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Your presence is a present :) We do side by side when we can. Often that's him watching tv or gaming, and me studying or cross-stitching
/r/RedPillWives11/08/18 08:31 AM
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I am thankful that I have taken the reins on my diet and have decided that I need to sort myself out rather than stay on the Fat Acceptance plan. Got around 70lb to go, but I'm not ostritching anymore 😆 I'm also thankful that I'm coming to the end of my University access course and know that I'll be moving on to my degree from October. I'm a distance learner, and very blessed that my husband is supporting me to study whilst he works. I'm thankful for my wonderful husband and son.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 03:22 PM
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How's everyone who was wanting to lose the weight doing? I lost 2.6lb this week. I know if I go too quick I'll end up with lots of loose skin and I definitely can't afford surgery
/r/RedPillWives10/08/18 12:41 PM
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Oh definitely. Getting angry at a shithole political situation is great, threatening to punch another dad because your kids fell out at the playground is not
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 04:07 PM
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My underwear drawers are the tidiest bit of my whole house!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 10:30 AM
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Emotional is fine, like crying when his dad died, or when at breaking point with work stress. Anger is fine, except for that sort of Fronting Up type of aggression that involves threats of unnecessary violence. But I would find childlike sulking, overly clinging/needy, whiny or inability to own his own shit a turn off. Emotional continence is important. Be Emotional, don't be massively out of control and scarily unpredictable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:30 AM
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Best way to take care of my beloved Pandora bracelet?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 04:21 PM
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Hiya :D well done on your weight loss, that's fab! I still haven't read up on keto, just calorie counting with MFP at the mo
/r/RedPillWives05/08/18 04:10 PM
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Social media is like a CV of your life. Nearly tailored for best impact so people are impressed by you, yet people who really know you see that it's 90% B.S. It's more about ego than SMV imho
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 10:25 PM
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If she's there 4 nights, her stuff is in storage areas and everywhere else, she's talking about getting rid if your stuff, she basically has already moved in ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 05:18 PM
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That is a brilliant idea!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 06:06 PM
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I want to lose 7lbs this month I want to purge my wardrobe and check over my autumn/winter bits I want to resolve a big financial issue so that I am in a better position to encourage hubby to take more of a role in the money areas
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 04:03 PM
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For me it's about cultivating childlike joy and awe. For example, yesterday on the way home we saw a helicopter being towed on a truck. I made a point of showing it to Hubby, smiling, letting my inner child excitement shine through. Also our son got to hand feed a wild squirrel in the park, and I took my joy and excitement at that to my husband. Making the most of my enjoyment and reconnecting with my inner child really helps
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 08:58 AM
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I agree. Unless it's part of a sustained joke mocking the child, I'd have just rolled my eyes and let it go
/r/RedPillWives31/07/18 08:51 AM
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It definitely helps. I usually do a Mind Dump spread when I need it, and just list every little thing that's worrying me
/r/RedPillWives31/07/18 08:44 AM
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Not really due to his shifts and his own need to exercise, but school starts again in September so I'll have more free time then
/r/RedPillWives30/07/18 04:53 AM
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Definitely hard-wired. The thought of having to juggle the time and emotional crap for a ton of different sex partners does nothing for me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/18 11:03 AM
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Your poor husband losing his parents so young!
/r/RedPillWives29/07/18 11:01 AM
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Mines is a combination of daily/monthly planner as well as general collections of stuff in the back like cross stitch planning, weight loss stuff. I have a Yankee Candle spread where I stick in the labels and rate how much I liked them so I know what to buy again.
/r/RedPillWives29/07/18 08:40 AM
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That's a good idea
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 08:31 PM
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Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 03:59 PM
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I'm hopeless at diary writing, I never seem to do anything interesting enough to write about 😂
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 03:58 PM
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I need to get my exercise sorted. I have to be a bit careful as we know that running triggers my epilepsy, so I have to look at lots of light-modrrate exercise rather than intense exercise, according to my doctors orders. Waking is good, though it's the school holidays here, so brisk waking with a 6 year old is nigh on impossible 😂
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 08:05 AM
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Definitely reactive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/18 07:44 AM
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I think we've spoken in RPWi :D everyone has been very welcoming
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 08:31 PM
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Losing weight, dressing more feminine, wearing make up. Currently a 2/10 landwhale. But I'm married and want to stay married, so my SMV isn't as relevant as my husband's rating of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 08:16 PM
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There's a big difference between having enough self-control not to instigate road rage or a fist fight in a kids playground and being meek. Maybe I'm the odd one out. Do other women generally like unpredictably aggressive men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 01:57 PM
