated at men, because even though they could do the above, like you say, getting someone who would actually be a cultural match in such a situation, is nearly zero, and it would…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:23 PM
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I mean they clearly aren't oppressed but that doesn't mean people can't talk crap about their gender. Being rich is also a pretty big deal for being able to get into things like politics and acting. But I don't see people saying women aren't oppressed because some women are rich. This is fundamentally the problem a lot of straight white guys have. They don't really benefit from the patriarchy but still get blamed for it. They are poor, get penalised by diversity regimes, their education was trea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 04:19 PM
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Usually it's because you are avoiding the solution because it's emotionally difficult to deal with for one reason or another. Like people with social anxiety being afraid to make a phone call. Fairly common problem for them. If they vent that to someone "solution orientated" often they just get told to make the call because nothing bad can happen. Which is true. But to the person with anxiety, they feel like the other person is getting angry at them or judging them for not doing something "Obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:52 PM
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As to empathy - a lot of women really have empathy for hardships of men. Men that demand more empathy, what do you expect? To be given relatinships or sex out of pity? Empathy is listening to you and at least trying to understand. I don't really think this is the problem. I think people just want subreddits like Fauxmoi to stop bashing men at every opportunity. There's probably 5 Hot threads a day on that subreddit that devolve into "because men", blaming Men for everything bad in the world. I j…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:48 PM
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Pretty stupid argument considering most of those 45 were not elected by the modern American population. The fact that Obama was arguably undermines your entire argument pretty hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:44 PM
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I had a big friend group at school but my mum wouldn't let me hang out with them after school because she didn't want me to become "delinquent". They were less than a 20m walk away through a nice neighbourhood so I could easily have done it if I was allowed. This is bearing in mind my friend group was the quiet nerdy group that all the teachers loved. But my parents seemed convinced that if we left the house unsupervised we would turn into chavs and start throwing bricks through windows and stuf…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:35 PM
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Too expensive and in countries like the UK not enough places for driving tests to book at to get it in time anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:33 PM
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If that was the case then why is the advice usually so bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:03 PM
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I think... yes, being more well rounded is important. But... you can do all that, and still end up in the same place. I have friends who are well rounded and can't get dates. They've got hobbies they do for fun, they have jobs, they like themselves, but they want that last thing, which is someone to share their life with. It's like the only advice is "just do it again, go become more well rounded again, go love yourself more till you don't care about dating". In a way I guess it kind of makes se…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:34 PM
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many men especially seem to think that dating apps and nightlife are the extent of effort one should put into dating I don't think that's an entirely unfair thing for them to think though, considering they often get told they shouldn't look for dates anywhere else. The most common exchange I see when someone tries to get dating advice on reddit is: Guy: Where else can I meet people. Other: You need to expand your social circle, get a hobby, make friends. Guy: But I tried getting dating at hobbie…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 08:57 PM
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Okay well I don't see it like that. It's just I feel like they are more personally invested in you getting better which feels like it puts more pressure on me to actually show improvement between sessions, which I can't always do, which makes me want to quit. Male doctors feel like they care less so I'm less stressed going into them and can talk more freely. I have had total arsehole male therapists kind of like what you described there. I actually had one berate me and call me rude because I di…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:19 PM
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Men even prefer female therapists over talking to a man who would potentially understand more about his “lived experience”. That's really interesting. I prefer male therapists/doctors because I feel like they will care less and be less judgemental.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:22 PM
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I think you have a pretty extreme version of it in your head. A "nice guy" is usually a guy who hangs around forever in the friendzone never making an approsch because he thinks if he is just "nice" then romance will flair. This obviously doesnt work but they dont know what else to do because theyve been taught since they were young to never approach women directly. He is doomed to watch her date and break up with others, each one she calls an asshole, and then immediately dates another just lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 12:34 AM
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Yeah but what actually are their options. They get told off or treated coldly for approaching someone in real life. You can't approach someone at a cafe or sports places or library anyone. "I came here to read, not to be hit on" etc is the response they get. They can't do it work because if someone takes it the wrong way then they could lose their jobs. The only safe place to hit on women is bars and clubs and a lot of people aren't bar and club people and may not even have a bar and club friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:02 AM
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Theres a bit more to it than that. There is also Gender Euphoria which is the opposite (feeling happy when seeing oneself as the desired sex) and other stuff. Different people experience and express it in different ways. People only really hear the "i knew i was trans since i was little" or "i always felt i looked wrong" story but that is just one possibility. Its like if people assumed every lesbian only had buzzcuts and wore tank tops. There is a lot of "lol 99 genders" stuff on reddit but rea…
/r/PussyPassDenied29/03/17 09:12 PM
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