HeadTorsoArmsLegs Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self?		HeadTorsoArmsLegs	/r/askFDS	31/03/20 10:02 PM
11	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations.		HeadTorsoArmsLegs	/r/askFDS	12/03/20 09:33 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? “By giving me a name/label, you negate all the other things I could possibly be.” That’s powerful. I can already tell i’ll need to rewatch this a few times but this is exactly what I needed to hear/see today.	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 01:59 PM
2	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? I’ll check it out now! I’m working from home with everything going on so i can throw that on the tv. Hope you’re staying safe and thank you again for your input! I really appreciate it. Edit- I’m five minutes in and already really enjoying it. I’m excited to get to the spiral part. TOOL is one of my favorite bands and my favorite song by them Lateralus, references the spiral a lot.	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 01:39 PM
1	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? You mentioned that in your last comment as well. I’m asking because I don’t think they’re obvious. Is my question not the exact reason this sub exists? To ask questions to a community outside the normal group of people I can get opinions from? You sound very antagonistic in your responses and haven’t offered anything of substance. I’ve actually had two other conversations on this post that have been enjoyable and useful. Go read those if you want to see why I posted this.	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 12:45 PM
0	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? I think I did a poor job of explaining his position, but a lot of what you said in your second paragraph sounded very similar to what he was describing. Our true selves underneath what we believe ourselves to be. I also believe in the interconnectedness of us all as one and have felt that in an overwhelming way at different points in my life. When i was a child, i used to visualize the idea of empathy as “what is it like if i put my eyes in someone else’s head.” That ideas been a driving force b…	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 12:36 PM
1	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? Yeah I like to give detail to explain why I think or feel the way I do. Any books or podcasts you recommend? As far as debt and my job, I consciously chose to move home a few years ago to expedite the debt payoff process for student loans and my car. I make a good salary in accounting so I should have it all paid off before end of 2021. Why do you think i’m over complicating things? I think I brought up valid points for consideration. I don’t want to date and waste someone’s or my time if I’m no…	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 12:25 PM
1	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? I actually have the exact same situation with my siblings. One with hard drugs and one with avoidance of any relationship with a woman or really anyone in our family. And I agree. It’s not an excuse to use your childhood for why you make the decisions you make and have expressed that to them as well. I really appreciate your insight and responses! I plan to look up those studies and I really like your last paragraph. Always questioning immediately means you’re constantly aware of it when it’s ha…	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 07:17 AM
1	Where is the line between desire for growth and acceptance of self? Hey i appreciate your response. There’s a lot you said that I relate to. One of them being chasing the next thing without enjoying it. I think it’s easy to fall into the trap of looking at life like a to-do list where you have xyz that you NEED to do in order to feel satisfied or happy with yourself and is one of the reasons I made this post. i like what you said about gratitude and happiness being helpful. Affirmations and reminders of what we have and are thankful for have been helpful for me …	/r/askFDS	01/04/20 06:44 AM
2	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. Hey just wanted to give you and the others an update on this. We both agreed a relationship wasn’t in either of our best interests right now and that we both need more independent time to grow as individuals. It was a really easy conversation to have and i think we both came out of it with more respect for one another for handling it like adults. Thank you!	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 04:24 AM
2	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. Thank you! Good timing on this. We actually just spoke today and mutually agreed that a relationship was not a good move for us going forward. We are going to remain platonic friends and keep it at that while we each focus on our individual growth. It hurts to accept but i know it’s the right move. Thank you!!	/r/askFDS	23/03/20 04:10 AM
2	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. Yes the last one i went to i stopped seeing because I got frustrated with how we meshed. She was much older than I and I felt there was a real disconnect between her view of life for a mid 20s guy and mine. I’ll find something that fits better this time	/r/askFDS	13/03/20 05:44 PM
2	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. I appreciate your input. We have plans to spend time together this Sunday and I intend to go over a lot of this with her and we’ll see where we stand at the end of it. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond. Ive decide i’m making it a point to find a therapist to see again and look for more ways to grow	/r/askFDS	13/03/20 04:09 PM
3	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. Yes i have and it was something we discussed last night. Taking it slow but being honest and direct the entire time is how we want to do. And i want to make a point to show my affection toward her and demonstrate that I care about her. Thank you for your insight!	/r/askFDS	13/03/20 04:05 PM
3	I recently re-connected with a woman I like and things are moving toward a relationship, but I have some reservations. Yes we’ve seen each other several times since and it’s been really enjoyable each tike. She’s an awesome person who I connect with really easily. I just want to make sure i’m going about this the right way	/r/askFDS	13/03/20 12:55 AM
11	OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Why are you shocked at how terrible males are? 😦 Thank you. Your kind words touched me. I do feel the weight of trying to be a guide to my friends when they reach out. So many of my guy friends have had such little positive mentorship in their lives or even just given positive reinforcement. I hold my peers to a high standard but without trying to be a know it all douche about it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/20 06:18 PM
163	OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Why are you shocked at how terrible males are? 😦 I remember the first time I really realized how normalized this behavior can be. A female coworker of mine was known to have “revenge porn” videos of her online abc several male coworkers were talking about it at a happy hour one night. The way they were talking about it was so casual it was unsettling. They asked me if I watched the vids and was just like “no i find that incredibly violating and wrong.” And their reaction and attitude instantly changed. They all got nervous and put on a “yeah i…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/20 01:31 PM