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I'm not really sure how to answer that. Those to me are negative traits (uncontrollable aggression/violence, repressing emotion til they take their own lives) that are generally associated with masculinity but are harmful to men and society as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 01:56 PM
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Wow, well done! Thank you for all the tips
/r/RedPillWives27/07/18 08:56 AM
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Less violence, less aggression. More seld-control, more interest in raising their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/18 07:40 AM
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Thank you, that's very kind. I've started today by checking my weight, 10lb down on the beginning of May, but I have a lot to go so I need to step up the pace.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 09:04 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 06:39 AM
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Thank you, I'll look into that :D
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 06:39 AM
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Boredom eating is a definite factor!
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 07:16 PM
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I'll definitely look into This, thank you
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 06:35 PM
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Thank you 😊
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 06:35 PM
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I have an activity tracker, but basically only use it as a watch 🙄. I think MFP would be useful for me.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 06:35 PM
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He is big too. He wasn't when we met (bmi around 20) and I was around bmi 26. Over the years we have both gotten much bigger. He says he loves me as I am, still wants me etc. He wants to lose weight too. I think he'd be happier if I lost weight as he generally is attracted to small plus size (bmi 24 to 28 ish), plus my confidence would increase as would my flexibility and libido.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 06:34 PM
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I've started wearing my naturally wavy/curly hair straight because he prefers it. And tbh he's right, it makes me look younger
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 05:15 PM
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This was a kick in the ass I needed too. I have a long way to go, but I'm not getting any younger, and I don't want to die young.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 12:38 PM
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Not the good gives-you-superpowers kind, unfortunately. But then what do you expect, when our female leg hair is so unhygenic ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 07:38 PM
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Women's leg hair contains 70% more germs, parasites and radiation than men's perfectly sanitary leg hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 05:06 PM
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My son is now six, but from ages 2.5 to 4, he occasionally liked to dress up in princess costumes and pretend to be me, making food, looking after babies etc. He grew out of it naturally as he interacted with other kids. Now he would be horrified by the idea. Kids go through phases.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 04:26 PM
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The consequences are living a life where nothing is ever enough. Women should "have it all", career, kids, being a full time mum as well as working full time to retain independence. Many women report that trying to juggle everything is stressful, and they'd rather be home full-time. The problem is we're told that by doing that we're letting down the team. That SAHMs can't be feminists because we're relying on a man and essentially his servant. I'd also say that there's a higher risk of STDs and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 09:21 AM
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As in equals, making better maternity AND paternity provisions, better DV support for women AND men. I believe in better custody arrangements to ensure both parents see the kids fairly. I do believe workplaces should be more flexible for working parents. I believe men being told not to have any emotion except anger isn't good for them and contributes to the suicide rate. I believe rape is a big issue and we need to curtail that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 10:11 PM
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They also have in common wealth/security though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 07:59 PM
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I'm a 2/10 landwhale, n=1, married for 15 years. So for me, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 06:29 PM
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I started this back in the spring, but over the months lots of new clothes has come in and I'm struggling to be ruthless. Generally it has helped keep clothes tidier though. I have a wardrobe rail that is face on rather than side on, so haven't managed to do my closet. I also struggle with this as I am unhappy with my weight (trying to lose) so none of my clothes spark joy
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 04:57 PM
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Yes! This is an area I need to work on
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 04:48 PM
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I think yes, the SAHW/M should do the housework, but the husband should also be owning his own shit enough not to be adding to the workload unnecessarily. That means he puts his dirty clothes in the hamper, rinses the sink after shaving, doesn't leave dirty cups or food packaging lying around.
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 09:33 AM
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For husband: Trustworthy, self-control, loving
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 05:51 PM
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It is very odd!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 03:38 PM
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Thank you, I'll sit down and have a proper read this evening :D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 03:36 PM
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She does make me laugh, she doesn't pull her punches!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 02:27 PM
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Ahhh! I love those characters
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 02:24 PM
