HeSayYouBradeRunner Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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0	That moment when the fear drops away She can have it all as far as I’m concerned. Don't adopt this approach. You WILL regret it down the road.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/19 03:20 AM
1	vent: delusional two face lying Oh hell. I had the option to pay my ex a lump sum for alimony and I leapt at the chance even though it cut my capital thin. I felt I’d make more money in years coming and there was no way I’d let her enjoy the fruits of that. I was right. My income more than doubled, nearly tripled. She was pissed that she couldn’t claim any of it for spousal support. I agree about the confused feminism you mentioned. Some women are still entrenched in the idea that they’re to be cared for and thus develop a mon…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/19 03:24 PM
1	I can't unsee what I saw. I feel you, brother. Time does help. Be there for your kids and don’t forget to take care of and be kind to yourself. When I see these heartbreaking stories I am ever so glad that I wasn’t in love with my wife when we ended things. I just see her as an entitled, emotionally dysfunctional asshole. It made her departure easy to take. Anyway. I know you’re in terrible pain now. It will subside, in fits and starts, over time.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/09/19 08:41 PM
1	Ex moved 8 houses down The state of gender bias. It’s nasty bullshit that needs to stop in the court system.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/19 09:14 PM
1	This morning my wife told me our autistic son was “a piece of shit”. This was the final nail in the coffin for me. Kids are involved. You might have a custody battle. A good lawyer will save you $$$ and emotional grief in the long run. Best of luck, bru.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/19 04:51 PM
1	Help understanding why men get married Do NOT get married. This is what I’ll be advising both of my kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/04/19 09:02 PM
1	Ex wife moving out of state with kids? She’ll have to give. Stand your ground on this my dude. Another single dad here who has to fight his ex for the little time I have, supporting you.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/19 01:09 AM
1	Ex wife moving out of state with kids? IANAL. Depends on your jurisdiction, and the details in your divorce settlement, but generally she isn't going to get what she wants without some kind of seriously extenuating circumstances. The kids have their lives (friends, support system, etc) where you are now, and disrupting that could be quite detrimental to them.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/19 12:56 AM
1	Any tricks to stop getting emotional when telling people about this? The three most toxic words ever said to little boys: "Be a man." It's OK to cry, and you bloody well should let it out. In divorce we're hurting from betrayal, loss, confusion. If you don't feel what you're feeling you're either an android or dead. And since you're neither... Big hugs from this bro to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/19 05:20 PM
1	When will divorce law change in the 9 states? I don't believe that he deserves to live lavishly or that he has the right to her assets or money. I know that she worked her ass off to make those gains while he just followed like a puppy. Jurisprudence is against you. She entered into a contract (which is what a marriage is) where both partners are supposed to support each other. Also, the story as to why he's just doing menial tasks is germane to the bigger picture. What if she told him, "Just be our janitor, I'll handle the rest"? She just …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/19 02:13 AM
1	When will divorce law change in the 9 states? Are you talking about income or assets? These are two very different things. The point about splitting assets is that a stay-at-home spouse is giving up their chance to make something of themselves. A lot of women were in this spot prior to the late 20th century, where they dropped potentially lucrative careers to stay home and raise the kids. Now they're 40, divorced, and have no work experience for the last 15 years, so they aren't going to find any job that pays much above minimum. Income is …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/19 01:21 AM
1	When will divorce law change in the 9 states? So the thinking behind 50/50 is that both of the spouses should continue living at or close to the standard of living to which they have become accustomed. Say you're a loyal spouse who maintained fidelity over the years, you supported your superstar/breadwinner spouse emotionally, intellectually, whatever so that they could just focus on their careers. Suddenly, breadwinner spouse, heady with all of his or her success, decides to sow some wild oats because they're drowning in high-end dick/puss…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/19 12:59 AM
1	How is this fair?!? I hear you. The pendulum used to be far over on the other end of the swing, when women and kids who were abandoned by the husband/father were left living in poverty while the assholes ran off and ignored all sense of responsibility. Now that the pendulum has swung, it's pretty far over on the side that biases against men, but work is being done to change that. Some of the provinces in Canada just recently (2013 where I live) instituted a new family law that makes it more equitable, where there i…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/19 06:58 PM
1	How is this fair?!? I don’t know what jurisdiction you’re in, but in Canada you can make an argument that your ex is underemployed. The court can then impute her a higher income, which may reduce or eliminate the child support you pay her. And yes, in most places the system remains biased against fathers. It’s bullshit. Talk to your government rep, start a protest, etc to get the laws changed.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/19 05:15 PM
1	More of a rant, but my ex is just pissing me off today Your ex is an asshole. This is a power struggle with you and nothing more. Stand your ground and involve your lawyer if you have to, and be sure to document all of this thoroughly. I hear you loud and clear, my dude. I have an ex who pisses me off regularly by trying to gaslight me about the kids, and she is one of the pettiest people I've ever known. I wonder if your ex and mine aren't related somehow.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/19 01:42 AM
1	can't take my kids to the dentist!!! If she makes it a habit of not minding the kids' health (dental or otherwise) you can build a case that she's a rubbish parent. Document everything. You may be able to use it months from now.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/12/18 08:29 PM
1	My wife has decided we are splitting up. Please tell me I'll be ok. I'm three years out. It gets better, slowly. You'll have to create a "new normal" for yourself. Focus on your boys - they'll need you very much. It'll be okay. It will get better. You will find happiness again.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/06/16 04:35 AM
2	Is she going to get the family house? The house is a matrimonial asset, so you both own half. That means you can apply to force a sale of the home, and you both would split the proceeds. The alternative is that one or the other of you could buy the other person out. Finally, if there are other assets, the house just becomes one of several bags of money, and however you split those assets - generally 50/50 - is up to the both of you, or a judge if you can't agree. Best of luck mate.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/16 04:44 AM