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I'm half way through my second reading of Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands, and listened to the Proper Care And Feeding Of Marriages audio book
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 01:56 PM
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Not even slightly. I apologised because I didn't realise it had come over badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 01:51 PM
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It's definitely ambiguous, I'm still trying to drill this down within myself. I feel that a more nurturing, more admiring, less being-in-charge-of-the-ship set up would help me to be a better person and free me up to help grow our family's happiness. I think my husband would benefit from his needs and wants taking more of a front seat rather than me being the one who calls the shots. I want to live a calmer, traditional life where I manage my role better. Actually, I wonder if this is more about…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 01:39 PM
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I didn't intend it to sound passive aggressive, I apologise that it sounds that way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 01:32 PM
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Automod as I'm a 2/10 landwhale in a 15 year marriage. I don't think the amount of attention makes a difference when it isn't quality attention
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 01:12 PM
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Can't say anything nice and already said all the nasty stuff on Facebook!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/18 07:24 PM
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It would do the opposite for me. I would despise being in any way famous!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/18 11:08 AM
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I didn't care when he came out, nor did he care when I did. I'm switch-leaning-sub, and have seen him suck cock, it's definitely not a deal breaker. (F, blue-purple)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/18 05:51 PM
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Slow to anger, not unnecessarily aggressive, funny, doesn't trash talk women, humble
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/18 04:06 PM
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Not all it takes, but will give any man not doing those things a huge boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 03:42 PM
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Men who own their shit, can take care of themselves, and actually following grooming/hygenie standards are always going to be more successful than the whingey guys who can't wash their own clothes, spend all day of their Xbox and never wash their junk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 11:12 AM
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Then society wonders why women are more afraid of men than men are of women. It's because we're (women) blamed for men not learning that just because you (men generally) want something doesn't mean you're being treated unfairly if you don't get it Edit for clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 07:19 AM
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None of the married women I know have suitors or back ups. I've been married 15 years (since I was 19), never had suitors or back ups. Some of us intend to stay married. Yes, I possibly could branch swing, if I wanted to, but I don't want to. The obsession with hypergamy doesn't take into account that many women want to stay with their spouse, forsaking all others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/18 08:08 AM
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One of my in-laws got a brand new pair of designer jeans every time she put out for her husband. She got nothing for every time she put out for her badminton partner though!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 03:13 PM
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Got evidence to back up that claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/18 09:15 AM
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Did you change your mind, or relent because you felt you had no choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 05:25 PM
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Meh, I'd prefer to be smaller and prettier, but it is what it is. I'm not on the look out for extra cock anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 11:02 PM
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Yellow, green, green, but purely based on looks. All 3 would be red if they had unattractive personalities/mannerisms. I'm a 2/10 landwhale.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 10:55 PM
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F- Nope, I don't like shallow people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/18 01:17 AM
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This!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/18 06:26 AM
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Yep, definitely Brads over Chads!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 07:58 PM
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Replying here as a bi female. I like masculine but not overly muscly/vain men I like curvy feminine women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 08:47 AM
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Still no. But I do wish that the rapists/molesters/paedophiles could have enough of a reduction to make everyone's lives safer. That's the only button I could push
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 06:12 PM
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I don't believe in forcing peoples bodies to change because of my personal ethics. If I agreed to do this, what would stop a man having the choice to end all women's desire for monogamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 06:08 PM
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Totally in men's interests to had to pa child support for a kid neither of them wanted but abortion option was gone. Removing our right to decide what does or doesn't grow in our uteruses has a knock on effect on men too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 03:51 PM
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Thanks, I hadn't considered that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 09:50 AM
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We went exclusive and got engaged when I was 16, married at 19, now nearly 35
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 06:52 AM
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Competant men the aren't secretly drunks/drug users. Competent fathers who aren't treating their sons like inferior, or getting sickeningly weird about their daughters dating. Competent husbands who aren't bumbling, unable to use kitchen products or fold laundry, or completely ridde roughshod by domineering wives. Men who get stuff done without being violent asshats. Women who are feminine without having to be slutty. Women who love their husbands. Women who aren't always gossiping and bitching.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 12:06 PM
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Nope, I'm a 2/10 landwhale. I also don't generally interact with men other than husband/family
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 07:27 PM
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Started dating at 15 &18, moved in together at 16 &19, married at 19 & 22. Still together at 34 &37
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 07:14 PM
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I thought this would be way worse for the possible options. Both scenarios happened before you met. Assuming she's never outright lied about having done either of those things, I don't see why it's that big an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 07:01 PM
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the girl friends accept that sleeping around is just one of the quirks of being with them Wow. Sounds like a recipe for STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 01:02 PM
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So stay at home parents aren't fully actualized humans?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 03:52 PM
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I'm British :) I do tend to be quite black and white on issues generally
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 01:14 PM
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How do you feel like a walking contradiction? Because some views contradict others. I think women should have freedom of choice over relationships, but I also believe you should be married before having kids. I believe that courts are unfair in dividing custody when dads are good parents, but also that the bond between primary caregiver (usually mum) should be given precedence for the child's well-being. I believe in freedom for abortion, but also feel that dads get a really rough deal. I believ…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 01:09 PM
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I don’t think guys are thinking about this from the woman’s point of view, because you nailed it. No woman wants to be a substitute for a fleshlight. Some would argue that that's the best a woman like me could get though. "Low value" women are essentially just throw away fucks for non-chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 08:41 AM
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I don't think I really belong here but I really enjoy the posts. The confusion and sleepiness make me wonder if you may need thyroid bloodwork doing. Do you also feel colder than other people, or lose a lot of hair when you brush?
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 09:53 PM
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As a 2/10 landwhale, yes I'm pretty sure I could have NSA sex easily. But would they be decent, nice people? Unlikely. Could I get a 5? Yeah, maybe. But why would I want a random hook up when as a woman my mating strategy is LTR/commitment? It would go against my best interests to shag a ton of men who don't want commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 09:48 PM
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Agreed. We need to teach kids that porn isn't real life sex, just like how Hollywood car crashes aren't how real car crashes look
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 09:42 PM
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Each to their own. I support them and use their pronouns. Other people's gender identity isn't my business
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 12:04 AM
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I really don't see how.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 07:23 PM
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I'm not disputing that anal has existed probably as long as human have had the desire to stick penises in things. I'm saying the balance has changed and things like anal, deepthroat, bdsm are rapidly becoming the norm in porn, and with that comes an expectation that these are regular practices in all relationships. For teenagers (especially those with sub-standard sex ed) the pressure is immense
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:27 PM
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Small men like you will never have to make decisions that I have They're going to be pretty distracted from their decisions when they realise they have a vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:24 PM
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Thanks for that input, that's what I expected
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:23 PM
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I dont get it at all. The police exist for a purpose, partly to stop vigilantism. Why wouldn't you call them? As for men monitor themselves, it's certainly not my experience. I don't see men called out for "locker room talk", and when I ask men I know they say people don't get called out for it. Hell millions of men (and white women) voted for it. Where was the censure there?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:21 PM
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I have a problem with callous cruelty. A lot of the RP stuff I have seen encourages on purposely fucking up the mental well being of your partner by making them feel you're cheating/ planning to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 04:52 PM
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Beating someone in an alley with a cue IS negative masculinity. The worship of violence isn't a positive trait
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 04:00 PM
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How much easy to access porn contained anal in the 70s? How easily could children age 10 and up access hard-core violent porn in the 70s?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 03:59 PM
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I think it is too black and white. Define chaste, define high N. Also, people are a mix of many traits in many scenorios.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 03:33 PM
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I don't really have much experience (PIV n=1), but I think generally porn sex is putting demands on women that didn't exist before. Certainly this is a problem in teenagers where they are expected to do anal/cumshots/deepthroat because teenage boys are getting most of their sex ed from porn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 08:19 AM
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I have been on it but it didn't really hold my attention. R/redpillwives and r/femininenotfeminist are better. I don't really belong anywhere. I think of myself as being generally blue as I believe in many feminist ideals, but I have a fairly red pill style marriage out of choice because I believe there are some red pill things that are beneficial for a happy marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 07:49 AM
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Do RPs even believe in Negative Masculinity though? I would say positive masculinity is being Focused, Passionate, Skilled, Knowledgeable, Good in a crisis, able to be kind and compassionate, strong but able to admit with good grace when they need help (I'm blue-purple F)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 07:32 AM
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There will be plenty of stepmums too, but often not in the child's main household. I would also guess (not checked evidence) that women are more likely to remarry, especially if they have children. Men are less likely to get custody as they're usually not the primary caregiver who the child has been best able to form a bond with due to higher likelihood mother was the stay at home parent, or due to breastfeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 07:19 PM
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Hehe I'm not sad. Millions of people who died before 35, or who have terminal illness as teens/young adults would love to still be alive at my age. Life is too short to worry about pulling young men who believe a woman's value ends on her 30th bday
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:23 PM
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So you're saying this law could bring down Capitalism, huh? Maybe I can get on board with it after all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:10 PM
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This!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:09 PM
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Tough one. I think face is a little more important if the option is awful/perfect. If it was acceptable/perfect I'd say height. As for your two celebs, I think they're both attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:04 PM
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Oh Yeah, such a good job straight men don't do that to women. God knows the loud obnoxious shouting and yelling would piss me off. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 03:50 PM
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Thank you so much
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 03:37 PM
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No idea how to properly quote, many apologies Q4W: How often would you like to have sex with your SO? At present 7-10 times a week. Variable libido from LL to responsive desire to HL and back around. Generally LL/RD If you are a woman who's sex life has slowed with your SO, why did it happen from your perspective? I got focused on other things, felt unsexy, felt overwhelmed with household ad child responsibilities, felt my work to make a home for us was unseen and unvalued What do you think can …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 02:04 PM
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Holy homophobia, Batman! Homosexual men and their behaviour is not "past their welcome". They're free to live their lives as they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 11:53 AM
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Mental load is plenty of work. Running a household/family takes a lot of thinking and organising
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:42 AM
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I would say Dr Laura Schlessinger's books on The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands and The Proper Care And Feeding Of Marriages are pretty good RP type advice on getting and maintaining commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/18 06:14 AM
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I read that as president
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 09:28 PM
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Anyone else just discovered they're a "real old woman? XD
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 09:28 PM
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I think it'd involve much more hair trimming, skin care all over body, and tidier clothes. I'd be all for it. Ridiculous how much effort women are expected to make comparatively
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 07:03 AM
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Yep, I've had a thing about Lynx Africa (axe in the US?) since I was a teen. I will always end up checking out whoever is wearing it, regardless of appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 06:54 AM
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Europeans are Ok? Hehe I'm curious to know where you're from
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 06:45 AM
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I agree. It doesn't even have to be taking on a lot of the jobs, just literally don't make her job any harder. Put your dirty laundry when it needs to go, wipe down a counter if you've left crumbs, dirty dishes in the washer etc. Basically clean up after yourself as you go, and tell her that you appreciate all her hard work to make a nice home for you and the family. I think part of the mental load issue is the lack of acknowledgement
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 01:24 PM
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I know virtually none. I work in a field with almost exclusively women, and the lack of a partner doing any of the mental load is the first thing they bitch about
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 01:21 PM
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We got married because we loved each other and wanted to make a permanent life together. Money was never a factor, we knew we'd be poor as fuck either way. He came from a background with lots of broken homes, and didn't meet his dad til he was 23. I came from a background where couples made each other miserable but stayed together. I guess we wanted to do better and have happily ever after. If we were to divorce we'd likey split child custody 50/50 So there'd be no child support, and I'm pretty …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 09:06 AM
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Tragic, and a little bit worrying. This rationale quickly leads to "they obviously physically enjoy it, theyre just mentally inhibited, so why not do it and help reduce their inhibitions?" It's a slippery slope.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 08:48 AM
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Nope, I'm afraid you're wrong on this. It may be a Must for you, and god knows Society as a whole values male orgasm above everything else, but for the rest many are able to get complete enjoyment without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 08:43 AM
1

I know someone who after her rape was unable to fully enjoy sex with her husband anymore and started seeking out risky (but consensual) stranger sex and couldnt orgasm from normal healthy sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 08:36 AM
1

That's not a term other countries use?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/18 06:40 AM
4

Zero. I was a virgin when hubby and I first had sex nearly 19 years ago. I'm one of the odd women that apparently don't exist who have no interest in branch swinging either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 12:08 PM
1

I thought being obese was an automatic massive point dropper. Arent all of us landwhales under a 4 regardless of anything else? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 12:03 PM
1

CC, and not being able to find love if you're a landwhale. That all blue pill women are ball-busting career types, radfems or lesbians. I have a relationship that presents as very red-pill as I'm a stay at home wife and don't talk down my husband to others, and get his approval before making plans that would affect his time with me or our son.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 07:06 AM
4

Nope. I know loads of overweight and obese women, they still have plenty of (non-chad) dating options up to about a 7. The key is personality and presentation. An obese girl who dresses sexy/vintage, cares about her hair and make up, has a dirty laugh, and generally likes sex still has a great chance of finding a relationship with someone she likes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 07:03 AM
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I know a few obese girls with boyfriends/husband's that are 8 or 9s. But usually these girls are pretty, dress feminine and have really great personalities. I dont think people as a whole are as negative about being over-weight as the red-pill type subs are
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/18 06:59 AM
1

Assuming I was suddenly to become a single woman again SMV 2 RMV 4 I'd be looking for a guy who appealed to me personality wise, and who I found attractive even if society didn't. Maybe a 2-6 based on the usual looks definitions here. RMV would need to be 5+ as I'm not a STR fan and like stability. Alternatively, I'd be looking for a woman with a similar SMV but wouldn't be as fussed about RMV because I'm less likely to have a relationship rather than a FWB situation with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 03:09 PM
10

Depends if you count MRP as TRP too. Yes, because Dread above the point of just sorting out your looks, hygenie, style and body is a turn off. I don't wanna fuck someone who I don't feel safe with, or who I suspect is fantasizing about the women he repeatedly flaunts in my face
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 02:38 PM
1

I didn't at all stalk your profile in case you had a pic...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 05:59 PM
-1

If it looks really pretty/delicate, it's possibly fake. If it involves grunting, scratching, biting or writhing it's probably real ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 07:05 AM
1

To figure out who the fuck I am and not be defined by the relationships I have. To be an individual strong enough to stand alone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 08:07 PM
2

The problem with this sub is that telling sarcasm from earnestness is nigh on impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 07:55 PM
1

There's plenty of belittling (cock carousel, the wall, land whales, oldest teenager, unable to make rational decisions etc) AWALT is a way of treating women as an "other " without recognising individuality. All women allegedly branch swing, dont feel attraction to betas, have had way more sexual partners than they admit to. I know from personal experience that it's not true. If AWALT, how can my life not conform to that, as I'm a woman? What can change my mind? If there was less focus on women b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 07:07 AM
9

100% agreed. Approach, make chit chat, don't make sexual comments, read her body language and eye contact. If she seems avoidant or disinterested, wish her a happy day and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/18 06:44 AM
5

I've been with my husband since we were 15 & 18 (now 34&37). He was diagnosed with depression a chronic anxiety before we met due to childhood abuse. I've seen him at his lowest points of self-harm, low self esteem, crying uncontrollably. It has never occurred to me not to stick with him. He is a rock for me when I'm struggling, I am a rock for him. We're a team. I don't believe make emotions are wrong and shameful at all. He is physically masculine (tall, broad shoulders, beard)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 01:48 PM
1

Blue mostly. I believe that the biological arguments for Af/bb make sense. I definitely agree that women are more ruled by emotion. I can see that I've made decisions and changed my behaviour based on (unintentional) dread. I know I have the instincts to comfort and shit test. Own your shit should be something everyone does. However, belittling women, and on purposely making a partner feel doubt in your affection/trustworthiness seems like a good way to end up with a mentally struggling spouse. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 01:37 PM
1

I'm rural town in the UK. We had similar at our children's centre, but at 6 months all the mums went back to work and I quickly became excluded from their events as I was the odd one out as the SAHM who was breastfeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 10:54 PM
3

And the loss of identity. That has been one of the worst for me over the years
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 05:11 PM
2

He doesn't care about the money, he's always wanted me to be home full time (he's quite traditional in that). It means we're poor, but once you add in child care and travel I'd make barely anything in a proper job anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 08:36 AM
0

Yep. It's always in the back of my head that he's slowly building up a resentment. However, my role at home takes off the burden of pressure he would have if I was working and we were juggling shifts and childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 07:48 AM
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Being a SAHM is isolating. I frequently speak to less than 5 people a week in real life. Sure, I am in my home environment, but I don't think I have more leisure time. Most women still bear the brunt of the housework and childcare whether they work or not. That means always being on duty (such as having to wake in the night with the children). I would propose, from my experience of working with parents in my job and previous roles, that a lot of the happiness reported by mums who stay at home is…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 07:46 AM
1

Also SAHM =/= submissive. I am a SAHM (mixed with a small self employment of 1 hour a week, and being a part time uni student from home) but I would say I'm more the Captain than the First Officer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 07:41 AM
2

I wouldn't try to control it. But I would be having huge chats about consent, legalities, emotions, safety and consequences. I don't have anything I've done that I'm ashamed of (PIV N-count 1 lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 07:32 PM
1

Lift and read the sidebar, obviously ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 07:13 AM
2

Both are immoral. 1- after a year, exclusivity would be a given to most, unless agreed otherwise 2- she was asked a straight question, she chose to deceive her partner
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:16 PM
0

Against for me personally. Would be in support of medical MJ in the UK but ideally in a form tha doesn't leave my town smelling like burning dog shit. Prison for cocaine/heroin/ecstasy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 10:16 PM
2

Awesome :D
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 01:17 PM
2

We met when we were teenagers, he'd already left school, I was dating his best friend who was still in school. I was already a "landwhale", bossy and quite possessive. I've always been loud-mouthed too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 01:17 PM
1

Onus is on you to provide evidence to support your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 09:39 AM
1

Is it better to be a beta (lower SMV or RMV, less dominant) but who is very happy, or an Alpha (high SMV/RMV, dominant) who is just okish rather than very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 09:22 AM
1

Interesting, how come?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 08:11 AM
1

F 34 blue mostly I wouldn't ever leave my husband over this sort of thing . For the first 8 years of our relationship he was on long term disability benefits. I still loved him and stood by him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 06:28 AM
2

Reading these I'm not sure how the hell I ended up married!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 06:24 AM
0

This!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 04:25 PM
7

Becasethe implication to me is that he doesn't have faith that the relationship will last. I'd be fine with a pre-nup if that was his reason
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 10:32 PM
6

Big deal breaker. I would feel like he wasn't 100% invested in us as a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 09:17 PM
1

She's lovely!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 07:05 PM
0

Quite a few to 7-8s, one to a 9. They are happy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 10:35 AM
1

There are LOTS of hot thick ladies :D I don't have the same obsession that so much of reddit does that only skinny people are attractive. Generally I'm attracted to people who are a bit above "normal" weight. (Still haven't sorted a flair, but I'm a bluey-purple bi female)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 09:38 AM
1

I'd probably feel quite insecure that he'd be comparing me to them. But that would happen regardless of how many or the sort of women he'd slept with. Testing would be essential though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 08:57 AM
2

What statistics are you basing this on?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 08:46 AM
2

I have no issue with it, I'm not the sex life police! Personally I am not wired that way, but I have poly friends who are very happy wth their relationship set up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 08:16 AM
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Disagree, there's plenty of hot big guys. A passable face, decent hygenie and sense of humour.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 07:59 PM
-1

Interesting. The majority of overweight girls got married without any issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 07:48 PM
9

I'd say I'm mostly group 1, except I'm poor. AWALT is plain incorrect in my experience, so I take that with a pinch of salt. As for the wall, I'm nearly 35 (and a "landwhale") and couldn't care less about arbitrary rules on what is and isn't valuable in a woman to RP men. I've seen plenty of older women finding love again and making happy relationships. Happiness is way more important than sexiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 11:58 AM
7

The fact that she is damaging your friendships and business is a red flag. It sounds like this is getting toxic quick. If making her move out ends the relationship, I'd say that sounds like a game plan!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/18 08:11 AM
1

Chad the all-american jock with lots of sexual success. The alpha male type.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 09:46 PM
1

I was thinking more of Chad as a stereotype. The muscly/athletic most popular and attractive guy with all the sexual success.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 09:45 PM
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A man who has feminist viewpoints (abortion, safety of women in relationships, anti-rape culture, women being encouraged to go into STEM etc) is infinitely hotter than one who disregards women as being "the eldest child in the house/sluts/bitches". Women like to know their lives matter to the men they're with. I would propose that for many women the man being a feminist would increase his SMV, ditto being left wing. For me personally, right wing views would make even a 10 down to the lowest digi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 09:36 PM
2

I'm female, I was simply looking to confirm my real world experience of the women I know, which is that Chads aren't every woman's type, and most wouldn't cheat just because Chad was available to them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 05:41 PM
2

Your description of a Chad is mine too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 05:30 PM
3

Agreed! Advocating domestic violence is pretty disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 04:28 PM
2

The specific video you linked, the dance moves do feel feminine, almost like a paraody. However, generally love men who can dance. Even a good some dance skill is great. But dancing generally is good for all genders. Think of the Latin dances in dance cmpetitions; Paso doblé, standard tango, argentine tango. Also old Hollywood whilst men still danced (American Smooth, Charleston to some degree)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 04:26 PM
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I am a SAHM and my husband definitely prefers me to stay home. It was a joint decision, but whenever I've said about returning to work he says he'd rather I was home. It means that he doesn't have to worry about school runs, child sick days, laundry, cooking etc, so we're splitting the load
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 09:10 PM
3

F*ck no.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 08:28 PM
1

Overweight people know a ton about dieting and healthy living, having spent the majority of our lives trying to force our bodies to change thanks to the constant shaming and nastiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 06:25 AM
9

Ability =/= Opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 03:13 PM
6

When you're on purposely trying to make her insecure and afraid she and her children will be abandoned, that's not respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 07:01 AM
1

Self defence, defence of a child, animal, elderly or disabled person, if they are at serious risk of harming themself or others (about go drive drunk and you've tried everything else you can think of). Basically as a last resort in a situation to prevent further harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 08:11 PM
3

What I like to do as hobbies: reading, yoga, seeing, cross stitch What I actually do: watch crap on YT.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 06:47 PM
3

Trimmed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:53 PM
1

5ft 8 to 6ft 2, hair from dark blonde through to black, eyes blue/green/grey. Broader shoulders, not too lean or too muscled, so average- low plus size. Big hands, strong jaw, stubble-full beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 10:30 AM
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